FEELING THINGS: Meeting Ourselves Where We Are (F-Bombs and Feelings)

This is an iHeart podcast. Guaranteed human. One, two, three. Hey, all right, let's break it down. If you ever have feelings that you just want some, maybe a cat got you covered like an umbrella. Ladies and fellas, we just follow in the spirit, where it's all of us. From the real stuff to the chill stuff and the in between. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop and feel things. This is Feeling Things with Amy and Kat. Oh, yeah. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy. And I'm Kat. And we have some things super fun in store for y'all today. We don't actually even know what episode you're going to hear. Producer Houston is going to be picking it out. But Kat and I are here at the beginning, giving a little intro and a little peek behind the curtain of, well, we're dealing with an ice storm here in Nashville. I'm sure you have heard a lot of you live here. So you may be experiencing this. You're not even listening right now because you don't have internet. You don't have power. You don't have anything. Or maybe you're charging your phone in your car and you are listening because a lot of people have been warming up in their cars. I know that that was the warmest place for me for a while. I still don't have power. Kat, on the other hand, not to brag, but she has had power the entire time. Our power never went out. But I did lose internet for an hour, remember? She did lose internet for an hour. It was really difficult. Crying times. Cry. Yeah. So Kat and I literally just connected. She's at her house. I'm staying at a friend's house. I was roughing it at my house with no power for a few days. And then finally, my son was like, mom, I'm cold. And the fun and games were over because we were having fun, acting like we were living in the 1800s, my candlelight, keeping warm by the fire. But the novelty wore off. And so we left and grabbed the pets. And sometimes you'll hear us talk about Shannon in the podcast. We came to her house. Shout out. Shannon saved the day. We got dog, cat, kid. The kids were here. We're doing the dang thing. And Kat and I linked up on Zoom since my house studio is not an option. And we recorded an entire episode. We're not going to give you the details of it because next week, when we're able to meet together in person or whenever my power comes back, we're going to do that episode again. And it's just going to be even better. But I felt like it was pretty good. Yeah, but you've taught me whenever that happens, it's because it was supposed to happen. And that episode was not meant to be heard in that way. Here's my thoughts on that. The content of the episode, I loved. It was our connection was bad because even right now, we're on a different connection. And there's no delay. Oh, really? No delay. Everything's fine. So we had that 45-minute-long episode where I think the delay would have been painful. Yeah. We would have been more like, hey, happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy. Pause, pause, pause. And I'm Kat. OK, so that episode could be better. And so we're going to make it better. We're going to make it better. So we're going to save the contents of that because Kat and I are honestly, we're out of time. I've got to cook dinner. Kat has to be somewhere. And Houston, our producer and editor, he is boarding a ship. Literally boarding a ship. He's going on a vacation. And he's trying to get some stuff done. And the funny thing is, is Kat and I have been working for about two weeks to get ahead because we knew Houston was going on vacation. And we were so on to deliver. And on Monday, we were going to send them these files. And on Monday, it was kind of funny about Monday. And so I was like, OK, we're probably going to get power back tonight or maybe on Tuesday. And now here we are. It's Friday. My neighborhood is not thinking they're going to have power until next week. But we're making the most of it. It is what it is. And Houston, this part isn't really for our listeners, but we're leaving. And in here, we're really sorry that we failed you. And to our listeners, I guess this is an example of right when the computer shut down and I knew we were going to lose the audio. That's what happened. The computer died. And then Zoom didn't record it. Anyway, I was like, OK, I'm going to cry. Because we had just put all this work into it because even a couch talks episode, it wasn't just feeling things. It was couch talks too. And then about two seconds after that, I was like, I think that this is what's meant to be. Is we're supposed to air a best of. And Houston's going to figure out what that's going to be. I think Kat said something like, what do you say when I called you? You were like, is the Lord trying to tell us something? I said, is God trying to say something about what we just recorded? I don't know. But then you're like, I mean, no, I'm feeling good about this. I'm taking this as like, this is what needs to happen. So you had a good attitude. I was kind of nervous of like, oh, I don't want you to be mad at yourself because the computer died. Well, yeah, because I should have plugged it in. Are you making me a that? It wasn't your computer. So it's can't be. To be fair, I was on Shannon's computer. And then I was like, shoot, where's the charger? And we had been recording for way longer than we thought we were going to. So I didn't I didn't anticipate the battery dying. But now it all makes sense. And so the little nugget we'll leave you with is I went from, oh, shoot, I'm going to cry to, oh, no, duh. This episode needs to be redone with proper microphones, Kat and I being in person because I did like the content. And you know what I think we should do, though? Just a little gift before Houston throws in the best of. She'd reread that nugget of an email that we had for couch talks. Let's just read it. Let's give people the way the first one that we read. Uh-huh. The first one. Yeah. OK, yeah. That might it might brighten your day as much as it brightened ours. Yeah. And also it might explain why if after this, if you quit listening, we understand. You know, if you're like, these girls are going to get it together. So this is from a listener. We decided that she didn't ask to be anonymous, but we're not using her name. We're just going to use her initials. So this is from MJ. I know this isn't an airport and I don't have to announce my departure. But I'm done. You used to have important issues and interesting topics and guests. Today, I had to hear stupid jokes about Snoop Dogg, what you eat at Chick-fil-A, and where Kat buys t-shirts. And that in 2019, you got a waffle maker. Worst podcast. And the constant giggling is obnoxious. It's so sad that you get paid for this content. And then she signed her name. The most wild part about that email is that she signed her full name and she did not ask to be anonymous, which I imagine she probably didn't think we were going to read her email. But even if we did read it, she's not listening to hear it. So she'll never know. She'll never know. She'll never know. But that's a solid line. Like next time I'm leaving somewhere, I'm going to be like, I know this isn't an airport and I don't have to announce my departure, but I'm leaving. I'm out of here. Like not even like I'm leaving in a bad way. Like she's like, I'm done. I'm not listening anymore. I'm just going to like tonight before I go to bed, maybe if we're watching something, I'm going to get up from the couch and be like, have you not seen people say that all over social media? Oh, is this a thing? Well, this is from my experience. Like you'll see that people say that when somebody is like, I'm on following you. And then people will be like, this isn't an airport. You don't need to announce your departure. Like just unfollow them. You don't have to tell them about it. Like nobody cares kind of thing. And so I do think it's interesting that she felt the need to send this email. Like just stop listening to us. Like that's okay. Yeah. Like if anybody after today has decided that they're going to stop listening, just go, just stop or you know, per this email and how she describes the content we had. I mean, I might stop listening to. But surely we offered more than a Snoop Dogg joke. Our Chick-fil-A orders, wear cat buys their t-shirts. And the fact that in 2019, I got a waffle maker. Hey, wait, you know what is crazy is last week I sent you because I was editing the video. I sent you a text. I was like, oh my gosh, this episode is so good. And this is the episode she's referring to where she's like, I'm out of here. Y'all. Maybe that was couch talks. I don't know, but I just remember last week being like, oh yeah, we're on it. That's funny. Well, hopefully we offered more than that because I understand why MJ departed if that's all we had to give her. And just know that coming up on the horizon, Kat has put together some helpful things that you can say when things are not going well to yourself, to others that are helpful. I really loved your list. And I know that it is meant to be heard. It's just not today. And this, you know, you're teasing people right now. So you're leaving them on a little cliffhanger. They're not going to be able to wait for that episode to come out. Yeah. You're going to listen and then we'll tell our stories. We've got, I've got a question that doesn't come up. Kat's feeling today. We have a word of the day. We have all kinds of things. And hopefully by then we'll also just be in a better space and back to some normalcy, because honestly, right now everything's just a little out of black. And I've really been living our mantra of have the day you need to have. Like the other day I cried three times and I was like, that's okay. I'm crying. I'm having the day that I need to have. And it was really sweet. And one of the moments I was huddling up on my fireplace to stay warm and the tears just started showing like coming down my face. And it wasn't dramatic, but my son was over on the couch doing something else. And I didn't even know that he would notice and he got up and he came over and sat by the fireplaces and put his arm around me. And I was thinking he was maybe even going to go to a friend's house that night. It's a night we decided to leave my house, but I didn't know yet that we were going to leave. If that makes sense, like that order of events was like I was upset about something else and the pressure of it all. I just started crying, but we were already making arrangements for him to maybe go somewhere at least. And then I would stay at home with the pets because the main reason why we were staying at home is the pets. It's hard to go places with a dog and a cat when people are kind to open their home to you. And you're like, oh, where can I put the litter box? But he came over and he put his arm around me and he was like, are you OK, mom? And I just said, oh, yeah, thank you. It's just processing a lot. I don't mind if my kids ever see me cry. But he he said, just, you know, I'm not leaving you. Like at that point, he's like, either we go somewhere together or we stay here together. Like you're not taking me to a friend's house. And I was like, that's making me tear up. Yeah, it was a moment. So I was like, OK, buddy, yeah, let's go pack our bags. We're going to Shannon's. I'll go with. Go grab the litter. So anyway, we are looking forward to some normalcy and I don't know when that will come back, but we are having the days that we need to have. Amen. Feeling all the feelings. And so wherever you are, whether you're impacted directly by the storm that swept across part of the country or you're impacted by other things going on in our country, have the day you need to have. It's heavy out there right now for several reasons. So I wish we had a new episode to give you some comfort and entertainment, but hopefully whatever best of Houston picks and pools will be exactly the episode that you maybe missed and you need to hear because you never heard it or that maybe you need to hear again because you'll pick up extra little nugget like a Chick-fil-A nugget. That's your order that when you go to Chick-fil-A, we wouldn't want to talk about that. Yeah, like whoever talked about their Chick-fil-A order, that's so boring. I'm going to blame that. Fire them who would get paid for that content. Anyway, we appreciate you all so much. Thank you even you MJ, if you're listening. Although you're probably not, but we do appreciate you nonetheless. Nonetheless, nonetheless. All right. In the meantime, check out our old videos on Instagram and YouTube, Feeling Things podcast, and we will be back whenever we can be back. Sweet. Yeah, you like that saying? Yeah, we'll be back when we will be back. And so have the day you need to have. Actually, this is where you could have used that line. I'll see you then or I'll see you at another time. What's that from? I love you, man. Oh, I love how you're teaching me all these new things. Like, I'm sort of like, oh, yeah, I can't wait to use this airport saying. And you're like, Amy, it's online all the time. It's what people say when they're unfollowing someone. I'm like, oh, really? OK, get it now. Proper use of the departure. But yeah, we'll close out with our thing officially. And then Houston can roll into whatever best bits he has. Best bit episode he has selected for your enjoyment today. All right. But what and have the day you need to have. Bye. Bye. Happy Tuesday. Welcome to Feeling Things. I'm Amy and I'm Kat. And before we get to the feeling of the day, which is coming from you, Kat, I have a random question of the day and it's questions that don't come up. Yeah. OK. But I feel like are we doing questions that don't come up, like in the middle of something randomly? If it comes up, this is premeditated. OK, then no, it's not. Well, it's something because I was on a call before we were recording and I had to say my credit card over the phone and I have zeros in my credit card, multiple. But I realize that's depending on how the numbers are laid out. Sometimes I say, oh, and sometimes I say zero. I don't say zero every time and I don't say, oh, every time. So my question is when you have a zero, do you say zero or oh? Like, for example, I can say my phone number growing up, it was 282 0841. Oh, that's oh. But then sometimes if I was like 282 0841 and then maybe there was like four other numbers that might be like zero, nine, six. You know, like if it was like, OK, and what's the code to access your bedroom? Yeah, you say zero. Zero. Access your bedroom. Like what's your extension? You know, like that was because I was my home phone. Do you still remember your home phone number growing up? Yeah. Why do I feel like I shouldn't say it out loud? It doesn't even exist anymore. Yeah, I'm probably I mean, I didn't give the area code, but I gave the 282 away. I still use it for like certain things that it's connected to. Like, I probably shouldn't do that. Well, I mean, for like when you go to like a grocery store and you type it in to get the points, you know, at the grocery store, you can always do whatever area code you live in and do eight, six, seven, five, three, oh, nine. Oh, eight. Oh, in the song, they go eight, six, seven, five, three, oh, nine. And get the points. It works for me. So at a grocery store, you've never actually created an account. You just sometimes I have. But then some if I don't. Yes, I will do the area code of where I am. So in Nashville or 615 and then you just type in eight, six, seven, five, three, oh, nine and then all the discounts come up. No way. OK. OK. Well, so I don't know. I know it's a very random question, but it just got me thinking like, wow, in my credit card number, I have multiple zeros and sometimes I say zero. And sometimes I say, oh, it just has to be the placement and how it feels rolling off the tongue. So you're asking, do I say zero or zero or zero? I don't know because I don't pay attention to that, but I'm assuming because when you said the phone number, I'm like, yeah, if you said zero, say that phone number and say zero. 2820841 or 2820841. Oh, I guess it sounds normal to me. That and it's not like we call it Coke zero. I don't say Coke. Oh, I mean, obviously. That's a little different. OK, they told us, but I mean, zeros are zeros. So why do I say? Oh, it's an abbreviation. I know. But why? It just was weird, like in the in the flow of it. I didn't say consistently zero every time it was like. Oh, in the delivery. I'm finally hearing what you're saying. Let's say my credit card number has five zeros. You have a. Am I being clear this entire time? Me, I'm not saying I'm saying not you understanding at me not being clear in my delivery. Like my credit card number has multiple zeros, but say it's. 425 zero. I wouldn't say 425. Oh, I say 425 zero. And then if it's like zero, six, eight, zero, I might say that. But then there's there's another zero in there. I say, oh, you say both is what you're saying. I say both. OK, in the combination of saying, you know, I love how. What's the right word here? Passionate, passionate. You are becoming over this. I thought you were saying I feel like a weirdo. No, I thought you were saying like sometimes, like with my phone number, I say, oh, but with my credit card, I say zero. I know you're saying I mix and mingle. I mix and mingle in the same delivery. I think that's OK. I know. OK. Thank you. That's all I don't know. I guess I was just curious to find the only person on the planet that does this. I don't think you are. OK. Cryo cat does it. OK. Everybody in this room does. So you mix and mingle in the same flow. I think it's like, yeah, it's a few to go based on how you feel. And like a zero might feel right here and it might feel right here. Zero and this is the only one we do it for. We don't do it for. Well, what other numbers have abbreviations? One, two, three, four, five, six, seven. You're like, oh, Joe. I'll say it. I say. OK. No, I guess they don't. We don't. So I think you're normal. Oh, yeah, I would say. Oh, yeah, I would say. Oh, I would probably say, oh, I wouldn't go zero, zero, but I might. But I might say zero. Oh, OK. Four, three, two. But I also think if I'm if I'm reading something off to somebody, I like to be very clear, because I think sometimes when I speak, I don't speak clearly. So I probably would say zero if I'm reading something zero, zero, four, three kind of thing. But if I'm just something's like, what's your phone number? I'll probably would be like four, three, oh, four, two, oh, oh. Right. You know, I know I'm with you. I'm very clear. That's why it was weird to me, because I noticed that I was like nine, six. Zero, four, two, oh. And it was like zero and oh, and I'm like, why did I just switch that? There's nothing wrong with you. Probably should have described it just like that in the very beginning. Yeah, you're I think you're normal. And if you weren't normal, that would be such a fun quirk that we would just love about you. You probably wouldn't even really notice it. Unless I. And I bet that person didn't notice that you did that. Yeah. Well, because then I mean, all credit cards are numbers, but she might be like, oh, oh, it's not a number because oh, is a letter. Yeah, I think that she gets that. That's the abbreviation for zero, though. I know, probably. What if she said that I was on number? I don't I can't input that, ma'am. Yeah. And I would be like, you know, it's the. What do you don't know the abbreviations for zero? It's this is short talk or like shorthand. My mom was able to write shorthand. I never. What does that mean? It's a abbreviated writing. Don't you just do that anyway when you're taking notes? No, this is like a special language. Well, I don't know if they were taught it like it. My mom was a secretary back when it was called secretary at places. And then later an administrative assistant. But I think it was a talk thing. Like you learned shorthand. Oh, sort of like who keeps notes in the courtroom? You know, the clerk, no, but the topography, but the topography. They're taking notes. They're taking minutes. The minute the minute I know, but there if you've ever noticed their keyboard is not a normal keyboard, I don't think I believe it's like a shorthand typewriter. So it's how the letters has not like words on it. They're typing so quickly to keep up with everything that's being said. I didn't know that. So yeah, a stenographer, a court reporter. That's what it's called, or that's what her machine's called. It's the person is the stenographer and the machine is the stenographer. It's a snog, stenographer. Stenographer is the typewriter. Oh, shorthand typewriter. It just popped in my head. Obviously, cool. We just didn't plan on talking about this. Things that yeah, things, random things we never thought we'd talk about. But let's get into the feeling of the day since none of this has anything to do with feelings. Yeah, you're feeling passionate. Would you say that? Or were you feeling insecure about that? I think I more so was feeling insecure that I was not being clear in what I was saying. It sort of threw me because you did a good job faking like you knew what I was talking about. And then all of a sudden, because I thought you were tracking with me. And then you go, oh, I get what you're saying. So then I got defensive and I'm like, do you go, you're not weird? I go, yeah, even though I only brought it up because I thought I was. I know I'm not weird, but a minute, like a minute before I had brought it up because I felt like maybe I was being weird. So do you feel better? Yeah, I feel better. OK, I don't know if we have any clarity, but those listening out there right now, if you say, oh, or zero, you are not alone. And that's what this podcast is all about. OK, I'm not feeling insecure. Passion, there might be some passion in there, but I'm I'm feeling. A low level of enragment of rage. OK, because I don't know if I have shared with you on here before recently, but we have purchased. I don't know if I have shared with you before recently on this here podcast ever in this time. We've purchased a treadmill and breaking news. Yeah, this is breaking news. My iPad's talking to me. So we purchased the treadmill. It was a big deal. We shopped around. We tested somehow. I did some research. Great. Purchase it. We go to the store. You know, I'm going to say the store because it deserves to be mentioned like in a negative or positive way. You can decide. Well, I need to know the location before you do, because I don't know if I have an affiliation with them at all in any way, shape or form. So it's a common store that people buy goods. That good. Sporting goods. Sure. OK, we'll give it at that. I won't even blame the store. I think they wouldn't have known this. Yeah, I will say that. Well, part of it is the store associate associate. The store wouldn't have known the actual problem. That would not be their fault. Perfect. So good thing we didn't say their name and we're not going to. Yeah, why would I ever do that? Yeah. So we go to the store. The store associate, which I'm like, Doug, Catherine, this probably is just like a college student who's working on the weekends to make minimum wage. He probably doesn't really care. That's judgment. But I will say Patrick worked at the store at one point in his life, and that's what he said he did. So I'm like asking questions once we were going to buy it. He was like, do you want to get the assembly? And delivery. I said, well, how much is that? He said $200. Oh, I know what you thought right away. You're like, what? Why would I pay someone to put it together when I can do it myself? Literally? I said, well, could we do it ourselves? And he said, well, I did it myself in 45 minutes. So yeah. And I was like, then no, we'll just take it with us today. He said, what kind of car do you drive? I told him, he said, oh, it'll be fine. It'll fit in there. Long story short, it did not fit. Half of it didn't even fit in my car. So we had to come back the next day, get my dad's truck, put it there, take it to our house, carry it up the stairs, which I had enlist family members to come to our house to do this. I thought somebody was going to die. Yeah, treadmills are heavy. I didn't know that. Oh, why did I not know that? Why did I not think that? Probably because the only previous year prior experience to a quote unquote treadmill before this, but it's one of those walking paths from Amazon. Is that why? Yeah, and I could carry that upstairs by myself. Right. It's very portable. Yes. So I was so scared during this process and in the middle of the. Yeah, like I'm shocked. Like we've had to pay whenever I've had to relocate my treadmill, had to pay the company to come move it because I've been so. Should have done that. Terrified. Should have done that. But you could do it yourself. Oh yeah. And I have to admit, I did not help at all to carry that up the stairs. And I probably would have died if I was part of that process. We finally get it in there. Patrick and I set it up and honestly didn't see it was a little frustrating setting up, but it wasn't that bad. Oh, before this, the sales associate said, do you want to buy a mat for this treadmill? I said, do we need one? We're just putting it on carpet. And he said, no, it's really more for hardwood floors. So you don't mess up your hardwood flooring. We also don't care about this carpet anyway, because we're eventually what we want to rip it up. She's like, oh, then you don't need the mat. And I was like, great, save more money. Don't pay for the assembly. Don't pay for the shipping. Don't pay for the mat. So we get it up there, put it together. It doesn't work. And I'm like, oh my God. So I'm like, Googling stuff, whatever, blah, blah. Then I open up the manual and on the first page, it says before you start, like warning things to know the first thing is do not assemble this and use it on carpet. So you need the mat? Yeah. And it probably could have like, I don't know, done something bad. Could have started a fire under there. Killed you. Yeah. Yeah. Probably. So anyway, we had to get the mat. Then we had to get applied. Weeks have gone by. We've updated our treadmill experience. Yeah. I don't know all of this saga, but I do know when you were, you bought the treadmill and I feel like that was a really long time ago. Month, probably. Yeah. Probably can't return at this point. Well, I'm going to speed the story up because this is far too long. If someone is currently on the treadmill right now, you have jogged a couple of miles. Yeah. Literally they're like, and anyway, so we had to take the treadmill completely apart, which did cause a little bit of marital discord and take it apart to fix the thing. Oh my God. We took the whole thing apart because we were trying to get to this one screw. And then once we took the whole thing apart, Patrick realized we could have just lifted the treadmill up to access that crew and we did screw and we didn't need to take the whole thing apart. Yeah. So anyway, we did that. Then we lifted it up. Wouldn't you know the inside the motor of the treadmill is completely rested? How? You don't know. It's a mystery. Dun dun dun. So now we have to undo it again and take it down the stairs. The whole thing. I can't that they come pick it up. Why I you sold me a rusty treadmill. So I'm going to need. What did I do to deserve this? That's what I want to know. I just wanted to be healthy. I just wanted to move my body a little bit. Yeah. Well, I've been walking outside now. And so anyway, I did get to be the winter months. Like, yeah, I did email them to and send them pictures because they had sent me like, this is probably what it is. Just look at this and fix it. And I'm like, well, this is rusted. So my hope is that they're like, Oh no, we'll send somebody there with a new piece and they'll fix it. Because if I have to take that thing back downstairs, I'd rather just light it on fire, but I actually can't do that inside my house. No, that's not going to happen. Okay. Our hope is going to be that they're going to come and fix it. Or if it has to be removed, that they will come and haul it away. Like on the house because. Surely. Right. It needs to be swapped out and that shouldn't be on you to have to handle that. Just a girl. And maybe I should pretend like I'm, I'm a single woman living in that home and I. Not strong enough or something. So they have to like, sir, I have no family here. Nobody can help me do this. Yeah. My parents don't live down the street and that is not my husband right here. My brother doesn't live down the street. They're like, how did you get up here? You know, just, you know, well, my step at a time treadmill. I have my own issues. The treadmill works fine. But my, my cat has claimed it is sort of her spot perch. And so I get on it and sometimes she's cool with it. But other times she swats at me and yeah, and like tries to bite me. And if I'm walking with my arm, she'll like, and like, she does not want me to be on there. And then I have a little, I'll have to buy you one of these. You can get a little clear tray and a little stand for your computer and it'll prop up and you can walk and work. But when I have the tray up there, there's no room for her and she freaks out. And I'm like, Maggie, go lay somewhere else. It's not the big deal. Wait, this is actually really ironic since she's on a diet. I know. She just sits on the treadmill. Her favorite spot is the treadmill. She's like, everybody in this family will not be exercising. Yes. She's like, if you're, yeah, because I'm currently not feeding her in her bowl. We have to loose feed her where you just hide food around the room and she has to hunt for it. She has to like work for her food and find it. But I feel bad. So I'll hide it and then I take her to it and I'm like, this is where I put it. And I'm like, here you go. So do you put like one little piece? No, I put like, or is it like a pile of a little pile and not in a bowl? Not in a bowl. I just lose. She's like, put her food on the floor. No, she can't eat that way anymore. She's to go. She's to like have an ounce here and ounce there. Here's my question. And walk around and I'm I'm I am apparently supposed to exercise with her. And I'm like, how do you exercise a cat? How do you exercise again? I mean, you put like a ribbon and they bounce around. But I mean, yeah, why aren't you doing that? Well, I have to start. Cara always eats her choo-choo, her little toys that we get her. Cara eats it. So then I'm like, OK, I'm not going to buy another one. Cara's probably overweight too. You walk Cara all the time. I know, but I overfeed my pets for sure. I have a question. Why? Because I feel. Knowing nothing about animals, never had a cat. So take this with the grain of salt. Why can't you just limit her food and take? Why do you have to hide it? This is what the vet told me to do. So she has to hunt for it. So she's not eating it. So that way if you have it in the bowl, like she's just going to eat it all right there. And if it's spread out, she's like spacing out her food. And just I don't know. Okay. So the real issue is that she's sedentary. The vet said this is the heaviest she has weighed and you need to cut back on her. What's the oldest that she has ever been? Of course, it's the heavy. We know, I think at some point like cats just like should maintain. I'm feeling defensive. You're like, yeah, I'm the heaviest I've ever been because I'm 35. Yeah. And I'm not 12 anymore. Yeah. So. Anyway, she parks it on my treadmill. And yes, it is ironic because she does need to work out. But because you have been through such a difficult time with your treadmill, once it's set up, I will gift you the clear tray and the computer. That's really nice. And what I hear in that is that you believe that this will be resolved. It will. It will be. And what I have learned is pay for the delivery and assembly. Yeah. You can't do everything yourself. Do I deserve this? I think I do because I. I feel like you have other things going on that are like magnifying, like the rage you feel towards the treadmill. And it makes you wonder. It's not about the treadmill. It may not be. Have you thought about that? It's 100 percent not about the treadmill. Oh, OK. See, I really probably wouldn't be this upset. It's just like some I'd rather hyper focus on that than other things in my life that are out of my control. Yeah, you're like, if I do that, I'm a subtle fire. But I'm just going to burn my house down, but I can't do that. And if you all see Cal in the news, no, you want my fire alarm speaking of. OK, so yesterday, as we're working on the treadmill, our fire alarm goes off. But it was not an alarm. It was a woman's voice. And it's saying she said there's smoke in the master bedroom. The alarm is about to sound. It will be very loud, just so you know. And then. And then it was quiet. And I go, Patrick, because am I am I my initial thought? I am listening to me. Oh, my gosh, I had walked. I wasn't with him because we OK, we just found the rest. I walked in the bathroom, take my contacts out. And I start hearing the woman's voice. And then I yelled out, Patrick, Patrick. And I like grabbed my shoes and I was about to like run outside, because I thought my house was burning down. Also, I was like, who was that? And it reminded me of Smart House. I don't know. Oh, my gosh. OK. Disney Channel original movie. And that was a scary movie to me because the lady was like a robot that like took care of the house, but she then started taking over the house. And in my head, I'm like, somebody's invaded our house. We're not going to. They're going to lock the doors. Like I freaked out. And then the alarm never sounded, but then there was no smoke. So then Patrick was like, it's fine. And then 10 minutes go by, she does it again. There's smoke in the master bedroom. The alarm will sound. It's going to be very loud. Just so you know. Was she glitching? She said it clearly. Well, I know, but like, like was her system like what was making her fire off? Like, was there smoke in the master bedroom? No. And so then well, then I went and blew. I had a candle by a glitch. I had a candle on downstairs, so I went and blew the candle out. I'm like, surely that's on it. And then 30 minutes later, it did it again. This time the alarm went off. So I opened the door and I'm like, I'm out of the house. And Patrick's like in the bedroom looking for smoke. I'm like, get out. And then I called my dad and then why text at him? He said that those alarms are norm. My first concern was why is she talking? Like it should just be a sound. And he said new alarms, fire alarms talk. Interesting. Never heard that before. I've never heard that either. Has anybody in this room ever? So if that happens to you one day, just know it can be normal. It's not a person. And then he said to vacuum it because sometimes dust gets in there. And he said, do that. And if it doesn't work, it could be a spider. Sometimes spiders crawl into them. So if it still doesn't vacuum, it doesn't help. Then maybe it's a spider and just to take it down. And I said, well, what if there really is a smoke somewhere? Like in the attic and there's smoke somewhere and then the night it's going to turn into a fire and then we are dead. And he said that would have already been a fire by now. Right. OK. And then he said, if you need me to come over, I will. But I don't think I think Patrick wanted to take care of it himself. He probably did. And you're like, it's cool. I already texted my dad. No, I said, is it does that make you feel weird that I'm texting my dad? And he said, no, I don't really know what's going on either. But you don't need him to come over here at 9 p.m. I can take the fire just so he can take it off the wall. I can do that. Yeah. That reminds me of one time my ex-husband early in our marriage, my dad was going to carve the turkey, but we were hosting and it didn't go over well. I mean, he didn't say anything to him, but he got upset. And he was like, this is our Thanksgiving. I'm supposed to carve the turkey. So your dad carved it. I think my dad started working on the turkey and my ex-husband was like, that's my turkey. Well, he didn't, he didn't say anything. It was more internal. And then later he expressed to me that he was upset because it was his turkey. Who did he cook the turkey? Yeah. I mean, I think we did it all together. I honestly, this was years ago. I mean, I was married 17 years and that was the early part of our marriage. So we're going back to like, it could have been around 2007, 2008 that this happened. So I don't remember every detail, but it just made me think of like a son-in-law, father relationship and how it's like newly married. Like this is my house. You're her dad, but I'm her husband and I'm going to protect her and carve her turkey. And I carve it. That sounds interesting. It sounds like, I mean, something else. It doesn't have to be sexual. It's still sounded it. It doesn't have to be, but it sounded dirty. So to be clear, like Ben is actually talking about our turkey. Yes. Like actual turkey, but it was, it was an interesting thing. Like some of that is just conditioning as men are wanting to feel a certain way in your home. You know, I feel like your ex-husband was way more and I could be wrong, but it appeared to me to be way more like handy and traditionally masculine in that way than my husband. Like, like Patrick doesn't know how to carve a turkey. Wait. Oh my gosh. Stop. This is not supposed to be. Why are you laughing? Poor Patrick. I don't mean it like that. I love my husband. Poor Patrick. Oh my gosh. You didn't listen, right? No. Okay. Woo. I don't mean it like that. I want to say it. He's so masculine, but I'm funny. He can't even. Oh, he knows how to carve a turkey. No, he doesn't. Tell us how manly he is. Like, name all the ways. Hurry, hurry. Name him. Start saying them. Sorry. So he's like, so he loves sports. He loves sports. He loves sports. Go. He loves gambling. He loves sports betting. Yeah. Yeah. Wait, stop it. I don't think that would even upset him because I think he knows what I mean. Like, he can't like. He can't. He can't. He wasn't handy. He had like, he manages money well. Does he? I hope he does. He's an accountant. I'm crying. I don't know. We're just giving you our time. Okay. Okay. Patrick. Look, hey, I love you and you're perfect for me. What I meant was I feel like Ben would do probably more like building of things like. My dad definitely did not then. I mean, I think, you know, he, he could be handy and also he was gone a lot like because he was in the military. So I think yes, it could he do certain things on a plane? Like could he fly an airplane? I felt like that was always. Yeah. That's pretty off. So women fly airplanes. It's not like just a man thing. I think I had to learn how to figure out things on my own. I didn't do, I hired out. So did you call your dad? Yeah. My dad would do a lot. Okay. And I don't know if that really bothered Ben to be honest. We didn't really talk about it, but things would just get done or I would hire people. And then I think that was sort of our routine. So even when Ben would come back from deployment, I'm like, oh, I already have my handyman who was not threatening. Like he couldn't hear well. I had this one handyman and I think he was like maybe, you know how you're like, you know how you're sort of legally blind? Yeah. Right. Right. But like you can see it's like a. Yeah. I'm legally blind, but I can see like shapes and blobs. Yeah. So anyway, his hearing was a bit weird. Can I say what I meant by that? But just, I feel like I need to get this out. Well, first of all, Patrick's not gonna listen. I know, but I wouldn't want that in the ether anyway. Okay. I meant like traditionally masculine in the sense that like the traditional roles where we kind of bend the like, I can probably hang a picture frame better than he can kind of thing. Wow. Is that not? What is that? I was kidding. Okay. I was kidding. So a lot of women can. I think my sister's the same way. Her husband can design and help build a house, but my sister is going to hang the picture better. Yeah. I'm just saying he doesn't get mad about that. He would never get mad at the. I can't say this, but I wouldn't expect him to care who cuts the turkey at Thanksgiving because he just like, Oh, your dad would probably do a better job at that. So he can do it kind of thing. Does that makes? Yes. I love my husband. We know you do. It was just funny. Okay. I thought in laughter is good for the soul. Like we all got a good laugh and I bet you feel better because earlier you were like. Raging. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you. Yeah. I have other ways to reset your day. I know laughter. That happens organically. I really forced that, but if you ever need to reset your day again, like if you're feeling ragey, you can take a raid shower. What's that? So you get in the shower and you blast music. No, you can have it hot, but you just blast music and you rage it all out. Like just jam out in the shower and sing and blast it and feel good. And then yes, at the end, you can do like a 30 second to one minute like cold spurt at the end, but in it you picture with the water, like all the rage running down the drain. It's a raid shower. I can't picture my, well, first of all, where am I getting? I guess we need like a boombox in the bathroom. Your phone. Your phone. But your phone's not that loud. Okay. If I'm raging, I want the music to be louder than I am. Okay. I mean, yeah. Also, you mentioned going and throwing ice cubes earlier when I was texting you. Oh yeah. One thing that I got from my therapist while back, or maybe even one of my kids therapists, one of our mini therapists over the years, but it was you take ice cubes and then you just throw them down as hard as you can onto your driveway or your back porch or somewhere where there can really like pop. Safer than rocks. A cold shower, I really just can't. The cold thing is at the end. You don't have to do that. You can take a normal raid shower and it's just you're washing the bad mood away. Yeah. A shower really does do wonders. I journaled this morning that washing hair. I thought you were going to say a journal in the shower this morning. Even with my waterproof journal and my waterproof speaker. No, I, I washed my hair this morning and then journaled after it right before I had a few minutes before I had to leave for work. And I was like, I'm going to use this few minutes to journal because I'm trying to do my morning pages again. And I, what is it about fresh hair? It changes everything. Do you like to wash your hair in the morning or at night? In the morning cause it's fresh. So I, okay. For the look of your hair, right? Yeah. So I totally agree. There's something like recently, the last couple months, because I've either gone on a walk at night or worked out at night or something that has had me take a shower at night. The best getting ready for bed and going to sleep feeling with wet hair and feeling like totally clean. I think for my mental health, that is better. But for like my hair looking good. Yeah. I want to like wash it right before I go out. Well, I can't wash my hair every day. Now I'll take showers before bed, but I will put a shower cap on. You could wash your hair every day. Yeah, but I don't want to. Yeah. That would take, no, no, no, no. That would take so much time to wash my hair every single day at my friend because my hair doesn't air dry. Did you do it when you were younger? No. I washed my hair every single day growing up. Is that not crazy? Well, did your hair air dry normal ish? You can tell when it's air dry. You'd probably be like, Oh, it's air dry day. Okay. Well, some people just naturally can do that. Like my friend, Luke, married a girl and she showers and washes her hair every single night and like crawls in bed, but then wakes up and her hair is like perfect. Oh, you know, that's not me. She's lucky, but every night she cannot, no matter what time it is, where they are, she will be taking a shower. I feel like that's a norm, like a new thing. Like growing up, I feel like everybody was washing their hair every day. And then all of a sudden people are like, it's not good for you or like, you don't have to live this way. Well, I sort of trained my hair to go many, many days without washing because we heard that's what was good for you. And then now I'm hearing the opposite. Yeah. Do you see how you see on Tik Tok that now they say, Oh, I thought your hair girl told you not to use dry shampoo or something. Oh, that's a hair. Yeah. That was a hair stylist that yes, I've gone to that said that. And also I recently saw on Tik Tok, wash your hair more, wash your hair more because of the dirt and something that's produced. That we thought, if you think about it, it's kind of gross. Yes. We thought like it was doing more damage, washing it too much, but actually keeping that clean is keeping the roots healthier and going to give you a stronger, better hair. I don't know. And like, I'm sure someone will counter that was something else. It was just a something I saw in passing, but whoever told it to me on Tik Tok, I trusted her. Did you ever get lice as a kid? No. Stevenson just asked me that the other day because he's had lice once and we had to completely shave his head. And he's like, what if I get it again? And I said, well, it's been years. But also for a boy, it's not a big deal. You can just shave your head. And you don't have tons of hair stuff. Lice person come to our house and she completely took it out. And then she looked in my hair and to share his hair, everybody in the house and we were good to go. I went to a elementary school at one point where we had like weekly lice checks. I think that's probably normal. Like the nurse would come to our classrooms and they would check all of our hair. Then what if someone had it? Would they be obvious? Yes. Like, Hey, you over there. She's coming with me. Yeah. That's found one. Yeah. I do it under the radar. I had lice, but it was in the summer. You never asked me if I did have lice, but I volunteered that information. No, I want to know. Sorry. When you asked that question, I was like, that's so weird. Stevenson just asked me about that. Um, and I don't think I've ever had it, but I had that thought because they say that lice likes clean hair. I think that might be an urban legend to make people feel better. Oh, you're so clean. Yeah. Don't worry. It's cause you're so clean. Yeah. But it is annoying for a girl because you have to get rid of everything, like every hair bow, every headband, every scrunchie, every anything you have to get rid of all of it. That's not what you're going to do. Yeah. All my headbands never wore a headband again. That's why. Anyway, riveting. Yeah. Now I know you have something for us regarding like cursing, which I'm very curious about because I used to not cuss ever, ever. When did you say your first curse word? I mean, I didn't even think in cussing. Wait, like I just didn't, like cuss words didn't pop into my head. I was never a cuss person until a cursor. How do you say it? He sounds so sweet. I was never a cuss person. I didn't even think cuss words. I just did it. It was like, gosh, darn it. Which was good. Cause on the radio, we couldn't cuss. And there were times where like one time I spilled my coffee all over the board and the mics were recording and I was recording something. It wasn't live, but this was way back in my early radio career. So like 2006 or something. And I said, Oh shoot. And like today, me now, I probably went and like, Oh, you know, so like that was me then and this is me now. And I think the only thing that switched was, I don't know, I went through a lot and then realized that sometimes saying it helped me feel better. I vividly remember my first curse word. Okay. When was it? Me and two of my friends walked to public's. Don't ask me why. And then our walk back, we were like, okay, they were cussers. I was not. And so we all took turns saying different cuss words. I think they were trying to get me to be bad. Showing the club. Yeah. And then it all went uphill from there because according to research, cussing is a sign of authenticity. And people who, which goes along with authenticity, I think they mean like more authentic in their personality and who they are, but also are less likely to be liars, more likely to tell the truth. Is that not? Maybe I always wanted to be, and I wasn't in my authentic self for all those years. Because my parents tell me the story. I don't fully remember it, but when I was really little, they were hosting a dinner party and like a jet flew over our house, like a fighter jet. You know, if you ever had those flyover, they're so loud. And I looked up in the middle of it and I go, what the F was that? I mean, and I said it and I was three or something. Did you say F or the? Yeah, I said the F word. Cause my parents cussed. Yeah, like my parents cussed. I obviously heard the F word. I didn't know you just said F. No, I said, well, I'm not gonna say it here. Yeah, yeah. I mean, you used to- Be authentic. You used to could beep it, but I was like, what the f*** was that? Oh, you're so bad. And then my parents loved retelling that story, of course, because they thought it was so cute that I did that. And then, and I was like, what? That's so crazy because I just wasn't a cusser. And I don't know if I thought I was being bad if I cussed or I didn't think I was better than anybody else, but I just didn't- Did your sister? I don't recall her cussing. Now my half sister and my brother, they cuss all the time. Like with my dad, they'd be having conversations and they all be like cuss, cuss, cuss. As an adult, would you curse around your mom? No, I didn't cuss so recently. My mom passed away when I became a cuss person. She missed it. My mom quit cussing. Now she used to cuss, and then when she really found Jesus, like her- And Jesus doesn't cuss. Well, she just changed a lot about her. It was like a dramatic shift. Like, and I think how she spoke was part of that. I think there were plenty of Christians that cussed. That's not the point. I think for her, she had to make some, changes and that was one thing I saw. Because I remember one time I missed the bus and she was not happy and she slammed the dishwasher and said some cuss words. I mean, I remember my parents cussing for sure and I've cussed in front of my kids now. You've been authentic. I want to read this because just to give the whole picture, it says, multiple studies have shown a positive correlation between higher profanity use and honesty and authenticity. Though the link is not absolute. Cursing is often described by writers as an unfiltered and genuine expression of emotion, which can signal a person's willingness to prioritize candor over politeness. So what I hear in that is people that cuss are more willing to prioritize being themselves than being nice and polite, you know? Which I appreciate. I think that there's a overuse of it. It's times that can be a bit much. But for me, occasionally, it's just very fitting. Yeah, it's like nothing else works as well. Nothing, you know? Nothing, nothing. Well, I'm proud of you that you're now a cuss person. I'm now a cuss person. I know, my mom doesn't know. My dad maybe knew a little bit. Yeah, because how recent was this transition? I'm trying to think of when it really started. How'd it been 2020, 2021? Was your ex a cuss person? Not really, but we have become cuss people. Together, okay. Like sometimes in our co-parenting, we'll say it. One time he called me out for like, oh, one time. Okay, how do I say this? Because he wasn't being, he was kinda, I need to keep this in my side of the street. My side of the street. You know how sometimes, I wanna make sure I tell it, my side, I was being a little overly colorful with my language, but I was fired up without something and he had to let me go. And I was like, oh, you know, now you're too good. Oh, he was like, I'm hanging up. Well, he was like, we just need to talk later. Like, I don't appreciate your energy. And I was like, what? Okay, next time you say a word or two, remind me of this. Because you're not gonna appreciate it. It was around then that we decided we have our code word, which is pickle. So if, and we haven't had to use pickle in forever. In retrospect. In retrospect, I do think I was a little heightened. Okay. Like I was here and I could have brought it down to hero. And you could have still put it. But he didn't need to be all, you know, holier than now on me. Which, that's me, my defensive self talking. I thought I was gonna say on my side of the street. That was not my side of the street. I take it back. I would say all of this to his face. I think I was defensive in that moment of like, well, who do you think you are? And you say these words too. So just wait. But now I don't feel that way. Like if he does it. There's not gonna be revenge. No, that was a while back. Yeah. I think I remember this. Yeah. I didn't do the best job of staying on my side of the street. That was the thought that counts. I know, but right before I told the story, I'm like, stay on my side of the street. And then I still called out his, because I still was, I was still, I guess when I think back on it, I'm still perplexed by why he went that route. But that's okay. We all have this moments. Is Alex a cuss person? Occasionally when it's right. I probably throw them in a little more than he does, but he's dabbled. Well, good. That means that he's authentic. He is. And this isn't all encompassing, obviously. Like you said, sometimes people will overuse. There is a too far. And also, if you don't cuss it, it doesn't mean that you're a liar. Yeah. At all. But it is just interesting. I have a book called swearing is good for you. I've been meaning to read it for like 10 years. Oh, you haven't even read it yet. I did start it, but then it was just a lot about the research of cursing and language. And it just, I think I got the gist of it from the title. Another reset. I know I shared the rage shower, but another thing you can do for a reset is eat something cold and crunchy. That would not do it for me. It wouldn't? Not rage. If I'm overwhelmed, yes. But let's just like you're real mad and you get a carrot and you dip it in some honey, I miss and then you bite down. Like that wouldn't, you'd be like, nothing. Chips, salsa, queso. I don't think that if I'm angry, I want to eat. I'm one of those people who I have a lot of emotions. My appetite isn't there. What I'm hearing from you is that like the like crunch in the bite of it is going to be like, oh, but I think I'd rather throw ice or the scream in the shower or something. What about chew ice? Do you chew ice? No, but my husband is always chewing ice. If there is a cup somewhere with ice in it, he's going to eat it. That's so manly. That's so masculine. That's, yeah. What a man. What a man. I hear that chewing ice also gives you gas. So that's like, yes. Why? It's air, you're sucking down a lot of air. Oh, well that's a good deterrent. Yeah, I just stopped my husband with chewing ice. You don't tell him like, hey baby, that's going to give you gas. As a thing I've told him that before, he's like, I can't stop. He loves it. He gets it from his dad. His dad's chews. Like if you go to a restaurant and you get a drink with ice in it, they drink the drink, but then they eat all of the ice. Oh my gosh. Yes. Yes. And like if we go to like, especially somewhere with good ice, like I'm pretty sure Chick-fil-A has good ice. Oh yeah. If we go there, yeah, in Sonic, if we go there and we both get drinks and he finishes his ice and my ice is sitting there, he'll have my ice too. He'll have my ice. Yes. His dad just got a Sonic ice maker, like a ice maker that makes- Oh, pellets. Yeah. So probably because he wants to eat the ice. That's something that like pregnant people are supposed to like, which I don't know why that is, but I do hear they do like it. Probably it's the crunch. Nothing sounds good. Oh. Oh yeah. And it like gives it maybe the coldness. Coldness feels good. Do you pop your knuckles? Okay. Me too. And one of the things that my boyfriend really, really is holding onto, even though the internet says otherwise, is that popping knuckles causes arthritis. And like he won't let his kids do it. And he's, anytime I do it, he's like, stop. And I'm like, have you researched this? And he's like, yeah. And what did he find? Well, he finds that it gives arthritis. And I'm like, but I see here, it doesn't. It's a myth. I feel like- So what do we believe? I don't know, but he's just so, he doesn't let it go. He's not budging on it. He's just not. Couple thoughts. I won, popped my knuckles like 20 times a day. I love it. It feels so good. To not do that would have, you'd have to have so much self-control. I also love when my husband cracks my knuckles. I bet you do. I bet you do. So, but also, I feel like- You're more manly. You're so manly. He's so good at cracking my knuckles. Tell us more. Anyway, what I also was gonna say is that if it really did cause arthritis, more of us would have it. More of us would have it? Or, well, sometimes I do think I have arthritis, but it's beside the point. It's not from cracking my knuckles, it can't be. But I just feel like there'd be more warnings about it. Like, I just feel like that's something we heard from our little and like, we grew out of it. We believed it, yeah. Yeah, so if that really was, and I feel like at our physicals, our doctors would be like, and you're not cracking your knuckles, right? You know? Do your wrists pop? No. That's my party trick. It'll do it every time. You're like the lady at church that they do the bells? Yes, you do. You do. I'm like, they both will pop. This one's not as loud, but it's still popping. Wow, so if you were in miscogeniality, that's what you would do for your talent. That would be my talent. No, my talent would, okay, that could be one of my talents. My other one would be, you can line up a lot of different catch ups, and I will tell you which one is Heinz. That's pretty sick. Yeah. So you have a backup talent. Okay. All right, well, let's in there. However you're feeling today, if you need to take a beat, throw some ice cubes, take a raid shower, eat something crunchy. Curse. Curse. Be a cuss person. Yeah, be a cuss person. Is that what I said? I think so. Yeah. It's true. You know, just know that you're not alone. If that is you. We are with you, and we hope you have the day. You need to have. Bye. Bye. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it. That's it.