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That's Greg Kokol, and he joins us again today on Focus on the Family with Jim Bailey, and we're so glad you're here. I'm John Foller. You know, John, sometimes we could say it's tough being a Christian. I don't want to say that because to me it's a joy, even in confrontation and in conflict. I mean, we should have that joyful attitude, I think, and that's exactly what the Lord and the writers of the New Testament, I think, talked about quite often. And so today we want to spend some time with a great guest, Greg Kokol, who's an apologist, which means giving an answer for why we believe in Jesus, and doing that with people that don't believe in Jesus. We covered some of that material yesterday, and if you missed it, get the smartphone app, or get the download at the website, whatever you need to do. Yeah. Because it was a really good conversation that sets up today's conversation as well, and I'm looking forward to it. And the bottom line is how to deepen your ability to talk to non-believers about the Lord. Yeah, in very natural ways. And Greg Kokol has founded and is president of Standarys and Ministries. He's been doing that a long, long time. He's got a radio show and a podcast, and he's a popular speaker. He's a terrific author, and his latest book is called Street Smarts, using questions to answer Christianity's toughest challenges. And that'll be kind of the foundational tool for us in this conversation. Greg, welcome back. Hey, how you doing? I'm doing great. I'm excited to get into day two with you because the content was so good. Last time we left off with the idea that the enemy of our soul, Satan, is a liar and a deceiver. And Jesus himself said he is the father of lies, and you hit that really well last time. Let's jump off of that and talk about the concept of relativism and why it's so dangerous. And this is kind of a common thing. Well, that's cool for you. It's your truth is your truth. And that's maybe define relativism and then move into why it's dangerous. This is an ethic that not only rules the age right now, but it goes all the way back to the garden. I call it the primal heresy. But it is a difficult one for some people to understand. So relativism is a take on what it means for something to be true. So when we say that it's true that Jesus died for your sins or that God exists or whatever, how are people hearing that? Relativism is the idea that truth is determined by what you believe. And therefore, if a person believes something, it's true for them. And if somebody else believes something else, it's just as true for them. And this is why you get pushback from a lot of people because they are thinking relativistically or subjectively about truth claims, especially when they come to religion and to moral claims too. So one might be, and we all get this one, you know, I'm sure all faiths lead to God. That's a fairly common one. And that all faiths are true and real. What would you say to that person? Well, you know, it's interesting because those are two different kinds of statements. Let me make a contrast. When people say, this is what I believe, and therefore it's true for me, that's relativism. Objectivism is when it's not the individual's perspective that makes it true, but it's the way the world is that makes it true. So is it true that we're doing this broadcast? Well, if we're doing this broadcast, it is true, whether I believe it or not. My belief doesn't change that. And so you have objective truth, the way the world really is connected to the world out there, as it were. And you have subjective truth that is connected to my personal beliefs. So let's just take the claim that all faiths, all religions lead to God. Okay, that's based on a subjectivistic, relativistic impulse that everybody has their own view. All right? But when you think about it, it can't be true that all religions are equally true. Look, either Jesus is the Messiah or he's not the Messiah. One or the other. If he's not the Messiah, well, the Christians are wrong and the Jews are right. If he is the Messiah, then the Christians are right and the Jews are wrong, but they can't both be right. If God exists and it might be an open question, he's either a personal God or not. If he's impersonal, well, then the Hindus are right and the Jews and the Muslims and the Christians are wrong. But if he's personal, then the Jews and the Christians and the Muslims are right and the Hindus are wrong. They can't both be right, is the point. When you die, oh, maybe you go to heaven or hell, maybe you get reincarnated, maybe you lie in the grave, but you can't do them all at the same time. So now that little line of thinking there was just to show that a slogan people toss out all the time that they think is really profound is clearly false. Now, it doesn't mean that Christianity is true. Maybe my view is false and somebody else, but they can't all be true. It's not bigotry. It's just simple math. Yeah, this is power and truth. That's what we're talking about today. Many atheists say the existence of evil is the reason they don't believe in God. We've heard this so many times from people that if God were so good, why does evil exist? If God were a good God, why do babies die? I think the tragedy of that experience for those who have lost a child, you know the deep grief that you have, that's a question that's unanswerable in this life. We don't know why these things happen. Other than, it's not going according to the plan God had for us. Well, there's actually two issues going on here. The problem of evil is a very large problem and one of the issues is why would God do that? Now, this is somewhat speculative and we come up with theodicies which are speculations about why God would allow evil and there are a lot of good ones, but I actually use the problem of evil in a different way with atheists. I think the problem of evil itself is evidence for God. Yeah. Okay. In 1982, I worked in Thailand. I ran a feeding program for a refugee camp there. I was responsible for feeding 18,250 Cambodian refugees who had survived the Cambodian holocaust in 1975 to 79 with the Khmer Rouge and then there was a battle that was still going on with the Vietnamese. Nevertheless, the stories that I heard there about what happened under the Pol Pot, under the Khmer Rouge, were blood curdling. Even the things that children would say happen and pictures that they would draw. Okay. Now, I tell these stories sometimes when I talk about moral truth and I ask the question and this is a question that I can ask the atheist and that is what do you make of these things that happen in Auschwitz, for example, or Pol Pot or any of, a lot of times the atheists have already given you examples. How could God allow this? And my question then to him and this is where the questioning technique is so important. What do you make of that? How would you characterize that? What words would you use to describe that? Well, that's evil. This is wickedness. How could God allow it? Okay. Now, I have another question and now this comes back to our conversation about subjectivism, objectivism, relativism, absolute truth kind of thing. I want to know what he means when he says they're evil. Now, I know what he means. He means what everybody means by this because they're not trying to protect turf philosophically. They're just trying to describe what's obvious. I said, are you describing merely your feelings and your personal beliefs? It's evil to you kind of thing. Or are you thinking that is evil in itself? Even if people don't think it's evil, it's still evil. They're mistaken. What is it? Now, this is a very important question because it is making the distinction between subjective moral truth and objective moral truth and this response the atheist and anyone has is naturally that this is objectively evil. Now, sometimes the atheist is going to fudge at this point when he realizes that his own view is being challenged. Okay. But let me just play this out because this is powerful. Everybody knows no matter where they lived or when they lived, that something is wrong with the world. That's the problem of evil. Okay. And the world is broken. The world out there is broken. Okay. So when they identify evil in the world, I want to know when you say this is evil, what is wrong with it? And I mean, there are lots of ways to ask this question, but what I'm trying to get at to say something is good or bad, you have to have a scoring system. They shouldn't have done this. This isn't the way the world is supposed to be. Okay. I agree. It's not the way the world is supposed to be. But that means if it's not the way the world is supposed to be, then there is a way the world is supposed to be. And you can't have a way the world is supposed to be without a sposer. Okay. Right. Okay. Let me put it. Who's setting the rule? There's got to be a lawmaker. Here's another way of putting it. I asked people, can you break the speed limit on the Autobahn in Germany? No. Why not? Because there is no speed limit. Right. If there are no objective moral rules, you can't break them. No laws, no breaking. But there is broken laws in the universe. That's the problem of evil. So we must have objective laws. That's the argument against relativism. Everybody really knows deep down inside. There are common sense moral realists. They know there's right and wrong, even when they deny it. Okay. Now I have the other question then. Where did those laws come from? Okay. When there are speed limits, it's because there's a government that passes the law. What about the speed limits in the universe that are broken when you complain about the problem of evil? Where do they come from? Now this is called the moral argument for the existence of God. So it's been around for a long time. But I try to put it in the book step by step in ways that people can understand it and offer some questions that will help them in a conversation with others. Notice that I try to role play that using the kinds of questions that would require a response from someone else. What I want people to see is everybody believes that morality is objective, which is why they complain about the problem of evil. But if morality is objective, there must be a moral lawmaker behind it. Without God, there can be no problem of evil. There is a problem of evil, therefore there is a God. Now that leaves on the answer, this other question, why would God do that? And I think there are lots of ways to probe that out. But the simple fact is the problem of evil turns out to be one of the best arguments for the existence of God and not against the existence of God. That's good. That's what I want the atheist to see. Yeah. Greg, Focus has existed for 45 years and we've always been a pro-life organization. And we will always, in my mind, continue to be a pro-life organization very staunchly. We've got lots of great programs like Option Ultra Sound and other things that we're doing to help a woman make the right choice, the better choice for life. And I'm really proud of what we've been able to accomplish over the last 45 years. But in the culture, this is getting more and more dangerous. Not long ago, I think Congress met. And some in the Congress, from a particular party, were wearing badges that said, heart, abortion, love, abortion. That is very different from 20 years ago when it was kind of begrudgingly accepted under Roe v. Wade that, you know, it's a necessary evil, you might say. It's a tragic decision that women have to make. It should be rare. Right, right. Safe and rare. Safe and rare. And now, those same politicians are high-fiving each other about the taking of life. There's no soft heart toward that deed. It's all heart-hearted. That's right. It's such an obvious spiritual dimension that darkness is so incredible. When you think about what happened in 9-11, 2000, 977, people lost their lives in American soil and terrorist attack. That's actually less than the average number of children that are murdered every single day through abortion for the last 50 years. 3500 average per day. That's 2100, 316 consecutive days of death. 9-11s, you know, if you think of it in those terms. This is a blight on our entire history. So this is really critical that Christians be able to address this. And the sides are really galvanized now because of the Supreme Court decision about Roe v. Wade. And so what I want to do is spend a few minutes like you did in the book talking about this specific issue because it comes up all the time. And let's get into that. I thought some of these responses, these questions that you've posed are literally brilliant. I'll play the antagonist and you deliver the response. Abortion is a private choice between a woman and her doctor. Greg, you can't get involved in that. Does a woman have the right to take the life of her two-year-old in privacy with her doctor's consent? Absolutely not. No, okay. So the issue isn't a woman's choice of the doctor's consent. The issue is the question, what is the unborn? What's its definition? If the unborn is a human being like your two-year-old, then choice isn't going to help you here. Let's go to another one. Many poor women, Greg, can't afford to raise another child. They just simply don't have the money. Okay, so if we have children, two-year-old, that we can't support because of our income, is it okay to take the life of those kids? Absolutely not. No, of course not. So the real question here isn't whether a person's poor or not. The real question is whether that two-year-old and the unborn are actually the same. The question is, what is the unborn? I'm going to keep going because these are that good. A woman shouldn't be forced to bring an unwanted child into the world. Greg, where's your compassion? Well, a lot of people are unwanted. A lot of homeless people are unwanted. So can we take their lives too? Powerful. Yeah. Unwanted is the issue. The issue is the question, what is the unborn? And here's the classic. Who are you to force your morality on these women who are struggling? Well, the question is, what are they struggling with? Well, they have an unintended pregnancy. Okay. If that child was two years old, would I be able to torture that child? No. Well, who are you to force your morality on me regarding that other child? Okay. There are a lot of different ways to put this, but the question here always comes back to this one question, what is the unborn? So usually I set that up first by asking a question of the pro-abortion person. And I say, if you are working at your table or the sink or your computer, whatever, your child comes up behind you and says to you, Mommy, Daddy, can I kill this? Okay, they're behind you. You can't see what they're doing, what they're referring to. What is the first question you must have answered before you can answer? What is this? What is this? Of course, what is it? If it's a cockroach, kill it. If it's a spider, if it's your puppy, wait a minute. If it's your brother, hold on, we gotta have a talk. Okay. Now what this does is establishes a principle that we can't know whether it's right or wrong to kill something. Unless we know what that something is. Abortion takes the life of something. People say, well, nobody knows when life begins. I ask a question. Is it growing? Yeah, that's the problem. Well, then it's alive. We know it's alive. You want to kill it, whatever it is. Whether it's right or not to kill that thing that's growing inside a mother's womb depends on what it is. That's the key here. And so the key question is what is the unborn? Okay. And that is the key question to the rest of the debate because if the unborn is not a valuable human being, get the abortion. You don't need to talk about choice or preference or finances or inconvenience or anything. Just get the abortion. No justification for abortion is necessary. But if the unborn is a valuable human being, no justification for abortion is adequate because we don't take the lives of innocent human beings for the reasons people give for abortions. And that was that set of questions that we went through together a little bit here. If the unborn is a human being, you know, choice isn't a matter. Your doctor's consent doesn't matter. Your privacy is not relevant to this question. We're talking about a living human. Can't afford? Well, you don't get rid of human beings. We think we can't afford. There are alternatives. Okay. None of these justifications are adequate. So my approach and all the subsequent questions as we deal with some of these issues and the abortion question in the book all have to do with this central feature. And that is what is the unborn. And the questions that are meant to follow. Well, this is just my body. Oh, really? Does the unborn have your DNA? No. Well, then it's not your body. Strictly speaking, it's in your body. It's not your body. What would your body be producing in there in a uterus? Right? Your body would be producing your child. So we're talking about an innocent, defenseless human being. Is it okay to kill an innocent, defenseless human being for the reasons you're giving right now? That's the issue. And a lot of this rhetoric has been meant to cover what's really going on. People say, I should have write to an abortion. I said, what's an abortion? You know, when I terminate the pregnancy. Well, how do you terminate a pregnancy? Well, you kill something. How do you kill it? And what is it you're killing? What I'm trying to do is take the wraps off quietly, gently with appropriate questions so people can see what their advocating is taking the life of an innocent child. Yeah, Greg, I want to be sensitive, obviously, and women that have had abortion, we need to be mindful that there is grace in Christ. That's what the whole thing is. And you know, we're not trying to condemn that decision that may have occurred years ago, months ago, days ago. I don't know who's listening. Every sin is forgivable in Christ. Correct. And so that's part of it. But also we want to be in the discussion, in the debate, asking the questions because, you know, again, I would think many people never thought Roe v. Wade would be overturned with the Dobs decision, yet it has been. So it puts the debate squarely back up on the table in all 50 states. And it is a moment in time where people should be better informed about what does abortion actually do. I applaud those efforts. And I don't think really objectively anybody can argue with any veracity that it's not a baby. Yeah, this argument is totally on our side and should be, given the facts, but there's so much rhetoric that's going on. Even when people ask about what about rape and incest, what the question they're asking right now is they were trying to find out whether the pro-lifer has a heart, you know. And the answer is first, you know, express the heart. Is that a circumstance that happened to you? And for us to express, you know, a genuine grief about when that terrible event happens in a woman's life. But do we complicate the crime of rape with the crime of murder? Why should the child be held responsible for that? So there are ways to maneuver in all of these circumstances, but the core issue is so critical. And the facts of the matter are pretty straightforward. The key is maneuvering with the questions well. I spent a lot of time in the book giving dialogues to help people understand the moral logic of the pro-life view, the kinds of questions to make all of these things clear. Yeah. Yeah. Let's, with the last few minutes here, let's talk again about gender. We've talked a bit about that, but that thing is right in everybody's face today. It's in public schools. I read the other day about a student who was whisked away silently by the school administration and without the parents knowing anything about it and was given hormone treatment, encouraged to get operations that will change their body image to fit their other gender identity. When you look at that, we're back to this bizarre, objective, subjective truth thing. Yeah, that's right. We speak to that issue and I think hit the churches that are weakening on this because they feel the pressure socially and they want, okay, they want the doors open. They want everybody to come in. I love what our good friend, John Burke says down in Austin, Texas at his church. He says, come as you are, but you can't stay that way. That's right. That's right. This is arguably right now the most heated thing on the table in our culture. It is so heated that it's hard to imagine how one could make much progress in this issue at the moment. Everybody's entrenched. Yeah, and so I think there's going to be progress in the future when the legal, when the lawyer started getting involved and that's what happened in Great Britain and that put all this to a halt. But on an individual basis, it's very difficult for Christians. I think the biggest thing I'm concerned is with the compromise. Now, when Jesus was asked about divorce and remarriage, Matthew 19, here's how he started. Have you not heard or have you not read that from the beginning God made them male and female? Why did he start with gender? Because God has set up a system in the beginning, Genesis 1 and Genesis 2 for human flourishing. The system God made was good. He made male and female be fruitful and multiply. General chapter 1, chapter 2, a man will leave his mother and father, gender's binary in God's view, and cleave to his wife, the two become one flesh, and then Jesus says what God has joined together to let no man separate. Okay, that's the other half. So we have binary gender that makes it possible to be fruitful and multiply and then God sets up in the second chapter marriage in a very particular way. It's interesting Jesus comments cover everything there. Jesus never said anything about homosexuality. Jesus never said anything about marriage. Jesus never said anything about gender. It's all right there. Notice that every single thing that the Bible prohibits with regards to sexuality, homosexuality, heterosexual, fornication, adultery, and bestiality are all prohibited by Jesus' statement there, which can be summed up very easily. God's plan is one man with one woman becoming one flesh for one lifetime. And so Greg, you mentioned that the heart a moment ago. Where is the heart when it comes to the abortion issue or to this LGBTQ issue? I mean, the one thing that is so true is that our hearts break for people that are gender confused. I would not want to be in that place. I'm thankful that God allowed me to live the life that I've lived. But it doesn't mean someone should linger there and stay there. We've got to do what we can as a culture to help people get on the better track, the healthier track, because the track record, if you stay there, is not happy. Twenty times the suicide rate for transgendered, even after the surgery. And this is true even in Sweden where they're much worse saying what about this than in the United States. So something is wrong. There's a brokenness there. And genuine gender dysphoria is a terrible circumstance. And we ought to be super compassionate. But the fact that we don't want to go along with the trend now is because we're compassionate and we know this is brokenness, this isn't health. Greg, right at the end here, man, we have talked these last two days about a lot of great stuff. What's your final word to that person that's going, OK, I hear you guys, but man, I get beat up every time I mention this to my family member, my friend, my professor at school. Sure. I mean, what do you want to say to encourage them? If you go physically out in the street and you're beat up all the time, well, then you better get smart. All right, you better get street smart. You better figure out how to navigate in the street physically and which places to go or defend yourself, whatever. Same thing is true in spiritual arena. We have a tough street out there right now. It's uncomfortable for Christians. They're sitting on the bench because they don't know how to engage. They got to get street smart. And that entails getting a perspective, understanding what's going on spiritually and in terms of the issues, learning some of the questions they can ask to engage, and then begin to engage in gracious, loving ways, and they will be astounded on the impact they'll have. You know, I don't know how many times I can end, John, but I had lunch with a secular man who's doing great work in education. He's come from the left, is now on the right, David Horowitz. And we were having lunch. And it was just so funny because he said, Jim, don't you know you're in an alley fight with these people? And they have switch blades. I said, David, no, we get that. We're not stupid. But, you know, our call, our weapons, our love, joy, peace, goodness, gladness, mercy, long suffering, the fruit of the spirit. And he went, wow, those are bad weapons, which I think Jesus got some of that. We have a switch blade. We have a sword, sort of the spirit. The spirit sort of the truth. And that's the way to look at it. But man, it is hard to stay in the character of Christ, but we need to or we've already lost. Yes, absolutely. Thank you, Greg, for being with us. It's been good. And I hope, man, I hope this has motivated you to say, okay, this is a resource that's worth picking up. And I believe in it. And if you can make a monthly gift, that's great. It evens out the budget here at Focus and helps us. Or a one-time gift. We'll send you a copy of Greg's book as our way of saying thank you. Also, I believe in the content so much. If you can't afford it, I'm going to trust others. We'll be able to cover the cost of that. And we'll get it in your hands. Just call us because we believe in this content. And Focus is here to equip you, especially in this area of evangelism and discipleship. So get in touch with us. I think I've taken all the excuses away. All you got to do is call or go to the website. Yeah, yeah. Donate as you can. 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