From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla | Coffeez

I heard this voice and it says like, dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine. And you want to take your own life? Like you helping so many other people, you cannot help yourself? And I'm not f***ing you right now. 30 seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend, comes into the room and says word for word. I'm like, are you kidding me? And she opened the blinds, you're done. You're coming out. Like, you're done. You're not sick. You're good. You've got to get out of the bed. Welcome to another episode of Coffees. Yarek, it's a pleasure having you. We've had some great discussions before the show. And, you know, what you've told me so far has been truly, truly inspirational. You know, coming from Poland to America, not knowing the English language, how did you come to, you know, this country and really break through into entrepreneurship so quickly? it's funny i i didn't like everything happened unconscious like you know on unconsciously because when i got here you know i started washing dishes and going through school and doing everything and i truly didn't know like my entire life i was always doing something on my own like selling bottles you know looking for like like little deals when i was in poland like you know always looking for something but i didn't know i have the skill and when i got when i moved here and if anybody's listening to this i want to know one conversation like even the conversation i have right now one sentence changed my life because i was selling my cars and i was like buying cars at the auctions so i was working full-time as a dishwasher then i was going to school to college and then i was buying and selling cars at the you know after the accident with the you know with the salvage title and selling them for like you know buying them cost me like around five grand selling them for six grand so on each car I make a thousand dollars so there was always a real estate bag in my head but it was just a real estate if I buy a home for five fifty thousand and sell it for sixty I make ten grand right instead of a thousand there was one conversation one sentence changed my entire life one sentence there was a family of my girlfriend at that time and they said yeah they have a four place they live in one of them and rent the other three and i'm like what say it again yeah we have a fourplex and those three people pay for our rent that's it i got home i told my my girlfriend hey by the way we're getting married next year we're moving to colorado because you know i was in school in upstate new york rochester if anybody knows what it is it's a hateful place it's miserable it's always raining over there and moved to Colorado, bought my first fourplex. You know, owner occupied. Then a few months later, I bought another fourplex, owner occupied. But the first one, I bought it. I have no idea what I'm doing. So I bought it with $50,000. I sold all my cars, borrowed money, and bought my first fourplex. The second fourplex, six months later, I bought owner occupied, and I only paid five grand. I took like 97% financing. That third one I bought using my X credit, and that's how it started. So those three fourplexes, then it turned to 16, 12, and 17 units, then 50 units, then 100 units, 200 units, 500 units, 1,000, 2,000, and it just took off. Wow. So you've just been buying multi-unit properties for decades. Yeah. But I remember I'm a long-term holder. I'm not a flipper. I'm a long-term holder. I buy and hold. The margins on those aren't much, though. You're only making after your mortgage and everything. But what happens is when you buy something and then you hold it, it pays off. Because what happens, the interest goes up, the interest goes up, and the rent goes up, and the equity grows. And then you just take the money free out, equity, without taxes, and you're just reinvesting, reinvesting. And then you have, if anybody's listening right now, have a good track record, then people will throw you money. There's so many people out there, they don't know what to do with money. You know, attorneys, doctors, people that are successful in their own businesses, they truly don't know how to turn money into more money. And, you know, if you have a track record and you know how to leverage money, I mean, the sky's the limit. Yeah. Wow. So what was that 21-year-old version of you? You weren't an entrepreneur. You were just an immigrant. I didn't even know the word, brother. You know what? I learned the word maybe when I was 40. I didn't even know what it means. I think everybody does. That's what you have to do. You have to just be good in business. I always treated my business like work. And I was. I was sedating with work. And everybody thinks sedating is a drug, alcohol. No. I was sitting with work because I worked like 20, 22 hours a day. Because that's the thing. I was good at something. Suddenly, like, you know, I was good at something, and I found completely like a high out of it until I completely, like, you know what? I have enough. I think I have enough. You know, I was waiting. 2008 came in. In 2008, I just bought a lot of properties, 10 cents on the dollar. I won lottery. So I won lottery when I moved to the United States getting a green card, and that one lottery with 2008 happened when Lehman Brothers out of business I just bought more and more and in 2010 it's like that's a second time I'm like I'm done I retired I don't do this again and then two kids three kids four kids I'm gonna be a dad I'm gonna be a dad that didn't pay out you know there was not enough like you know I'm I was built for more than that so I started doing Ironman when I started doing Ironman then I started dating with workouts but by rules of society you do wow you're doing something good because it's like wow yarek is successful yarek is doing this but the only thing i was escaping truly myself i didn't want to deal with the demons and all the not enough the voices the inner dialogue that i couldn't control so i need more and more and more to prove the whole world that i'm enough that i'm love and guess what it never happened and in 2020 when covet happened i got divorced and covet happens so So, of course, in the COVID, I knew about COVID that is going to happen in like in October because they asked me to move my money. So when COVID happened, I just went back to work. I started buying more real estate. And 2021, I completely crushed. Like I'm on the top, like on the top of the mountains. You know, I'm mentally strong. I'm emotionally strong. I found a connection with God. I don't drink. I don't sedate with drugs and alcohol. I found the love of my life. I built relationships. I'm physically fit, and I'm broken inside. You know, I got sick three days, six days. Suddenly I end up in my bed for 40 days, and it's time to go. The demon got me. You know, I almost got on my boat and did the less dive. But I don't wish anybody to go through the pain. what was the catalyst for you to have that spiritual awakening you know that when i was laying in bed and when i was going through there was a lot of wake-up calls were out of like niches like touching on me and and i i call it is the voice is that you know like i have like the good angel the bad angel but when I almost commit suicide I heard his voice and it says like dude you have absolutely everything you can imagine and you want to take your own life like you helping so many other people you cannot help yourself and I'm not shitting you right now 30 seconds later Jessica my girlfriend comes into the room and says word for word I'm like are you kidding me And she opened the blinds. You're done. You're coming out. Like, you're done. You're not sick. You're good. You've got to get out of the bed. And I'm like, I've got to share my journey. You know, my entire life, I was looking for validation from outside sources, you know, to get successes, to get the kudos, and I'm empty on the inside. And if I have it, none of the hardship happened, none of the death, not of the betrayal, not of the loss, not of the financial struggle. I have everything. And I go through depression and suicidal thoughts. What about people that truly, truly have reasons to go through it? Yeah, they have nothing. Exactly. And they're happy. So I started looking for the journey for the happiness and follow my voice. But it took me probably two years to recover from all this stuff. You know what I mean? I'm still, I'm still, you know what I'm telling? Then I'm like alcoholic, I'm workaholic, and now I'm a recovering depression-holic. So it's like, you know what I mean? Everything I've done, it was always to more and more and more. And I just realize now the more is less. You know, life, like if we could just get our life to be more simple, we'd be more happy. and the more we complicate the more that we desire things that we don't need to impress people that don't care about us that's really but you know what I, a lot of entrepreneurs because that was my bubble we are people pleasers yes we do this for ourselves but we just do it this is for employees, this is for the kids this is for wives we do everything for everybody we don't do it for ourselves can you imagine I'm a 53 years old man that I you know every single day I date myself I truly take myself on a date and it's my time how do you date yourself I'm curious for myself I truly like this is an hour nobody can interact I don't do the phone and I stay with my own tasks with myself I don't run the errands you work out I don't no no no I do that anyway that's what happens when you stillness and boredom for entrepreneur is the best shit ever but because we cannot. We think we can only work with chaos. Chaos is our friend. No, chaos is not our friend. We hate to be bored and we hate to be still. And this was the best idea, the best creative comes. And we feel uncomfortable. When I sit down first time, when you're successful, you have a lot of enemies, right? So I have a deal that went sour in the American Republic and I got under the guy got me on the red notice interpol notice so i'm flying to panama and you know when i when i landed there's like you know come with us i'm like for what i'm like do you have a business in the american republic i'm like yeah i do i just came back last week well there is a problem we have a red notice interpol red notice and i'm like okay i didn't do shit so they stopped me for the interview for 24 hours, which 24 hours end up 30 hours in prison, like not in prison, it's like an airport jail. Can you imagine being 50 years old, first time in my life, I was alone for 30 hours. The first two hours, I was pissed as hell. I could buy this passport, fuck those assholes, they don't know who the hell I am. And then I just spent the time with myself. When I got home, Jessica was like, how you doing and crying, all this stuff, my kids, dad, dad, dad. I'm like, this was the best time in my life. First time in my life, I was alone, without any devices, without anything. Just sit with myself, with my own thoughts. My whole life, when finally the meditations, everything came in, the prayers, and I finally connected with myself. We don't give ourselves a time. When we get bored, when we get sick, we always want to do something. Especially entrepreneurs. I'm not useful. I'm not, if I don't do anything, I'm not contributing to the society. Shut the fuck up. Sit with yourself. Listen. Be bored. Be still. Talk to you. Spend the time with your own thoughts. Find out who you truly are. Why are you doing all this stuff for? Because there's no amount of money that's going to make you enough. There's always somebody with a bigger yacht, with a bigger jet, with a bigger helicopter, with more houses, more businesses, with prettier wife. You know, it's stop. You truly got everything within you and just listen to the voice. Listen to who you truly, truly, who truly you are. What you're saying resonates so much with me because I am that guy who cannot sit by myself. Like, I just have to be stimulated all the time. You're sitting? 20 minutes now The only stillness I get is when I podcast Okay And i get to interview someone you know i i obviously have my phone for for the questions but like i don like i on the go you know i'm multiple businesses podcasts content this that the other four kids activities and they're all in multiple sports it's like running a million miles an hour but when i do get five minutes to sit with myself and reflect when like when i drive home i don't put music on like it's like therapy just to just be in silence and there's still just a million sounds in my brain you know but for an hour of just pure stillness and which is an incredible uh goal of for me that would be life-changing it doesn't have to start with an hour and get goosebumps it doesn't have to be an hour brother because what happened you know how to build new routines it can start with 10 minutes 10 minutes become 20 20 becomes 30 but it's uncomfortable telling grown-ass man to sit with yourself like what the hell's wrong with you and the thoughts are coming and and i'm telling you everything who the hell come up with this shit like i was when my coach first time sent me to the do you have like any any any any homes your favorite homes i'm like there's a beach home that I absolutely love it. He said, go there for three days and sit there without anything. What are you talking, three days? Like, dude, I cannot find five minutes. You know, the bullshit story we tell ourselves. Dude, you have no idea about my schedule. I don't have five minutes. He goes, that's the problem. That's the problem. What do you mean you don't have five minutes? You know, all the stuff that I created in my head is like, that's what I have to do. This, this is this this is this and guess what we cannot multitask if the men are listening to this we men cannot multitask it's over we cannot fucking walk and chew the gum because we buy the fucking tongue we cannot but guess what that's what we're doing so we don't do nothing we're not present with our kids we're not present that's why so many divorces we're not present with our kids we're not present with our wives and that's why we're not present with the employees we're not present with ourselves. We're not present with anybody. When you connect with yourself, brother, there's nothing better. It's like you overflowing. But what happens is our bucket is getting emptier and emptier. And you cannot satisfy with all this money. Oh, we're not our businesses. Oh, we're not our book, our title, our title. It cannot. It gets empty and you break like me. How do you feel, Kyle? I was having the same discussion. With someone at the dinner table two days ago, it's like, this Gen Z cannot work in customer service because they have nothing left in their cup. They're so stimulated by phones and all the things around them. By the time they go to interact with humans, they're just like, they don't know how. Well, you know what happiness is? We want the instant gratification. And what happiness is, when you want the instant gratification, you're scrolling the phone. That's the instant gratification. having a drink, getting a line of cocaine. You know, that dopamine level, it hits so much. The happiness when the dopamine level is for the next 20, 30, 50 years. That's what the happiness. But we are not patient. We want everything now. You want a car, let's buy a car. Well, you cannot afford it. Well, fucking let's get a credit. Let's buy a home. Let's buy a business. Like everything, and we overleverage ourselves financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Yeah, yeah, God, yeah, I got the time for this. Read the Bible. Yeah, I got the time for this. What about the kids? Yeah, you know, we're trying to rush it. Slower, brother is faster. Try to build a business when you slow down. It's next level. Try to build a relationship with the wife or with your partner or with the kids. When you take, when you slow down, it's amazing. But the problem, we got to find connection with ourselves. I could not connect with myself. I could not connect it with God, so I could not connect with the wives. And I'm not the guy that gives you marriage advices. I'm on third one. So I definitely have. I'm zero for three, brother. So I don't have a good track record. You know what I mean? Even my own kids stop talking to me for a year or two. So I'm not the guy to give you advices on that. I'm the work in progress. I'm the work in progress. We're all work in progress. Yeah. But your progress is further than mine, and your wisdom is much more profound than mine right now. So it's like I'm all in on listening to you and applying it. It's awareness and a consciousness level because we are energy and we got to raise it. You know what I mean? Having the awareness and understanding that we the energy and we have to connect with ourselves. It's everybody will benefit from you. Everybody. You guys will love to be around you. Everybody. How do you slow down? how do you slow down when you're fed so much from society and you have so and you're this high performer and you're big ceo and you got all this other stuff and everybody's like asking for this and the other and you got kids and this how do you slow down boundaries look at this shit the boundaries but if you don't have a boundaries with yourself because you never give a time to yourself how can you give a boundaries to somebody else we want to give give give there's nothing else to give boundaries. I didn't even know what it means. I didn't even know what it means. And the problem is I was never present. Everybody needs to have access to me. My phone's got to have access to me. This is like we are addicts. Show me any successful person, I can guarantee you he's an addict. I can guarantee you that. It's an addicted personality. That's why I don't drink anymore. That's why I don't do drugs anymore. Because I started drinking very late in my life. Very late. I already retired twice. And I knew if I go this way, it's not going to work. I mean, now I come to L.A. And, of course, I'm in L.A., so let's do podcast. Because this is my new mission. I know I'm an addict. Now I want to serve. I want to help 8 billion people to realize that the inner wealth that we create our outer world through the inner world. But we don't take care of ourselves. That's why so much toxicity, so much hate in this world, so much killing, so many wars. We are divided by the politics, by the religion, by men, women, by transgender, by color, by social status, by financial status. And I know today we just want to be loved and connect with other people. That's what we were born here for. But we're playing this comparison game. Social media is the biggest gift, brother. And guess what? We're just looking. We're scrolling. Like, I can look at, like, the algorithm, and I know who you're going to be three, five years from now. Like, I tell my kids, tell me what you read. Give me your routines. Tell me. Show me what you're looking at. Because social media is the biggest gift if you know how to use it. How would you recommend using it based on your own analytics? Well, mostly, I give you that. I will go back to the question. And it's a true story. And love you, brother. I know you're going to, you know what I'm talking, who I'm talking about. I have my amazing friend. He's my attorney, right? And he's in Colombia. Something through my feet came, a feat. It's like Colombia, we don't say papa, we say papacito. You know, cocaine, drugs, alcohol, blah, blah, blah. What goes to Colombia, stay in Colombia. And he moved to Colombia. And I saw the clip and I sent it to him. I said, Joe, it's like, oh, that's why you're in Colombia? Brother, for the next three days, my whole algorithm changed. I have only Colombia, I have cocaine, I have alcohol and all this stuff. But that's what we do to ourselves. We got to change the algorithm with us. What task process we put in. You know, what love we put in, what food we put in, what drink we put in, what the exercise we put in, what boundaries we put in, and the stillness, and how do we treat ourselves. You know, I'm a 53-year-old man that goes in the mirror every day like, I love you, motherfucker, I'm going to take care of you today. I neglect you for so many years, I will fucking take care of you. I will put good thoughts in you, lovable thoughts. I will talk to God, I will put faith in you, and it's just... You do that every day, just affirmation? Every single day. Every single day. We do. If you are full, everybody will benefit. Can you imagine, like, running on an empty tank in a car and you're on the highway? It's like it's a traffic and there's nothing. Like, fuck, fuck, fuck. How am I going to get there? I don't know how to get full. I don't. I don't know how to fill my cup. It's like, especially after you get a divorce and you're kind of, like, searching again for meaning. because I'm like you. It's like, here I am. It's like success, money, all that. We got that. Now here I am like building a brand, podcasting. It's like a totally different venture, not paying. It's like my contribution to society, trying to impact the world, yet you're still trying to fill your cup. Because see, what happened is, when you get to divorce, like when that happened to me, divorce happened six years ago, right? You have to understand, My definition of love It was my wife And my kids That was my definition And now suddenly I'm a 48 years old man And it was taken away It was taken away from me Anything I ever Put a vocabulary in love That's what it is That I need somebody to love And the little Yarek was fuck you asshole, what about me? Where are you going to take care of me? But it took me years after divorce, after all this stuff, to find out that I'm the most important. If you tell people selfish, it's a bad word. You know what? Maybe. But if you don't take care of yourself, you're not going to be able to take care of anybody else. Love is loving you. You are love. You are abundance. You don't need anything from the outside. Anything can be taken away. Not you. you know if there are bankruptcy you know there's bankruptcy there's you know uh you know a hardship anything's going on the kids the wife that you know you lose close one it's normal it's gonna happen but nobody can take away you you know the you contextualize it in a way that's so understandable it's like your wife can leave you your kids will leave at some point your business partner leaves your everybody moves on and it will happen but you don't move god will send you the obstacles to teach you a lesson god loves you and you you were you were you are you we are on this word on this world to serve we're not entitled to we already got our body we're already alive that's the biggest entitlement you can possibly get and we're not thankful for that You know that I started thanking my body after the ski accident when I ended up in the hospital six months, 13th surgery, almost lost my leg? I was always grateful. I never thanked my body. I never thanked my heart to beat. I never said thank you that I have hands, that I have a brain, that I can comprehend. Never said that. I have to go through tragic accident to like, holy shit, I'm alive. I have a leg. I have a hand. I have everything else. Was it the ski accident that created this transformation? Was that a catalyst? You know what? It was the first obstacle that I missed that got sent to me. It's time to wake up. Get out of the bubble, the reality, the delusion, the reality from the outside world. That was the first. But I did not get the message. so that was first was the skiing then then it was divorce then after divorce was losing my kids for a while that was like that that that was like how do you lose your kids for all they just decided not to call you or there's an issue i remember i have two older kids so what happened is you know they remember when i never played because remember i played the i was never present father so when i play the world well yeah yeah dad I want to do this this well you got everything you know so it's like well but I want to go to daddy father dance I'm like well I don't do that but all the fathers do well do they live like us no so you know I was like dad I want to talk to you and I was like I'm in the men cave I'm I just did hundred miles on the bike I don't have time for that my kids want me so they never have a message for me that always have a you know mom is to to raise you I here to protect you and make sure that you have everything provided So I did my work The kids language love is not a love it time But I never give them a time. So when divorce happened and mama had all the dialogue for 10, 15, 16 years, they were older, guess what? They listened to mom, they don't listen to dad. Who are you now? Are you going to own now, your father? Where you were for the last 16, 18, 12 years of my life. and I own it I deserve it because I was never present but I didn't know how to be present with them because I didn't know how to be present with myself there was always something so they listened to the dialogue that they've been listening I was always raising my kids on the back seat not even on the driver's seat on the back seat yeah yeah go to mom go to mom go to mom you know what I mean I just wrote the check we all you know mom is the primary caretaker there's not much we can do as as fathers no i have my kids now seven seven and and it's like you know what i i believe again that's that's that's what the society wants us to to to believe but what happened is we are the kid because what happened is we can spend time and be present with our kids and we never are because we're busy yeah you know that my dad i I was going, Natak, I love you, but I'm going to say it. A year ago, six months ago, I was driving with my oldest daughter. She got a job in Montauk. And I was driving to... Where's Montauk? Montauk, Long Island, right? Montauk. Okay. Right? And I'm like, let me drive with you so I can go, you know. I drive with you. I love it. So we and I, you know, spent, you know, father-daughter time. she told me a story that she learned how to ride a bike some kind of trick she remembered detail for detail that she came home she was waited waiting for me and and to show me the trick i got out of the car out of the garage i was on the phone brother i have no idea who the fuck i was on the phone i don't remember that shit at all i was on the phone and she was waiting to show me the trick finally she has to go back she has to go back to bed and go to bed and you know, it was a bad time. She never did. She still remembered that. I have no idea who I was on the phone with, who was my client, if I make money or not. But she took this experience 16 years later and lived with her. My dad never had time. Everybody was more important than me. I don't even know. I don't even remember that. but she does i i'm just teaching i'm preaching i'm telling like all the stuff i'm going on the stages i'm going to podcast six months ago i'm coming back i have a podcast with some i don't know i was in the in my group with dean dean and tony and and my son texts me uh that there's a graduation and everybody wants to write a letter you know for for him for graduations so that just you know make sure that you guys write the siblings rise you know the uncles and and everybody that know my son because of a middle school graduation when i got out of the the podcast it was like i have like 380 i remember that i have 300 text messages and there was like probably 20 for my kids but i just scroll through it about this message i'm driving from miami i was on the stage i'm driving to miami with my best friend my son calls me crying i can't believe it i can't believe it I'm like, what happened? And he's crying. Dad, today they were revealing the letters. Everybody got 10, 20 letters, 6 letters. I got one. I'm like, fuck. I start crying. Like, are you kidding me? Now I have to process this for a month. Because now imagine, he's not important. You know how many uncles he has? He's got 4 siblings. He got one letter. Just out of my house, he could get six. He got one. He trusted me. He sent me the text messages because he knew I'm going to send to my brothers. Just for my brotherhood, he would get like 100 letters. He got one. Because dad wasn't present. Dad scrolled through the text messages because he got another 270 text messages. And that's what we do. And I could hurt my son for the rest of his life. I was never important. I was never enough. My dad never cared. My dad never loved me. Dude, I was in the podcast. I got 380 text messages. I can give you a lot of excuses. He doesn't care about those. No. But that's what we do to ourselves. I'm getting goosebumps. That's what we do to ourselves, too. The loved ones are waking us up, but we don't listen. son, daughter, you don't get it. Like I have a, you know, my third wife goes like, I don't care about the money. I just want you. Yeah, because we have all the money. Shut up. Where am I going to learn the lesson? We want to do everything for everybody, nothing for ourselves. When we become priority, when we become present with ourselves, then suddenly even being at this, I'm present. I have a lot of deals going right now. I can beat my head somewhere else and be here. I'm like, when the fuck is this going to finish? it took me years to learn this too. I have a high, I'm on the highest spectrum of ADHD. Me sitting here is like a more than you can imagine. Yeah, me too. Yeah. Super high performers are always at the highest spectrum of ADHD. It's a gift. It's a gift. You know, matter of fact, I was talking to my son's teacher and I, and I, by design, I tried Yarek to go to everything now for my kids because I'm like, I don't care about money anymore. Like I'm going to go, I'm going to go to practices. I'm going to go to this. But do you go when you're on the phone? That's the problem. So you're not there. See, you're not going there. Like I'm still working longer. Can you imagine like you were doing this practice right now? I'll be on the phone. Can you imagine that? Or like going to the dinner and have the phone and be on the phone. I can tell you, you go to dinner with me and you're on the phone and we can make a hundred or billion dollar deal. I can guarantee you the deal is not done. we're done. I'm not doing deal with you. You disrespect me, if the phone is more important, I'm in. You disrespect the server, the boss boy, the anybody, we're done. And we do it, so I'm there. Another story. I met my girl, and my son went to the dentist and I told him that's a good one and I told him son after the dance we're gonna go rollerblading and we're gonna go for breakfast and I'm gonna take you to school we went rollerblading went for the breakfast I just met this girl right it was like five six years ago and and we've been dating like six months and she asked him a question Patrick so what do you like to do with your father i'm like oh fuck yeah watch this shit watch he's gonna say we're going to the you know all the lake i mean all the miami heat games you know we on the floor or the boxes we go to the hockey game to the dolphins game denver broncos game we fly you know our jet we're going skiing you know and the same day we're going skiing and and scuba diving like wow teller i mean i'm thinking in my head. You're not going to believe this shit. He goes, I like to watch TV with my dad. I'm like, yeah, tell her more. Tell her more. Tell her. Tell her all the stuff we do. The games. It's like, no, I like to watch TV with you, dad. I'm like, well, there must be something more. Ready? Yes, dad. I like to watch TV with you when you don't touch your phone. So I can stop the TV and ask you what you see and I can talk about the movie. brother, my teardrop. Like, what the fuck? What the fuck? Like, what do we do, brother? What the fuck do we do? We do this shit unconsciously, but we do it with ourselves too. It's a rude awakening for me, personally. and that's what your kids want. You know, it's like that undivided attention. That's it. Yeah. And mastering that is so hard, Yarek. What are you feeling now? Because I see your body's moving nuts right now. This is your podcast, I know, brother. I know. By the way, I make people cry on my podcast. Me too. You know, it's always emotional, but it's like I can just hear my son's voice saying that to me. It's like, Dad, get off your phone. My five-year-old telling me that. You know, like I could see him like at football. Like, did you see me pull the flag? I'm on the phone, but I saw him pull the flag. Give him a thumbs up. I could see the disappointment, you know. sex remember we're all guilty yeah the devil gives us bribes a little bit this this this and then we're just in it and we're in the game yeah and remember they're gonna raise the kids I'm a father of five listen consciously unconsciously my parents my teachers hurt me they didn't know they programmed me the way they were programmed by the pain by lack of knowledge by lack of wisdom lack of awareness i did the same thing and now i'm speaking to wake the people up that we have everything within us and we need to be present we got to connect with ourselves we got to connect with our kids so there is less suicides people are happier people don't look for the instant gratification you know i mean and and and because that's they gonna model exactly what you do you know like i read 12 books a week and what happened i was always reading the books on audiobooks so they can you know i mean my friend told me a few years ago it's like like dude you read so much like dude your kids read right and i'm like no and he goes He goes, you read so much. I'm like, oh, no, I don't read. I do audiobooks. Like, I don't have time for that. Like, I like the audiobooks. And he goes, so how does your kids know? Your kids think that you on the phone all the time doing business or scrolling or social media or something. I'm like, what the hell? I start reading. My kids start, like, start putting books, start, you know, going to my daughter at 13, went to like a you know Barnes and Noble's buying books I was like wow I did not tell him I don't eat sugar for two years don't eat sugar don't ask him it's bad for you but yet I'm eating sugar my son just lost like start cutting like you know 17 pounds just cutting sugar you cannot tell the kids don't watch TV you watch TV don't watch the you know mean the phone and then do you watch. They watch. Yeah. Dude, but I work. Look at the way you live. Shut the fuck up. Like, don't complain. They don't care about any of this shit. Seriously. They better be with me at the economy class in the last row of the season on my private jet. And it's, that's what I care. That's what I want. Tadla kids don't wait in line. They do now. I met my girl. We're flying to Poland. We're in the first class line. And I'm like, no, come here. This is a line. This is like $6,000 for the ticket to go to Europe. And he goes like, no, I'm back over there with the economy. I'm like, no, no. This is our line right here. I paid for it. This is like, this is the... And she goes, we still go to the same place we're still getting under one plane i'm like what the hell is wrong with you we're entitled to all this stuff so now with your kids like you're present no phone hi brother i'm still screwing this up we just talked before the podcast right it's like you you gotta do better one percent every day you will screw up. I just screw up a few months ago with the letter I screw up all the time But catching and like knowing and having the awareness I want to be present. I want to like I'm trying to do everything. I'm trying to make up the time that I lost. But the problem is we cannot change the past. We can only change the future. And actually the moment is now. I'm trying. But it's not in my subconscious mind to sit, be present, and talk to the kids. I have to learn this stuff. It's uncomfortable. I don't know how to ask questions even. How was your day? I don't even know that. I was never present. I have to learn. I have to read books. I have to listen to podcasts. I have to listen to social media of parenting. I'm learning. like we learn about stuff about business yeah you know what i mean this is what this is more important than business uh believe me when you i and i can guarantee you who anybody's listening to right now when you connect with yourself and you become present and you really figure out that your inner world truly truly in a few years create your outer world your business the abundance will come. You are love, you are abundant, and you got everything you need within you. Believe me, your outer world will change. You will get to the plane, you will get to another house, you will get to the beach house, the ski house, whatever you want, the European house, European, everything will get there. But take your time. Slower is better. We are on the journey, and the journey, there's no destination it's who would become on the journey that's how we have all the hardships you know for me was the ski trip for me i mean ski ski accident to me was the divorce first second third for me was the kids you know i mean financial struggles it was Because it's just the lessons. But it's nice to learn from those lessons. But we are programmed by our parents. We've got to reprogram ourselves. You know how nice it is to program yourself the way who you want to be? Not what your parents told you to be? I love my parents. My parents are still alive, they're 85, 82. They have no idea what they want to be to make them happy. They still don't know. They're going to die like that. we are the generational changers. We have the resources to figure out like how to improve. And program yourself from inside out. How, who do you truly want to be? And who you truly are. And it's not going to take a month or a year. It's a journey, brother. But you know, when I ask people, like who are you? The first thing, I'm an entrepreneur. I'm a father. you know i'm a boss i'm the husband i'm people give you all the titles what the identity who who truly you are like like like like i and and my question like who who is yadda it keep changing i keep evolving i keep finding who i am but you're not gonna hear me I'm the father, I'm an entrepreneur, I'm a, you know, business, real estate guru. I'm a little Polish guy trying to figure out life. I want to share with the world so they don't freaking stop killing themselves and go through depression or through the burnout. The burnout is a bullshit story. We're just chasing something that we never will chase. I've got a couple last questions. This one's about raising your kids. how are you because you know you came dead broke from poland and you built an empire real estate empire how are you instilling that same level of grit that mindset into your kids to really work hard to accomplish the same kind of lifestyle because they've been handed everything flying on private jets sitting on you know the floor seats of the miami how do you instill hustle into kids that are, you know, given, you know, a true silver spoon. I mean, a silver spoon is not even, it's an understatement. That's a good question, actually. And I've been asked the question a lot. And, you know, like, the question comes a lot around very wealthy families, a lot at the dinner tables when we sit down and talk. And the answer is one, we've got to teach them. They're not going to have the grit. They're not going to have the hunger. They're not. They don't need to. They need to have the emotional intelligence to be able to use all the resources that we have, we give it to them. And that's hard. Not the IQ, not the BQ, business intelligence, not the technology, the TQ, the EQ, the emotional intelligence. being able to use all the resources and all the knowledge that you're my parents, my grandparents, because there's so many families, I follow so many families, they're wealthy from generation to generation. That's what they do. That's what we got to implement. Bring the awareness. Yeah, like Trump was given, what, $100 million to start. But so what? But then he took it and took it to the next level yeah and then how his younger and his boys now yeah eric trump became a billionaire on his own started you know it is emotional intelligence being a great job teaching him being able exactly being able it's like what you cannot just not give it to them you gotta give it to them you spoil them but you gotta you gotta teach them how to use it and when you're not present you cannot do it you can use you can do it your kids will not start like my kids they're not not suddenly i'm going to start listening because the father said so a couple last questions this is a goal question what's a personal goal that you have for yourself a family goal that you have for your family and i don't even know if you have any business goals but We'll throw that in there too. My personal goal is reach 8 billion people in this world to help them to find themselves, find the purpose of fulfillment, and happy life, to get out of the devices and the algorithm for the instant gratification and quick dopamine hits. So reach people to enjoy the journey, not the destination, and the person they become on the journey. So that's my personal. I want to reach 8 billion people. Am I delusional? Maybe I am. But that's my goal. And it wakes me up every single morning. What is the goal for my family? Definitely deny them. Help them make sure that my kids truly know who they are. Not what the father wants them. Not what the mother wants them. when that's what the society wants them to do what they truly truly want and find a purpose of fulfillment in life and happiness for business i want to change my culture of my companies so in it's very hard in business be not transactional but just change the culture. Like my emphasis will be just whatever I'm teaching, I'm preaching, when I'm going on the stages, my books, it just change the culture of my company and be more present and spend more time with them. You know what I mean? Because they have access to me. One last question. When you're in front of the pearly gates, what do you think God's going to tell you? you did pretty good during your life you know it's you know what it's funny I talked about it two days ago to my friend I think that our life is preparing us for afterlife so you better go and surf and whatever you're going through hard or good go share it with some people because people need to hear your story and i think that's the biggest thing that i'm preparing for my afterlife but i'm gonna still live another 70 years brother i'm obsessed if it comes to my my health and you know what i put in and i sorry i'm completely obsessed with that so no we're all biohacking we're all cutting you know i'm huge on biohacking i'm huge on the soul hacking i want to figure out like more who truly truly i am and and the longevity it's huge but i'm also go deep in the spirituality my soul my spirit my heart my love faith with god faith with who we truly are that's that that's that's my goal no you look like you're gonna live another 70 years oh hell yeah watch me i have more energy right now being 53 than i was 16 or 20. i'm the i'm in the best shape and also the the most energetic i've ever been myself now i'm 44. yeah so i get it i'm telling you that global you know like this financially like globally financially we are connected the same thing with through all the wisdom education and technology and the biohacking. Now, there's a guy from India. We're all sharing the wisdom right now. We have access. We don't need a doctor. We don't need an attorney. We don't need anybody anymore. We can access it from everywhere else. So we can live better quality life. And I tell people, when you fix your inner world and you're freaking truly happy, suddenly you only see happiness outside. I'm telling you, your wife is hotter, you have a better sex, your partner, your kids are smarter. Because suddenly when you truly only have love and positivity and ecstasy in you, you only see the good stuff. Suddenly you don't see the bad stuff. So that would be my biggest goal. Yarek, this has been one of my favorite podcasts. Thank you, brother. lots of profound wisdom. You've been very, very inspirational, motivational, and it's a true testament that, you know, who cares about money? I mean, I know, like, fortunately, like, money came as a result or byproduct of our efforts, but it's our inner self that's, like, the most important, and you really inspired me to really reflect more, and, you know, despite the fact that there's anybody listening, like, just if you touch one soul, the show is worth it. I'm sure you're going touch a lot of souls thank you brother um god bless you i hope you hit all of your goals you know and and may there be more fruit in the relationship and growth with your children and all the people and i hope you know you touch eight ten twenty billion people because i know that you're gonna live another hundred years so you got a lot of time yeah we have time and it's funny whoever listens right now we do have a lot of time nothing has to happen now and and well I'm supposed to be a lot farther than this in life no you're supposed to be exactly where you are you know what I mean stop with the regret forgiving yourself is the biggest freaking gift and it's not easy to forgive yourself because I should have shut up we are here today exactly where we're supposed to be that's it people want to connect with you how do they find you find me on Instagram YouTube Instagram channel is the best one Tadla Yarek my first and my last and we're going to put a link and YouTube all my social media when you put my name you will find me Tadla Yarek and Yarek is J J-A-R-E-K thank you Tadla it's been a pleasure to have you on the show it's been an absolute blessing I'm inspired I'm pumped up God bless you thank you for jumping on coffees for closers make sure you connect with him guys this guy is going to change the world God bless thanks for tuning in