My niece is always STEALING the spotlight… so I don't want her at my birthday! -r/AITAH | Reddit Stories | EP2665

Hey, this is Riley. And this is Keon, your favorite OK Store time host, and we've got some great stories coming up. But before we get to that, we have a quick two-minute break from the sponsors that keep the show alive. This is an I Heart podcast. Guaranteed human. My niece is always stealing the spotlight, so I don't want her at my birthday. Maybe your niece is just, like, super cool. I, female 31, and my husband, male 29, live in the same city as his parents. Mother-in-law, female 55, and father-in-law, male 62. I generally have a good and cordial relationship with my in-laws and genuinely enjoy their company. By the way, this comes from High Bong Witch. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Store Time subreddit. I'm Carly. I'm Dakota. And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we would do. So let us know what you would do in the comments. N.O.P. says, my brother-in-law, male 35, his wife, female 32, and their daughter, Rain, female 6. Your niece is 6? And that's... Wait a minute. No, you're not beefing with a six-year-old. Was it the niece? Yeah! You're beefing with a six-year-old? You're 31. I am female 31. You're 31. And beefing with my niece, female 6. Yeah, she's going to steal the spotlight. She's 6. Rain, female 6, lives with my in-laws. Rain mostly stays with her grandparents due to various reasons. I should clarify that my in-laws and I speak different languages. Only my father-in-law knows English. I do not like kids. I never have. We do not have children, and instead, have a dog. I do not know if this is just how kids are, but Rain is extremely obnoxious and entitled. She has no respect for personal space, destroys things, demands to be the center of attention, and feels like she has never been taught basic manners. Her parents do not really parent her, and while my in-laws are very sweet people, they also do not discipline her consistently, grandparents after all. She is the only child and is constantly indulged. My husband and I have made it very clear that we do not intend to have kids, which makes his parents spoil her further as the only grandchild. For example, when Rain comes to our house, she takes over the TV, even if I'm watching something, and my mother-in-law actually tells me to let her watch or else she will make a scene or refuse to eat or something. On any occasion, whether it is my in-laws' anniversary, my husband sending a cake to his mom on Mother's Day, et cetera, she has to cut the cake. This is encouraged by her parents and grandparents. So maybe she wants to be a baker. To be fair, my husband usually says no and takes a stand. For example, on our dog's birthday, she wanted to be the one to cut the cake. Okay. And my in-laws were pushing for it. Okay. But my husband clearly said no. Hey, let your six-year-old niece cut the cake on your dog's birthday. What are we even doing? That's like the easiest one to just be like, yeah, sure. It's like that is that we're drawing that. She's so greedy, she wants to cut the cake. She's six. But Dakota, what if the dog knows how to cut his own birthday cake? Yeah, you should have the dog cut the cake. What if he is? Tell that six-year-old to get out of here. Get that dog on a TV show. What a dog, dude. One incident that really upset me was when I had bought a vase from a named Swedish furniture store that I loved. Rain picked it up and dropped it, shattering it. Her mom, who was there the whole time and could have stopped this from happening, laughed it off. My in-laws rushed in only to check if Rain was OK. No one corrected her. We should get her out of the shattered ceramic first. That is, yeah. But yeah, yeah. Wanting to know that the kid is OK. But then after that, we can correct it. But yeah, we could check on her first. You do check if the kid's alive first and has all of its blood. Toes. Intact. I care deeply about even small things I buy because they hold meaning for me. I scolded Rain. She cried and ran away. And I went to my room because I was furious. Later, my in-laws came to tell me that I made her cry. And she asked me to talk to her because she was upset that I scolded her. Like, what? To be clear, I have raised these issues repeatedly. Whenever Rain does something that needs correction, I either say something myself, although I am scared at times, or I tell my husband. I've also faced situations where Rain started crying and my mother-in-law came rushing to comfort her, making me feel like the criminal. You're beefing with a six-year-old. You're getting outmaneuvered by a six-year-old girl. And it's kind of hilarious. I'm sorry. I mean, I think all of this just needs to be a conversation of like, I need to be able to discipline your kid when they're in my house and breaking my stuff. Like, I need to be able to be like, no, that actually wasn't great. Yeah, my house, my rules. If she's here, I'm disciplining her. And it's not like you're a stranger. Right, she knows you. She's beefing with you. Well, maybe you think she's beefing back. You think Rain knows. Oh, she's six. Yeah, she knows. Her body language often felt like she was unhappy with me for scolding Rain. My father-in-law has scolded her a few times, even if mildly. My mother-in-law usually laughs it off and there is also a language barrier between us, which makes direct communication difficult. What usually happens is this. I tell my husband what just happened. He listens and then he goes and talks to his parents. He comes back and tells me they handled it or scolded her. The problem is that in many cases, I have seen the incident happen live and seen no one say or do anything at that moment. When I point this out, my husband does not believe me and assumes I must have missed something because I don't understand the language. Another major issue is our dog. We have repeatedly asked my in-laws not to give Rain chocolate at our house because our dog could eat it. Despite this, it keeps happening. Bruh. This is an in-law problem. Not a rain problem. Yeah, they're the ones who are mostly raising her, I guess. Yeah, this is really good. You bring chocolate into my house again, none of you are coming back, actually. If you feed my dog chocolate, you're not seeing my dog again. Yeah, 100%. We have also told Rain not to eat in front of the dog because she drops food. The more we say it, the more she does it. She's beefing with you. Yeah, and again, because she's six, you're talking about a six-year-old child, like they're a fully-formed, developed, rational adult. They're not. They're six-year-old. I have personally seen her wave chocolate cookies near our dog while my mother lost it right there and said nothing. But did you also stand there and say nothing? You said you saw it. What? She also destroyed a peace lily in our house by hitting it repeatedly again with no correction. That's not very peaceful now, is it? Nah, nah, nah. We need to start correcting. We need to start correcting our own. Without any regard for Rain's feelings. I don't care if she's gonna cry, she's sick. She has to learn she's gonna cry. Yeah, so far she's learned that if she cries and gets upset, she gets whatever she wants. Right, it's working for her. My husband does support me and is extremely protective of our dog as in ready to burn cities to save our dog. Why would you need to do that? I don't know. If your dog is telling you to burn down the town to save it, you have a deeper issue. And you should listen to the dog. Fifth amendment, I plead the fifth. I plead the fifth. But he does not take a strong enough stand with his parents, in my opinion. He tells me, he spoke to them, and that chocolate will not be brought again. And then it happens again. If I point out that he did not take a strong enough stance, I feel he changes the entire conversation into how I do not like his parents coming to our home. Yeah, I don't. Because they bring chocolate and they don't, you know, let me reprimand the kid. Rain's not the issue here. She's just six. She's six. Your in-laws are not parenting her very well. Just be parented. Because of all of this, when my in-laws come over, Rain always comes with them. I enjoy my in-laws company, but her constant presence makes me anxious and upset. I often end up locking myself in my room with my dog and only letting the dog out when my husband is present. Now to the main issue. My birthday is coming up. This year has been brutal for me. I lost my father. I lost my job. I lost my peace of mind. All I wanted was a quiet birthday with my in-laws, whom I genuinely consider family. The thing is, I do not feel the same for my brother-in-law, sister-in-law, and Rain. My husband just told me they are bringing Rain. I asked him to please tell his parents just this once not to bring her. He said he does not know how to do that because Rain is his niece. He loves her. And his parents do not know that I am not a fan of her. I told him he had the entire year to set boundaries, so Rain does not have to come every single time they visit. He said he didn't think it was such a big deal. About a month ago, we had a serious argument because he felt I avoided going to his parents' house. During that argument, I clearly told him how difficult it is for me to constantly be around Rain. He now says he thought it was just a general dislike of kids. And the reason why I don't like going to his parents' place and that he didn't realize I specifically did not want Rain coming to our house. Honestly, that makes no sense to me. It should make sense because it's kind of like, oh, you have a big problem with a six-year-old is like a rational thing to think to a 31-year-old. Yeah, like the thing is, I think you do have problems with your in-laws. You're just pushing those problems onto the six-year-old. The biggest thing that raised my ears right now was that she said that her mechanism for when Rain is there is she just gets mad and locks herself in a room. You can't do that. Can't do that. 31, you gotta have a different coping mechanism to deal with because it is, it's your niece-in-law, whatever. It's your niece. It is your niece. She's gonna be around. She's gonna get older and be less of a six-year-old, but... She doesn't get parented, she might be just... Yeah, it needs to be a conversation with like, hey, when you bring Rain over, these are the things that need to happen and if these behaviors happen, there will be consequences and you guys may have to leave. Yeah, fully. I stayed quiet all year, but I thought at least on my birthday, he could take a stand. Now, if he says anything, it will clearly look like it's coming from me, so I lose either way. He keeps telling me I'm making a huge deal out of something small. When I finally snapped and said Rain is badly behaved and extremely entitled, I used the word rotten, which I agree I should not have, but I'm exhausted and I genuinely do not know if this behavior is normal for a six-year-old or not. What I experience is constant boundary crossing with no consequences. I know the adults are responsible for being this way, but she is spoiled nonetheless and a nuisance. My husband said, the way I keep saying horrible things about Rain, he's afraid I will curse her to passing, which shocked me. I am not wishing harm on a child, I just wanted one day to be about me and not about Rain, which I know his parents will inevitably make the center of everything. Even though my husband will try, it does not happen. And when, like always, he fails and Rain ruins my birthday, I will be the villain for being pissed at a kid being a kid. So am I the a-hole? Blah, blah, blah. I just think you're beefing with the wrong people. Like I think like, yes, Rain is probably very misbehaved and is some of that normal for a six-year-old? Yes, is some of that more because no one's correcting it? Yeah, probably mostly. So it's like, you have to get your husband on your side of going to your in-laws and being like, hey, if she's coming over and she does stuff, I'm gonna correct it and I think you should too. Yeah, I think you and your husband need to set clear boundaries with your in-laws about how Rain needs to behave at your house. And then if she doesn't, there are consequences laid out for that, whether it's them leaving or her being in timeout or whatever. But the answer isn't to just let the six-year-old run roughshod over you. Yeah, or you'll never get along with her. You'll always beef with Rain. Yeah, I also don't think the solution is just like, Rain can't come over to the house. That's crazy. She's six, she's being with her grandparents. But you're definitely like treading a little bit in a-hole territory a little bit. Edit, just wanted to add that Rain lives with her parents themselves. It is just that she spends most of her day with her grandparents who live downstairs. Oh, okay. Her parents are more than capable of taking care of her for two weeks in case my in-laws wish to come and stay with us. I should also add that my brother-in-law and sister-in-law are specially abled as in they cannot hear or speak. Rain, however, can. That is another reason she is spoiled as she is what society considers normal and a miracle because she's not like her parents. This is how I feel. My husband may strongly differ, saying no one treats her differently out of sympathy for her parents. Update. Yay, it says happy update. It says happy update. Yay. I had a calm conversation with my husband and stated everything in my heart. He did not argue. He did not bring it up again. Today, he told me he tried talking to his parents, but they were adamant, saying they would control Rain and that they cannot come without her. Finally, he told them either come without her or they do not come. So that is that. And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go to the next one. Our siblings are excluded from our wedding and my mother-in-law is not happy about it. That doesn't sound great. My fiance and I are in the very early stages of wedding planning. We just got engaged at Thanksgiving, but there was one thing we always knew for certain. We both wanted a small and intimate wedding party. Our guest list is roughly 72 people total, including ourselves, the photographer and the officiant. By the way, this comes from user, IlikeTurtles24. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Dakota. I'm Carly. And we're here to give a little good advice, goofily, you know, because we don't know all the answers. We only know what we would do, so let us know what you would do down in the comments and OP says. Between us, I have two siblings and he has one full sibling and four half siblings. Because of that, we mutually decided to only have a maid of honor and a best man. If we included our maid of honor, best man, siblings and close friends, our wedding party would easily reach around 12 people, which felt overwhelmingly large for what we envisioned. On top of that, every wedding I have ever been part of has felt like a huge financial burden. Paying for hair, makeup, dresses, shoes, jewelry, bachelorette trips and everything else adds up quickly. Our secret wedding is gonna be full nudist in the forest. Yes, no clothes, no food. We just scavenge bark and leaves. In sap. I honestly thought people would be relieved by our decision. Instead of including family in the formal wedding party, our plan was to have them wear a designated color. It does not have to be an exact match, but for example, everyone in the family would wear green. During the processional, after the bridesmaids and groomsmen walked down, we planned to have both families walk together and take their seats in the first two rows. We also decided not to have flower girls or ring bearers. There are children on both sides of the family and we did not want to choose between them or risk a toddler tantrum on the day of the wedding. Instead, we decided to have the longest married couple in attendance, which happens to be my grandparents who have been married for 60 years, toss petals and hold the rings. Yeah, that's pretty nice. That's adorable. That's pretty nice. You did have ring bearers, a ring bearer and flower girl, they were just your grandparents. That's adorable. My future mother-in-law and father-in-law had always been incredibly supportive up until this point. There were never mixed signals or issues. I attended all of their family holidays. They invited me over multiple times without my fiance present since we're long distance. They attended my college graduation and they have gone out with my parents and genuinely seemed to have a great time. Both sides always spoke highly of each other. The day we got engaged, everything seemed to change. My family and most of his family, especially the sisters I'm already close with, were happy and excited. His parents, particularly his mom, were noticeably cold. I initially brushed it off and assumed they were just shocked or caught off guard, especially since my fiance had not told them he planned to propose out of fear that someone might accidentally ruin the surprise. A few days passed and my family and I reached out about potentially planning wedding related activities. She avoided every question. I eventually stopped bringing up wedding topics and assumed it was just not something she wanted to be involved in. I once again, let it go. A few days later, completely unprovoked, I received a text from her saying that her feelings were hurt because we would not be including siblings in the wedding party. I was confused about how she even knew since she had avoided all wedding conversations. I'm close with my fiance's full sister and had mentioned it to her with her full approval, so I assume it made its way back to their mom that way. I immediately responded and explained our reasoning and how we planned to include family outside of the immediate wedding party. She never responded to me. Instead, she contacted my fiance and proceeded to call me every name in the book. She told him he needed to rethink his future and said awful things about my parents, including criticizing them for having my siblings and me take out student loans for college. Well, it's crazy. You wanna just not come to the wedding, actually? Yeah, that's crazy. You wanna just like maybe not come? I think I decided that it's actually gonna be every family member except for you. Yeah, we're gonna have... We've just changed our mind to make everyone in the family a part of the wedding party except for you. Yeah, and you're not invited. Dang, honestly, I would probably cut off any of my parents saying that to me over this. I would have me be like, are you kidding me? That's total like, what the heck? Yeah, just nonsense. Completely nonsense. I really thought you just weren't inviting them to the wedding in general based off the title, so that's why I was kinda like, well, yeah, you would kinda suck. Yeah, that would be weird. But they're coming, you're still honoring them in their own way. It's your wedding, your rules. Yeah, and then to make this like a, well, her parents gave them all student loans and she's the worst. It's so weird. That's wild. You wanna pay off their loans then? Yeah. I don't see you paying off their loans. The door is open. So thankfully, my fiance stood up for me. He was furious and ended up uninviting them from everything, going no contact, and blocking their numbers. Supportive husband alert. That's how you do it. I did not block their numbers. Aside from that one text exchange, she had not contacted me directly. I also have a deep-rooted fear of there being an emergency and someone needing to reach me. Instead of blocking them, I deleted the message threads and tried to forget about it for the sake of my mental health. Two days ago, while I was sleeping, I woke up to seven missed calls, two voicemails, and six text messages from her. They were all part of a drunken rant about how they are worried about me, clearly baiting me into responding. I am an extremely empathetic person, and I struggle with setting boundaries. I was bullied a lot growing up and did not have a healthy first relationship, so my anxiety usually takes over and I engage when I should not. I am normally a very responsive texture, and if I miss a call, I usually call back immediately. This time, I did not respond at all. Honestly, it was out of pure fear of both of them. The anxiety has been unbearable. Sitting heavy in my chest, and I feel like I cannot take it anymore. I was always overly sweet to both of them and tried to keep everyone connected, so for me to suddenly not answer has to be noticeable. They definitely know something is wrong. I am not entirely sure why I am posting this, but the entire situation is completely overtaken my thoughts. These early stages of engagement should be joyful and exciting, but instead, they are filled with dread. My family and close friends are throwing us an engagement party over Christmas, and I am absolutely terrified. Even though his parents are uninvited, I have a deep-rooted fear that something horrible is going to happen. I don't know what to do. I cannot shake this anxiety. I keep questioning whether I should just give in and include siblings in the wedding party. No, no. Literally no, don't give her what she wants here. Yeah, do not teach them that they can do this and then get what they want. Yeah, no, they are adults. I think you should keep doing exactly what you've been doing, which is ignoring them. Yep. I trust my partner completely and have no doubt he will continue standing up for me, just like he already has. I just can't seem to get past this overwhelming fear, and there is an update. Oh my God. I think Lean on your partner. Yeah, he was so good about immediately shutting that down. Yeah, and maybe reach out to his siblings that you're cool with and be like, hey, there's clearly issues going down with the parents here, and I'm just worried something's gonna happen. So, help me out if you sense any plots or schemes coming from your parents, pass it on down the line. Let me know, you know? But all you can do at this point is just move forward. They've been uninvited. Yeah. Move forward with the assumption that they are not showing up, and if they are, that's a, have a contingency plan for that. Probably the police, unfortunately. The police. Yeah. Have a designated maid of dishonor. That's always my answer. That's just the opposite of a maid of honor. They're literally just there to like, deal with all the BS and like, straight up tell people like, get out. Yeah, I like that. I like that a lot, and we have an update. Wow. Thank you so much to everyone for the incredibly kind responses. I wanted to address a few things. First, I know I need counseling for my anxiety. This is a relatively new struggle for me that started within the past year. I have had multiple orthopedic surgeries that cause significant trauma to my body and the anxiety developed as a result and never fully went away. That is very rough. I'm currently working two part-time jobs and cannot afford therapy right now, but it is something I plan to pursue in the future. For now, my best friend attends therapy weekly and shares techniques and coping methods with me. I also spend a lot of time researching what works best for me. Painting, baking, and recently, reading, have all been incredibly grounding for me. I truly appreciate everyone who expressed concern because managing anxiety when it's new is extremely difficult. Second, regarding blocking her number, I told my fiance that I had not blocked it and explained my reasoning and he was okay with it. I understand how it may have sounded like I was not listening to him, especially based on some comments. That's not what it sounded like. Sounded like you were like, ah, what if someone's in a crisis? What if there's an emergency? Sounded like normal worrying. Sounds very practical. I was writing purely from emotion and left out important context. None of his siblings live nearby. They are spread out across the country with the closest being about four hours away. My fiance plans to address his parents when he goes home next week. I left the contact door open because I'm not close with many of his friends due to the long distance. There are a couple I really like and they all know about me, but because he is military, I worry that if something happened, I would not be contacted. His parents would be. That may not be the healthiest mindset, but it's something I'm actively working through. If things go poorly when he addresses them without me, I will be blocking contact as well. This is not about going around my partner and undermining him. We discussed it and he understood my reasoning. Lastly, I will not be changing the wedding. Every decision has been mutual and made together. I refuse to make any choices alone. I'm not getting married just to be a bride. I'm getting married to commit to my future husband. Sounds like you got it all under control. It really does. It sounds like your in-laws were hiding this seething resentment they feel towards you and your family and they just let it come out and then your husband was rightly like, hey, so that's incredibly uncool. And by the way, you're not coming to the wedding and don't talk to me because what is wrong with you? Because what the heck? We were gonna have a chill, nudist wedding in the woods. We were gonna have a chill, nudist wedding in the woods. But our immediate family got to wear cool colors. Yeah, our immediate family would have loincloths. That were green. Yeah, cause we're keeping expenses low. Really low. And you're missing that now. Have fun. The wedding industry is exhausting and the expectations people place on couples because of it are even worse. If it were entirely up to me, I would elope and come back married. My fiance does not want that. Oh, dang it. And if I'm being honest, I would be heartbroken not to share the day with my parents and grandparents. I am incredibly blessed to have a family that would do anything for each other. Thank you again to everyone who offered support. I have an amazing support system, including my fiance. But I wanted anonymous and unbiased perspectives. You all have been incredibly kind and I truly appreciate it. And that is the end of that story. My mother-in-law spoiled my one kid and ignored the other. And I'm done staying quiet. It's time to speak up. And this comes directly from the Okay Storytime subreddit. Yeah. I 40 female have a weird relationship with my mother-in-law, 60 female. My husband, 41 male, and I have been married for 10 years and together for 15. I have a daughter from a previous relationship, 19 female. Her biological dad was awful and a substance regular user. And he was pretty non-existent in her life. My husband treated her like his own. Together we have two kids, 13 female and seven male. By the way, this comes from Solid Development 758. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay Storytime subreddit, which is where this is from. And I'm Carly. I'm Dakota. And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we would do. Let us know what you would do in the comments. As OP says, we used to spend a lot of time with my mother-in-law and stepfather-in-law. Mother-in-law drinks a lot and when our son was born, it was a long time before he would spend the night there. He was being breastfed and was developmentally behind, later diagnosed on the autism spectrum. My mother-in-law would not respect our wishes for reasonable bedtimes for the kids. They would be up until after midnight at eight and three years old. That seems a little late. Just a little. When our son came along, our oldest was often stuck babysitting because mother-in-law would drink a lot and would not feed actual meals. It was mostly chips, snacks, and junk food. The three main food groups. The visits started dwindling when the kids got older and wanted to spend time with friends or do extracurriculars. The hour and 20 minute drive was also a lot. We always had to make the drive and it was never reciprocated despite inviting them to our house. It all came to a head when our oldest turned 16. She wanted a birthday party with friends at a skating rink so we did not invite grandparents or extended family. Father-in-law, who is amazing, knew and planned a time to come the next day to bring her a gift. Mother-in-law acted like we spit in her face and was very cold toward our eldest afterward. She never made time to see her or bring a gift. A couple of weeks later, she sent a card with money. A year later, my husband had his 40th birthday and the in-laws were invited. Our son's birthday is the day after his and our oldest's daughter's birthday is two weeks later. Our son was given two large bags full of gifts plus a card with 60 or $80. Our oldest got nothing. Nah, nah, nah, you can't do nothing. Nope. Even Santa gave you a lump of coal. You can't do nothing. Yeah, you get a lump of coal, I guess. Even that. When her birthday came two weeks later, she also got nothing, only a very short text that said, "'Happy birthday, the gifts are not the issue. "'It's the distinct favoritism that really hurts our oldest, "'especially since she has always been hyper-sensitive "'to differential treatment because she is not "'biologically related to them.'" Yeah. It's pretty bald-faced to be that dismissive of her. It's very obvious that it's like, here's two giant bags and money. Happy birthday. Yeah, happy birthday, whatever, I guess you alive. Is it your birthday tonight? Oh yeah, happy birthday. Little incidents have happened since then. Backhanded comments, cold shoulders, and our oldest overhearing mother-in-law and stepfather-in-law talking about her, then quieting as soon as she walks into view. This happened at her 18th birthday party. How are you talking crap on the 18-year-old at their party? That's insane. As their grandparents and not another 18-year-old. Yeah, the other 18-year-olds were more well-behaved than you. Yeah, even the other 18-year-olds know, like, oh, wait, we'll hold our comments until after the event. Mother-in-law has now started treating me differently. For Thanksgiving this year, I invited mother-in-law and step-sister-in-law, the wife of step-father-in-law's son, to Thanksgiving at our house in a group text at least a month before Thanksgiving. Sister-in-law responded quickly that they would not be able to make it. Mother-in-law did not respond. The Monday before Thanksgiving, weeks later if you are following, mother-in-law texted my husband asking what time we would be eating. My husband's never been a planner and always spends Thanksgiving morning in the woods hunting. Mother-in-law knows that I am the one who does all the cooking. He did not know, so I texted mother-in-law, glad y'all will be able to come on Thanksgiving. We will be eating around 2 p.m. You're welcome to bring whatever you want, but don't feel pressured. Her response was very short, just stating that she would bring cookies. I love the like, go around of like, okay, you're not gonna text me, I will still text you. Yeah. Like, you're gonna text my husband for this information, you're getting an answer from me. I love that. Yeah, hi, I'm the person you know you should have texted. I'm glad that you're coming. If you want this info, you have to talk to me actually. It's great. Fast forward to now and Christmas plans. We usually go to them for Christmas and it is usually the weekend before, which would not be this weekend. I did not reach out because if I'm being honest, I'm dreading it. It has been awkward since the 16th birthday two years ago. They make plans for Saturdays, which my oldest always works, but she is every Sunday off. They know this. They plan Christmas on Saturdays anyway. And my oldest usually has to leave early for work or can't make it at all. Mother-in-law just texted my husband asking when we can do Christmas. Of course he had to ask me about our schedule because I'm the one who keeps track of all the kids' activities, church functions, school performances and everything else. We also communicate with each other before making plans. He has never volunteered us as a family without making sure I'm okay with it. He doesn't even go golfing with his friends without checking with me first. It has been a whole back and forth thing all day. Him checking with me, then telling her what days were free. Then her asking about a day after Christmas. Then him asking me which day works best. Then going back to her with my response. Just talk to me. I don't understand where the hatred is coming from. I have mentioned it to my husband and he can see it from his mom's perspective. But like, what's her perspective? That she hates your child? Like what is the perspective there? Right. That she is hurt that our oldest does not spend time with her like she used to. She stopped paying attention to her. What do you mean? Tell your mother a lot of get over it and buy her a birthday present maybe. Yeah, this is something that happens between like friends. Not something that happens between like a child and their grandparents. I'm just upset she doesn't spend as much time. We don't hang out like we used to. Your 16 year old daughter, why have massive sweats? Your 16 year old daughter is getting absolutely ignored by her grandma. I don't know, talk to your mother dude. I have explained that she's in high school taking college classes, working full time and has friends she enjoys spending time with. It's not the child's responsibility to make plans with grandparents, especially if the grandparents are short with them. He feels bad because his mom has always spoiled our kids with expensive gifts or large quantities of gifts. I explained that gifts don't matter. Our kids just wanna feel loved and want their grandparents to be present and act like they want to be involved for my own heart. I would love to go off on my mother-in-law or at least say something about feeling tension and ask if we've done anything to offend her. Just to start the conversation and air things out. Another part of me wants to keep the peace for my husband's sake and just deal with the awkward moments once or twice a year. My oldest does not care much for confrontation. She feels awkward but is fine keeping her distance from mother-in-law at family functions and giving her the cold shoulder. She intentionally and subtly lets her know that she does not care for her. She also takes enjoyment in being very close with father-in-law and step-mother-in-law. Yes, they all get along and spend Thanksgiving at our house together while giving the cold shoulder to mother-in-law and step-father-in-law. Okay, so it sounds like you have like a very well-established beef lineage. Yeah. You know. It sounds like equal beefage. Yeah, at this point the beef is flowing fully in all directions. It's a liquid beef. Liquefied beef. Ew. Flowing healthily. And steadily. A healthy flow of beef. I probably should not encourage that behavior but I understand her frustration. If mother-in-law can be subtly rude to her, I don't think I should tell my daughter to just take it and be nice the entire time. So Reddit, thoughts. Has anyone else been through any similar situation? I think the number one thing you should do right now is just get centered with your daughter and be like, how are you feeling? What do you, like what is your ideal outcome of this? Because clearly the beef is a flowing. And do you wanna maximize that beef more? Cause I'll help. And if you don't, I'll help. You know, I think that's the foundation that all the action needs to be based off of is. Liquid beef. What is she feeling about the liquid beef situation? What are the thoughts on the liquid beef? Yeah. What are your thoughts on liquid beef, daughter? That should be your first, that should be your open. Is it flowing enough? Or do we need to grind it up a bit? Is this beef flowing a little bit too much? Do you wanna ease up on this beef flow? Or do you wanna crank more in there? Ooh. Ooh. We've got a little bit left. Maybe it is a little selfish of me not to want to stir the pot because my whole family, including my oldest daughter, enjoys the massive amount of gifts during the holidays. Mother-in-law is the type of person who will cut people off completely and not bat an eye. I should add that mother-in-law did not raise my husband. She only had him every other weekend after he was three or four. And many weekends, she would bail, saying she was going to the beach with friends or had a party to attend. He is very close with his dad, but I think he does not wanna lose the relationship he has with his mom. He feels like he lost so much time with her as a child and also feels that she is trying to make up for it by showering us and our kids with gifts for holidays and birthdays. And we have some comments. Commenter one, it's extremely messed up for her to give grand gifts to the other kids and not your oldest. And for her as an adult, be upset with the teenager for not reaching out to make plans. Your mother-in-law seems to have intentionally left your daughter out and made her feel cast aside. Simply because she can't grow up herself. It's not fair to any of you. My sister went through similar with her ex-mother-in-law and ex-mother-in-law, an ex-mother-in-law mother before divorcing her ex-husband for separate reasons. They always wanted to leave my niece out to the point that my sister told them if they take one grandchild, they take all. If they give gifts for one during the holiday, they give gifts for all. I mean, that's pretty standard already, you know. Usually how it goes. That's very, yeah, you gotta get them all gifts. She was much nicer about it than I would have been personally, but it was a constant battle. It's not right to isolate a child just because the adult can't be an adult. I don't care if she's 18 or 19 and considered an adult now or not. She's still a child, your child, to be exact. I think you should talk about this with your husband because he doesn't want to lose his mom. I think you should ask him if he thinks there is a way to sit down and talk to his mom about this to try and change her behavior. With that, I think you should have your oldest write a letter voicing how she feels about everything your mother-in-law has done directed to your mother-in-law and give it to your mother-in-law when you and your husband sit and talk with her. Opier responds, I don't think my husband sees it the way our oldest and I do. I think he sees how she was with all the kids, equal and spoiling them when they were younger. He was also raised by a rough-neck cowboy of a dad who very much lived by the philosophy of pulling yourself up by the bootstraps and not talking about feelings. He is better with me about talking about feelings, but when you've been one way with your family, your entire life, it's hard to change that. His mom is also not an emotional person at all. Very tough, independent woman. She has a tendency in the past with other family relationships to brush things under the rug. Or she'll blow up and cut people out of her life. I don't think she'd be up for a sit-down heart-to-heart conversation. It's one extreme or the other with her, unfortunately. I like the idea of having my daughter write a letter. And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go to the next one. Hey, this is Riley, your favorite Southern Belle. We're gonna get back to these stories, but here's three minutes worth of ads from our sponsors. I hid my friend's engagement ring, but my girlfriend thought it was for her. Oh, that's a tough one. I've been dating my girlfriend, Laura, for just over two years. We met as I was finishing my master's, and she was in her last year of undergrad as we attended the same university. We have a pretty strong relationship overall. We get along really well and have pretty similar views and goals in life. And I love her a great deal. She's definitely been the healthiest relationship I've ever had. And I see a strong future with her. By the way, this comes from user Ring accident. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Dakota. I'm Sophia. I'm Keon. And we're all here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we know. So if you know what you know, let us know in the comments below. And OP says, this weekend has been awful, however. My best friend, Rob, came to me about a month ago and told me that he had a plan to propose to his long-term girlfriend, Grace, of about seven years. The problem was that they live together and she is a very clean person. And he was afraid she might find the ring while cleaning before he was ready to propose. I offered to hide it for him at my house until he was ready and he handed it over. I hid it in the back of my sock drawer. And honestly, kind of forgot about it until last Monday when he asked for it back. He successfully proposed to Grace yesterday and she posted a picture of the two of them on her Instagram with the ring clearly visible. Literally five minutes after she posted, Laura rang me absolutely fuming. She told me she had found that ring three weeks ago. So why had I given it to Rob for Grace when I had clearly chosen it, especially for her? Was Grace mocking her with her post, just rubbing her nose into the fact that she had stolen her ring? I tried to talk her down and explained that I had just been keeping it safe for Rob and that I had never intended to propose to her with it, but that only made her more upset and she started screaming at me that I'd absolutely built up her hopes and just destroyed them. She hung up on me, then texted me that I had three months to propose to her with a better ring than Grace's or she's gonna break up with me. And at that point, you do kind of have to break up with her. At that point, she's demanding a proposal. You've been together a little over two years. You guys are not even out of college yet, it seems? Yeah, that's kind of break up worthy. You go, why do we even wait three months? We'll do it today. That's crazy. My flabbers are gassed at that point. So gassed it. Am I wrong for thinking this is a red flag? I know that she probably was really excited and I absolutely never meant to hurt her feelings with all of this, but the ring was never for her and she never should have known about it. We don't live together and I don't know what she was doing snooping in my drawers or when she had time to look in there or what she was looking for. More than that, I am 100% not ready for marriage. We've only been together for two years. We haven't lived together. We haven't even talked about marriage yet. I want to be living together for at least a year before we get engaged. What do I do? I totally understand why she'd be upset but I just feel like she's invaded my privacy by looking through my socks and that I'm being treated badly for something that was never meant as a snub towards her. This is the first big fight we've had and I'm not sure if I'm just seeing red flags because I'm hurt or if they're really there. Comment one, she's obviously really embarrassed at the fact that she told people, oof, you're right, and she probably even took a picture of the ring, by the way she's reacting at least, and showed it to friends of hers. Some girls dream of getting married and the thought of it excites them a lot and to then hear your boyfriend tell you he wasn't even thinking about proposing and that it's not on the table at all at the moment, probably hurt her pride and broke her heart a little bit. Giving the ultimatum was wrong on her part in every way and if she truly loves and cares about OP, she will see that her reaction was wrong and she'll apologize if she doesn't, then there's a problem. Women are usually ready for marriage sooner than men so maybe she thought they were getting to that point. So it may have felt like a slap in the face even though that wasn't the intention of OP. She'll come around, she's just upset about it and reacted irrationally in the heat of the moment. If you're confident about your feelings for one another, you will conquer this obstacle and have a better relationship because of it. Misunderstandings or fights aren't the end of the world. If they were, then no one would make it to 50 years of marriage. And then some people gotta say, well then maybe we weren't designed to make it to 50 years of marriage. Yeah, I gotta say, I don't think these two are designed for that. We're at two years of dating and then she's reacting like this. And also they're still in college. You're gonna find someone better. It just seems like really self-centered because once you find out, it's like, oh, that's like, yeah, you can be embarrassed and be like, oh man. But then to make it like a- You can talk to them about it. This is a conspiracy against me to make me look like a fool. Yeah, all I'm hearing is it's about me. It's about how I look. It's about what I want. Yeah. Another comment. You mentioned that this is the first time in the two years you've been together that she's blown up like this and acted this way. It's two years into the relationship and you two haven't had a talk yet about long-term plans. I have a strong feeling she's been wanting to progress the relationship forward and was hoping you'd pop the question soon. Yes, it's ridiculous that she didn't talk about this with you. There's a lot of things many women internalize about how a proposal should happen. And one of the awful things, in my opinion, is that it should be a surprise. And if you have to ask about it, it's pressuring and he doesn't really want to be with you. If this truly is the first time and it seems like this reaction was out of character for who you've known her to be, then have a sit-down conversation with her. It's time you both addressed expectations for timelines, like moving in, engagement, proposal, kids, et cetera, and where the relationship is heading. You both need to come to an agreement and get on the same page. I think in other stories, sure. A little bit of communication can go a long way. When she's threatening to break up unless you propose in three months, no. I do think... I don't even know if you should get anywhere. You know, like... I mean, have a talk. If you can sit down and have a face-to-face where she goes, hey, so that was pretty bad of me, right? I went a little crazy and I see that and I own that and let's just... Let's get... Let's reset. I mean, let's be on the same. And if she comes with any energy besides that, yeah, I don't know. It's very crazy. This is your first argument and it's an ultimatum and it's your first real big argument. It's an ultimatum and she is throwing the... I will break up with you no matter what over your head as one of the reasons or one of the, you know, this or that. Who's to say what she won't do in the future if, you know... Oh, if you don't treat me like this, I'm breaking up with you. If you don't give me this, breaking up with you. Yeah, I genuinely don't see a way forward unless she does exactly what Dakota said. She's gotta come correct. I don't know. I just send her one of those videos where you see people, like someone just throws a ring at the table when they're eating food at like Waffle House and she just puts it on like, all right, cool. Go back, it goes back to eating. Nice, let's get back to my... Yeah. My gold star breakfast. No, I don't think this relationship can continue. It seems like this is like a pretty big turning point in the wrong direction. So let's finish this story, see what direction it goes in. The commenter continues, also it's time to talk about how you two are approaching important conversations or not approaching them as it seems and communication as a whole in the relationship. She shouldn't have stuffed it until she exploded. You also should have communicated more about your timeline since you had one set in your head for moving in and that it was important to you and also address that her ultimatum in instead of talking to you isn't okay. You two have been in a two year serious relationship. This is the first major conflict it seems and both of you have expectations about how the relationship was to progress and timelines that were internalized and neither of you communicated about. As adults, it's time to talk through it and if you can't or either of you just wants to run from trying to talk it through and resolve things together, then you two aren't ready for a real adult relationship. And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go on to the next one. My girlfriend was jealous of my hobby and it ruined everything. Well, I just had a hobby being a real cool guy and she couldn't handle it. My girlfriend Tara and I have been dating for six months. I love her a lot and she is everything I could ever want in a significant other. However, she doesn't like the fact that I bake. I'm not talking about getting baked. I love making cakes, pastries, cookies and all sorts of desserts. By the way, this comes from David Silverfield and if you want to smake around stories, go to the R slash okay, story time, subreddit. I'm Sophia. I'm Dakota. I'm Keon. And we're here to give good advice, Koofleet, but we don't have all the answers. We only know what we do. So let us know what you would bake in the comments. Tara says she doesn't feel special when I'm baking. She thinks I bake because I love the activity rather than the reason being that I love her. So I guess she feels inferior to my love of baking, but I like to bake her things because I enjoy making her happy and because it's one of my favorite hobbies. She has been really distant lately. I'm afraid she will break up with me, but she's the only woman I've ever thought about marrying. What should I do? By the way, English is not my first language. Oh, okay. There's actually an edit. Even though most people said Tara was insecure and possibly crazy, other people brought up the fact that maybe she has an eating disorder and gets triggered by an excess of food or maybe she just wants to watch her wait and cannot resist my baked goods. But that's not what she said. She said she feels inferior to OP's love of baking. Yeah. Anyway, much loved you all for taking time to read all of this and share your thoughts with me. And there are some relevant comments. Jessica climbs. That all kinds of f-red flags. Hey, Suzy, why'd you break up with David? Oh, and you know, he bakes crap, dodge this woman, she has issues. OP says, this made me laugh, but thank you for the perspective. It reminds me of the line from Bojack Horseman. You know, it's funny when you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags. Deleted says she doesn't feel special when I bake. This girl is crazy. Seriously, don't put up with that crap. OP says my friends have said the same thing. And top comment, drunk or clunker says, Tara says she doesn't feel special, buh-buh-buh. She's got issues and they're hers to work out. You should both have hobbies that you love and having hobbies to love doesn't mean you love each other less. Obviously, she should not be the only thing you love in your life. That's a super unhealthy level of dependency. And I wonder if she's expecting that because that's where she's at. Update one month later, for those who didn't see the original post, it was basically about my girlfriend of six months who didn't like it when I baked because she said she didn't feel loved or special. So before I could confront Tara about what was bothering her about my baking, she told me via text that she was really busy with work and life stuff and wanted to take a break from our relationship for a bit. Whoa, it was confusing because although she just wanted to be platonic, she would give me mixed signals and we would wind up becoming intimate again like a couple, she sucks. However, this last break was different because I didn't really get to see her because of our conflicting schedules. So we didn't hang out or do anything together. And then about a week after she had asked to go on the break, she called me and told me that she had met someone. I knew it, she's cheating on you. She had already met that person. I think you're the side guy. She just switches off. She's like, okay, you're my boyfriend during this break and then I'll go back to that boyfriend and it's just whoever really works with my schedule at the moment. Final comments, Mr. McQuinn says, hey, I'm a guy but I'm down to play some video games and bake some cookies sometimes, just offering. OP says, I feel a bromance brewing. Winky face. Common one says, what an insane person. My SO can't have anything that makes them happy and means they won't spend all their time and attention focusing on me. That is totally her take on that though. Yeah, I mean, honestly, it's probably not even that. She probably just was seeing someone else and needed to look for the exit strategy and was just like, okay, I'll make it the most unreasonable thing possible. Yeah, I mean, that's very, very likely as well. My view of it is she, whenever she's busy, she leaves him and then whenever she's with him, she's like, oh, you have to give me all of your time because I'm with you. Otherwise, I just won't be with you. Only got room for one in this bucket. But common two says, takes a break and then a week later calls to say she's with someone else. I know this is obvious, but this girl was just looking for a way to break up and not feel guilty. Shame the hobby, Obie stands up for himself. She can storm off about respect or tone or some other reason. Common three says, what person dislikes a baker? Do you not want freshly made desserts? And, but that actually says desserts. So don't you want freshly made desserts? First of all, gingerbread men, don't really get along with the bakers. It's true, historically. You are not losing out on anything here. You were just with somebody who was playing your heart. Truly the first time someone says, I have to break up with you because I just don't have time. Can we just be friends? No, you maybe get like one of those. Maybe. You could maybe come back from one break where you say, I don't have time for a relationship. Well, I mean, like, you know, if it's the right, like, context or situation, it's like that doesn't even, it's not even super unreasonable. It's just like. But to do it multiple times. Her reasoning is cause it's like, oh yeah, I don't know, I just like, don't like that you, well, I guess we don't have the reasoning for the ones before. I don't know. She said, she just works overtime. She just works a lot in advertising. I think, I personally think there are certain situations where a person just can't be in a relationship because, oh, because they're working a lot, because they have family issues going on. Like there's a variety of issues. And maybe that break is reasonable for that one moment. But most times, especially with work, like that's gonna exist for a long time. So if you can't push through that, like work through that together, then is that relationship gonna work at all? Yeah, that's fair. I don't know. Comment four says, I had to go up and check the ages again, but dang, 10 years and older than her. And OP felt like this was marriage material. The best possible outcome is that he's an ice dude with a safe hobby whose biological clock is ticking and who wants to settle down. I think we all know what the worst case scenario would look like, unfortunately. Comment five says, okay, one thing I don't see answered. Was he baking while they were hanging out? Because I could see that being legitimately annoying. However, assuming this isn't the case, at face value, she sounds ridiculous. On the other hand, age gap, thinking marriage after six months of a rocky relationship. Tara doesn't like my baking, but I bake because I enjoy making her happy. Suspect they both dodged bullets. How old were they? I think you all are just at very different life stages, honestly. I think you, that comment was pretty accurate. I think that you are ready for marriage and she is still at the height of her very busy career, which still doesn't give her the right to go on a break every two seconds, but should be an indicator to you if you want to get married right now, but maybe you should find someone else. But that's the end of that story. Hey, it's Keelan, your residential nerd. We're going to get back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads from our sponsors. I told my date I wasn't ready to meet her kids, but she didn't listen. I hate your kids. I, male 40, have been seeing a woman, female 36, since July. She's fun to hang out with. I have a busy work schedule and she has two kids. So we usually get together when she's child free and I'm not working. She asked me to meet her kids in October, but I told her I wasn't ready yet. She asked again in November and I said maybe after the holidays. By the way, this comes from user inspector minimum 5518. And if you want to go, submit your own stories, go over to the r slash okay story time subreddit. I'm Dakota. I'm Sophia. I'm Keon. And we're here to give good advice goofily, but we don't have all the answers to life's questions. We only know what we know. So let us know what you know down in the comments. On Saturday, I was supposed to go over to her place at five PM when I arrived her kids were there. I introduced myself. I'm French, Canadian. And my name is common in both French and English. I always introduce myself by saying, hi, I'm Sebastian in the French way. But I tell people they can call me Sebastian or Seb if they like. The kids, 10 and 12 girls started laughing and said, Sebastian? What a stupid name. Stupid name. My guys, this stupid. They started making fun of my name. I said, it's actually French since I'm French, Canadian. And they started laughing even harder. Then their mom came in and said their dad was supposed to pick them up, but he had canceled. But that, it was okay. And we could have a nice family dinner. The kids again said, yeah, with Sebastian. Their mom smiled and said, they're just kids and laugh at silly things. I made an excuse and left within about 15 minutes. Now my girlfriend is mad saying I bailed on her and ran away as soon as I saw the kids like a pathetic coward. Was I an a-hole? Did I overreact to the kids behavior and her brushing it off? The whole thing has made me feel really uncomfortable. We've got some comments from Embarrassed Row 2025. And this is downvoted. Not your kids, but you do understand if their parents haven't been divorced long, they're probably out to sabotage any relationship, hoping they get back together. OP replies, they've been divorced for three years. Liberl says, in the end, it sounds like you're not ready for kids in your life. I would seriously recommend reconsidering your relationship status. OP replies, I'm not ready? If they were my kids, I would have told them to apologize immediately because it's disrespectful to make fun of other people's names and their language. I would have taught my kids manners. Sounds like you let kids walk all over you so you can hook up with their mom. Individual bat, 77.09, says, introducing you to the kids after four months is wild. OP says, she said she was a package deal and it's important to see if her kids like me. I wasn't feeling comfortable yet, so I suggested at least after the holiday season, no owl, eight, five, seven, six replies. So you were basically bullied by a 10 and 12 year old girl. If a guy can't handle a joke about your name and run out the door, yet probably wasn't the right one for my mom anyway, to be honest. OP says, you really think the solution was engaging and bullying back a bunch of kids? You absolute buffooned life. No, that wasn't the solution. That's, you're so close. He's like, oh, so I was supposed to ruthlessly bully them instead? I wasn't supposed to run and cry out of the house? No, the solution was you just kind of don't, like you're like, oh yeah, I know it is kind of a funny sounding name. That's what you would do. You should have just said a bunch more funny words in French. Yeah, make them laugh. Like, oh, Pellez vous forcez, I've got a silly voice. Oh, oui, oui, oui. Gommage. Mm-hmm. I mean, scrub. Yeah. Gotta gommage those mouths with some soap, slandering the French, Canadian. JJQQQ says, I've met plenty of French Canadians. Sharp tongues. The girls wouldn't have stood a chance, but after that, neither would your relationship. And OP probably is gonna get offended. French Canadians have sharp tongues. Why? Because we don't like to be made fun of. That's not even what the curvature was saying. So funny. And again. That's not even what the curvature was saying. I don't wanna hear anyone come after me being like, Dakota's saying bad stuff about French Canadians. Look at it. Look, there are lovely French Canadians. But man, you can slander America all day long. I'm not gonna be like, oh, blah, blah, blah. We're really easy to slander right now, so it's fine. But anyway, this commenter continues, no, we don't tolerate BS. That's for sure. Yeah. Oh boy. I don't know, that wasn't the right accent. And that's probably gonna make the French Canadians upset. Yeah. But there's an update. I wasn't planning to post an update, but here it is. Since yesterday, my now ex has spiraled. She sent me like 20 messages in the morning on Instagram saying, well, loser I am, that I'm a weak, pathetic, little cat man. And then I would be a terrible stepdad and that she was planning to have a baby with me. And that was news to me because we never talked about this. Then she deleted all of them. When I checked my phone after my work meeting, she had sent another 20 messages saying how she misses me. No girl, that we could get through this. No girl, that we belong to each other and asking me to call her. I did not answer these messages. She deleted those two and then sent another million messages swearing at me. She deleted those as well. She sent new messages and said I was harmful because I gave her the silent treatment. I messaged that I didn't know what was going on and that I was at work and saw all her messages and then checked my phone again and saw the opposite of her first texts. I said I wanted to give her time to calm down and then we could talk. She said not to bother in that she hates me and blocked me and then she unblocked me. Yeah, I think she's the a-hole here. As I said, I think OP is just a little snooty and can't take being bullied by 10 year olds. But you know, that doesn't make him an a-hole. Just makes him sensitive. Yeah, it sounds like this wasn't gonna work out regardless. No sir. But I think you need to learn how to navigate playground insults. Yeah, yeah. I mean, how fragile could you be? But you're not the a-hole. So you've got that. You're just a fragile, you're a fragile eagle that used to be a bird. A fragile eagle. They called it the fragile eagle. I learned this at the tar pits. Really? Yes. That's nice. And I made a joke that my girlfriend was the fragile eagle and she didn't like it. But she didn't like it in the way where she like smiled and laughed about it and then was like shut up. She went, not the fragile eagle. I don't know about it. Apparently, she also posted my image in a local, are we dating the same guy Facebook group to warn other women about me? Oh, she's super big a-hole. She said, don't mention how his funny French name sounds or he'll come up with a lame excuse and leave your house. He said, watch out for the silly French man because he can handle 12 year old insults My coworker is in that group and showed me. She said, I was emotionally harmful and terrible with kids. Well, one of those is true. At this point, I'm going to take a break from everything and focus on Christmas shopping for my nieces and nephews. Dating in your forties is something. And there are some top comments here. Lost in nothing box says, never ever get involved with single moms. Whoa. And that comment was downvoted by the way. Whoa. And that's, I feel like he's bringing his own trauma. OP says, my mom was a single mom. My dad passed away when I was four. And when she met my stepdad, who I call dad is a great guy. My mom always made sure we're nice and polite to him as he was going above and beyond for us. Numerous bet, 3575 replies, count yourself very lucky that she exposed her insanity before getting knocked up. Sure hope you were using birth control. And OP says, I was. And supposedly she was on pills. My coworker thinks within a few weeks, I'll get a message from her claiming she's pregnant. I really hope not. I honestly do not. I would not be surprised. Yeah. North reference 781 says, you should probably defend yourself unless you don't care about your reputation and your community. OP says, the thing is my coworker's in her 20s and we're not even close. It would look so weird. The young woman defending a 40 year old dude. 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