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My boyfriend kept dumping me because our Zodiac signs aren't compatible. Oh, God. Oh, God, John. There's some stuff we need to address for the people. It's true. We've been getting a lot of comments over the last couple months. Oh, yes. One singular thing unites them all. What is that? Where are Sam and John? Where are they? Yeah, we're going to answer that right now, right here. We've been not around for some super awesome reasons and super cool things and been not around for some less awesome things. But we're going to get into all of that in today's episode. Yeah. And like some of the good reasons, which we'll talk about later, is we've been expanding the team, right? Like it started with just like Riley and then Sophia came on. Now we have all these other people. We'll get into those introductions later. A lot of really cool stuff, which means, you know, there's a lot of work in doing that. So John and I have been behind the scenes more to manage all of that, which has still been fun. Like, you know, we talk about this stuff all the time, but unfortunately, just not in front of the camera as much. Speaking of things behind the camera. So many of you know, which, by the way, thank you to everyone who reached out to me and everything during this time. But as you guys know, had a five year relationship that ended earlier this year. And God said not enough. so uh right after that uh my dad actually had a really bad stroke uh it was crazy flew out the same day he was 95 paralyzed couldn't talk still can't talk he's doing better but it was just kind of an insane experience i went back home for like basically two months kind of back and forth and uh it was again just one of the most the most insane thing that's ever happened to me in my life lots of spiritual learnings and growth. But as you can imagine, for the past couple months, I've been basically not doing anything other than that. So thank you all again for all of your kind messages and support during that time. But again, just wanted to come on and explain kind of what's been going on. Yeah, and I mean, we've been seeing how much support that you have been giving John through this hard time. We've all been supporting each other through this hard time. And again, it's like, when you watch a show you only see what what when when we're here but there's so much stuff that's going on behind the scenes i think people love to like speculate like sam and john hate each other or whatever no it's not true green screen yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah they're like they're actually not in the same room because you know and and it's and it's it's just like life is life is complicated um and we've been doing this show for so many years and are growing in different ways and And life happens and we have to adapt. And that's what we're doing now. And I think also like as the show grows, we're also exploring our own creativity individually too. So we have like this show as a unit, like what does it look like to create together? But we also have some things that we've been developing on the side. John, do you want to talk a little about what you've been up to? Yeah, absolutely. So I've started doing music. I actually have a song coming out tomorrow. Yeehaw. About the breakup actually. So you know what? It is topically relevant. Yeah, yeah. If you want to get those juicy details. And how about you, Sam? You've been cooking up some stuff. Yeah, yeah. I started a show called Cook For Me, where if you've seen those videos where it's like, hey, would you cook for me for $100? That's me. It's been so much fun. But just because we're doing our own projects doesn't mean we're not going to be on the show. We're still going to be occasionally on the show. But we want to develop the OK Storytime universe. So there's all of these different things in which we collaborate together, do individually. And Riley has been holding down the fort here and developing a lot of new and exciting stuff. Do you want to talk a little bit about what you've been doing over here? We've been doing the 12-hour stream, having awesome guests come on. We've been doing our character streams. We've been doing IRL streams like crazy. They've been really letting me cook, which has been really, really cool. So I've been blessed doing that. And there's so much more of that coming around the corner. And the most exciting thing I'm excited about is the game show stuff that we're looking at. Yes, sir. Which seems like you guys have been loving. Yeah, we might have a new show coming up. And also, the other thing is we've hired a lot of new people that have been coming into the mix. Some of them you've known for a while, and some of them are new. But I would love to kind of like formally reintroduce everyone, including John and I. Kind of like from the beginning of how this thing started. But, John, I want to introduce yourself. Yes. Hello. I am John. Me and Sam started the show four years ago after being, fun fact, dropped from another podcast. They dropped Forever Rude the Day. When they said they never cancel shows. They cancel our show. Gotta love it. So we said we'll be so we can never cancel ourselves. Let's go. And yeah, it's been guys, what a crazy ride it's been. And just thank you for not only supporting me and Sam and Riley and Sophia, but like all of the new hosts that are coming on to like, we appreciate you. These are our friends. These are our friends. Yeah. I mean, they hang around all the time. Whenever we throw a party, like all of them are here. All of them are kind of like in our ecosystem, which has been so awesome. And also like just so I mean, some of the OGs know, but back in the day when it was just John and I, we would record 12 hours in a room. We would get these Campbell noodle soup cans. We wouldn't even like heat them up. We would just like straight slurp it because we wanted to just create stuff. We were just like, I don't care about eating food. I just want like we just want to create stuff. And it's gone from like us recording in my apartment bedroom with my roommate Christian in the same room. We lived in the same room. If you look at the feet in the background, that is that is those are Christian's feet to an upgrade. John's room, John's office to then, you know, recording in a studio and a house to like traveling the world with the team going to Bali and record. I mean, it has really, it's grown, changed, and been like an amazing journey. But yeah, let's reintroduce everyone a little bit. Riley, how did you get involved in OK Storytime? Oh my gosh. I found them on TikTok, and it was like the funniest Reddit story, I thought. And then they were looking for interns, and I was a video editor. I thought one day in the shower, why not? Let's give it a shot. Rest of history, baby. After Riley, we had Sophia join. Oh yeah. Who unfortunately is not here with us anymore. Rats. because she's in guatemala taking her first vacation in like ages but like sophia was like the first like host besides riley that that really um really started to like integrate into the team and through sophia we actually met a bunch of the other hosts uh which we'll talk about in a little bit but should we bring in the next host keon and christian are very good friends from college i I blame Christian for all of this. Christian who still has not made an appearance. I'm the one who introduced Christian to partying in college. Yeah, and boy, did you introduce him. Beer Olympics, I think, was one of the first times we really deeply connected. Yes, truly. Honestly, it's a bonding experience, and I can't say thank you enough that Sam, John, and Riley were like, Hey, we want people to come on here and test the waters. I'm like, me, out of all people? I'm just a silly guy. And that is what we want. We need silly gooses. Yes. And then you introduced us to someone who would become very important on the show, too. Another silly, goofy guy. Yep. Let's get Dakota. Come on in. Dakota. It's the red, Jerry. Wait, so Dakota, how did you get into the mix of all this? It started when I met Keon at the age of 19, and it crescendoed into Keon being like, yo, these guys are looking for a host. Do you think you want to do that? And I was like, actually, I was like, yeah, let me see what it's like. Let me just go. I'll go watch. And then the day that I came to watch, right? I was just like, you want to do one? I was just like, just do it. Never had met Sophia before, sat down and just like immediately vibed out. And that was fun. I think I might have met you at a Beer Olympics. You met me on a Beer Olympics. I think I might have met you. It's hard at Beer Olympics to remember anything, honestly. And we didn't want to stop there. No. How could we? Angie, come on in. Girlfriend one. Girlfriend. Girlfriend. But yeah, how did you get involved in all this? Okay, so I started dating Riley. It all starts there. And then, yeah, we were dating for a while before I even was comfortable with him saying my name on the show. And then he just begged me to be on the show. I was just always like, oh my gosh, Angie, I want to work with you so bad. And I was like, fine, fine, I guess I'll come on. Angie has also not only been on camera, but also behind the scenes. That's true. Making us look absolutely dapper at events and such. Yeah. And also the character stream things. Right. Looking so great as Patrick and Spencer. Still, you making me Patrick is still one of the highlights of my life. It's a great costume. And then from Angie, did we get our second girlfriend? Yeah, I'm Carly. I feel like I got on the show As my last job ended And I was watching the show so much And then I think Riley hit me up one day And was like would you want to come in And just be on the show Instead of just watching it at home I was like yeah let's do it And Carly was like in the comments Because like she was watching Keon And saying stuff Yeah Yeah I felt like I was in chat with all of you guys So it was so easy to just come on And talk to you guys here But it didn't stop there. Oh, no. Savannah, let's go. Come on in. Pop a squat. So actually, the first time I saw Savannah was on stage. Really? I think so. Can you say a little bit about how you got involved? I did a groundlings class with Sophia, my first ever groundlings class. I hated her. Didn't like her at all. Drama. Then my other friend, Greg, invited us into this group of sketch people who have done groundlings. And he's like, yeah, it's going to be like you and Sophie. And I'm like, what? But I didn't say anything because I was like, whatever. It'll be fine. Yeah, then we had a little heart to heart. She was going through a breakup at the time. Wait, this girl's actually so sweet. And then here I am. But we didn't stop there. No! We couldn't! We couldn't stop. Hey! Hey! Vincent, how did you end up here? Like Savannah. I hated her. I hated her. She was the worst. No, she was actually, she was one of the most talented people in the class. So then we got together with Greg and Savannah and we started our sketch group. Yeah. And then I think Riley was the one who reached out and invited me to come on and check out the podcast. And it's been awesome ever since I started. Yeah. I've really enjoyed it. Yeah. And I feel like, you know, that is, you know, that is the crew as we know it today. I think we are constantly going to be changing and growing and doing more stuff, launching more shows, bringing more people into the mix. So it could look different from right now, you know, next year. But I think that is what we always love to bring to the show. We want to always bring new energy and always make things as like beautiful as it can be. And with that, I think we are going to go into an episode. And I'm going to start from the beginning just in case you guys forgot that one title that I read like 30 minutes ago. Let's do it. Three, two, one. My boyfriend kept dumping me because our zodiac signs are not compatible. What? Blurp, beep, blurp. This is slowly getting ridiculous. My boyfriend, 21 male of two years, has a female friend. Not allowed. Tell him, Angie. Oh, God, a female? They have been close since middle school, so she has been in his life more than most of his other friends. I guess this is why he listens to her and her opinions on a lot of what matters, including our own relationship, which I found out recently. Disgusting. No. You can't listen to a woman about your relationship when she's not in it. By the way, this comes from Throwaway Madam. And if you want to submit your own stories, go to the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Sam. I'm John. I'm Savannah. I'm Vincent. I'm Dakota. I'm Angie. I'm Keon. I'm Carly. I'm Riley. And also, I'm Sophia. I'm the closest. Sophia is here in spirit. We're all Sophia. I'm half of Sophia. And we're here to give good advice, Goofy. We don't have all the answers. So if you know what you would do, put it in the comments below. Something like that. And OP says, what is happening is that every time we've had a fight, he was going to her to vent about our problems. I was okay with this for a long time. Never really thought something would be wrong. They were friends for a long time. I trusted him and wasn jealous of their friendship But for a few months I noticed a sudden change in my boyfriend behavior after our fights Really quick what do we think about the idea of telling other people about your relationship fights I see that as kind of like emotional cheating. You hear that? Like, especially. No, no. Yes, I'm saying this girl obviously kind of likes him. So I'm not going to share with you problems I have with my girlfriend. That's something between me and my girlfriend that we need to figure out if I value my relationship with her. I think you should go to your partner first about problems. What if instead of liking you, I don't like you at all? And then you can talk to me about your relationship problems because I'll be like, dude, you all suck. You should all break up and move. All right. So then you can only tell your enemies your relationship problems. Yeah, I like that. And then take the opposite of your enemy's advice. Boom. There we go. Instead of trying to resolve things like we always do, he would get passive aggressive, ignore me for days, and throw around, maybe we should break up, Doug, quite often. Which doesn't give me a lot of confidence in this relationship. I guess if you're going to talk to me about stuff and I don't agree with you, I guess we have to break up. You break up. We got to break up. Sounds good to me. We got to break up. I was really surprised because our fights aren't that serious. For example, ever since we moved in together, we have this agreement that I'm cooking our meals and he cleans everything after. That's a great. Allie and I have that set up right now. It's great. I suck at cooking and I'm okay at cleaning. This man is so allergic to cooking. He gets strangers and his girlfriend to cook for him. Yeah, I need to pay her a hundred bucks though. For a week or so, he wouldn't no matter how many times I've asked because as he said, Leo's don't like to be pushed around. I'm a lion. Don't push me. What do we think about that? I think that's crazy. Wait, is anyone here a Leo? No, I'm not a Leo. No Leos? That's a cheap excuse. I don't like it. I don't like the excuse. I understand the Zodiacs, but you can't excuse. You can't make that the excuse, you know? Yeah, agreed. Every time we fight, he would say stupid crap like this. So I confronted him yesterday and asked, what has gotten into him? Apparently, his female friend has gotten into astrology and decided that we are not compatible because I'm a cancer. And he's a Leo. Well, you know what? Biologically, a crab and a lion cannot reproduce. Hey. That's true. That's true. As a cancer. Have you tested this hypothesis? I am a bug. I am the arthropod Scorpio man. So I can't do it either. I just am fated to be a bug man for the rest of my days. He then blamed our little fight on our signs incompatibility and told me that she's pretty spot on with her descriptions of our relationship. And he started to believe that we're not a good match. Let me guess who is a good match, though. The one telling him all this. The female friend. Let me guess why she's spot on, because he's been telling her everything. Yeah, and also, I think maybe he wants to be with her. I feel like I'm seeing a little bit of action going in that direction. A lot of people in the chat are saying, oh, yeah, I dated a Leo. That was an ex. They were all butts. Yeah. Can't trust a Leo, I guess. Anyway, OP continues. This is so stupid. I thought he was joking, but nope. Now I'm thinking if this is even something we're fighting for. I don't believe in astrology. I don't think it's the answer to all the problems that we face, but he's certain that it is because his female friend told him so. I was thinking about meeting up with her, but I don't know if I should, or maybe with both of them to see what the problem really is. Part of me doesn't want to throw away this relationship. Those were two good years before he started acting like an idiot. But another part of me is bewildered by the amount of stupidity of my boyfriend and his friend. There are some relevant comments and an update. But what do we think? Do we think that this relationship is worth pursuing? This is just the pitfall of listening to a woman who doesn't have your best interest at heart. Important caveat. Important caveat. My question is, where's the sit down between the two of them? You know, the sit down heart to heart that happens and then maybe explore. but like low-key, like who's the relationship really between? It's these two. I feel like it's turned into a little polycool. Yeah, exactly. Oh, God. But we got some relevant comments. So eat shitake. Shitake. Language. Language. I mean, eat shitake. Do you really want to be with someone so gullible and weak-minded? And OP responds, to be fair, he wasn't like that for a whole two years we've been together just recently. I'm thinking if there's something going on between them and this astrology BS is just a way to end things on their terms maybe. I think that is definitely what's happening. Yes. Convenient excuse. Yeah. Your fourth house of Jupiter is not in the correct alignment with my Mars sign and that means that we can't be together. Guacward Silence says it could be his way of finding an out if he's throwing around suggestions of breaking up during every fight and now he's using zodiac signs as a reason to break up Then he sounds like he's just looking for reasons to end it. He could very well have feelings for this girl, but even if he doesn't, it doesn't sound like he's a good boyfriend. I would leave and take that wizard Glick says, or maybe the friend wants to get with him and is manipulating him. He's pretty stupid to fall for it, especially like this, but still in Corona, take it away says, I was thinking the same. I wouldn't be surprised if the friend's sign is miraculously hyper compatible with OP's boyfriend. And there's an update. Two months later, before we get into the update, What are everyone's predictions? Again, this is two months later. What is everyone's predictions? Well, if we look at the stars and we look at where all the planets will be two months later, I think it'll mean they'll break up. Yeah. I'm going pregnant. Pregnant. Oh. Oh, I'll do that one too. Dang. That is a curveball. Pregnant would be crazy. And then what's the baby zodiac sign going to be? Oh, dang. If it's not compatible, you got to throw it into the woods. they're pregnant with twins and they're going to be Gemini's. And they're going to be star children. What do you think? I'm hoping that they break up and move on. I don't think it's going to work out. I understand where they're coming from though because I'm also kind of in the way. But not like... What do you mean? Astrology wise? I mean, I like astrology. I used to be really, really into it. What do you know? All of it? What do you mean? What can you tell us about it? Who's in charge of astrology? Who's in charge of it? Yeah, who sets the rules? The elders. The elders. The moon. The stars. Carly, what do you think? I think he's with the friend. Ooh, Kian? I was going to say, I guarantee you the friend said, it's in our alignment that you sleep with me and you cheat on your partner and you cheat on OP. Wow, we got an update two months later. So let's get into it. We are not good together anymore, which is a good thing, but we didn't break up right away. Pregnant. She got pregnant first. I ended up... Did you say she needs to get brain first? No, I said she got pregnant. Similar. I got you. I said that. That's enough. I ended up confronting my boyfriend about his friend, her input in our relationship, and him seeking validation from her. As many of you have guessed, there was much more to their friendship than I knew about. I'm not sure how far they went to this day, but to the people that were saying that they're using this whole Zodiac incompatibility as an excuse, you were right. I'm not happy until there's a baby. We took a break at first because when I decided that I wanted to end things on my own terms, my now ex-boyfriend switched the narrative. Did a little switcheroo. So surprisingly enough, he decided he's not ready to let me go and that he will cut out his friend if it meant we would stay together. And I was stupid enough to believe him. Me. So bad. You got to try. You got to be so accurate. One week later, I've decided that I will give my boyfriend another chance. We decided on new boundaries. We love boundaries. And everything was going smooth for two weeks. That's until I noticed that my boyfriend is being suspicious with his phone, taking it with him even when he's taking a bath. Good old bath phone. One time he forgot to mute his phone and I heard the Facebook messenger signal coming from the bathroom while he was supposedly taking a bath. I've never checked his phone before. Uh-oh. You know where we're going. You know where we're going. And I wasn't planning to. So I just asked him to show me his messages. I guess he was surprised because I never was the type to check what he's up to. So he got quite defensive, but I'm planning on getting up or sorry, giving up. I wasn't planning on giving up. Batten down the hatches. We had a whole argument about me not trusting him to which I agreed that I don't. And he should just show me his phone so we can be done with it. And he did. Guess what? I found out that he's still in contact with the astrology obsessed friend and their conversations aren't exactly friendly banter. I'm imagining like dirty talk But all in like zodiac Terminology I'm on the cusp Stuff my claw Me finding out Led to even more Of an argument In which my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me With his friend But he blamed it on being a cancer My friend you are a cancer Who called that? Keon called that. And him being a Leo again. And then proceeded to tell me that the only reason why he was fighting to stay with me because as a cancer, I'm very homely. And living with me is great. Come on. I don't like this guy. Homely is a crazy drop. Yeah. You're built for being at home and looking like you're a maid. Yeah, I'm very homely. If I keep my cancer wife to stay at home, then I can get my Scorpio side chick. Keep me interested. But I don't give him the thrill that his Sagittarius friend is giving him. There's another relevant update, but let's take a moment and discuss. Is your Zodiac sign an excuse to be a terrible person? Yes. Only if it's, you know, me. which is usually how people who really believe in astrology think there we go just yeah this is actually all for me and always has been savannah as someone who believes in astrology what do you think yes guys yes i don't think it's a good excuse to uh say like you know all of this is the reason for me doing this honestly it's just like who you are so it it the stars have a little bit to do like they do i think like they do kind of like go with personalities like i can see some of it but like i'm not gonna be like oh well i do this because i'm a sagittarius you know i have to it's just that's what describes me it's who i am the big dipper says cheat today on it but we got a little bit more to this story so yeah i kicked him out i'm on the lease anyways and when he tried to argue to let him stay for a few days until he finds his own apartment, I told him that as a cancer, I'm not sure I can control my emotions and won't unalive him in his sleep. Let's go. That's how my ex became my ex. What I've learned from this is avoid anyone who believes in astrology as a romantic partner to be more wary of my future partner's friendships as many things may not be what they seem. And that is where that story ends. Wow. Studio audience clap Studio audience clap Yeah! Beautiful Ow, ow, ow My absolute favorite thing to do to anyone who's like a devout, absolute believer in astrology being facts Is just asking, like, who's the one who made it? Like, who's in charge? Who interprets? Who's like, oh, that's what Scorpios are But who got the message from the stars? The stars tell you stuff It's like physics Who got the message from The new gravity I don't know Isaac Newton That guy has a name Isaac Newton interpreted from the stars He's just looking at Isaac Newton's basically an astrologer Whoa Let's Yeah see now this is exactly my point But that is where that story ends Everyone else is clearing out This is a John and Sam Ending episode Not ending But just We're going to end this episode with the boys But Everyone say goodbye and we'll see you in a little bit. Bye. Sam here, OG host. We're going to get back to these stories, but here's three minutes fads from our sponsors first. Almost 30 years together, four kids and some of reality TV's most unforgettable moments. We know a thing or two about living life out loud. We're taking you behind the scenes in our new podcast, Between Us. With me, Heather Dubrow. And me, Terry Dubrow. Between Us isn't about perfect lighting or curated Instagram grids. 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This Saturday, I was out in town with my boyfriend of nearly a year and a half and his friend celebrating his 23rd birthday evening was going well until at one point we bumped into my ex he was my first love oh and we were together for a few years dang that's some chemistry usually that's chemistry that's time it's all the wrong ingredients yeah yep that's rough by the way this comes from throwaway leads 12 and if you want to submit your own stories go to the r slash okay story time subreddit i'm john i'm sam i'm riley and we're here to give you good advice goofily and we don't have all the answers uh we only know what we do so let us know what you do in the comments but op says uh he was never happy with how we ended the ex was he was very wasted and began speaking inappropriately i will let your minds imagine what words were being said my boyfriend and his friends were into the pub and when we were outside of it and i spent two minutes talking to my ex before going back in my boyfriend seemed unbothered by the situation but mentioned that he was glad that he's gone. We stayed in the same pub for about another hour before moving off up the town towards another. We got to the other pub and my ex was there with his friend. Ex is trailing. He's trailing him. Ex, I feel like, just put a little find my friends tag on him. Oh, yeah, just... Yeah. Yeah. We get a drink and we're just chilling in the smoking area. My boyfriend was obviously a bit uncomfortable with how my ex was looking at me whilst we were chilling. also maybe by the fact that he followed you guys i'm also like seeing him go like from like across the way just like rubbing his hands like a little fly like i'm about to land on that girl give it like that you know oh yeah am i doing fly well get those oh no no no you got it yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah it's like it's like yeah that's a very sensual fly riley my goodness that's what they do dang fly's getting freaky but then add like three more legs whoa that's I mean maybe only two that's getting me too excited over here now at some point my ex wanders over and begins speaking inappropriately again and putting his hand on my back oh but what part of your back and was it with his fly his fly hands hands or you know you know three hands my boyfriend asked him to move along and my ex doesn't take this well. He shoves my boyfriend and hits him in the face. Well, that is definitely not taking it well. What is this guy doing? Bro, what is, where is, call the freaking bouncer. What's going on? My boyfriend seemed instantly enraged. I mean, yeah, this random dude is like petting your girlfriend like a fly and trying to mess you up. I would be enraged. The freaking wop suit. Yeah, that's fair. Now this scared me as I have not seen him like this before My boyfriend knocked him down I mean hey We never like physical violence Except right now No I mean like honestly Physical violence is never the answer But like oh man Sometimes it's just so sweet When you got it coming When you got it coming You get the come in That When you got it coming and it came You've been looking at too many flies, sir. When you're coming. Anyway, it's good. It's very good. Now, this is where I can see that I effed up big time. Once his friends pull my boyfriend back from the fight, I ran to my ex on the floor and was checking if he was okay. And wiping the red stuff from his nose, I sat there for maybe another 20 to 30 minutes, giving him a drink and checking him over. Once he was back up, he left him with the brethren bear. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. Wait, wait, wait. The girlfriend is spending 20 to 30 minutes with the guy that just got dropped. I got to give him a drink. The ex? Yeah. I got to pat him down with the steak on the eye, like a cartoon. What the heck? The guy that started this all. No. You leave with your mans. It was then that I looked around for my boyfriend, and I couldn't find him anywhere. Not only was she with him for 20, 30 minutes. 20 to 30 minutes. But she was so locked into him. Didn't even know. That to me is the most. Yeah. So my friend said he left with his friends almost as soon as I went towards my ex on the ground, apparently looking heartbroken. Yeah. I was meant to be staying at his place that night and I got a taxi back there, but there was no one home. It's been three days and I haven't even been able to get a hold of him. And I think she's still at his house. What's going on? I got a hold of his friend who said some pretty unpleasant stuff, but probably deserved. I feel as though I betrayed him on his birthday. It's his birthday? Bro. No, not his birthday. Oh, man. What a present, man. I feel terrible. I've been crying pretty much constantly since and don't know what I can do to make this up to him or to fix our relationship. I'd imagine probably nothing at this point. Well, we do have some relevant comments, but I'm going to ask for one extremely relevant comment from Samuel Donner on what your thoughts are. Okay. I mean, my thoughts right now. I mean, I feel like he shouldn't have punched the other guy. I think that was a move. I also feel like OP should have said something with the whole back thing. It feels like the boyfriend had to step in. And it's like, I feel, you know, I've been in situations where I've had like ex-partners be a little bit inappropriate with other people. And it's like, it's always like a whack move to be the boyfriend being like, step away from my girl. Like ideally your partner should say that. And if your partner says that, you enforce it, right? Yeah. And two, look, they arrive at the second location and they see him there. Why is it not like immediately OP going and being like, why did you follow me? Yeah. Yeah. I mean this guy is trying to create a scene or something And then to like You know Seeing if he's okay I think maybe for like 30 seconds Is okay Because you shouldn't Be punching people But like 30 minutes to the point where you forget Your boyfriend's even there and don't know where he is Like yeah I mean I feel like There was a couple sequences of op choosing her ex over her boyfriend's feelings throughout the night and maybe she wanted to feel a little back pat you know yeah and also too like it is like to an op's fairness what an incredibly awkward situation to be like it's never fun to be like go away like what are you doing here and like you know having to like really shut someone down especially when they're just continuing to bulldoze over your boundaries following you to a second freaking location but it's like at the yeah it's it's tell him to go away or you know it feels like she wasn't really putting out any boundaries yes I would like to see the other side of it because we're only getting OP side of it and it may be a little nicer you know was there any like body language or oh like you're saying like is OP hiding stuff about how she was interacting I feel like yeah could be I feel like potentially yeah how did he know where she was? Does she still share a location with them? That's actually great. Yeah. How did he know? Well, we got some relevant comments here. Dr. SDO says, could you clarify your reasoning for going to help the instigator of the violent act? Was it because you felt sorry for your ex or that you didn't like how violent it became? Or was it because you didn't want to see anyone hurt physically, ex or otherwise? I think you can take some time to reflect on this and try to communicate clearly on why you did your action and let your partner have agency in what to do next. That's, I like that. Whether or not he lets this go or breaks up with you, this should be his decision. On a separate note, I hope you will be well soon and lean on support from family and friends during this tough time. Edit, my apologies, but I could have clarified I didn't mean for this post to diminish OP's actions, but we can both be empathetic and critical of her actions at the same time. I'm sure in some way she's posting to vent her own frustrations at the situation, and I doubt that piling on would be any more useful. Hope that clears things up, and I wish people well. And Opie responds, spoiler alert, this was downvoted. Let's see why. Oh. Opie says, initially it was just instinct really. He was injured whereas my boyfriend was physically fine which again, I think is fair like the kind of reaction. My boyfriend is much bigger and my ex was rather wasted but then I stayed a little longer because I felt sorry for him. A lot of people saw and a fair few were laughing. I can see now how it was a mistake but in the heat of the moment, I'm not really sure what came over me yeah i mean sometimes you make a mistake that ends a relationship yeah it is it what i i it wasn't like this is not like the worst thing that she could do staying but it definitely i don't know it feels like you're not like rocking with your partner yeah exactly by default you know yeah you're you still have feelings or there's still something there with the ex yeah where your initial feeling is to go to them instead of your partner uh kelsey jade says he had his hand on her back so you guys are a lot nicer than me because i would kneel need bail money yeah i mean i think uh i think the thing that it sounds like is hand on back she didn't say anything the boyfriend had to go away i don't think she was like i don't think she was was was speaking up yeah it doesn't sound like it at least but ladies and gentlemen we have an update there's more to the story okay so just to clarify i am 100 sure i have no romantic feelings for my ex. I had been friends with him since we were little kids because our parents were friends. In the heat of the moment, whilst wasted, I went to help a longtime friend rather than my ex, if that makes sense. Are they still friends? I don't know if their friends like post this thing, but I... Were they friends in that moment? Like leading up to that? Like at post being exes, were they friends? It's a good question. It doesn't really... You know, longtime friend maybe complicates it a little bit. Yeah, family friends. Family friend complicates it a little bit. A lot of it, I'd say. yeah i feel like that's interesting context because growing up your family friends and the parents are like oh you guys would make a great couple you guys are so cute together and then they dated i read recently that if you grow up with someone between the ages of like seven and eleven you have a way less uh chance of being actually attracted to them so like because it's it's meant as like a defense mechanism against like like being too intentional but like uh and but if you're like if your parents are always like oh you should get together with blah blah blah and they're always making them hang out between like those ages they won't be interested in each other interesting the science of not doing what sam just said censored opie says i know that is no excuse and doesn't change the situation but i just thought i'd let you know i went by his house again earlier and have written what i could below please know that i am not after sympathy or any advice at this stage, I'm just giving the update. I came around to my boyfriend's house a couple of hours ago. When he answered the door, he looked utterly defeated. I almost started crying the moment I saw him like that. He invited me inside and we sat down on the sofa. He'd been drinking and watching a film, which was still playing in the background. We sat on the sofa for a while in silence. I wasn't even sure where to start. After a while, he just asked why I did that to him. Through tears, I explained that at the time, I viewed helping my ex merely as helping a longtime friend and not my ex i was scared and shocked about the situation i never meant to hurt him so much and i feel terrible about it i apologize profusely okay are we giving her a second chance i mean the the family friend thing i would love to know from you guys like does the family friend thing complicate it uh i'm curious if you think so what do you think john I'm curious also more on OP and the current boyfriend's history too. And like, is this a one-time like weird lapse in judgment? Because it's not like stories where it's like, oh yeah, my boyfriend does X a million times. Should I break up with them? Like, is this a one-time thing in a total lapse of judgment? Perhaps? I don't know. I'm curious on how their whole dynamic looks. Yeah. Hmm. Yeah. I'm really curious if you guys what you guys think. Yes. Let us know in the comments. Type in the chat. But eventually after I asked him to please say something, he explained how I betrayed him and humiliated him in front of his friends when he was only trying to defend me. He asked me how I could do that to him. And although he tried to hide it by looking at the TV, I could see him crying, which is something I've never seen him do. Not looking good. Words can't even describe the way I felt in that moment. seeing what I had caused. I just wanted the ground to swallow me up. That is, I hope he's a pretty good writer. If anything, just, you know, take all that relationship into writing. But out of book, we talked for a while longer and he continued drinking heavily. I urged him to take it easy, but he ignored me. He explained how he still loved me, but still couldn't believe that I would do him like that. He said he's not sure that is something he can forgive i again apologized and begged for forgiveness saying i would do anything but he said he didn't want to talk about it anymore right now we have a little bit left of the story um but sam i've i've got someone i want to kick kick at you yeah kick me kick me i'm just like and look the boyfriend um at the end of the day everyone and the boyfriend included has every right to be like hey look this hurt me to such a level this is just what i feel and it's just not there for me anymore and i and i want to leave but i don't know like just him continuing to drink and i don't know there was something about that and it seems like he's also been locked up yeah in his house for days doing that i don't know i mean like obviously like this coping mechanism isn't great but i don't think that makes him like at fault for anything yeah other than being self-destructive yeah i don't think i don't think they're do you think they're gonna make it we're almost at the end of the story I don't think so. I don't think so. Lucy P says, I don't think these two should be together. He's not okay with her still having her ex in her life. And this drinking and crying thing doesn't sit well with me. I mean, I don't know, man. He's hurt. He's hurt. Yeah, he's hurt. I feel like that is not completely fair. But I will say to that comment. It is self-destructive, though. And there is I think just a big misalignment happening which is like this seems to be for OP boyfriend like the line in the sand which I mean look at the end of the day if you got a line in the sand that a line in the sand It's your sand castle. You know? So, exactly. And sometimes there's a rowdy kid that just comes up and just stamps all over it. Stamps it. So, put your bets in now. Comment if you think they're going to stay together or not. I say no. I think Sam says no as well. Yeah, I say no. What do you say, Riley? It's a little bit in me that they may stay together. Ooh, wild card. But this is the only second chance. This is it. This is it. Just one. Just one. Okay, we'll see if they get it. Opie says, we continued watching the film, and both of us cried a bit more. A short time later, he fell asleep next to me. He's currently asleep on my chest. What the heck? What the heck? No. No, part of me wants to think that maybe he's willing to forgive me. But deep down, I just think he's just sleeping like this subconsciously. Whilst I hope we can work through this, I completely understand if he is unable to forgive me. I love this boy dearly and can't believe I broke his heart like this. Honestly, I don't know what's next. I guess only time will tell. We'll have to speak more about this when he's sober. But as you've all pointed out, it's probably over. But ladies and gentlemen, this story isn't over because we have an update number two. They definitely got back together. There's another update, right? He slept on her. Like, come on. If you're if you slept on her chest to come on, I'm doubling down on. No, actually, I'm I'm I'm moving over more to Riley. OK, you know, OK, dude, if you're mad at your partner, like you're not going to want to sleep on their chest. Yeah. Yeah, dude, you might sleep on their lap, but not their chest, not their chest, dude. Not the two glorious pillows. Yeah. That's what? What's what, John? The place to be. Built-in pillows. You know what I mean? It's just a comfortability thing. You can't argue with that. Anyways, we've got an update number two. I feel like the thighs might be also. I feel like that's a little bit more comfy. It depends on the built-in pillows. Sometimes the bum is like, it really just depends on the manufacturer. Yeah. Yeah. on the brand i guess yeah all right well question really quick yes please do you sleep like this or do you sleep like this oh wow see i was thinking head sideways down on one down on just on one because then why i wish to form your face like memory foam but why not like i feel like if you go in the middle they your head is like supportive that is true i'm doing in the middle but face first. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the correct answer. Let's go. Oh, baby. Okay. Let's see. Let's see what happens. Update number two. We had breakfast this morning. Then he told me to leave again and go no contact with him. Whoa. Dude, I got whiplash. I did too. Who cooked it though? Man just bounced off those milkshakers. But I want to know who cooked it. Did he cook it or did she cook it and said, go no contact? Oh, he ate a full meal. I was like, that was delicious. She's literally sitting there while she's eating a pancake. Just like finished. So I can tell you. He said it was unforgivable, which is fair enough. Not exactly unexpected. Yeah. I mean, I think we called it. We called it. I was hopeful just for the drama that they would get back together. Sure, okay. Just for the drama. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it makes sense. But that's it, ladies and gentlemen. That's it. That's literally all she wrote. And we got one more story for this episode. Are you ready to jump in? Let's dive in, Daddy. This is an r slash OK Storytime subreddit original. Family. This is from the fam. Hey, it's John, OG host. We're going to get back to the stories, but a quick three-minute break of ads from our sponsors. Almost 30 years together, four kids, and some of reality TV's most unforgettable moments, we know a thing or two about living life out loud. We're taking you behind the scenes in our new podcast, Between Us, with me, Heather Dubrow. And me, Terry Dubrow. Between Us isn't about perfect lighting or curated Instagram grids. 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And in the beginning, I was accepting of him. After all, they've known each other for ages. It's not the physical part I was actually worried about. I'm in fact pretty sure they haven't physically been together, most because she's much younger and way out of his league. My problem was that I would always come second. If she asked him to do something, he would change his plans for her. Sometimes it's, yeah, okay, that's, yeah. If she needed to share something, he would immediately go. He would wake up and check if she had texted him. He would take care of her pets, which is fine, but not mine. They would text all the time. I haven't checked his phone ever, but he has shown me the messages. Nothing was really spicy related, but the general tone was, I want this. And he would oblige. I want what? He would suggest helping her with everything without her asking. And she was a constant presence at his place. We only spent weekends together, but at least one of those two nights, she would be invited for dinner or we would be at her place. We would also spend some week evenings alone. After a year and a half, he was completely dismissing the idea that we could ever live together. I didn't press. I just mentioned that someday I wanted it to happen, which seems like a normal thing to plan. I feel like that's normal. The moment I said this, it made him feel uncomfortable. He became extremely defensive. I was literally shocked. I had never seen him so upset. She was going through something at the time, and he told me, Now I can't even help my friend because of your insecurity. I promise I did not scream or shout or anything like that. A month passed. I got really angry for another reason and brought this back up. During that whole month, I feel like we should understand why you got angry. I got angry for another reason and then just brought back up the old flames. Which to really quickly say, like, not to say like, oh, yell at your partner and stuff, but like, it's okay to get angry at a thing that causes anger and frustration. Yeah, as long as it's not directed at people, or at least it's contained a little bit. During that whole month, he was very cold to me and didn't want to talk. I'm a person who talks things over. If I have a problem, I just say it. So I literally had a meltdown. I was so upset. His point of view is that I don't listen to him. I just twist things. But if he wouldn't talk to me, I fill in the blanks. I'm a big time overthinker and he knows this. The not listening is me forgetting things he has told me or sometimes not paying attention to details, which I admit is true. Seeing some red flags here. Yeah, it's not that I don't listen. I just don't listen. Tune you out, yeah. I rarely pay attention to details and forget things. Anyway, we did try to fix things, but apparently he had enough and broke it off. He accused me of being self-centered and called me toxic. I honestly have no problem with anyone having female or male friends. It wasn't that. To me, he was emotionally cheating on me, which hurts. I feel like if he's sharing problems about your relationship to the partner, I would say that would be emotional cheating. Or if he's investing in that person more than you. Yeah, because if she's like, I always come second. Like if something's happening, like I'm like I'm supposed to be relationship wise, like your top priority. Like that just that just sucks. Yeah, you should. That should be your top priority. Instead of getting reassurance, I got accusations. There's another relevant update. But John, what do you think about the situation? Are you seeing red flags on either side? what do you think yeah like it sounds like she does so it's like it's not that i don't listen i just don't listen uh hey maybe this is an arcade uh this is an okay story time fan member so maybe there just was an okay story exactly you know hey in that case completely acceptable um but and then what was the other thing uh that he said yeah i was like he just broke it off toxic self-centered i mean again this is an okay okay fan member here so i i don't know if i would jump exactly to that just off of what we know here. But yeah, it just, it seems like there's a misalignment. And again, it would just suck to be in a relationship and always feel like, man, there's someone constantly being prioritized over that. It just doesn't feel good. It doesn't feel good. And Ronan K, Ronan Q, says something interesting. Dude, it's turtlenecking, pretending to be a BFF because he got friend zoned. OP is right to get out of there. Gotta prioritize your partner. I think that's, I could totally see that being a thing. Yeah, because I feel like his response should be like, okay, man, let me really sit and think if I am maybe over prioritizing versus just like, you're toxic. I don't know. It's very like attack. Exactly. Yeah. But we got a little bit more to the story. So I discussed this with my therapist, which my ex doesn't believe exists because his therapist apparently told him, you put yourself in this situation. You need to deal with it. Well, mine said this person is definitely more attached to his friend than he is to you. My ex doesn't believe any therapist would say that. I actually think we've been telling very different stories and he thinks I'm twisting things and overreacting. Why would I do that? I don't know. It's not like I wanted to feel this way. I'm sorry. This is long, but I just need to know if this was just my insecurity or if there is something else here. The relationship is over. So the only thing I'm after is closure. Yeah, I mean, I think I don't think you were perfect in this story by any means. Right. Like I think like like the bringing up this fight when another fight happens, like I don't think it's a good idea. the not listening, not great. But that doesn't mean the problems in your relationship are not real. And I think it seems like what your therapist said is right. I think he is attached to this girl more than he is you. The thing about her being out of his league, I think it might be the turtlenecking thing where it's like he's interested in her and because she's like, nah, he'll just be BFF, but he always has feelings, which is why he's prioritizing her over you. Which is not good. Not a move. Not a move. But that is where this story and this episode ends. There it is. So we'll see you around. There will be other episodes with Sam and John. But again, we're mostly going to be doing a lot of the behind the scenes work. Expanding this podcast. 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