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Former Reality TV Swinger Found Dead After Hiring Hitman to Kill Her Rich Husband

48 min
Jan 27, 20264 months ago
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Summary

This episode chronicles the bizarre and tragic case of Tatiana Remley, a woman involved in failed business ventures, an elite swingers lifestyle, arson, attempted murder-for-hire, and ultimately her own death by gunshot in 2025. The narrative explores her relationship with wealthy tech executive Mark Remley, their $20 million failed horse show venture, and the complex question of whether she was victim, perpetrator, or both.

Insights
  • Extreme wealth without financial discipline or business acumen can accelerate personal and relational collapse, particularly when one partner controls spending without accountability
  • Lifestyle choices and trauma responses can become increasingly difficult to distinguish, complicating moral judgment in cases involving both victimhood and perpetration
  • The legal system's leniency in sentencing (1 year served of 4-year sentence for murder-for-hire) raises questions about judicial consistency and public safety prioritization
  • Social circles often recognize instability or manipulation in individuals before it manifests in criminal behavior, yet continue relationships suggesting complex motivations beyond surface narratives
  • Public lifestyle documentation (reality TV, social media) can create false personas that obscure genuine identity and mental health struggles
Trends
Wealthy individuals using lifestyle inflation and conspicuous consumption as relationship control mechanismsReality TV documentation of elite subcultures (swinging, sex clubs) normalizing extreme behaviors while obscuring underlying dysfunctionChildhood trauma and cult-like upbringing correlating with adult patterns of manipulation, financial exploitation, and violenceLegal system disparities in sentencing for attempted murder cases, particularly involving wealthy defendantsSocial media and billboard advertising weaponized in divorce/relationship conflicts as psychological harassment toolsUndercover law enforcement operations successfully identifying murder-for-hire plots through social network infiltrationPattern of serial failed business ventures by individuals with no operational expertise but significant capital accessIntimate partner violence escalation from psychological abuse to arson to attempted murder within compressed timeframes
Topics
Murder-for-hire and criminal conspiracyArson and property destruction in divorce contextsIntimate partner violence and abuse allegationsFinancial exploitation in relationshipsElite swinging and sex club cultureChildhood trauma and cult-like upbringing effectsReality TV documentation of private livesBankruptcy and failed business venturesDivorce proceedings and asset divisionUndercover law enforcement operationsFirearm possession and unregistered weaponsSpousal support and alimony disputesPublic suicide and mental health crisisIdentity construction and persona creationWitness testimony and friend accounts in criminal cases
Companies
Signal Corp
Tech company where Mark Remley served as executive VP/CIO for 20 years, generating $600M+ annual revenue from DOD con...
Sanctum
Elite Hollywood sex club where Mark and Tatiana were frequent members and featured in reality documentary 'Naked Sanc...
Valatar
$20 million failed horse show venture combining Cirque de Soleil and equestrian performance, abandoned after 2 perfor...
Rhythm and Power
SoulCycle-style cycling studio opened by Remleys, generated only $51,000 in revenue over one year before closure
Puzzle
Restaurant-bar on Sunset Boulevard owned by Sanctum founder Damon, featuring dancers and entertainment similar to San...
San Diego Polo Club
Organization where Tatiana's women's polo team ($500K investment) competed before she fell off horse and quit
Bravo TV
Network behind 'Real Housewives' franchise that Tatiana aspired to join as cast member
Business Insider
Publication that reported Gwyneth Paltrow as former member of Sanctum sex club
People
Mark Remley
Wealthy tech executive ($26M+ net worth), Signal Corp executive VP, husband of Tatiana, victim of murder-for-hire plot
Tatiana Remley
Central figure; woman involved in failed business ventures, attempted murder-for-hire, arson, died by gunshot in Dece...
Ken Wilcott
Tatiana's ex-husband, Seattle real estate developer and NBA Sonics part-owner, continued child support despite full c...
Damon
Founder of Sanctum sex club, featured in reality documentary 'Naked Sanctum', later opened Puzzle restaurant-bar
Vera
Tatiana's mother, part of family with alleged Russian cultural fixation and possible cult-like religious involvement
Brian
Tatiana's father, from Bend, Oregon, part of family with alleged cult-like religious practices
Cheryl
Tatiana's friend who mysteriously died around time of house fire; suspected murder with Tatiana as possible suspect
Gwyneth Paltrow
Actress rumored by Business Insider to be former member of Sanctum elite sex club
Quotes
"maturity is when you have the power to destroy someone who did you wrong, but you just breathe, walk away, and let life take care of them"
Tatiana RemleyPost-release Facebook post
"I think she's the one who orchestrated it not him...she was always the one trying to get people to do things with her that was her thing"
Mutual friend of Mark and TatianaRegarding alleged horse statue incident
"There was something off about her, for sure. But I don't think he saw it. I think he was in love with her. I think he really cared for her. Whatever she was pulling, I don't think he was aware of it."
Damon (Sanctum founder)Regarding Tatiana's authenticity
"sex is probably the biggest part of our lives"
Mark RemleyNaked Sanctum reality documentary
"I think Tatiana is perhaps a persona that she made up and maybe it came from childhood trauma. And she just like needs a character that she would become that wasn't tortured."
Mutual friendRegarding Tatiana's identity construction
Full Transcript
There are a lot of signs that someone doesn't like you and one of them would be having a decapitated horse statue head left on your bed but that's exactly what happens to Mark and Tatiana Remley. This is part two of that entire case. Please go listen to the audio podcast part one otherwise none of this is going to make sense but we have at the center of all of this Mark and Tatiana Remley. They are honestly like a hot, rich couple from Southern California and they're loaded. They spend $20 million to make this horse show called Valatar. It's going to be a mix of Cirque de Soleil and horse riding. Tatiana is going to be the face of the entire show and it's going to be amazing until it's not. Until they abandon all the other performers and their horses, leaving them in just this massive red circus tent in the middle of San Diego, California with no way to get back, with no way to even feed the horses. They leave them high and dry after just two performances of Valatar because it's a completely failed attempt. And it seems like the only thing going right in Tatiana and Mark Remley's life is their sex life, where they constantly frequent an elite swingers club, sex club called Sanctum. This is where you go when not only do you want to see hot people do each other. You want to see someone dressed up in a historically probably factual costume of Marie Antoinette doing the bounce on a champagne bottle. That is the club that you go to. It is rumored by Business Insider that Gwyneth Paltrow yet was a former member of Sanctum. So this is like a high-end Hollywood intimate club and they were frequent members. They're actually even part of a reality show that we're about to get into. So buckle up for part two and with that being said let's get started. Everybody is left high and dry at the Valatar horse show. The horses are left, The performers are left. I mean, that's not even figurative. This is like real. The horses are left to starve. One of the biggest problems with the show that a lot of people say in hindsight is that Tatiana sucks at riding horses. And that's mean, right? She's fine. She's mediocre. But she has nowhere near the riding ability that seasoned professionals have. You cannot compare a weekend golfer to someone at the PGA. But Mark and Tatiana want her to be the star of the show. And everybody else has to accommodate her, even if that means they have to lower their skills to make sure that she shines the hardest. I mean, to give you a little bit more context on Tatiana's capabilities, she would often just go out there. So they had two shows. Her face is plastered all over the billboards. If I buy a ticket to Valatar, what am I expecting? When this blonde woman comes out on a horse, I'm expecting a somersault in the air, land on a horse, and then do a headstand, eat your lunch off your feet. Like I'm expecting some sort of, holy cow, this is the most climactic part of this entire performance. This was worth all this money that I could have used for, I don't know, bills, but instead a horse show, like I'm getting something out of this, right? She would just come out on her horse and do a few figure eights, not on the horse. Like she's not doing figure eights on the horse. She's just riding the horse like a normal person and the horse is doing figure eights. It's not like she's walking, like the horse is just trotting in a figure eight and the whole thing is awkward because everybody in the crowd the customers they're sitting at the edge of their seat they're holding their breath the music is getting more climactic they're expecting something insane but then she just disappears it's said by people who went to the first two performances nobody even knew how to respond so they were just all looking at the person that they came with like and clapping like what's happening this caused so much tension that a lot of the seasoned professionals that would have performed to bring in the viewers they all end up leaving there are allegations that the couples just they also just spent money that didn't make any sense some people said that they were willing to spend unreasonable amounts of money on billboard advertisements with tatiana's face everywhere they were willing to spend money on tatiana's costumes but then when a horse would get injured they would cheapen out so they're trying to do this thing for all the wrong reasons yes like she want to be like a celebrity horse rider yeah i don't even think she wants to be a celebrity horse rider a mutual friend of theirs would later come out and say her goal in life was to be a housewife but not the housewife you're thinking one of the housewives of a major city on the bravo tv network housewives of orange county real housewife yeah the real housewives of early hills that was the her goal yeah and she spent 20 million dollars yeah i feel like there's gotta be a cheaper way i feel like you could have paid i don't know who the is it still the cohen guy you could have paid i feel like bribery could have been a good answer for that one someone in the bravo tv network i think you could have bribed them for way less than 20 million dollars no offense that's crazy yeah in another instance this is very dumb but apparently tatiana just shows up one day with a new horse and just casually mentions oh i got a new horse okay these are horse people they know horses and there really is no price no value that you can put on a majestic horse's life. But you can, because that is a $30,000 horse. You can't. That's a $30,000 horse. They ask her how much she paid for it. $70,000. Again, you can't put a price on life. You can't put a price on a horse, but that's a $30,000 horse. And she got scammed? Yes. She got scammed $40,000 more. A mutual friend who witnessed this later says, the asking price for the horse at the time was $30,000. so she managed to spend 40,000 more than the asking price just because she decided she wanted that horse and someone saw a sucker written on her face, I guess. That was their quote, not mine. Wow. Yeah. After the fall of Alatar, the Remleys come home one day and one of the valuable horse statues in the house is left decapitated on their bed. Like I said, it's a threat. At this point, Mark and Tatiana, they have a lot of enemies, a lot of people who hate them. So someone broke into their house? One of the- Yes, force their way in. Force their way in. And Tatiana claims she knows exactly who did this. She knows exactly who's behind it. It's none other than her own husband, Mark Remley. I think stereotypes are inherently really bad. But one could argue that Mark and Tatiana don't really care. They kind of fit it. Everyone around them knew it. Mark is rich, worth close to $30 million. Tatiana is very hot. I would say out of couples I've seen in Southern California, there isn't even a massive discrepancy in appearance between the two. Both of them are conventionally attractive. They seemed like they would hit it off. How old are they? He's probably like in his 50s. She's probably in her 30s at this point. Oh, yeah. Okay. To 40s. 40s. They meet at a Starbucks, a chance meeting. Mark falls in love, marries Tatiana, moves her into his $5.5 million house. And now they're on a reality show called Naked Sanctum. it's all about the sanctum sex club it's it's a whole season a documentary following the founder damon he goes around and it shows him preparing for these sexual erotic events while his entire family life falls apart it's like riveting and depressing at the same time the minute things start getting hot if you will in the documentary it cuts to him being like yes so my daughters won't talk to me anymore because they're getting bullied at school because someone found out about my job on instagram and um yeah they're bullying them and i'm like oh that's not the right time to put that part in and then it cuts to him having like a three-person intimate party with two young girls of age women of age in his bedroom and then it's just like a monologue it cuts him sitting there being like i miss my ex-wife what i think she was my soulmate but she left me because i chose this life and she didn't and then it just like cuts to like moaning noises mary antoinette with a champagne bottle and then it cuts to him being like i'm actually really lonely so i'm like okay I don't know how to feel Damon is a very interesting guy He says he has a lot of knowledge of the human intimate experience now Just from running Sanctum He says, you know, a lot of husbands, they bring their wives And watching their wives interact and have intense intimate relations With another person in front of them is hot Basically, he's talking about cucks He says, the guys I've talked to directly about it Say they get turned on seeing their partner turned on They genuinely don't have jealousy or fear They know that the woman's coming home with them They know that They're not worried and they really like to see their partner get pleasure from somebody else. That just turns them on. Also, of course, they're with another woman, so they have freedom too. So I'm like, okay, maybe they're swingers. Even for a couple that don't do anything, you know, a guy sees other guys hitting on his wife and he's like, oh yeah, I forgot my wife is hot. I forgot how hot she is. Or like, you know, the same thing in the other direction. It was healthy for a lot of people. You know, a lot of people told me it saved their marriage. But obviously, it's not just a great therapeutic experience for married couples. he mentions one time there was this very famous actress who came into an open room just having intense intimate relations with her husband and another guy and he says i could tell she was on too much xanax or something and it was like like it was not good we had to break it up because it seemed like she was not in her right mind which i believe now that he's left sanctum if you're interested in following his life ever he owns a restaurant bar on sunset boulevard in la called puzzle. It's kind of like Sanctum. There's dancers, but it's a dinner and you can't have full-blown intimate relations. But one review from someone, I don't think they realized the environment they were getting into. The review reads, we went to Puzzle last weekend for my birthday. We went to the restaurant and the lady who was attending to us, first of all, was clueless. It was a tiny place, barely 10 tables. Music was no good. The singers were singing and dancing literally on top of our heads. The dancing lady did nothing but take off her clothes with the music and stayed almost naked the whole time. I was confused. Yeah. But in the reality show that aired a few years back, there's a very specific couple on there. A couple shows up under the pseudonyms of Vladimir and his wife, Ileana. But they get invited to this exclusive. So Damon is holding a private dinner at his house in the Hollywood Hills, I believe very close to the Playboy Mansion, which would also make it very close to Sean Diddy Combs' house. Here we are again, right? But they will eat, they will watch each other eat, and they will eat, and they will eat other things and watch each other eat other things and then repeat. And not all the steps are obviously involving food. But Vladimir and his wife are seated at the table. These are pseudonyms. It's not Vladimir and Ileana. It's Mark Remley and Tatiana Remley just sitting there in the flesh, okay? Mark Remley says, what Damon has created here is an opportunity for people to open their minds. Tatiana is just staring lovingly at her husband as if he just discovered quantum physics. She's like nodding and then she chimes in. I'm all about pushing limits and we're going to follow sanctum and we're going to go where it goes and just pursue it and enjoy it and life and pursue ourselves and our love and our romance and our sexuality and I had zero clue what that meant and once most of the meal is over with all prepared by this personal chef that had a Michelin star restaurant I believe a violinist walks down the steps of the mansion and in walk two girls wearing bunny masks and they naked one has the word touch written on her chest the other one has eat me written on her chest So it very like the directions are pretty clear They climbing onto the table They just start making out before heading into the final act where they're just both like laying on the dinner table doing things. The violinist later says. They're showing all of this in the show? You don't, like you see lots of nudity, but you don't see explicit. Oh, I see. And of course. Yeah, but you like. Right, right. Sorry. Okay. I don't know if YouTube likes that word. Okay. You're just, okay. But like you see, you see where the placement of body parts are. So you infer. Right, okay. Obviously, you know, the violinist is standing there and she says, I was just trying to focus on playing the violin really well, which obviously takes a little bit of focus. And then it just like cuts to her playing the violin and her eyes are just staring at the two girls on the dinner table. And I'm like, what am I watching? Then another girl comes in with a maid costume with a cake. The two original girls, somehow there's like giant carrots put inside the cake they take out the carrots you know what they do with carrots and then they're like there's icing everywhere and then at one point Tatiana gets up on the table and starts eating a bunny meal like with one of the girls you were saying yes and Mark Remley is just admiring his wife visually and physically and the camera is like behind her and he's like lifting up her skirt I don't know and then she finally gets up and she jokes i think i look guilty and he says you do the proof is on your mouth because she has icing on her mouth now then it just cuts to them sitting together outside and mark ramley says the entertainment is bar none and tatiana looks really serious as if she is witnessing a profound enlightening moment beautiful she's like interjecting beautiful he says the quality of the performers you know the sexuality that they exude you just it just gets you off it gets you going it really does tatiana says the bunnies were beautiful they're sensuous there's something enticing about their energy and it draws me to them i cannot stop myself like all the taboos of this world everything just dissolves in their energy and then it cuts to one of the bunnies coming over to hug tatiana and mark is just watching as they just start getting unclothed and we see tatiana unclothed and they just start doing a lot of things and mark remley tells the viewers you know sex is probably the biggest part of our lives. Yes. Tatiana's gonna say yes. Sex is the center of our universe and everything we derive around it and it revolves around it and in the beginning of our relationship we weren't into this lifestyle but as time grew on and our sexuality grew together and sanctum made it all that much more amazing. Mark continues, I'm kind of like an adrenaline junkie actually. You know I love to take risks and I love to live life on the edge. I'm drawn into things that push the limits. Tatiana looks at him and we live life to the fullest every moment we can. I think people have a hard time in this environment, in this country, in this day and time embracing their sexuality and embracing, you know, being all that you can be. I think they want to embrace it, but they're scared. It's magical. It's amazing. You feel incredible. You feel real. Mark and Tatiana, like I said, Vladimir and Ileana are their pseudonyms. These are the owners of the failed Valatar horse show. Do you know if this is before or after or just happening at the same time? Happening seems like at the same time. Yeah. And the founder of Sanctum is asked about the couple because, you know, he saw them and then, you know, they make news later. And he says they seem to be really happy with what was going on. They seem really happy with each other and really excited about the experience. I mean, they seemed really into it. It's just that the wife, Tatiana, didn't really seem like an authentic character to me. She seemed a little bit fake. You know, I've been doing this a while and I've been dealing with people like this a long time and I have a pretty good sense of character at this point. There was something off about her, for sure. But I don't think he saw it. I think he was in love with her. I think he really cared for her. Whatever she was pulling, I don't think he was aware of it. So he's just saying like the way she's describing, like it was beautiful, it was magical. So I, unfortunately I watched, I mean, I couldn't really find the exact episode that they were featured in. So just to be thorough, I watched the whole season, even though they showed up in like episode three. I don't know why I did that. But I thought they would show up again. I don't know. But all the other very wealthy couples that go on there, they're very blunt about the experience. They're like, yeah, it's hot. Like it's hot. We do it. It gets us going. And then we're hotter to each other. And we like it. It's hot. But then when you see Tatiana, it's very like ethereal and spiritual. And it's like this moment when all the other couples are like, I just like looking at hot people do hot things. And it makes my husband and wife hotter to me. That was about it. So I think that's what he's insinuating. It just felt and it did feel performative in the sense of like you do meet some people who are very into like tantric experiences where they think and they genuinely feel it's like an awakening as they're doing certain things with their partner. And it's like this connection that transcends above all in this very physical moment. But that was not the vibe that she was giving. She's just performative, like doing a lot. Yeah, yeah. A former business partner of Mark's that also knew Tatiana says, I mean, at one point, Mark was just calling him nonstop. Like he's explaining, he's just calling me nonstop. What does that mean? So he used to work with Mark. They had multiple failed business deals. They're not really besties anymore. There's no reason for them to be calling each other. They don't really have a friendship outside of that. But Mark keeps calling him and is like, come to San Diego. Let's hang out. And he's like, what are we going to do? Hang out. Like, are you trying to get me into another business venture that's going to fail? And he's like, no, let's just hang out. He's like, I don't know why you keep saying hang out. We're not really friends. He says, quote, eventually I got sick of dealing with Mark and I stopped returning his phone calls. A month later, maybe two months later, a mutual friend of ours was at my place and we were just talking about it. And I just brought it up like this weird thing. Like, why was Mark Remley bothering me? And he immediately knew the answer. And he just said, oh, Tatiana wants to sleep with you while he watches. Damn. So apparently they were trying to get me to come down there and have sex with Tatiana while Mark watched for whatever reason. We never did get the answer if he went or not. But here's a very odd detail on the show. They go as Vladimir and Ileana, which seems like a random choice of pseudonyms for the show. And there is a speculation of a intense interest in Russian culture and Russian aesthetics. And no one really knows if Tatiana is even Russian because we don't think Tatiana is a real name. We'll get to it. But it's it's not random Tatiana has allegedly stated in the past that she was essayed by her brother Now the people she told about this she told them that her brother's name was Vladimir Okay, so why would you choose a pseudonym for your husband? That is first of all your brother even if he didn't assault you. That's a very odd choice Right or like that's not even her brother's name, right? Yeah, just weird connection Yeah, very off and the mutual friend said there's something wrong with her That's a really weird thing to do I mean 100% I know that Mark didn't pick the name That was her idea Mark's not even that creative to come up with a pseudonym like that So I'm sure she picked it And why would she pick that name if that's who molested her? Her brother Even if he didn't molest her Just her brother's name? Really bizarre Friends say their relationship was just getting toxic They had a much healthier relationship in the beginning Aside from the colossal financial failure that was Valatar At least they were both business oriented They're always working on something Is it the best thing in the world? No. Is it something that's going to run them into bankruptcy? Perhaps, but it's something. Eventually, their entire relationship just revolves around sleeping with different people. The Del Mar Fire Department get a phone call. A residential home is on fire. The entire house is up in flames and it's a big one. It's 5.5 million dollars of the house burning to the ground. Firefighters get to the scene, put out the fire before it can start spreading, but it's just weird. You can tell that this is not a normally occurring fire. This doesn't even seem like an accident and like yes we are in southern california but this doesn't make sense the bomb and arson unit of the del mar fire department start investigating the cause of the fire and the first persons of interest are going to be whoever is at the scene of the crime that makes sense and they find two women one of them interestingly has three guns with her and a ton of ammunition i mean technically she does have every right to be there though kind of because it's the house that she shares with mark what the hell is tatiana remley doing there with guns and ammunition when the house is burning down. Some people just have a lot more targets on their back than others. Some people could go the rest of their lives and no one wants to harm them. And then you have someone like Mark Remley, co-founder of Signal Corp, tech company that lives off of DOD, Department of Defense contracts. They operate, execute large-scale federal IT projects, primarily dealing with high-end government contracts. He was almost a VP there for 20 years, executive VP, chief information officer. The company had an annual sales at its peak surpassing $600 million from the government. Eventually, he retires. Mark Remley inherits close to $26 million, and that seems to be a mix from his work at Signal when he exits and from his parents passing. So they're all wealthy, and that's when he meets Tatiana at Starbucks. And it's not the worst of the book tropes, but it does feel like something that only happens in a modern contemporary romance in the category of rom-com that doesn't take itself too seriously like that's the vibe it gives they get married and suddenly tatiana has a 218 000 engagement ring the first year that they're married because now tatiana has to fit into this higher upper class life he buys her 200 000 worth of clothes yeah 200 000 worth of clothes worth of clothes okay i saw the clothes okay just like designer on designer on designer not a lot of clothes though for clothes really yeah i think it was a lot of lingerie for two hundred thousand dollars and she moves into the five and a half million dollar house they have multiple properties all over san diego hawaii california and by the way that's not like a weird remark i think like if you want to you can wear whatever you want to wear i was just saying two hundred thousand dollars is like an unthinkable amount to spend on clothing yeah i'm like expecting a house full of clothes you get the house and the clothes and it's just they they're living this life she even posts on facebook in hawaii making lunch in the kitchen and you just see this massive rainbow across the island but there are some things that even money cannot buy like some things that you can't even pay someone to make you forget like your ex because 1300 miles away from valatar the horse show near seattle washington on a giant billboard taking up the eyeball real estate of a boring highway where there's really nothing to look at except for the exit signs and maybe a chick-fil-a sign maybe an in-and-out sign there's just a giant billboard of tatiana her blonde hair next to her two beautiful horses they don't necessarily have any valetier doesn't really have active plans to do shows in seattle they barely have shows in California, but the billboard is there because that is the road that Ken will cut a very wealthy man. Ken is a real estate developer in Seattle, part owner of the NBA Sonics. He's worth close to $40 million. He lives in Seattle and he takes this highway every damn day to get to work. And he has to see his goddamn ex-wife blown up on the side of the road. He might be one of the few people that know a lot about Tatiana and he's got to look at every single day. That's fucking crazy. Yeah. So she only did that on that one specific billboard in that city for her ex to look at Yeah Is it to rub it on his face or okay Yeah They had a very contentious divorce and he seems like he is the only one that might know a lot about tatiana i mean there not a lot about her out there there's so much of her out there but really not a lot about her out there that is crazy this is like one of the craziest thing her her name is probably not even tatiana it's speculated that she was born tanya uh-huh her tatiana's parents seem to have like a russian fixation. Tatiana perhaps leaned into it. It seems like maybe they had some Russian heritage in their family. I don't know. Her parents are just from Bend, Oregon. Tatiana was born in Phoenix, Arizona, and it's speculated she was Tanya. They never really went to Russia. They never grew up in Russia. Not saying that you have to grow up in Russia to be part of the Russian culture or to celebrate your Russian ancestry. It's just her parents are Vera and Brian, and she just leans into the russian aesthetic really hard and then she starts leaning out i think that's where it gets interesting leaning out as like her look or her look the the obsessions that she has so when she was very into the russian aesthetic it was all about how you can be an equestrian in like the russian way so every different country has their own style of yeah horse riding so the russia has a very specific type and they like specific horses that fit that aesthetic and you have like the long blow blowing blonde hair and then you wear like very swaying fabrics it's like a very specific look and then you have like the country girl horse which is like you've got the tight jeans you've got the boots you've got the cowboy hat also beautiful but it's like a very different aesthetic yeah so she just kind of picks and chooses and some people speculate she picks and chooses depending on what she thinks the guy that she is dating will like i see so you're saying um So if the guy is like, I love me a cowgirl, she will be a cowgirl. If the guy is like, I love like that Eastern European. Yeah, yeah. You know, some American dude is like, I love an exotic. Yeah, got it. Then she might lean into that. But I will say a mutual friend does say something very interesting. They say Tatiana is perhaps a persona that she made up and maybe it came from childhood trauma. And she just like needs a character that she would become that wasn't tortured. I don't know. but I don't think any of it is real. So that's what the friend says about Tatiana being a character that she plays. Ken Wilcott, Tatiana's ex-husband, says her childhood was really rough. She grew up near Bend, Oregon, but in the rural area. She didn't have any social interactions really with anybody growing up. It sounds like her parents might have been involved in a religious group that might border the loosely defined word of a cult. She wasn't allowed to have traditional medicine or medical care. It's believed that her family fully rejected all forms of any life-saving medicines, any discomfort-leaving medicines. The way Ken Wilcott saw it and the way he later describes it is he thinks a lot of Tatiana's emotional disruption comes from the fact that she was essentially held captive for 10 years by her parents. They didn't allow her to have any friends. She wasn't even enrolled in school after the fourth grade. Impressively, she got her GED, but it was just a rough life. Before marrying Ken Wilcott, Tatiana had a daughter with a separate guy Now, she marries Ken, has a son with him And they are married for a total of 11 months And short does not mean simple because their divorce is very, very messy Ken alleges that Tatiana misused his finances More specifically, he gave Tatiana a card to use to purchase clothes She would buy the clothes with his credit card And then return the clothes and then ask for cash for the return Instead of for returning it back to the card which I feel like that's impressive and I feel like as a husband you should support that because why are you okay with her spending the money on clothes unless she's spending the cash on something else I don't know you would think that a millionaire would be impressed by her financial ability to think ahead but no he's very upset he also accused Tatiana of being inattentive to their son who was born with extra support needs and that's when they separate he He says that he wasn't going to send her $9,000 a month to care for their son because she's using it fully on herself. She's not using it on their son. So he wants full custody of the son and he wants to stop paying her child support. He also just overall disagrees with the way that she's living her life. So ultimately, he ends up with full custody. But this is where things get interesting. And I think this is where lots of people have sympathy for Tatiana. All the guys in her life still like her to some degree because he continues paying child support, even though he has full custody, like out of his own volition. It's not because the judge orders him to. So, I mean, there must be something that they see that is good in Tatiana, perhaps. Okay. So just keep this in mind. Okay. But some of Tatiana's friends say that she had a strong pattern of going after wealthy guys and then depending on them for her financial needs. But she also seems to have an energy that they seem to love. According to friends, the relationship between Mark and Tatiana Remley is interesting. Technically, on paper, Mark is the one with the power. He's got the substantial resources But friends say he's like a dog Like a little puppy dog He's obsessed with Tatiana Whatever she wants, he's doing it, no questions asked Mark seems so obsessed with Tatiana Even to the point where he still loves her No matter if they fail at their businesses Lose $20 million If she frivolously spends money purchasing billboards for her ex-husband If she goes to intimate parties And has intimate relations with other people in front of him And even when she tries to have him killed August 2nd, 2023 There is another chance encounter at Starbucks. At least that's what it feels like. It's a very casual meeting A guy sitting on the patio with an ice drink. He's wearing a tank top and shorts It's august it's hot and then you have a woman sitting there at one point He leans in says something to the woman before getting up and walking into the starbucks and entering the restroom She leans back in her chair waiting for him And that is when four san diego police officers pull up in two separate vehicles tatiana remley you are under arrest for trying to hire an undercover officer to kill your husband for two million dollars what so what um two million that's probably great like that's like the highest we've ever heard right yeah and it's not two million dollars that she has i mean perhaps the worst part of all of this is that she would be using mark remley's money to kill mark remley to get the rest of mark remley's money do you know how she did it is it just like googling and no you're gonna well i don't want to say that but you're gonna laugh she reached out i mean these are all they're all like swingers they're reaching out they're doing things with each other she reaches out to a mutual friend of them and it's like hey can you kill my husband he's like let me think about it it's crazy call san diego police oh my god it always happens like this too yeah they're just like calling friends and calling someone so randomly i don't know who in their life knows anyone that would have any experience with a hitman yeah okay so so the mutual friend just called the cops called the cops and was like i don't know what to do calls mark and it's like hey mark you better watch out so then the cops are like we know what to do tell her you know somebody who can do it undercover cop they meet at a starbucks something about starbucks did they record the body cams and yeah and so he goes into the restroom she gets arrested so and you said the friend called mark as well yeah so mark knew yeah and mark actually dates her after she gets out of prison oh so okay yeah wow yeah now how did we get here how did she go from murdering attempt murder yes how did she go from attempted murder to what no go from everything that they're they're doing to like all of a sudden attempt murder oh yeah let me tell you there is a saying that if you want to live a financially stable life, you don't date someone who treats money like water. Because no matter how much you cup your hands, if you try to keep water in your hands, the money's going out. You're not going to be able to cup it. Obviously, this is not towards people who have reasonable bills to pay and the cost of living is drastically higher than the wages that are being offered in the job market. This is for people that whenever they get extra disposable cash, they buy the most ridiculous thing that they don't even need. And it's not even just them spoiling themselves to feel good about this impending recession and doom and depression. It's like, why did you buy the 12th air fryer of the year? Like you don't need 12 air fryers. Those are the types of people that it's going to be very difficult to live a financially responsible life. And that might be Tatiana. And Mark acted like he had unlimited water. After the $20 million fail that was Valatar, they open up Rhythm and Power, a cycling studio, like SoulCycle. After a year being open, And suddenly members get an email that they're going to have random improvements done in the store. So the store is going to close down. They recheck the website. Everything is shut down. They go to the store. The studio had a staff of five people. And the full year that they were open, they only made $51,000. Wow. Then one day Tatiana wakes up and she spontaneously decides that she's going to be the head of a women's polo team. Which cost Mark $500,000 to get the whole team together. They have to buy horses. They have to invest in the team. Team marketing. Team shirts. Team name. LLC. writes yeah and then um they enter the san diego polo club and a few minutes into their very first match tatiana falls off the horse breaks her arm and quits polo wow a mutual friend describes their relationship as he did whatever she said didn't matter if it was a good idea bad idea made no difference i mean he got drug around by her doing what she wanted with no real say in it he just threw money at whatever it is she wanted to do he was her dog people also say that tatiana has always been quote a control freak she likes to push boundaries push limits she's an instigator and her biggest aspirations were to be the real housewife of insert major city that was her dream and so after all of these business things mark remley files for bankruptcy and by the end of all of these failed business ventures they decide that they are going to end their very tumultuous marriage they are going to get a divorce mark remley files for bankruptcy they file for the divorce and then tatiana decides i actually think i'm just going to kill him instead what's up what Where does that come from? She was not getting enough financial support from him. And I think if he died, perhaps she thought there was still money left that would go to her. You think it was a money motivation? Yes, because even in the divorce filings, her lawyer complains about how she was living off of $50,000 a month. That's her allowance when they were married. And he's cutting it down to $12,000 to $15,000 a month, which is just like an unreasonable amount. Wow. So according to the divorce documents, Mark Remley had invested. He still has, I think this is like after the bankruptcy. I don't even know how this works, right? But he still had a portfolio worth about $8.6 million, a bank account with $400,000, and multiple multi-million dollar properties, vehicles, jewelry, all amounting to be $8.2 million. And so with that, the shit-slinging divorce begins. Tatiana claims Mark was not only verbally and physically abusive, that he allegedly put a gun up to her head in front of another employee. And another time, he chased her around the house with a knife. According to Tatiana's divorce filings, he stole property from her. He destroyed her property. He's mentally unstable. And after the massive financial colossal failure that was Valatar, he had a meltdown and he discharged one of his guns inside of their house. And he has cut her off financially, which seems to be like the most contentious point. Tatiana's attorney argues. The wife is experiencing extreme financial strain. She is unable to maintain her realistic monthly expenses of just $12,000, much less than what she was accustomed to at $50,000. She has no income and does not have the same access to funds and assets that the respondent does In the divorce, Tatyana is demanding $15,000 a month in spousal support and the use of the Del Mar home, the $5.5 million home, two trucks, a horse trailer, an ATV, and a few of their pets, including some parrots and some goats. She's like, this is what I want in the divorce. But this is what's weird. that's the house that burned down it's not like fully burned down but it's pretty wrecked why does she want that del mar house wait where so the fire happened i i'm confusing with the time yes okay so all of their business failures happen yep and then the fire happens and then she very quickly is like i'm gonna hire someone to kill him and all of where's the gun and the ammos and all that came from the girl with the gun and ammo oh yes okay so all their failures happen they decide that they're going to file for divorce. Then the house fire happens. Tatiana is there with a bunch of guns and ammunition. And now the fire department is investigating it for arson. And then she gets arrested for trying to hire a hit on her husband that they are in the process of divorcing right now. Right. When the fire department came to the house, they got rid of the fire. What do you mean? Like she's standing in the house holding a gun? She had them in her possession. And they, yeah. So it gets tricky later, but she does get arrested for this fire later. They don't arrest her that day. They arrest her way later. They're just investigating what's going on. And then in their record, it's indicating that, oh, she was in the house and she has possession of these firearms. I see. And then they don't do anything about it. They just continue investigating. Now, the San Diego Police Department arrests her first for trying to hire a hit on her husband that she's in the middle of getting a divorce from. So all of this is happening. But the most disturbing allegation in the divorce comes out where Tatiana claims throughout their marriage, there has been lots of heinous things that Mark has done to her. But one of the most heinous is that Mark coordinated with his friend. Mark's friend breaks into the house, forces their way into the house, holds Tatiana at gunpoint and essays her while Mark is watching and then cuts the head off of their horse statue and throws it on the bed. This is an accusation that comes out during the divorce proceedings. And so she's saying that horse head statue, that was Mark's doing because he called his friend to come essay me while he just laughed. He laughed and he watched and then they cut my horse statue's head off and then put it in the bed like a threat from the movie Godfather because there's like a scene, but I think it was a real horse head. I mean, a prop for the movie, but like supposed to be real. Again, another mutual friend of theirs does believe that this incident did take place where someone did force their way into the house and essayed Tatiana. But he says, quote, I think she's the one who orchestrated it not him that was totally her she was always the one trying to get people to do things with her that was her thing Mark I can't imagine Mark I'd be surprised if he has that many friends but I can't really imagine Mark actually orchestrating that on his own so this friend is saying this is something that she orchestrated as like a role play type of thing yeah I don't know if that's accurate um it just see that's why a lot of people have mixed feelings about Tatiana and even if you take Mark out of the picture is this somebody who is just very traumatized and is behaving very recklessly but she is victim and perpetrator or some people are also like yeah but you probably wouldn't say that to a guy who tries to kill his wife so it's just very complicated but he believes that Tatiana is the one that orchestrated all of this and she was always the one wanting to go to these clubs wanting to do these types of things wanting to get intimate with other people, that seems to be the assumption and what the mutual friends are saying. Mark has also claimed to a local news outlet that he believes that Tatiana was the one to burn their house down. And maybe that's not even the only time that she allegedly took measures to harm Mark. There were reports that the day before Tatiana was arrested, Mark had no idea that she was, I guess he knew he had a heads up that she might try to kill him, but he didn't know what was happening because he ends up running to his neighbor's house, banging on the door, screaming that he's having a seizure neighbor said mark looked horrendous i mean this guy is 57 he looked 77 that's how bad he looked neighbor calls the police mark is taken to the hospital when was this this is the day before she's arrested at that starbucks so some people think that she tried to poison him before and then she got arrested the next day i don't know that's all speculation but this is just something happened the day before the arrest before we go there about the fire you're saying the fire people think she tried to kill him with the fire so it wasn't for insurance or anything else yeah what and then she in the divorce wants to like stay in that house and so people thought that was weird so maybe there's some sort of evidence of arson that she thinks if she's in the house she's allowed to be on the property only she's allowed there she could dispose of or get rid of or control the investigation in some way was the belief and then the day before she's arrested he's like running down the street screaming I'm having a seizure and he just looks so rough that could be unrelated or it could be completely related. And then the next day she gets arrested. December 18th, 2025. So this is after all of this. This is a few months ago. Yeah, this is after their divorce is finalized. This is after she gets out of prison for trying to kill her husband. Yeah, we're going to get into how much time she served. In the middle of San Diego's Little Italy neighborhood, outside of a bar, Tatiana Remley, who served her jail time for trying to get Mark killed She's a free woman and she is laying on the curb now with a gunshot wound to her head She's dead Two years before her death, she had pled guilty to solicitation to commit murder and a firearm charge She was initially facing nine years in prison for the little Starbucks meetup and trying to kill Mark However, she's ultimately sentenced to four years in prison But she only ends up serving one year before being released She gets out after one year. And when she gets out, she dates Mark here and there, starts dating other guys. And there are a few changes in her life. She kind of starts leaning more into that country girl scene. And she starts posting really intense things on Facebook about how life is about what you make it. And quote, maturity is when you have the power to destroy someone who did you wrong, but you just breathe, walk away, and let life take care of them. Which some people think maybe there was a lot of trauma that she endured in previous relationships. Like it just no one really can understand what happened. Like it's hard to pinpoint directly if she is a victim turned perpetrator or if she's just a straight perpetrator all the way through. So she switches from like the more Russian centered equestrian aesthetic to country girl horses, bikes, trailers, snakes, like that kind of vibe. She posts quotes like everybody wants to be a country girl until the hay wagon rolls up and it's time to start stacking. And a lot of netizens are just confused at the time. Like, how did she only get one year for arranging to kill her husband? And they all commented, California judges are insane. Which I would have to agree with that sentiment. Because court documents state that Tatiana was very thorough about how she wanted Mark to be decapitated. How she wanted his body to be disposed of. How she had all this cash saved up. I mean, she had a substantial amount of cash that they found on her. Which was probably Mark's cash. How much? They just said substantial amount. and she had three loaded firearms that were not registered to her name and maybe she received leniency for how dumb she was in her plot to kill and no one knows why she just served a year nobody knows but after her release she did see mark on and off again until december of 2018 well actually september of 2025 she gets arrested once more this time for arson for that del mar fire in their five and a half million dollar house. She's actually awaiting trial. She pled not guilty. So she gets arrested in September of 2025. December of 2025, she's out in Little Italy. She FaceTimes Mark, her ex-husband, in the bathroom of a bar. And she's complaining about the guy that she's with. And he's like, well, if you're really uncomfortable, I can call 911 for you. And she's like, no, I got it. Like it's under control. It's going to be fine. She walks out of the bar and she takes out the gun from her purse fires at once outside in the air and then the second shot she passes away what yes it's very public so it was like there were a it's in front of a store yeah it's just like in the middle of little Italy there was a few there were a few witnesses who saw and witnessed the whole thing and usually when people do things like that in public it's like a last cry for help it's almost like a lot of psychologists have said it's like do you see how much pain I'm in? And I will say that she was high risk for this type of incident considering she was facing substantial social, legal, financial repercussions in life. So it's just, um, but I don't know. I think it's really hard to say. I think people have very strange mixed feelings for Tatiana. I think given the fact that Mark dated her after she got out of prison, her ex-husband Ken Wolcott continued to pay child support even when she didn't have the child for at least an extended period of time out of his own free will. It seems like maybe people close to Tatiana saw something that we probably don't see. Maybe she did have a very unstable childhood and they could see her instability seeping through, but ultimately they thought she was a good person. I don't know. I don't know. Wow. Yeah, but she died 10 days after her 44th birthday. But some other people think maybe there's actually something worse happening. Because there is an unanswered question in all of this. Tatiana's friend Cheryl mysteriously died around the time their house caught on fire. And there have been rumors in their circle that Tatiana could be involved. Tatiana claimed that her ex-husband Mark was trying to falsely implicate her in her friend Cheryl's suspected murder. But she was due back in court for the arson charge March 3rd of 2026. but she what happened to cheryl no one knows i try to look into it there's not much written about her there's like barely yeah wow and now the question is i guess who killed cheryl was tatiana victim and a perpetrator or just a perpetrator or does it even really matter and what have what did mark make any statements after this no people think he's in hawaii his friend says that's where mark goes when he runs away to his house in Hawaii yeah wow and ex-husband nothing no no wow what are your thoughts it's I mean this was a very bizarre case oh wow I mean I feel like there are just so much more behind closed doors even just even like what they what we see from the outside is insane yeah right their lifestyle already insane so you can only imagine what's more that's not disclosed and then obviously there's questions of i mean of course all of their mutual friends are saying that tatiana is the one that wanted the lifestyle but i guess some netizens are also confused of maybe she got into the lifestyle and then was pressured to do things she didn't want to do or things happened and that led to her wanting people dead is that an excuse no but i guess there's just so many unanswered questions because it just got so unhinged yeah so quickly in a way that doesn't necessarily make sense. What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments. Stay safe and I'll see you in the next one. Bye.