My advice to the villain is to figure out your purpose, figure out what you're here for. Go on a self-discovery journey of who you really are and why you are who you are. Like, why do you have that inside of you? Why do you feel that? It's probably part of your purpose. It's something you can help other people with because like you said, there's a whole bunch. There's a whole market for it. Oh, yeah. So I would say start with a self-discovery journey and really figure out like, who am I? People are making money off of fear, making money off of anger. it works. People are hustling. How do you navigate that energy and still be genuine to yourself and prosper through positivity and affirmation and love? I think it starts with... My name's Rudy Moore, host of Living the Red Life podcast, and I'm here to change the way you see your life in your earpiece every single week. If you're ready to start living the red life, ditch the blue pill, take the red pill, join me in Wonderland and change your life. Welcome to another episode of the Living Your Legacy podcast, the Women in Power edition. For Inside Success, I am Ray Gutierrez. Joining me today is Tessany Lair. Such a great, cool ass name. Luckily for all of us, she's running a coaching program. Yes. Welcome to the show. Thank you. I'm so excited to be here. You're vibrate full of energy. Something tells me that we just finished filming your episode for Women in Power. Yes. How do you feel? I feel so good. That was so much fun. Right on. I was worried about how, like, if I just had to sit there and speak and you're such a good, like, I'm going to forget stuff. We're going circles. But you're such a good, like, lead with that. Right on. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. Yeah. Yeah. Right on. You were you were such a great person in the chair to speak about yourself. What will we learn in your episode? Give us a preview. So we talk about how to manifest and remove money blocks and create just a magical life for yourself. and also just roadblocks and how to navigate them and how they actually are good for us to form us into who it is that we're here to be. Hell yeah. All right, let's talk about menacefesting first. A good menacefester is always a good storyteller. East Coast-born, Miami, West Coast-born. Talk about your fairytale life that I would tune in and watch every Friday night between Saved by the Bell, Full House, like I grew up watching television that was centered around your upbringing. Please tell us more. so i was uh born in ventura california uh it's like a little beach town in california and then my dad owned a restaurant in pasadena and he lived in west hollywood and i spent all my weekends there fuck yeah and i know like it's a cool story to talk about and i don't i don't realize how cool you really should be like west hollywood dude yeah i know i know grit and grime and my daughter actually moved there when she was like 16 or 17 she was like they were both born in Washington and my oldest dog was like, I'm going to LA. I need sunshine. I was like, I get it. Absolutely. Yeah. A lot of that energy that I discovered when I moved out to the West coast is something that is not very prevalent in Miami, at least in the eighties and nineties, it's very, very prevalent now, which is interesting to see that energy come from Austin, the Bay, LA, New York, even, even, uh, Eastern Europe. Like there's, there's all this crazy energy that's being manifested in Miami. It almost feels like it was actually me all this time in my room going, Miami needs to be cooler. And now we're technically in the future because it's 2025. Yeah, but they're still not flying cars yet. I think we're close. Folks hear this and go, ah, some West Coast foo-foo stuff. I'm like, dude, it's everywhere. It is everywhere. And it's really like, I think it sounds woo because it's like, oh, think positive and stuff's going to happen. But that's not all of it. You have to take action. You can't just go, I want a million dollars and expect it to show up on your doorstep. Boom, and it just fell on the doorstep. As I was going to play the rain shower, I knocked our backup mic. Did my screen crack? No. And it's 1122. Yay! That's a good omen. Magic. Magic. Carry on. So I think that's what people miss is they think, oh, it's just woo-woo because you can't just wish something there and have it show up. Sure. But it's not. It about having a positive outlook having clarity on what it is that you want understanding there will be roadblocks being able to navigate the roadblocks and then taking action You have to do your part and then the universe carries you over the finish line For sure It funny because you grew up in a very normal healthy upbringing but that doesn't mean that you still face some trauma. You were married to alcoholics, you faced some darkness, you stared the shadow right in the face and goes, ha, f you talk about talk about that okay in my earlier years i probably created most of my own trauma just through you know i'm an experiencer like i want to try everything i don't want to feel left out i'm kind of like um a trailblazer but even with bad things like i was like i just need to try it all my friends would be like we're worried about you and i'm like oh come on you know i just keep going but um it ended up working out for me in my adult life because i kept that same energy for positive. There's a lot of negative out there. That's very noisy, the frequency and folks are monetizing on it. It's product market fit. People are making money off of fear, making money off of anger. It works. Yeah, people are hustling. How do you navigate that energy and still be genuine to yourself and prosper through positivity and affirmation and love? Yeah, I mean, I think it starts with self love. Because when you love yourself, you don't, you don't worry about is someone judging me or somebody saying things about me? Or it's like, if I told you your eyes were purple, you'd be like, okay, psycho. Like it wouldn't affect you because you know he's wrong. Right. But when you're not sure about who you are and you think like, oh gosh, maybe my eyes are purple. Then you start to get self-conscious about, you know, so really like a strong self-understanding of who I am, why I'm here and just loving even like the not perfect parts of myself. Sure. For sure. You've coached and been mentored by some great, great folks. I kind of want you to name drop, but I also want you to make that correlation to your religion and how it all kind of like connects together. And you've essentially created your own holy trinity and sort of monetized it. Talk about that experience. So I was raised Christian with my mom, and there's some great teachings in that. I think that every religion is great for the person who's experiencing it. I think at the end of the day, it's all the same thing, just with different man-made stuff on top of it. But whatever feels good to you and makes you like in that place is the right thing for you. So as I journeyed out of the Christian church, I went to the Buddhist temple and I tried the Gnostic religion. So did Jesus. Yeah, right. I just tried all these different things and I was like, gosh, there's so much that I believe in each one. You walked around for 30 years going, okay. Right. I know. I just don't want any rules. That's what I can't do with organized religion is like, don't tell me what to do. Yeah. Lucifer and Henry were in the middle of the desert going, can you believe this shit? JC and Lucifer were like, bro. No, I can't do it. What am I doing now? You got to do this thing. Damn it. Again? Again. When will I ever learn? So that, I mean, that just kind of pushed me away from organized religion because I was like, don't tell me this is going to happen to me if I do this. Like, I don't do good with fear, you know? So after that, I started really reading the secret and understanding manifesting. And that led me into Tony Robbins, who has been like a huge inspiration for me for years. But he led me to Dan Martell, who's now my coach, who is like, he's just incredible. Like he took my mind to a totally different level. I thought I was a big dreamer. And then I met Dan and I'm like, whoa, there's so much more I could do. Yeah, I take moments of reflection where the last eight months I've seen and interviewed so many legacy makers, women in power, just so many energies, so many entrepreneurs and so many different levels of their journey where I'm like, I feel like I'm on my fifth ascension. So you hear it. And I'm just like, wow, I have like the fellowship of 300 entrepreneurs that have downloaded all this data. And to me, I go, okay, I guess I'm up to bat. What do you tell to someone like me that is a fresh soul that is onboarded onto your coaching program? Well, it depends on what you want to So I guess clarity and what it is that you want, because I have struggled with being like niche because I can help with so much. I've been through so much. I trained under so many amazing people uh other than Tony Robbins and Dan Martell in the spiritual world I trained with San Agustin and then I had Mami Anami is one of my people on Instagram that I work with And there's just all these really cool people that have taught me so much. So now I can help you with spirituality or manifesting or being a business owner. And I can help you with business and relationships. You know, I've been through hell in relationships and people come up to my husband and I all the time in public. and they're like, you two have the best energy. And it's like, we'll just be sitting there and just randomly a stranger will come over. But it's like, everyone deserves that. Like everyone deserves to have that kind of, he's my biggest supporter. Like I couldn't do what I do if I didn't have someone that believed in me like that. Yeah, I'm sure your neighbors are the luckiest folks on the planet just to have you guys, you guys are very vibrant. So I'm here to attest it, like homeboy's sitting right there. And it's just been great vibes the entire time. But I gotta attest to that, to the West Coast water. There's something magical about the West Coast of the country versus the East Coast, where you think of Miami, New York, you think of a lot of like anger. Like you think of like the Caribbean islands that have gone through hell and back and they're just immigrants. There's this energy in Miami that's been always angry. You can see it in our traffic. Yeah. What do you talk to folks like me that go, hmm, I'm more of an antagonist and you're more of a protagonist? Yeah. There isn't a lot of folks speaking to antagonists. If I want to be coached by you and I go, well, I want to create your program, but twist it for the antagonists. It's the same voice of the Holy Savior Christ, but it's told in a different light. What do you tell to someone like me and go, there's a whole market out there. How do we talk to them? Yeah. Coach me. Okay. So antagonists, more like you feel, will you just explain what you mean by that? Everyone always celebrates the supervillain. Okay. Okay. Okay. It's time to celebrate the supervillain because there's a reason why that MFR is pacing up and down the hall and staring out that window. What's that man thinking about? Yeah. OK. OK. So I think that I don't know. I still think everyone deserves to be happy. And I think you can be happy as an antagonist. Right. Absolutely. Yeah. Yeah. But happiness is a luxury where I come from. Yes. Remember, East Coast, West Coast. Yes. And I get that. But I even think like, I mean, the people I talk to mostly at this point are on the West Coast. And I mean, even we're just like walking through the airport and everyone looks upset and angry and they're fighting. Because they're creating it in their own. Yeah. And I think when you pull yourself outside of it, you just look around and go, is anyone even happy? Like, what is going on? And then when you ask me, what would make you happy? They're like, I don't know. I'm just not, you know. So I guess to go back to your question, I think it's deciding what you want. Yes. Getting clarity, which I keep like drilling. Like clarity is so important for all of this. but also i mean is the villain negative no okay okay it's not negative it's just a name yeah it's just a villain okay it's just energy yeah yeah okay because i just think it's just a dramatization we created it to tell a story okay okay but it's it's the story of the positive the negative going i want this way going that way yeah okay so then i guess my advice to the villain is to figure out your purpose, figure out what you're here for, go on a self discovery journey of who you really are and why you are who you are. Like, why do you have that inside of you? Why do you, why do you feel that it's probably part of your purpose? It's something you can help other people with, because like you said, there's a whole bunch, there's a whole market for it. So I would say, start with a self discovery journey and really figure out like, who am I? Sure. Talk about manifestation. Let's go right back to your source of power. And how can someone be aware that they are a wizard. You're a wizard, Harry. Like, like great power comes with great responsibility. Those cues that artists have left in movies and books and poems, those the, hey, wake up. Yes. What's your cue? What, what is a way for you to wake up someone that's watching this and go, wait a minute, I'm a lot like her. Yeah. Holy shit. She's right. Yeah. So look at the life that you're experiencing. It is a direct result of the words that you say, the thoughts that you have, the programming that And if there's something that you want to be different, that's what you change. You undo the programming You tell yourself a new story In fact my first coaching company was Rewrite with Tess because it was like rewrite your story And it was all about like how do we just tell a new story And I think when you start telling yourself a new story and create a new story, like that was just your last chapter. What's the next chapter? He just took it to the next level. He just built the theme park. He goes, I'm just going to let him build it. Yes, yes. yeah but i just think that you can whatever you want it to be you just have to change like the feeling behind it the feeling is huge because you can't say i'm happy like that's not gonna work what do you talk what do you say about the super eccentrics that took it to the next level like the michael jackson's of the world that built the fairyland that built it all even even was persecuted because he was just a little too eccentric yeah what do you talk about to those folks that are no longer here like the david bowie's the real stars like what do i think of them as far as manifesting As a matter of fact, yes, because they're essentially projects of the manifestation and they literally built it or created alter egos, depending on an album. Yes. Ziggy Stardust is not David Bowie. No. Yes. And I think that to them, it's like those are inspiration. Like that's how big manifesting can be. Oh, yeah. All of us have that inside of us. All of us can unlock that and create anything that we want to create. For sure. We just have to allow ourself to dream bigger, allow ourself to believe we deserve it. allow ourselves to love ourselves into that. And I just think they're a great inspiration for what's possible. Awesome. How can folks find you, discover you and learn more about you? So probably most of what I do is on Instagram, which is Tesney underscore Laher, L-A-Y-H-E-R. And also TesneyLayer.com. You can sign up for my coaching community. And if you're in Maple Valley, Washington, you can come into our crystal shop, Clear, Calm and Balanced. I love it. Just hang out at the crystal shop. Yes. It's such a great moment. Such a great morning with you. Is there anything else you'd like to add? I call it the sour sweet spot. So it's when you're like, I believe this is going to happen. You're putting everything in. You've reprogrammed like you're thinking and you're thinking more positive. And just like you think you're doing everything right. And then everything falls apart. Yep. And you're like, what? This doesn't work. Like everything's ruined. And so in the tarot deck, the tower comes before the star and the tower is representation of everything falling apart so that it can be put back together the way that you want it to be. So you're asking the universe to change your life, but you don't understand that you can't keep doing what you're doing in order to have the life that you want. You have to change like you have to be broken down and rebuilt. Your life has to be broken down and rebuilt. And so when the sour sweet spot hits, I tell people like they'll be like, everything's ruined. Everything's going bad. I'm like, is it sour sweet spot? You know what it is if you've been doing everything. And then right, you know, it's the right before the miracle. Don't give up five seconds before the miracle. The emotional intelligence to pivot to a situation like that is really want to know how long does it take now that sour spot? Is it five months, five days or even five years? So that's where I feel like the real math comes into play where it's like, can you sit still for five years and know that greatness is coming? Yeah, yeah. Because if you can sit still for five to seven years and know that it's coming, then you fucking deserve it. Yeah, you absolutely do. But I think if you want to go even like more weird, like time's an illusion, right? So, I mean, it takes however long you think it's going to take. The only thing that's similar to every single dimension, every single light source is just gravity. Yeah. The only thing that transpires through light through everything is just gravity. Yeah. That time is just an illusion. It's all compressed. Totally. Yeah. My ultimate theory is that we're actually dying. We're actually living the moments right before we die. But life moves so fast and it'll see the light that God created a brain to slow it down to a point where it's called life. But we had it. Exactly. That was it. That makes sense. And I just died. And I'm back. Here we are. I'm back. That was it. There it is. Yes. And with that concludes another episode of the Red Life podcast.
