The Unbreakable Spirit of a Canine Queen

Well, howdy. Welcome. Right on back. I'm Justice Smith. And I am Aaliyah Chavez, and this is The Read. Thank you for joining us. It is indeed, and thank you for show. Well, how are you checking out in this end of January? January is already here. Can time just slow down a bit? Well, things are pretty miserable in New York. We got like 11 inches of snow the other day. The temperature won't be above freezing Until you know Valentine's Day or so Yeah So right now there's just the streets And the sidewalks are mostly clear But of course the snow has just been pushed All over the place So the bus stops are a fucking mess Most of the walkways Like if you need any sort of assistive device In maneuvering around the city That's not going to work Because it ain't no space for anything with wheels It's just really a fucking It's a reminder I mean yes The storm was it was that winter storm That had the country fucked up I heard Sorry I had to reschedule Yes you did so things are It's They told us you know A bunch of snow in New York and you live in New York You anticipate a bunch of snow Like this is not even the worst snowstorm I've Lived through here but it is A big pain in the ass and just for context folks at home my our homegirl i'm talking about live in atlanta oh yeah yeah she lives in atlanta and they were like yeah um about that the ice you're not you're not having no nothing you're not having no kind of nothing so i hope you didn't think you were about having anything you're not right so um well i saw laney and her adorable little little boot did you see her flopping her ass around she's so dramatic in them shoes i love it i love when the little doggies have the little boots on and they do that awkward walk it's just like she's trying to kick them off that's what she yeah that's exactly what it is she's such a little shit but then they don't realize that it's like i'm trying to help you right so i actually did i let her kick one of the boots off and she ran around with one cold foot and then all of a sudden next time she understood why she had to put the boots on and she didn't fucking fight me like girl hello you think i'm doing this for my health i love that right off top link was like let me tell you what i'm not sleeping on ice i'm not gonna do it oh no laney loves in her boots she'll climb out she's because they do yes the snow piles are bigger than she is so she's going up there running around on the snow having a grand old time now that she has her boots on yeah boots and all link would be like I'll pick her up and put her in the snow and she would do this thing that she does all the time where she's just looking up at me like are you satisfied? can we, shall we be finished? right wrap this shit up, take me back indoors where I belong, quit playing with me okay well enough about our children let's talk about what the streets got going on starting with some black excellence first off, I'm going to give a big and mighty black excellence to the love of my life, Lena Waithe. Lena Waithe's making her playwriting debut next month in Baltimore at the Baltimore Center Stage with the play Trinity. And this is something that I had heard about for a while, and I just find it to be incredibly inspiring. And Lena is always like one of those people who's like not Hollywood in any stretch of the imagination. There's like a really big hearted, amazing soul. And I love this shift into and like motivation for other black people to really take playwriting and stage performance seriously. And I will be out in the Baltimore streets to go and see this. It starts on February 12th. This is not an ad. An ad. I like to do this because I genuinely. She's the love of your life. Yeah. So, yeah, it's from February 12th to March 8th. And you can go to centerstage.org if you would or if you're interested in going to see this play about three folks in a single room and all of the fantastical. Nightmare. Meditative, spiritual things that can come out of that. Congratulations Madam Wave I can't wait to come see it I'm also going to give a big Mighty Black Excellence over to The Powerful Folks Of The Sinners Film Production Oh yes Most Oscar nominations At once in history Wow Was it 16? Something like that Yeah I said wow that is actually impressive I don't want to be a pessimist Yeah I wasn't going to say it I was going to try to stretch out the optimist part Or just the love Right So I'm really trying not to say the part that we're all thinking But Some incredible nominations I think nominated in just about Yeah nominated in every category That could be So, I mean, and very much deserved. The film is excellent. So I am very happy for the people involved with the production. Absolutely. And I'm just going to hold that to my heart. Yep. Yep. Hold on to it. Jesus. What an amazing piece of filming. I watched it again last night for, like, the 20th time. And it is just so goddamn good. I don't know. So goddamn good. And I'm just going to say this for the, at the, like, if Delroy does not. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That would be egregious. Actually, it would. I'm sorry. That's going to be the one that's going to get me out of my, my seat. Like that's going to be the one where I might light a torch. Cause then carry up his fork. Not only. Man came through. I forgot he was British. a lot of okay alright congratulations to all of these amazing entertainers providing black entertainment inspiring black entertainers and if you yourself are a black creative mind out there don't you be deterred by the absolute fuckery and monopoly that Hollywood is playing right now in these streets yeah that's real they always don't want to know what we got to say and we got plenty All right, we're going to do some hot tops, and we're going to start with this again. Have you seen One Battle After Another? No, but I'm starting to feel like I should. I don't think you'll like it. Would I? I don't think you'll like it. Yeah, I don't, but it keeps coming up. I'm like, should I just buckle down and watch whatever this, because the pictures alone, Tiana all pregnant with the gun and then Leonardo DiCaprio whatever he doing and that little light skinned girl I'm like I don't know you know it don't give my vibe it don't it isn't it's not your vibe at all all right it's not your vibe at all I think it's a really good film from like a cinematic standpoint a lot of the shots are excellent a lot of the directorial decisions are excellent you know there's kind of like not really cat and mouse, but there's this sort of frantic chasing energy throughout the film, which is really compelling. But baby, at the heart of it, it almost feels like, one battle after another almost feels like Emilia Perez in the way, that it kind of feels like this white man from outside the experience who's like, I'm going to give the woke radical left something to just jump on. Oh, God. Even though I'm out of my depth on a lot of the nuance. Like, there are some things in the film that even if you watched it, you would roll your eyes over bigly. Just as black people. Like, I'm actually really curious what a lot of black American people who watch this have to say. Because at best, if you're aware and if you listen to this goddamn podcast, I know you rolled your eyes. I know you rolled your eyes. Got you. Okay. it was so obvious that this man didn't know how to write blackness and it was also like missing the mark on some things that he had to say but it's also i don't know i did there's one part for a leader or cabrio is in the car with benicio del uh toro's character and he's talking about his little mixed child and he's like you know mind you the movie is a satire it's not like okay it's not like ha ha satire funny like Jojo Rabbit or some shit but it has elements that are like okay this is absurd and they're obviously poking at such and such but there's a moment where Leonardo I don't even remember their names but he's in a car with Benicio's character and he's talking about his daughter and it seems like it's supposed to be this like really like vulnerable sobering moment for him and he says some shit like you know I can't even do her hair can you believe that like I don't I was like I literally think I said out loud of course I can believe it bitch you're a white man you got a black child and you ain't got no niggas around you like of course you don't know how to do this child hair bitch whereas I can imagine a lot of the Hollywood voters and like you know Amistad fans are gonna be like oh my god not Amistad fans he wants to be closer with you know like how do white people like you know they vote for white guilt right oh that's valid okay i was wondering if chase infinity played his leonardo dicaprio's mixed child so yeah i mean i don't know how to do her hair it's just so lazy especially considering mixed hair is so easy like but okay oh now that i'm looking at the person who wrote and directed this all questions have Paul Thomas Anderson. Yeah, I mean. Revere director. Absolutely fantastic filmography. But when I watched this movie, I was like, this is so excellent in so many ways. But at the heart of it, Leonardo DiCaprio is playing a former freedom fighter that also lusted after a black woman and then had a baby with her and then got like became a burnout. like an irresponsible burnout that then has like as a black person that think like us so so many moments where i was watching this and going all right and there was also clearly there were moments where black characters were speaking that were clearly like improv so it was like okay the script likely said such and such and such and such tease blank and then he would just direct them to freestyle it because he doesn't know how to write dialogue for them this is maya rudolph's husband is he i had i'm sitting there looking at his wikipedia i'm like i've never seen any of these movies and then finally it says he's in a relationship with maya rudolph with whom he has four children i'm like all right that's that white man so that's why he said is that why he said now that's even sadder if you was referring to your own three quarters white kids because do that here even have a kinky let's just move on okay all right but i you know i might do that thing where i go and at least watch all the movies that are nominated for Best Picture. At least that's what I'm going to do for sentimental value. Yeah, that's the only movie and actor supporting role that I haven't seen. And actress in a supporting role. That's the only one in that. I hate that word. That's the only one I haven't seen a lot of those acting categories. Okay. And, you know, the Oscars love to give it to that one film. Ain't nobody. Ain't nobody. See. Yeah, they do. To then post it up on the streamies And be like Oscar winning Blank for you to go watch it Exactly that You know what I might have to meditate the day of Because I know y'all finna piss me off Well Yeah I'm looking at Yeah Begonia, F1, Frankenstein Hamnet, Marty Super I've only seen one of these And that's Sinners So I got a lot of work to do I got a lot of work to do you can skip Frankenstein for sure Hamnet, Marty Supreme, One Battle After Another The Secret Agent, Sentimental Value, Train Dreams wait, oh Wicked I'm like that's last year Begonia, F1, Frankenstein you can skip Begonia is F1 about cars? I'm sure I can skip that too yeah it's actually not bad but you're not going to like it okay i'm just i'm just saying oh god all right so kaiya was apparently has a brand new apology apology uh and an apology that he definitely 100 means you guys he means it Really, really a lot. Apology and the Prisoner of Azkaban. This one says, I actually didn't read it. Did you read anything? I did. I read the whole thing in that. Where is it? Well, it's on the Wall Street Journal because isn't that where you were the thing? Did they put it under a, did they put it under a paywall? Because that would be crazy. I couldn't get the full. Do you want me to read it? How long is it? It's a bit. It's a bit long. But I will. I'll happily read it. It says, to those I've hurt. Oh, God. 25 years ago, I was in a car accident that broke my jaw and caused injury to the right frontal lobe of my brain. At the time, the focus was on the visible damage, the fracture, the swelling and the immediate physical trauma. The deeper injury, the one inside my skull, went unnoticed. Comprehensive scans were not done. Neurological exams were limited And the possibility of a frontal lobe injury was never raised It wasn't properly diagnosed until 2023 That medical oversight caused serious damage to my mental health And led to my bipolar type 1 diagnosis Bipolar disorder comes with its own defense system Denial When you're manic, you don't think you're sick You think everyone else is overreacting You feel like you're seeing the world more clearly than ever When in reality, you're losing your grip entirely Once people label you as crazy you feel as if you cannot contribute anything meaningful to the world. It's easy for people to joke and laugh it off when, in fact, this is a very serious debilitating disease you can die from. According to the World Health Organization and Cambridge University, people with bipolar disorder have a life expectancy that is shortened by 10 to 15 years on average and a two to three times higher all-cause mortality rate than the general population. This is on par with severe heart disease, type 1 diabetes, HIV and cancer, all lethal and fatal if left untreated. The scariest thing about this disorder is how persuasive it is when it tells you that you don't need help It makes you blind but convinced you have insight You feel powerful, certain, and unstoppable I lost touch with reality Things got worse the longer I ignored the problem I said and did things I deeply regret Some of the people I loved the most I treated the worst You endured fear, confusion, humiliation, and the exhaustion of trying to have someone who was at times unrecognizable Looking back, I became detached from my true self In that fractured state, I gravitated toward the most destructive symbol I could find, the swastika And even sold t-shirts bearing it One of the difficult aspects of having bipolar type 1 are the disconnected moments Many of which I still cannot recall That led to poor judgment and reckless behavior That oftentimes feels like an out-of-body experience I regret and am deeply mortified by my actions in that state and am committed to accountability, treatment, and meaningful change. It does not excuse what I did, though. I am not a Nazi or an anti-Semitic. I love Jewish people. To the black community, which held me down through all the highs and lows in the darkest of times, the black community is unquestionably the foundation of who I am. I am so sorry to have let you down. I love us. In early 2025, I fell into a four-month-long manic episode of psychotic, paranoid, and impulsive behavior that destroyed my life. As the situation became increasingly unsustainable, there were times I didn't want to be here anymore. Having bipolar disorder is notable state of constant mental illness. When you go into a manic episode, you are ill at that point. When you are not in an episode, you are completely normal. And that's when the wreckage from the illness hits the hardest. Hitting rock bottom a few months ago, my wife encouraged me to finally get help. I have found comfort in Reddit forums of all places. Different people speak of being in manic or depressive episodes of a similar nature. I read their stories. Did you feel married to that naked lady? I think. I really don't know. All right. I read their stories and realized I was not alone. It's not just me who ruins their entire life once a year, despite taking meds every day and being told by the so-called best doctors in the world that I am not bipolar, but merely experiencing symptoms of autism. My words as a leader in my community have global impact and influence. In my mania, I lost complete sight of that. As I find my new baseline and new center through an effective regime of medication, therapy, exercise and clean living, I have newfound, much needed clarity. I am pouring my energy into positive, meaningful art, music, clothing, design and other new ideas to help the world. I'm not asking for sympathy or a free pass, though I aspire to earn your forgiveness. I write today simply to ask for your patience and understanding as I find my way home with love. Yay. Should I say with love WebMD Right first of all shout out to whoever Did write that It's pretty well written And I Would go so far as to say It's a plausible explanation For some of his behavior I would even go that far Like I personally think you're saying This because you're getting ready to launch whatever projects like to me this is a this is a recession indicator girl i heard about them at the same time it's more than anything there you go see an album coming or you know i have not forgotten about that lawsuit that your former assistant filed last july you know and this it's very ditty-ish in its content of what you were alleged to have done to that lady so you know i personally think that's what's behind it but i know enough about mental health mental illnesses to say that it's possible that all of this is true i just don't know that you're genuine in your apology and considering that all most of this is about like how you went without being diagnosed although the rest of us knew about your diagnosis and how you was like it don't matter i can take it or whatever so okay there's the room there's the room i'm in there right so there's that Like I don't know how You didn't get diagnosed Until 2023 when it feels like Anyway though So Most of this is about how You were Mentally ill in a state of mania Didn't really know what you were doing And so you know you're sorry that you Sold t-shirts Talking about Hitler's my homeboy or whatever And then to black people Y'all hold me down No matter what I do. So, thanks, nicks. All you blacks want all the same thing. You slaves. Right, right. The slavery is a choice, nigga. You could take out all the ads you want to. Some shit you just can't come back from. And I think really that is the bottom line for a lot of people. Okay, so I want to, in connection with this, I want to tell a sidebar story, an embarrassing sidebar story. Okay. I randomly cried about Kanye this past weekend. And I'm going to tell you why. It caught me completely off guard. Yeah. I was watching like a bunch of freestyles and shit like this on YouTube, ciphers and all that. And reactions to some of them as well. People just talking about lyrics and shit. One of them that I watched, again, was this all-female cipher that I think XXL did with, it was Lotto, Mona Leo, Flo Millie, Maya the Don, and Mellow Bucks. Oh, nice. So there's this one video of this guy who's reacting to it. Lotto has a line in her part of the freestyle, or the cipher, where she says something like, my man talking to me through wires like he Kanye West. and this kid probably early 20s maybe late teens was like i don't know what that got and i was like oh my god oh damn like these kids to these kids kaya is kim kardashia ex-husband and anti-black anti-semite like for them the konga probably started like the life of pablo Yeah, they don't know Through the Wire at all. They don't know what you're talking about. Wow. It was so disappointing because not only is Through the Wire one of his biggest records, one of his most powerful records. Wasn't it his debut? It was like a record that was about this incredibly traumatic near-death experience that he still has, like, physical complications with today. then I started hearing Shaka in my voice that's already a song that can bring tears to your eyes so I'm hearing the song and thinking about him getting in this car crash and then losing his mama and then suddenly suddenly shattering as a person next thing I knew I started like tears were coming to my eyes but I didn't it was one of those things where you're like am I crying wait what I didn't anticipate it I was like wait what the fuck and I was just like fuck it's so sad and then I spoke to myself and I was like first of all I haven't thought about him or paid no attention long for some time or thought about any of it but I was like Kanye was at a time more than just like this musical genius or whatever that we would say he was he meant a lot to the black community because he would speak out like into the rafter screaming for all these different sectors of blackness so to lose that and lose it in the way that it has happened yeah sucks you know and then um i started watching um sweet things that would make me cry on youtube sometimes you just get it out no yeah i was just like something was in there something was in there, I'm clearly sensitive today let's just get it on out watching sweet children audition for Britain's Got Talent just like whatever so yeah like all that said I literally was in the bathroom thinking about this, all of a sudden randomly cried and I'm like what the fuck is going on here, like 36 hours later this nigga is like hey there was a car crash one time and it really fucked me up my bad, so I'm not saying that I'm a natural born wish with, you know, a gift of divination. I'm not saying that. Right. Psychic witch. Anyway, as far as this apology goes, nigga, you have to show it and prove it. Nobody care about this. I said, this is the fucking... What is this? This is like the half-blood prince. Like, what chapter are we going to? Like, we're deep into the franchise so you know like chris will just said i believe that there could also be credence or what have you to the things that he is saying from like a mental health physical health standpoint yeah but like you also said niggas been talking about this for years and encouraging you to get help for your like help right fans and people you know right right so forgive us if these pre-album release apologies are kind of gonna just have to dance on out of here sis you're gonna have to put actions to these words sorry and i won't be there waiting for you but if you do oh won't that be nice yeah you actually don't need our forgiveness or maybe you do maybe you realize in that you're trying to sell things and you've really pissed people off to the point of no return so you like let me what can I do it's just you know there's too many elements of this that feel inauthentic the album release coming soon and taking out an ad in the Wall Street Journal to do this like unless he's releasing this album independently which I don't know if he is no clue then I would assume people who have money to gain from this, maybe investment to gain from this. You can't release this motherfucking album like this. We'll have somebody, possibly a GPT, come in here and step in with the words and you shut your ass. Like, come on now. Yeah, I don't know. I'm willing to guess that a person wrote this, but not Kanye. Yeah, for sure. for sure but yeah it's just the sort of thing where definitely i don't know who read this and was like oh thank god finally i can go back to like supporting kanye and feeling good about him like these are nice words but they are just words so they're just words this is if you are if people are gonna come back around on you it's gonna be because you demonstrate over and over a history of behavior that is not off-putting that is not you know hateful hate speech and using hate symbols and all this not just the jews but the negroes i mean you you gave you cited these examples for how you pissed off the jewish people but then was like oh black people you know y'all are just always there i'm like okay well okay girl like i would like you to cite some examples too of how you specifically pissed us off but okay i don't like that as well ultimately it don't really matter because you could have done that and i would still feel the same way so exactly so you can keep it but yeah uh i i do know that a lot of people once they come out of mania or whatever mental state they're in where they're doing things that they end up regretting recovering from that is hard and so if you are now supposed to be like meeting people and having friends and all this and they're like actually I can't fuck with you because you said fuck my whole lineage and my whole ethnic group that's hard that's hard to face but again sometimes you just sometimes you can't come back sometimes your apology is genuine and you still can't come back because you've done too much that's true too so it is what it is so Drake has appealed his lawsuit. He's not going out without a light-skinned fight. You're joking. Yes, baby. Sure, ma'am. Oh, God. Why? Let it go, Drake. He's not finished swinging. It's time for another Super Bowl, girl. Let it go. I think he has filed this appeal like maybe a week before last or something It wasn that long ago What does it say here The court effectively created an unprecedented overbroad categorical rule that statements and rap disses, rap dis tracks can never constitute statements of fact. Well, but it wouldn't, but I mean, wouldn't that also be held? Like, wouldn't you be held to that same standard? Cause you have said some crazy things as well. Like, I don't know. Okay. I'm not. You did. Some people. Some people have also mentioned that, like from just kind of looking at this from the nucleus, aren't you running streams up for that song again and do you really want kendrick or whoever else to turn around and be like okay well then i'm suing you for defamation because you said you implied my kid wasn't mine and that i've been beating on whitney and all like why it just seems like you're asking kendrick to be held to a standard that you don't want to be held to well umg well yes both right that's what i'm saying it's just i don't know why you can't the longer you keep this going the crazier you look bro like just you you lost you could have won in court and you still would have lost with with the culture because you just did i'm sorry i'm sorry let it go J. Cole has new freestyles out And on one called The Golden Goose Freestyle Some fans are questioning If he might be dissing one of Graham Others are arguing That he's dissing Kendrick Lamar Beast Resaw is released ahead of his next album which is called The Fall Off which references his career and I'm going to read some of the lines from this and you tell me who you think it's about. Okay. This is about somebody. Fun. A lot of rappers make I try to be A lot of rappers make dough Then be prone to lose it For crumbs Dumb niggas sold their soul to Lucian Lucian Grange CEO of Universal Niggas cheating and I won't excuse it If I said it then I wrote it stupid If the stream say you winning While your tours is losing When the math ain't matting Of course you're juicing That means the box is boosting cut the tough guy image it's not conducive to breathe and don't gamble with your life because the ops is cruising where Mike Vick your dog might get shit for losing. I'm sorry, that sounds like it's about Drake. How is it not? How is it not? The Kendrick's tour sold great so that you can't be talking about that I actually don't know what Drake's tour numbers look like. Has Drake toured since the bees? since the what since this beef started between him i thought you said the beef like why we have the beef oh my god i'm so old you are old that's not even of my time right that shows like 30 years before you were even born what are you talking about right fuck okay has he toured since then? I think he I think when he was out in Australia was kind of like I think he was maybe wrapping up Australia while this was going on okay yeah he was definitely performing it I think he had some shows while this was going on so then I think this is about Nicki Minaj no cause for real let's go back and start from the beginning A lot of rappers make dough then be prone to lose it. She just had to get on stage and talk about how Erica Kirk mean more to her than the Barb so that they would pay that half a million dollars. She's next. She just had to go up there and lie and suck Trump's dick publicly so that she wouldn't have to lose her home because she had her husband beat up that bodyguard. Well, I guess I'm not. That was what I was going to say. Sorry. and then you know we've heard a lot about the success of Nicki's tour or lack thereof or maybe not even success as much quality of the tour the stuff about Juicy do you really think this is about Nicki Minaj well no I think the lyrics are most accurately about him but I think the intention is for is for Drake but I think it could easily when you think about it yeah no When you think about it, cut the tough guy image. The boss is boosted. Of course, you're getting ass shots. I'm just saying, if you wanted to look at it like that. I'm surprised Nikki hasn't responded. Well, she got too many things to do. She got to put on. You guys still be like, oh, you're talking about me. She's like, what? She don't have time for that. She got to put on a pinafore and grease her wig down and go stand on a. I think she did that to Mustard. Did she? yes she did that with mustard because he like posted a song that was called something that and i think he produced it it was like another artist and i'm pretty sure that he was like a producer of it and she was like triggered by the wording of it or she felt like the name was shady or some shit he was like girl wait nobody's talking about you there's a name of this home well this is about drake yeah yeah i i mean it's hard to think to imagine that niggas sold their soul to lucian okay both both kendrick lamar and drake are technically under the umbrella of uh universal music group right drake is the only one of the two of them who has been recorded saying that he and Lucian are like Kobe and Shaquille O'Neal. Interesting. And then was allegedly sending out cease and desist for that record. Because he's now selling them. The nigga's cheating and I won't excuse it. If I said it, then I wrote it stupid. If the stream say you win and why your toes is losing, well, the math ain't math. And of course you juicing. That means of bots is boosting. Yeah. It's very Drake. People have accused Drake of boosting his numbers through bots like as of last week or some shit because he was like number one on Spotify, this, that, and a third and people would be like, oh, this isn't accurate. Even though he's one of the biggest artists in the world. Cut the tough guy image. It is not conducive to breathing. To breathing and don't gamble with your life because the And we know how he's not gambling. Word to Mike Vick, your dog might get shit for losing for all the dogs? For all the dogs. This is about Drake. And I don't like those odds. Again, with the gambling. Yeah, I agree. I think it's about Drake as well. How is it? Some of the fans are upset. Drake and Jake are called to still be fans. They wanted to be the top two for him to pick that side. Well, I will say as somebody who publicly dropped out of the beef when he realized niggas was getting serious, it kind of feel like, why are you coming back now and making little crack a window? Like, nigga, you stayed out of it. So stay out of it. Why is you coming back and making little innuendos now? I think that's fair. I think it's fair, too. Yeah. As Crystal mentioned Nicki Minaj mysteriously This bitch is so Transparent We see right for you Nicks Nicki Minaj mysteriously And suddenly was able To close out this case With one Thomas Weidenmuller A bodyguard Who sued her alleging that Kenneth Hedy was sent to beat his ass by one on Nika Mirage. Judge recently told Nikki, listen, if you don't get his money, we're going to make you sell that house. You are going to leave. That's that. Now all of a sudden she's standing in front of Jabba the Hutt talking about I'm Donald Trump's number one fan or whatever. Every time I see it, I laugh. I'm not even like for whatever reason, I'm not even like, maybe it's because it's not like I'm super surprised. Yeah, because this is just like, she's so much like Aya in this work, Lane. Laney, you mind your business. I'm sorry, y'all have to record from home today because of the snow. So she thinks she's running something. But yeah, But she's this is real Kanye ish of her. Like we're watching the decline. So. Hi. Nothing. She does when it's the wig for me. Honestly, the wig lets me know things are bad over there. She had to do that herself because why is the lace lifting on one side? The other side is like you couldn't get the part right. You couldn't get it to lay right. So you just did a giant swoop. But half the wig is in the swoop. I'm actually disappointed that I'm as gay as I am. And I still don't notice these things until like one of my homegirls points it out. oh my god look at that fucking wig remember when it was Megan at the game that one time and I was like oh she was born and then you were like actually absolutely not this is worse though because girl half the wig in this swoop just wear your real hair at that point with Erica Kirk this is the video I'm looking at now is the one where she it was only today Yeah, when she's right there. I'm the president's number one fan and the people we will not let you bully him and he will not be silenced. That is kind of not like a terrible No, it's like literally what she just said. Kind of like the Mama Joyce. No, kind of just like the tone Yeah, yeah. I mean, she Nikki's really pathetic at this point and all the barbs who aren't gaslighting themselves I know they are sick about it because she's not going to stop she needs these people to pay her bills her man not getting a fucking job so yeah I think that when she drains us dry or they throw her out to dry she's going to have her Wall Street Journal and then be like oh my goodness you guys I Just gone and say Terrible I had a meeting with Karen Clark Sheard Her full page ad in Black Enterprise Bitch Like girl I know it's coming I know it's coming Five to ten years yeah for sure it's gonna be down the line but it's it's gonna happen the fact that she's so close to losing her house why don't nikki minaj have half a million dollars for all this yapping the barbs do about how rich she is and the most successful female rapper of all time why you don't like oh i'm not gonna give it to him i don't have to yes the fuck you do yes yes are you okay like yes you do i told you you have to legally now you have to this happened in 2019 you probably added on all kinds of lawyer fees and shit that didn't have to be there had you just ran this man his money in the first place I'm sorry it does not give I have it and I just don't want to give it to you it gives I don't have it but why the hell not speaking of Megan I now I guess have to acknowledge the the glow Megan is over you know we tried to ignore it we really did we really did but it was it's been too much and yeah I yeah holding out hope for a reunion no sorry it has gotten it's over that they don't follow each other no more or nothing so damn well Megan's fans are getting on Glorilla nerves she was in or is in Tokyo and she's having a good time and she's doing shows out there and stuff and so now she posted these pictures with this really cute outfit it's kind of like a i don't know it's just like a plaid corset with some denim it's like they might be oversized jeans and you know she got her hair pulled back and chopsticks in it and so the girls are like and cunty makeup and the girls were like oh you're stealing Megan's aesthetic and her style and blah blah blah and then she posted a video like a little Tokyo vlog or whatever and they start harassing her again for trying to be like Megan and I'm like why are y'all starting shit? She's not the first second, Megan is not the first second or last rapper to go to Tokyo and put your house to the canal. Right. I mean my first thought was the bad guy Chun-Li. It's giving. Not a bad, like that was so frustrating. Why didn't Nikki do that, right? I just like, and I don't like, listen, nobody played Street Fighter. Yeah. Chun-Li has never been a bad guy. There's never been like some arc. She's never had like a Phoenix moment, a dark Phoenix. Yeah. she never had like a willow season uh six five six i don't remember y'all know what i'm talking about buffy fans yeah chunley has never been a bad guy that was so frustrating anyway that's what y'all getting on her damn nerves well oh well i'm sorry i mean i i don't like you being shady about Meg yes I mean I don't I like those I skipped over this oh okay sorry yes sorry I'm getting I'm getting robbed up because I'm rooting for these girls oh she brought EJ King to that show I mean to that game not cute and something about liking that were anti-Meg yeah so I'm like you know I don't like you being shady to Meg when y'all worked together she brought you on her tour it was like you know y'all was shooting little social media content together for instagram and shit like why did it have to i never believe y'all were like best friends close to me y'all seems tight you know enough yeah actually really cool so yeah it's disappointing i don't like the shady tweets either but it feels like it's it's not just I don't like her anymore and I'm gonna like these things and who the fuck cares if people see it because I don't like the bitch some of the stuff seems like it's antagonistic yes I agree and but her going to fucking Tokyo and and putting her hair up in a bun with some sticks is not girl come on right it's plenty of bitches she Megan don't own Asia so some of it is a reach but I don't expect nothing else out of stands like yeah this is how y'all act so that isn't she responded to some of it Megan did or Glo did Glo did Megan ate some shit as far as I know like what is Megan doing other than baking cookies at her man's house and then not eating them going to the gym fucking that nigga making additional money Did you see the video that Kellen posted where they were, I think, playing miniature golf? And he snuck a video. He snuck a video and they were just in the background of the video, just tongue kissing. And he's like, this is all they do. It's just what they do all day long. I think she's going to be pregnant by the end of the year. I love that. I mean, I just love that she seems so happy with a nigga that seems to really just dote on her. He seems to. My fuck nigga radar hasn't. Not yet. Not one. No. He seemed like a nigga who can't wait to be old. You know what I mean? Yes. Yes. You know what I mean? Yes. Them niggas who just always been like, well, why don't we just stay home and play the game? He looks like he can't wait to have a rocking. Not a rocking. A recliner. in his life with Megan and them kids running around. I see that. I do too. That's definitely the vibe I get. And he can't stop staring at her. Every video they put out. That Dunkin' Donuts video? And I mean reasonably so. I mean because she looked everybody knows I'm not attracted to films but Megan Thee Stallion. The living Bratz doll. I just want to stare at her. I just want to look at you. I actually would like a Megan Thee Stallion action figure. For weeks. I just want to encourage you. Oh my God. Look what is in reach. So I already do this. I already do. It's an anime character. Like tell me that I own this. Oh yeah. A bad bitch. And like this is what I do. This is exactly what I do. So Megan you already in anime. I think you're working on an anime. So far. I would like a Megan action figure because you look like one. But that Dunkin Donuts video where she was promoting her whatchamacallit and he was just in the background like Let me tell you what smoothie I'm finna drink on. He's like, yeah, I love your Rainforest Cafe or whatever the fuck this is. That nigga don't know what. Shut up. Yeah, the wheatgrass or the whatever. Yeah, I like all of that. This is yummy. Yeah. girl what you doing after this when we get in this call I'm going to tell you I'm tearing your driver roll up the partition me too I actually love that for her it makes me so happy to see her having so much fun and looks like she's being treated well Clay don't piss me off I still don't trust me do not piss me off but you know the family loves her the daddy raving about Thanksgiving dinner still takes me Girl, the video of her making it. Oh, and it looked good as fuck, too. I said, oh, yes, man. Go in there and represent. Do your big one. Yeah. If anything. Oh, my God. Have you heard about this Jai Minhan Su thing with his baby mama? No. With Kimura? Not with Kimura. A different baby mama. No. Okay. Yeah. Her name is Risa. Did we talk about this? No, no, no. I should have heard about this today. Okay. Then, no. Riza Simpson or it could be Riza. She was arrested for allegedly assaulting him outside the home that they share this townhouse. And then after she got out, she was able to get her temporary restraining order against him. And so I was like, what the fuck happened? She, I guess, linked, leaked. well I don't know if she leaked it but she recorded like the verbal altercation that led up to whatever physical happened oh man okay and so she's going back and forth with him about getting key it's obvious that they're like separated they're not on good terms um but she's trying to she's arguing with him about getting keys or getting a set of keys to the place because he said he was changing a lot so I don't know she wanted keys to the place because she said she was going out of town or she had to leave or something when she got back he was not going to be there so she was like i need a set of keys so i can get back into the house the kids are in here whatever her stuff is there and he was basically like not having it type shit and you know i don't have to give you the keys or whatever and she's like this because i guess it's his house you know like tech like he bought it his latent names on the leaf subject but as she fairly pointed out she'd be living there for four years they got kids that live there that's her residence right so then she has claim to the residence nigga you can't 1000 if you're gonna put her out there's a whole process to that it can't just be on changing like no and there's not a single court that would agree with you nigga now i think there's something funny about this i think there's one of two things going on here either this lady is truly toxic and trying to fuck this man up or she every woman has a breaking point y'all okay love that gone and every woman everyone did you listen to the recorded conversation because this is my first time absolutely oh okay so it sounds it sounds to me like yeah either yeah she's just terrible and toxic and blah blah blah or I believe she just has reached a boiling point and was like I need to record this so that I have proof that you ain't shit when you talk about this now the thing about it is because she's like I don't want to call the police and embarrass the house girl like now you're super embarrassed Embarrass the house? Yeah, like by having police outside it or whatever. The house isn't sent to you. It won't mind. It won't mind. You go ahead and you dial those numbers. The house is not going to whisper to you later and be like, by the way, I was mortified. That's all you had to do. Now, what I believe was going to happen, because she kept saying that she had to leave. She was going to leave in like an hour. And I think she was going to be going out of town or something like that. so she wanted a set of keys but it was very clear that she wanted them right there that time in that moment and then at some point he's like i'm gonna leave the keys on the table like i'm leaving the keys on the table or whatever and she's like no give me the keys now give me the keys now or something like that so i'm like if you're leaving in an hour right and you know that when you get back he ain't gonna be here wouldn't it be easier to have someone mutual get them keys from him and then when you get back in town you get them keys from that person or you call the police the police are likely going to come over there and say either do you have keys that you can give her for where she comes back and then get the keys and give them to you because it is your residence he doesn't have just because he owns a house or do you to lease or whatever doesn't mean that he has the right to block you from accessing it right when you've been in a domestic relationship and you lived there for four years and you got kids like that's impossible he can't do that like so if you call the police then now whatever they're going to side with you to get access to the house i believe what they would have likely done is either get tell him to give her the keys in if he has that right right or say when you get back we will escort you to the property and make sure that you have access to it fussing with him for a recording to leak is just like I can believe that you were sick and tired of this nigga shit and you needed evidence of how toxic and controlling or manipulative he might be and maybe people don't believe you because he's this incredibly famous actor and everybody knows him from everything and blah blah blah so I get that part but it's like I don't feel like this is the most strategic way to get at it because in some parts of it it just feels like okay this could have been maybe we could do this or whatever and then the audio mind you ends like right it cuts out like right i guess before they started tussling okay it sounds to me i was not there i'm not accusing anybody of anything it sounds to me like she at some point because he's like i'm gonna leave the keys on the table or something it sounds to me like she was trying to get in to the place and he might have been like blocking her from it or something like physically trying to stop her maybe by blocking her from getting into it. It sounded like she was maybe trying to get by and he was not like letting her get by in some way or the next. And then before you know it, it cut off. So I don't know, like obviously what happened, but it kind of sounded like she was trying to go inside and he was trying to block her, which again, if I'm him, that is not smart. No, no, there's no part of his behavior here that makes since my only thing about you know he's gonna leave the keys on the table and then maybe a third party can pick him up and bring him is like i i would really doubt that he's going to do that i would doubt that he's going to actually leave the keys somewhere accessible that's what i'm saying or that he's going to give them to this third party like i just don't believe he would do it so that's what i'm saying like if he's saying that he's gonna leave the keys on the table like he has them then why not just let her get the key like i it's like what are you doing leave them on the table means what when i can't come back and access the table to get the keys like it doesn't make sense and so now you're forcing my hand i have to get law enforcement involved because i'm not going out of town without keys to my home to return back to literally nobody does that and you are bullshitting and that's probably why like three hours after she got out the jail the judge was like judge heard that it was like oh yeah baby we got this the judge said never you mind not only can you have access to the residence we gonna make sure that nigga can't be there right damn why are we talking about whose home is whose yeah unfortunately you You have to start recording. It's sad, but thank God that we have access to things like this so you can record what really happened and have something to defend yourself. Because we've seen a trillion times when it's the court of public opinion versus, you know, this person and powerful and powerful, rich, right? Famous, fine. a lot of people will excuse shit simply because he has a gorgeous face so and i mean we saw with diddy and cassie the way niggas was talking about cassie till that video came out we saw with kiki and that light-skinned demon that she had a baby with where people was talking about whether she was wrong until that like it just is over and over again when when you can provide audio or video proof to back up what you're saying all of a sudden it's like oh well maybe we can't believe that this nigga's an asshole. Yeah, maybe we can because he's not the first one to last. So yikes. Yikes indeed. Last but not least, there is a Netflix documentary coming out called Reality Check Inside America's Next Top Model. Have you seen the trailer? I have! And I said, oh, Tyra, please, please. Tyra, hot ice cream banks will be in the dock and in this clip she says that she knew she went too far. I don't know if that's about the whole goddamn thing. I don't know if that's about her general ideas, creative direction, production, and behavior. Yelling at them, screaming at them girls, calling them fat when they were size six. This trailer made me like, reminded me of a whole bunch of shit. Yeah. Yeah. That show was deeply problematic, man. And I remember watching it And maybe not mostly older people, but people who knew better than I did were more mature than I was. We like this isn right You shouldn be treating people this way And I like she looking for America next top supermodel not America next top best friend like you know I was I was caping for Tyra not America's next bottom bitch I absolutely was caping for Tyra and all the terrible shit they did on that show and so I watched it back a few years ago and was like oh my god like these ladies they y'all should be able to file a lawsuit this is terrible grown up. I'm in this trailer bawling. I'm going to be fat. Yeah, I am going to look at that. I am. It's about damn time. Alright, hot ice cream. Thanks for wrapping up the hot tops this week. I'll see you on the to-dum. That's it. We'll take a break and come back. We are back. It's time to get Into your business it is Send your questions to ask the read at gmail.com We may read them out loud we did Get a letter from Jason who said I moved To New Zealand with my family during the first Trump administration because fuck that Valid and He worked in immigration so he said The short answer for Why being HIV positive Might keep you from getting permanent Residency in New Zealand or Australia Is because they have public health care And so when you come Short term you have to prove that you can pay for yourself in case something bad happens or demonstrate you have insurance but if you want to stay permanently that's when this point system kicks in and they basically tally up how useful you will be like how much you contribute to society versus your liabilities and so like jason's example was if you're a dentist you know so you're a very professional person you make good money you're in perfect health it's like yes we're rolling out the red carpet for you but if you're art history major and chronically ill they're like no there's that's points against you because the system is going to have to pay for you and so that is why your hiv status can impact your citizenship and i'm like well okay i guess that's one good thing about not having health care like it's really like that's really fucked up it's a fucked up way to treat people i'm like i actually don't know if our system is better or worse than yours but we probably do the same thing and we don't take care of it once you get here right so i know shout out but thank you to it was a handful of people who wrote in was like yes girl it is crazy but this is how it works um so thank you for letting us know that um and let's move on to our first letter this week hmm Hmm. So this one comes from tired, but torn. And they write in between the two, dear, Kiff, you're in crystal. My 64 year old mother has untreated depression and paranoia. After my parents divorced years ago, she became estranged from her entire family. She lived with all three of her sisters and my grandmother, but each eventually kicked her out because she would act the entire fool. I let her live with me for a year, but my mental health couldn't take it. and I moved into an apartment while I let her stay in my house rent-free for four years so she could have some stability and get on her feet. My brother and I even helped her get two jobs, but she quit both, and now I honestly don't know what she does all day besides read her Bible and watch YouTube. I told her I'd be selling my house because I can't afford two places anymore and that she needed to find somewhere else to live. My brother secured an affordable apartment for her, but she refused to sign the lease because she said it's too expensive, even though she gets Social Security, and we agreed to help with the rent so she'd only be paying $500 a month. Now she says she wants either a cheaper apartment or a van to live in but hasn't made a single move to secure either one and ignores us when we try to help her with that too. When the contract for the house sale goes through, she may be homeless. I feel bad but I'm also completely drained because no matter how much I help, she won't help herself. Should I feel guilty for stepping back? I'm 30 and I need to get my finances in check, which selling the house is allowing me to do. But the guilt is a lot. Thanks. Tired but torn. The guilt of having to even be in a position to make this decision. Right. And the wondering of what might happen to your mother. And I would guess, TBT, that your mother is banking on this guilt, and that's why she has no sense of urgency with regards to finding somewhere else to live. You moved out of your house and took an apartment just to get away from her, and you let her live there and pay nothing for four years? She probably don't believe y'all really going to let her end up homeless. so yeah she's not making it easy on you because she believes i think i'm guessing that she believes when it comes down to it one of her kids is gonna step up and take care of her because most of us are not comfortable with the idea of our parents being unhoused that's just how it is i feel like someone wrote a letter in like this not too long ago but i think it was about their sister or something did it was like yes i feel like someone didn't there was someone who was like my little sister moved in with me because our mama, who was a hot mess, kicked her out. Now she lives with me and I'm trying to help get her on her feet. I feel like we just got a letter like this not too long ago. We probably did. This does suck. And I get the guilt because even though she's driving you crazy and getting on your nerves and antagonizing you and chipping away at your own damn mental health, You're still fighting for her and hoping that you're going to wake up someday and she's going to, you know, decide to fight for herself. But I promise you that I agree fully with what Crystal said. I believe I don't believe she's taking advantage of you. Well, she's taking advantage of you and the fact that she your mama. and as a grown tittied adult I think the both of us are always going to encourage you to go well guess what mom dad granny auntie uncle no no no no absolutely not now I'm grown and you grown we both grown so now what you're not going to treat me any kind of way you're not going to do anything because your mom mom mom stop only crying yeah i think that you have to let her get burnt you gotta let her touch that stove baby and it's like damn fuck mom but it's either she gonna touch that stove and and and you know get a little singed and come crawling back and be like i swear i'm gonna stay at the FedEx or at the Jamba Juice or wherever the fuck. I won't quit. And I promise y'all I'll even pay some rent and I'll cook. We have Sunday dinners. But I agree with Crystal. I think that she is sitting around banking on the fact that she can do nothing. And you and your sibling will pick up the pieces. If she hasn't, well, no. If she hasn't, if she has like clear depression or anxiety or all of these things that haven't been diagnosed, that's something that she would have to work on but she would have to work on it you can't put a fucking rope around her ankles and drag her to the lady office and shove medication out her mouth you just can't do it it will not work so I believe your options are to continue letting this lady chip away at your brain and then let that get attached to your gut and the rest of your damn nervous system now you can't piss now you just bow in the center just stressed out even when you're having a good day you're like why the fuck is my tummy grumbling because your mama getting on your nerves she's stressing you the fuck out it's always in your head so either you're gonna you know stew around with that until it possibly gets worse or you break and the response to it is just like exacerbated because it's just been simmering for a long time. Or you say to your mother in a very cute and concise way, listen, you're going to have to go. And I don't know what you're going to do about your life. Know that I will always love you from my house that you're not going to live in no more. Right. Baby cakes. And expect that. I have like a movie reference for this that flashed in my mind and went away for like, I have to say, oh yes. the baby and the help when Viola Davis left the help when she quit and the baby was in the window like no like that but the opposite you're in the house and you're fine and you've decided she outside but you know it's just like you're gonna I think you have to expect that she is going to take advantage of your conscious conscience. There it is. And your, you know, that guilty feeling. She's going to take advantage of the love that you have for her and have a response that is going to, you know, for her, hopefully for her, you know, just liven that guilt up and make you think twice about it. Don't. Don't. It's the fact that all three of her sisters and her own mama put her out. Yeah. Baby, what you supposed to do that her mama and sisters couldn't do? Let's just all be for real about it. You and your brother tried to help her get jobs. She quit both of them. Why did she quit both her jobs? Because she don't have to worry about how the bills are getting paid when it come right down to it. She knows you or your brother will do it. And now she overheard this. Well, if I have to pay $500, where are you going to find an apartment? Cheaper than $500 literally Anywhere anywhere in the country Where are you finding a studio Apartment for $500 Probably nowhere And so being like well either Find me something cheaper doesn't exist Or a van to live in okay Okay that makes me Feel like she's deliberately trying To tug at y'all like $500 okay Just find me a van Just find me a van and throw me in the van and roll me down by the river and just let me rot and I'm going to just live like the boxcar children since that's how y'all want to do me. Down by the river. Girl, yes, you finna be in a van down by the river playing with me. It's I agree with Kifuri. As hard as it is, I think you have to to step back. You have to. Or else you. Or you. Right. Because who's putting you first? It should be your mother My god you would think A parent would put their child first But she does not She does not put your well being or what's best for you First So you have to because who else is going to do it baby You have to You going to blink and be 64 years old Your mama going to be gone And you not going to have nothing to your name Because you spent your whole life Taking care of a grown woman who didn't want to Do it for herself she got issues okay well she's very fortunate to have two children who give a shit about her who are willing to support her but she has to want it for herself you know how many people are scratching and saving and pinching shit together to try to make it to therapy to try to pay for their meds to try to do good things for themselves and they don't have family or friends to support them you got people who want to help you help yourself but you don't want to help yourself right and sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to realize that you need to help your fucking self it's true it is true so if your mama has to literally hit cement bottom because she out there on them sidewalks to in order for a switch to flip and for her to realize damn i'm 65 years old talking about I don't want to pay $500 in rent and I don't want to have a job. Girl, I'm sorry you live in a capitalist hellscape with the rest of us, but what the fuck choice do you have? If you're not independently wealthy, then guess what? Welcome. You have to, girl. Sorry. Sorry. You're here with the rest of us, dog. Sorry that you, America is the most capitalist. So yeah, girl, you're going to have to do something. And then once she demonstrates that she is ready to do things on her own, do things for herself. I'm happy to help you at that point. Probably not to the point of coming back in my house. Because let me tell you something. I'm not leaving my house and paying for an apartment just so I can have peace. Never. Never. The idea is insane. Never. I'm simply the fact that you did it for four years. If somebody gave me four years, no expenses. Do you know? Anyway. I own a record label. For real, I would have my own publishing house. I would be doing all kinds of shit. Mama, absolutely not. Letting her hit that rock bottom and go find a van or whatever. Yeah. is going to be good for her. In the long run. But it's going to be best for you. Yes. And it's going to hurt in the moment. It's going to be hard. Nobody wants to see that, obviously. But you continuing to be the safety net for her isn't sustainable. It just isn't. It's not. Because it's not even that she needs help, but she's the sweetest person and she treats everybody so nice. Like, she's hell. Right. And I'm tired of hearing about grown ass adults who are raising their parents because their parents don't want to do shit to be right about anything. Right. You live with her for a year and you couldn't take it. You moved out. Like, hello? Hello? Let me say something. As much as I will move a mountain part AC and eat any ass over my mama. Right. She ain't driving me out of a fuck thing. Oh, no. I can't take a lady to go. No. One thing about Big Connie, she got her own shit, okay? She made sure of that. She has her things, her degree, her home. She has not asked me to take care of her in the least. It is one of the biggest blessings that she has given me. My mother is not getting me so aggravated that I'm boobing. Out of my house? Are you okay? Is everyone well? like i'll carve out a couple hours in a day for us to come up with a plan a strategy oh absolutely when you know i'm not going nowhere when you are helping yourself other people become more motivated to help exactly they really do so should you feel guilty whatever you feel is what you feel i like to take sure out of the equation entirely you probably will feel guilty when you stop being a people pleaser and a caretaker. You probably will because you need some time to get used to this new reality. But this new reality is what you both need. You feel guilty because you care. You feel guilty because you did something wrong. I mean, imagine you on your way to work and you pass by your mama in the subway. Hello? Nobody wants that. Nobody fucking wants that. But she don't want to do anything. And she's putting you between a rock and a hard place. Exactly. I can do bad all by myself, etc. etc. Good luck, baby. It'll suck. There's nothing to free before 11, Kathy. When you go out to the club and then you come back to your house and you're like, I almost forgot that I had property and land and I had space. That Sir David's going to be like, you know whose house this is, bitch? Yours. When I came to see. Me. Anyway. I thought you said my house. Well, yes. I didn't even think of that. Oh, work. Yeah, I'm stupid. Good luck, babe. Our next letter comes from Granville, who says, I love you both. And I've been listening since the beginning. I've been seeing my therapist for about seven months after being in and out of short term therapy for the past decade. I never thought that I would have the means to afford seeing someone long term. In the UK, the NHS and private medical only provide short term care, at least in my case. You know, see how it's just this sounds crazy to us, but over here you have to pay for everything so you can have whatever you want. It's not funny because we end up fucked. But anyway, no, literally. He has his towels. I have hers towels. oh okay uh last year i contacted my workplace eap and after explaining my situation they suggested that long-term therapy may be significantly more helpful and more affordable than i thought they gave me a link to a directory i found myself a therapist and i've been seeing him fortnightly here's the issue oh right i'm starting to feel like my car is stuck in the mud and he's trying to help, but we're not moving and I can feel his frustration despite trying to hide it. Occasionally, I'll catch him rolling his eyes or he'll let out a sigh of, girl, tell them voices to be quiet, to which I let him know that I'm equally frustrated and he'll tell me that the sigh wasn't what I thought it was, that I didn't make this car or the mud, I'm just trying to get out. Outside of that, he also doesn't take notes, which is a new experience for me, but it means he often forgets things like my partner's name. I brought this up once out of curiosity and he said, don't worry about what I'm doing. What? Yesterday I was going about my business as usual when I checked my phone to find a missed call, text, and email from my therapist asking where I was, then another saying that I had missed our session and would need to pay for it and asking how I would like to proceed, which meant I now had to squeeze beating myself up into my afternoon schedule because how did I miss my appointment? I'm feeling like taking a break and that this might be a good opportunity, but I also have this nagging feeling that I should find a different therapist and start again. Do you think I should stick it out and talk with him about all these feelings or find someone else who might be a better fit? My flight instinct is strong, so I have a history of not sticking with things. On the other hand, I did finish a four-year degree and I've been in a gay relationship for almost nine years, so clearly I'm able to stick to something. I welcome any advice you can offer. Thank you both for your show Bitches are the most dedicated people I haven't Kind regards Granville A nine year Homosexual male relationship You the most stick to it And ass bitch I ever heard of Honey I don't know none of them And I do mean not one What power Here's the thing about the therapist Right I think that first of all I've had like one or two therapists before where I had the one session with them and they're like nope I think that it's very I think you should think of it kind of like going to any doctor where you might have a thing and the doctor says such and such or you just don't like their goddamn attitude and so you're like I'm gonna go get an opinion from elsewhere yep and then you find your new PCP or whatever. I don't know. But in that like in that regard, I think that first of all, you don't owe the therapist like anything. No, you really don't. Your money. The money for this session you missed. But other than that you could literally just be like, oh, here go the money for this or if they just take it out and boop, boop, boop and then just find you a new therapist. I I really suggest that you A, do it, and B, don't think too much into it, because I think a lot of people, it kind of pushes them back from getting therapy or staying in therapy, because they either, like, I didn't like this experience, or I cannot stand this bitch and they're just like, fuck therapy, or you may just not have, like, the energy, you know, you manage, you know, you just may be anxious, and you just drag your feet on finding a new therapist before whatever, whatever. I would just suggest that you start looking for somebody now and just, yeah, like I said, treat it like, okay, I'm going to just go find some other person. And if you don't like that vibe, I'll find somebody else. I think it's just the most important for you to find a therapist, work on therapy because you believe you need it, and be okay with mixing it up until you find the thing that fits. I've talked before about how my therapist has got to be black. I'm not even... My talk therapist, whoop-de-whoop-de-whoop, has to be black. Whoop-de-whoop-de-whoop. I used to be like, black woman. No, it's just black. So, yeah. That's how I feel about it. Some of this was like, what? Some of this is... The therapist is quite wild for this. like like huh we've got a couple letters not many but a couple letters from people they talk about their therapist and we'd be like um not in my therapy school not you know and I don't know how it's different in the UK so no that just sounds like it's just completely egregious and out of bounds regardless it does like especially the note taking part the don't worry about what I'm doing that's quite crazy That is wild. I can't imagine talking to a client like that. That just seems very dismissive of an extremely normal observation. So that's very weird to me. Especially if, how long did they? Seven months. Seven months. Right. Like, my therapist and I, my current therapist, we've, I've had this therapist since I moved out here. so at this point he might not be taking a ton of notes unless it's like oh this is something to keep track of hell yeah because we've spoken you know what i mean but he can just kind of but if it's like within the first year i would expect you would be like oh let me ping this and let me do such and such but that coupled with all this other just completely blatant wild out of bounds shit yeah i'm like i don't even think it's worth um saying how you feel about it especially because many therapists have like 200 goddamn clients they see he probably won't be missing no work so well i don't know how it's different from you know the uk from the u.s right so but i would i would have um i would take the opportunity to talk to him about it if only so that he understands i'm not quitting because therapy is just so hard or whatever. I'm quitting because you're weird. And the way you move with me is weird. And telling me, don't worry about what I'm doing when I ask you why you're not taking notes is strange because I wouldn't have to worry about it if you got things right. But we've been meeting for seven months and you'd be forgetting my man's name. So like, clearly your system isn't as great as you think it is. The eye rolls and the sighing, that can be that. I mean, if you felt the way about it, that's that's something worth paying attention to it is also possible that he's sighing at something else but along with these other things it doesn't make me one so and i agree sigh is one it could be but it can mean many things but you see how when you put it next to this other weird man it becomes very impossible to give you the benefit of the doubt because you seem like you moving weird so i would take the opportunity just to be like this is why i'm not coming back because frankly i don't really understand why you operate the way you do but I really don't think there's any reason like like Kid Fury said you don't have to feel some sort of allegiance to this you are it is well within your power to fire your health care professionals if they are not working for you then it is more than okay especially something like mental health it is more than okay to be like all right and I'm gonna go find somebody else because somebody who just you know somebody who thinks a notepad and an ink pen are useful yeah well it's also like professional and like does their job it's so weird how you gonna be like don't worry about what i'm doing but you getting shit wrong how you how you don't remember my therapy is gonna bully you yeah um so even though your flight instinct is strong i think it's you've got some really solid reasons here for finding somebody else. You could be well within your right to find someone else. This office smells like bugles. Every single time I come over here. Now that, I would bring it up. See, maybe y'all could light a candle or something. It smelled like gardenians. What was that candle that the old girl, her friend, bought it for her man and it started a fight? I'll never remember what that was. Mahogany people or something. Maybe they buy you a mahogany teakwood and light it. That was such a serious era. Okay. But yeah, Granville, you can do both, but feel free to find somebody else. This guy's a bit strange. Maybe some of the UK therapists can let me know, do they not teach y'all to take notes? It's a big thing over here. Like you have to write notes. I can't believe that. Every session, so. British therapists on TV do it. Do they? Yeah. I don't think I've ever seen British therapy on TV. I mean like in scripted stuff I guess I'm saying they do it But they're practicing in America No I'm saying like British shows Yeah I've never seen a British show Where Okay so But let me know if that's something y'all do Over there or if it's like It's really on your own vibe and if you don't remember Key details of a client's life then oh well You know that just don't sound right so But best of luck to you in your search baby are you yeah here go gillian anderson taking notes in sex education okay see so if sex education wasn't that that show wouldn't lie to us it would never lane this is why ladies literally looking at her like what excuse who you talking to there's danger outdoors no there i'm trying to help your black american ass laney is her entire stance is giving like no you get off the couch I said I get off the couch oh my god I don't understand why they're so disrespectful like their little gaze is just like so trying and antagonistic I'm trying to work this is why I do not work from home this is why when Link barks like that when she hears somebody in the hallway or whatever i'll just be like ah or whatever and you know what she does have i talked about this i don't think so she'll go from like a an actual like loud bark and i'll be like ah and she'll go where it's like you ain't gonna shut me up but i want to get in trouble when i have the patience and i'm not you know recording doing my actual job yeah then i'll be like oh thank you for letting mommy know those dogs are outside lady and mommy are inside and she chills out and you know we have a conversation about it and it's fine she's still a puppy well again this is why I do not if if the streets were clearer I would not be home right now but when he comes home like I think this was like yesterday or maybe the day before but she cannibald her black ass and was like immediately grabbed the pen and sparrow and was like throw it and I looked at her and I was like bitch how the fuck do you come home with all this energy. You be gone nine hours a day. You ain't tired. Right. How are you? And you played with them other little short homegirls at school all day. All day. And you come here and be like, yeah, let me get on your nerves too. It's like Lady K can't wait for it. It's like she cannot wait. Ringing around the coffee table. Bitch. It just means they love us. Okay. Well, our last letter. Lady deadass head. You have to pay attention. Things are crazy outside. silencing me. He's triggering. This last letter comes from Grace who says Hi Chris Lincoln Fury I writing because I 32 years old I been married for four years and I have no kids I never really wanted kids But over the past several years this discussion has come up now and then After talking with my therapist and my husband, I have ultimately decided that I don't want a child bad enough to justify bringing them into this truly awful world. I have been feeling something like grief about the decision lately. And I think that if I was making this decision in the 80s or 90s, when families live closer, Cost of living was cheaper The world wasn't as terrible And childcare wasn't so expensive I would choose to have one But the reality is that this is not the world we live in anymore I also don't have any nieces or nephews Or extended family with children So I think that may be making the sadness worse I'm wondering as two child-free people If you have navigated these same feelings And if so, how have you come to terms with your decision? Overall, I'm mostly happy and I know that I can live a happy and fulfilled life without kids. But am I crazy to feel that way while simultaneously feeling sad about something I am choosing to never have? Thanks so much and much love to the both of you, Grace. Grace, three hours ago, I probably could have empathized with this, but now I'm feeling like I do have a child and she's on my fucking nerves. So I'm trying to remind myself that Lainey is not my human baby and I am technically child free, but it's hard right now because she's really trying it. And because you're cradling her because she won't behave. Because she will not act right. I'm going to put you down and you better be quiet. That face says I'm going to do what I want. And you better be nice. Be nice. Mommy has to work. No play. um grace i think like uh crystal was saying a bit earlier you can feel however you want to feel and i mean if it helps i believe you feel both sides of your feelings on this situation these two feelings are completely connected and fair yep um i think you were not nearly alone in the feeling of not wanting to have kids simply because the world is fucked. The world does not care, especially like here. The world does not care about kids being healthy, happy, learned, a fuck thing. Not one fucking thing, bro. Not one. So I understand the parents are non-parents, I'm sorry, people who are interested in being parents but are like no i'm not doing that to a kid there are people who do it for many reasons like the reason i don't i don't want kids because i think i've said this because i don't think that i'm mentally sound enough to raise a kid uh in a healthy way and i don't uh want a kid more than i want kids to be healthy and happy i don't want one so much that i'm like i'll just fuck one up because i want to have it right yeah i almost said a name anyways anyways anyways um yeah I think that these feelings make sense I think like yeah just feeling a sense of sorrow because this is this out of control thing you feel like is stopping you from you know having a baby and that sucks There are things that you can do to get through this, you know, sense of grief or what have you that you're feeling, like talking to people. I also encourage people read like blogs or forums related to this, too, because sometimes I like reading sentiment and commentary from people, just regular everyday people who log on the Internet and go, well, this is my experience with such and such and such. It feels kind of like getting a really nice scope of things, which can be helpful. But, yeah, I think you are completely well within your right and understandable in feeling both of these things. Yes, I agree. I wouldn't say that I'm child free. It's just more that. It's only been very recently that I've even believed. Like I should not have become a mother Before therapy for sure And thank God I didn't But it's more At this point it's more like you know I'm getting old and I just don't see You know I don't feel like A need for it It's not like oh I just need to have children But that's the thing If you really want to and you have the money You can reproduce At stunning ages balance yeah spirit spiritual mental and emotional balance and maturity well you don't have to have those things you have to have the money well yeah i'm talking about it won't work otherwise yeah you simply will you won't be 55 getting pregnant well some of y'all one of y'all said to be like my mama did okay i don't think like doing the work that someone like yourself has done would be that's the thing doing the work of reparenting myself has been more than enough I don't need to raise kids because I've already raised me and Adam and Lainey you can't hear this but I'm doing the pocket fingers you know it's tea when you see the two fingers touching bitch shut the fuck up I'm a real fire bitch all you bitches ugly it's bad I'm sorry I kind of love it it is so bad that it's good thank you it is so bad that it's good I agree it's terrible though it really is I need the whole thing so but yes I do get the feelings here but you know i have a you want to you want to be a mom get a fucking puppy i was gonna say that too yeah you don't have a pet that will help it'll help a lot because let me tell you something this if you ever just like i have too much free time and too much extra money go get a puppy and she'll just drink all that right up as much as we joke about our dogs getting on our damn nerves you still like oh no this is my child and i'm not comparing it to obviously and magnificence of having your own human biological. I am. But what you do get out of having a pet, especially a dog, is this beautiful loyalty, unconditional love. And also it requires you to look after something and make sure that it's this adorable living being that you have to look after. You have to feed it. You have to make sure that it sits in the right place. you have to make sure that it socializes and that it knows for her. You do. You have to train them. Like you have to, you have to do something with this nigga. But no, you're not crazy to feel that way. I think most people who are being mindful about the choice to be parents, even if they are choosing yes to be parents, you have to take a look around and be like, am I really going to do this? Bring an innocent being into this shit. when fascism is on the rise in this country and around the world and the cost of everything is a billion fucking dollars like no it's not crazy to be like damn i'm gonna choose not to do this but to acknowledge that if times were better maybe you would i have a friend who has one kid and has said to me multiple times if it was financially feasible i would absolutely have another one but But with the economics being the way they are, I just cannot justify it. So you're far from the only person who's making that decision, at least partially from a financial point of view. And there's nothing wrong with that. It's fine to be sad while also saying to yourself, I'm making the right decision for me and I'm going to feel these feelings and then move on with my life. You know, I'm going to do both. Yeah. All right, babe. My God, if you got some melanin baby. So you got to consider you raising like a black baby. Right. Are you having biracial or other of color children? Because that's a whole nother layer to. Right. But yeah, please, please don't. But, yeah, I saw somebody on TikTok posted, like, a receipt from they mama paying for daycare in 1997, and it was, like, $250 or something. That's so depressing. You know, it's kind of crazy to think about how much the cost of stuff like that has just skyrocketed. And people cannot afford it, so they're making very hard decisions. And I'm sorry that we live in that kind of world, but we do. I feel like that was something that I heard like maybe once or twice in the rap shit room because so many of those people are parents a lot of them had like new kids and stuff too like when we were riding the two seasons I mean like everybody was pregnant especially seasons like everybody was pregnant or their wife was pregnant but one of the things I heard come up a couple of times was like girl these daycare prices school clothes books what the hell else do they want bone marrow it don't make sense right they would just talk about like daycare being just ridiculous it is it is and the workers don't get that money the people who are actually spending the most time with your kids aren't even they're not making very much they're usually making minimum wage psychotic it is disheartening the way this country operates but it is the way this country operates so you get to make a choice For now, for now, you get to choose whether you reproduce. I don't know how much longer that'll be true, but it is. Yeah, it's fair to feel these things. And wishing you luck in accepting and all that, because it's heartbreaking, you know. And this is why a lot of people say, fuck it. We'll figure it out. And I'm not going to say that that's inherently wrong because why should a social construct keep you from having kids? Right. But you know the realities of what it's like to raise humans. Everybody knows it's very fucking expensive. That's why I like that you said that you're making the decision that is right for you. Right. Right. Yeah. And since you never really wanted them anyway. Right. That's a good point, too. But when you, it's something about the finality of being like, okay, I'm not going to do this. There is some grieving involved with that. I mean, I remember feeling a little bit of that around, I don't know, maybe two or three years ago. But I got over that quickly because I got a fucking dog. Yeah, I felt it like. And now I am a mother. Past couple of years. Mm-hmm. Yeah. But yeah. All right. Good luck, Grace. And that is going to wrap up our letters this week. If you have a question for us, please send us an email to asktheread at gmail.com. We're going to take another quick break and be right back. Okay, girlies. It is time now for the read. I will just try to get mine out of the way because it's quick and it should be quick and simple. My read is actually. Kid Fury. No way. Sports. That's right, my boo. Today we have a brand spanking new edition of Kid Fury Sports Shorts. I'm going to talk to you girls about the UFC 324 match that took place this past week. I want to tell you girls that it was incredibly boring. It was ridiculous. the girls were out there cha-cha sliding in the fucking ring why don't y'all even sign up for this main card it was so impossibly goddamn boring Natalia Silva you was fighting pussy I don't know why you decided that you wanted to you know well I actually do know why you decided you want to heat shit up and actually fight in the third round because you know Rose was tapping that ass and had all of the strikes now you want to fight boom don't see it uh O'Malley song I don't understand how that goddamn fight was so motherfucking boring when there was a tatted up white man with his lanky ass in the ring with straight back cornrows one side hot pink the other side neon green how was I falling asleep when the Joker was fighting but who I really want to discuss here is one Derek Lewis a fighter out of Houston Texas I believe he was up against one Waldo Cortez Acosta hailing from the Dominican Republic. Now, let me tell you this. This was the one fight of the night where I didn't give a fuck who won because I like them both. They both black. One is from here. The other is Afro-Caribbean. Like, I don't give a shit. Whoever wins, wins. Girl, I wish I could show you the end of this fight. I do not know what the fuck happened. First of all, they were actually giving me the energy I needed at first they were going blow for blow but that Dominican was tapping that chin a couple of times and this Derek Lewis was like a chest of drawers this man is like okay like swole I mean both of them are they were both heavyweights but it was like I don't it's like he lost his grip his confidence the end of the fight I believe I believe Waldo like jabbed at him maybe it touched Derek's chin but he like he clearly slipped and fell like on his butt rather than getting back up I don't know doing a shimmy shake to the side coming up with a plan he just stayed on the ground he then laid on his back oh and was like I guess I'll just be finished I don't want to fight no more I don't know what and the funny thing about it is what of course he has Acosta looked at him for a beat he didn't even immediately get on him and start you know right hook left hook there was a beat where he kind of did this motion like get up and this was the second time in their fight that he did that Oh my god. And then the nigga just laid on his back. Waldo was like, alright, cool. Alright, I guess I'll beat your ass in. Rocked her shit. They stopped the fight. Derek looked like a close relative died. I think he was as confused as us. Sir, why would you go out like that? all the people chanting USA USA because literally most I think every fight was an American fighter against somebody who was not from here so they really did except for the last well the only time they didn't do that was the last fight because everybody loved Patty Pemblitt because I guess he reminds like if you didn't know he was a fighter you'd think he was like a DJ so they just like his wild white energy and large eyes and the fact that he come out dancing at EDM or whatever. So he was the only time where they weren't blatantly in the crowd chanting for the American to win. And this is exactly how I knew. I don't ever want to go see no damn UFC fight live. Not only do I get better visuals and coverage of it at home, I'm not going to deal with y'all. So, thank you at least to Justin Gaethje and Patty for entertaining me. That was a good fight. Patty, I don't even know how you made it out of that alive because he cracked your shit. You went out. Swinging, literally and figuratively. But you ended that shit looking like Martin. And you know when. So, this is really for Derek Lewis. What happened, brother? What took place? Why don't you lay down with open arms and open legs and allow that man to whoop your ass like that? Just lost the nerve, I guess. Anyway, any questions? No, I did not understand almost everything you said, but work, but your energy was felt. Every time you said Waldo, my brain said Faldo. And then I just kept laughing. I mean, what are you supposed to do about it? I just kept laughing at that. So I really retained precious little of that. Every time I say it, I think of Waldo, Haraldo Faldo. I would fuck you, somebody who don't know who I'm talking about. Let's go think of somebody else. I think that's why he was laughing what did you say and my brain said Faldo and I just did mine does every time oh bummer man it was a pretty good fight up until that point but Derek step up to the mic oh man but overall UFC 324 the reads for you that was that was so boring my god bring a book I'm finished okay I just want to say real quickly Speaking of sports, a lot of people have been mad At Anthony Edwards for what he said About the ice shooting in Minnesota He was basically like, I don't really Know what's going on in the world I don't have social media and all that But, you know, I'm with the people Because the people be supporting me So, you know, I support the people And praying for everybody Me and my family praying for everybody involved That's the smartest possible thing Anthony Edwards. I was about to say. I don't know what you niggas expected out of Anthony fucking Edwards, okay? That nigga don't even take care of his kids. He don't even give a shit about his kids, okay? The fact that he just said, I don't know what you mean, nigga, that ain't none of my business. Honestly, the response I wish a lot of people would give when they're asked about social political issues. Yeah, I don't really know because I don't have social media and all that, but I'm with the people and And, you know, I heard about it. So, you know, praying for everybody. That is the smartest thing you don't get out of Anthony Edwards. And I understand this is related because, you know, this is the third person ICE has killed in Minneapolis over the past month. And a lot of people are focusing on the white people who have died and not Keith Porter Jr., who died on New Year's Eve, killed by an ICE agent. And I would I mean I would just Obviously that's unfair if you can find The GoFundMe for Keith Porter Jr.'s Daughters The GoFundMes for the other Victims I'll put a link in the description Because theirs are over a million His is just under 200,000 And it's like If we lived in a world where Black You know these things happen to black people mattered to anybody other than black people, then the shit wouldn't be happening to anybody else. Like it wouldn't be happening to white people, but it also wouldn't be happening to us because we would be living in a world that gave a fuck, a society that gave a fuck about its people. And we just don't. So I understand like a lot of people are frustrated by this and I am too, I get that, but they don't care when it happens to us because it's quote unquote supposed to happen to us. They don't support, when it happens to us the way they do when it happens to one of them because it's not supposed to happen to one of them this isn't a society that says you you know people might say all lives matter when you say black lives matter but actually nobody's life really matters especially if you're not rich and if you're not white so it's i'm frustrated by this but i also understand That this is America So Yeah if you can donate to the GoFundMe For his daughters please do It's just beyond frustrating What this government is doing And that we were explicitly warned Multiple times that this very thing would happen And y'all still sin I don't give a fuck But anyway That's not going to be the primary focus Of my read this week I am actually going to pass my read this week Because, you know, dogs are just they're just a part of this. I am going to pass a read. This read was submitted by Effie. Effie also included three photos of herself so that we could see how gorgeous she is. I thought you were going to say her dog or something. It says, my name is Effie and I'm a five-year-old Schnauzer Terrier mix. And I'm supposed to weigh no more than eight pounds. However, my lazy ass mama don't be taking me on walks like I need to. And we both just sitting over here getting fat. So this read is for my lazy ass mama and her fiance. First of all, I'm pissed off. You showed up to a foster home looking to adopt some crazy ass chihuahua that you thought was cute. And I was just there watching that bitch bite you with nonstop barking. So, yeah, of course you changed your mind. And maybe, yeah, I did look underweight at five pounds with the face of a grandpa. But when the white foster mom said this is tidbit and put me in your man's arms, I knew to look at y'all with my big brown eyes like puss in boots and y'all melted just like clockwork. So let me remind you that you adopted me and took me home. So I'm a region of filth because I think you have forgotten that I'm still getting used to you. You and your little fiance, which I could give two shits about because nobody invited me to take engagement pictures. But anyway, what y'all not going to do is keep complaining about my bad breath. Bitch, pay the $500 to get my teeth cleaned in. You think I give a damn about the economy? Don't be trying to figure out how you can give me your only paws to make money you broke, bitch. Listen. Oh, my God. I was on death row and niggas was ready to euthanize me. That should tell you I'm from the streets. So please don't keep trying me. And I'm going to die. I'm sick of you getting tired of me barking. I bark, bitch. I'm a dog. it's in my breed you dumb hoe and i bark at white people so you welcome i bark if i hear anything well preach literally i'm shocked she's not chiming in you don't even need the ring camera because you have me for that and you are welcome yelling me again though and i promise the day somebody tried to break in this house i'm staring you down in silence also it's weird that you get mad when I follow you around the house because the moment you sit down I want 100% of that lap if you sit on the couch that means we sitting on the couch my dog daddy understands this so you need to pull up fuck a Velcro dog bitch I'm glue yeah and you need therapy I know you were looking but you stopped and I'm tired of you crying when I'm trying to play with my toys and bite you and you can't just be extra affectionate when you have your usual 10 milligram gummy or coming home late drunk as fuck you unstable bitch do you know how annoying you are yelling at me because i follow on the heels of your feet and yes if you leave the gate to the kitchen open i'm gonna sniff the floor for floor snacks and if i don't get floor snacks i'm gonna knock over the candy dish so i can enjoy the chocolates that you put out for guests you don't even like people in the house so why even have a candy dish you need to take me on more walks i will leave you alone if i can go on more walks stop getting mad when I started attacking my leash bitch I'm just excited you dummy you know I'm a drama queen so if you try to take me outside when there's snow on the ground I will continue to howl and cry because my feet are cold and I don't fuck with the snow which you should have learned by now I will shit on your bathroom Matt before I ever get snow again I hate doggy daycare but you keep surprising me with that bullshit once a month I don't like other dogs like that so if you think you about to zoom in on the live cam and see me running around with Pepito you're dumber than I thought I will continue to follow the other humans around like I do at home. I know you wanted a dog and you named me after a character you played in your favorite musical. But, bitch, I'm sure you were gagged when the daycare said I was the fifth dog named Effie. Not feeling special now, are you? Jesus. I am grateful you changed my name from tidbit to Effie because that white lady really thought she ate when she gave me that ugly ass name. But I am very much African-American. So continue to put coconut oil and deodorizer on so I don't smell like what I look like. and please stop singing if i don't want to hear your loud ass singing or you dusting off your raggedy ass ukulele skills the neighbors don't want to hear that shit either i will gladly leave the room all in all you need to get your shit together i know you work three jobs and take care of your aunt in the home you try to be a good aunt to your three nieces and you're in three different bands i get it you stay busy even though you put me in my kennel and turn on doggy tv on YouTube until your fiance comes home to take me out on his lunch breaks. I'm always excited to see you. I will always be ready to cuddle you. So get my teeth cleaned. Let me have your lap and give me more walks. You keep saying I'm perfect. Now you need to keep me happy, bitch. Thanks, Effie. Effie, no notes. I feel like you made tremendous points throughout. I was a little bit triggered when you brought up the candy dish but don't nobody come over I feel like you have drag me in it but other than that this was pretty sound shout out to Effie and her mom Sean who's clearly not doing what she's supposed to be doing get up on your job bitch that was one of the funniest things I've ever heard as Lainey is clawing at the back of my chair like why are you at home if we not playing like she don't understand why I'm here but ignoring the fuck out of her life If I sit anywhere, this bitch demands to be on my lap. If she was here right now, she would claw that door or push it open. Figure it out. And then be like. This should be open because it's civil rights. Are you going to lift me up or do I have to jump up there? Yeah. I'm getting in that lap. I just bought Lainey some stairs So she can get herself where she needs to She can climb in and out of the bed Like I'm not You not finna bark at me to come lift you up Every time you try to get somewhere But it's crazy how these 8 pound Dogs be running your whole life Like I wish you would say something about it Oh yeah and how dare I So thank you F.E. for sending that in If you have a read you'd like to Pass you can email that to This one was sent to Ask the Read, but you can send that to passtheread at gmail.com if you'd also like to pass your read. But that is going to wrap up this week's episode of the show. Check us out on social media at This Is the Read. Our website is thisistheread.com. I want to thank comedian Mel Mitchell for being on this week's episode of Crystal's Couch. We had a wang dang doodle when I tell you. Crystalscouch.com for all the links and to join us on Patreon. Any other news from you this week, Kifiri? You can find me at patreon.com slash Kid Fury Get into our new monthly playlist digs as well as some upcoming fun surprises Look out for the GoFundMe link Oh yes For Keith Porter Jr. There's two different GoFundMes There's two separate ones I'll put the link in for both Okay the one I saw was for his kids specifically is by his mother, Franciola Armstrong. The one that was for their future? The title is Support for Keith Porter Jr. Daughter's Future, yeah. Yeah, I'll put that one. So, just America, man, please. Please. That's it. Love on each other. Pet a dog. Roll your eyes back at a dog. We'll talk to you next week. All right, y'all. Bye.