Toddlers Biting Siblings, Hitting, Tantrums & More (Q&A)

Why are toddlers so confusing? Because they're brand new fresh human beings, they're just forming. My two year old fights for his life to get ready for bed, bath, or daycare. It's a screaming match every single time. How do I curb this? You tend to think that you can reason with a toddler. They're not built that way. Welcome to the Bratbusters Parenting Podcast. My name's Lisa Bunnage. I'm a parenting coach. I'm a mom. I'm also a grandmother. And I'm Amy Bunnage. Lisa's daughter and I handle the marketing and planning here at Bratbusters. While I don't have kids, each episode will dive into parenting topics, and Lisa will answer your questions. Let's get started. OK, sweetie, what are we talking about today? Today's podcast is going to be 10 toddler questions. We do these every once in a while, because you get quite a few questions all on the topic of toddlers. But you often say that it's pretty quick answers. And so we go through a lot of them. It's like rapid fire. Oh, well, now I'm worried. I might drag it out a little bit too much. OK, so I would say most of our followers have toddlers, but certainly in coaching, most of them have older kids or teens, which is interesting. I don't even know. I didn't even know they were listening, because all the questions on Alive and all that are all about toddlers. And I can understand, because you're new parents too, right? So it's all new. So I totally get that. You got a lot of questions to ask. Today we're covering tantrums. We have bedtimes, aggressive behavior, even siblings. But before we get into questions, maybe just to get started, what age do you consider to be a toddler? It's just the way I've broken it down. 18 to 35 months. OK? And even that 18 months, no, 16 to 35 months. And even that 16 months is sort of a gray area between 16 and 18 months is what I was getting at. But it's sort of a gray area. You're transitioning from babyhood into the toddler years. So babies, you're just teaching them right from wrong with no discipline whatsoever. You just use diversion. So if they hit you in the face, you just go no, and then you divert them with something else. OK? And then when they get to be about 16, 17, 18 months, now you're starting to discipline by using consistent corrective actions. So if they hit you across the face, you might just say no. And then you might just put them down for a minute or so if you were holding them. So it's still very gentle, of course, but it's letting them know. And now there's a consequence. So the toddlers, they're starting to learn right from wrong, and you're starting to correct the behavior. Mom, why are toddlers so confusing? Because they're brand new, fresh human beings. They're just forming. They've only got one marble and some tumbleweed upstairs. OK? Imagine if you've only been in the world for two years. In the first year, you were a potato laying on a mattress. They have no context. They have no wisdom, no experience, no sense of reasoning yet. They're just brand new. They might even stick their pans in their diaper and smear poop on the wall. Like, they're just going to try stuff. They don't have any context yet. They don't understand the world yet. I don't think how. I'm 65. I'm still trying to figure it out. Just to be clear, I do not do that smearing on the wall with my, you know, anyway. Been a couple of years at least. At least a couple of years. Thanks for that, sweetie. Anyway, so yeah, toddlers are cute as a button, but they're all feet, no brains, OK? And that's why they're so dangerous, because they don't understand fire is hot and, you know, don't run down the stairs. You know, they just, they're learning everything. So yeah, they're cute as a button, but you got to watch them like a hawk. When you make the comment about the potato on a mattress, I did see some comments that were not happy about you comparing a baby to a potato. I don't care. OK. Yeah, so it's supposed to be funny. You know, you're looking at someone who named your company Bratbusters. You don't think I got a sense of humor. Like, I'm going to say stuff that's inappropriate. I don't care. Just read the room. OK. That's right. You're watching Bratbusters for God's sake. OK. Should we just get right into the questions then? By the way, I don't call kids Brats. It's just a funny name. That was a name that was sort of invented by the teenagers I worked with. They said, you're always busting Brats. You got to teach this stuff, Lisa. So I called it Bratbusters. Anyway, go on. And that's how it happened. There you go. That's the whole story. OK. So questions. OK. The first question is Sietta from India. I have a situation of two under two. The older is two and a half, and the younger one is 11 months. The older one hits the younger one for every reason possible, like touching toys, or he's spending more time with either of the parent. We parents, if given more attention to the younger one, he gets bitten. We really don't know how to control the situation, even after trying multiple things, like warning him, explaining why he should not do the punishment, should not do it, or punishment, or just separating them when that happens. Please help us. OK. Warnings do nothing, and explaining does nothing. The more you explain, the more they complain, the more they act out. You're trying the mini therapy session stuff with a two and a half year old. It just doesn't work at all. So don't discuss the bad behavior. Just deal with it. Say no hitting, and when he does, I would fuss over the baby. So every time you hit the baby, the baby gets extra attention. And I would also take a toy away. If he'd grabbed a toy from the baby, I don't even know if they said it was boys or girls. But anyway, if the older one grabs a toy from the baby, you say no, give the toy back to the baby, then play with the baby with that toy. Let the two and a half year old process this. Also, make sure you don't show any anger or frustration or disappointment. You're just matter of fact, you say no, and you give that toy to the baby, and then play with the baby, and keep the two and a half year old back so they can't join him. So eventually they should learn that that bad behavior will never get them what they want. It gets them less attention, because that's what they're after, okay? They're just exercising their control right now. Just make sure that they don't have any. You remove the control from them. So they're hitting the little one because they've been getting away with it. You're gonna watch them like a hawk, and you're gonna intervene every single time. It should take a good week or two before you really start to see results. But if you let anything go and you miss a hit, it's gonna be harder to get that discipline going, because you have to be really, really consistent with toddlers. They don't remember the times you did it right. They'll remember the one time. Like if you did it right 20 times, they remember the one time you got it wrong. So you gotta just make it like a job you're gonna do. You're gonna stop this hitting and going after the baby once and for all in the next week or two. So just treat it like a chore, like a job. Okay, the next one is... Just a second, why were you laughing? No, I'm just envisioning the parents rolling up their sleeves there, getting ready for work. Well, get your war paint on. I often do that. Visually, I'll roll up my sleeves and say get ready for battle, because that's what it's gonna be. So yeah, just get ready for it. But don't show any anger, frustration, or disappointment. It doesn't work for you, because it just makes it negative. I don't even like to make discipline negative. I still wanna have a sort of a very calm, calm exterior. On the inside, you can be mad, but just stay calm on the outside. The next question is Stephanie from the United States. I have a 10-month-old and a two-year eight-month-old. My toddler seems to get happy, nervous, or excitable energy and will just start randomly starting to hit or bite the little sister. Sometimes she does this to me. She'll also try and hit or kick when she doesn't get, when she really doesn't want you to do something like changing your clothes. I usually block the behavior or move her away. I've tried methods where I show her what else she can do to exert her energy, but she oftentimes refuses to do the games, like putting pillows on the floor for her to jump over or hitting a tree with a stick. Almost like she knows I'm trying to redirect her and she won't engage in the play. She doesn't like when I suggest a redirection. She just says, no one walks away. How do I handle the biting and kicking when it's usually just from nervousness or excitement? Could she be doing it from jealousy to her sister as well? If so, how do I approach that? I was a little bit unclear. Is she biting and kicking the 10-month-old? Yes. Okay. You just have to keep her away from that 10-month-old when you see her getting like that and you say no. But I'd sort of, if you know she's going into it, I'd wanna prevent the first bite and I don't want them to hurt a baby. So I'd say no. And then I'd pick up and fuss over the baby. That's what I do. You fuss over the victim. You can't really go after the assaulter or whatever you wanna call her, the one who's going after them. At that age, she's a bit too young for real consequences. The consequences, she gets to look at you, fuss over the baby that she was just going after. So that's what I do. Say, oh, okay, big sister's trying to hurt you. We'll just pick you up for a minute here. So yeah, I'd try that. I got lots of other things you can try, but I'd try that. And if she is going after her with a toy, I would take the toy away. But you don't want her to get that far. I always say, let them make the, let them do the bad deed and then correct it, but you don't want her hitting the baby and then correcting it. So when she's going into it or being aggressive, I would intervene right then and there. Take a toy away, pick up the baby and fuss over the baby. Just for a minute or so. What are your thoughts on trying to redirect the energy? It's okay, but it's obviously not working. Last slide, I always say you redirect babies, not toddlers. Toddlers need consistent corrective actions and redirection is actually more of a reward. It's diversion, because you never divert with broccoli. It's always done with something fun. So actually it's teaching her because it's a reward system, right? Diversion is usually a reward system with a toddler. So when you're diverting your attention, you're actually rewarding her. That's why she's gonna keep doing it. Thanks for bringing that up. Well, I think also I can understand where parents come from because they're trying to replace the not so great behavior with a better behavior. Yeah, but the child has to do that. They have to realize that this isn't working. Then the stuff that is nice, it does work. Make sure it does work. Make sure that the bad behavior doesn't work for them and the good behavior does. So that's up to you. And then they will lean into what's working away from what isn't. Okay, that's- But yeah, you're rewarding her basically. When you divert her attention, you're rewarding her. And she's thinking, I'm gonna keep doing this because I'm getting these rewards. Okay, the next one is Samantha from Canada. My daughter is three in a month and my son is 16 months. My daughter has a hard time sharing. So taking toys from him, knocking him over. And my son doesn't enjoy playing with her because of it. How can I help them play together nicely? So it's all fun for all of us. Okay, you get between them and teach them how to play together by you being in between them. And you play on the 16 month old's level. So, and make sure that that almost three year old has her own toys as a girl. Yeah, the girl is three, almost three. So you make sure that she has her own toys that the little one can't get to also. Oftentimes they have things that they really treasure that a baby can't touch because they're gonna wreck them. That might be part of it too. She might resent him because he breaks stuff or moves stuff around that she's worked hard. Maybe she's built some castle out of blocks and he only comes around and wrecks it. That often builds resentment. If you're not coming in and protecting the stuff that she's working on, she's big enough. She can be up at a dining room table or something playing with stuff and say, look, if you don't want your little brother touching this, this is where you have to go. You can go in your room and shut the door and play with this. Or you can play on the dining room table and play with this. But if it's on the ground, it's free game. He gets to play too. Okay, cause he's only 16 months old. He's just learning. And then you want to sort of train him away from that stuff too, but we're focused on her right now cause she's being aggressive. But yeah, she might be kind of valid and being resentful towards him cause he's just wrecking all of her fun. Okay, the next one is Chris from the United States. My two year old fights for his life to get ready for bed, bath or daycare. It's a screaming match every single time. How do I curb this? You don't, you just follow through with actions and he'll eventually learn that there's no reason for me to kick up a storm cause it's never gonna work. You just, he's only two. He's gonna learn that none of his tantrum is gonna work. If it does, and if you get upset and if you prolong getting him ready as a result of the tantrum, it's actually working. If you're talking to him during the tantrum or during getting him undressed, it's working. I just say, whoops, and then I just ignore them and I get them dressed. If they're being really difficult and yelling at me, I just ignore it and I just follow through with what needs to be done physically and make it happen. In other words, do not let there be any payoff for that behavior. Making you stall like slowing things down is a payoff. Your attention is also a payoff. It's a reward. So yeah, just keep going. If you gotta get him changed or get him to bed, you said daycare, bath, whatever, just put him in the bath, right? Just get him to daycare kicking and screaming. That's okay. He'll eventually learn, well, this ain't work and I may as well stop doing it. You've talked about this before too, is that they're in that stage where if they're inclined to, they're gonna probably test some boundaries. Yeah, and not all toddlers will. Some of them are really easy going by nature and others aren't, others are more feisty. So you can have 10 kids and they'll all be completely different. It doesn't have much to do with how they turn out in the end but it's just how you manage it, right? So yeah, a lot of the feisty kids end up being really good in sports too, because they're just really physical when they're toddlers. So they may just really be into using their bodies, which later on will turn out, they might be the basketball star or something. So a lot of parents think that what is really annoying when they're little could turn out to be a positive later on. Sometimes they're just really inquisitive. The kids who say, why, but why, but why, they may turn out to be the problem solvers of tomorrow. So some of those traits in early years can actually be a positive later on, but right now you don't care about that because it's just really annoying. Just follow through with what needs to be done, whatever he's doing. He needs to have a bath, get him in the bath, kicking and screaming. If that's too dangerous because he might fall in the tub or something, just say, okay, well that's not working, let's just give you a shower instead. But be gentle with it, don't make it awful, don't put the shower in his face or, you know what I'm saying? It might be tempting because you think, oh well, you don't like it, you don't want a bath, I'll just make sure that I get all this nice soap in your hair. So yeah, just make it still gentle, but just follow through and stay calm. Never show any anger, frustration or disappointment. Try and stay calm. He'll get bored with that and he'll just stop fighting you. I can envision that would be hard to possibly stay calm during those moments. Well, that is the challenge. That's like, you know, if people set you, let's say you've got to lose some weight and you go to a diet center and then you say, well, how do I not eat that chocolate cake in the fridge? That is the challenge. Following through, I can tell you what to do, but doing it is the challenge. So I'm not saying it's easy, but it is the way to go. And it does get easier. Once you start seeing the results, it gets way easier. I've had so many clients who've said, once they turn that corner, they say, wow, this actually works, this is easy. So once you start seeing the results, it does get easier. Are your kids driving you nuts? They don't have to. Check out bratbusters.com for my boot camp courses if you want to learn how to become a leader. Okay, the next one is Liza from the United States. How do I help a toddler who's 18 months cope with a parent who travels for work? That's a tough one, the separation. There's not much you can do, but isn't there like face time and all that stuff? You can do a lot of that. They're quite happy with that. I'll tell you, Q&A is a great way to do that. They're quite happy with that. I'll tell you a cute story. Years and years ago, I knew of someone and the parents had split up and they just had this little boy, I don't know, three or four years old. I don't know. Anyway, they were in different areas. They didn't live anywhere near each other. So every single night, and they did, this is long before Facebook or videos or anything, right? So the dad would call long distance and he'd call every single night at the same time. And the little boy knew his dad was on the phone, but he'd put the phone down and he would talk to himself while he was playing. He was two or three. And he would just talk like he was talking to his dad, but he couldn't hear his dad or anything, but he knew his dad was listening. And then his dad would yell out when he had to leave and he'd yell out the kid's name. The kid would go over to the phone and he'd say, no, you have to keep listening. I'm not finished playing yet. Isn't that cute that he wasn't even interacting with the dad, but he knew the dad was there listening. I thought that was just adorable. So you can't replace being in person, but that was very important to that child that his dad was listening. And that built the relationship long distance. So I thought that was adorable. That is sweet. I'm not finished playing. You have to keep listening. Long distance. Oh, that was cute. The next one is Ruchali from India. My daughter is two years old. I'm trying to follow the leader parenting style that you talk about. And it works well when we're at our place. But when we go to my brother-in-law's place, it falls apart as my niece is six years old and was raised differently, has tantrums, answers back and hits and screams. What can I do so that my daughter does not follow my niece's footsteps? Okay. There's nothing you can do about your niece, obviously, you know that. But anyway, they will lean into the leader. Now let's say you're a really good leader. She's still learning. Okay. Once he hit three, the leadership really kicks in. But just work on your leadership skills and they don't tend to be susceptible to other kids' bad behavior. They just don't because they love, they love being under your leadership umbrella because it brings out the best in them. They tend to like themselves the most when they're with the leader. Okay. Because you know how to increase their self-esteem. You're also a lot of fun to be with because fun is their love language. So the other kids' influences have no power over them. Pass at around the age three that really kicks in. And even now it can kind of have some effect, but not so much now. But when she hits three, the other kids' bad behavior won't affect her because she's under your leadership umbrella. Right? She's, her personality is formed in that way. She will make better choices. I always say, if you send your kids off to school and you're not a leader, they will be very susceptible to peer pressure, bullying, the drug dealer on the corner, the internet, the Kardashians. You get the idea. They're looking for a leader elsewhere. This is past the age of three, four around there. But at two, yeah, you're just exercising your leadership and eventually it'll kick in that she will not be led astray because they're influenced by you and only you really. When they're little, as they grow up, it changes a little bit. But initially when they're really young, you are their influence when you're a leader. The next one is Rania from Kenya. I'm fortunate enough to have found your page when my daughter was a baby. I do consistent corrective actions, but now that she's a toddler at 17 months old, when she tantrums rarely, I ignore it. And the second it's done, I say, you're done. Let's do this. She starts the tantrum again. What am I doing wrong? You're not doing anything wrong. She's just revving up again. Because attention is what they're after with the tantrum, but as soon as the tantrum stops, you say, oh, do you want to go play? She starts up again. You say, oops, nevermind. And then you just ignore again. You can keep, and then the next time she stops, you might want to wait a little bit longer. Maybe wait 30 seconds or so, okay? So then see if she's done, because they're in the tantrum hangover. And if they get attention, often they'll start up again. She just wasn't ready to stop, that's all. Okay, so attention got it going again. But yeah, the next time if she stops, she might be ready to stop. She just wasn't ready yet. She hadn't quite got it out of her system yet, that's all. So just ignore again. The next one is E from the United States. My two-year-old has been an absolute pleasure. We implemented lots of your tips, and parenting has been rewarding and easy. The issue is, some of her playmates' parents subscribe to other parenting styles, and the results are a disaster. When the behavior of the playmate is bad, such as jumping on couches, talking back, how do I politely end the playdate to make sure my kiddo doesn't pick up on the bad habits? Well, she's two. So you have a playdate at your house? I don't understand that. Is it, where is this playdate? Why do you care what other parents are doing or what their kids are doing, unless they're ruining your house? Then I would say, if I had kids ruining my house, I'd say, look, I said, they just seem a little bit squirrely right now. You might want to take them home and put them in bed or something, because just let them know. You don't want your home to be damaged. So is that what she's going as at her home? Otherwise, I don't care what other kids are doing and other parents are doing. It means nothing to me, nothing. Like if it's not my home, they're destroying. It's none of my business. Okay. Yeah, truly, none of my business. You can imagine what I've seen over the years. I've raised a couple of kids and I've worked with tons of them, and I don't care what other parents do with their kids, so long as they're not hurting my kids or damaging my property. That's none of my business. And my kids, because I'm a leader, I'm their influence. My kids weren't going to follow other kids because I was the leader. When you're a leader, it's a very silent kind of a power too, because they like themselves when they're with the leader. They don't really want to be naughty when they've got a leader as a parent, because there's no payoff for it, right? Okay, the next one is Jasmine from the United States. I have a two and a half year old and a seven month old. Both boys are very good together. My older one decided to throw his toy at the seven month old and I immediately took the toy away and picked up the baby. He then threw more toys and smacked me in the leg. I then took all the toys away and put them in the laundry room. I followed your advice, but he was not fazed by it at all. He could care less. There was no crying or arguing with me. He just watched as I moved everything. I said he couldn't play with them until tomorrow, and then he didn't say anything or do anything. It was evening and I was about to get everybody ready for dinner. Did he not care because he wasn't going to be playing with the toys anyways? What should I do? Do I need to find a different consequence? No, you just haven't done it often enough. It's not one off and it's fixed. It's like 20 times or 50 times and it's fixed. Yeah, you just keep doing it. Eventually it will work. It's not the one action fixes everything. It's you just haven't done it enough. Sounds like you did a good job. You just have to keep doing it. Right? Does that make sense? Yeah, you just haven't done it enough. That's all. It's like, well, why can't I drive perfectly? I mean, I've had one lesson. I mean, you have to keep doing it to get good at it. And you have to keep doing this before he learns. And that, by the way, that usually gets worse before it gets better because you're changing your methods and it's not suiting him. All of a sudden, you're starting to exercise your leadership, which you possibly didn't have before. And he's going to kick up a storm to hang on to his power. And it usually does get worse before it gets better. That's OK. Means that you're making a difference. I think that while that may not be the news that you wanted to hear, that it's going to get worse before it gets better, I'm sure it's nice to at least go in with the expectations. No, but it did. It got worse before it. It already got worse. Sorry, what I mean is when you say that to parents of toddlers and they go, oh, geez, is it going to get worse, that at least you talk about the idea of like, you want to set up some realistic expectations. You bet. Because think about it. Let's say you've been in charge of your parents. Let's say you got an older kid, six, seven, eight-year-old. And they've been in charge. They've been getting away with crazy stuff, right? All of a sudden, you come in as a leader. You don't think they're going to fight to get that power back? Of course they are, but it's worth it. You want to go through that storm to get to the rainbow. Everyone says, well, what's the shortcut? I want the rainbow today. It doesn't work that way. Because you allow that. You train them to get away with stuff. Believe it or not, you train them. And then now, all of a sudden, you want to change that? It's going to get ugly, or it could. Sometimes it doesn't. I would say, I don't want to say a percentage, but sometimes it doesn't. But I always tell parents it probably will. Because I'd rather them be pleasantly surprised when it isn't, rather than shocked when it does get worse. So under promise over deliver. Under promise. Yeah, perfect. I like to think I do that. Yep. OK, the next one. Or the final question is Carrie from England. Mum of a boy, age two. My question is, you say remove them for the fun or the fun from them. Can you please clarify? Often when my boy has a tantrum, often it's when play hasn't gone how he wants. So a toy is trying to balance falls. I wait calmly until it's over, then straight back into the play. Should I be taking something that toy away or taking him out of the room he's in? Or is it OK to just stop the play in the moment, let it play out, and straight back to connecting? He often snaps out of it quickly, so not sure if I need to remove the toy. I didn't understand the naughty part. Where was the naughty part? I think that just the clarifying of what happens if it's a tantrum. Oh, a tantrum. Yeah, you just let the tantrum happen, then let him go back to playing. If he throws a toy, I think he threw a toy. I think that. I'm not sure. But anyway, I was trying to figure out what the bad behavior was. Anyway, let's say he does something naughty, and you say no, and then you might put the toy away. Just ignore the tantrum. When he's all done, say, oh, do you want to, or you can give him back the toy if you want. But yeah, just give it a little bit of time. You don't want to take the toy away, hold it up for 20 seconds, then give it back. But if he has a tantrum, wait until it's over, and then say, oh, OK, well, we'll go back to playing now. OK, so if they don't do anything, so let's say the toy just falls, and then they have a tantrum. You're not taking the toy away in that instance. A tantrum isn't bad behavior. A tantrum is a loss of emotional control if things not going their own way. That's not bad behavior. That's what I was confused with. Yeah, tantrum is just they just got mad because things didn't go their own way. Let them do it. Let them process that. You can't regulate someone else's emotions. Only they can. They call it self-regulation, and you can't self-regulate someone else. You're calm demeanor. You're calm just waiting it out. That is helping them to regulate themselves. That is what you're doing. You're helping them regulate themselves. I'm sure it's tempting too, though. I'm sure when you see them freaking out, you're like, I just wish that I could make this go by faster. Well, once you get good at this, it's almost like, oh, that's one less tantrum. That's one more tantrum we got under our belt, and we're getting closer to them disappearing forever. So yeah, I don't ever wish them away. I think, well, this is good. This means that that's one less tantrum we've got to deal with, and they're going to have less. They diminish in frequency duration, and what's the last one? Frequency? Intensity. Intensity over time. Okay? So you got to do the time with this. You just got to go through it and think, yeah, okay, one more lesson. This is another lesson. I see it as a positive, to be honest. Okay, well, that was it for the questions. Okay, it's all toddler stuff. It was funny because I'd forgotten the theme of this podcast was toddlers, and then I thought, gee, we got a lot of toddler questions in here. Difficult mom, I'm always so forgetful. Anyway, as I said, toddlers are cute as a button. I think that parents expect too much from toddlers in that you expect, and the thing is that when you talk to a toddler, like if you're trying to reason things out and they're being really naughty, and you're trying to use the mini therapy sessions, they will literally say, sorry, I won't do it again. No, I know, I feel bad, I won't do it. They're telling you exactly what you want to hear. They're parroting what you said to them, and they're telling you what you want to hear. Has nothing to do with their future behavior. You tend to think that you can reason with a toddler. They're not built that way. They haven't got that frontal lobe, that common sense going yet. At three, it starts to kick in. That's when we move over to the behavior board. They have the ability to stop and think before they act. But when they're toddlers, they're just gonna parrot whatever you say to shut you up, and then they're gonna go right back to doing what they were doing anyway. Parents often say this to me. They say, I can't believe it. He said he was sorry, and he said he wasn't gonna hit me ever again, and that he loves me, and then he hit me again. And I'm like, what's your point? Of course he did. All you did was just do this mini therapy session. He's just saying whatever he has to say to shut you up. Okay, and he's gonna go right back and do it again. It's just the reality of it. It's all this trying to reason things through with a toddler makes no sense whatsoever. I know it's popular, it's trendy, whatever, but it's just ridiculous. They're all about actions, okay? And they're watching you. They're not listening to you. They're watching you. Your calm demeanor does calm them down. Okay, if you get all upset and try and discuss all this stuff with, you're actually feeding it more. You're giving it a lot of attention. And they love it when they get that attention. So you're feeding it. Okay, was that it? I mean, it's a good place to end. Okay, there you go. Thanks so much for joining us. We'll be back again soon talking about another parenting topic. Happy parenting. Thanks for tuning in. If you're ready to dive deeper, check out bratbusters.com to learn more about the behavior board, parenting courses, and private one-on-one coaching with Lisa. If you've enjoyed the show so far, we'd love it if you could take a moment to follow, rate, and review us on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us reach more parents just like you. 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