Okay Vanessa, it's time for another Q&A session. Ready. And just so you guys know, budgetbetsuits.com forward slash ask, you can get your actual questions answered. So, we're gonna do this, it's like lightning round, style. Like there's no prep, we're just gonna see what we think we're gonna come up with. Do you make good money but have nothing to show for it? Are you tired of living paycheck to paycheck? Do you have big dreams for your financial future? Do you want to get debt free but you don't want to live on beans and rice? And you don't want to give up this pumpkin spice latte? If you don't already know how to budget or if you're using credit cards to get through the month. If you want to seem like you have your finances all together or you're not on the same page with yourself when it comes to finances. We know what you're doing probably isn't working but guess what, you're in the right place. We're Shayna. 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The first question on the price is not right is how do you decide whether to put extra money into savings, buckets or pay off debt? So again, remember we do nothing cookie cutter. So every single person's budget is different based on their goals, what they have going on, the season of life they're in and everything. So let's talk about your savings buckets really quick. Because this is you and this is your question and you have savings buckets. You're going to need to fund the immediate emergent savings buckets. Let's say it's about to be summer, okay, before this airs and you know you have summer coming with the church and summer camps and all this stuff maybe for the kid that's already pre-planned. Well you need to figure out how much is absolutely non-negotiable that you need to fund to be able to make that happen. You may not be able to fund all your savings buckets but you have to fund the immediate ones, the important ones that also goes along with annual bills. Annual bills, even though it's annual they're just as important as monthly bills. Still a bill, right? So you really need to look at your savings buckets and decide which ones are the most important before you decide what you're fully going to fund savings or debt. And I have more to say but I know Shane it is too so we'll go back and forth. The first step here is to see how much extra you have to do anything with in your whole budget life, right? Hey you may not have any extra to do either. Yeah. Well you may not but either way you want to see that number first. So once I've funded my regular life that is sort of non-negotiable, right, we all have different versions of budget so whatever that looks like for you, what does that look like? And then let's say you have $2,000 left over and it's showing you on your budget like I've paid my debts, I've paid my bills and I paid all my spending that I want to plan for. Okay so now I'm going to, like Vanessa said, I'm going to see what do I cost in a year that is again non-negotiable. What's coming up? What do I need to do with my, what do I want to do and need to do? Whatever version of that is for you. And then it takes a minute but you plan out your year, you plan out your savings and maybe your full life saved every month is only $1,500 a month. If you're setting aside between Christmas and vacation and annual bills and all of that is only $1,500 and you still have $500 then you know for sure you can put $500 toward debt, right? So that's a really easy scenario. It's not usually that simple, right? So some of you might decide I'm only doing the bare minimum savings buckets because I want to get out of debt. That is the most important thing to me. I know that if I can hold my breath for six more months I'm going to get all this money back in my budget and then I'll be able to do every saving bucket I ever wanted, right? And that's a decision you're going to make. We, you know, Vanessa had a client that decided the opposite. She didn't want to pay off that last debt. She wanted to fully fund her savings buckets to the max life, right? And that's what she decided. So it is like Vanessa said, it's not a cookie cutter decision but it does start with looking at the math and really planning your year because if you're not, if you don't do that then you can't say, okay, right now vacations are not as important to me once I see how much they cost as paying off debt. Or on the other hand, you might say that they are and paying off debt, it's just going to have to wait. But you need to know your numbers before you can make any of those decisions. Yeah. And you may have, you may be looking at your debt and saying, okay, when was the last time I renegotiated or even asked if I can have lower interest rates or lower payments? You can get our DIY debt relief workbook at budgetbestsees.com forward slash DIY debt relief. It has all the scripts and everything in there for you to look at if that's something that you want to tackle. At that point, maybe you reduce your payments, which we've had this happen, by $500 a month. Okay, now you have $500 back in your budget. Like Shana said, on top of maybe that $2,000 that you already had extra, so now you can do so much more with it. So you really just need to come at it at all angles and decide, okay, I say I have this extra money left over, but what could I really have if I just put a little bit of time and effort into trying to get my debt payments lower? Maybe you haven't recorded your auto insurance in a long time or your phone bill or your internet bill. And then like Shana said, reassess your savings buckets to go, what do I really want to make sure I fund right now? But then the other question like Shana said is, what is important to me? Do I even want to be paying off debt? Am I okay making minimum payments or do I want to be funding my savings buckets? So it just all depends on the season of life you're in, the situations that you're in, and what is truly important to you. Yeah, and so if you mean in this particular instance that you're getting extra money from like a bonus or a tax return or something like that, and what should I do with it? That's still a similar question. You're still going to put it in your budget and you're still going to see what's left over. But if you have a regular budget and you feel like I've kind of got this down, I've got the savings buckets that I want, I've got my spending figured out, I've got my bills paid, I'm a paycheck ahead, whatever, all of that and then you get some extra money. So then we're going to do the same thing. What is most important to me? Is it more important to me to get these payments out from underneath me to get more money back in my monthly budget so I'm willing to sacrifice a little bit more savings? Is this the one time if I use this money, I know we'll be able to go on vacation without using debt and I want to. Or I had a client that it was her son's senior trip that they wanted to take as a family to go to Glacier National Park and they split the bonus between paying off debt and they talk about a budget, they've spent $5,000 going like backpacking in a national park, which is expensive but not, right? But they split it, right? And they did a little bit of both because they were able to but the first priority for them was that vacation and then everything else that they could do with the money was great. It was bonus on top but they funded that first and you might have some savings buckets that have to get funded that way that are only coming from bonus checks, commissions, stuff like that. So then you just want to go down the list and see what do I want to fund and if there's anything left over then I'll put it towards debt if that's something I want to do. Yeah and remember if paying off debt is one of your goals then you will have more money in your budget once that debt is paid off or lowered at least, right? So I had a client who put like $28,000 on one credit card because they got that cash and that brought their payments down to pennies a month compared to what it was. So that starts the domino effect to them for them and their budget of having that extra, that snowball so that way they can start now paying off more debt because they're fine with their savings buckets right now. So you just got to see it as a whole. It's time to enter your coaching era because making good money should feel like making good money. Yeah imagine six months of private coaching where we'll tell you exactly what to do. No guesswork, no confusion and absolutely no judgment. It's a done for you system that actually works. You don't know what to don't know and that's not your fault and that's why we're here. Financial coaching with us looks like two coaching sessions a month, personalized recaps and after hour support you can text an email so you're never stuck wondering what to do next. Together we're going to build your budget, set up your system and tackle any challenges that come up along the way which by the way they always do. If what you're doing isn't working and you're tired of trying to figure it out on your own sign up for financial coaching at budgetbesties.com forward slash coaching before all of our spots fill up and we will help you go further faster. Six months from now you'll wish you started today. Okay Vanessa are you ready for the next question? Okay. Hey ladies I'm so glad I found you. We're glad you found us too girl. Yes girl. Welcome. Okay. My question is how do you know if it's a spending problem or an income problem? We only have about a thousand to two thousand dollars every year out of pocket medical deductibles debt. Our mortgage is 45% of our income. Whoopsies. Monthly is 6,800. We're going on kid number eight. Whoa. Whoa. They're going to have such fun Christmases. Yes. And it seems impossible to get any savings account or separate money for spending and other just life things. Any advice on how to get out of the paycheck to paycheck living? Okay. Well the first thing I'll say and probably the lie that people tell themselves is that I can't separate my money because there's nothing there. I can't separate my money because I don't know how because I don't see the money and I don't know how to get it separate. You're spending the money throughout the month anyways, right? So you're buying groceries and gas even if you don't go out to eat at all and that's all you have is gas and grocery money. You're still spending it. So for that I would say because you said it seems impossible to get any savings or separate my money. No. Absolutely. Open up that second account immediately put money in there to be able to make that happen for yourself because when you can see that separation and you know your bills are being covered and you have the money for spending. I'll say that is going to be because there's a couple of different questions in here but I want to hit that one first. I think that is really going to be helpful for you and your family especially a family of 10. I'm assuming where you have eight kids and husband and wife. So you need to be able to know what you can spend on your family and know that your bills are being covered. Yeah. My advice is to put your kids to work. Like you have so many of them, surely some of them can start working. Now I'm just kidding. I think this comes back to something that we've talked about before which is let's be realistic. If we have eight kids and I'm assuming which might not be correct. We have one income but that might not be correct. Our choice in life is a big family and that's our riches and maybe there's not a lot because that's their expensive just to feed them is expensive. You know what I mean? Maybe they need to grow their own food. That's what I'm going to put them to work. Science project. No I'm just kidding. She had a thousand dollar grocery budget with three kids and a husband and her love them all and they're like from Oklahoma. They're not, you know, they're going to eat. You know what I'm saying? They're not like eating on salads. Okay. Anyway, I was like girl that's a lot of money to feed a family of five. It's just not. And I think a lot of times we're stuck in this like it's me. I could change the numbers versus the reality of life is expensive. Right. And so that's the first thing I would say is let's be realistic with how much you're actually going to be able to save while you have eight kids in the house or going on eight kids in the house. Maybe the savings years are coming when some of them graduate or maybe the, maybe it's just not. It's, it's kind of the season that we're in. The other thing is you pointed it out. So you know that 45% of your income being going to a house. Now this is what I'm saying. We've chosen the richest and the luxury and the love of eight kids. They probably need a big mortgage, right? But that's the choice we're making rather than, or that's the bougie that we are being rather than some of the other things that maybe other people are saving for. We're just living with all of our money and we have this beautiful house and it's the most fun ever, this fun family of eight or 10. And that's your choice, but you have to be realistic with that. We can't, we're not going to have eight kids and half of our incomes going to a mortgage and like all of these savings buckets. Probably not going to happen for the most part. It could, but it may not be as realistic. Yeah. So the more I think about this, when you say, how do you know it's a spending problem or an income problem, you need to do, I don't know if you have our simplified budget system. If you don't have it, I would definitely say invest in it. It's going to be a game changer for you and your family as you're trying to set everything up. But you have to plan out your year and say, how much do we cost as a family on average for a year? Put that in your budget. If that is not working now and be conservative. Okay. So we say this, you, where you already know things are filling a little tight. When you make your savings buckets planner, be conservative and say, this is truly what we cost. This isn't like all the lavish vacations you want to take or lavish Christmas presents you want to buy or whatever. This is really truly. The kids can make all their Christmas presents. Yes. Everything. Okay. I've got all the ideas. All handmade. Yep. But you know, what, what are we costing in a year? Put it in your budget on a monthly basis. Remember, take those savings buckets divided by 12. You put it in there. If you can't afford your life on what your budget says, then it might be an income problem. Like Shayna said, you have a big house. You need a big house, but at the same time, you're not maybe going out to eat all the time and you were not going to Starbucks and buying fun things at Target where, you know, we have the house and the kids are playing there and that's fantastic. And that's where your money is being spent. But you really need to look at everything as a whole and decide, can you afford everything on paper? And the one other thing I'll say about your groceries and your spending, make their realistic budget. Like Shayna said, you, if you're trying to live off a family of eight and your grocery budgets, like $1,500, that's not going to cut it. So figure out how much you are spending and how much you absolutely need to spend in your spending column of your budget so you can feel good knowing that it's not a you problem. It might be an income problem. Yeah. And like Vanessa said, so if you don't have our budget, you should get it. But if you don't know, we have a free printable version that is like the bare bones of it, but it will get the first draft of the job done, which is at budgetbesties.com. You need to get all your numbers on paper, whether or not you, maybe you have, maybe you haven't. But what you need to look at is all of your bills. So you have a lot of knowledge already. You know how much of a deductibles are, you know how much remortgage is 45% of your income. So maybe you've already done this, but the bills, you need to see what can be discretionary about the bills, right? And then you need to, you do need to separate. Like Vanessa said, you're spending money. You have to spend money. You have to buy grass. You have to buy groceries. You have to buy, you know, spend money somehow. You need to see what that amount is and you need to separate it. And then you can, this will help you to start like streamlining what's really happening in there. And then once it's all on paper, obviously then you'll be able to see if you have any money to put towards savings buckets or not. But you need to be realistic. A lot of times we're doing this in our head. I just can't see it. I don't, I don't think we have this. I don't, and we need to put it on paper and really see. And then you'll know if it's an income problem or an expense problem or maybe we don't need all these subscriptions or you might just see like, look, it's tight and that's where it's at. Your income is only going to go up. That's the trend. The older you get, the income goes higher. So that's a good thing. And then eventually, like I said, those kids will start like marrying off and, you know, and bring you back presents of money and food to afford all the rest of it. Cause you know, it's only eight now. Look, I was at, okay, I'll just side-tand it here. I was at church. The family already has, they already have seven kids. Okay. So they have one girl and six boys. And then this person that had just come for Easter, she's like, she's pregnant again. It's like, yeah, she's been pregnant for a minute, but it's a, it's a, it's a girl. And so, but so they're going to have eight. What do you think the odds of that being the last one? I'll think it is. Maybe it's not for you either. So you know, whether or not they graduate or not, I don't know, but it's lovely. We just, again, we, we know that you're going to make more money. How much you spend is going to go up and down, but, but hopefully that will give you a little encouragement too. Well, and you're making the most amount of money you're ever going to make right now. You're made right now. And then next year it's, oh, you're, you're making the most you're ever make, you're ever going to make. And then you just keep going from there. It just keeps getting better. Like Shannon said, so your situation is going to get better. But again, I really think you just need to sit down and truly make a budget for the whole year on a monthly basis. Okay. Which means take your savings buckets divided by 12, put it in your monthly budget. See how much you truly cost. If you can't afford your life on a monthly basis, then something has to change. So hopefully those answered your questions guys. And if you have one, don't forget to go to budgetbestseats.com. Forge slash ask. And we look forward to answering your question on the next podcast. 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