From $4/hr to Billions: Jarek Tadla on Inner Wealth, Legacy & Mental Health

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to a special edition of the Money Money's podcast, where normally we cover these three core topics, how to make money, how to invest money, how to give away to charity. But our guest is going to put a bit of a twist on that and talk about the importance of mental health and things that are going on with society, especially with men and what goes on in their world. And so I'm going to be weaving in money finances when someone gets rich, what happens to their world, their household, divorces and situations. And he's going to talk about the things that are really, truly impactful to him and his world as he's accumulated this large multifamily commercial real estate portfolio. He's pivoted and turned to something that's very important to him and what he's seen in our society. He's written a book about it. He's made his own podcast about it. And so we're going to dive deep into that. And as you guys know, these podcasts are super important to me because so many people grew up thinking it's rude to talk about money. It's ridiculous. We have to talk about money. You've got to be able to talk with your family, your friends, your employees, your coworkers, about money because it's part of our daily lives. Money is not the root of all evil. Are there some evil parts to money? Maybe. But what we do know is money covers your medical expenses, your family, when your mom needs something, when your friends need something, when your kids need something, money is involved. So we've got to remove this concept that money is rude or evil or any of those things. It is a tool and it's functional and it's important to your daily life. So without further ado, I'm going to have our guests give a quick two minute bio so we can get straight to the money. Okay. My name is Jarek Tatla. I'm immigrant from Poland. I moved here in 1993 and it's funny that you talk about money. When you don't talk at home about money and that's how you will grow up, that's what's going to happen. Right. You know, people ask me why is the reason that I accomplish all the successes if it comes to, you know, real estate and all the businesses I built because I always have zero emotional attachments to money, zero. But people, it's like we think the money is something got to work hard. You got to save. This is not true. And what happened is our parents and our grandparents and our grand-grandparents, they didn't know any better. So it's our own, if you're listening to this, it's your own responsibility, accountability to break the curse and own it and talk about it. And the more you talk about it, and I'm not talking about like how much this goes, how much this goes, it just having the awareness how to bring money and that you are the money. You are the value. Like I grew in communist country and, you know, the true money doesn't exist. Like you don't look at the account, it just wires from one account to another one. It's a virtual money. And it's the services you provide. So in the communist country, everybody had money, but you couldn't buy anything. So what happens if you were, let's say, a mechanic, let's say I fix your car and then you give me this and this instead. And that's what we do right now. You are the value. And the second you understand that, that your life will change. What do you think holds people back? Let's focus on men a lot here because it's such an important topic to you. What do you think holds men back from going, becoming not just wealthy in finances, but wealthy in their household, you know, children, family, things that are going on in their world? Then it's fear. It's fear. You know what? And I know today we, it's funny that I talk about it is when you are in a comfort zone, which is for us men is the most dangerous thing. When you're so comfortable, you don't want to try the new things. You have a fear. If I fail, it means I'm not enough. If I'm not enough, I'm not loved. And even I'm not loved that I'm the failure. And then people can use this against me. And that's the fear. So the second you face the fear and you go against the fear, that's what you break. And that's what you start developing new values, new, new, new businesses. And not only that, you start growing with, you know, inside. So that's the most important thing. But we have this because you and I know money is an oxygen. We have access of it. But if you from the early childhood is like you have to work hard, I mean, yes, do you have to work hard? Brother, believe me, you do have to work hard. But you know what? Everybody who worked hard right now, you know, then all those people that we have like, you know, we will not have 3000 billionaires. We would have 7 billion billionaires. It doesn't work the way you have to work hard and you have to work smart. And that's what you have to invest in yourself. That's what I'm big about the inner world, not the outer world, because the inner world, your inner world, create your outer world. So explain the inner wealth concept. What is the inner wealth? You know, like people that I'm big on it because he would happen is my whole life. I was looking for validation from the outside world. So I was I was accumulating wealth. I was accumulating titles. I was accumulating diplomas, medals. So you know, to get the kudos or get the validation from society that I'm good enough, that I'm love and get the plouses. It didn't work because in the same time, my inner world was getting emptier and emptier and emptier until I cracked an old school suicide. So there's nothing out there that you can do without yourself, without building yourself. Because we, you know, I'm talking about many people, men that are very successful right now, they have wives, you know, like I have, I have a wife, I have kids, I have cars, I have jets, I have yachts. And by rules of society, I have then I have absolutely everything, but I was emptying on the inside, because I was doing to prove everybody but myself. And it's very important to remember that your net worth and your self worth are not the same. And I lost that. So anybody who's listening right now, so don't chase the money, don't only do transactions, look for yourself and build your inner world the same way you build outer world. But that will build you up. What is your book about? What is your podcast about? Why did you go down this path? Four years ago, four years ago, I have, I got sick and I thought I had a flu. Three days became four days, suddenly all my symptoms left then and, and I could not get out of the bed. And I couldn't like understand it. And then four days become seven days, seven days become 10 days, 10 days become 20 days, 20 days. And, and I'm going like, I completely hit bottom of the bottom. I made all my money during the low market in 2008 and 2020 and the COVID. And, and I'm like sitting, I'm laying in bed and I'm like, I'm, I'm like, I, like I'm financially have absolutely everything. I'm healthy, emotionally unhealthy, mentally unhealthy, spiritually unhealthy, physically I'm fit, I'm healthy. I have a good relationship with God, good relationship with my kids, good relationship I just found the love of my life. I have absolutely everything you can imagine. And I want to take my own life. Because for my whole life, for 50 years, I never took care of myself. I was doing everything for everybody, never me. And I completely broke down. And that's what I wrote a book. My book is, it's called is not enough. The not enough voices because I was motivating myself by negative feedback. And that's why I was getting all the wins, the titles, the medals, you know, the applause is the stages. Even in the beginning with this, with the social media, you know, followers, you know, likes, it's, it's, it's addictions. All the successful people then are addicts. But we used to use like what we're doing right now in this podcast, we're using our addictions for the good to help others. But you can use also addictions. We could be right now in the bar and drinking, doing drugs, you know, women, porn, hookers, we can do the same thing, but we're sharing our world to, to improve and do better. So that's, that, that, that's my calling to help men mostly. I don't understand women. I'm on my third wife. So, so clearly I don't understand women, but I understand how, how our men mind works and we always want more. And they're never going to be enough. You know, we are the way we are born and the way our human nature is that we always want more, but what I'm, I'm, I'm what I'm stressing about not more outside, but more on the inside, you know, more faith, more, more belief, more resilience, more boldness, more love, more abundance. That's what I, and, and all the work on daily basis. And then explain to us, what is the name of the podcast? What's the concept behind the podcast? The name of the podcast is mastering the inner wealth and, and versus outer wealth. And we talk about all these issues that, you know, we're going through the mental health emotional, like I'm big, I'm emotional intelligence. You know, can you imagine that me being I was 40, 48 years old, then, and I just realized about the oxygen mask at the plane. Like I would give the oxygen plane, oxygen mask to everybody, even the pilots. And I'm the last one. And now I realized like how important it is to like use that, fill your own tank, fill your own, you know, a bucket and put the oxygen first and then so we can help others. So build ourself from within and then build the whole empire. But your body, you are the biggest essence. Without you, nothing happens. You know what I mean? If you fell in, even because you, you, it was like, because I was well, then yeah, I'm, I'm doing good. I'm doing good at jobs and doing good at the sports. I'm doing good with employees, but I'm falling inside. I feel like I'm, I'm the biggest loser. If I tell somebody's then if I open up, it's like, dude, I feel like a loser. I'm the last cause. It's like nobody could relate to me. Like, what are you talking about? Like you have everything you have. Your life, your life is going. People want to see you everywhere you come. You know, everybody loves you, but I don't love myself. I cannot take care of myself. Like when I'm alone, I'm fricking miserable. I'm again with my own thoughts and the thoughts I start believing and those thoughts become my identity and I completely crushed. Can you even know drugs, no alcohol, having absolutely everything sober for, for years? Because you know how people say sometimes the drugs or alcohol just brings, you know, the sedation. I was sedating you then I was sedating my entire life with work. I worked 22 hours a day. Like, you know, I was like falling, falling asleep at the desk and okay, and keep going to back to work. And then everybody, oh my God, he's so successful. So everybody was like, yeah, dude, if you see how much I work and not only hard work, but you know, the work ethics and also how smart I work. I always try to learn new things. And then I started, then I started sedating with workouts, doing races, Iremans and then yeah, and everybody, oh my God, he's doing it. Oh my God, he's so fit. He's winning. He's a ba, ba, ba. When I pick up alcohol, after three months, my family, yeah, I gotta sit you down. I think you have a problem. I'm like, really? How do I have a problem? What you've been, you never drink, you're drinking too much lately. Really? Are you escaping something? I've been escaping my entire life. And nobody noticed, but nobody noticed because I'm doing for the good. And suddenly when you do for the bad, you know, it's like, whoa, we gotta talk about it. But at the end of the day, we are some men, we have to own, you know, face our own demons. It's nobody can tell you, you gotta go in and just figure it out like and, and, and, and work on your childhood wounds. All like, why, why does the reason I'm doing it? Is this the reason to, to get validation? Or does the reason just is within me? And going, finding the purpose, you know, God find us, you know, we, we got here. Created by God and we are on this earth to serve. We're not entitled to anything. You know, you know, you hang out with men, it's like, yeah, I work so hard. They complain about the wife, they complain about the kids. They're running away after work. Let's go for happy hour. Brother, well, I'm entitled. I work too hard. It's like, dude, brother, we're not entitled to anything. You know, we got here. We, we are lucky that we are born, we are alive. We wake up every day. You know, we're here to serve and help others and mostly even family, the love ones, but it's got to start with it. It's got to start with you. You got to love yourself. You got to fill the bucket. You got to take care of the faith, the resilient, the boldness. It doesn't come from anywhere. If you stop breaking promises, the little promises, if you're going through the hard time right now in business, in relationship with kids, anything you're going through and, and nothing works, start little, start the little things. Just, just, just, you know, like I have a conversation with my son. It's like that. I hate to read. I'm like, and I read a lot. Like I read a lot. And I was like, read one page a day in one year. You're going to read 365 pages, just little things. It's compound, compound effect with everything. And the same thing happened with the bed stuff. It starts with one drink with me. Then the two drinks, then I drink only on weekend. Then I'm in a weekend alcoholic. I suddenly on drinks seven days a day. The same thing happened with my pain. Like how, like I'm laying in bed 40 days. I want to take my own life on the boat. And I'm like, where's all the pain coming from? I was putting everything on the carpet, everything on the carpet. And suddenly the pain was growing and compounding. And the whole thing just blew up on me. So the little things to break the new patterns. So as people start to have children, they start to build up their lives. Why is the investing side important to help with, build generational wealth? Why is it important to think about their kids and their grandkids? That's a good one. You know, my entire life, I built everything because I want to give the kids all the, you know, my will, everything. And that's, that's a good question. And, you know, the only one, the only thing I want to give it was inheritance. Nothing else. There was no legacy. We all might want to leave legacy. Giving that the materialistic things, it's like the buildings, the cars, the jets, the yachts, businesses. This is inheritance. And usually we're ruined. The children. What we got to leave, it's a legacy. And, and a legacy is all the emotional intelligence, all their faith, all the resilience, all the integrity, all the values that it stays from generation after generation. So it's not what you leave for them when you leave. It's what you leave within them. So they can take, because it's like, you know, I have, you know, we have a lot of wealthy friends, you know that. And then it's like, Yadik, how do we build the hangar with the kids? No, we don't. Look at them getting goosebumps. No, we don't. Our kids were spoiled from the beginning when they were born. We were successful. How are we going to build the hunger? I was a dishwasher. I was broke as hell. Yep. Dude, you know, now, oh, wow, he's got billion dollars real estate portfolio. Dude, I was a freaking dishwasher. I was hungry. My kids never going to have the hunger. Your kids never going to have the hunger. Ever. So what is our job? Not to give him more, to teach him how to use the resources, teach them emotional intelligence, teach them how to use all this stuff, the values, the incredible, the integrity, the resentless, the boldness to teach them how to apply in life. That's our freaking job. Not the hunger. They're not going to have it. They're not going to have it. Look at like, look at your daughter. How old is she now? 13 months, 13 months. I have a five kids. They never see. And I can. They don't know if they fly on the private jets, go to mediterranean jets, yards, houses, that come on, brother. But I got to teach him and not only me, we are some men as a humans, we got to teach him how to be good human, how to have a faith, how to be resilient, how to use all those resources that we have and grow it instead of ruining it. By giving somebody, if you give anything to somebody, how you do a lot of seminars, right? Oh yeah. Here's a question for you. Did you notice the people that are there, they are paid for the seminar? They like, they pay attention. They, they know that they want to pay the pay, pay attention. Yeah. Because it's like, Hey, it came out of my pocket. I pay off 500 bucks for the seminar, 1000, 2000. If I pay 500 dollars for seminar, I want to be upfront next time with five grand. You know, those people, they got paid for it because the employer required them to do it or they got it. Dude, they everywhere, they on the phone, scrolling, they go and they don't care. But we have to teach our kids. That's what the legacy is. That's what we got to leave them. Yes. Do we want to have them live easier? But we want to make sure not too easy so that because they go to the real world. That's the real world because they, we got to help them to find a purpose. The fulfillment. Tony Robbins is like, you know, it's, it's big idol of us and friend of ours. What he always says, success without fulfillment is ultimate failure. Right. That's what he says all the time. And that's true. And that's what we got to teach our kids. Not by giving brother. So that was, I mean, we are here to give those. I mean, I'm, I'm huge about giving because I'm pretty sure that he's going to go now. I'm huge about giving, but we cannot just give and, and, and like expect nothing. So we are on the charity portion of the podcast. Why is important for the children, the wives, the husbands, et cetera? Why is it important for the family household to have some type of charity component or some philanthropy involvement, whether they're donating money, time or energy? Brother giving is living. That's what we're doing right now. Giving is living. And I can tell you it's nice to write a check, but it's also nicer to give you a time and give you energy started from the beginning, from start from the little things. And, and I'm, you know, like you make me like when I think of a charity, like, you know, you're like, you huge brother, like, like, like you, my idol, if it comes to charity and all the stuff you do with them, or, you know, with the toys and everything else. And you're like, maybe I don't do enough. Right. And then I started this stupid person game. Exactly. I started the cool person game, but charity. And I love how you said it. It's not only money. It's your common energy. For sure. And you got to do it from the beginning because I love how people say, you know, it's like, yeah, I'm going to give when I, you know, when I make 100 grand, I'm going to give when I give a brother, if you're not giving when you have a 10 grand or a grand, you're not going to give it when you have a million and you're not going to give when you 10 million. Right. But I know this. There's a time and energy a lot is a lot more valuable, especially with the kids and wives and even you yourself than just writing the check. Because to me it's like writing the check. I did it. Do you know what I mean? And it was like the true, the time energy wasn't given. So it, I think all those three components got to be connected in order to feel it. And the more you give, the more you receive. You know what I mean? I have a friend I was going bankrupt. And it's a true story. And, and he was lending money to give it away. I'm like, dude, what's wrong with you? There's something wrong with you. And he goes, the more I give, the more I'm going to receive. He got out of their hot hole that he was in, you know, in the bankruptcy and everything else in less than two years. Wow. Giving is living. So there's only one question I ask on every single episode. And so for 200 episodes, I've asked this one question. It's the only repeat question. I've never gotten the same answer. I'm for sure not going to get the same answer right now. You built up this billion dollar portfolio and it's going to end up being two billion or three billion over the course of time. You have these five children at what percentage at the end of the day do you leave to those kids? It's tough, right? I've heard zero. I've heard a hundred percent on everything in between. If you, you know what, then if you ask me the question. 10 years ago, I would say a hundred percent. That's what I'm doing this for. Yep. Like we discussed before, we talk about the difference between legacy inheritance. I can tell you, I saw right now how my wall is written. Okay. My kids getting percentage. I'm going to have a lot of haters here. They're getting percentage. They started getting the percentage after age of 33. And that's a minimal percentage. They're getting right to vote to sell, to do anything at age of 55. Because I know how stupid I was when I was 20, 25 or 30. So it's really spread and hopefully by that time, the emotional intelligence, the readiness, the faith, they understand the principles, their life experience. It's going to give him the opportunity to use it wisely. Because the reason I changed then is, can you imagine like being my kids, my age was like knowing that I'm covered. I'm covered. Right. From 2010 to 2018, I retired so many times then. So many times. And truly having nothing to do for being a man, having nothing to do. The only responsibility, accountability I have is to wake up, take a dump, brush my teeth, take a shower, take my kids to school, pick them up, take into activities. I was miserable. When you do not have any responsibilities, because you know you cover financially, you know you're not going to be able to do anything. You don't go through the pain, through the struggles to figure out how you don't, you don't take advantage of the life that God gave us. That's when you fell. So we got to prepare our kids to go through life and enjoy life. I know we want to protect our kids. I know we want to give them everything that I didn't have. Don't give your kids anything you didn't have. Give your kids the knowledge that you didn't have. Give your kids the awareness that you didn't have. Give your kids the consciousness that you did not have. Their faith, their belief in themselves, their love. That's what we got to give to our kids, not the money. And I'm not saying money is the root of evil. I'm not saying that we, did the money make you happy? Absolutely not. It buy you time, it buy you opportunities, it buy you, not opportunities we created, but it gives open a lot of doors. But I keep saying that then if you're a douchebag, you're going to be a bigger douchebag. You know, if you're a good human being, the money does amplify. But it's nice that the journey to even to get to the level to accomplish the money, it's not the destination, it's just the game. That's what the enjoyment of life is. You know what I mean? And you were on my path because remember when you said the story about poker, like, you know, all the website closed and then in two hours, in two hours, like you, I don't know, you less like 65 million, 65 million dollars in two hours. And can you imagine like develop this mindset? And I'm telling you, it didn't come from here. It truly came from here. You were creating your building your subconscious mind because these are conscious minds, these are subconscious minds. So what happened when, when you hit something hard, you will, okay, what next? Let me figure it out. And you ready? You did not become a victim. And you were sitting at the table two hours later, it's like, and you were still giving. Yeah. And what happened is like you were giving and that's the same thing in life. It's so there's no right or wrong answer. I don't think there's right or wrong answer. Whatever at whatever level of awareness, consciousness you are, that you're going to figure it out. And, and even if, if, if you make a mistake, like, then how many mistakes we make? It's part of the process. That's a part of the process. We're making a lot of decisions. Yes. Make a hundred decisions. Some of them are gonna be mistakes. Yeah. Most people don't try to make decisions. And that's what I, people ask me, what is my superpower? And I always say making decisions because I'm not scared, make a decision because I can tell you, even I make a decision. I can make a decision right now by the end of the path because my decision might change. Oh, that was stupid. I'm gonna, and then I pay for it. But, you know, our decisions, we are so quick with making decisions. So the mistakes are bigger and bigger, but we still go and we know we're going to adjust, adapt, and execute. And that's who we are. So for many years, you're a part of Tony Robbins group, you know, 23 now, 23 years. Yeah. You might be the longest running. I know, I know Tony. Tony. Tony was broke. Like 20 years. That's amazing. Do 2002. I think I went to his event in, in, in California, in California. That was the first event. A long time. And then years later, he did six, I think five years later, he did the first business, business, business. The big conference? Yeah. The business. And then we got to spend time together. He created the Zenith mastermind. It's a quarter of a million dollars, $250,000 to join a group like that. Talk to us about investing in yourself. Why do you like to be part of his group for 23 years now with the, now with Zenith, et cetera, with Dean Grasiosi? Why spend so much money and time and energy to invest into yourself? You know what? And this, and this is not, and this is for anybody, even for, if you're 18, 14, 15, 20, 20, 25, 30, whatever you had, you are your biggest investments. There's nothing better in the world than you. You are the only one out of eight billion people. And you always have to invest in yourself. When people ask me, what is the best investment? You, you, me, you always got to invest in yourself and can never, ever stop. So we are the biggest investment because we are the value and we, the value that we bring. So if you stop investing in yourself, then you stop growing, you stop evolving. And I did that. I told you between 2010 and 2018, and I was miserable. Like having, you know, absolutely zero, zero drive, you know, because I didn't have to, and you have to, you have to build your, your value by, and, and let me tell you a story. Like I was the smart kid out of my, of my, of my siblings and my parents always want me to be a doctor. I'm like, I'm not going to be a doctor. I don't want to be learning my entire life. How stupid was that? We're going to learn. We're going to invest in ourselves all the time. Sure. And the more you invest in yourself, the more you bring the awareness and consciousness level goes up, you change your patterns and you start opening new door and you start connecting with better quality people. Quality people. That's why you constantly have to invest in yourself to grow your value, to grow, to grow your awareness as we can connect and open more doors. I think there's no bigger investment there ourselves. Absolutely. First, forget the real estate, forget the stock options, forget the businesses. It's, it's, we wouldn't be sitting here if we did not spend and, and, and people not only money, it's not only money because for us to write a check for $150,000 is like nothing like, but how do you find the time then to go meet with all those people, go on those events three, four times a year, you know, in the middle of all the chaos, all the stuff. And this is not the only one that is like a lot of groups. Like we, we do this 24 seven. And then in the middle, we still run businesses. We still run family. We still run everything. How do you find time? You do. You figure it out. But you got it. It's, you know, like I have a, every day then I have a date with the attic. I spent the time with me. My office knows everybody knows nobody talks to you. I don't know about touches. And this is the hour that I have with myself. I don't run errands. I don't do anything. I truly spent myself with me sitting, you know, meditating, praying, just going through everything me and myself know as zero, zero distractions. So I can invest in me invest with my, how my inner dialogue goes, you know, how my thoughts are going and everything else. And just, I mean, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, with connections, connection with God, you constantly need to fill the bucket because the more the, the fuller the bucket is, the more you give. And then the people kind of like, you know what I mean? I'm gravity towards you. Gravity towards you. All right, guys, I think you can feel the reason for this episode is about is best thing into yourself and your body, your mind, your soul, spirituality, the things that he's been talking about. That is the butterfly effect. If you become a better person inside for yourself, your better husband, better father, a better leader, better, better at everything in your world. Once you invest into yourself, if you are deeply depressed, if you're going through hard things, make sure to check out his book, check out his podcast. And really try to grasp that what are other people doing out there to help themselves fill their buckets? What are they doing to invest in themselves? How do they get through the hard times in their personal lives, their careers, their divorces, their marriages, their children? There's so many aspects that go on in our world. We just don't talk about it enough because we feel like it's same concept of it's rude to talk about money. Sometimes people don't want to talk about hard stuff, but hard stuff is part of our daily reality. So I appreciate you guys listening. Again, this isn't just for you. Could be people from your past, present and future that should listen to this episode, check out his book, his podcast and everything on social media, because you might be able to change someone's life just by putting them in the direction of someone that's been through a lot of hard times in their world and still have built this impressive career along the journey. So listen to us on the money, Mondays.com, share with your friends, family and followers and we'll see you guys next Monday here at the money Mondays.com.