Financial Coaching for Women: How To Budget, Manage Money, Pay Off Debt, Save Money, Paycheck Plans

Budgeting in a Hard Season: How to Stay Stable Without Extra Income | 578

22 min
Jun 12, 2026about 1 month ago
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Summary

Hosts Shayna and Vanessa coach guest Chantel through budgeting during a financially difficult season where she resigned from her job to care for her son's medical needs. They discuss managing variable income from side hustles, handling reimbursement-based expenses, and maintaining financial stability without relying on paycheck-ahead savings during hardship periods.

Insights
  • Storm mode budgeting prioritizes survival and bill payment over savings goals; paycheck-ahead strategies should be deferred until financial stability improves
  • Variable income earners should budget conservatively based on guaranteed income only, allowing side hustle earnings to fund savings buckets and emergency reserves
  • Reimbursement-based expenses (45+ day payment cycles) require separate funding accounts to avoid cash flow disruption and budget confusion
  • Seasonal income fluctuations benefit from rolling funds and month-to-month flexibility rather than rigid monthly budget allocations
  • Psychological anxiety about declining account balances during necessary spending requires reframing: account decreases during bill payment are normal and expected
Trends
Increasing adoption of multi-stream income models among caregivers managing medical/family obligations alongside financial responsibilitiesGrowing demand for flexible budgeting systems that accommodate variable income and non-traditional work arrangementsRising interest in government assistance programs and community support resources as primary financial stability tools for vulnerable populationsShift toward personalized financial coaching over one-size-fits-all debt reduction methodologies like Dave Ramsey's approachNormalization of entrepreneurship and side hustles as primary income strategy rather than supplementary earningsIncreased focus on mental health aspects of financial management, particularly anxiety and ADHD-related money management challenges
Topics
Variable Income BudgetingStorm Mode Financial ManagementPaycheck-Ahead Savings StrategyReimbursement-Based Expense TrackingSide Hustle Income IntegrationMedical Leave and Career TransitionsGovernment Assistance ProgramsSinking Funds and Rolling AccountsCostco and Bulk Purchase BudgetingSpousal Financial AlignmentDebt Negotiation and Payment PlansEmergency Fund ManagementSeasonal Income PlanningFood Insecurity SolutionsSpecial Needs Funding and Reimbursement
Companies
Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University
Referenced as foundational financial coaching methodology that hosts evolved from and improved upon for their own system
Costco
Discussed as bulk purchasing option for non-monthly items like toilet paper, coffee, and juice boxes with budgeting s...
Sam's Club
Mentioned as alternative bulk retailer for household supplies and groceries
Amazon
Referenced as bulk purchasing platform for non-monthly household items
Spotify
Platform where guest listens to podcast episodes during travel
People
Chantel
Single mother managing son's medical advocacy while building side businesses; shares budget challenges during financi...
Shayna
Co-host and financial coach trained by Dave Ramsey; provides budgeting guidance and tough love advice
Vanessa
Co-host and financial coach trained by Dave Ramsey; specializes in personalized budget systems and income planning
Dave Ramsey
Referenced as foundational influence and mentor figure for hosts' financial coaching methodology
Quotes
"I open my account today and I'm like, oh my god, it's $400 less. Like it just keeps going down and I just panic. What if my money just gets depleted and I have no money left?"
ChantelEarly in episode
"Make your budget match that and make it zero with that. I don't eat, that's the way it is."
ChantelMid-episode
"The first Christmas I've ever had where I did not have to touch. I didn't go over budget."
ChantelEnd of episode
"You're in a short season and that you're going to come out of this and you're going to put your head down. You're going to only have pay for right now, what you need to pay for."
ShaynaMid-episode
"If you can do it now, it's going to be so nice and so easy. That's like a hair commercial or something nice and easy, but in the future."
VanessaMid-episode
Full Transcript
I open my account today and I'm like, oh my god, it's $400 less. Like it just keeps going down and I just panic. What if my money just gets depleted and I have no money left? Make your budget match that and make it zero with that. I don't eat, that's the way it is. It's been phenomenal. The first Christmas I've ever had where I did not have to touch. I didn't go over budget. Do you make good money but have nothing to show for it? Are you tired of living paycheck to paycheck? Do you have big dreams for your financial future? Do you want to get debt free but you don't want to live on beans and rice? Or you don't want to give up those pumpkin spice lattes? If you don't already know how to budget or if you're using credit cards to get through the month. If you want to seem like you have your finances all together or you're not on the same page with your spouse when it comes to finances. We know what you're doing probably isn't working. But guess what? You're in the right place. We're Shayna and Vanessa. We're best friends, business partners and master financial coaches trained by Dave Ramsey. We've been in business since 2019 helping hundreds of amazing people like you create budgets, get out of debt, stop living paycheck to paycheck and know exactly what to do with their money. In this podcast we'll share with you everything we know plus everything we're working on with our clients so that you have the best chance at reaching your financial goals. We want to help you take the guesswork out of your budget, improve your marriages and even bring your kids in on the conversation. We can help you no matter where you're at whether you're the single mom who's never had $500 in her savings account or the millionaire who's paid off four real estate mortgages. And we're not going to shy away from the tough love. We'll tell you what you need to hear and encourage you at the same time. This is the Financial Coaching for Women podcast. Hey Chantel, thank you so much for coming on the Financial Coaching for Women show. We are so excited to have you to hopefully help you with whatever situation you got going on today. Hi guys, thank you so much for having me on the show. It is exciting and nerve-wracking to be here at the same time but... Oh no, you've been around for a while. When we look in our inbox we've seen you just being with us on this journey for a minute. Yeah, I joined I think it was late October or November actually. And yeah, it's been, I think I've listened to every podcast on Spotify, on all of my trips to wherever I have to go. And it's just been just really just refreshing and reassuring to have someone who understands my brain and how to do money the way that I would like it to be done. So I'm pretty excited to be on board. I've tried several systems. I was a Dave Ramsey girl, I feel guilty saying was. But I think your system is just, it makes everything so much easier for me. I was just going to say we also love Dave Ramsey. He's like our old grandpa. Yeah, it's like the grandpa we were seeing yesterday. Like sometimes he yells at you, sometimes he just loves you and loves you through whatever. So we don't know what's what we're going to get. But we doesn't matter. We love him too. And we don't have to feel guilty. We, and I think a lot of people take the basic principles of what he's saying and they build on it as they move on. So well, they evolve like you evolve, we've evolved. We've seen what our clients like where they don't like and we've just made our own. Yeah. Oh, we're so glad that it's working and it's making sense and then it's helpful. Yes. So tell us specifically, are you sitting over your budget and everything? Tell us specifically like what you got going on. What's your, what maybe if there's a specific question or some challenge that we can walk through with you and talk over. Just let us know. This budget system was, when I first saw it, I'm like, yeah, that's not for me because I'm not bougie in any way. But I felt, okay, I'm going to listen to something you said about your calling and your purpose. And I'm like, hold on a second. Okay. And as I listened, it really hit home a lot of the things you were saying, but in my situation, I don't consider myself bougie. I'm actually at this point of my life. I had to resign from my job and I'm, I would say I stayed home on, but I'm never home. So I'm just taking care of my son. What is that? But my job right now, full-time job is being an advocate for my son in a medical, marries his life. Income-wise, I don't have a nine to five job nor income. I would say hustle, but I am building things up. And when I was working the steps, I felt, what if my money just gets depleted and I have no money in an afternoon? Oh my gosh. I did get to that place where I think I had like the paycheck ahead thing, but that threw me off tremendously. And like right now I'm in a season where like next month we won't be, I won't be able to do any pick up any jobs. So I'm like, this paycheck planning thing and just like having a paycheck ahead, it's going to start shrinking. How am I going to manage that? And so I think my biggest question is, is how much of a paycheck ahead should I be paycheck ahead? Because I can see that with a reduce in my income next month, I'm going to be using money from that pot that I've seen. That makes sense. Okay. Do you have something to say? Okay. The couple things that come to mind. First of all, paycheck ahead is not necessarily the first goal, especially if you're in storm mode, which it sounds like we're looking over your budget here and you have a big medical something going on coming up here. And that, that is storm mode. So we really want to keep our head above water in storm mode. So that is a little bit, we can get it. We'll dive into that a little bit more. So don't focus on that. Focus on keeping everything paid, everything good, having money to feed people, all of that. And then also the good thing is, as you said, is you have a little bit, you had a little bit more income. So maybe if you don't use that all from January, you can pay yourself in February. And this is for everybody. Like when, when you have this side hustle, you can keep some of it back. You don't always have to spend it or put it towards something to keep some of it back for especially organizing this season might be one of your heavier seasons, but then nobody cares about organizing in July or whatever. There's, there is a balance to be had there when you're planning those, that income. I think that's a really good point. The roll over amount that you may have at the end of each month, you don't necessarily have to do anything with it. You can hold on to it and keep it because you are in storm mode. So you're trying to make things work. I will say the income we're looking at your budget, the income that you have coming in, I would try to make your budget as close to the guarantee like with your guaranteed income, make your budget match that and make it zero with that and not need any extra side hustle money. So that way when that money does come in, you can hoard it for times that you're going to need it, especially if you have some medical situations going on. And I see you have some debt here. I would call them, talk to them, have conversations, tell them what's going on and see if they can help you in any way because a lot of times they are willing to help as long as you make the first point of contact. Yeah. Yeah. Do you have questions on that? Cause I have something else, but I want, I want to make sure we get that settled. One of my dads, like I'm pretty much in legal mode with them. They were not willing to flex. It was pretty unfortunate, but so the amount's not being paid. So I just kind of whatever I would be paying based on the terms we're going to agree on. I've just been saving that amount and just putting it in a like a sync funds for whenever we do start making the payments. It's there. I don't think I can do anything less than that. But yeah, I think my anxiety is just like my count today. I'm like, oh my God, it's $400 less. Like it just keeps going down and I just panic. And I guess it's just like my ADHD, my anxiety. I don't know, but I do understand that like at the end of the month, it's not like I have zero this money there. But yeah, it's just that, I guess that anxiety, but yeah, handle it. Do you have business expenses in your budget? No, I didn't put any of that as you had just because I just started like my whole decluttering thing. And no, I didn't put, I didn't. Okay. I don't think I need much business expenses right now because I started that way ahead of time. I had supplies just in a big collection of stuff at the beginning. So I don't need to necessarily leave out stuff. Okay. So in general, back to what Vanessa was saying about your minimum budget. A lot of times we have people that don't aren't able to do their savings buckets with their regular budget. So in your case, your savings buckets would be fueled by your side hustle when you get the money. And then people use commissions bonus, like what are the things that are coming in to fund the savings bucket? So that, that might be something you look at in the future budgets once maybe the dust has settled. I have a question though, because you have not very much money listed for groceries. So there's something going on here with the budget and I would like to hear a little bit more. I don't eat. That's why it is. I just don't eat. It's not really an option. No, I'm in Canada and there are certain allowances that are made for people who are in my situation who are not working. There's access to food bags and stuff like that. I've been pretty good. Like in the last year when I gave up my job, I've always had the ability to just use what I have rice and beans. I'm totally fine with it. I can actually make it really good. I believe you. I cannot get creative. Yeah. I'm a hook you guys up, but we have like the food bags here are really good. You just register with one and I just get so much stuff apart from that just because of the season. I mean, I'm always helping people and people just rather than me show up with food. God for that. That's awesome. My steps like just now somebody just dropped off. Here's $40 to where's grocery. I'm grocery. Then I'm like, oh, great. So I don't necessarily always have to buy food and I just put it in there. God's got you covered. Yeah. The government's got you covered. So that's perfect. My fees are full and I'm good. So it's just my fresh stuff. That's why I do. Yeah. One thing I loved what you said, like the season that I'm in, I just want you to hang on to that and know that this is just a short season. And that you're going to get through this. We're going to, yep, I know it's hard. I was just actually just having this conversation with myself. You're in a short season and that you're, you're going to come out of this and you're going to put your head down. You're going to only have pay for right now, what you need to pay for. You're in that. It's not something that we love to talk about. We talk about being bougie on a budget, but let's be real. Sometimes that doesn't always happen. It doesn't work. It's not for you in this season right now. And that is okay. So you're going to make a budget only down to the nitty gritty. God's got your back and you're going to keep all your side hustle money to be able to put in these savings buckets for future use. Yeah. Okay. So put, like I said, what are you saying? So next month, if I do have, I did start do a quick overview of my February budget. I hit all the other tabs. So that might not show, but like in my February budget, I know I won't be working for one week. So I didn't include that, but you're saying if there's anything left over in that February month, then I can put that towards my future. I can put that towards my savings. Is that what you're saying? Yeah. Everything in your budget is covered. So yeah, that's what I was looking at was your February budget. So if everything is covered and you end up making more than what you put on here, don't make for expenses for yourself. If you don't need it, take that money and put it in a savings bucket for medical or for a rollover for net for March. If you don't anticipate making as much in March, we've got to take that money and make sure that it is specifically for a situation. Yeah. Another thing I want to say in reference to what Vanessa was talking about with this is being a season is there's one of our all of our favorite Bible verses with your faithful with the little you'll be faithful with much. And I think you guys, you obviously have gone from much and now you're in a little unfortunately because of the circumstances. But I always think because I have single mom will have single moms that come on or whatever. And I'm like, look at what you're doing. Like look how well you're doing with it's hard. Like you don't have you have to you really have to budget. You really have to be wise be discerning and do a really good job. So imagine and it will when your income goes up. It's going to be so nice. It's going to be so easy. If you can do it now, it's going to be so nice and so easy. That's like a hair commercial or something nice and easy, but in the future. So just understand the skills, the discipline, the, the tenacity that you have right now, it's going to pay off. I think it's already paying off people are blessing you and you're being a blessing as well. So I think that's great. It's time to enter your coaching era because making good money should feel like making good money. Yeah. Imagine six months of private coaching where we'll tell you exactly what to do. No guesswork, no confusion and absolutely no judgment. It's a done for you system that actually works. You don't know what to don't know. And that's not your fault. And that's why we're here. Financial coaching with us looks like two coaching sessions a month personalized recaps and after our support, you can text an email. So you're never stuck wondering what to do next together. We're going to build your budget, set up your system and tackle any challenges that come up along the way, which by the way, they always do. If what you're doing isn't working and you're tired of trying to figure it out on your own, sign up for financial coaching at budgetbesties.com forward slash coaching before all of our spots fill up and we will help you go further faster. Six months from now, you'll wish you started today. The other thing that you said is like my account is going down my accounts going down. It's supposed to like, yeah, it's not only going to just go up. They have to pay the bills like how do you make the money? But you have your little bit of emergency fund set aside. That's correct. You're doing what you can and you're paying the bills while you're on this slower income season and while so the situation is you're going to are you're staying home for the medical stuff. Is that is that sort of unknown? Like how long this has been? It's been three years and then I was on medical leave for this, but now it's it's I had to just resign because they wouldn't allow any further leave. So it's been a while and it will. This is the year that we're just hoping that we get the answers. But in the meantime, I'm not used to sitting down. I did start businesses. I did start writing and have income coming in from multiple streams and just to get the ball rolling so that when things do get better. Like I'm not at ground zero. I'm already moving and moving in those areas and maybe I'll go back to a night if I don't know, I just feel if you're able to do something at home and build something or be your own entrepreneur and have these side hustles and work around your son's your son schedule. Yeah, do that. Yeah, and I think that's where we were. We were we're on a fixed income basically great fixed income happy bless to have it. But then our business was able every inch that it grows the more that you know that we can do as a family the more we can save or whatever. And so that's where you're at. Yeah, we're unemployable. If you hear us long enough you'll hear that say that we're not employable. So yeah, and as I said, if you can continue to grow and do things on your own terms and you've proven that you can live on this budget. Now you do want to get maybe some more food budget in there eventually maybe maybe we'll see maybe just go you just you're on a strict fast most of the time. I don't know what's happening right now. But yeah, you're spending will want to go up once once you're able to just because it should. But yeah, I think you'll find like that comfortable budget where like, okay, yeah, now that we have a little bit more income or we have less medical whatever that looks like this is comfortable for us even if I made more I don't need it right now you know that this is very minimum and that you do need a little bit extra in some categories. But you'll find that budget that make that is that you're comfortable with and then from that point on is you start building your savings buckets. Okay, I know we're almost out of time I just want to ask a quick question about Costco. And so I anticipate there's some things that I need to get from Costco but I don't need them every month. Right. And so how do you handle items or like maybe dog food or whatever my son needs like juice boxes or whatever that we don't use all of them in one month. So how do you handle a budget like that where you don't have to go to Costco every month or every week I don't, but only when things run out. We have all the episode on Costco but you do you boo. It's the same concept as anything else. What do I spend at Costco in a year because yes you're correct. You don't fluctuate. What do I spend in a year. We have people who have specific Costco or Amazon or Sam's Club accounts. And they just put they take that amount divided by 12 and that's what goes into that account. So whenever they do go they have enough money to get all of those bulky things and spend that much money. Then other people will just put it in their monthly grocery budget and they'll try to rationale on a purpose. So I'm going to spend $200 only at Costco every time. So this month I get toilet paper and coffee the next month I get juice boxes and. Okay. So laundry and I specifically make it a set amount. So it's really whichever way you want to do it. Our take specifically personally is we just don't go to Costco. Vanessa, her mom buys her some stuff from Sam's if she's feeling a certain kind of way, but other than that we're abstained from that. But so the concept is if you spend $200 every other months at Costco, then you're, but you're still budgeting $100 a month for it. Because you want your goal is to make your budget as consistent as possible. But is that like a sinking, sinking fund or like in a savings bucket or is it I'm just putting it in there. I mean, you're saying I said we have some people that make checking accounts and they name it Costco and they know that this is what's going to go in there and I only spend out of Costco from here. We have some people that want to make it a savings bucket. It's really just depends on what your preferences. Okay. Yeah, it can be because you don't necessarily always want to have a bazillion checking accounts for debit cards. So really. So if you're not going there all the time, you can make it a savings bucket and then you would just transfer to your groceries when you go to check out. Or again, if you want to be consistent and that's where that's why I don't go to Costco myself is because I got a similar thing going on. But I realized I have to be able to buy this monthly. So I have to like on purpose by one shampoo, even if I don't feel like I need it. I have to buy one toothpaste, one whatever every month because that's how my brain work, right? But now everybody's brain works different, but either way you can use this separate checking or savings. It really like Vanessa always says, just as long as you do the same thing, like it works in your brain, it makes sense. Your brain and you consistently do that. Okay. So my son has again, there's like funding arranged for my son's special needs that comes from the government. And if we don't get it back until 45 days after we submit our receipts, I don't really know how to budget for his stuff. So all of his activities, his he plays the violin, his piano, whatever he does, really there's money set aside for that. But first I have to spend it. So what I did before I met you guys was I created a separate fund. It's kind of like a rolling fund and it has a certain amount of money. And then I would just buy what he needs or pay the fees. But I don't have to wait like 45 days to get it back. Is that okay or should I be putting his needs into my budget as well? It's one of those situations where you need to fund it first, like that account that you have. If you can, okay, every about every 45 days I spend $1,000, I'm just throwing a number out there. Then you need to fund it with at least $1,000 to know that your, that money is being spent and in 45 days that money is being returned and then that's rolling, right? So money's always coming in and money's always going out of that. But it's one of, it's like a reimbursement for when you have, but for work, right? Like you have to have the money to spend it first and then at the end of it, you get paid back from it. Yeah, we'll have people set up work expense accounts and because they do that and they want to keep it separate. They want to, when they spend the money, they want it to come out of the account when they finally get the reimburse. So it's the same thing there, which is a little, it's no small feat to free fund it with a thousand bucks. But just to get you started and then that, that can all just live over there. It does not have to go into your budget. You can have a separate budget for it if you really wanted, but you don't really need to as long if you're getting reimbursed for, and you're only buying the things that are reimbursable, then you're good. Okay. That's what I did. It was set up before you guys and I think that works. I was just worried that I should be putting it into my budget just so I could see it. It's not income. So it's not excess or overage. It's just tip for tie. So when you're making your budget, remember this income with this income in that column, I'm doing this with it. So if you're not getting income, does that make sense? You don't want to mix it as I had, I laid it the other day on making a budget and she had something in there twice, but because she was paying from her savings account. Like, yeah, but you have to document the income. If you're going to do that into the income section that it's coming from savings. Otherwise you're messing everything up. So just remember that. And like Shana said, you can make your own budget for that specific fund if you want to track it. Just like so that you know what all is happening, but also you don't have to. Yeah. Also, I still have to track it by doing the invoices for. You're already doing that. I don't like work. Nope. Nope. We already have enough work on our own. Thank you very much. We don't need to create more. I'm pretty good, but I think those are my questions. So really grateful for you guys. I, there's so many things, but you guys have answered my questions at four o'clock in the morning because that's when I actually, you don't wake up before, but that's when I write my questions and I'm just grateful that you guys can just respond and really just wait for all your health. It's been phenomenal. The first Christmas I've ever had where I did not have to touch. I didn't go over budget. It's so awesome. We're all golf clapping. Such a big field. We're all golfing. That's not because we're not excited, but so it doesn't ruin the microphone, but that is huge. Yeah. Vanessa said. Yeah. Yeah. And I want to just continue down with that in Canada. We don't have like your whatever cars you guys use and you can have 12,000 of them. We don't have that here. So that's been a challenge, but I have. I thought you said cars. I was like, well, no cars. No car. Like your bank cards. We don't have, we can have that here, but I have been able to get just, I just have five different banks. I work with. So much challenge is watch me. I will work around this girl. Yeah. Let's go. You're a figure out or yes. Love it. Yeah. Okay. This worked. All right, girl. Thank you so much for coming on. Thank you for sharing your budget. Thank you for sharing your story. We really appreciate it. And we hope we're glad that this information has helped. And yeah. 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