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I-21 female had an EMG this morning. It's a test where they use little needles and electrodes to check how your nerves and muscles work. It's already a vulnerable situation since you're laying down in a cold room in a backless gown and can't really leave in the middle. On top of that have anxiety as well and i didn't bring anyone to the appointment with me like i usually do the nurse who was doing the first part of the test the electros part because the actual doctor does the needles made me really uncomfortable he kept flirting and asking me out even though i tried to shut it down just a few of his comments are listed here i couldn't remember them all after the fact he said i'm also a personal trainer maybe i can help you stretch sometime he said am i charming you? Am I making you nervous? He said, I want to show you around the city. Maybe we could get together and find a nice spot. He also said, can I get your number? You're so beautiful. He said, you have such a beautiful skin complexion. Canubian or Egyptian? Where are you from? He said, why don't you date? Why are you single? He said, I want to take you driving. Then Opie said, when I explained I'm happy single and don't want to casually date for religious reasons. He said, you never know. Maybe if you find the right person, I'd love to show you around. Opie continues, he also commented on old scars on my arm. They're clearly old self-harm scars. Literally no other medical professional has ever brought them up, not even a neurologist that came in right after him. So that felt like he was violating my privacy. At some points he even held onto my arm in a way that made me really uncomfortable. For context, I've never had a boyfriend, never even held hands with anyone, and I've never even gotten male attention until recently. I also have really bad anxiety, and during the appointment I kind of shut down and couldn't think straight. He was clearly older than me, and I felt really vulnerable the whole time. I tried to redirect the conversation, but he kept pushing. At the end, he asked for my Instagram. i said i don't really use it but he kept at me you don't want to go on a date so at least give me that much you should hit me up sometime so i gave him my public account and blocked him as soon as i got into my car i felt so nauseous and guilty sitting in my car especially because i kept engaging with him and responding to his questions i feel like i should have said something about how he was making me feel weird or ask for another nurse or even complain to the doctor but i didn't know what to do. I feel like I should have stood up for myself but on the other hand I couldn't even think straight and I was so panicky. Now on one hand this felt super unprofessional, inappropriate and unethical. I don't want other people to be put in that position. On the other hand I feel bad about potentially affecting his income and job especially with how things are in the economy right now and I'm also worried about the possibility that he has access to and can see all of my medical information and personal info. I have no idea what to do and I'd really like some input or advice from someone who works in the field or has experience with this before. Sorry if this is not nicely written or is kind of repetitive. I literally just got home and I hurried to come post this ASAP. Absolutely not the arsehole for reporting this at all. If he's willing to do this to you, he's willing to do this to anyone and it would be a consequence of his own actions i mean put yourself in his position would you choose to do that it's such a weird thing to do and it's not just like flirting is a huge abuse of power i mean you're in a medical setting partially undressed connected to equipment i assume mid procedure you couldn't leave and quite frankly his job and income is not your responsibility it's his behavior that cost him his job nothing else. Commenter says report them. Another commenter says OP you should definitely report. This is completely inappropriate. Here's where to report and then shares a link. EMG techs are not nurses so it's not the board of nursing. The link is to their certifying body. OP says thank you. This was a really big help. I just assumed that he was a nurse but it's good to know what his actual job title is. Another commenter says not the asshole. It's incredibly unprofessional that he was hitting on you and asking you personal questions about your scars while working as a healthcare provider. Reporting him is the right move so that he doesn't do it to other patients. Another commenter says based on what he was doing I be surprised if he was a nurse Sounds more like a procedure tech or assistant As a registered nurse I quick to point out that not everyone in healthcare is a nurse i would ask for caution in categorizing as such yes he sounds like a jerk and definitely needs to be reported and followed up on another commenter says report him immediately he didn't feel concerned about risking his job to harass you repeatedly you should feel safe and secure in your doctor's office opiates a first little update and says thank you for all your comments i really appreciate the advice as well as the support i sent an official complaint to their hr office and i'm on hold with a patient advocate right now i really hope that they can make it so that guy can never do this again to anyone someone in the comments said to see if i can report them to the state board so i'm going to do that next thank you then op adds their final update and says okay so this got a lot bigger than i expected i usually just lurk on here but i just want to say thank you again to all your advice and reading through all your comments has made me feel a whole lot better also thank you to everyone who corrected me it turns out he is an emg tech not a nurse good news though they identified him and have a meeting tomorrow with the director of patient services for that facility to discuss the matter further and i'm also going to be reporting him to the abem like one of you suggested have a good night everyone and stay safe and fair play for op for reporting this because that's absolutely wild it's just like i i just can't help but try and put myself in his shoes you're sitting there you know you're working with someone who probably feels pretty vulnerable in that situation you start with that shit it's just such a wild thought process and i've got a little bit of waffle for you it's not the same as this story it's just like some of the procedures i've had recently I think I've told this before but but just to reiterate it's not the same as what OP's gone through at all but a month or two ago I was officially diagnosed with IBS after going through various tests for a couple of years and one of the tests was obviously having the older the old butt camera colonoscopy and that's the last time I'm going to say it because I absolutely butcher that word but it was such a strange experience I was expecting to go into a doctor's office and you know just one doctor there and you know here a little little probe around you know I had to go into this like prepping room first where they give me some little paper pants with a little butt flap on the back and then they called me into this room and I walked into this this room and it's it's like a bloody it was almost like a proper surgery theater that you see in the movies like there was eight people around they had a bed there they're massive lights going on a big 50 inch flat screen so I could watch what's going on I won't go into too much detail but the procedure starts after the doctor introduced himself and you know I could see what I could see what's happening on this screen and obviously the doctor's trying to make me feel at ease he's talking to me about my job and stuff and like I say to a lot of people I just do video editing and the brother jumps on that he starts talking about video editing and you know how to put a video together and at this moment I'm just laying there and I'm just sort of turning around to him like thinking at the same time mate I can see the inside of my arsehole right now last thing I want to be talking about is video editing it's such a weird situation but all in all they were absolutely lovely people and dealt with it really nice you know especially when you are feeling that vulnerable in that situation they are really really nice and personally I didn't find the procedure as bad as I thought it was going to be obviously that's gonna be different for different people but they took me out after got me onto another bed and gave me tea and biscuits that's fantastic not just any biscuits either they had biscoff but anyway i'm going off on one as usual what do you guys make of this one let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story now our next story it comes from crunchywin93 and just to give you a warning before we do get into the story it contains talk of domestic assault verbal abuse past traumas and pregnancy loss as well so if you do want to skip the story please feel free to do so timestamps are always down in the description along the timeline below thank you it starts yesterday i32 female woke up made my partner of six months 31 male and i breakfast we were having a great morning i ended up spilling most of the food on the floor but we laughed while cleaning it up and there was enough left in the pan to make him a plate totally fine i don't usually eat breakfast anyway the problem happened after he finished breakfast and took a shower once he came out of the shower i made a joke and he responded with a serious comment i replied that it was just a joke and i started laughing he completely turned defensive saying he wasn't in the mood for laughing he has had something on his mind and he needs me to provide proof he proceeded to demand i unblock my ex to send him a message proving that i wasn't still talking to my ex. I was suddenly sick. I didn't want to unblock my ex to open that can of worms so I held firm with a no I'm not going to do that. He started threatening to text my ex. Apparently he's gone through my blocked numbers and saved my ex's number for a rainy day. He started shaking because he was demanding I text him or my partner would cancel the lease and leave me. We just lost our pregnancy so I said what if I was still pregnant? He responded with, then I would be stuck. He was very intimidating with words and action, so I ended up unblocking my ex and messaging him, which my ex never responded. Reddit am I the asshole here or am I overreacting I feel like I should leave Physical aggression and intimidation is very triggering from previous trauma and I was terrified by how quickly his mood and actions changed Advice is greatly appreciated. Edit. The joke I made was about moving in with my female best friend when my partner goes on a 10-day cruise. She is married with two kids with no room to spare and my partner knows this within the same post opie adds an update and says so i did it after four hours i asked if i could block my ex again and he said yes later in the day i asked a friend if she had free time and we agreed to meet up after i told my partner i'd made plans for late afternoon with a friend he started screaming at me for spending time away from him on the weekend he started the physical aggression again punching the walls and throwing things and told me to get out he proceeded to lock me out i don't have a key to the deadbolt and neither does he but i heard him lock the door and then the deadbolt since he followed me out the door within seconds he then texts me run away and stay somewhere else but he literally just told me to get out and knows i have nowhere else to go all i wanted was to spend a few hours with a friend and get some clarity on our relationship hope he has another update in the same post and says he came home from work last night and took my phone so i started packing it wasn't long after that he came back and got physical with me he grabbed my hair and pulled me around and at one point slammed me to the ground i was able to get away and i ran to my landlord who then stepped in for a few minutes while he got his things and left the rent is paid through next month so as long as i keep the dead bolt locked he can't come in i'll update further as i am able so on the back of this people were send to op that can she leave and op says i recently lost my employment so i'm in a rough spot the other commenter says leave yesterday sane people don't act like abusers on the flip of a switch when someone shows you who they are believe them op says yes we had a great relationship prior to dating i feel like our friendship has vanished since he broke up with his female best friend not my request but i think he finally realized that the married woman he was best friends was emotionally cheating on her husband with my partner firstly he was also emotionally cheating on me i never said anything though he came to that conclusion himself someone asked can opie move in with her parents and opie says i'm no contact with my parents and says i don't have family the commenter says the insane behavior is that she already lives with him and has already lost a pregnancy with him and already knows he was emotionally cheating on her with a married woman and now she's on reddit not knowing what to do she's as messed up as him just in a different way opie says we moved in together with joint funds but have since lost my employment someone says does opie have kids with her partner and opie says no kids involved yet another commenter says why are you still staying at a place where he knows you will be the best thing you can do now is to take your stuff and leave asap ask a family member that you can stay with them you need to get yourself as far as possible from this guy. Locking yourself in the apartment is risky and he can wait for you outside. OP replies saying he took the keys to my car so I have no way of leaving. Someone says is OP living with her partner and OP says correct for a few weeks now. And one more comment that said the partner could be cheating while on the cruise and OP says I'm not paranoid about the cruise. Of course anything could happen. He had every opportunity to invite me and receive the green light from his family and friends but refused to extend the invite to me and that is an absolutely terrifying situation and one that sounds like op needs to be out of there like yesterday like some of the comments were saying went from having a great morning to then having to prove her loyalty through her ex threatening to leave op homeless and escalated to screaming punching walls and kicking you out for what wanting to see a friend then he physically assaulted you you know it's just escalating behavior and then took car keys to trap you as well it's get out of that situation asap and don't let him know where you are but op has a couple of updates on this one the first one said i just want to thank you all for taking the time to read my posts and follow the updates your support kindness and encouragement mean so much to me i'm so grateful for this community Here's the link to the first post, then shares the link. I'm still in the apartment for now, since I don't have anywhere else to go. Yesterday morning, he came in unexpectedly. Turns out he had the key to the front door I didn't know about. He ranted for about an hour while I stayed as quiet as possible. Even without me responding, he was escalating. So I recorded the entire exchange on my phone just in case. Eventually, he calmed down and tried to convince me that we could fix this. He said if he created one more fake scenario in his mind and demanded I prove it wasn't true, then we could finally be done. I told him I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life fighting with his imaginary thoughts. He left behind a large piece of furniture that he planned to pick up later. Later that afternoon, he came back in a completely different mood, eager to make things work. He touched my arm and I asked him to stop. He asked if I wanted him to leave and i said yes but he stayed for several more hours asking questions about how we could fix things i treaded lightly so as not to anger him while still standing my ground i told him there's nothing left to work on except ourselves separately before leaving with the rest of his belongings he asked for a hug and said he wouldn't be back i gave him one last hug and he left commenter says to this one time to put a bolt on the inside of the door and keep it in place whenever at home Your ex is apparently more than a little unstable Another commenter says Stick to your guns, you did the right thing. Good on you and just look to the future for a better life. It's out there. Another commenter says, Girlie, why are you by yourself in the apartment you both shared? Like I feel like it's a no-brainer that he would be able to have a key to your shared apartment. He could have done way worse. But other than that, glad he left and make sure you change your locks and have someone with you until that is fixed. Another commenter says, go to the police and get a restraining order. This man is clearly not rowing with both oars. He could seriously hurt you in his delusional state. And OP adds another update, which was their final update, they said. They said, good morning, everyone. I wanted to take a moment to share what I hope will be the final update to my original post. thanks so much for the support and guidance a landlord has changed the locks installed cameras and updated the lease so i'm now the only tenant they've also given me a safer parking area that's under surveillance which brings me some peace of mind a police report has been filed to keep record of what happened and i've started counseling sessions to begin healing i truly appreciate all the kindness and encouragement i've received it's made such a difference during this time thank goodness something is happening in this situation and the landlord actually caring and and changing those locks and installing cameras and all that sort of good stuff but there's always part of me after stories like this that's always incredibly worried still just because of the escalation so quickly we saw in this story from you know like they were saying that they were laughing while cleaning up breakfast then went to an abusive situation really quickly when someone escalates like that i'm always thinking what else are they capable of but what do you guys make of this situation let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and let's move on to another story now our next story is going to come from the am i overreacting subreddit from ad debate who says am i overreacting for asking my parents to leave after my mom grabbed my wife's belly and asked if she was pregnant. My 29 male, beautiful wife, 30 female, had gained a significant amount of weight after our wedding. I think she's gorgeous, but she's insecure about how she looks now. My mom, 49 female, and dad, 53 male, had bought a house that is an hour drive from us. The four of us were supposed to have a lovely dinner at my home. My parents had arrived early and my wife hadn't changed out of her cooking clothes. She was wearing this tight t-shirt. My mom saw my wife. My mom grabbed my wife's belly and asked my wife if she was pregnant. My wife said no, that she's just getting fat. I didn't want a massive argument so I rushed my parents out, basically telling them that we have to reschedule. Congratulations on the new house and we'll save them some food. I then assured my wife as she started to cry. Several days later, I talked to my parents by myself. My mom said that she had made a mistake, but I had taken it too far by asking them to leave. I basically explained that I only seen that evening getting worse. My dad said that by not allowing my mom to apologize on that day, that I made them seem like jerks to my wife. I told my parents my mom can apologize now, but my parents says that now it will seem to my wife that they're apologizing because I told them to. Am I overreacting? Technical says not overreacting. you did not stop them from apologizing the same day they could have texted they could have graciously left and apologized as they were getting their shoes on there is no legitimate reason not to apologize now i've been asked if i was pregnant when i wasn't actually many people assumed i was when i was postpartum it's humiliating and so so hurtful you did the right thing by kicking them out and comforting your wife coke zero climax says dude not the arsehole. Protecting your wife's feelings is priority number one, especially when the rents cross the line. It's a touchy subject for most peeps, let alone someone already dealing with insecurities. Your mom's oopsie may not have been malicious, but it was hella thoughtless. Maybe with some time, a genuine apology might smooth things over, but right now, standing by your wife is where it's at. Chin up, man. You did good. Celestial Ducky says not overreacting. Not allowing your parents to apologize on the spot isn't what makes them look like arseholes. Your mum immediately grabbing your wife's body and asking if she's pregnant is what makes them arseholes. You did great. Don't take responsibility for the consequences of their own actions. And for me, absolutely with the comments on this situation. Your mum's actions caused the issue. That's where it started. She shouldn't have put her hands on someone and commented on their body like that. You knew how much it was gonna upset your wife so you immediately protected her rather than letting your parents make that situation any worse but what about you guys what do you make of this situation maybe you have a different opinion on the matter let us know your thoughts down in the comments below and just a huge thank you for being here today getting involved in the stories your love your support your time it always means the absolute world to me so thank you so so much for being here and hopefully i'll see you in the next one take care and much love Thank you.