Welcome to Obsessed, where Mika, Tia and I challenge the thoughts that limit you, where we provide the tools for transformation, be prepared to be swept away into the raw power of obsession, unlocking secrets and stories behind the insatiable hunger for growth and change. This is more than just a podcast, this is your story. It is a manifesto for those who refuse to settle, who dare to dream and who are relentless in the pursuit of living a great life. Get obsessed with your life. Feeling tired, feeling overwhelmed, feeling that you're not living your best life? We start the show, I want to just tell you about Orlo Nutrition, that's O-R-L-O nutrition. I've got four kids, a job, a business, a husband, two dogs, and I was lacking energy. Let's be clear. I was lacking energy until I started taking these little beautiful LG capsules that changed the way my brain functioned. I got clarity, I started feeling more energy. Side effect, little side effect, my skin started looking better. I felt more vibrant. My husband told me, what have you been doing, Julie? You seem a little different. It's all about Orlo Nutrition. Guys, get obsessed with Orlo Nutrition. I want you to check them out. That's O-R-L-O nutrition.com, Game Changer. Now, on with the show, get obsessed. I'm not exactly feeling bikini ready right now. This summer is just on the precipice of launching. It is starting to get beautiful here in the Chicago area. We're in the shining. We're hitting 70, 80 degrees every day. I am sitting here thinking about, do I need to go to the pool this summer? Do I need to wear a swim suit? I'm not even talking bikini. The fact is, is that my confidence, my body confidence may not be 1,000%. Are you feeling this way? Are you feeling you are not presenting yourself the way that you should be, or not should be, but want to be presenting yourself? Because it is a dance on the razor's edge of comparison, as well as just looking in the mirror and self-doubt. Self-doubt is creeping your way. I kind of make light about bikini season. Is it really bikini season? You can always throw a cute cap tan or cover up over yourself as long as you are exuding the confidence. I want to talk about confidence as I know that confidence is something that is a key component in growing mentally stronger. How can we boost? How can you boost your self-confidence to make a more successful, healthy lifestyle and make healthy choices? I'm going to talk about the confidence I feel. The confidence when you walk in a room. When you walk in the room with your shoulders slummed, you are feeling very self-conscious about how you look, how you speak, how you present yourself to the world in a networking situation, a family gathering, going out with those girlfriends. First and foremost, how I feel more confident, and I want you to think about this. This is going to be just a short little step-by-step guide to how I feel more confident as opposed to you. We all have a different playbook. We all do. Mika has a different playbook. Tia, I do. You do. I know when I walk into a room and I compare myself to others, I'm checking out what the ideal of perfection is. Or if I'm scrolling through Instagram, don't do this. Stop your scroll, stop comparing your looks, your salaries, your relationships with others, because honestly, people are comparing themselves to you. I just want to tell you one thing. Nobody really cares about you. You're not that special. You are very special. You are special and unique, but in the eyes of others, you have the bandwidth. You present the bandwidth of only having 20 minutes, meaning people do not remember you after 20 minutes. Think about the last group of people you just ran into. Do you remember them? Do you think about them? Do you think about what they're wearing, what they look like? Are you really invested in other people's stories and looks? No, you forget about it, because we are egotistical human beings here on earth. We are in essence all about ourselves. We do not cultivate other people's stories, because we are thinking about what is going on in our life. We're bombarded with too much stimuli to even hold court on what someone else is wearing or looking like or spoke about 20 minutes ago. You are important. I don't want you to forget that. However, people don't think about you after 20 minutes. Pay attention to what you're thinking as opposed to what you think other people are thinking. Instead of viewing everybody as a competitor or judging yourself against somebody else, take a look at what they're doing well. They might have some information, skills, or resources that you honestly could learn from. Make it your mission to become better than you were yesterday. Make sure you're not trying to be somebody else. I want to tell you something I've had a lot of trouble with. Stop comparing easy for me, but boundaries are very hard for me. I was reading an article talking about boundaries, and it is impossible to be confident when you feel like you have no control over how others treat you. I never correlated the fact that boundaries and confidence were interconnected. I have a lot of role models, a lot of mentors on boundaries and who are super confident. For some reason, I always want to please everybody. I want to help everybody. Everybody come in my life, stomp over my whole entire body. Do whatever you want. Yes, I'll do this. Yes, I'll do that. I come back exhausted and I have no boundaries. I just relegate it because I'm nice and I want to help people. That's BS. That's BS because I want people to like me, creating boundaries for ourselves, can aid in a feeling of more control, and it improves that psychological safe haven that we're all looking for. It's really part of feeling confident, knowing that you are in charge of your life and other people's opinions. While some do matter a small amount, most people don't. Another thing that's really helped me with my confidence besides stop comparing myself, understanding the power of creating boundaries, spending time with positive people, take a look at the people that you surround yourself with. I want you to surround yourself with people who greatly impact you for the positive. If you're surrounding yourself with judgmental or critical people around you, it is taking a toll on your ability to be mentally strong. If you feel awful about yourself and you're hearing people talk negatively, then it's going to further that narrative in your head. So many people don't realize that their best friend, their partner, their kids, their parents are really negative and it is seriously affecting your self-esteem. If you feel awful about yourself, hearing others say things that are nice about you can be very, very uncomfortable. You just squirm. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh, you look so beautiful today. Oh no, I don't. Thank you. No, thank you. Accept these compliments. Know people who are really trying to support you, uplift you, surround yourselves with them, walk in your confidence. This is not a band-aid. It is a practice that we have to practice every single day. Me too, Mika too, Tia too. All of us have to do this. Don't let your life become familiar with negativity, with lack of boundaries, with comparison. Become familiar with lifting your head high. Become familiar with understanding the gifts you possess in this world. This is just an obsessed PSA and I want to tell you I'm so appreciative of you. Me and my hosts, Mika and Tia, we're so grateful for all your love. Don't forget to rate, review, subscribe and share this podcast with someone that you think needs a little injection of positivity in their life. I'm grateful for you and get obsessed today. Get obsessed with your life and DM us on Instagram at getobsessedpodcast, at sign getobsessedpodcast. And let us know what you think. Let us know what is changing your life today. We're obsessed with you. Thank you for listening to us. We'll see you for the next episode of Obsessed. We're obsessed with you. Show your love by rating, reviewing, subscribing and sharing with your friends. Every time you share, you are changing someone else's life. Until we meet again, get obsessed with your life. If you liked the show, please take a moment to rate, review and subscribe. It really does help the show to grow. Thank you for listening.
