Sunday Homilies with Fr. Mike Schmitz

Episode 123146: 2/1/26 Counterfeit Happiness

25 min
Jan 31, 20263 months ago
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Summary

Fr. Mike Schmitz explores the concept of counterfeit happiness through the lens of the Beatitudes, arguing that wealth, power, pleasure, and fame are false sources of fulfillment. He contrasts these counterfeits with Jesus's teaching that true happiness comes from spiritual poverty, mourning, meekness, mercy, purity of heart, peacemaking, and righteousness.

Insights
  • Counterfeit sources of happiness (wealth, power, pleasure, fame) temporarily satisfy but ultimately leave people spiritually empty and enslaved to their pursuit
  • True happiness requires awareness of spiritual need and dependence on God rather than self-sufficiency or external validation
  • Emotional numbing through substances or distractions suppresses both pain and joy simultaneously, preventing authentic human connection
  • The Beatitudes function as a portrait of Jesus's character rather than a prescriptive plan, inviting study of the genuine article to recognize counterfeits
  • Modern culture, particularly social media, has intensified the pursuit of fame and visibility as a primary source of meaning for younger generations
Trends
Declining emphasis on fame among teenagers despite cultural messaging promoting visibility and internet celebrityIncreasing awareness of the psychological costs of wealth accumulation and power-seeking among high-net-worth individualsGrowing recognition that emotional suppression strategies harm mental health and relational capacityShift in younger demographics away from traditional success metrics toward questioning the value of fameReligious and philosophical discourse increasingly addressing the spiritual emptiness of materialist and status-based happiness models
Topics
Beatitudes and Christian happiness theologyCounterfeit happiness sources: wealth, power, pleasure, fameSpiritual poverty and humility as paths to fulfillmentEmotional numbing and mental health consequencesVanity and social approval seekingMeekness and strength under God's controlMercy and forgiveness as spiritual practicesPurity of heart and human dignityPeacemaking versus conflict and revengeGospel study and spiritual formationMaterialism and self-sufficiency illusionsSocial media and internet fame cultureCounterfeit detection through studying the genuineGrief, mourning, and authentic livingReconciliation versus personal victory
Companies
Ascension Press
Sponsor offering Sunday Mass resources and homily content; promotes signup at ascensionpress.com/sunday
Pan Am
Historical airline referenced in Frank Abagnale counterfeit story as example of identity fraud
People
Frank Abagnale
Subject of 'Catch Me If You Can' film; used as example of counterfeiting and identity fraud
Leonardo DiCaprio
Actor in 'Catch Me If You Can' film depicting Frank Abagnale's story of fraud and deception
Michael Jordan
Basketball legend cited as example of how power-seeking and competitive drive can undermine personal happiness
Sia
Singer-songwriter; wrote 'Chandelier' as commentary on using pleasure to mask underlying pain and desperation
Sara Bareilles
Singer who performed stripped-down cover of 'Chandelier' revealing the song's underlying themes of pain
Adam Duritz
Lead singer of Counting Crows; wrote 'Mr. Jones' with lyrics about happiness tied to being loved and seen
Rihanna
Originally intended recipient of 'Chandelier' song before Sia decided to perform it herself
Quotes
"Many of us will spend what has real value chasing after counterfeit happiness."
Fr. Mike SchmitzEarly in homily
"The problem with counterfeit happiness is those four things actually all do make us happy. They make us happy long enough for us to spend everything on them."
Fr. Mike SchmitzMid-homily
"Our hearts, your hearts and mine, were made for more. Our hearts actually long for happiness."
Fr. Mike SchmitzCore teaching section
"If my goal is to minimize pain and maximize pleasure, emotions cannot be selectively numbed. Our heart cannot be selectively numbed."
Fr. Mike SchmitzPleasure counterfeit section
"When everyone loves me, that's about as happy as I can be."
Adam Duritz (quoted by Fr. Schmitz)Fame counterfeit section
Full Transcript
Welcome to Sunday homilies with me, Father Mike Schmitz. I hope today's homily inspires and motivates you, and I also hope that it leaves you hungry for the one who gave everything to feed you. If you want to get this and other Sunday Mass resources sent straight to your inbox, sign up at ascensionpress.com slash sunday or by texting sunday to 33777. You can also follow or subscribe in your podcast app for weekly notifications. God bless. The Lord be with you. And with your spirit. A reading from the Holy Gospel according to Matthew. Glory to you, O Lord. Chapter 5, verses 1 through 12. When Jesus saw the crowds, he went up the mountain. And after he had sat down, his disciples came to him. He began to teach them, saying, Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they who mourn, for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the land. Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be satisfied. Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the clean of heart, for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God. Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are you when they insult you and persecute you and utter every kind of evil against you falsely because of me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven. The Gospel of the Lord. Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ. I'd like you to have a seat. So I don't know if you've ever seen the movie Catch Me If You Can. It's with Leonardo DiCaprio, he's in it. But it's a story, it's a true story of a young man named Frank Abagnale. And Frank Abagnale, actually, he ran away from home when he was 16. You kind of see this in the movie. But to survive, he had no plan, he had no money, he had no resources. To survive, he just conned people. He just pretended to be someone he wasn't. And so in the movie, they say this, but if you've ever seen interviews with Frank Abagnale, he talks about this, how he had gotten a Pan Am pilot's uniform and that he just posed as a Pan Am pilot. flew literally around the world multiple times as a pretending to be a pilot. He also pretended to be a doctor where he was supervising interns. And whenever there was a problem, you can see this in the movie as well, whenever there was a problem, he would just defer to these medical students or these interns and they would take care of it. He was a lawyer and now he's a pretty smart guy. He actually passed the Louisiana bar. But along this way, was he posing as a pilot, as a doctor, as a lawyer. he also cashed millions of dollars in counterfeit checks. And that was one of the things he just did. He didn't break into banks. He didn't break into homes. He didn't break into stores. He didn't force his way in. He just looked the part that he was living the life of a counterfeit and he was using counterfeit checks. Which reminds me of the California gold rush. I'm sure we've all heard of this, right? The 49ers. that there were stories during the California gold rush of prospectors who would go out there and they would think that they struck it rich. They found these yellow little flakes and they would do everything. What they would do, they would sell everything they had. They would quit their jobs. They would, again, they probably already moved out to California, did reorganize their entire lives to buy this land only to find out that those flakes were a thing called pyrite. We call it fool's gold. In fact, there were some scammers who in the 1800s, what they would do is they would get a bunch of this pyrite and they would kind of spread it along the land and they would con people into buying the land. These people, again, they would sell all they had to buy this land, not knowing that it wasn't actually gold. It's called fool's gold because you're a fool if you would do that. Like he called it a fool's gold because you're a fool if you would exchange real money, like real currency for counterfeit, for not real gold. And you wonder, who would do that? Like if you, even, not if you just like didn't know, but who would do that if you knew? Who would spend something that has real value on something that is counterfeit? And I think the answer is every one of us because that's what we do with our lives. It doesn't have to be a counterfeit check from Frank Abagnale. It doesn't have to be fool's gold in the gold rush. But many of us will spend what has real value chasing after counterfeit happiness. Today, the gospel is the Sermon on the Mountain. In fact, for the next six Sundays of Ordinary Time, we only have a couple more before Lent, but the next six Sundays, we just dive deeply into the Sermon on the Mountain. And here we heard in the Beatitudes is this first part of the sermon People have said this. They said, the Sermon on the Mount, if the Sermon on the Mount is the heart of Jesus' teaching, the Beatitudes are the heart of the Sermon on the Mount. And so what is this? Well, Jesus says, blessed are they, blessed are they. I've heard this described. When Jesus is blessed, he doesn't just mean like holy or set apart. Like we know that word to be blessed is to be set apart or consecrated. He actually uses the word, Greek word makarios, which is happy. But Jesus is saying, no, you're happy when you're meek. You're happy when you mourn. You're happy when you have purity of heart. And this is really important for us because we probably have all bought into this notion of counterfeit happiness. And Jesus says, okay, this is what real happiness looks like. So the four counterfeits this goes way back to like ancient thought The four main counterfeits of happiness things that we believe will bring us happiness are this They wealth power pleasure and fame These are the four things that these are the four counterfeit happinesses that we think that if we have wealth, power, pleasure, or fame, that those things will make us happy. So we think, okay, wealth. If I have enough, I'll be happy. We have power. If I'm in control, I'll be happy. Or pleasure. If I minimize pain and maximize feeling good, I'll be happy or fame. If enough people know my name, then I'll be happy. And here's the problem with it. The problem with counterfeit happiness is those four things actually all do make us happy. Like they all actually work. You got money. I mean, that makes you happy. You have power, control. You get to make difference. You have influence. That can make us happy. To have pleasure. Of course, it makes us happy. And to have fame. Of course, those things make us happy. And they make us happy this. They make us happy long enough for us to spend everything on them. And then when they've cost us all we have, we realize, I was happy. But all I actually had was counterfeit happiness. This is the reason. This is the reason why Jesus said, okay, at the heart of his great teaching is the Beatitudes. This is the heart of it. Why? Because our hearts, your hearts and mine, were made for more. Our hearts actually long for happiness. So here's what Jesus is doing in the gospel today. He's saying this, to a people who want happiness, but are really, really bad at spotting counterfeit happiness, Jesus says, okay, happy are the poor in spirit. Happy are those who mourn. What Jesus is doing is he is tearing down idols. What he's doing is he's uncovering the lies. Ultimately, Jesus is doing is he's exposing the counterfeits. And so let's go through them quick. So wealth, what is the counterfeit lie? Counterfeit happiness of wealth? It's I'll be happy when I have enough. I'll be happy if I have enough. And why? Because if I have enough, then I'll be taken care of. If I have enough, then I won't need any more. If I have enough, then I can stop worrying. How many times is that us? If I have enough, I can stop worrying, which is obvious. Finances are real. I mean, the kid's got to eat, you know? So we know that money actually makes a difference. but the counterfeit, the lie is this, that self-sufficiency equals safety. If I have enough, I'll be self-sufficient and self-sufficiency equals security. But that's a lie. It's a counterfeit. Why? Because so in the course of my life, working in parishes and working on a campus and just all over the place, I've had the opportunity to meet people from all walks of life, like people who literally have nothing and have no prospect of ever getting anything to people who have more wealth than any human being could reasonably be expected to spend in their entire life. But I've discovered this in meeting all these people from all these different walks of life. We recognize that no matter how much you have, tragedy doesn't care. Hamilton, death doesn't discriminate. this idea that that that wealth can insulate a person from the pains of life it does not so i think i've protected myself if i have enough i'll be happy to that person jesus says actually happy are the poor in spirit to them jesus says do you happy are you who hunger and thirst for righteousness to be poor in spirit in actually the original language that means to be humble It means this, it means to be desperate. Happy are you who are desperate. Happy are you who are needy. That's what it is to be poor in spirit. To hunger and thirst is like, no, happy are you who are starving for more, who are starving actually for holiness. Jesus says, you're happy, why? Because you are awake. Jesus, you're happy because you're aware of your need. One of the things that wealth can do to a person, you can put them to sleep. Actually, wealthy people, when I have enough, I don't need anything. When I no longer experience, I wake up in the morning and think, oh my goodness, I need something or someone more than me. I am not alive. I am asleep. And Jesus says, happy are you? I don't want to need. No, happy are you when you know the truth. You need God. Even happier are you when you know the truth. Not only do you need God, you have God. So put away that counterfeit happiness of wealth. And also put away the counterfeit happiness of power. Power says this, I'll be happy if I'm in control. Like I'll be happy if I'm strong enough that nothing could hurt me. I'll be happy if I have the power that I can do whatever I want. The counterfeit happiness of power is this declaration, I have to win. When I win, I'll be happy. I have a friend who works out in New York. She's an executive assistant at an investment firm. And her boss, her boss recently, she said to her boss at the end of the last year, he got a bonus. And his bonus was literally in the hundreds of millions of dollars. That was his bonus for the year. And she's like, I saw it. It was like crazy, hundreds of millions of dollars. And I was, I think, wait, if you're living is you invest people's money. If you got a couple hundred million dollars, quit your job. because she describes how he never goes home. He's always working. He's always on the go. He always has to move. He always, he's like a slave to the office. And I remember thinking, man, you have all the wealth you possibly need. And I didn't realize, for him, my guess is this, happiness is not about wealth. He's got wealth. For him, happiness is about power. It's about importance. It's about status. It's about influence. I don't just have wealth. I have this power I needed I great I the best at this thing How many of us think if I was just the best at that thing I be happy If I was the best in the world then I be happy And ask the question, would you actually? Think of someone who was the best in the world at something. Michael Jordan, arguably the greatest of all time. Now, people debate about this. I have known nothing about basketball, but I do know social media, and I've watched a lot of TikToks on this, or reels on this, and people would argue Michael Jordan is the best basketball player of all time. His stats are massive. He had this incredible drive, his amazing work ethic. There are stories about how badly he had to be the best. When he retired from the Bulls, they retired his jersey, number 23, right? But then when he started playing again, he got a new number, number 45. And there was, at one point, they were playing this game. I remember hearing this story. Playing this game, and one of the players was kind of, kind of looked like he was, he thought he was shutting down Michael Jordan. And one of the things he said, kind of under his breath and running, he said after the game, he says, hey, it looks like 45 is no 23. Michael Jordan hears about this the next day, comes up, it's a double header, whatever you call it, where you play the same team again, series, series. And he doesn't, during the warmups, he has his warmups on. Like he doesn't take off his warmups until the start of the game, until tip off. He takes it off and he's wearing number 23. And he just demolished the other team. But at the very end of the game, he had two free throws, sunk one and then missed the other. He missed the other on purpose. At the end of the game, his total points were 45. Like this kind of, that kind of drive, that kind of like need to have revenge, that kind of need to be the best, that kind of, that need to be the most important, most powerful, most influential, most significant. That served him really, really well for basketball. But so many reports are that right now, in his life, that same drive, that same mentality, that same thing that made him happy was a counterfeit happiness. That same thing, apparently for him, makes living joy incredibly, incredibly difficult. So Jesus says to him and to us, happy are you who are meek. Happy are you who are merciful. So what's meekness? Meekness is strength, but strength under God's power, under God's control. Strength placed at God's service. That's what it is to be meek, is to say that I'm not using this power, I'm not using this strength for myself, I'm using this strength in the Lord's service. And say merciful is what? Is I don't have to crush my enemies. that I actually can extend to them grace. And if we do that, if we put our strength at God's service and put vengeance or wrath or revenge aside, Jesus says, Dan, you're really happy. So we have wealth and power, pleasure. Wait, I'll be happy. The lie says this, I'll be happy if I minimize pain and maximize pleasure. I'll be happy if I feel good. So how do we do that? we just, we numb ourselves. We distract ourselves. We say, I'm just not going to think about that. There's a song by Sia. You guys know the song, Chandelier? So it's this song. At one point, it's kind of a party anthem. It has this like massive, Sia wrote this song as she wrote it for Rihanna, actually, originally. But as she was writing it more and more, she's like, no, no, no, I have to be the one to sing this song. And I remember thinking about like this song, Chandelier, I'm going to swing from the chandelier. one, two, three, one, two, three, drink is one of the refrains in this whole thing. It seems like it's all about maximizing pleasure. And C actually wrote it like that on purpose. Because if you pay attention to the lyrics, she's hiding the pain of life behind this soaring ballad. So I never realized this until Sara Bareilles, Sara Bareilles is also a singer, right? She did this cover, like was stripped down, just her voice and a little guitar. And just to hear Sara Bareilles' version of this was just like so low and so haunting where all you hear now is the pain. All you hear now is here is someone who is living this life of what looks like complete pleasure, but feels like desperation. Wake up the next morning, I've got to numb the pain. I've got to minimize the pain. Here's one of the things we realize. If my goal is to minimize pain and maximize pleasure, we realize this. Emotions cannot be selectively numbed. Our heart cannot be selectively numbed. if we suppress pain and grief and fear, we're also simultaneously going to suppress joy and gratitude and happiness. Like the same nervous system that feels grief is the one that feels joy. So we put on armor. That armor is substances or it's distractions. We just, emotional withdrawal, we fill our lives with all these things and that armor then becomes a shield against love and against relationships, against connection, against happiness. So to those of us who have embraced counterfeit happiness and pleasure, Jesus says, actually happy are you who mourn. Jesus is saying, avoiding pain doesn't heal it. He's saying that pain and grief and loss, those are a part of life. And if I avoid them, I'm actually avoiding living. Happy are you who mourn. He also says happy are the pure of heart. Another way to say it is don't use people. That someone who has pure of heart can see clearly. They can see the value, the dignity of a real another person. That they're not meant, that no one in the world is meant to be used for my pleasure or my own means. And this is one of those things that we realize. The truth is we're made to worship God, to love people and use things. What do many of us do? Many of us, we love things, we use people, and we ignore God. And yet Jesus will say this you happy if you let God meet you in your sorrow You happy when you see the image of God in each person The last counterfeit happiness is fame And that lie says this I'll be happy if I'm seen. I know this is a risk right now. There was a big song in 1993, I know, throwback, massive, by the Counting Crows. It was called Mr. Jones. And at one point in the song, Mr. Jones, which I just love because my older brother and I, we asked with, it was a long story. Anyways, road trip. It's amazing. At one point, Adam Duritz, the lead singer for Counting Crows, he says this line. He says, when everyone loves you, you can never be lonely. The last time he sings it, he says, but when everyone loves me, that's about as happy as I can be. That's counterfeit happiness when it comes to fame. When everyone loves me, that's about as happy as I can be, being known and admired. And I'll say this, in my defense, when that gets in my head, I grew up with movies and songs that are all about, like, I'm going to be somebody someday. Like, I want to see my name up in lights. I can't wait until everyone knows my name. Yet, there was this Harris poll back in the day. They polled 3,000 kids in the US, UK, and China. I think they were ages something like 8 to 12 years old. And they asked them what they wanted to be when they grew up. The number one answer was a YouTube star or like a vlogger. It was the number one answer was basically, I want to have like internet fame. I want to have visibility. But I found it interesting is later on the Pew Research Group, they did the same, asked the same question, but of teenagers. And only 6% of teenagers said they wanted to be famous. In fact, 80% of teenagers in the US said that fame wasn't important to them, which I think is a good sign that the sense of like they realized fame is hollow. and yet every one of us, we still want to be well thought of. Every one of us, we still care what other people think. So this thing called vanity, right? This vice of vanity. What is that? Vanity is the inordinate preoccupation with what other people think of me. So keep in mind, it's good to care what other people think of you. If you don't care what other people think of you, you're probably a jerk. But vanity is the inordinate preoccupation with what other people think of me. another way to ask the question is, have you ever, you know you have that, if you've ever found yourself not saying what you knew was true because of what someone might think. Or you found yourself not doing what you knew was right because of what someone else might think or vice versa. You find yourself doing what you knew wasn't right because of what someone else, or you found yourself saying what you knew wasn't true because of what someone else would think. For the sake of what? For the sake of counterfeit happiness in fame. But Jesus says what? He He says, blessed are the peacemakers. Blessed are those who don't seek applause, but seek reconciliation. He says, blessed are those persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for the people persecuted for the sake of my name, those who choose faithfulness over approval. And so here we have this. We have these four counterfeits, wealth, power, pleasure, and fame. Counterfeit happiness. You know, second and last thing, the U.S. Secret Service, I don't know if you know this, but the U.S. Secret Service, right now they protect the president, right? They were actually formed right after the Civil War, not to protect the president. The U.S. Secret Service was originally formed because after the Civil War, they say that almost one third of all currency in the United States was counterfeit. And so they had to train a group of people to be able to spot counterfeits. So here's what they did. At first, what they would do is they would bring all these different kinds of counterfeit bills, all these counterfeit coins in and have them see the counterfeits and see what all the different ways someone could counterfeit a bill or a coin. But there's many, many ways a person can counterfeit bills or coins. So what they did instead was they had them study, not the counterfeit, they had them study the real thing. They actually had them study the real bills. Like what does that paper look like, feel like, what's that ink look like, what's that ink do? And when they studied the real bill, when they studied the genuine article, it was then that they could actually accurately spot the counterfeit. And this is the last thing. The Beatitudes here today is like a book, How to Be Happy by Jesus, subtitle, Eight Steps to Living the Life You've Always Wanted. But that's actually not what he's doing. In giving the Beatitudes, Jesus isn't giving a plan. he's painting a portrait. And when he says happy are the meek, he's describing himself. When he says happy are the pure of heart, he's describing himself. When he says happy are those who mourn, he's describing his own heart, his own face. And so again, he's not providing a plan, he's painting a portrait. And so like the Secret Service, we can spot fool's gold, we can spot fakes, we can spot the counterfeits by studying the real thing. So here's the invitation. this week to just open your heart, open your mind, open the Gospels, and just study the portrait of Jesus. And you can see painting the portrait of a heart that knows it needs God. See the painting, the portrait of someone who has eyes that can weep without despair, someone who has hands that don't clutch at control. It's the portrait of a soul that longs for holiness and has a posture of mercy, that has a single clear gaze that sees things rightly. It's the portrait of someone who has feet that walk toward reconciliation and the back strong enough to bear misunderstanding. The invitation this week, watch Jesus in the Gospels. Examine the portrait of Jesus in the Gospels to see the real thing. and know what he looks like, and not give everything away for counterfeit happiness.