The Law of Detachment: Why Letting Go Makes You Manifest Faster

Hello, my friends, and welcome back to Planet M, a podcast about neuroscience, spirituality, and real-life tools that you can use today. This episode is all about detachment and the art of letting go and the neuroscience behind why this really is a top manifestation skill to learn. And I think, you know, if you're into kind of learning about the spiritual side of manifestation, I'm sure you've heard of the law of detachment and how when you are attached to something, when you're gripping onto it so tightly, you actually repel the thing that you want away. So if you've never heard of detachment or the law of detachment before, I like to think of the example of a relationship. And when you are in a relationship with someone, or let's say you're in the talking phase or you're just beginning to get to know someone and the person that you're trying to get to know, you're talking to, you're texting, etc this person is extremely needy and they are constantly wanting to talk to you 24 7 they're always hitting up your line always calling you texting you needing you to always be available for them 24 7 this would get very annoying and this would probably repel a lot of people right so if you're in a relationship with someone and this person is very needy always needing you to be around, always needing to be with you, talk to you, text you, that would be annoying. And I don't know about you, it becomes unattractive, that neediness. And so the same way that when someone is needy with all of your time and attention, that starts to repel you or push you away, that same energy repels the things that we want away. That's the spiritual component, the life sort of circumstance component, right, that I've always heard. But then you guys know me, I like to think about it from a neuroscience perspective. I find that this helps me understand things when I understand the neuroscience behind why something's happening. And so neuroscience actually very clearly kind of explains some of why detachment is so important. And now guys, before I even get into the neuroscience and explaining that a little bit, I just want to say that, you know, I wouldn't be getting on this episode and talking about detachment if I didn't think it was extremely important. So many times in my life, I, and you know, we have, we got to be tested a lot, right? Like we learn through tests. And so many times in my life, I have been gripping onto something or trying to control some sort of situation or outcome. And as soon as I give up or let go, it happens. As soon as I decide to allow myself to feel the way that I want to feel now, It happens. And so detachment is real and it really is a key component to manifesting the life that we desire. And so I just wanted to kind of say that as well. I'm sure if you're into the manifestation, you know, sort of world, then you've probably heard of detachment. But if you're not, then maybe you haven't heard of it before. And so I wanted to just take a moment to also say that it has 100% been my experience in my own life that detaching from the outcome, trusting and surrendering, that is a powerful energy. And before I kind of describe the neuroscience behind this even more, I want to talk for a second about whenever I was transitioning from undergrad into my PhD, I remember I had a friend ask me, he was like, are you not nervous to go and get your PhD? Like you're moving to a state, moving to a place that you know zero people and you're going into this PhD program to study neuroscience. Are you not nervous? And I just remember not being nervous at all like at all I was moving way outside of my comfort zone but for some reason I had zero fear it just so happened to be kind of around the same time that I was really developing in my spirituality and connection to you know my version of God and the universe and my angels and spirit guides whatever terminology you know you resonate with but for me it was kind of connecting to God and the universe and my angels and I had replaced fear with faith and trust and knowing that everything is always working out the way that it's supposed to and trusting that everything is always working out for me. When you understand kind of the spiritual side of life that we are all here as spiritual beings living a human experience in order for our souls to learn and the way that I look at life is, you know, my soul signed a contract. I came into this life and I, you know, knew that I was going to go through trials and tribulations. And I chose the challenges that I was going to face so that I could level up on a soul level outside of this earth plane. That's the way that I look at it. Now, you don't have to look at it that way. There are tons of different ways to look at the reason why we're here, right? There's not a right or wrong answer in my opinion, but That's the way that I look at it. And so I know that I'm here for a reason. And I know that because I look at life that way, I can trust that everything is always working out for me, right? Things don't happen to me. They're happening for me so that my soul can experience this experience, whether I like it or not. Whenever I was kind of moving into this new experience, this very uncomfortable experience of going into a PhD and all that and not knowing anyone. Now, I don't want to say it was easy at all. it wasn't. My apartment that I was supposed to move into didn't end up being available for me for a few weeks. And I was living in this very sketchy hotel with my pet lizard named Nuro. And it was honestly like very sketchy to the point where the people that were living in the room next to me, the hotel, not living, I was living, they were staying, but there was a point where I was calling down to the lobby desk because I thought there was some domestic violence happening. So it was definitely a sketchy time. Okay. But for some reason, I never felt any sort of way or fear about it. And at the time I had trust and surrender written on sticky notes everywhere in my in the hotel room, trust and surrender written on written on doorways, like right above the door handle in my room, on mirrors everywhere. I had trust and surrender written and that got me through that very uncertain time in my life and now recognizing that technically all times of life are uncertain. Life is a game of uncertainty. It is. And I think being able to trust in a higher power and trust that everything is working out in my favor and when I see a shooting star, I always wish that I'm on my highest timeline, the timeline of my highest good and the highest good of all. and I believe that when you wish on a shooting star, it has to become real. So whether that resonates with you or not, I think being able to trust in something, trust in yourself is extremely important, but also being able to trust in some sort of power outside of you, whatever that looks like for you, I think is extremely important. And it allows you to detach. And so I guess that's sort of one point that I honestly wasn't really even planning on making, But it's that is one of the most powerful ways to be able to be detached in life is to trust in the powers that be. And I know for me, when I am saying my prayers and talking to God, I always say, like, work through me, like, use me, work through me. And I can trust that whatever is meant to happen will. And then if it doesn't, then it isn't, you know, according to the divine will. but that you know it might not be it might not be never it just means not now and I think being able to trust in that and a huge other component to detachment and being able to trust and surrender is surrendering to the how because one thing that I know is that I firmly believe that all of my dreams are meant to come true like I there there are two levels to detachment the first is being able to fully trust that your dreams are meant to like the dreams that you have were planted within you for a reason because you were meant to fulfill them and I fully believe that the dreams you have were planted within you for a reason because you were meant to fulfill them you are meant to become the version of you who achieves that dream that's why it's planted within you so that you can go on the journey of growth and development success isn't something you chase it's something you attract by the person you become. That's Jim Rohn. And so it's really all about the becoming, as we all know. And I'm getting ahead of myself, but that's another huge key to detachment is becoming. Because when you become the version of you who has it all, you no longer need the physical thing because you already feel the way that you want to feel. In my last masterclass, I like to be interactive. And so I had everybody close their eyes and I asked everyone a question, right? So you can go ahead and close your eyes right now as long as you're not driving or operating heavy machinery. Go ahead and close your eyes and ask yourself if you were to think, feel, and move or act like the version of you who has it all, how would your life look different? If you thought, felt, and acted like the version of you who has it all like right now, how would your life look different? I love asking people that question because I look in the chat and people are like, oh, I'd feel free. I'd feel happier. I'd feel confident. I feel more confident in myself because when you become, you no longer need. Let's talk about the neuroscience of detachment for a second. So I want to kind of focus on the opposite of detachment so that you can really understand why detachment is so important. And the opposite of detachment is attachment. And so when you are attached to something, when you are desperately wanting something and you're waiting to feel the way that you want to feel until you get the thing, right? So let's say, for example, you know, money is going to make you feel free and happy, you're not letting yourself feel free and happy until you get the money, you are attached. You are attached. You are not allowing yourself to feel the way that you want to feel until you have the physical thing. And as you may or may not know, you have to be it first. You have to be a match for what you want before you can have it. So as long as you wait on something outside of you to change before you change, you will never experience that change. All right. So that's reason number one, right? Reason number one of why detachment is so important is as long as you are waiting on something outside of you to change, you are never going to experience the change My last episode I talked about how you never going to love your body until you love your body You are never going to feel free until you give yourself permission to feel free You are never going to feel happy until you give yourself permission to feel happy and do the things that you need to do to feel happy Because physical, material things, they don't make us feel different. We make ourselves feel different. Something I always say is we do not want the things that we want. We want the feelings that we believe the things that we want are going to bring us. And so that is kind of one of the big reasons why, right? Because your brain constructs your entire experience of reality. And so if your brain isn't wired to feel free, then nothing is ever going, like you're not ever going to feel free. If your brain isn't wired to feel happy, you're not going to feel happy. Like things can happen for you and you won't be able to feel happy. If you are not allowing yourself to feel official or accomplished in life, you're never going to feel official or accomplished in life no matter what you achieve. And I personally have lived this. Last year on a manifestation workshop that I was doing inside of Minecraft for everyone, I was using myself as an example and I decided to manifest a million followers on that call. And it aged very well because I think I hit it like a month later after this call. And I was, you know, I was saying, you know, you don't want the things that you want. You want the feelings. You believe the things that you want are going to bring you. So when it comes to manifestation and, you know, working on detachment, the first step is to identify what are the feelings that you believe the things that you want are going to bring you. Because nothing really has any meaning except for the meaning that you give it. Your brain had to learn meaning. And it's important to recognize that because we all learn different meanings. You know, one person might look at money and that the feeling associated with money or the meaning that they have is different from the meaning that I have or the meaning that you have when you're listening to this episode right now. And so it's important to ask yourself the question, you know, what feelings do I believe the thing that I want is going to bring me? For me, a million followers was going to bring me the feeling of being official and accomplished. And now that's step one in an activity that I like to call living in the feeling state of your desires. And living in the feeling state of your desires is a huge key to detachment as well. Because as long as you're not allowing yourself to feel the way that you want to feel, you're attached to the outcome. And so identifying the feelings that you believe the things that you want are going to bring you. And then making two lists. The first list is a list of all the reasons you already have to feel that way. And so when I realized that a million followers was going to make me feel official and accomplished, I asked myself, okay, well, what are all of the reasons I already have to feel official and accomplished? and I wrote the list and made it as long as possible. And I realized, damn, I have a lot of reasons to feel official and accomplished right now. The fact that I had 900 something thousand on Instagram already and I had an amazing thriving coaching business and I had a team, a whole team. I have an entire team now with employees. It's incredible. I have, you know, an amazing business partner, an amazing assistant, an amazing manager, all these different people working with me and a network that's continuing to grow. and I realized, damn, like I have a lot of reasons and on top of having two degrees in neuroscience and just, I could go on and on, but I realized, and that's the whole idea is that I could go on and on and so I did go on and on, all right? I made a long ass list of all the reasons I had to feel official and accomplished. And then step three is to now make a list of all the things that you have complete control over that you can start doing to make yourself feel those feelings that you named in step one. And so for me, right, I was like, okay, what are some things that I can start doing more often to activate those feelings of feeling official and accomplished? Well, one of them is going to the gym. For me, going to the gym, I always leave the gym or whatever workout that I'm doing, feeling accomplished. Completing a workout makes me feel accomplished. Also, remembering to even celebrate the small wins. Like, for example, when I'm finished filming this podcast, I have an opportunity to pat myself on the back and say, good job, Em, you completed that task and you can feel accomplished in that task. Now, that can very easily be blown over and I could have missed that opportunity to do that. And I would have missed the opportunity to feel accomplished and give myself the feeling that I already deserve to feel. And that's why this kind of activity is so important because it helps you realize all of the different areas of your life that you already have the opportunity to feel the way that you want to feel, but you're not allowing yourself to because you think you need something that you don't currently have to feel that way. And more often than not, it's not the case. There are things available to you right now that can give you the feeling that you're waiting on. One of my students, my beautiful students in Minecraft, her name is Victoria. Whenever she was like, one of her feelings that she had named was feeling like a bad bitch. Okay, now make two lists. One list of all the reasons you already have to feel that way. And then the second list of all the things that you can start doing today that will make you feel that way. And I will say one of the things. So the first list, right, is all the reasons you already have to feel that way. And the second list are things you could start doing today moving forward. One of the items on your second list, I'm just going to give you one right now that you can begin with, is to go and read list one. Because list number one is all the reasons you already have to feel that way and everything you've ever done. It's sort of like a resume or a list. And it's a clear activator of those feelings, right? Just reading that list activates the feeling. So I would, you know, if you really struggle to feel and for just using me as the example here, if I really struggle to feel official and accomplished, then I can, you know, make these two lists, but then also start reading list number one every single day and remind myself of all the reasons I already have to feel that way every day for a week, maybe until it's really wired in. And then if I start to forget, I can go back and read it again. You guys know I love a good list and I love a three-step process. so that is kind of one of my hacks for detachment um that will allow you to live in the feeling state of your desires which is extremely powerful and i'm telling you guys when you do this you will start manifesting things so quickly because you'll feel the way that you want to feel right now it'll make you one just feel better now which is great it'll allow you to enjoy the journey which is extremely important also it allows you to become a match for what you want right because it allows you to match the energy of the version of you who has it. Boom. You've just become. It allows you to become a match for the version of you that has whatever it is that you want. Now let's talk about kind of the other component to why detachment is so important. It really is stress and worry and fear. When you are attached to an outcome, you're not allowing yourself to feel the way that you want to feel and you are in desperation. Desperate energy. One is repulsive, right? We've already talked about that. But then the other side of it, of the story is the fact that when you are, you know, in desperation, you're in fight or flight. And so now we're going real like heavy neuroscience here and just like really scientific for a second. When you are in a state of stress or desperation and you are feeling anxious and you are anxiously attached to something, needing something to happen, and you feel stressed about it and you are in that state of fight or flight in your nervous system. You've activated the sympathetic branch of your nervous system. A few things happen. The first thing is that your perception of reality is distorted. Your perception of reality is not accurate when you are in fight or flight because your amygdala, the fear center, is fired up in the brain and it actually begins to scan your reality for threats, potential threats to keep you safe. Because when you're in fight or flight, your brain is not scanning your reality for possibility. It is scanning it for potential threats and predictability. So based on your past, it is really difficult to create a new future in fight or flight. When you are in fight or flight, you are going, your brain, you know, kind of reverts back to safety mode and you will be acting on and kind of basing your behaviors. Your brain will kind of predict your behavior is based on predictability rather than possibility. And so your brain is filtering your reality for potential threats and not for opportunities. And so your perception of reality is distorted. I've talked about that before on this podcast, about how stress distorts your perception of reality. Whenever you're overthinking something or you're feeling nervous and you go into a conversation, then maybe you leave a conversation overthinking what you said or didn't say. And the other person just is like, oh, it's a normal conversation. And you're over you're overthinking at all because you're not remembering it accurately because your brain is filtering it for potential threats or mistakes that you made. So that's what happens when you're in fight or flight. When you are attached, when you're desperate, when you're gripping onto something and trying to make something happen the way that you want it to happen specifically, that puts your body into a stressed state and it doesn't feel good, which is another important point. It just doesn't feel good. And your energy is your currency. It is the most important thing. Shout out Maya in Minecraft. She manifested 36k in a week. And when I asked her how, one of the most important things that she had said was that she really was paying attention to her energy. She said that she was putting her own energy first and making sure that was right before anything else that she did. Your energy is extremely important. And, you know, detachment is one of the ways that you can actually start to regulate your nervous system and get your energy right. And so when you are attached, when you're in fight or flight, when you're stressed, you also, another thing happens, right? I said, there's two things that happen. Well, there are a few, there are more than two, but there are, the first is, you know, your, your perception of reality is distorted. And the second is that you get this sort of tunnel vision, right? So normally, or I don't want to say normally, but when you are relaxed, when you're detached, when you are feeling good, you are in a state or a place where your brain can look for potential opportunities for you to achieve your goals and dreams. I'll give you the example when you're sitting at a coffee shop and you're, you know, let's say you're feeling really relaxed, you're sitting at a coffee shop, you're watching people kind of walk in and you're able to observe, right? You're able to be that observer and notice different little things. But let's say you're sitting at a coffee shop and you're extremely stressed about something. You have tunnel vision. You are not able to have this open awareness and be filtering for potential opportunities or alternate routes or paths to achieving your goals you not in that position You are in a position of tunnel vision deer in headlights And so that's another reason why detachment is so important. Because let me tell you this, guys, when you are on your way to your goals, when you're on your way to achieving your big dreams and big goals in life, oftentimes the path to achievement is not the same path that we had planned. on taking. Oftentimes there are detours and new exits, different turns, different opportunities, doors opening than we ever expected and it's important that we capitalize on those. It's important to be able to be open and aware and open for other possibilities outside of our comfort zone, open to other things outside of what we want to control. And if we're trying to control everything, we leave no room for divine intervention, for God to do God's work. If you don't ever take giant leaps of faith, then there's no room for divine intervention. And so this is another reason why it's extremely important to be able to trust and surrender and detach from the how. And I want to make a very key distinction here before we, you know, move through the rest of this episode. when I am talking about detachment I am not at all talking about not caring about whether or not you achieve your goals because I also am somebody who is a fan and supports the idea of obsession and I've made podcast episodes about that as well I I believe in you know being obsessed with a goal and going all in and and and loving what you do and and sort of you know thinking of like just filtering your reality through the lens of what you do. Like I am all for that. And so there is a key distinction between obsession and desperation. And that's really the key distinction. And that's what detachment's about. It's not about not wanting to win. Not at all. It's about the fact that you actually play better when you're not afraid to lose. You play better when you're not afraid. You play better when you're not trying to control every little detail. You play better when you feel free when you're having fun. And so I want to make that distinction here because I am not at all sitting on this episode saying you shouldn't want things and you shouldn't, you know, strive for things and you shouldn't care about achieving your goals because I have huge goals and dreams. And, you know, I've been, like I said, people have been requesting this episode for a while. And actually a big reason why I wanted to do this episode was because I actually last week was in yoga with my brother and his girlfriend and her family. It was great. And at the end of the session, you know, I love Shavasana. We go into this meditation and the post yoga meditations for me are always just on a different level. And this one was really on a different level. I, you know, one thing about me and you'll get to know me more and more throughout these episodes. But one thing about me is that I have not every time, but you know, every so often, I can't put a number on how often, but every so often I have extremely profound meditative experiences. Just like my body will be vibrating, tears flowing down my face. And I am literally talking to God. Like I, I feel like I've exited my body and I'm like float. I don't know how to explain it, but it, it, it happens. It happens more often than you would think, especially when I'm meditating every day. It happens, you know, probably more than more than one time a week. So anyway, I had one of these experiences last week. And when I'm in this deep state of meditation, I know I'm connected to, you know, I'm in it. So I love asking questions to my intuition or God. And I just said, you know, like, what is here for me today? What is there for me to know? And I highly recommend you start asking that in your prayers or in your meditations. I asked that and the answer that came to me, and I didn't try to answer it. I just kind of like continue to be in that state. And this kind of, it didn't come to me in words. It came to me in a feeling. And one thing I'm going to have to do a whole other episode about this is, but when you try to describe a situation that is so deeply felt, describing it with words actually takes its power away. And there is neuroscience behind that as well, right? Because the limbic system and the task positive network, the executive networks, they kind of like off, they kind of counterbalance each other. And this is why when you're really emotional, you're not logical, right? But when you're really logical, you're not emotional. they're kind of these seesaws that's why it can be really helpful when you're feeling anxious to start to identify things that you can you can see and hear or label your emotions so i can be really helpful to do that because you're activating the prefrontal cortex and sort of turning down activity in the amygdala and the limbic system and i just say that because as i'm about to describe this realization to you that i had in this meditation i'm doing it a extreme injustice describing it with words. And so I just wanted to say that because as I was trying to describe it to my, my fiance in the car after it just, I couldn't do it justice because there's, it's like, it's like trying to explain unconditional, the feeling of unconditional love. You just can't, right? You just can't. So what, what kind of came to me was this, this feeling and this, knowing or this idea that I needed. I was being called to release the how or the path toward what I want. To release the knowing that I thought that I had. Release the knowledge. And beginner's mindset is really important. It's talked about a lot in kind of like the philosophical worlds, like the idea of the beginner's mindset and reminding yourself to go back to that oh I actually don't know anything and it is extremely important to do that to remember and and bring yourself back to the idea that you don't know anything because I think when when we're first starting out like for example when I was first starting out with content creation I didn't know anything about content creation I was kind of just posting whatever I was not following any rules any guidelines any times nothing I just did whatever I wanted to do and my content did great. I was really happy. And I, you know, didn't really, I wasn't putting myself in any sort of box or limiting myself or feeling like I needed to do things any certain way. And it worked for me. And it's something that I still kind of hang on to, to this day. And that's kind of the way that I do content now. The reason why I bring this up is because I have a friend that I saw on social media, and she posted something on her story. And she was like, Oh, you know, I don't really post my content on Instagram that much anymore, because all my contents over a minute and Instagram doesn't push, you know, reels or whatever over a minute. It doesn't like the algorithm doesn't like long videos on Instagram. And when I saw that in my head, I immediately was, I was thinking to myself, every single one of my videos is longer than a minute. A lot of them are a minute and a half. And so obviously my experience, my reality is completely different than her lived experience and her reality. And that is the importance of realizing that all of these rules that we start to construct for our lives and for ourselves, a lot of them, okay, they might be based on our lived experience, but they aren't objectively true. And obviously, if my videos that are long are doing well, and you know, she's in her reality thinking that this is the way it works, right, then she's going to continue to create that experience for herself. And I just use this as an example to show that in the beginning, we don't know what we're doing. And so we're treating everything that we're doing as an experiment. We're treating everything that we're doing as an experiment. And I think as you move through the beginner stages to, you know, novice, intermediate, all that, as you get better and as you gain experience, you start to gain frameworks and rules. And while these things can be very helpful, these frameworks and these rules can be very helpful, it is also very helpful to completely throw them all in the trash and say, what happens if I break every single one of these rules that I think I know. I did this recently on myself because over time I started kind of putting myself into this box of, oh, this is the time window that we post content in the morning between, you know, whatever at nine or 10 a.m. Like this is what works. And then there would be times sometimes where I would film a video and I'd be done at like 1030 or something. And I'm like, oh, I missed my window. I'll just do it tomorrow. But I think it was a couple of weeks ago. I was like, you know what? Let's treat life like an experiment. Let's bring back the beginner's mindset. We don't know how any of this works. It's just posted. I think I posted literally at like 12 or something. And this is Pacific time or Mountain Standard time, not, you know, Eastern or whatever. So technically it's like three, whatever. And the video did great. It's like a million views or whatever. And so immediately in my mind, I'm like, okay, I just proved to myself that the rules that I think that I know or the frameworks that I think work best don't. And when I was talking about something similar to this in Minecraft on this past Monday on our call someone in the chat had said how this was really helpful for him to hear because he is on this path in his business that he's been feeling called to take a different path but he hasn't allowed himself to because he thought that this certain path was the path that he needed to take and that was the one that he had decided on and the one that he thought worked best and so if anything these examples in the story that i'm sharing with you guys right now i'm sharing it just to share with you and show you that you don't know what works best. You don't know how it's supposed to work. And so going back to my meditation realization message that I had, because that was a little bit of a tangent, I really was just being called to remember that you have no idea how it's going to work out for you. And I don't know if you guys remember, but earlier in this episode, I said there are two levels to detachment. The first is complete trust and surrender and knowing that it's going to work out for you. And I'm there. At this point in my life, I am there. I know for a fact, all of my dreams are coming true. I have no doubts in my mind. I will get there. The way that it all is continuing to unfold in my life. Last week, I was in Austin on like having another like really big opportunity. It was amazing. And there was this one point where I looked at this, someone said something to me and rushed away off to the hustle and bustle and I looked at this person and I was just like whoa this feels straight out of a movie scene I had this I don't know if the feeling was deja vu or what it was but it was this crazy moment of whoa my life is unfolding exactly and according to my goals and dreams and it's all going according to this giant divine plan it no coincidence that that was the same day that later that day I went to this yoga and had this meditation But anyway so I was in this meditation right And I think a part of me started to feel like I had things figured out and like I knew how it was going to go and how my path was going to unfold And I started measuring myself according to these metrics and frameworks. I was like, yes, this is the how. This is how my dreams are going to come true. And basically the message that I received in my meditation was, nope, you have no idea how. So stop acting like you do because if anything, it takes all of the joy out of it when you think you know the how. Because when you think you know the how and then it doesn't go according to exactly how you thought, then you're upset. Then you're let down. Then you're disappointed. But that's the gimmick, right? Like that's the jig is up, right? Because it's like you're over here disappointed, but you have no idea how it's supposed to unfold. And it's actually all still unfolding according to divine plan. You just don't think it is because it's not going according to your plan. And that's stressful. That doesn't feel good. I remember being at the gym, I don't know, a few months ago and every, you know, we all go through cycles and phases and spirals in life. And there was this kind of moment where I remembered, oh yeah, trust and surrender. And life feels so good when you trust and surrender and you just fully surrender. It feels so good. Like you want peace in your life? Surrender. That's where true peace comes from. Surrendering to the flow and not trying to fight against it because you know the stress and all that comes from resistance against what's happening but when you just surrender and you can trust in the unfolding of your life it feels just so peaceful like I don't even know how to explain it it's just like this overwhelming sense of just like I can fully breathe again I want to touch on one other thing when it comes to detachment and you know being able to fully trust and surrender and trust that everything is working out the way that it's supposed to and like I kind of mentioned earlier in this episode a big component to this is trusting in whatever power you believe in but then also trusting in yourself and I remember I was driving in my car feeling a little anxious a few weeks ago maybe like a month ago now over a month ago time isn't real anyway I was driving and I was talking to my angels in the car and I was talking to myself as well and I just do this sometimes if I'm ever feeling any sort of way it's just a great practice that I have for myself so I just started talking out loud talking myself through it like Em how are you feeling right now I was like I'm feeling a little stressed and anxious and then I was talking to my angels about it and I was like I was talking about the ability to fully surrender and trust that everything is working out for you and through this conversation, I basically came to this knowing that you can fully trust everything is working out for you when you are doing everything in your power to make it work out for you. I've said it before and I'll say it again, the dream doesn't work unless you do. And there's this saying, I'm going to paraphrase it, but it's that there is no person that is more anxious than a creative person who isn't creating. And every single one of us here is a creative person. You are here to co-create your life. You are a creative person, whether you realize it or not. You are creating your life in every single moment. Every thought, every action, every feeling, you are creating your life. You are creating your reality. Your brain is constructing your reality every single second. So you are a creator, whether you realize it or not. And there is nobody more anxious than a creator who isn't creating. And so if you struggle with stress or anxiety or the ability to fully trust that things are going in your favor, are you creating? Are you using your power to create? And if you're not, well, no wonder you're anxious because all that energy has nowhere to go but to spiral inside of you. And in this conversation that I was having in the car, I was able to come to the realization that as long as I am staying disciplined and doing the work that I know I need to do to get the job done, I can trust. And of course, staying disciplined and following through on my own word and doing the things that I said I was going to do, that builds self-trust. So that allows me to trust myself, which is extremely important. And then when I can trust myself and I know that I'm doing everything in my own power, now I can trust that my power is going to be matched. If I'm not working on becoming the version of me who has it, if I'm not embodying my highest self, if I'm not moving toward my dreams and I'm just doing nothing, then, yeah, it is going to be hard to trust that everything's working out. It is all working out the way that it's supposed to. It's always working out the way that it's supposed to no matter what. But it is going to be hard to trust that I'm on the timeline toward my highest good and the highest good of all. It is going to be hard to trust that. Just being completely transparent, it is going to be hard to trust in the unfolding of my life and believe that everything is working out in my favor if I'm not doing the work to make things work out in my favor, if I'm not being a match to that energy. I can believe it because I am being it. So I just kind of want to end this episode and close it out by sharing a quote with you. I believe it's by Wayne Dyer, although when you Google it, there are mixed results. But anyway, I just wanted to say this is not by me. Nobody knows enough to be a pessimist. So you might as well trust that it's all working out for you. You don't know enough to be a pessimist. And it'll take a lot of the joy out of your life when you walk around acting like you know how things are going to work out or how things are going to go or you know how your story is going to end how your day is going to end how your week's going to end how your year is going to end it'll take a lot of the joy and the excitement and the novelty and the dopamine out of your life when you walk around acting like you know more than you actually do which really what do we really know we don't we have no idea so we might as well live in the knowing and trust that it's all working out for you. We buy it as well because we don't know enough to be a pessimist. You don't know enough to wake up tomorrow morning and say, oh, just another day at the office. It's going to go. It's going to be exactly like it always is. No, you don't know that. You are not God. You haven't seen every single timeline unfold. Not that we aren't pieces of that, right? Not that we are not divine life force energy in the human body. Sorry, I'm not. I don't want to sit here and take anybody's power away because you absolutely are divine life force energy in the human body and i do believe that i am the ocean in a drop experiencing life through a human brain but my point is that we are experiencing life through a human brain and therefore we are inherently limited and so all we could do is trust and we might as well be open to the possibilities and the potential blessings that are on our way that are on their way right now i'll leave you guys with my favorite affirmation that you can maybe use right now if you're listening to it in the morning but if you're not then say it tomorrow morning when you wake up, but go ahead and use this whenever you feel called to, but go ahead and say, today I am prepared to be surprised by the unexpected blessings and opportunities coming my way. And then prepare to be surprised because you've primed your brain. So now your brain is going to go and search for those blessings and opportunities. And when your brain is primed and filtering your reality for that, it will find it. All right, guys, we had a lot of tangents in this episode, but I hope that it was what you needed and I hope that it gave you some clarity around detachment and around why it is so important and why when you are being needy and attached you actually repel the things that you want but why detachment not only allows you to relax, trust, surrender and feel the way that you want to feel now but it also allows you to do the work and have fun on the journey and become a match for whatever it is that you want. And so use my three-step process for living in the feeling state of your desires that will allow you to start to detach. And just remember to trust in the unfolding of your life. Trust in the unfolding of your life and listen to the callings of your heart because your heart will not steer you wrong as long as it's regulated. As long as your nervous system is regulated. Otherwise, it's steering you towards safety, stress, and anxiety. But anyway, that's a topic for a whole other episode. Anyway, guys, I'm sending every single one of you so much love. I hope to see you on my next live free masterclass. The last one was super fun. Like I said, I was answering a bunch of questions at the end. Everybody always has amazing questions. But if you guys want to come to my free live masterclass, I've actually been talking more recently about identity shifting. That's what my last class was on. It was about kind of the neuroscience of manifestation. I always begin with neuroscience manifestation reprogramming your mind kind of these classes are always different but then recently i've been talking a lot about how exactly step by step to step into the version of you who has it all and remember that's a key step that's a key kind of major step in detachment is becoming because when you become the version of you who has it you no longer need the physical thing and when you no longer need the physical thing, then it's coming to you at rapid speed. There have been so many times in my life where as soon as I let go, it comes. And as soon as I become the version of me who has it, it happens. I leveled up my business overnight, identity shifting. And so identity shifting has been something that I've been feeling really called to teach about the past couple of weeks. And so that was the last class, but we'll see what this next masterclass is going to be all about. If you guys are interested, then sign up. It is free. Make sure to register and save your spot though because we do have a like a room that we reserve and actually I think a couple weeks ago we kind of like we literally broke the system for a second and we had to reboot the room but anyway so yeah go ahead and make sure you're registered because you'll also get kind of reminders which is helpful so that you don't miss it and you'll also get subscribed to our email list which if you are not subscribed to my email list I don't really have a I don't know if I have a place to subscribe to it. But when you register for the masterclass, which is free, you automatically get put on the email list. And I send out emails frequently that are really helpful. I get people DMing me all the time like, oh my god, your email today was exactly what I needed, which is so funny because it's just one of those things that we do on the side, like with my team. And it's not anything that I really like think about too much. But people actually really love the emails. And so I love doing them. I love sending them out and I love that you guys are loving them. And so if you guys have not ever registered for a masterclass, you're missing out on the emails. You're missing out on them. Just saying. But anyway, guys, I am sending all of you so much love and until the next episode, may you trust, surrender, and be the version of you who has it all. I'll see you in the next episode. Bye everyone.