1464 - GIRL TALK: Sex Positions, Saggy Balls, Sexual Fantasies and More w/Layla Part 1

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We try to really break it down and give, we try to young women, old women, all women. And we answer all the questions that came in. Some of them are tame. Like how do you know if a woman's like down to fuck and do most women like to dress sexy and do women like shaved balls or not? Because they have shaved pussies. What positions do women like? How do women like to have sex? What's their imbibing? What's their favorite way? Stuff like that. I had so many questions that came in to my post about this that we have to do it in two parts. Okay. We're getting to the really hardcore stuff like about rimming and calm and all that shit. And we talk about it at the end in the part two, but this one's salacious too. We talk all about sex. You're going to find out like how women feel about guys, what they're into, what they see, that they like, what they see that they don't like, how they feel about balls and which are their favorite, all that kind of good stuff. I can't explain it all here now. People don't like when I give too much away in the intro. So if you want to know more about what we're talking about, go to the description. But anyway, you're going to learn a lot about women and how women feel about men and how they feel about sex and all that kind of good stuff. So I'm going to be get right to it and be right back on with Layla. Hey, Layla. Welcome to the Strictly Namaste Podcast. How are you today? I am fabulous. Thank you for having me back on. Yeah, Layla. With these questions. Layla from the curious girl diaries. Listen, I'm doing a girl talk episode where we're answering questions. I put a call out to the guys on my Patreon. I have like over 2,200 dudes over there. And I said, what are the questions you would most like answered by women? If you could get the most women to really answer you honestly, what would you really want to know? Now, a lot of some of these questions are hardcore. Some of them are not. I feel I need you on the call, but I wonder, are we the regular girl? I don't know. We have to speak like, oh, this is what I would think. But also maybe we answer like what we think that the average girl or majority of girls would feel about this as well. Right? Let's like always throw that in or take that into consideration because some of these questions I'm like, oh, I know I would like to do that and stuff. But I don't think most girls would. So take that into consideration if you feel like you're a little bit hardcore. I think you are different enough that we'll answer it differently. But let's also try to answer it like what most women would want to, but also give our opinion. And that's how it's going to roll. I'm going to just go down the list of questions. I'm going to start with the tamer ones first and then go down to the more specific, more hardcore, more niche questions. They're all things that I think every guy would want to know. We're going to answer them honestly. So the first one is a basic one. Like how do you know if a girl digs you? What are the signs she gives off? Now, what I would say for this one is listen, a girl could flirt. She might give you the eyes. There's two different types of women. I think some women like will really like flirt with you. But sometimes I feel like there's been times in my life where if I really actually like somebody, like I talk to them less. Like sometimes if the girl's talking to all your friends and she's not paying attention to you at all, that could sometimes be a sign. Don't dismiss that because sometimes if a girl is really smitten and I know I've done this in my past when I was young girl. Because you like the person, you're a little bit more shy. So maybe you're more comfortable talking to everybody else except them. So that's always in place. So like, how does a guy know if you like him? What do you think is that sign for you? Well, so I'm not the super aggressive type. So I like the guy to come after me. So I would be kind of more like maybe most women. I don't think they're the ones kind of hanging back. But I would, for me, it's the eye contact. I'll give them like a quick one to two second hold of an eye contact like where you look and it's like pause and then you kind of look away. For me, that's a telltale sign. And then also, but I think you can tell when I really like somebody with my butt. I think women, our bodies kind of give us away a little bit. We start sort of leaning in or turning towards you or we may touch you. So that's, those are kind of my like, because I'm the one that likes to hang back and pretend like I don't like you. But I have tells and that's the eye contact. And it's the body language. Yes, you're right. Like you're when you're talking, you're laughing, you'll put your hand on their arm or on their leg or something. I'm never going to do that to someone I'm not into. I don't cross those boundaries. But if I feel really comfortable and I'm into somebody, that's a definite tell. You know what I used to do too when I was younger? This is like, but it's kind of like a, like I would lean in at the bar and I would know for a fact that my boob was like going against his arm. And I would make sure I would do that, like little things like that. Like those things are not on accident. If a girl is rubbing her tits on your arm when she's whispering in your ear something regularly, like, she's doing that on purpose. Did you do that too? I used to do that. Totally. Yes, totally. That's what I'm saying. Like you lean in. It's kind of like, but then when you pull back at your leaning in and you're thinking like, you're thinking like a total slut in that second. And then when you pull back at him, like, oh, I'm just an innocent princess. Yeah. You're like doing it like as if you have no clue that your boob is resting on his shoulder while you're whispering in his ear. Like to me, that was like my passive aggressive way of trying to get him turned on and make a pass at me if I wasn't going to be aggressive. Right? Yes, absolutely. Yeah. So yeah, I think the eye contact is big. I think that somebody would give advice to a woman like, Hey, you want to let a guy know that you like him, give him the eyes like a longer second or two seconds look. And that's going to tell a guy like, Oh, you're interested, right? Yeah. And you do that. Okay. Next question. It's like this guy is saying that I've seen women write the following. If men could be women for one day, they would be appalled at how demeaning men are to women. Is that a common feeling among women? Like do women think that men are super demeaning to them? You want to take this one first? Tell me what you think. Yeah. Okay. No. That's just straight up as I can be about that. No, I don't actually, I don't feel that way at all. Actually, I feel like men are pretty fucking hot and there's still a lot of chivalry out there. And I don't know. I don't, I don't get that. I just don't get it. I would say as a woman walking around in New York City, one thing that I think that guys don't understand from the girls perspective is like the looks and the cat calling and stuff. When I was younger and re walking down and if I saw like a big group of guys down the street and I know that I had to walk up past them, I would immediately get uncomfortable. You know what I mean? Cause like, oh my God, they're going to say all this shit or what if they don't? Does that mean I'm ugly? There's just, it's so loaded and women deal with that kind of stuff on a daily basis. And I think that's maybe how some, where this kind of an attitude from women is coming from. There is a lot of cat calling. There is a lot of flirting from men that is unsolicited and that happens all the time. Like guys are not walking down the street and having girls go, oh, you're, look at that fucking cock and imagine you did. Every time you walked, I know guys think that that would be like a fairy tale land, but it gets uncomfortable because it's unsolicited and it's a lot. And I think that's where this kind of thing comes from. Cause you feel like a piece of meat. When like on a certain level though, I have to say as a woman, you want it and you like it, right? Because if you don't get it, you're like, oh, what's wrong with me? Oh, have I aged out? Do I look like shit? Am I having a bad hair day? I think, I think it's one of those things that it happens and maybe you get a little, I don't want to say numb to it, but you know, you just, you just kind of know it's just one of those things you deal with. And like you said, also if it, if you don't, if it starts going away, then you're like, oh shit, you don't, you don't want to. Yes, you'd love it. It's like a love hate relationship. It is. It is. Yeah. Okay, let's go. Next question. How do you know a girl is down to fuck? And I think that that's different than how do you know if a woman likes you, right? Like how do you know if a woman wants you to go home and take you home to bed? I'm going to let you go first on all of these. You go first. Oh, I'm, I'm, I'm straight up. I'll pretty much just tell you, but also my body language is going to give it away. Like I'm going to be leaning right into you, like pulling you close to me. I'm going to be looking in your eyes, just flirting, flirting like nobody's business. Yeah. No, but I'm probably just going to say, you want to fuck? I don't, I don't have any, I have no shame. If I wanted, I want it. Yeah, me too. But I have to say, I think that this is a hard one to tell with a girl because there could be mixed signals. Just because a girl invites you back to her house, that might be a tell for me, right? Come back to my place. And because I know that I want to jump in the sack with this guy, but you know, another girl might just be really digging your company and want that companionship and doesn't want the night to end because it's late in the bar and she fights you back, but it's not, that doesn't mean that she wants to hop on you. I think you always have to really make sure that whatever signal you're getting that you're thinking is the right one and that she is down to fuck. You know what I mean? If she starts taking her clothes off and she's making out with you and she's, it takes her hand and rubbing your cock to see how big it is. Cause that's always the move, right? Like when I'm making out with a guy, I go downtown to see what the heart, what the heart on feels like. That's your sitting on top of them. Yeah. Absolutely. What the heart on feels like. It's just the kind of stuff that is like, Oh yeah, I want to take this further. I think it's more than just cuddling or making out. I think it has to be a little bit more hardcore. And I think that you always have to err on the side of caution because sometimes a woman might give off the vibes. Like I said, and say, Hey, let's go back to my place, but it doesn't necessarily mean she's down to fuck. You got to make sure. So let her know that you're down to fuck and see if she is. Yeah. Right? I know. Yeah. You got to have, you have to have really good communication at this point, but it's interesting. I think that when you said, if you take somebody back to your house, you may not always be down to fuck. Yeah. I, that's, which is a hundred percent true. I found, I found that for me, that happened more when I was like in my twenties where I would, and, and that's, I think when you're actually for females, they're the most vulnerable. Now I'm older. It's like, I just don't even bring, I won't invite you back unless I am down to fuck. Yeah. 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And that's what it's all about. I'm not going to waste my time with companionship. Okay. When you're younger, 100%, like it could be just that a lot of the times, most of the time that girl is inviting you back to her house because she just wants, she doesn't want to stop the night. She might not be ready to fuck you if, you know, she thinks she wants to date you. She might be waiting. There's a lot of games girls have to play because of the slut words and stuff. So really, she could just be bringing you home to make the night last because she loves hanging out with you and she likes you, but it doesn't mean anything. And like you said, that's how younger girls roll. And that's where you have to be to really see. Yeah. How far you go with her on the couch and whether she says, Hey, let's go in my room when you have to really know, because it's not a definite yes, but a woman in her forties of a certain age, a single mom, she's bringing you home. She wants to fuck. And that's why I think a lot of guys, if they're looking just for a booty call, they do go, some of the younger guys go with older women because it's more clear and you don't have to worry about that. It's very clear. Yeah. It's very trans. It's more transactional. Yeah, totally. Okay. Understanding men are more visual than women. What is really sex and sexy for women visually? I'll go first with this one. I happen to be very visual as a woman. I like mirrors when I'm having sex. I like to see things. I like shit like that. So I think I'm very visual, but if it just comes to what do I see that I think visually is a turn on for a guy? I am very into mouths and lips. Like I could really, there's just a certain kind of mouth that I am not into. I call it the stamp. My friends always know I call it the stamp. It's like a certain kind of mouth that I am. Yeah, the stamp. It's like, it's just, it's, it's, and it's, if someone has it, their whole family has it. I'm just not into like thin lips and weird, I don't know, weird gums and a mouth. Like I'm just very into full lips and lips. And I, I will look at an ass. Like I like a nice ass. Like I'm an ass. Are you two? Yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. I like a nice ass. When, unfortunately in New York, when you walk around, most people don't have nice asses, you know, who has the best asses are gay men. Gay men have the best bodies. They work out so hardcore, right? Because they, the object of their attention as other guys and other, every guy is visual, so they have to have a good body because that's what men like, right? So they do squats. A lot of guys are all jacked up on top and have flat asses. I mean, but I like a nice ass. And a beefy guy, I like, I think a girl, what she likes visually is like whatever her type is, for me, it's like a beefy, big kind of dude, right? And those guys always have kind of like nice asses. What is, what do you like visually? Well, okay. I just love men's bodies. Like, I like gladiator type bodies. Like when you look at Roman statues, like those proportions, like a man that's, you know, low body fat and ripped and tall and gladiator and statuette. Yeah. Cause I do, I admire them. Like you name it. Let's just start with even just like his neck and his neck muscles and then the chest and the shoulders and I love a sexy back and the biceps. I did, I do love a nice body. I look, I definitely find myself like, because I'm looking at them like breeding stock when I'm just like, oh, that's, that's like what my pussy wants. Like that's right there. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I just, I don't know, like, honestly, like good breeders. So, but I, to me, that's like a guy with a really, like you like the whole package. Maybe that would be the, the right way to say it, like the whole package. Well, I don't, yeah, you can't be a ding bet. I really liked the, I do. I love the full package, but I, but I definitely, there's just masculine qualities, like big hands and there's just certain things about men that really just turned me on. I'm like, whoa. So visually hands, nice hand, like big hands. Big hands. Yeah. Big hands. I love guys that have really nice legs. I guess I'm like a Donna statue legs. That, that proportion, there's, there's a ratio. They call it. I don't know if it's a Fibonacci ratio or something. It's a golden ratio. You're like, well, listen, the girl, the girls have the guys go for girls ratio to there's a girl ratio too. That exists. Yeah. There is. There, no, and this is, this is just cave woman brain stuff. And you're looking at their proportions for breeding aspects. That's how I look at them. I'm like, oh, just that's sexy to me. But well, don't you think as women, I think it's important for men to know because I think that there are so many other things that Trump, what we see visually that decides who we, you know, wind up liking than not. Right. Whereas I think maybe with men, it is more visual and that is the most important thing first. I, I think that for women, like you even said, no, like you can't be a dink bat, like, I mean, it really is the whole package and there's so many more subtle things that women will go for over just the visual thing. Absolutely. Right. Absolutely. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. No, for sure. Um, I mean, what Trump's, what Trump's that is just somebody who actually pays attention to you and cares about your day and is interested in you. And it's about, I think the way that somebody, if somebody could be, let's say a seven and he makes you, the way he makes you feel is like a 10 and then you got the 10 visually and all that. And that makes you feel like a seven or eight. You're going to pick the seven every day. I do. I go with the seven every time. It's just about how they treat you more over the look stuff. But yeah, I think, listen, if you put in all my guys in a room, like none of them, it wouldn't, wouldn't it make sense. And it would be like, it would definitely be like, Oh, all these people were like at this time of my life. And then all these people were at that time of life. I feel like at different points in my life, what turned me on about a guy and what drew me in and not was, it was a vibe and it changes over time. When I was younger, it was an evolution. Yeah. When I was younger, it was an alpha guy. I loved alpha men. I wouldn't date an alpha guy if you paid me a million fucking dollars because I met very alpha. You guys would kill each other. Yeah. Those guys are though my buddies. I love being friends with those kind of guys. I have best friend guys like that, that I fucking love because I could be like, fuck you when they're like, fuck you. I could be like myself with them if they could hang, but I can't date them. Like I'll wind up in a garbage can. If you want to hang out with Kathy, you're going to, you have to be able to take her saying F you to your face at some point in your friendship. No, but that kind of guy makes me feel like a guy. Like I feel that way. There's a certain kind of guy though that is an alpha that makes me not want to act like that with him. And that's a just a more quiet, strong kind of guy. But I think that that evolves and changes. So I think for women, the point I'm making is that it, it's different for every woman, what they wind up liking in a guy. And it really depends on where they're at or what they're into or what their personality is, what's going to sort of float them. But it's a vibe and it's a type. Yes. I know. And it, but it evolved, but like you said, it evolves. So it's kind of, it's, it's kind of interesting. So when you think about that, like, what if you picked, what if you married the guy that you thought was absolutely right for you and you were 25 or in your 20s, that one guy that you just thought, Oh my God, he's the best. I'll never have better. And then like now you're probably so glad you didn't, you didn't go with that guy because he's totally wrong now that you know yourself better. Yeah, well, that is not why so many people get divorced. That's what happens because you do grow and change. I think it's very rare that you're going to be on the same path and in the same wavelength and in the same vibe as somebody from your 20s through your 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s. It happens for some people. And those are the lucky ones, but most people eventually sort of go their separate ways. And it's sad that we think that at that point it's considered a failure and we call it divorce and it's this most horrible thing. And it's like I said, it's seen as such this big failure. I just think it is people are being unrealistic. And most people are not going to be on the same page with the same person their whole life. And there are people that will. And like I said, those are the lucky ones, but most people aren't going to be that you grow and change. And 20, 30 years later, you're looking at your partner, you're like, who the fuck are you? I have nothing in common with you and people stay because of finances and because of kids and stuff, but like life's too short. And I think at that point, if maybe it's okay to part ways and then go and be with someone that's more like minded, I don't know. Yes. Yeah. No, there's nothing wrong with that. And that happens all the time. I never, I didn't get married when I was younger. So I don't have that problem. But yeah, if I would have wound up with the guys that I dated or I would have wound up divorced or killed to like DateLine episode murder. Seriously, I don't let up. Okay. Are there some women who don't have sexual fantasies? This guy says his wife says she doesn't have any, but I don't know if that's true and she just doesn't feel like sharing them. What do you think, Layla? I don't know. I think, I think, I think all women have some. I think she's probably very repressed about them and just probably thinks they're just could not think of admitting to it. I think she's just pretty far on the repression scale. Yeah. I think a lot of women are afraid. I think how could someone not have their own sexual fantasies? But I think, yeah, but I think a lot of times those kinds of things are so personal that it's really scary to put them on the table, especially if you didn't go into the relationship, like really being open about sex. Some relationships start out that way. They're very sexual. They're very open with each other. They tell each other everything that they're into. It's all about that in the beginning and those people tend to be more honest, right? But a lot of times that stuff isn't being discussed in the beginning of relationships. So then three years in, it's like comfortable for someone to be like, Oh, by the way, can you pee on me or, Hey, I really want to be tied up in a whip. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I think that so I think people keep it to themselves because it becomes uncomfortable and it's scary because the last thing you want is for someone to be like, Oh, gross and you're weird. And I think women, you use the word, they're a little bit more repressed, actually a lot more. So they're less likely to put those things on the table because what if you think they're like a slut or like what? And so I think that most people have sexual fantasies, but I think it's a they're afraid to put them on the table. Absolutely. Yeah. No, I agree. A hundred percent. I just think you heard people have, you've heard women say, or I've heard guys say, Oh, tell me, my wife is never masturbated. And I'm like, Oh, I don't know if I believe that. But at some point as a kid, you, you, this is a natural part of your sexual development. But I don't know. Maybe there are some women who don't. I had a friend that did it and she was like a model and she was like a 10 point 100 and you're like, Oh my God. My life. Yeah. That's what she said. And I believed her. And my friend, I remember my friend that I was playing, he was like, Oh my God, she must be so bad in bed. Just like that's somebody that's kind of like frigid and uptight. And I think you find some people that are like that. But I think that that's the, that's the minority. I think the majority of people aren't that far on the end of the spectrum. But I think if a woman says she never has masturbated, I think she's being honest. I think some women haven't. 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And I think the best way to get your woman to be more open about it is to just talk about it more with her and make her feel comfortable and start playing around with things. Or what I think nowadays is there are apps and there are books and there's probably a YouTube channel that has stuff that you could do together where it prompts you to answer questions and talk about it. And that's the kind of stuff that goes a long way. Yeah, absolutely. I think talking to talking to your partner kind of and then if you're going to help them explore, you got to be the one that leads them through it. If they're if they're shy, just they'll follow. But you have to be the leader. Don't expect them to lead you through their own sexual awakening. Their partner kind of has to do it. That's fine. Yeah. And I but I think that nowadays a lot of couples that come on my show that really the big thing that really changed the game and their relationship from going to vanilla to trying all kinds of different things is sharing podcast episodes about totally. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. It gets the conversation going. It does. It does. It absolutely does. Listen to it together and then you can kind of like see what each other get each other's read, see what the other person thinks about it. Yeah, totally. OK, this guy wants to know if women still wear sexy things or they're just comfortable with their granny panties. There's women that still wear sexy things and there's women that wear their granny panties. Like I think that it really depends and that's like talk about an evolution. You know, the young girl that was always wearing things sexy after three kids, maybe she's wearing granny panties because she's tired at the end of the day. I think it's it's it's not a oh, you either do it or you don't. What I'll say about this, the first thought that came to my mind when I saw this and you tell me if you roll like this too. I love dressing up in like hot sexy outfits for my guy and there's nothing worse than being with a guy that could care less about it. Because just like there's women that like like to dress sexy. There are guys that could care less if you dress sexy. They just want you naked. And then there's guys that love that they love lingerie. They love dressing up. They love that when I hate when I'm with a guy that could care less because I love it. But then he's like, oh, who care? Like take it off. It's not fun. You want to be with somebody that appreciates it. So you want your girl to dress sexy, give her so many compliments, devour her, let her know that that's what you fucking love. That is like a turn on. But if you don't care if she dresses sexy, then leave her alone because there's nothing worse to me than putting on the hot outfit and the guy like, oh, that's cute, whatever, because he just doesn't care. Some guys don't care. Now, yeah, that's for sure. There's nothing worse when you like, you're all excited. You, you, when you're buying this stuff, you're really thinking about your whether or not this is going to turn your partner on, you know, and you're looking at yourself and you're imagining how this is going to affect your partner. And so if you don't get a reaction, that there's, that's not the worst. It's one of the worst things that you can have happen. So yeah, no, I mean, every guy, every guy needs to know on a very basic level. You just need to say, oh, tell her how sexy she looks, appreciate the effort she put in, give her kudos, rewards, whatever. She should know that you appreciate what, you know, that she's taking the time to look hot for you. Right. But like I said, because my guy now that I flew around with could care less about my hot outfits and I'll still put them on. But and he'll be like, oh, yeah, it's fucking hot. But then two seconds later, like he doesn't really care, you know, whereas the guy, there's just some guys that really fucking care and some guys that don't. But I think if your woman is just comfortable wearing granny paintings and you, you are the type of guy that wants her to wear lingerie, that's what holidays are for. That's what birthdays are for. That's what Christmas presents are for or Hanukkah. Buy her the shit you want her to wear because I do think just look at Halloween. Okay. Just look out your window on October 31st or whatever day Halloween is and look at what girls are wearing. They are slutted up to the hundredth power because every girl likes to dress like a slut because Barbies dress like sluts. I loved Barbie clothes when I was younger. Barbie dressed like the biggest horse. She had like stripper heels. Short skirts. Yeah. It was like stripper clothes. I love that stuff. I think it's from Barbie. Okay. I don't care about that stupid movie. Girls love to dress up hot. So you want your girl out of granny panties, start buying her hot outfits and give it to her and get her out of her comfort zone because I think sometimes there's been times in my life where I never walked around my house and anything not hot. Even when I was like just rolling solo. I used to say, I know, I know, I know. I was just always feeling that way. And then after I had a kid, that's not the case. So you could get away from that part of yourself. And I think that if you need your partner needs to reel you back in and maybe you need to get that girl back into it or I would need a guy to be like, hey, dress up more. Like I'm more into dressing up sexy now again, because my kid's older and I'm getting back in touch with that part of myself. But a woman could lose that, but you have to bring that back. If you don't want your girl in granny panties, buy her whatever you want and just get start off with trying to get her to wear it every now and then for you. And then maybe she'll feel like she likes it. And then like I said, make sure you let her know you like you fucking love it. Because even if you're like, yeah, that's great, but you don't really care. Then she's going to know and it's not fun. Right. Yeah. You won't forget that again. Yeah, absolutely. But I think every girl has that little slutty part of her that she likes to dress up like slutty and stuff. So buy her things for gifts. Oh, for sure. Right. Yeah. No, for sure. OK. Yeah. When he takes the time to pick something out. Oh my gosh. I love it. Yeah. OK. So most men love a shaved or lasered pussy. But what do women think of a shaved or especially a lasered man? I like it. I don't want to feel. I can't stand the hairy balls and I'll because I'll go to the balls and I don't like the razor stubble because a lot of guys will be shaving down there and stuff. So I think laser that shit off just like a woman. When you laser it like I lasered my pussy like I love it. Like it's it's so much different than shaving and I don't care how clean you shave. It's the first second one hour later you have stubble. OK, it's annoying. So I say laser it off, especially the balls. I think they should be smooth. I think there's nothing worse than razor stubble on balls and they get it. Like I said, two hours later, you're going to have razor stubble. So laser it off just like women did. Yeah. Laser it off. And I feel like when I lasered myself off, I felt things more. You don't have that barrier when you're cleanly like exposed like that. It's like a different. So I think that that might be the same thing for your balls. Like laser that shit off. Right. That's how I feel. What do you think? I'm more just about the just about the fact that you did something with it. Like you you groomed it or you lasered it, whatever. If you're putting effort into it, that makes me happy. So you don't care if there's stubble. I don't like stubble. Well, so it won't be. Well, if you're if you're shaving it, I don't want the stubble. But some guys take a trimmer, right? And they get it really super low. So it's almost kind of it's so low. It's not stubbly, but it's kind of soft. Do you know what I'm talking about? Yeah, I can deal with that. Like I'm good with that. But if it's out of control, I just don't like it out of control long and bushy. I don't want pubes in my throat. So you're right. They don't have the laser. If they just have to shave it. No, it needs to be tended to as long as I know that you're putting some effort. Like if you show up and it's almost like I didn't wash my hair to go on a date with you. Oh, I don't care. Like I just have dirty hair. It's the same thing. You're not taking care of your pubes when, you know, your dick might be that close to my pussy. No. Yeah, or it's in your mouth. That's what I mean. Like I don't want the hair in my mouth. Yeah, take some pride in your grooming. I mean, so. But speaking of balls, no one asks this question, but I want to know about I'm just asking, do you like long saggy balls or like tight, high up balls? Well, they don't stay saggy. They get, they get high and tight. He's about ready to come. So when he's, that's not true. There's plenty of guys with long, saggy old man balls. And then there's guys with really tight, very perky balls. Like which one do you prefer? Okay. I don't have a preference. See, I really do. And my friends used to laugh at me. And that's why I bring this up only because like I used to, like I was obsessed with long, saggy old man balls because like I could feel them when the guy is fucking. I know. I love that feeling. I know. Like tight balls. They're not even a part of the scene, but when they're long and saggy, it's like a whole other thing going on. So I was always obsessed with that. It just added a feeling to sex that I really like. So I always preferred them long and saggy and people used to be so horrified. And that's where I'm like, this is why I need another girl on this girl talk episode. Cause probably most women would say, I like, I can't stand long saggy old man balls. I like them. I like them too. You just make it in. Care. Yes. No, I mean, no, I kicked somebody out of bed because his balls weren't long. Yeah. I mean, like, but I like the ones when they're saggy, but here's what happens. Have you ever take a look at those suckers when he's about ready to come? They are sucked up right up in him and they're not saggy anymore. I don't think so. I think the guys with the real long ones, they don't, they don't go up. Well, I don't know, but I do. I don't, I can get really excited when some balls are slapping me. That's what I mean. So all you guys with saggy balls, don't, don't worry. I think it adds something that a girl might not even realize. It's amazing. It's yeah, they're almost like a sex toy internet themselves. That's what I mean. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That's why I brought it up. Okay. Somebody wants to know, do women like their partners to dom them and be aggressive and be the dominant person over them? Well, yeah, I do. I sure do. Yeah. Don't most women, I think it like you're a switch. You're a switch. You could switch, but I think most women, it's that caveman thing. Throw me over your shoulder and throw me on the bed and do it. But it, it, that's just, I prefer, that's what I prefer. But that's what every girl prefers, right? It's cause that's like what we think of as manly, just like guys don't think it's good when I'm aggressive because it's not feminine. What we think aggressive in the bedroom is masculine and that's what we want. Right. We want to feel like we're with a dude that is pretty aggressive, right? Yes. And yes, they could take control, fuck the shit out of us. Just turn us into a little cum dumpster. I love it. Yes. I think that might be more down the line of our other questions about cum dust. I have a whole cut. So we come question section. I'll hold my thoughts. Yeah. Okay. This guy wants to know, do most women prefer to have sex with their partner straight or like in biding an alcohol or weed or whatever. For me, I'm going to answer that as a sober person, but I've fucked with everything. And I quit drinking because I was like a blackout drinker. So I never even knew what I was doing when I was drunk. And I think when you're drunk, it's like you're a little bit numbed out when you're drunk. So I like to me the least thick, like the, like alcohol would be the bottom of the list of like how I'd want to be straight is like, you know, really great. But I will say, and I don't do weed anymore, but you know, you smoke a little weed and holy fucking shit, like it is make sex so good. I think it's just because it was like, listen, it's it's a high, right? It's just heightening whatever you feel. So I would always date weed heads and I was never really into pot myself, but every now and then I would just smoke it just to fool around because it was like fun and it would make like that session, like the most erotic thing. Like he could just take his finger and rub it on the side of my body and I could have an orgasm, like you could get into shit like that when you're stones, right? It's really intense. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. I think so. Obviously I like it sober and but there's been times a few times actually, well, yeah, just a couple. One guy I met and we are specific goal was to do Molly and have sex. We both agreed. We both agreed. We wanted to have that experience and I'd never done anything like that. The only thing I'd ever done a couple of times I did mushrooms in my 20s and then pot a couple of times. So I have a very limited drug use and so, but I really wanted to try it because I wanted, like you said, everything to be heightened and sensitive and oh my gosh, it was, it was amazing. I couldn't have an orgasm, but everything felt ridiculously sensitive. But and then so off of that too, the same thing with like gummies, I can, that would make me super that I could have a crazy orgasms off of and everything was heightened and super sensitive and that was super. Yeah, that was just exciting. We'd gummies like THC gummies. Put the spotlight on your future at Royal Birmingham Conservatoire, the UK's number one for student satisfaction in the National Student Survey 2025. Whether you're interested in music or acting, RBC's stunning performance spaces and cutting edge technology are designed to help you shine on and off stage. 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But when, when you have the weed gummies, it's like everything is just it's crazy. It's, oh my God, everything, every little movement, every little stroke is phenomenal. Yeah. Via hemp. I'll put the link in my description. But anyway, okay. Do all women love doggie style? I'm going to go first. I hate doggie style, but especially when, because a lot of times my booty call guys for some reason, and I don't seek this out on purpose, but they always have big dicks and I don't like my cervix to be touched. And I think that I might have like a small vagina or something like this. So it does get touched if someone's too long and not, and too long is not eight inches. Okay. Too long to me is six or seven. I don't know. I don't know. I like with. So I don't like it, but what I love, my move always when I would go doggie style was always when I was with a guy that didn't have too big of a dick. And then I loved it. So that's for me, when I told the guy to fuck me doggie style is because he was a little bit smaller and I could feel it more that way. And I liked it, but sometimes I don't like it when a guy is too big. So it goes either way for me. What about for you? Well, I love it for both the, well, both the reasons that you said, I don't, I don't have a problem with it being too big because it, if it's smaller, number one, like you said, it, you do feel it. It feels really good on the guys that have just advertised dicks or a little bit smaller. I find doggie feels incredible. Yeah, for sure. I love it. Yeah. And then, but then I also like to have an A spot orgasm. So I need a lot of pressure and guys, dick has to put a lot of pressure on that point and it feels really good. And what the fuck is an A spot orgasm? I don't even know what you're talking about. That's from the, that's from the pressure on your cervix when he's like, when he's really in deep and he's hitting your, that's called an A spot. A spot. Yeah. Oh yeah. Cause listen, I have heard had women on that love their cervix to be banged out. Okay. Yeah. I don't know. I don't even like someone to put their finger inside my belly button, let alone touch my fucking cervix. It's so gross. But anyway, you talk about that because I'm cringing. You like it to be touched. Like you get an orgasm from it. Yeah. Well, it's, it's not, it's the pressure. It, it's just the pressure that it just, you feel when, when someone's just like putting all this pressure on there, it's like, it's kind of the same as when you're having your clip rubbed, it just, I don't know, it just does something. Feels really good. But yeah, some guys, they're not, not every guy can get there or do it. But when you get the right dick in there, oh my God. Yeah. And doggy is a great way to hit that. So, but would you say, cause we're forgetting to talk about like the average, like the most women would do, would you say that most women love doggy? I don't even know. I think they do. Yeah. I think they do. I think, I think another thing that's good about doggy is sometimes if you just need to, when I was younger and I didn't really kind of have good mastery over my orgasms, like if I could just get a doggy and not have to be looking at him, it was almost like I could zone out a little bit and really just kind of feel everything and then that would help get me to the orgasm rather than having him right on top of me. And I feel like, oh God, he's looking at me or the, like I need to come. There's pressure on me or whatever. This always, this always felt like, because you're not, the eye contact isn't there. I don't know. Like when you close your eyes, you feel things more. And I don't know. It's fine. I like, it's fine. Like about doggy. Yeah. You're less self-conscious. You're not like staring. That's why I always, I'm sorry. Like I think I'm just too self-conscious to like really love being on top. And I know so many women love that. Like I don't want, I don't know. I don't necessarily want to be like center of attention on top having to perform. I don't know why. Like it's just never my thing. But I know that so many women like it. I did a poll. This is going to be my poll. Yeah. This is going to be my poll question on Spotify and on Piedtion. Like what's your favorite sex position? Because I remember I ran it a while ago. And it was for women and men. And so many people loved reverse cowboy or whatever it is when you're on top, either turned away or on top. When I never liked being on top. And I think it was because I just get too much information when I'm looking at somebody. I don't know. So I just, I didn't never like that scene. But I think a lot of people do. You're the center of attention. You're right. You're like right there in front of them. You could, you really have full control of it inside of you. What it's hitting and everything. For some reason that was never my thing. Did you like that? You love that position. A lot, right? I think a lot of women do. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yes. Oh yeah. Because yeah, for a lot of reasons, it's the, yeah, then, then I am the center of attention, which I like. I can grind my clit on this pubic bone. I can also get his dick really deep inside me and get that, get that A spot. I can control the A spot pressure rather than him doing it and my cervix. And I can just get it right on there where it feels really good and get that just that direct pressure that I need. So it's, and there's something about, I don't know. When you're, I don't know if you noticed this, like when you're, it's almost like when you're hip bones, when you're on top and you're kind of stretching your legs out a little bit, it, I don't know, it's a feels better. I'm not sure. It just, just kind of different, but I like it. Yeah. I think most women do. That's where I'm like different. And, but I, I have a feeling that most women, that's the way they roll. I'm going to do some polls. And like I said, on my Patreon, on my Spotify. Okay. So listen, Layla, I have so many, I feel like we're like almost at an hour. And I have so many more questions. I have a whole section literally that is called, and I'm not going to tell you exactly what the questions are, but they're, the title is calm questions. A lot of guys wanted to know some really hardcore questions about calm, like women's calm and them and all these questions, as well as some more specific questions about guys and girls and stuff. So I feel like maybe we need to do those in a part two. What do you think? Cause I have, they're more hardcore. Like part two would be more. Oh, okay. It's definitely more about rimming and water sports and calm and like stuff like that. So maybe we'll leave that for a part two and we'll do answer all those questions in the part two. So this is the part one. I feel like this was interesting. And then you're going to have to call back in and we're going to answer the rest of these questions. Like I said, they get more hardcore guys want to know more dirty stuff. And we could, I guess we could leave that and more specific things. We could leave that for part two. You want to do that? That sounds great. I'm all about the dirty stuff. Oh my God. Yeah. And this is where it's hard because I feel like neither one of us is going to give the what like the regular woman answer. I don't know. I, and I think it's harder cause we're so much older. We're, and so what would somebody in their twenties, how would they answer these questions? It's hard. I, I sometimes look at these questions and I'm trying to answer them like from when I was 20 compared to 40. I would not have the answers for a lot of these questions. I'll be honest. If that, when I was 20. Oh, I would have. I was always talking about sex. I was always experimenting. I was more, I was even more hardcore, but I wasn't the average woman. But I think that women nowadays are more open and I think they would have answers to these, but these get a little bit more hardcore. Like I said, it's more about rimming and water sports and calm and masturbating and shit like that. And so we're going to leave these questions for part two. So stay tuned. I'll air part two like next week. We'll do that. Sounds great. All right. Thanks, Leila. Thanks so much for coming on. And then we're going to have to go through the rest of the questions and do a part two. Yeah. Thank you for having me on. Hi. In a world of noise and uncertainty, IG is the investment platform that backs you. Take a reflexable stocks, Iso, which gives you the freedom to withdraw funds anytime and replace them in the same tax year, all without losing your 20,000 pounds tax-free allowance. 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