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Not everybody is ready for that, but they're conversations that change lives. There is a loneliness that doesn't come from being rejected. It comes from obeying. From finally telling the truth, from finally choosing alignment. From finally saying no to what no longer fits, and suddenly everything gets quiet. Not peaceful yet. Just quiet. Fewer messages. Fewer invitations. Fewer voices telling you who to be. And the question creeps in. Did I do the right thing? Or did I just lose people? Get comfortable. This is a conversation you can't afford to miss. No. Oh, that's better right, Beth? Yeah. Yeah. She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggle. As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids, and everything in between. Hello my friend and welcome back to Becoming Unshakable, the Legacy Conversations bonus series. A special edition brought to you by the Entrepreneur Parent Podcast, a community of strong families building unshakable legacies. I'm your host, Ealdi Coferenci. Here we talk about the moments that don't look attractive on the outside. Because they are hard, but they are deeply formative on the inside. Life changing if you let them be. And today's conversation is for anyone who has chosen obedience. We were talking about that. And if you made your move, you're going to notice some things. And now is sitting in the quiet that followed. So now we're sitting in that quiet that follows the obedience. Right? You know the feeling. It's when things start sliding off. And you realize you can't go back. Some of us do. Some of us do. But the core truth. And let me say this to you as a friend. Okay? Let me tell you this as your friend. Obedience almost always creates a season of felt loneliness. Before it creates felt peace. Not always, but most of the time. And rest assured, it's not because you made the wrong choice. It's because you stopped living on borrowed voices. It's because you stopped listening to the noise that wasn't adding to your marriage. That wasn't adding to the connection and the life you were creating with your family. When you obey God, you don't just leave behaviors behind. You often leave familiar dynamics, shared jokes, old rhythms, emotional shortcuts, people who only knew the previous version of you. And the space they leave behind can sometimes feel unsettling. It's different. Right? It's a different energy. So what's actually happening? And here's what's important to understand. That quiet you feel is not a punishment. It's recalibration. Your nervous system is adjusting to no longer being overstimulated by noise, opinion, expectation, expectation, wanted to say expecting, people expecting things from you. Right? Expectation and performance. Your nervous system is preparing and adjusting. It's adjusting to all of that. No longer needing all that overstimulated noise. The opinions, the expectations, and performances. Right? Your soul is learning how to stand without constant feedback. And that takes time. Most people mistake this moment as proof they made the wrong decision. So they run back. Not because it was healthy but because it was familiar. They don't want to sit in it. And this matters more than we'd like to admit. Much more. Research constantly shows that people are more likely to return to familiar, even unhealthy. Relational patterns under stress. Then to remain in uncertainty. Right? Sometimes that's abuse. Sometimes it's addictions. Because simply because familiar feel safe. Even when it's destructive. That's why therapists and counselors have to help you not run to something that's familiar because it could be extremely toxic, even dangerous. So this is reasons why people run back to old environments. Old habits, old dynamics. And that's often what quietly damages, marriages. Children that were raising, the babies that were raising, and long-term success at home. Goodness gracious. Goodness gracious, right? Now listen carefully to this moment from the gospel of John chapter six. After Jesus speaks a hard truth, scripture says, from this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him. And then Jesus turns to the 12 and asks, you do not want to leave too, do you? And Peter responds, Lord to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. Let that sit. Truth thinned the crowd. Obedience reduced proximity. And the ones who stayed weren't staying because it was easy. It wasn't easy. They stayed because it was true. It was their destiny. And isn't that still true today? Isn't that still true today? It's easier to walk away from a marriage when it gets hard. We see it every day. So popular. It's so easy. Just walk away. Because people aren't telling you the truth of what that actually looks like. Okay, they're just telling you it's easy. It's not. It's not. It's easier to leave a church when it asks more of you. Just change your religion, right? Change churches. It's easier to quit environments than require growth, humility, and self-examination. Goodness gracious. It's so much easier to walk away. Walk away from the church. Walk away from this. Walk away from that. Walk away from the marriage. But ease is not the same thing as alignment. And comfort is not the same thing as calling. It's not always comfortable. Listen, especially when you're called, you're going to have things happen in your life. This is so true of everyone in our community that has had obstacles, hard things, tragic things happen in their life. Right? They're not. They're not. You have to find the good in them. Because when you have walked this road, you are now, you hold the blueprint to other people that are walking through it. You have the buckets of water to go into the burning building to bring others out. So why does this feel so personal? Here's what no one prepares you for. When you stop over-explaining, overgiving, stop over-tolerating, stop over-performing, stop it, you will feel alone for a moment. Not always, but usually you really will. You're going to feel alone for a moment. Not because people are abandoning you, but because you are choosing differently. And that matters. Sometimes the quiet comes because people leave. There's no longer anything in common. And sometimes it comes because you finally chose to shave off. What's what? And who no longer belongs? Right? Yes. You became fearless. And that's not cruelty. That's clarity. Unlisten to this carefully. Loneliness after obedience is often just the space where peace is being installed. It's where peace is being installed. Now, want to share these gentle, but strong truths or gently share these strong truths? Not everyone who leaves was meant to stay. Okay? They follow for a reason. Not every silence is a loss. Sometimes you don't need those people's voices in your life, in your marriage. Not every distance is failure. It's not. You're going places. Sometimes quiet is simply confirmation that you're no longer negotiating. You're calling. And yes, sometimes you are the one. You are the one who steps back. We talked about it. We talked about it in the last few episodes. That sometimes it's time to quietly step back. You don't need to make an announcement. An announcement. You just step back. Disappear. We fall off. And it's not because you're better. Not because you're better than anyone. Everybody has the opportunity to pour into themselves and their family. But it's because you're building differently. I think everybody should be. Now listen carefully because I'm really talking to the parents and leaders. Your children are watching this season. They are learning how to sit with discomfort. How to trust conviction. How to choose truth without applause. You're not always going to get enough applause. You're not always going to get a bing. It's a like. It's not always going to go viral. They are learning how to be okay with people walking away. And how to walk away when it protects their future. Their spouse. Their marriage. Their babies when they have them. They're learning from us. They are learning that peace doesn't come from being surrounded. You got to shave things off. It comes from being aligned. Now go get your journal. It's our favorite time. Go get your journal. Pause this. If you're driving, skip this for now. Come back later. You need to sit with these honestly. As I always encourage, write it down. Whatever comes to you, immediately write it down. Don't let yourself judge what just came. There's no shame in anything. You're going to learn. You're going to learn a lot. So sit with these honestly. Here's the first one. Where an eye mistaking loneliness for failure. We do that, don't we? Here's another one. But what voices have I stopped hearing and why? There's no wrong answers, people. You're going to learn. What kind of peace and eye being prepared for? What does that look like? What does it feel like? What does it sound like? What does it smell like? What part of this change am I secretly excited about? Right? What am I excited about? This change feels lonely but I'm excited. Turn it into excitement. Things are changing. In a really good way. Because remember transformation always feels like an ending before it feels like a beginning. Right? Think back. It's just like a caterpillar. Doesn't know it's becoming a butterfly. Right? A caterpillar. It doesn't know it's becoming a butterfly. I think that's it. It's over. And then the most beautiful part of this life comes about. And it only knows. Like it only knows. The caterpillar only knows. Everything familiar is dissolving. It feels lonely. It's all leaving. Now what? It's over. And then bam. Beautiful butterfly. Before you reach for that coffee, consider this. What if the energy boost you're looking for isn't in your cup but in your cells? I challenge you to swap your morning coffee for Sheila G by symbiotica. And here's what can happen. No crash. No jitters. Just clean, sustained energy. Plus mental clarity and trace minerals that our bodies actually need. That are actually starving for to be honest. This isn't just a supplement. It's an ancient adaptogen sourced from the Himalayas that supports micro-condrial function. Stamina and overall vitality. Your coffee never did that. Okay, let's just be honest. Try it for a week and tell me your body doesn't thank you. Symbiotica's Sheila G is next level wellness. And honestly, you may never go back to drinking coffee. Click the link below down in the bio and get your Sheila G today. So write these down. No judgment. Just reflection. Just whatever comes to you. Everybody's words are different. Everybody's answers are different. Perhaps some are the same, but just don't judge it. Let it spill out. And let me leave you with this truth. The quiet after obedience is not the end of connection. Right, even though we've shaved a lot of things, a lot of people away. It's the beginning of clarity. And you are not losing people. You are losing noise. That will otherwise drag you down. And peace often enters softly after the room clears. For example, at events or celebrations, sometimes the best part is when it's over. When it gets quiet, Christmas, when it gets quiet and the stress is gone, the pressure is gone. The noise is gone. The guests are leaving. A nice thing to say. But you know what I mean. Like you can finally just sit in the silence. You sit there with your children and your spouse or at the event, you get to have really deep conversations with the people that you really want to have the conversations with. They're packing away all the mess. The distractions are gone. They're sitting in the silence with the true connection. If this episode met you in a tender place, share it with someone who might be. Wondering if obedience was worth the cost. And if you haven't yet, make sure you're subscribed. The way you don't miss another conversation. Okay, because these are getting good. They've been good. You don't want to miss a conversation. It's helping you pour into yourself, pour into your family, most importantly, pour into your marriage, to be the person that you were called to be. Leave a kind of review. And five golden stars as Daniel would say. So these conversations can reach the families who need the most. And as always, we're taking a moment to celebrate. Daniel and Destiny and all the children in the community. You love you guys so much. And the children have been working really hard on your favorite show. The Entrepreneur Kids Legacy Show. Building faith-filled leadership content for our incredible, beautiful community. With courage, integrity, and love. If you'd like to support their work and help produce future episodes, you can do so through the link in the show notes. Buy me a coffee.com. Backslash Entrepreneur Kids. And thank you in advance for the little ones. They're so grateful. If obedience feels lonely right now, don't rush to fill the space. Don't run backwards. Feel scary. Let peace find you there. Let it flutter. Welcome it with open arms. What you're building requires quiet first. It really does. It really does. Thank you for staying with me. Thank you for trusting truth. God bless you. Glory to God always. This is becoming unshakable. God bless you. I love you. Thank you, beautiful friends for listening to this and a quote and message from Mama. There we've told you love and care about. Oh, and we'd love to personally invite you to listen to our podcast. It's for young future leaders ready to change the world and be a light in the dark. We listen together on the family. It's called the optional kids legacy show. We know you'll love it. Be bold. Be kind. Build an unforgettable family legacy. God bless you. We love you. And parents, if no one told you yet, let us be the folks. You're doing a remarkable job. And remember, you are the hero of your story because every legacy begins with a hero. And that hero is you. This podcast is for inspirational and educational purposes only. And it is not intended to replace professional advice, legal advice, diagnosis or treatment. The views expressed are based on personal experience and faith-based insight and are meant to encourage reflection and growth. 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