1439 - From Sexting to Cheating to Hairy Men and More: Dating Dealbreakers w/Layla

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Okay, welcome to the Strictly Anonymous podcast with Kathy. If you haven't followed the podcast on either Instagram or Twitter, follow me at Strict Anonymous. If you want to be on the show, it's called Strictly Anonymous because I change everyone's voices and names you will read. Strictly Anonymous. So if you have an interesting secret naughty life that you want to talk about, you can be on the show. You can email at strictlyanonymouspodcast.gmail.com or go to my website, strictlyanonymouspodcast.com and click on be on the show. Today is a Sunday episode. So on Sunday episodes, I don't go through my whole intro. I give you a break. It is that day, right? Everyone takes a break on Sunday. So this is my break of long ass intros. I'm just going to get right into it today. I have on Layla from the Curious Girl Diaries. We are doing fun questions that we're answering like deal breakers. Like are these deal breakers when it comes to like hooking up with guys, dating guys, marrying guys, all that kind of good stuff. We have a bunch of questions. They're kind of funny. And we both answer them whether they're deal breakers or not and give our opinions and you hear a lot of stories. We also talk about our top three turn offs and we do a whole round of Shag, Mary, Kill. It's a fun episode. Layla is like one of my funnest co-hosts. Is that a word? Is funnest a word? She's one of my most fun. I think that would be proper. My most fun co-hosts because she's got a killer sense of humor. We always laugh when we get on the phone. We're very similar but different. And you're going to hear that on this show. Like I said, we go through a whole bunch of deal breakers kind of like, oh, they admitted to cheating in the past or they're still friends with an ex. They're always late, but I'm also sex ones. Like they have a lower sex drive than you. They love sex thing, blah, blah, blah. We have so many different ones that we answer. Like I said, we give a lot of stories that go with it. So I'm going to get right to it and be right back on with Layla. Hey, Layla. Welcome back to the Strictly Anonymous podcast. How are you today? I'm great. Good to be back. You're one of my fave co-hosts because you got a really killer sense of humor. I mean, even when we're not taping, we're both always laughing. I know. And I think we're pretty funny. I don't know if people actually realize how funny we are. But I think that me and you are very similar too. But then we have our differences and I can't eat this. What we're going to do on this episode, which is going to be fun and see how similar we are, is we are doing like a deal breakers or not deal breakers when it comes to guys dating them, marrying them, being with them, that kind of shit. You know, like, do you think as a girl, these things. And I'm going to. And then at the end, we're going to do like your top three turnoffs. And we're going to do a round of Shag Mary kill with some movie stars. And then we're going to call it a day. OK, but it's going to be fun. People listen up. All right. What am I for? I'm just going to go down the list. And my first question is they have a lower sex drive than you. No. Deal breaker. Deal breaker. Right. OK, so I mean, for me, would it be a deal breaker? Like, would it be it might be a deal breaker? I mean, it's a deal breaker. It was because I won't. I won't. It's a deal breaker. I won't feel desired and wanted. And I need that from a man. And if he's not leading in the bedroom, it won't come across that way. If I have to feel like I have to pursue him more than he pursues me. Total lady boner killer for me. Yeah, you're right. And you'll feel rejected. You know what I mean? If every day you walk in with like hot lingerie and like he's just not in the mood, it would be real. It's there's nothing more disappointing than that. Oh, heartbreaking. No, no, I get I get better. I get better. OK, what if they're really into porn? Oh, what do you mean? Or just like they're very they like porn. I don't want to say like porn. Yeah, me neither. I don't know. No, I find it mesmerizing that a lot of women do really mind. Like, what's the big deal? I don't know. I just think like most guys don't they watch porn or are they into it? Like, who cares? Yeah, that's my thought. Right. OK, they love sexting, which means you got a sex back. I don't mind that. Me neither. It gets sometimes it's a pain in the ass. You know what I mean? Sometimes, yeah, that's the only thing I was saying, like, OK, yeah, sometimes you're like, I'm not in the mood, but I'm faking. I don't care. I always, you have to honestly, if I'm I if I'm into you, I want you to always feel like I desire you. So I just act like I do. Yeah, the problem is this. Don't ever like if like so, I had one guy that was very into sexting and he traveled a lot, right? So he was always in like different time zones. So he was like hitting me up with dick pics and wanting to get fully like sexed up when I'm like at the gym because he it's like nighttime for him. You know what I mean? So it was like very difficult. So yeah, that's what you got to like fake it. You know what gets the guy off and you're fine. But yeah, it's totally not a deal breaker to me. But I, you know, long term. Oh, my God, it sometimes could be exhausting. Like when you're dealing with shit, I used to be like, oh, no, not more. But, you know, it's not a deal breaker for me for sure. OK, they have to have a lot of these questions about sex. Then we did just random ones, but they have to have music on when they have sex. What's up with that? Well, I feel like I used to be like that. And now I never play music, but I used to like music in the past. I think that was what you did. I think I remember that in my 20s. Yeah. Yeah. Is that what it is that you do? You like that when you're young and then you want fucking peace and quiet when you're old? Maybe because you're embarrassed of the noises you're going to make. So you kind of want something in the background. You're right. Maybe. I think that. Yes, I think you're kind of embarrassed now that I think about it. It sort of breaks the ice a little bit. Yeah, you're right. That's where it comes from, because I was thinking like, I think I used to like music in the background, but I don't. I never do it now. Now it would be like distracting and weird. Like, that's so gay. Like, what are you doing? I don't like you like that. Yeah. But I wonder like, and listen, this is, I don't know about you, but I'm like in my 50s and me and my son still blast the music in my car. My son has the best taste of music at 10 years old than anybody because I'm very into music. It's like I'm a music person. I love it. I still like my music loud and everything, but for some reason I don't put music on anymore when I have sex, but I used to like it. You know, it's weird. Totally. No. I mean, I can't you remember like the soundtrack that you screwed to that, that one guy to, you know, that CD that you had on repeat? Yes. Yeah, totally. It was always and I felt like it was weird when there was no music, but now I'm like, I'm not that person anymore. And I think it probably has to do with what you said. There's a little bit of uncomfortableness when you're younger and that music adds like a distraction that helps. Yes, especially for the girl, too, because if it's deadpan silent and you're really struggling to get over the edge and finally get that orgasm you've been working so hard for this poor guy is going for it. Then, you know, it's nice when you didn't have to focus on the silence. You just got to listen to the music. It kind of helped get you there. Totally. OK, what about if they're really hairy? No. Deal breaker. I can't. It's a deal breaker. Oh, it is. See, not to me at all. I don't mind a hairy guy. It's like very manly. Like, I don't mind it at all. I've been with some hairy guys. I'm talking about super furry. No. What do you mean? Like. Like when you agree, like like hair on the earlobes. Yes. Yes. No, that's all the older, older men. You mean like hair on the back? Yes. Hair on the back, hair on your butt. Some guys have fuzzy buns. I've seen them. It's like a vagina. OK, all right. But what about when the guy shaves his chest and you feel the razor stubble? I'd rather have the hair. I don't like razor stubble. Yeah, I don't like razor stubble either. I'm sorry. You're either blessed with the right amount of hair or not. I think don't don't. Diabetics have no hair like on like they lose their hair. Asian guys are are hairless. They're really really smooth. Oh, my gosh. Yes. And aren't younger guys typically like less hair like they get hairier as they grow old? Is that true or no? I think it I think I think it just gets coarser as it gets old. So you mean like a hairy guy in his 50s was hairy in his 20s? I don't feel like I've ever seen a hairy 20 year old at the beach. Have you? Yeah, you have. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, my God. I haven't been to the beach in so long. Oh, yeah, they're out there. Really? Oh, yeah. Oh, my God. People have to write into me and tell me like, are they a hairy young people or is it just a bit of pictures? Or is it an older man thing? I think I didn't encounter hairy guys until I started dating guys like, you know, in their 40s. I want you to I want I want people to send you the photo proof. Yeah. Well, I got to tell you, it's not a deal breaker for me at all. Like a really I don't I don't mind it at all. OK, they admitted to being cheaters in the past. Like they've cheated in the past and they admit to it. Are you asking me, is that a drill breaker? Yeah, yeah, this is all deal breakers. Right. No. Yeah. I definitely don't believe once a cheater or is a cheater. And I have to be honest, I I'm like not a cheater at all, but I cheated in my life. So like, how could I say like that would be a deal breaker for me? You know what I mean? But I would have to like as somebody that like, OK, so I just did this great episode with Tyce Gibson. You should listen to it. You should have her on your podcast. She's the woman that she talks all about. She talks all about attachment theory. She's got like over 200,000 followers on Instagram. She's really famous in attachment theory. Like are you admissive, dismissive, avoid in or avoid in or secure or whatever. And you know, the one that I am is the one that's like a fucking private detective. They see through everything. They notice every little thing. And so for me, this wouldn't be a deal breaker because I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater. But I do feel like if someone caught to the fact that they did cheat, I'd have to know the whole story because it might make me like feel like, oh, are they going to cheat again? Because some cheaters do cheat again. You know, so I feel like I would have to question a lot to make sure that they're kind of like a me in that they cheated in the past for whatever reasons, but never would anymore. Or maybe there's a possibility of them maybe cheating again. Then I would always be suspicious and distrustful and I wouldn't be able to be with that way. So it's like a hazy deal breaker for me. Depending on the story. Well, sure, obviously, I mean, you want to make sure that's not a continuing pattern. But right, but you don't have trust issues and you don't overthink things. I do. I don't unless somebody gives me a reason to. I go in like I am. You could pull one over on me if you want from the beginning. But once I find out, I'll never actually I'll never trust you again. So it's really an either or you get one shot. Right. But OK, so cool. Yeah, I know I could tell that you would be that vibe. I get it. You know, that that rings true to the lay love that I know. OK, what about if they've been divorced two times? And then I'm going to ask three times, four times, five times. What's your deal breaker amount of divorce times before you say? Oh, shit. No, I've never thought about this. Maybe. All right, let's start with two times. He's been divorced two times. Is that a deal breaker? Oh, maybe. I'm going to tell you it shouldn't be because I can't tell you. I know I hear. OK, because all I hear is stories on my show, right? Like a fourteen hundred. OK, and like I have heard so many stories of like guys and male men and women who had two divorces behind them. And the third one is like the fucking soulmate one, you know, you just don't know. And I do believe and I always like admire these people because I'm like the opposite, I think you're the opposite to in that they're like relationship people. They just go from relationship to there's something about somebody that just jumps in with no thinking for them. Yeah, all the love gets married and doesn't fucking care if they get divorced and then gets married again and then gets divorced again and they keep going. I know I like I feel like I admire them in a way because they're so opposite. They I feel like they're just like they're there for the true love. And they're going to keep going until they find it. I'm good for you, buddy. You know, keep on. Yeah. And sometimes the third one is the charm. I think when you're getting to like four or five, like J. Lo material, like how many times should you be like five times? That's when you're like this person, maybe I think it would be a dealbreaker to me because I'd be like maybe this person doesn't take this seriously. You know what I mean? So that I get married at that point, just date them, you know, like, right? All right, they make less money than you. I'm OK with that. Yeah, I kind of have to be. I don't. Yeah. Oh, because you make so much. Yeah, I mean, I don't know. Most of the guys that I am to let me think, I don't know if I could think of one guy that was wealthier than me, that I've met through the Curious Full Diaries podcast adventures. But you're not with any of them. No. Right. I mean, I'm just saying. Right. Chase some point. No, I'm going to tell you something. Maybe that tells you how I lean. I don't know. No, but I'm just going to tell you something that I call pizza madness. OK, and this is why this would kind of be a dealbreaker for me. I want a man that's like more successful than me. And maybe if it's not just bank accounts, but it's just like in everything, you know, either my equal or more only because pizza madness to me is this. Like I dated this like a hippie. And the whole time, like he just like was always like, oh, I don't like you. I like this other girl. Like she was like the thorn in my side, you know, and whatever. So and he eventually like we wound up ending things. He never wound up dating me. He dated her instead. And I was like looking through his emails one day by accident. I swear to you. And I saw that he was dating this girl and she said, oh, I'm going to be like leaving pizza madness at so and so time. You know, you want to pick me up. And I was like, oh, my God, this is why he didn't like me. Like he didn't feel like I had a better job than him. I worked harder than him. He wasn't even working. He had a dad that was like, he was a trust fund baby. He had nothing. He was a hippie, you know, and this girl worked at pizza madness. And I was like, it makes total sense that like with her, he is like the man. He is in charge. He is above her. Like she needs him. She works at pizza madness. I had like a killer job at a really big company at the time. Do you know what I mean? Like I don't think he felt like he could be the man. And I realized like men do want to feel like they could take care of their girl. And I do think a lot of guys have a hard time with a woman that is above them. And it's in or like, so I think it should be like equal or less or whatever because I do think like the pizza madness thing exists. That's just what I have to say. Okay. Peek-a-vibe, the sex toy company who makes one of my favorite toys, the Flora pro licking rose toy. They've just dropped a whole new collection of super cute and powerful toys. They have a kitty, which is a magic wand. That's super powerful and rumbly. There's Lulu, which is a bunny shaped vibrator that's small, but packs serious power. Okay. 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And like, you know, as into stuff as I am, you know, if not more, right? But definitely not less. But like making money like a little less, it's more about work ethic maybe. Okay. They don't like to cuddle. That's a joke right here. Yeah, right? Yeah. Yeah. Now, listen, I'm the type of person I don't know about you. Are you cold like this? Like I'm the type of person I cannot stand hugging people that I don't know. Or even my friends, I don't even like doing it with my family. Like I am, everyone knows, don't fucking love Kathy. But with my son and with my guys, I'm extremely affectionate. You know what I mean? That's where I enjoy affection. Exactly. You're the same way. Exactly. Same way. That's where I enjoy affection. That's what I reserve it for. So, yeah, you don't want to cuddle. You're out. Yeah. Yeah. I like a guy that likes to cuddle. Okay. They're still friends with their ex-wife or ex-girlfriend. It depends. Yeah. It depends on the vibe. It depends on my read on the vibe. I mean, I can read the vibe. If I feel like there's nothing there, there's nothing there. But if there's still something there, then obviously that's going to be something I don't want to get in the middle of. I just don't want to go down that road. Yeah. I think when it comes to wives, if there's kids and stuff like you want them to be friendly with them, right? And I feel like that says more like something good about them that they're still friends with their ex. As a woman, this is totally not a deal breaker to me. As a woman who always had a lot of guy friends and stayed friends with my ex like that guy, with a stinky hippie, I became best friends with pizza madness. I would babysit for them while they were having kids, more kids together. Like we all became great friends. Like, so I always stayed friends with people in my life and there was nothing there. So I do believe that men and women can be friends and it's fine. And I actually personally think it's more, it's okay and would rather have the guy be still on good terms at least with their ex-wife if there's kids involved and be in a toxic, hatred kind of a situation, which to me is ridiculous. And I do think though it's still, it's not a deal breaker to me, but if they're like too close. Like there was one friend that I had that we were like too close and his girlfriend had a problem and I see why. We were a little incestuous and we never slept with each other because I think you had a micro penis and he knew I was like, what is that called? The size queen. So we can never, but it was obviously we were both into each other. It was like a dysfunction. Oh my God. I just talked about this with my realtor about two hours ago when we're talking about micro penises, I have no idea how we got on that subject, but it's funny. Yeah, totally. All right. They have a few friends who are girls. It's kind of the same thing. Like would you mind? Because some girls are not into that and some guys don't want their girls to have guy friends either. Trust me. That's a big thing. Yeah. Again, I'd say kind of like the same as before. It's not an issue unless I get a weird vibe that tells me that it is an issue. I mean, for the most part, no, I trust everybody to be adults and this guy wants to be with me. He's with me. You know? Yeah. Oh my God. Wait, I watched 90 Day Fiancé and there's one story with this girl that went to Australia to be with this guy and he never told her that he's like living with one of his girlfriends. It's a girl that's a friend. But it's obvious that they're just friends and she was hooking him up because he needed a place and whatever, but she is going mental about it. Because I do think the average girl would not be down with that. You know what I mean? But you would be okay with this. Is that what you're saying? Again, I'm just more of a vibe person. It's about get a read on something. It's good or not. Yeah. Okay. They don't have any guy friends. Oh. You know those kind of guys? That's, yeah. That's, I don't think I've ever considered that. That's not a deal breaker. I like a guy's guy. You know what I mean? And I don't know why that I would be a little sus with a guy that has no guy friends. You know what I mean? Because being social and being open, it would be, I feel like it might be a deal breaker because I might read into that. You don't have to. Yeah. See, that's me. Like I said, I give you the full benefit that's out upfront and if you blow it, you blow it. Right. Right. So you're okay if they don't have friends you don't care. Okay. They cry. They cry. I don't even cry. You know, they cry. They just fucking cry. What are they crying about? I don't know. I cry like once every two years. I have a problem. It's like a problem. So I can't be with, I don't want my guy to cry. I want my guy to be like a guy. Don't fucking cry. Let the girls cry. It's terrible to say because we, I have a kid, my son cries. It's a loud, it's a motion. It's real. Like it's, you know, but it's, I don't want to guy that. But if it's like, okay, what about if it's like for a sad movie? I don't think that that's so bad. Like it's a little tears in his eyes. I mean, you know, when the person dies in the movie, I think that's okay. What do you think? I think a little bit is okay. I just, but no, I don't want to see it all the time. Right. But if he just cried, that's like if something really tragic happened, you know, I listen, I think it's okay if they can access that emotion. I just don't want them accessing at all times. I want them to be the rock. You know what I mean? I can't even cry myself. Me too. So I don't want to. Fucking cry baby. I'm not one that feels sorry for people when they cry. Like I have issues with crying. So it might be a deal breaker for me. Okay. They chew with their mouths open and have bad manners. Oh my God. Fucking biggest deal breaker for me. I have something called miso. I have something called misophonia and I can't handle bad noises. Okay. I teach all my friends how to fucking chew in front of me because I can't deal if they're chewing with their mouths open. It's gross. Plus manners are really like, do you ever see how people cut their steak? I'm like mesmerized that people like sometimes they look like they were like raised by wolves. They don't even know how to hold a fork in a knife when they're cutting it. Like a stuff like that matters to me. But it wouldn't. I mean, would it be a deal breaker? I would trade the guy. If you're grabbing your fork, like you're going to stab somebody with it. That's not how you hold a fork. No, I know they don't. A lot of people don't know. I don't understand it. I teach my son all these things because it's important to me. But would it be a deal breaker? I feel like if I met like the most perfect guy in everything, he'd have to learn how to chew properly. And if he would try that for me, it would be okay. Okay. They're very into social media and have a social media account. Like I'm sorry that would be a deal breaker to me. I like guys that are on there. You know what I mean? Yeah, that's too feminine to know. Sorry. That's a female thing. I don't like that. And I don't even like when my mom friends are just like, first of all, I post on Instagram and shit for my job because I have to. And I get paid. Like this is like what I kind of do for a living. Like I can't believe people waste their time doing all that nonsense for nothing. Me neither. It's so funny. So it's annoying. Okay. They still go out to bars. Like they're totally into partying. Deal breaker. Yeah. Same for me because I'm just not in that place in my life. I, you know, I like to go to the movies. Okay. They're always late. You know, they're late. Deal breaker. Me too. I'm very fucking on time. It's not that hard. It's so annoying to me. It would be a deal breaker for me too. Yeah. Deal breaker. They're really jealous or not jealous at all. Which would you prefer? Come on. Can you? Or would both be bad? I think both would be bad. You know what? A little healthy, a healthy amount of jealousy, a natural, normal amount is okay. But if you don't have any at all, if some guy, if I can't spark a little bit of jealousy in my guy. No, right? That's something's off there. You're too passive. I need somebody with a little more testosterone, please. I wouldn't mind. I honestly wouldn't mind not jealous at all. There's something about me like I love an autistic person. Like I noticed that everyone, like I'm watching this 90 day fiance thing. There's an autistic guy, this really big guy and he's autistic and he's like my favorite character. I like people that have like the less emotions. That's like they're interesting to me. So I don't mind not jealous at all, but really jealous would be too much. I couldn't deal. Okay. They are into like, I don't even say the words, but they're like into bodily functions in front of you. Like they have no problem burping out loud doing all that kind of nonsense. Deal breaker. Same for me. Have you ever burped out? I've never burped out loud in my life. Like why do people think you have to let it out? Like I've never in my life. I don't know. Have I ever burped out loud? You can hold it in. No, exactly. I told my son that I don't even do that. Like he doesn't, he's going to grow up to be like my mom used to tell me the craziest things, but like you don't have to burp out loud. Like I've never burped out loud in my life and I've never combusted. Like I've never blown up or anything. I can't blow. What is the word? Exploded. What is the word? Exploded. Yeah. I've never exploded. So what the fuck is it? Why do people feel the need to let it out? My sister used to do the ABCs and burps when she was little. I was like, that's fucking gross. I'm not into it. Is that a deal breaker for me? How about for you? Oh yeah. Total deal breaker. No, I don't, there's nothing about that that interests me. And I certainly don't want to see your bodily functions. No. Or like, no, the other thing. Or you see mine. Yeah. Yeah. The best thing is like separate bathrooms. Okay. Always want to sit on the, have you ever been with a guy like this? I was always wants to sit on the same side of the table in a restaurant. Just you and him, not across on the same side. I need to never come across that. I did. Dr. Guy, my guy, he was a womanizer. He made you sit right next to them. And my second one is the insist on sharing food at restaurants. That's what he did too. We always had to order this one thing and we shared it. And not because he was cheap. He was had a lot of money, but he was like it was a control thing. I don't know, but it was annoying because first of all, I'm sorry to offend everybody out there, especially anyone that likes meat. I like my steak medium. Well, okay. I don't like rare food. And so we'd get a steak and split it. And of course he did it his style and I can eat it. Yeah. It's annoying. I don't want to sit on the same side. I think that's weird. What about you? Yeah. I never thought about it. I guess I could, it's not a deal breaker for me. I don't care. Yeah. I don't like it. But yeah, it's not a deal breaker. Okay. They're really into camping. You gotta go camping with them. Camping, real camping tent in the middle of the woods, outhouse. No toilets. No, there's an outhouse. No showers. The outhouses have toilets and stuff. Really into camping. Yeah. Yeah. Really into camping. Like my stinky hippie boyfriend, he was really into camping. Deal breaker. Yeah. It's just not my thing. Yeah. I think camping is for dirty people. I don't like it at all. I think it's gross. I don't like it. I'm not into it. I would never want to do it. I did it with him and we only, our tent could only be right in front of the outhouse and the smell was horrible. I don't like it at all. I know. But some guys are really into it. And I think when you get older, especially like- You can't have she and my stuff. No. No. But when you do get older, I think things like, like the things that you like to do, like I think it's important to have those things in common with someone. Like I think someone that's really into camping, like my hippie boyfriend, Pizza Madness loved camping. You know what I mean? They were perfectly matched. I fucking hated it. So it's like, I do think those kinds of things are super important. Like someone that's really into camping should be with someone else that's really into camping. Because at the end of the day, when your kids are out of the house and you're all done, like you're just hanging out with each other. You want to like to do the same things, right? Don't you think? Oh, definitely. Yeah. So it's important. Okay. They smoke. That's why I said, yeah. That's why they should go find some other camper. Yeah. Totally. There's plenty of people that like camping. Okay. They smoke pot daily, you know, every day. Go breaker. Yeah. I don't, I don't like that though. I got to tell you. And I think it's because I'm a little much like weed heads. Love me. Like a lot of my boyfriends have been like weed heads. And I think it's because me, I think me on weed, like if you're stoned and I'm across from you, like it takes the edge off. You know, I'm like less me. Oh my God. I think that that works. Plus, no, is that how they do it? No, but it's also me. I have to tell you, I like the reason why I don't even like to smoke pot is because when I smoke pot, I get like even weirder. I feel like my brain thinks like a pot head anyway. 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They have zero style when it comes to fashion, you know, dressing. Oh, um, yeah, deal breaker. Yeah. See, that's one that's not because I feel like, I mean, if it was like really bad, it was off putting, it would be bad. If it's just like, oh, they were really, really bad. I mean, bad. Yeah. Like if they, yeah, zero, because that's something you can change, you know, like earth color or something. That's a whole personality. That's bad. That's really, really bad. I don't want to see that. That would be a deal breaker. I mean, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But if you like go on. So, so say you're meeting like a really hot guy that you met online and then you get to the restaurant and he's got like the dumbest shoes with his pants and it doesn't match at all. Like that kind of a thing. Like, is that going to be? I've already imagined that. No, I've already been through that. And do you get turned? Is that a deal breaker? It, I'm, yeah, actually. Yeah. See, that used to be a deal breaker when I was young. I remember like once my boyfriend was putting together a fish tank for me and I looked up and I looked at his jeans and they were Wranglers and I was like so turned off. I almost like broke up with him because I was like, so. Hey now, I don't mind some Wranglers. Oh my God. Not on the, I don't know. Wranglers were not cool where I came from and I was horrified. I was so turned off. I don't think I could even have sex with them. And I just feel like I don't, I don't roll like that anymore that I would be able to not care about the Wranglers or the shoes and I just dress them up. Okay. He doesn't, this is the last one. He doesn't watch TV. You got to know these people, don't you? Do you, do you not watch TV? I don't really watch TV. I hate people that don't watch TV. Oh, sorry. So annoying. What do you do at night? What do you do at night? Who watches TV anymore? I mean, we don't, TV, like you watch it. Okay. What are you watching? I feel like, watch television. No, Netflix. TV means Netflix, Hulu, everything. Watch, that's TV to me. Okay. Occasionally. It's, yeah. If somebody says, oh, there's a really good show, I will. But otherwise, no. Oh, that's a big deal. I can't stand people that don't watch TV. No offense, Layla, but it's really the people that aggravate me. I'm like, what the fuck do you do at the end of the day? I love my TV shows. I love my Bravo. I love my Real House. I love reality TV. I love documentaries. I mean, there's so much good shit out there. No. I can't stand these people in New York City. They all live in Brooklyn and are like, oh, we don't have a TV. They're better than people that watch TV because it's so, somebody once called me, oh, you're so American. They were like putting me down because I like TV. I'm like, I don't care. I'll admit it. If that makes me a loser, I love TV. And I don't think people that don't like TV are better, but they think they're better than people that like TV. Well, I didn't say I don't like TV. I just said, usually, no, I didn't say I didn't like it. I just said, I'm not usually watching it. But is there something good about it? What do you do at night? Like, land man? Yeah, mob land. Mob land. Oh, my God. Do you love land? No. Have you watched land man? Yeah, I started by, I tapped out. But I know it's one of the good ones. I just ended up, I love that. Peaky blinders. I'm always like 10 years late. Peaky blinders is really good. But what do you do at night? And I watch housewives. OK, so you do. I definitely watch housewives. OK, so you watch TV. You don't, in New York City, like there's, like I said, like a place called Brooklyn, and all those people there don't watch TV, and they all read Kurt Wannaget books, and they're all like very much like look down on people that do watch TV. It's so like average or whatever, but that's so me. And so I don't like, like, oh, OK, last one. He's a vegetarian. Oh, I'm OK with that because I used to be vegan. Oh, yeah. No, I once went on a date with a guy, and he literally ordered a beet salad. I was so turned off. No. Fucking beet salad. I was like, you lost me. And I like beets, by the way. I like a beet salad. OK, I love vegetables. I do. I fucking love vegetables. I could like live in a garden with a salt shaker and eat them raw all day. Yes. But don't order a beet salad. OK, order a fat steak. I like a man who eats meat. I don't like, I wouldn't like that. Me too. You know what I'm saying? I mean, I don't, I'm just saying, don't get me wrong. I prefer a meat eater, but every once in a while, I won't lie. You know what? I'm a yogi, so sometimes those yogi guys. As long as you don't have man buns, no man buns. Oh, I love a man bun. That should be a question. The Russian cut his man bun and then he looks so good. Oh, no, I love man buns. Oh, more hot. Oh, no, no, no, no. Oh, my God. It was like night and day. I, it has changed my desire for him. Like the way I look at him and the way I view him. When I saw him after he cut that man bun, I was like, holy shit. I said to him, you got so much better looking. I mean, I literally got nervous. Send me a picture. Send me a picture. I feel like, I feel like, I feel like I'm on a date with a supermodel and before I was with like a stinky yogi guy. Like what the fuck happened? Yeah, no, I like a man bun. I think that that's an interesting, but I think you're more of the average person and don't like the man bun or long hair. Hey, what are your, okay, what are your top three turnoffs? What? Oh my God. I feel like a couple of mine were like on the list. Mine are just like, choose with their mouth open, late all the time and like, and like lazy. I am like not a lazy person in the slightest, you know, so I don't like. Young grifters. Yeah. Cause my problem is if I like lose, I have to respect somebody. So the way I'm going to respect a guy is. Oh, that was the money thing. That was the money question. Yeah. It's, yeah. It's kind of like if I want to, if I'm going to respect a guy, he has to be more of a man than I am. You know what I mean? He has to be everything I am and maybe then some or not, but at least what I am. You know what I mean? Or else then I, if I don't have respect, then it's hard to get like horny. You know what I mean? Like that's just for me. And the other one was like, yeah, lazy. I also don't like to share popcorn at the movies. Do you like when someone's hand is going into your fucking popcorn? It really pisses me off. Oh, if I like it. Do you not go to the movies either? If I like him, I don't mind. If I don't like him, I'm like, get your fucking hand into my popcorn. She can ask it your own. No, I, if I like him, I still don't want. I don't put your fucking hands in my popcorn. Oh, really? Yeah. I'm not into it at all. Okay. Shag, Mary, kill. This is my last one. We went really fast. We'll have to chat a little bit more. Okay. Shag, Mary, kill. Now this is for old people because I feel like some young people won't even know who these people are. I don't know this game. I would like this game. Oh, okay. So shag means like you pick one that you would just fuck. You pick Mary is you pick the one that you would want to marry. And then one that you would kill. So it's Brad Pitt, Jason Momoa, and George Clooney. Now these are probably people from our generation. So people would like, you know, some people might not know who George Clooney is. I don't know. Brad Pitt, Jason Momoa, George Clooney. I think these are good choices. Shag, Mary, kill. You go first. I would say, hold on. Okay. Brad Pitt, I would shag and Jason Momoa, I would marry. And then the other guy would kill. Yeah, I would kill. I don't know why people think George Clooney is so hot. I don't find him attractive at all. I would totally. I think he's, I don't like his personality. He just strikes me as a jerk. Yeah. I would, I would marry Brad Pitt, fuck Jason Momoa, and kill George Clooney. Can you pick a 30 people? You would marry Brad Pitt. Yeah. Why not? See, I was, well, I, I have two, but I thought he cheated on Jennifer Aniston. And so I thought, I don't know. Yeah, but we just said that cheating isn't a deal breaker. Okay. Come on, bitch. You just said cheating is not a deal breaker. In marriage, didn't she say just dating? No. And then by the way, Jason Momoa left his girl when she got old. Okay. Poor thing. Oh, no, but he had the most. No, but whatever stuff happens. I mean, I think with both of them, they've been in very long-term relationships. They're both like relationship guys, you know? And Brad Pitt also did have a lot of controversy around him, like, I don't know, with a lot of stuff and his marriage. But who was Jason? Wait, who did Jason Momoa? Wait, who did he marry? Lisa Bonet. Lisa Bonet. Oh, that's right. Yeah. And by the way, you know his story. He was a little kid watching TV and he saw her on TV and he said to his mother, I'm going to marry that woman one day. And he did. He, and let me tell you when he's with his girl, he like, it loves them. Like he loved her for as long as he could. And then they went the other way. They were together for a really long time. So I'm making a joke when I say he left her when she was old. But, you know, I, you know, I, I just think he's so hot. Like I just like just want one night with him. And then it would be like maybe too much. Brad Pitt to me is long-term. Wait, what's their age difference? I don't really know. Probably like a good 10, 15 years. Probably Jason Momoa is like maybe 15 years younger. Wow. Yeah. Can you pick three? Okay. Did you pick your three top turnoffs if that weren't on the list? No, I'm with you on those. Oh, are they all yours? Man bun. Man bun is one. Yes. I mean, I mean, I mean, I mean, like man buns. I don't like men where I just don't like men wearing certain sandals. You know what I mean? Like, I don't know if you, if they look like hippies sandals or what Birkenstocks on men. Oh, I just can't do it. Yeah, but don't all your like yogis wear that shit? Or do they wear crocs? That's worse. No, it's crocs too. I can't do the crocs either. But no, I don't fuck yogis. I mean, that's why I just can't. Oh, before you said sometimes you're a yogi. You called yourself a yogi. I need to read. I am a yogi. I am a yogi. But you don't want to date a yogi. No. No. Are you kidding me? God. Oh my God. But do you ever think this? I mean, we could talk all day long about what we like, what we don't like and stuff, but like sometimes when I am watching the Real Housewives, this is what I think. And this is why online dating was always bad for me because I'd be like, oh, look at his like lips. Oh, look at his clothes in the background. Oh, look at his blinds. They're so ugly. Like, oh, look at his eyes. They're the cross. You know what I mean? Like when you're just looking at pictures flat, it's so hard to see. But as women, like I feel like, you know, you have to see people walking and talking to get a vibe. Especially since men suck at putting up good profiles. You know that, right? But you also need like a vibe. Like because I feel like whenever I'm watching the Real Housewives and I watch all of them, I see all their husbands. And I always think to myself, if I saw that fucking guy on match.com, I would be like, But when I see him on the TV in his vibe and, you know, him walking the way he cheats his wife, what he does for a living, like his car that he's driving, like the whole scenario, I'm like, he's hot, but I would never have given him a chance on an app. And that's why I think it's so hard sometimes to use dating apps because you need to get like the whole vibe of somebody to really know. Do you know what I mean? If you could really like them, you know? No, totally. You know, I thought you knew in the beginning of when I started me doing the Curious Girl Diaries, I went on, my whole thing was if I clicked in any way with some of that, I would go on a date with them. And so I met the coolest guys and actually would end up dating some of the most interesting guys because I gave him a chance not because I was straight away. What would I have to lose? I'm like, no, that's so smart. You're proving the point. Like you did the research. And let me tell you what else I found to only once in my life. Did I find this? And now it changed my life forever. You also have to make out with someone that I had a best friend who is my best friend for like 10, 12 years. I never looked at him once. If anything, when I looked at him, I was like, not interested. And then I went over his house one day and he was like drunk and like, and he just like leaned in. And if you would have stopped me right before we like planted lips, I would have been like, give me a bucket. I'm going to throw up. Like if you asked me like what's going to happen here, let me tell you, we had the sickest chemistry. He was the best kisser. And when I got on to straddle him, he had the biggest dick. I was like, who the fuck are you? How have you been sitting this cross with me? We actually went to Italy once. I went with him on a work trip and he like, you know, we weren't banging. We're just friends. So he got me the hotel room right next to him. I was like, all that time in Italy, I could have been having sex with you. Like, and he was so good and bad. And then we fucked for many years after that. But it really made me realize that like sometimes you really need to like lay it on someone and try the kiss to see if the chemistry because I had zero chemistry with this guy. Right. Has that ever happened to you? Yes. Yes. A lot. Fascinating, right? It is fascinating. And it's always the best connections come from that. That's why you got to get it. You got to be a little more open. Yeah. I was never open to that. Like I'm very into mouths. Like I always say like my co-host Tommy that I bang for seven years. I never kissed him once because I hated his mouth. And I think I tried it once and he was a bad kisser. So I was right. But I would not go kiss anybody if I didn't feel anything. Somehow this guy just like pulled me in and did it. And it, but it was, so it changed me to think like, you know, in the future to really know if you have chemistry, you have to make out with him because this guy sat across from me for like 10 years. And I had no idea. I was like, oh my God. And he was like, great and bad, biggest dick. All that time he wasted. Yeah. I think he always gets a little sad because in my heyday, I was a good time. You know, I'm a little less fun now because I'm a mom and you know what I mean? And I think he's like, oh, I wish I was your guy like back in the day. You know, it would have been a little bit more fun. I'm a little less fun now. But, um, but anyway, listen, Leila, anything you want to end with? No, this is fun. I'd love to come back on and do it again. Yeah. I'm doing for Sundays like fun stuff. Like I did another one where I asked like rapid fire questions with Adam. Like I just trying to think of different things. So come up with a good, uh, fun thing to do like this. I think it's always fun. People could like ask these questions to themselves and people like to participate, which I think is like super fun and stuff, but you're always fun to talk to. So, um, thanks so much for calling in again. And wait, tell everyone where to find you and everything. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Um, I have my own podcast. Of course, it's called the Curious Role Diaries podcast and you can listen to it anywhere you stream your podcast. Love it. Curious girl diary. 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