Deontay Wilder’s Crazy Bedroom Story, Stay-At-Home Boyfriends, & Kandi Burress’ $400k Divorce Settlement,

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What would you want me to bend you over to? What else do you want? This is to take it over to gang. All right, everybody. Welcome to truth after dark. Do you think you're going to be a woman? Do you think that men or women are more toxic? Hello, beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the truth after dark. I am your host, Azar Faraday. Paul, hey, Pierce in the building. You got the feed out, the robe on. Vibes going, OK? If I'm in a robe, what do I have to have shoes on for? Gentlemen, let me ask y'all, when you wear a robe, do you have shoes on, slippers, socks? What do you wear when you've got your robe and you and your nighttime outfit? This is me. OK, I'm out of there. Do your big one. Do your biggest one. Yeah, I got a little bit legit. I got some liquor bowls. Some liquor bowls is white. These are some liquor bowls right here. Licker bowls is wild. Talk to me. So basically, Uganda general says that men who kneel to propose will be arrested. Ooh, we move into Uganda. He says that you shouldn't kneel to propose to a woman. You should just already be sitting down. Yeah, he said that kneeling is crazy. As a man, he don't want to see no man kneeling to no woman, basically. If you propose, you just are sitting down or you're standing. But kneeling, he said it's rubbish and it's out of out. He's not dealing with that. And it's pissing him off just at the side of it. So he's arresting people. That's in the other countries. They just do anything. That's what I'm saying. I need to go see these other cultures, how they do their thing. Because American culture is so basic at this point. Let's see how they do it in other countries. Like, what's the date situation? Look like, do you got to bring a gift? Probably not. Like, do the women come pick the man up? Well, women don't have freedoms in other countries. What do you mean they don't have freedoms? They got freedom everywhere. Freedom is everywhere. No, it's not. Do you know that in Iran, you can't even leave your house without a man? There's not freedom. And you have to educate yourself. Man, out of one country, out of a million countries. There's way more. You talking about, I don't know, as a whole? As a whole. So many countries do not have the same. I'm talking about just the countries that, so I'm speaking for me as a black man, that black men go to, those countries. Yeah, I don't know what you're saying. Like, we go to the islands. We go to Africa. We go to Europe, Australia, certain parts in the Middle East. We kind of scared to go. Right. But the point is, is like, yeah, these other countries also don't have the same freedom. And also, this is the thing that I will say in other countries, just like women are raised to be different. I think the men there are different, too. Men are not dating women for three years and still contemplating if they want to be with them. Men are marrying these women immediately. Very quickly. Yeah, that's what they're talking about. They're not playing games with women and making them have baby mamas and babies and sitting up and saying they're not ready to marry you and do these things. These men are getting cracking. That's their culture. That's what I'm saying. So that's why it's different. That's why women act different. Because the women are like, I know that this man is not playing with me. He's going to marry me. It's not a question. In other cultures, that's not a question. It's not a question of, am I wasting my time with this man? It's not a question. Men are coming right up the bat. That's why everybody moved to America, though. Right. But that's not saying. That's why. Because they don't like that pressure. But they're not given the same type of influence like American culture is with the TVs and the music and the celebrity of what America brings, the freedom, where it's like, here, this is how we do over here in our country. This is it. We're not influenced by y'all. This is what we do. And I can expect that. And maybe it's better for families and staying together in a marriage. But what our television shows, what positive shows? We ain't got the Cosmees no more. We ain't got the Fresh Prince of Ballet. We ain't watching this stuff on TV no more. You know what I'm saying? So that's why I feel like if we ain't watching it and it ain't an influence on our televisions, on our Instagrams, and stuff, that's changing. So what shows can a young black man could watch? To be like, damn, that's a great positive influence on our kids. What shows we have today? Because I was watching a lot of shows. I was watching Good Times. It was always the mother-father structure in the black shows. You know what I'm saying? So what do we have now that can influence the kids of today in the black community to say, oh, this is the structure that I like, that I feel is positive, that I would like to move toward and work toward it and be something like this. I wouldn't say that there's a lot. I would say that Kenya Barris, he does a good job at trying to put that on TV. Like Grown-ish, Tracy Ellis Ross and Anthony Anderson, they're married and they have adult family and kids and they show that. But I will say and agree, it isn't a lot of influential shows like that anymore. You know, like Living Single. Like all them shows are just not around anymore. So. You know, it's about how many people you can date now and Sex in the City and. Well, Sex in the City is an old school show. That was my show. That was back in the day. That was my show back in the day. That's what we're looking at now. You wanna know what's so funny about Sex in the City and I want people to be talking about this. Actually, it's funny you brought it up. So Carrie, who's the main character, the lady, she was the one that everyone was like, I wanna be like Carrie, whatever, whatever, whatever. Yeah, the main one. But everyone realizes now how toxic Carrie is and how everyone was like, Carrie is the last person we should have been trying to be like cause she's literally chasing men who don't want her. He's leaving her at the aisle. It's Mary's, they're supposed to be getting married. I'll never watch Sex in the City. Oh my God, sex, you, I mean, you're a man. You probably wouldn't like it, but Sex in the City is so good to me. Except they rebooted it now in its trash. But it was so good. But yeah, I feel like now women are realizing like Carrie was toxic as hell. And the fact that we loved Carrie and thought she was poppin' is crazy. Cause Carrie was so thirsty, so pressed for man, chasing every man he did not want her none. Damn, I got you dude. Anyway, so moving on, there's, what's trending right now, speaking of trending, is stay at home, boyfriends. So the woman is the provider, and the man is at home cooking, cleaning, doing all the chores and the duties. And a lot of women are saying that they, rocking with that right now. Stay at home. Boyfriends. Boyfriends. Do you think that if a woman is the provider, the dynamic shifts? Well, if he's willing to do the little things like that, yeah, why not? Shoot, I'm good with that. Being a stay at home boyfriend. I don't think that you would be though. You say that, but I don't think that a man who is like a powerful man who likes me, I got ambition too, I like to do stuff. I like to be, I like to do. But also even just in a dynamic of a relationship, I feel like you would be like, feeling away if a woman was paying for everything, and like she had to control. Cause it's like usually whoever pays for everything and like takes care of stuff, they're the person you listen to. Okay, I'm listening to this person, they're in control, they're telling me what to do. They're taking a lead. They're telling you in control of what? Of a lot of stuff, of the, you don't realize it, but it's true. You don't realize it cause you've never been in the situation. Well, I don't want to control nobody. And I don't want nobody to control me. It's not a, but you don't realize that even with the man who pays for things, a woman, and most women will say this, you're not necessarily controlling them, but you definitely feel like you answer to that person. You're available to that person. You, you know, like period, like you're taking care of me. So I'm going to be available to you. I'm going to be there. Like you're the priority. It's just like a job. If I'm not working a job, but a man is paying for my life, I'm going to give it the same attention. Like I don't have to be at a job. So, but you are the job. Like I'm going to make sure the person's, I'm available. I'm here. I'm this. So when that dynamic shift, the man has to be in that position. You don't know because you've never been taken care of by probably anybody. You know what I mean? So like with the man being in the position of like, yes, babe. Okay. You need me to go get this. You need me to go do this. Okay. Drop everything I'm doing. Like your schedule don't matter. Like as a woman, if a man's taking care of you and you need me to go do something, I have to go do it. Then when I started looking at it like, oh, he's controlling. When it's when I get, when I start getting bad, he's controlling. He's a narcissist. You love to say that. That's why women always call men narcissists. When the men take care of the woman and then when they start going bad, he the narcissist now. But you just explained like, if a man take care of a woman, oh, you have to be available. All these things. And now you tell me this and that. But then when you start arguing, you gotta break up. He's controlling. He's a narcissist. That's just, that's not every woman. You say this all the time. It's every woman. I've never said that about any of my exes. Every breakup. I've never said that about any of my exes on this show or anything. Never said that. And those were the situations. So I never said that. Not every woman says that. Like some women. 99% of them. Some women understand that's what it is. Like. Let's do a survey. Let's do like on this show one day. Let's do an open call. And let's talk to any woman that has been through a breakup and asked them, was there a boyfriend, their ex, a narcissist? Okay. Let's see how many out of 10 say yes. Okay. Speaking of women who are taking care of men, Candy Barris, she has to now pay her ex-husband 500,000 and he walks away with five cars. And he also gets custody of the children. That's baller for him. That's baller. Okay. Man, that's a deal. As a man, I just don't respect that. How you don't respect that? Because it's just like. Why he can't get his kids some cars and some bread from the woman. I just think it's just burnt out. Why does that burn when women do it every day? Women and men are different. Men are not supposed to be like women and women are not supposed to be like men. Well, she's clearly the breadwinner. And so clearly she was taking care of him. So clearly when we break apart, this is what's run me something. Cause I was like, you know, I was living this lifestyle with you. You know, that ain't even in my heart. I have some of some cars, some material. I mean, the kids, she probably like, shoot, I can live my best life now anyway. And I'm always going to be able to see my kids. They probably going to live right down the street from each other or whatever. You know, so it's all to the goodie. And she probably wanted it like that. And I ain't, it ain't. She did not want to pay this man. 500,000? She actually, I think now it came out that she has to pay him 2 million. Over the course of like some time. Yeah. Yeah, that's probably going to be over the course of like four years or five years though. It ain't just here. That's how that works. You know what I'm saying? When you paying now, you gotta. Blow. If I like, I'll be blow. That's why I can get it. I'm blow right now. A man will be blowed. Yeah. I'm blow right now. No, I get that because honestly. That's what I had to do. Honestly. And I'm blowed. I would have been blowed by that. Like even as a, even as a man, I'm blowed by a man or a woman. I'm blown away by that. I'm blowed. And that's why I like, you should have a pre-nuts, natural agreement before you get married. That's what I think people need to do. You should come to terms. Let's see what you got to understand. There probably was a pre-nup, but you got to understand like people who have money when they, what they partner, they'll be like, all right, if you with me this many amount of years, if we divorce, you could have this. That's what I'm saying. That's a part of the pre-nup. So it is a pre-nup. Yeah, that's a pre-nup. But what I'm saying is you should. You don't get half. But you can get this. But if you're blowed, then you've made a wrong pre-nup. You should make something that you feel comfortable with. No, it's just you're always going to be blowed. Because you get blowed for the breakup. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? The breakup is going to blow you. Yeah, for sure. So you don't matter how much it is. It's going to blow you. Regardless. Because you never expected it to get there. You know what I'm saying? So it don't matter the amount of money. I understand that. You know what I'm saying? You just blowed that like it happened just. You blowed. You blowed. Yeah, for sure. So Coco Jones actually came out. She's married or engaged to the best. She's kind of been mentioned. Yeah, OK. So she said that she'd actually rather be homeless than to rely on these men out here because she feels like man will put that shit over your head, make you feel away, dangle it, give you something that don't give it to you, then give it say they're going to do something and then they don't. And she said and it just says her she's blown because she don't play with the homeless shit. The homeless is not where you are. You were not. You were not. Rather be homeless. You were not rather be homeless. You'd rather be downgraded on your situation now, but not homeless. You'd rather be downgraded on your situation now, where you currently are as a star. You probably got a crib or a nice high ride or whatever ever you live now. You'd rather be downgraded, but not homeless. Don't put the homeless in something different. But I get what she's saying. You know, men, you know, when they do that, they take care of women. They put themselves in a position to where they think they just have so much power to where it gets to the point in relationship to where it's demanding. It's it's too much on both. It's on both sides, too. And they just they start looking at each other just crazy. Yeah, for sure. And it's just not a good feeling for a woman and a man, too. Because now you know, the man started looking down on the woman. Yeah, I can see that. You know, when things ain't right, because he do everything and take care of everything. And then when somebody ain't doing shit, it's just it just causes controversy. That's what she's saying. She'd rather be homeless than have a man dangling stuff over her head because he's doing everything. Yeah, that's tough. No one likes to feel that feeling, honestly. Like. So, you know, I'll see what she's saying, though. Yeah, I get it. 100 percent. So there's a man who said he's going viral because he said he had to cancel a date with the woman because he asked her to pay for his haircut, outfit and send her send him a ride. That's boss. She can't. These men are so feminine these days. I can't tell you who can't tell the day he did. He was like, hey, check this out. Hey, you have to pay for my haircut. I'll be mad. So we met out like, hey, Shorty, how you doing? And you looking good tonight? You want to drink? Hey, you know, let me take you to dinner. Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, get the number here. Give me your number. Boom, boom, all right, cool. So then he hit her like, hey, so look, let's go out. But I'm going to need this. I'm going to need you to take care of my cut. Can you give me a Uber at this time? And I want to eat here. So basically he just asked for all the things that a girl wants on the on the date for the guy. Because girls be like, hey, if you want me to go out, can you get my hair? You're not a girl, bro. It's just a double standard. That's your stop. These men have to stop being so feminine. Stop competing with women. You are not a woman. Stop matching the energy of a woman. You are not a woman. Period point blank. That is not cute. Like I don't care what you want to justify. We are two different species. I am a woman. I have a vagina. I bleed every month. You are a man. Stop trying to match the energy of a woman. It is sassy. It is weird and it is burnt out. And I'm tired of it. And I'm tired of it because I'm tired of it. Men want to justify this. Well, I could say this. Would you want me to give you some lip gloss to? Well, you want me to bend you over to? What else do you want? Do you want me to text you first and call you princess? Like what else do you want? Stop trying to be a woman. Period. Because the moment that a woman is too masculine or she's doing some old aggressive shit, it's disgusting to y'all. And just how that's disgusting to us. Disgusting to y'all. It's disgusting to us too. It's disgusting when a girl is aggressive with you. Hey, come here. I want to take you. You're like, uh, that's nasty. And it's the same thing we feel about y'all. Nasty. Stop trying to be a woman, you weird. It's like, I'm sick of it. OK, she got out of that one. Because it's so I'm tired of seeing this. Can you get my cut? Yeah, like, no. Can you send me a ride? Imagine a grown ass man sending you a text message. Send me a Uber. What? You what about you, a bitch? You go think that's you. You what kind of bitch is you? That sounds crazy. That sounds crazy. That sounds crazy. So stop, because men don't want a woman to act like them. And we don't want y'all to act like us. And that's real. Like, that's burnt out. And the reason I get upset is because I see it all the time with these men. And they wonder, like, baby, OK. That's the new wave now, guys. It's just going in like, hey, open the car door for me. Yeah, that's sickening. I'm cool on that. I'm cool on that. And y'all think it's cute to be sitting on the internet talking about this shit. And you wonder why men these days can't. Like, y'all don't feel like that. That's just pimping. That's not pimping. That's just pimping, girl. That is. That's just pimping player. No, it's not. No, it's not. You just pimping, girl. That's what that is. That's just really sick. It's called what you call sassy and feminine. We call it pimping. No, that ain't the thing. You know what? These men can't even fix nothing no more. They don't go out. I have her fix it. Go ahead and make change that tire, girl. Yeah, that's sick. That's sick to me. That's sick to me. Anyways. Oh, man. That's pimping. That's one-on-one pimping, man. No, it's not. So basically, there's this story. So this story is crazy. So there is this couple on Instagram or whatever, right? And basically, she, so the husband goes to work or whatever. And he comes back to work. And when he pulls up at the house, he records because he sees his dad's car in the driveway. And he's like, goes into the house, and he starts recording. He's like, you've been at my house for three times this week. Well, I'm not here. And you didn't tell me you was coming to my house. The wife or the girlfriend, whatever, is in the kitchen with booty shorts on frying chicken. And the dad is sitting on the table eating the fried chicken. So this is a Black people. This is a Black people situation. Yeah, you're making fried chicken, right. So she's in, other races make fried chicken, but I, so she's in there in the kitchen with booty shorts on cheeks hanging out. And she's frying chicken. He's sitting on the table eating the chicken when he comes in there. It's a third time this week, I got in God's work, pulled in my driveway and my daddy in my goddamn house. But I telling me he gonna be in my goddamn house. What we got going on here, huh? Get the camera on my face. What we got going on here, huh? And I'm fucking joining me, man. Don't join me, man. It's your third time this week, popping up in my mother's house without letting me know you're gonna pop up. Huh? You fucking eat chicken. And you got these little ass shorts on. What's wrong with y'all? And what the hell y'all got going on? You got your legs wide open. Drinking is no ain't tripping. You think I'm stupid or something? What the fuck y'all got going on? I don't give a damn what? Same. Same, man. What's going on? Huh? I'm trying to check out for my man. That's it. And why are you recording? Get the camera on. Wait a minute. Just got you. So the son is like, listen, you gotta get up out of here. You been coming over here not asking me, you trifling. The wife is like, you talking to him crazy, defending the dad. The dad is like, my mama gave you this house. I'll come to this house whenever I want to come to this house. And he's like, you in this house, y'all lost some weird shit. I feel like y'all fucking around. Like he's like tripping. Him and the dad start squabbling up. Squabbling up. The wife is defending the dad the whole time. Even fighting. Like stop. You need to leave the house talking to her man. Defending the father. So what is your thoughts on that? This is crazy because everyone's like. If I'm the son and I come home, my dad is in the kitchen eating some fried chicken. And your girl is in Pooley Shore. With my girl is some shorts like these that I only like to see her in. Only I like to see her in. I'm like, hey, you know, we got a dad. We got to have a conversation, dog. Like what's going on, my boy? Like listen, dog. He tried to. But the dad was like, hey, I'm not leaving this house. My mama gave you this house. You disrespectful now, dad. Yeah. You not respected me. So we got to have a grown man conversation. I can't just go straight to violence. You know what I'm saying? It can't be a rah, rah, rah. You got to approach it as an adult. Yeah. So you just have a conversation like dad. You know what? I feel like you crossing the line. This is my girl. And then I'm going to have her. She got to be right here too. Like I don't appreciate you. So when I tell her, I don't appreciate you allowing that. I don't want my dad to be here when I'm not here. And you making them fool. So look, I'm going to tell what I want to say right now. If it happened again, then this is it. We done. So I'm putting up boundaries. Yeah. Once I put my boundaries up. Yeah. Then don't cross that. Do you feel because he kind of did come in and was like, hey, what's going on? Like I'm not comfortable with this situation. And the dad kind of escalated. And the dad is the one who threw the first punch. Damn. And the daughter, I mean, like not the daughter. The girlfriend was the one like overly defending the dad. And it was like, you do it too much. He can't do it like that. What you do? He was like, nigga. Nah, he wait. No, they was going back in 4-4 minute. And he was like, I need you to leave. I'm not comfortable with this. This is the third time this week you over here without telling me and you kicking it with my girl. What's going on? He definitely moved in already. He didn't already definitely did something with the girl. I think they did. The girl is in a shirt, cropped like this. She's doing like that. And moody shorts with his ass cheeks out. He definitely did something with the girl. How do he know? Why are you coming over when I'm not here? And then she's like asking the girl, what are you doing? And she's like, I'm making chicken for my man. But talking about him, but everyone's like, she just told on herself. She talked about that dad. Yeah. Like she'd be cooking for him. That's wild. That's trifling. But people do stuff like that in this world. That's trifling. That's trifling, bro. Go home to mom or don't you got a girl, dad or something? But why are you moving in on me? And then, yeah, he was he then he tried to blast it. The dad like, and that's why you told me, I guess the dad told the son, I got a young girl just like the AGO girlfriend. Don't start saying that weird stuff. Because that's what the son was saying. You got to set the boundaries. If you live in this house, I don't care who got live here. So respect that. It's about a respect thing. I said, you got to be like, I'm not having this. First of all, you can't even be over here, dad, with my girls here. Period. And I'm not here. Period. Like I don't like this. I'm uncomfortable. Exactly. So because of the fact that you got a young girlfriend and she's doing all that, they both trifling though. I think the girl is trifling too. People are on the girl in the comments because they're like, yo, why are you not defending your man? Right. You're defending this dad is crazy. So won't y'all just move out? See, that's going to be crazy because the dad going to kick him out and then live with the girl. Like this is my crib. But it's not his dad's crib. Because the mom gave it to the son, but he's acting like it's my mom though. You know what I mean? I'm not leaving here. So what is your thoughts on, so this is another thing. Have you seen like, let's say you're in a relationship and you go around someone's like your family or her family or whatever, friends. And older men are there and they're like, oh, you know how men would be like, oh, you did your big one praising you like about the girl. Does that feel disrespectful to you? You doing too much? If I bring my girl around anywhere, you guys could go anywhere. It could be around friends. It could be around, but there's other men there. And they're like, keep praising you for like, you know how man be like, oh, you did your big one. You did it. Yeah. Yeah. Like, oh, you better not lose this one. You better not. Because some men will be like, that's doing too much. Because now you just showing my girl that you honor. Does that bother you or is that whatever to you? I think that's whatever to me. Yeah. Because the people I'm going to be around, it's going to be no ill intentions. But what if it's like y'all went around her friends and her friends' family. And you don't really know them. They over there like, go, yeah, you did your big one. I'm like, yeah, yeah, they got their my big one. Right. Right. Yeah, I like that. OK, OK. I ain't trippin' off of that. OK, OK. Just don't cross the line. Don't do it in front of me. Right. You know, and if I find out, then that's where the issue going to come in. Yeah. That's love. That's just love. You know, Cass, you probably at a party. Everybody drinking like, oh, damn, that's his girl. Hey, you did that. Like, all right, that's cool. But you don't know what I got to deal with at home, this motherfucker, this bitch. I'm a smiling public that go home and be arguing all the damn time. Oh, crying. OK, so a dying wife, she's in the hospital, she's dying. She asked her husband if she could sleep with her ex one last time. You dying? Where you at dying? In the hospital. Girl, if you don't stop. You not going to let her? You know what? You pay for your own funeral. She's dead. How is she going to pay for her own funeral? No, she's dying. I mean, she's dying. Pay for your own funeral. And you get no more visitation from me. I will allow that if that's your last wish. If that's your last wish, then it's going to be without me. That's so crazy if that's someone's last wish. If I'm messing with you and you come to me and you're dying and I've been by your bedside and you like, I want to be with my ex one last time. And I do my ex one last time. I'm never talking to you again. Just for asking. I'm going to be like, yeah, you can talk to him. It's my fault. You want me to call him on speaker right now? OK, I'm out. And I'm not coming back. So I'll tell you. What if she's like, I want you guys both here? That's your dying wish? Yeah. No, that's not happening. I'm going to be like, you know what? Let's pull the plug on her guys. Let's get her about here early. She talking crazy. She's lost her goddamn mind. She's lost her goddamn mind. Yeah, I agree. I agree with that. That would be so disrespectful. I can only imagine how I would feel. I'll be like, wow. So this whole time, you just was waiting to have sex with your ex again and now you're dying. And that's all you could think about. You're blowing me now. I could not ever. I'm done. Just for asking the question, bye. Do what you want. Yeah, do you. Yeah, pull the plug. I got to see what's in her IV, though. It might be some heavy medication. I might let it slide. I have to ask the doctors. Right, because you know you are the drug. You might say some crazy shit. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I got to see. So Deontay Wilder, is that how you say his name? Oh, yeah, DeWilder. So there's been two people that just came out and said the same thing. I forgot the other person and I have to look it up. But I know for sure it was Deontay Wilder. He came out and he said that his daughter's mother set him up by injecting his sperm into her. And someone else famous just came out and said the same exact thing. These are two people who came out with this. How? How do you inject his sperm? Someone else came out with this, too. But yeah, it's the real thing. That's how like, lesbians and stuff get pregnant. Like, you can inject someone's sperm. What did he say again? He said that she went and she went into got his sperm or whatever from the condom. No, he sprayed it on the stomach. Oh, sprayed it on the stomach. And then you tell the other person, I think, was the condom. Yeah, and then you go. When she went to the bathroom, it was like, I'm some whoop-de-whoop. Yeah, you can inject it. Or you can have a syringe thing. Damn. That's what they, that's trifling. That's a real thing. People do that. That's trifling. Yeah. That's a real thing. If that really happened, like, there should be a law that I don't have to support this child. Yeah, that's what that is. There should be a law. Like, I shouldn't have to pay child support if this don't work out. The way it happened, this is damn near rape. I mean, yeah, it is a form of abuse, for sure. That's a form of rape or abuse. It is. It's a form of something that's violation of you. I agree. And I think that women don't get held accountable enough for abusive behavior, period. Men do, but not women. And I think that that is very foul. That is very foul. Like, that is a very low blow. And he is the second person I saw recently say this. It was another celebrity that said this, too. And they both have daughters or kids with these people. Yeah, that's crazy. And they might not be with them anymore. But like, now I have to support a kid that I was responsible enough not to create. But you went behind my back and you did this. I think that that is so foul. That's super foul. You know what I mean? And it should be some type of law put in for that. No, it should. And I think it's equivalent to men putting holes in condoms and stuff on purpose. Because that has happened. Yeah. Yeah, for sure that. Yeah. And I feel like that's crazy. Really disrespectful. Really disrespectful. And I feel so horrible about anyone who has to deal with that. And again, this is the second person I've heard say that recently. That's a lot of story. So moving on from that crazy stuff. That is crazy. Speaking of toxic. So you know Boris Kojo and Nicole Ari Parker. So Boris recently told a story about how they met and they were working on set together, basically. And that's how they met. Working on the show. And obviously he's like, she was so beautiful to me, whatever. He's obviously extremely attractive. And I feel like they both just were. They're a beautiful gorgeous couple. And they both just were vibing or whatever. But Nicole was engaged. And she had a whole another man. And she was engaged to a man when they met. So he said that one day he came into her trailer and told her, you're going to be my wife and we're going to have kids. And he said that she didn't talk to him for two weeks because she was so mad. She was like, you disrespected me. I'm engaged. The fact that you would come in here and say that is crazy. And she was super, super upset. And so but he was like, I just knew. Like when you meet someone and you just know, you just know. He was like, I knew she was going to be my wife no matter what obstacles were in the way. No matter what, if she was engaged, no matter what she had going on, like I was like, this is going to be my wife period. And now they've been together for however long. Wow. And that's a crazy story. Because like to be bold enough to like. Damn. And then you get to spend all this time when you're on set to change that mind. That's where a lot of relationships happen that on in these movie sets. That's why when you married and your husband and your wife on the movie set were one of these top actors or whoever and y'all on set and y'all been in there with each other for like the next three months seeing each other. And there were a couple on the show. Yeah. So you start feeling that. That's that's why it's that's why you see a lot of Hollywood couples be with the people who they've been on set with. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Yeah, they made a movie. He was with another woman. He was with Jennifer Aniston. And he left her for Angelina Jolie, that working environment. Probably after they did that one movie, Mr. and Mrs. Miff. I think that's what it was. It was them on set during that. That's where you start to, you know, it's a movie. It's a show. You're acting, but you're spending all this time with this person. You're kissing them. Lunches, dinners, breaks. And you right there with them. What would you do if you were in a relationship and your woman was an actress and she was like, I'm about to do this movie, but it's a love scene. It's someone like super attractive that like everyone loves and he's going to be my love interest. Would you be like, nah, you don't need to take that right? I don't think you can like say. Say in the middle of that. Yeah, you can't say no. You just have to see. She working and yeah, she doing her big one. She on a big screen. And it just I just got to, you know, support her. You know, if she want me there or don't want me there, I got to respect that. And it is what it is. A lot of cats be losing they watch their husbands to these movies too. He look like, hey, hold on. She on the set. Woo. Dab layer dog. Y'all need to do a stand in for that. Yeah. You got to do a extra what they call them. That like you can't do the kissing scene with the main star. You got to do the double. You got to do with the double. Like a stunt double. Yeah. You really tricky if she fall in love with the double instead of the main character. I'm dead. That's crazy. Like, damn, that's wild. That's great. Speaking of like being engaged, future said he's engaged now. And he's leaving his toxic ways behind. And you know, future is like the king of toxic. Everyone knows. Invented it. Yeah. He invented the toxic shit. But he said he's not the face of the toxic. He said he's not on that. He's engaged. He's in love. Engaged right now. Yeah. That's what he said. He's engaged. He's in love. And he's leaving his toxic ways behind. Period. Well, yeah, you got to see what the other side look like. Right. You've been on one side for so long. You don't go to the other side, see how that work out. And if that don't work out, you jump back to the other side. So but you know, I wish him the best. I hope, you know, people men start getting older and they start realizing this ain't it. Yeah. But then when you institutionalized, most people institutionalize it, get out of jail and what happened? They go right back. So hopefully this work out though, you know, so he can just see what the other side is like. It's more peaceful. You know, I'll tell you that it's less stressful. It's less. And like, I don't know if it costs more. What costs more? Relationship or toxicity? Both. Both, huh? Both costs. Both costs. So we'll see. So good luck to Future Man. I hope it all work out. Maybe he can come on the show and talk about it. I would love that. I don't even ever see Future on any shows or podcasts. Yeah, let's give Future out here, man. Let's give Future out here. Let's give Future out here throughout the dark. OK, so LaKeah, she's an artist. She was on Jess and the Boys podcast. And she talked about relationship rules that are non-negotiable. She said, number one was no communication with her friends. So if we're in a relationship, you could not communicate with my friends. Why? You communicate with my friends without me, basically. I don't really agree with that one. I thought that was a strange one. That's insecure. Yeah, like what do you mean? First of all, you don't trust your friends. Yeah. You have your friends. What type of friends you got? What type of friends you got? What kind of friends? Because my friends, I know if they're talking to my man or whoever, it's a very, like, it's not none of that. Well, it's not a daily basis where you're talking to each other's friends either. But that's wild if it's daily basis. But like just no communication? Yeah. Because it could be like, damn, hey, do you know where my girl is? I've been looking for her. Or what is she like? Her birthday's coming up. Or it's all type of stuff. You're like, hey, let me call her home girl. There's got to be a certain type of communication to her. You might be like, hey, you think she'll like this? Yeah, I think it's good to be able to have that communication that you're able to call someone and be like, hey, this and that, or something happens. And you call them like, I think that that's cool. I think that maybe a daily basis communication is wild. No, that's wild. But like not being able to communicate with your friends. And be like, what you doing though? That's wild. What you doing? What you doing is blowing me. Oh, I just want to see what you was doing. I'll just make it sure. Exactly. Exactly. What you doing to the home girl? Oh, I'll just see who you was out tonight. I didn't mind. My girl ain't here tonight. I'll just see who you was out if y'all was out. I would lose it. If I found out my friend talking about what you doing and y'all texting just on some regular channel. What if you see your home girl and she got a text from, yo man saying what you doing, but she didn't respond. But she was like, look girl, what should I say? Oh, I'm going to be right here. I'm going to text you with them. Say, just chilling at the house. What are you doing? And then I'm going to see what this man is talking about. Why are you texting my friend? Right. Because that's what I'm going to do. Text me what you doing. OK, texting back. Just chilling. What are you doing? Oh, man. Just chilling. So let me tell you what's so crazy. Let me tell you what's so crazy. So there's this guy who goes out in public or whatever. And he's like, call your best friend's boyfriend. So it'll be two girls, right? And he'll do it. Sometimes the man will just be like, what are you talking about? There's a scenario that happened where it's two girls, their best friends. I know what you're talking about. You know what I'm saying? And she's like, call your best friend's boyfriend. And she's like, all right. So he calls. He's like, hey, what are you doing? He's like, what's that? Where are you at? And basically, boom, cracking. She was like, I'm at home chilling. And he's like, all right, you want me to pull up? Yeah. And basically, it exposed that they already been messing around. You hide your back. Let me tell you something. If I have friends that are not like this, so I don't have to worry about this. But if I ever catch one of these friends of mine doing anything with someone I'm in a relationship with, I don't like to fight them. But baby, I'm coming out of retirement and I'm beating that ass. Damn, you're coming out of retirement. I'm beating your ass down to the ground. And it's over for everybody. It's over for everybody. It's over for everybody. That's like the biggest disrespect. That is. That's crazy. It's the biggest disrespect ever to me, period. Damn, that is. That's shady as shit. So some of her other things was she feels like communication constantly is a non-negotiable. I know your routine. Call me. You're going to bed. Another thing is she said, no bare minimum treatment. Like, you can't treat me like I'm a bare minimum broad, basically. What does that mean? So bare minimum is just like, you know, effort, lack of effort. Like you just whatever, who you're not trying to make an effort to show up in the relationship, basically. Like you're just comfortable, like whatever, bare minimum. Like it's my birthday and you just have birthday. There's nobody doing that. People do this. Like people do this. Minimum bare, so just dinner or blow you? No, I mean not me. No, I'm just saying her. That's the bare minimum. Like she's going to blow her. That's what she's saying. Like just not really doing nothing, not really caring, not really like that's a no go for her. So I feel like I think those are pretty decent. But I think the no communication with my friends is the weird one for me. Yeah, I don't mind that. Not no communication, but like, you know, it's minimal, unless it's just something like, you can talk to my friends as long as there's something geared toward me. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So that's it. So that ain't, that ain't, that's too much. Bun B was saying that he doesn't understand why people are with someone that they don't trust. He's saying that like, why would you stay in a relationship where you feel like you have to watch someone? He's like, I have things in my house and like money and different things and stuff like that. And he's like, if I'm with a woman and I can't trust her to be at my house alone, why are people in those type of relationships? He was like, let's say something happens. And I'm like, yo, it's an emergency. I need you to get this. Right now, he was like, if I can't do that with my girl, because I have to hide it from her too. He was like, I just feel like I would never want to be in that type of relationship. Damn. And he's like, I feel like a lot of people are with people that they don't trust. Yeah, for sure. I know my homeboys be like at their house trying to hide shit from their girl and money and this and that. It's like, if you have to hide money from your girl, that ain't your girl. Like you shouldn't even be with her. For real, huh? Period. He's like, if I can't have you in my house alone and not trust that you're not going to be stealing from me or doing weird stuff, why would I be in that relationship? He said he don't understand people like that. He's like, the vagina ain't that good. Right. Damn, that's real. What do you think of that? I agree. Like you supposed to be a trust your partner. I think I deal with that. Just the non-trust factor. Yeah, that definitely was something I was like, damn, I don't trust this motherfucker at my house, but I'm not there just because it's always something. Yeah, exactly. Just like, damn, why are you going through this? Or like, I don't know what it is. It's like, damn, I had this here. Why you take that? Like, when I had something, like, that's untrust. And that's not cool spot when you in a relationship. Yeah, and you don't feel good because even if you leave them at your house and you're going somewhere, now you're paranoid. Are they going through my stuff? Are they there doing something? Like, you don't want to feel that way in a relationship. I feel like that's not good. Yeah, that ain't cool. That's like, if you stand in that, then, you're going to have a headache at the end of the day. That ain't a good situation. That's not a good, you don't feel safe. That's not a good safe spot. Yeah, for sure. I feel that. I'm sure. Dr. Cheyenne Bryant was talking about how. Our good friend, Dr. Cheyenne Bryant. What's up, girl? Exactly. I love Dr. Cheyenne. But she was talking about recently how emotional intelligence is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Do you agree with that? Because I know we've talked about this before. Is that the foundation? Yeah. Well, the foundation of a relationship is trust. It's got to be built on some type of trust. Because emotional is great. But you're going to have some disagreements to where you might say something you don't mean. And that happens. And you've got to check your emotions. But at the same time, you've got to have the best. It's got to be. That's just one thing that she's talking about. And relationships are. Different people have different foundations. Some people like to build their house in the hills or on the sand. It's just like wherever you want to build your house. You build it on the beach. You've got to look out for them tidal waves and them tsunamis coming. Thinking it's going to be a cool breeze. You build your shit on a mountain high. You think it's looking good and safe and all pretty. But then the earthquake come. You've got to build it on steady ground. And steady ground is that trust. Facts. Facts. 100%. I agree. Last question. This is a question that's like going viral. Are ladies OK with a man ordering a lemon drop? Or is it sassy? I think it's OK. When I say men being like trying to be feminine, it's way deeper than I should be. I mean, if we order a lemon drop, I'm going to be like, well, look at this bitch-ass nigga right here. We ain't doing that tonight. Man, this nigga right here. No, no. Who paying for that? I'm crying. You can't kick it with us, dawg. Get it back on with that. That's weak as hell. Get that to the girls. I am crying. We ain't doing that. We not doing that tonight. If we going to be out throwing something back, it ain't going to be that. Nah, dawg. Go on with that. I'm crying. No, hell no. That's weak as hell. You're not doing no lemon drop. I'm not doing no goddamn lemon drops. It's so funny because I was at the bar and I remember recently someone was like, give me a lemon drop, but put it in a different cup. There's certain drinks as men with the guys and the girls. You can't order homies. So the list right here, and these just on top of my hand. These are the list. Go ahead. Don't order a lemon drop when you with the fellas and your girl. Don't ever order no apple martini, any kind of martini. We ain't doing that. That's for the girls. We all mixed drinks, champagne, wine, cool, cool, with all that lemon drop, apple martini. Cosmo. Cosmo, get them out of here. What about an espresso martini? You can order espresso martini if it's you and your girl. But not with you and another man. Not with you and other with the guys. Not with the guys. Now we good on that. Don't do that. Like your boy's like, yeah, you know, you got rich, just tear shots. No dawg, let me get the espresso martini. We're going to get up like, I'm crying. I'm crying. I'm crying. I am screaming. That's the list. OK, we got it right there. That's the rules. OK. Those are the rules. OK. OK, well, thank you guys so much for joining another episode of the Truth After Dark. Make sure you like, subscribe. We've gone a long way. It's almost been a year since we started this show. We appreciate your support. Make sure you continue to watch us weekend and week out. See what special guests we are on here. We appreciate it. We love y'all. Love you guys. Thank you. 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