We're Not Broken, We Were Never Taught How to Repair!

There's a moment many of us couples have, often quietly, where something finally clicks. And it's not in a blaming way, and it's not going to be dramatic, hopefully, but it's more of a relieving vibe, a revealing feeling. Oh, this explains us. We're not broken. We just never had the tools. And for many marriages, that realization, it doesn't come early. It comes after years of confusion, years of silence, years of trying harder without knowing how. Last week, we talked about repair, why peace alone isn't enough if connection is quietly fading. And today, we are going to go deeper because repair doesn't just mean having a conversation. It means understanding what broke and why it stayed broken. And from that, moving on to how to heal it without blaming, without minimizing or rewriting history. You know, sometimes you just pretend nothing happened. We swept it under the rug and we rewrite history. It's toxic. But this episode is going to open hearts. And for some families, it changes everything. Get ready for this conversation because it is one that you can't afford to miss. Let's go. Uh, no. Ooh, that's better, right, babe? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a $100 million clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. Now we're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles. As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids. and everything in between. Hello, my friend, and welcome back to Becoming Unshakeable, the Legacy Conversations bonus series, a special edition brought to you by the Entrepreneur Parent Podcast, a community of strong families building unshakable legacies. I'm your host, Ildiko Ferenczi. I've got my beautiful little girl coloring on the floor here, listening, my little apprentice. So listen, over the last few episodes, we've talked about peace, how to recognize it, how to protect it, and how repair keeps peace from turning into distance. Right? This is so important. This is definitely something we cannot glaze over in our marriage. But something became very clear in our community after those conversations. Many marriages aren't struggling because they don't love each other. That's simply not the case. They're struggling because they were never given a blueprint. Imagine, no map, no tools, no strategy. And today we're naming something important. You are not wrong for still feeling pain from five years ago, a couple years ago, 10 years ago, even 25 years ago, if you're that far into the beautiful journey of a holy covenant. Pain that was never repaired, it doesn't expire, my friends. It waits and it quietly erodes intimacy, closeness, connection. Now is not the time to dismiss it. It's a time to heal it properly. Here's the core truth. Let's start here. A marriage can be faithful and still fractured. And it's not always because of something like betrayal, something extreme like that, but because repair was never modeled. Many couples did exactly what they were taught as children through their life to stay quiet, move on, don't bring it up, keep the peace, right? Keep the peace. Let's just, let's not talk about it. But silence is not repair. Avoiding pain, it doesn't remove it. It just relocates it. Healthy repair doesn't reopen wounds to punish you. It's not the purpose of it. The purpose of revisiting those pains is to finally close them. So intimacy can return safely through the repair, through the work of repair. By putting in the work together, you owe it. You owe it to your marriage. You owe it to your legacy. It's time to break the chains. So why does the past still hurt? Relationship science is so clear on this. emotional pain that isn't repaired, it doesn't disappear. It becomes stored memory. Okay. Not, not as a story, but as a felt experience in the nervous system. And that's why a tone can trigger tears, just a simple tone. A raised voice can shut someone down, can remind someone of that exact experience that they had five years ago, 10 years ago, a few years ago, a few weeks ago. Distance sometimes can feel safer than closeness for some people or quite the opposite. Now, this isn't holding a grudge. It's unresolved attachment injury. Many women don't bring up old pain to attack. I know that it feels that way. Our gentlemen in the community express that it feels like an attack and she just brings it up because she wants to fight. But that's simply not true. Something, perhaps a dream even, perhaps something that they saw online in a movie when they were going about their day with the children, the way someone spoke to something, the way someone spoke to someone in Target or the store, wherever they were in the hair salon. Something triggered something, a memory, a feeling from the past. Please understand that she's not attacking you, that she's not just bringing up this pain from the past to attack. It's simply not that, darling friends. It's not that. They bring it up because it was never healed. We bring it up because it was never healed. Repair isn't about reliving the past. It's painful for us women too, or men, if you've experienced something. Okay, it's reliving that pain. And it's finally, repair is finally, it's finally about giving the care that it never received in the first place because it was too uncomfortable. So we went to bed and we didn't talk about it, right? What does the Bible say, my dear friends? What does it say? Right? You're supposed to resolve it as soon as possible. Don't go to sleep angry. And then chances are, especially if you have children, your children come in the room and you were never able to resolve that hurt. Or perhaps it's even a hurt from before you had children. We have examples of that in our marriage. We do. We do. There's some past pains. Absolutely. And it doesn't make me bad. It doesn't mean I'm trying to attack or vice versa, the husbands that have gone through stuff. So listen, I want to share something that changed how I understand this. Not just as a wife, but now as a mother. My daughter has the biggest, most beautiful heart. She's so passionate. And she doesn't forget a thing. My husband and I look at each other sometimes and we smile. Not because it's funny, but because she reminds us of the women, the mothers in our community. She remembers how a room felt. She remembers the words, the smells. She remembers who showed up and who didn't as a little baby, as a little girl. She remembers when something important happened and the family wasn't together and it hurts her little heart or something that was said to her mother by someone. And if her mother was hurt or a family member, her brother, it hurts her heart too. And some of those moments still hurt her today. And it's not because she's holding grudges, but because they were never repaired properly. Right? So that's why we put in the work to try to fix those things. And perhaps, even though we put in the work, we had the talk, it could bubble up. Something can remind her of it. And it brings her right back to the pain that happened. the memory, right? And I saw this in my son as well. There was a moment last year, actually, that I was invited to this big event and it was a party for girls, girls only, moms and their daughters. And I remember feeling this weight because in our family, when we do something, we do it together. Nobody gets left out because that's just the way we roll in this family. Business, pleasure, whatever it is, we roll together as a family. And I remember asking if I could bring my son. And they said, well, I don't think he's going to want to come. It's a girls only event. This is for us, for us women. So I went with my daughter and I remember my daughter was, oh, I wish Daniel could be here. I wish Daniel could be there. Well, we went into the party and there was just a small handful of boys there. And my heart dropped into my stomach and my daughter started crying. See, we should have just brought Daniel. And later he found out there were boys there. And that hurt stayed with him. It truly hurt him to find out he felt betrayed. And I swear, I asked, I made sure this is, as I said, this is something our family does. And I made, I crossed all my T's. I dotted my I's. I made sure that, are you sure he can't come? So after I had to sit with him, talk it through and repair it and just truly explain, I really did not expect that. And when I saw it, my heart dropped too, because I knew that you were going to be sad and hurt and feel betrayed. And I really did make sure that it was a girls only event. I did ask, here's the emails, here's the messages. I did ask. I didn't just move through without asking. So that helped bring repair into his heart. Because listen unresolved pain doesn disappear in children either It shapes how they feel safe And suddenly it clicked This isn about just women or about men or children This is about human hearts When hurt isn't repaired, it stays alive. It's not drama, trying to pick a fight, attack, but it's a memory, a core memory, right? It's our protection acting up. Hey, hey, this hurt when this happened. It broke my heart. It broke my heart. And it may not feel like a big thing for me. I didn't mean to do that thing, but it broke his little heart or broke my little girl's heart when the family wasn't together for special occasion. Okay. And it's going to be something that comes up. So if there's an offense or something that feels like an offense for a husband's or a wife's, or if there was, God forbid, betrayal, some communication through our phones, looking at something on our screens that we shouldn't, we knew we shouldn't have been looking at it or doing it or talking or whatever it is, but we did it. And the truth, my darlings, always comes to light. It may be seven days, seven hours, seven weeks, seven months, seven years, right? The truth always comes out. So be prepared. You're going to have to deal with that. and it may come up again and again. Maybe you're home late and you haven't called and something gets triggered. The memory comes up. Oh, I remember that time. I remember that time when everything changed. You're going to have to put the work in. You're going to have to make the person on the other side feel okay. It's not an attack. They're not trying to be your daddy or your mommy. keeping tabs on you. This is now a responsibility that you're going to have to live with. And listen, our children are watching how we repair or whether we yell, shout, disappear, avoid, walk out. Oh, we're adults now. We're parents. We can't, we can't afford that single mentality, mentality, mentality, mentality. We can't do that anymore, right? We have to watch. what we're doing. We have to do it biblically, kingdom life. The way we handle conflict today becomes a blueprint for their marriage tomorrow, right? What their children watch them do. And because this is about safety, not just closeness, I need to say this very clearly to my friends listening. Because I really care about your marriages. This is why I'm doing this. This is why I'm putting my voice on the line. Because I care so deeply about your marriage. Some people didn't have the tools. They didn't have the map. They just walk away from marriage. Right? And they're going to have to answer in heaven. Why did you walk away? Please let me be the voice to give it another shot, to really consider what you're doing. Are you living this marriage biblically in a kingdom way? Or are you letting the temptation of the world of, oh, it's got to be easy or I got to walk away. Let's just do a divorce. And it's going to come up again, your next relationship. It's not like it just goes away. You can sweep it under the rug, but it's going to come up again. And also new problems if we're not working on ourselves. So wouldn't it be better to just repair with our spouse, with our family and invest and just keep working together? It's like your business. You can't just stop, right? You can't just stop. You can't just give up. You have to keep putting the work in with anything. So I just want to go back and say that I want to say this. I want to say this because it's important, because I care about you. Yelling, intimidation, even violence, or disappearing to shut down, this is not biblical leadership. It's not emotional regulation. And it's, it's, it's not biblical. As parents, especially with children in the home, we no longer have the luxury of exploding, the running out, disappearing for a day, hours, not calling back because we're angry. Okay. Or avoiding repair, coming back, walking in like nothing happened because our wives are busy, you know, making dinner. Oh, okay. So we're just going to sweep this under the rug or vice versa. Coming back in, your husband is, he's got the mental load. He's taking care of the kids, reading them a story. And I'm just going to shower and go to bed. Not that I would never do that. I would never ever do that. I'm just putting this as an example that we can't do that anymore as responsible mothers and fathers. Okay. And this doesn't make someone evil or the bad person. They're so wrong. I mean, it's not right. We know it. Come on. We're adults. We understand. But it does mean this, the pattern must change, not should must, has to change because what we model becomes normalized. So let's talk about what repair actually looks like when safety is protected. And we need to speak honestly and biblically here. There's a loud message circulating that calls itself strength, right? This is a word to our men, our gentlemen. Biblical manhood versus a toxic culture, right? So there's that message circulating that calls itself strength, but it's not Christ-like leadership. It tells men to lead by control. Demand respect. Respect me. be quiet when I'm listening. I'm not saying that this is happening, but it's just, it's just an example to protect ego, right? Prioritize self, prioritize yourself first, your dreams come first. And that is not biblical manhood. Biblical leadership is not power. Okay. It's not power over everything. It is responsibility for our wives, our family. Scripture does not call husbands to rule like kings on a throne, but that's what they are. They are kings on a throne. But why? Because it calls them to love like Christ on the cross. Do you remember the sacrifices? He was spit on. He was treated awful by the world, right? But what did he do? He died for us because he loves us that much. He could have called it off anytime. Let's be honest. He could have called it off. I don't want to do this. This is hard. This is painful. A godly man sacrifices first. He softens first. That's our example. Our king softening first is the example. When things start to escalate, escalate, escalate. Some of us drive one, some of us don't. Things start to escalate, okay? He's the one that softens first. That's our example. He listens first. He repents first. He repairs first. Right? This is hard. This is all hard, especially when we're fighting ego and pride. We want respect. this is not weakness. It is 100% not weakness. Okay. He can only do this because he is strong enough to feel secure in these moments that are hard, that are challenging the obstacles. These are hard moments, which shows his strength as a king. And our kings understand leadership in a marriage does not mean chasing personal dreams at the expense of the family's safety of the things that will erode our holy covenant. Our kings know this. There's no more single life. It's just, it's different because it is blessed. We're creating a family legacy. It means choosing us, the family, the marriage over ego. It means washing her feet. Not literally, not literally, unless you want to. I've seen some beautiful weddings where the gentlemen do this. One of them was so powerful, I cried. But so not literally, but practically, okay? Emotionally, relationally, spiritually, right? Remember, just coming home with a paycheck, that's not leadership. Presence is, okay? Joining the team. Say if you're not working together, There is a few people in our community that don't work together yet. They're starting to, but they still have their, I want to say their nine to five, and they're planning out, they're mapping out. Now that they have children, they can't imagine continuing on this nine to five that they have, and they're planning to create this business that will give them the freedom that they want to have the inclusion of their spouse to build something together with their family. And just imagine not being there, just checking out when you get home. That's not a team. That's not a team. So we have some really great conversations on this that we can visit another time. And I also want to say this because this is important and it matters. Biblical marriage is not about women staying silent and disengaged. We are called to courage, to truth, to faithfulness. We are given, I know a lot of our gentlemen in the community, they really praise their wives that they have this intuition. They're able to sense the danger that's coming not only to their family as relationships that are pulling them apart, but even dangers in the workplace, in their business, they just have this feel, this person is not safe. This person is not safe. I have a bad feeling about this person. And a hundred percent of the time in our community, her gut feeling is right. Why is that? Because God calls us to be partners, to stand side by side because our men have something that we don't have. I'm the first one to admit it. There are things that our husbands have that we do not have. But again, there is something that us mothers, us women, and more so after we become mothers, this radar, this ability to sense danger, lies, people that are not genuine. It's just like this superpower. And other things, of course, so many other things like nurturing a business and just understanding what people really, really want under all the layers. I think we're so brilliant as businesswomen and as mothers, as individuals in our community. We both bring so much to the table. And listen, we are not called to abandon covenant the moment that we are. Sometimes it feels like that. It is overwhelming. It is painful. But we not called to abandon okay or get revenge But we are called I want to finish that first thought okay Again we're not called to tolerate fear, intimidation, or emotional shutdown. We're not called to do those things. I just want to get rid of all the negative things that we sometimes face as mothers, as women. Biblically, women don't weaponize pain. We don't. We can't. And we don't, we cannot bury it either. We can't. We can't because it's going to erode at the holy covenant. We bring, as women, we bring truth into the light with wisdom. We do the work. We choose healing over hardness. But we are not meant to carry the relationship alone. We're not meant for that struggle. We aren't built for that. We are not built for that emotionally or physically. And repair only works when both hearts stay engaged. So then what does repair actually look like? And let's make this something that we can apply today, something real that we could just apply and move and step into today. Okay, repair, it's not going to be rehashing every detail. Right? We don't want to put ourselves through that. We don't want to put ourselves through that. We talk about it, but don't put yourself in the mental state that is going to be painful, depending on the topic. Have the topic, but just don't get into it so deeply that it's going to tear your heart apart again. It is not redefining yourself. In a way that's not true to who you are. It's not disappearing. It's not disappearing, okay? Putting on a mask, pretending everything is good. And it's not saying sorry without change, okay? Because that actually causes more divide. We're going to get into that next week. It's not saying sorry without change. repair is naming impact. Okay. Talking about that. Restoring safety. We need to restore safety. That is so important. Whatever. I'm just going very brief here because everybody has different experience. Some people, they're not, they haven't experienced this stuff at all and that's wonderful, but we do need to listen because if something comes up, we need to know how to deal with it. We need to know how to repair. If something comes up as some kind of obstacle, obstacle, because I'm guaranteeing that something is going to come at you. Repair is choosing understanding over being right. Please, we're a team. We're a team. We're in this together, right? This is our holy covenant. And as the leaders in our homes, the king of the house, we're the ones that have to answer to God first, why we made certain decisions, why we didn't lead, not lead bossy, I'm the man, listen to me. No, it's, listen, it's being the first to bring up the repair, to have the hard conversations. It's being the first one to open that, open up the safe place, right? Proving with actions that change is real, that it's happening, that I'm putting in the work. Let's work together on this. Real repair, it sounds like, I see how that hurts you. It's not coming up with some kind of excuse or, well, that was 10 years ago or that was five years ago. Why are you even talking about this? I see how that hurt you. What else? What else? I didn't handle that with love. I didn't handle that with love at the time. I was ignorant. We can be like this. We can be like this. We can be ignorant. Right? I didn't handle that with love. I want to do, I want, I want to make an effort. I want to make a change where you feel loved, where our marriage feels like a priority over everything and everyone. I'm so sorry that I did not handle that with love. I care more about us than me winning. Darling, I feel more. I feel more care about our relationship, about our marriage, about who we are in front of our children and winning a fight and being right. Help me do this better. Help me do this better so that we can create repair in both of our hearts. And this part matters most. Words without action break trust faster. You want intimacy, right? We both want intimacy in a relationship. That's important. But when safety and trust are broken, you don't feel like smothering each other with intimacy. See, it's quite the opposite. Don't even touch me. If my feelings and my heart cannot be safe in your hands, please don't touch me. Please don't touch me. Right? Repair requires accountability, consistency, follow through. Okay? You can't keep making the same mistake once you've said sorry. It doesn't mean anything. It's just words. I tell my daughter this. Listen, don't worry about what people say. Worry about what or be concerned and watch how people act. They can tell you they love you, but the way they act are going to speak volumes. And if they show you in any way that they don't respect you, that they're not protecting your purity, that they don't truly love your soul, your heart, you as a daughter of God, run, run, run the other way. Close the door. Put the lock on it. Run. Okay? Run. Run. it's got to be progress my friends it's got to be progress there has the repair has to be done and you have to show that we have to show that as couples listen if this episode if this episode gave you language for something you felt but couldn't explain, if it brought clarity, relief, or even a sense of we're not alone in this. We're not alone in this. and all we needed that our marriage, it's not over, it's not a write-off, but we just needed some tools, some tactics. And it's time to have those hard conversations. If that stirred within you the desire to repair, to rebuild. And let me say this with love, okay? Your marriage isn't broken. It was just under equipped. That's all it is. We didn't have the tactics, the tools. Skills can be learned. Patterns can be changed. And safety can be rebuilt. We can start today. Only, only one way. You know what that way is? It's only if we stop avoiding the work and start honoring the covenant. Okay. And we can do that today, right now, right now. Grab your journals, my friends. It is that time. Pause this. Take a snapshot of the minutes if you don't have time to write in your journal right now. But I feel that this is so healing. It is so important for our community to just spill into our journals. These are things that we can bring with us to therapy. It is such a useful tool. And also to revisit later, to revisit and see who we are next year, 10 years. What were we struggling with? What did we realize? Right? So grab those journals. And let's step into this together. Because I want you to sit with these. Let's sit with these together. What was repair like or missing in my childhood home? This is key. This is key. This is so important. What did repair look like in my home, between my parents, between us? What did it look like when I was dealing with stuff? Was it just sweep it under the rug? Was it telling me to go to my room when feelings got big? Stop crying? I'll give you something to cry about. What did it look like? What did it look like? No judgment. but you're going to understand a lot. Now, what pain in my marriage was never actually healed? This is perhaps very challenging for some people to write right now. What pain in my marriage was never actually healed? This is important, my friends. It's hard, but it's important. how do I respond when closeness feels uncomfortable when those four first steps of repair the conversation the moment the obstacle how do I respond when I feel uncomfortable do I want to run or do I want to run towards my partner and fix this? Do I want to go to sleep without talking about it or biblically do I want to go to bed without being angry? Do I want to punish my spouse? Oh, please don't do that. Please don't do that. No vindictivity, no punishing, But no judgment, no judgment. What do you turn to first? Because this is going to be huge clues on why your marriage is getting stronger or why intimacy is gone or heading towards eroding, disappearing. Before you reach for that coffee, consider this. What if the energy boost you're looking for isn't in your cup, but in your cells. I challenge you to swap your morning coffee for Shilajit by Symbiotica. And here's what can happen. 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I said, what would real accountability look like? Not just the words, right? What did I tell my daughter and my son? Right? Words are beautiful. Sometimes they're the exact things that trick us into staying in a very dangerous, unsafe place or relationship. It's the action we need to watch. It's the action. It's the when something didn't go their way, how do they act? Do they get violent? Or do they say, oh my gosh, I am so sorry. I am so heartfully sorry. I am so sorry. This will not happen again. What did that feel like for you? How can we avoid this? So it never happens. And I never put you in this position ever again, ever again. And listen, this is no shame. This is just write it, spill it onto the page because these are clues, right? These are the pieces to the puzzle that we're missing of why, why is intimacy eroding? Why did things never get repaired in the first place? Why did we just leave it? Why is this still in the air? Why is it still here? Let's clear the air. Let's smooth everything out tonight. And now let's come together in prayer over this. I love coming into agreement through prayer. We need this. I need this. I love it. I always say, reach out to me and I will pray over the obstacle, through whatever you're going through. I will pray over your marriage. Sometimes people don't have that. Sometimes people don't have that. They can't even pick up the phone and say, hey, can you pray for me? They don't have those friends. I'm that friend. I'm the friend that doesn't talk behind your back. But you know what I do behind your back? I pray for you. I pray for your marriage. I pray for your healing. That's a friend I am. And those are the friends that I have. Those are the people in our community. We don't gossip. We don't talk behind people's back. We pray for our friends. We pray behind their back. Okay? Anything other than not a friend of mine. I will not expose myself to those kind of people. I will not expose my marriage to that kind of danger or my children. You better believe it. So let's come together in prayer, an agreement over this. Heavenly Father, teach us how to love like you love. Strip away pride. Soften hardened places for us, for our relationship, for our marriage. Give us courage to repair what was avoided for years sometimes. Give us the courage to repair what was avoided. Heal what we carried silently in pain. Heal what we carried as husbands, as fathers, even children. Protect our children by restoring safety, making our homes places of honesty, beautiful humility, and grace. We say these things in Jesus' name. Amen. Amen. Amen. Yes. Yes. Yes, I'm feeling it. I'm feeling it right now. So good. So good. So good. I'm so, I am so proud of you guys. This is not easy. Okay, this is not easy. And if you've had these types of experiences, you don't want to go on another day keeping it buried and pretending it didn't happen and wonder why are we not close? You were my best friend. You were my best friend. What happened? Marriage was not meant to be easy. Please let me tell you that. You know this. Biblically, our kingdom, community, we know this. Okay. What did we talk about? Was it last week or the week before? God didn't give us the triggers or the experiences just because it's where we need to learn. Some of us, the hardest experiences of our lives. Why did we get that? Why? Because, because God knew that you could carry it and overcome it so that you could come out of the burning building with buckets of water for others so that they know, they see the map, they see the structure, they see the blueprint and they don't throw it all away. Don't be a slave to the chains of your past. You can break the chains, okay? You can come out of the building, the burning building, and give the water to other people that are in need, that have nowhere to go. You can be that one, right? You can have the blueprint. That's why you were chosen. That's why, okay? Don't ever feel like this sense of sometimes we see it and I got to wake my girlfriends up, my mothers up, my fathers up. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Don't feel sorry for yourselves. Okay? I know it was hard, but you are strong and you are chosen. You were created in the image of God. You are beautifully, fearfully, and wonderfully made. You have everything within you to succeed, to make your marriage succeed, and to help your friends rise. You're not going to stay silent. You are going to pray for them. You're going to help them. you're going to lift them. Okay. That is why sometimes we have to walk the hard road because we have such greatness inside of us to overcome those obstacles and those things. I am so passionate about this. Sometimes we just need to be, wake up, wake up, right? Wake up, Wake up. You were chosen. You were chosen. You better believe it. Okay? You are beautiful. And you are going to have a beautiful marriage. No matter what. If you want to, if you wanted to, you could. You could. You just didn't have the tools. Now you do. You have the tools. Right? And if something in this episode gave you language for something you felt but couldn't explain, if it brought you clarity, relief, or even a sense of we're not alone in this. We're not alone in this as a marriage, as a family. I want to invite you to support this work, to share it, to share it with someone that you care about. that may be dealing with this very thing, this very topic, this very struggle, and leave a kind review and five golden stars. Leave those five golden stars, as Daniel and Destiny always say, because it helps this message reach families who are quietly searching for safety, connection and hope. Okay. And if you know a couple who's trying to stay together but doesn't have the tools yet, just share this episode. It could be the beginning of healing for them. Right? And also, I want to give Daniel and Destiny their flowers. you guys are messaging us and them about how your children are loving this little leaders community and how you love the podcast. If you haven't listened yet, the podcast is called the Entrepreneur Kids Legacy Show for young leaders changing the world together. I love their little conversations that they all have together. I love the messages that your children are sharing with our little ones. It is so beautiful to see their hearts and just what they're up to right now. This is so gorgeous. And if you want to help sponsor, produce the show, you can do so. There's a link at the bottom on buymeacoffee.com backslash entrepreneur kids. You can leave a personal message there for the children that they could read. You could just connect us down below, connect with us down below on, I think, email or Instagram. You could leave a message there if you've helped sponsor. They are so grateful every time you do. They're using their own savings, their own money that they're making through their little jobs to support the show. So you are greatly appreciated. And I just really, I really want to thank you for being here. Thank you for doing the work. And thank you for choosing repair. Repair over. See you later. Adios. Let's just cover this up, right? This is so, I'm so proud of you guys. Peace protects the home. Repair protects the heart. and intimacy grows where safety is restored. We can't avoid this anymore. It's time to restore that safety. You're not late. You are not late. You're not failing. You are learning and you can start change today. Live the best marriage. Raise the best family. Create an incredible legacy. Okay? And that changes everything. Starting today changes everything. If you're already doing the work, you're already doing this, God bless you. God bless you. Glory to God always. I can't wait to see you soon for our next episode. God bless you. We love you. Again, glory to God always. Have the best week. Thank you, beautiful friends, for listening to this important message from Mama. Share with someone you love and care about. Oh, and we'd love to personally invite you to listen to our podcast. It's for young future leaders ready to change the world and be a light in the dark. Listen together as a family. It's called the Arsenal Kids Legacy Show! We know you'll love it! Be bold, be kind, build an unforgettable family legacy! God bless you, we love you! And parents, if no one told you yet, let us be the first! You're doing a remarkable job! And remember, you are the hero of your story. Because every legacy begins with a hero. And that hero is you. This podcast is for inspirational and educational purposes only. And it is not intended to replace professional advice, legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views expressed are based on personal experience and faith-based insight. and are meant to encourage reflection and growth. 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