This is Becoming Undone. Surprisingly, I started off as an electrical engineer major, University of Florida, but as many college freshmen foolishly do, the first year and a half of school was probably the greatest weekend of my life. So I ended up back home and thought I wanted to get into business and really did not get along with the accounting classes that I was taking. So I ended up transferring over to University of Tampa and me was the same on grade point average was not very well received. The registrar there said, you're an Indian Community College and you go to junior college, maybe you can get your grades up. But to be honest with you, Ms. Lopez, we don't think you'll ever make it out of college. Your GPA is just rock bottom. That really got me upset because I had reached through high school without ever studying. 4.0 graduating, graduated top of my class in high school, got admitted to University of Florida. I could do it. I just have been fooling around too much. Got my grades up, admitted to University of Tampa, graduated, thought I had the best job in the world. I crashed and burned twice big time, but thank God I had a wife who was strong enough to hold me up. It kind of kicked me in the backside too and kept me going again. This is John Lopez and I am Undone. Hey friend, I'm glad you're here. Welcome to yet another episode of Becoming Undone, the podcast for those who dare bravely, risk mightily, and grow relentlessly. I'm Dr. Toby Brooks, speaker, author, professor, coach, and performance and learning scientist. I spent much of the last two decades working as an athletic trainer and strength coach in the professional collegiate and high school sports settings. Over the years I've grown more and more fascinated with what sets high achievers apart and how failures that can stink in the moment can end up being exactly the push we needed to push us forward on our path to success. Each week on Becoming Undone I invite new guests to examine how high achievers can transform from falling apart to falling into place. A quick reminder here that this podcast is entirely separate from my role at Baylor University. It's my personal platform to explore what I've learned and what I'm learning about the inner workings of identity, resilience, and reinvention and how in the midst of setback and failure you can navigate your own purpose storms. This week it's been back to school and back to the grind. I managed to get a manuscript published, another one in review, and my two grad school classes are in full swing, which reminds me I've still got some homework to do. Instead, it's 11.30 on a Saturday night and I'm cranking out another episode of Becoming Undone. So thanks for joining me in my procrastination. It was another big news week for the show. For the first time ever we managed to break into Apple's all category top 200, debuting at number 184. The Enneagram 8 in me is shaking my head a little bit at being at the bottom of this list, but the reality is I couldn't be more thankful. In a world where there are 4.61 million podcasts in county, coming in at number 184 puts us in the top 0.004%. But another way, we are ahead of 99.996% of all podcasts out there in this great big world. And we're holding steady at around number 4 to number 10, depending on the day and self-improvement and education. It's been a heck of a ride. So from the bottom of my heart, thanks for joining me on this journey. And you know what? We aren't done yet. Today's guest is a man who spent decades in the shadows of stadium lights, patching together futures, sometimes even his own sense of purpose. John Lopez didn't plan on athletic training. Matter of fact, he was told he'd never make it out of college. But like so many of the best comeback stories, his began at rock bottom. But with grit, mentorship, and willingness to say yes to whatever opportunity came next, he found himself at the pinnacle of the profession. From 250 bucks a year to the NFL sidelines, from being told he'd failed to becoming a mentor to hundreds, John's story is a raw reminder of what's lost and what can be found in the trenches of a profession that sometimes is still struggling to find its value. If you've ever questioned your path, your profession, or your purpose, this one's for you. I hope you'll enjoy my conversation with the N.A.T.A. Hall of Famer John Lopez in episode 134. Legendary. Greetings and welcome back to Becoming Undone, where we explore the defining moments when life unravels and what it takes to rebuild. I'm your host, Toby Brooks, and today I'm honored to sit down with someone who's spent decades in the trenches of athletic training, retired A.T. and mentor to many John Lopez. John, thanks so much for joining me tonight. Thanks, Toby. It's nice to be with you too. So we've connected via LinkedIn primarily, where I've gotten increasingly maybe, I don't know how to say it, angry. I've just really been fighting for my students more than anything. A lot of my former students are now in the college setting and they're struggling. They're hurting. And so oftentimes I kind of view them as people who can't fight for themselves for fear of their own jobs or their own promotion. And so I've just tried to bring some awareness to this and you've chimed in and I really appreciate that. And before we get into that, I want to start at the beginning for you. Take me back to the beginning and tell us a little bit about your story. Well, surprisingly, I started off as an electrical engineer major, University of Florida, but as many college freshmen, who was Lee do the first year and a half of school was probably the greatest weekend of my life. So I ended up back home and thought I wanted to get into business and really did not get along with the accounting classes that I was taking. So I ended up transferring over to a university of Tampa and me was the same on grade point average was not very well received. The registrar there said, you're an Indian Community College and you go to junior college. Maybe you can get your grades up. But to be honest with you, Miss Lopez, we don't think you'll ever make it out of college. Your GPA is just rock bottom. It really got me upset because I had reached through high school without ever studying. I had a 4.0 graduating graduate top of my class in high school. I admitted University of Florida without having to take an entrance exam. I knew I could do it. I just have been fooling around too much. So while I got busy, went to the Jico route, went to classes at night and my old high school football coach was talking to me one day and he said, what are you doing now? I said, well, I'm trying to get out of the university of Tampa. And he goes, what do you want to do? And I said, well, I really want to do as coach, like teach, visit and coach. And he says, well, if you ever want to come over here and help out with us, we can we can use a part time coach. So I can't pay you as a regular faculty member slash coach, but I can put you on a part time basis. So that was my entree into the field of coaching. Government grades admitted to the university of Tampa and graduated. Thought I had the best job in the world. I remember I got home and told mom, I said, I got the best job in the world. I'm coaching the JV office of line. I'm the assistant track and field coach through the discus floors and the shop voters and I'm helping with the equipment manager, the role and I'm the athletic trainer too. And she said, well, son, how much are you getting paid? And I said, well, it's $250 for the year, man. She says, well, you need to start doing your own laundry now because I've needed that or you could have to start paying me rent. Yeah. So, yeah, those those were strange days. And I fell into athletic training just because my high school coach, a guy by the name of Tony Jena, who actually was at the university of South Florida for many years, who was their first athletic trainer, got me interested in being an athletic trainer. I had been hurt quite a few times in high school. I was always fascinated by the things that he was doing. He had a whirlpool with the dance club had made for him. He showed him how to do it, how to make it. They fabricated that, you know, he talked to me about ultrasound, about taping, about stretching, about rehab. We were talking about a lot of stuff back in the early sixties that I came to use later on. So he was a big influence on me and a great mentor to me over the over the years. Yeah. I got the university of Tampa. They had not hired a full-time athletic trainer in those days. So I kind of fell into it. And the athletic director there was a Joe and by the name of Sam Bailey, and he coached football and was the athletic director and line of fields did everything. And he said, I need somebody who knows what they're doing. I said, well, coach, I think I can help you. Um, I got a good recommendation from my old high school coach at the high school and he brought me on. He didn't know whether I could take an ankle or not. But that was my entree into it. We're still born in school at the same time, working at night, still working in the afternoon. So I got a really heavy dose of what it's like to put in those 18 or 20 hour days and do them seven days a week. You know, listening to John talk about that registrar telling him he'd never make it. Yeah, that hits home. Every single high achiever I've ever known has faced that moment in their own way. That one person, that one setback, that one gatekeeper who tries to define the rest of your story based on your lowest chapter. Here's what I've learned. The people who make it out of that kind of moment, they're the ones who get stubborn about their potential. They don't take someone else's opinion as final. They decide sometimes right then and there, sometimes later on, that rock bottom is just the start of the rebuild. That's exactly what John did. So if you find yourself in that space right now, wondering if you're ever going to get out of it, take John's story as proof. Your comeback starts when you choose to keep going. But John was far from finished. He was just getting started. Well, it was a different era for sure to hear that an athletic director is lining the field and I mean, that, that shed some light on just the get it done mentality. There wasn't a massive budget in that time and TV money wasn't part of it. You spent your career in the trenches of athletic training. When you look back now, we'll kind of start at the top and work our way in. When you look back, what do you think we got right and what do you maybe wish that we'd done differently as a profession? Well, you know, I talk about this a lot today and I guess people here in South Carolina where I live can say, well, you know, John left as he's the grouchy old athletic banner who sits around and complains about a lot of things. But I think what we're missing today and what really helped me in off what was as the young guy was that the mentorship was so important. I can go through the list of mentors and what they meant to me and what they taught me. And I think we have lost a lot of that mentorship. We are certainly much better off today academically than we were before. You know, when I was finishing up, there were only three education programs in the country. Yeah, Purdue had one Indiana State had one run one, one, and so on. And, um, and there was nothing in Florida. There's nothing in the Southeast. Uh, so to, to get to the point where you could stand for the certification exam, which hadn't come into existence yet, you needed to have a breadth of knowledge. Well, I never had those classes. I was, I was a phys ed major, you know, most I ever was an anatomy and physiology, kinesiology. Uh, and so a lot of the things that I had to prepare for the B of C. I got that from my old mentors that had been through that who have been doing it for 15, 20, 30 years already and didn't have the book education, but they had the education and the trenches and the trainer. Right. And so they were able to give me that in plus. Hey, go buy this book. Go, go pick up this. I remember buying a book on modalities. You know, I never had a modalities class. I bought the book. I sat down, I read it, read the entire book. That's how I learned how to use modalities. I think we're missing that today. Uh, but from an education perspective, our kids are far, far better educated than I was for any of the people that were bred to us. But the experiences that we had along the way, I think taught us an awful lot how to navigate this crazy profession. I'm not saying that what we did was right. I think, you know, a lot of mistakes won't lie. One of the biggest mistakes that I think we made was NASA, our flight trainer association didn't recognize what was happening from an education perspective that we were turning out a lot of students out of graduate programs. And they weren't finding jobs in high schools because you remember your N. A. T. A. history or your athletic training history, you know, it was our dream to have a high school athletic trainer in every high school across the country. Yeah. And here we are today, almost 55 years later, saying our dream is to have an athletic trainer in every high school. We just haven't been able to accomplish it. And one of the reasons is that many of those high schools are hesitant to pay a decent salary and the athletic trainers over the years and said, Hey, I can go someplace else and make more money. So we began to see that in the mid early eighties. We began to see a movement into the clinical settings. That created a huge hornet's nest within the N. A. T. A. And in the profession as well. But I think what we're seeing today as a continuation of students that are graduating saying, I'm not going to take that job at $30,000 a year and work 80 hours a week. Yeah. I'll go to work for Boeing aircraft. I'll go to work for Amazon. I'll go to work for the local police department. So they've got better quality of life and a lot more money. And so the profession has shifted. I don't know that N. A. T. A. is in educators to a certain extent have been nimble enough to move along so that we can be a little bit better positioned so that we have better lifestyles, better salary. And as a whole, that we're advancing the profession and the association. Now linking the two together, some people say, well, that's an injustice and you shouldn't do it. It's a separate profession and the N. A. T. A. is just an organization. But that organization, if you look at it, was the genesis of what we are as athletic traders today. When those early pioneers met in 1950, they set the stage for what we have today. Yeah. And it makes us old, honestly, to talk about the quote unquote traditional setting. People talk about emerging settings and, you know, whether it's physician practices or clinics or whatever, those are great opportunities. But I think we've lost touch with our true roots. I mean, that initial meeting of the N. A. T. A. wasn't people working in industry. It wasn't people working in tactical. It was college folks that were doing the work of athletic trainers. That is the, the genesis of our profession. And if you look at how that setting has grown or not over the years, in many ways, those jobs are still, like you said, Jackson, Jill's of all trades, under compensated, overworked. And I don't see that changing anytime soon. I got into the profession because I wanted to work either college or professional sports. And as much as I loved that setting, it was unsurvivable for me. And, and there's only so much love you can have for a setting. If you can't be there for your family or you can't pay the bills on your mortgage, those kinds of things. There's a lot of talk today about burnout and athletic training. And coming from someone like you or me, people might think, oh, well, you know, like you said, the grouchy old men was burnout. Whatever something you experienced. And if so, how did you deal with it or not? Well, yeah, I crashed and burned twice big time. Uh, and, uh, I won't get into all the details of what happened, but thank God. I had a wife who was strong enough to hold me up and, uh, kind of kicked me in the backside too. And if you go on again, but yeah, it's a real thing. And it can happen for a lot of different reasons. If you have a good support system, if you have a good spouse, a good family, and they understand, you know, what you're doing is important to you. But at the same time, make a decision to help you get yourself back on track, whether it's to get back into the trenches again, or whether it's to get out and go someplace else. Right. Um, yeah, it's, it's true. And I think the biggest thing that I tried to do over the years, and again, I have to go back to my old mentors was to give young athletic trainer, especially interns that came through that period of time when I was working to give those interns, uh, good sound advice on what jobs to take and which ones not to take. And they're not, not trying to demean anybody that's in the profession, but there were some people that I knew very, very well that I would say, Toby, don't ever go to work for them because they're going to crush you. They'll tell you, and you'll be there 20 years from now, still making $12,000 a year. Don't do that. As a matter of fact, you were an intern with where my old interns, a long time ago, Rod Martin with the Raider. Small world right here. I knew John as a legendary figure in the professional athletic training. His time as an assistant with the expansion Tampa Bay Bucks and as the head AT with the Baltimore Colts, we're just some of the more visible stops. And an illustrious career that span five decades and culminated with him being enshrined in the N.A.T.A Hall of Fame in 2012. To hear him talk about how burnout had nearly taken him out, if not for the love and support of his wife, Jane is in word empowering. The profession of AT, particularly at the collegiate and pro levels can be grueling. 80 plus hours a week, seven day weeks for months at a time. First to arrive, last to leave. That's what John did. Sometimes for decades, but he's human too. He wasn't immune from the impact. And then to hear that one of my former mentors, legendary, long time, Los Angeles and Oakland Raiders head AT, Rod Martin was an intern of his. That's pretty thinking cool. These little moments, what Lubbock Christian high school head football coach Chris Softley referred to in last episode as a Godwink. Reminded me of just how interconnected we all are to know that I was blessed enough to learn from a legend who himself had learned from a Hall of Famer. It's just a very special moment for me. Can you look at that model? I mean, the NFL, that staff, Scott Tushae has been there. I was an intern under H, we'll call them H, but Rod and Scott, you know, in an era where teams move towns and GMs fire everybody, the Raiders have consistently kept their folks and that's a cultural change that you just don't see anywhere else. And so I learned a lot from those guys about how to create relationships so that that could actually happen. You don't see that very often at that level. Well, Ron was my intern in 1977, Tampa Bay Buccaneers. And then he went on to grad school and we kept in touch. He would call me periodically. He was working for a real fast master at university Kentucky. And by the name of Roy Don Wilson and Roy Don is legendary. I mean, work, work, work, but, but really will take good care of his, his staff and his students. And then George Anderson, who was the long time head of our chair for the Raiders and I had become friends usually because we would go play the Raiders and they'd kick our rear ends real good. But, um, I was at the N.A.T.A. meeting in Philadelphia and George walks in to the NFL had a group at that time called NFL Applied Trainers and flats. Uh, it was a precursor to PFATs. And he said, well, Al finally lent me hire an outplay trainer. So if any of you guys know somebody that's good, I need somebody who's not afraid to work and it really says, uh, I'm going downstairs to have a drink and you can walk out of the room. So I immediately jumped up, picked up a pay phone out of the hallway called Rod. I said, what are you doing right now? I used to sit up, not doing anything. I'm sitting in college part and he's working at the university of Maryland, Wood, Cover and basketball. And I said, I'm going to give you a phone number. You need to try to call them as soon as possible, but he's in Philadelphia right now. So I'll give you the room number in a few minutes after I talk to him. So fortunately he was able to get hired with him and work with George. George, really good, very good mentor to him. Yeah. Again, I think, you know, it's, it's giving somebody the recommendation of where to you point yourself. What direction are you going to go with? If it be the high school, are you going to point them in the direction where a high school is going to sit there and work with them as an outplay trainer? Are they going to have them lining the fields and doing all this other stuff and really not listening to them and not paying attention to them? Having a coach over rule them all the time. So, and then you end up losing a young, bright outplayed trader because they didn't get the support system that they had. We'll be back after this quick message. Hey friend, let me take a quick second to tell you about something that's been making a real difference for me lately. Bubbs naturals. I've been dealing with this stubborn knee injury that I just couldn't get better. 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There, I mean, the, the number of graduates and the number of accredited programs is problematic. It's a supply and demand issue and the supply in many ways continues to outpace the demand for jobs that pay what they pay and require what they require. And so I've long said that there are far too many accredited programs and many of them hanging on by their fingernails in this era of higher education, you know, three or four graduates in a program, I was part of one. I was the last full time program director at SIU Carbondale before ultimately that program was shuttered because it was a low enrollment program. You look at that coupled with the fact that we really need in many ways to kind of follow what coaches have done. I just saw this week that a coach from Oklahoma State was the first strength coach to get a million dollar contract. Right. We don't see that in athletic training. We haven't been able to differentiate ourselves as, you know, if I hire John Lopez to be the athletic trainer for my team, my, my team is going to perform what are my, my organization is going to be better. It's just plug and play grind this person into the ground and we'll bring somebody else in that can do the same. And it just perpetuates this kind of abuse culture that I think we've all seen, uh, sadly in so many, you know, I think the question becomes is how did that strength coach in Oklahoma State get to a million dollars? Well, we've seen strength coaches align themselves with coaches. Whether it be football coaches, basketball coaches, unfortunately we, we've always had adversarial roles with coaches. So we, you know, coaches, you see me kind of going, Oh, don't give me any more bad news. I don't want to hear that. Oh, you hold it out the day. What's going on? Who'd moved out there? And you, what, what? Well, I think we've looked at it from a perspective of not working with the strength coaches and not working with the coaching style in a cohesive manner. So that we're there, provide the very best care and provide the very best product on a court on the field, wherever it may be. And a lot of the athletic trainers over the years, and I'm guilty of it too, have been hostile to coaches. And so the coaches, the ones who begin to make the money because they got the wins and losses. I'm the guy who's holding out and starting quarterback on Saturday. I'm not them. I'm not the guy they really like coach just won the game. That's the guy who's going to end up getting more money from the booster club. And a date with all the stuff going on with NIL and transfer portal and stuff like that, everything's just, just the XORI to pass that so quickly that we're still trying to figure out how we can find good jobs. Yeah. Less are we going to make enough money to improve over the top. Sure. And I've seen it both ways. When I took over at Liberty, they were just changing the payment model. The head football AT was actually paid out of the football budget before I got there and they pulled that out and put it into the general athletics fund with the intent being, you know, if you made the head coach mad on a given day, he couldn't fire you. And there's wisdom in that. I see that, but I also see how our, our brothers and sisters in strength and conditioning have aligned with that model. And in some practice settings, you see this more and more, whether it's the analytics folks, whether it is sports nutritionists or psychologists, this idea of an inclusive, interprofessional performance team. And it's not me versus the coach. It is what is in the best interest. I mean, these, these athletes are, are multimillion dollar investments. I'm not holding them out because I want you to lose. I'm holding it out to protect your investment, to help him be or her be as successful as they can be and back and effective on the field. And it's not always been viewed that way. And part of that is, I think the way coaches have viewed what we do. And, and, you know, we are the bad people who hold their athlete out as opposed to someone that's trying to help them get healthy as quickly as possible. Well, I think that we're guilty of falling into that trap of becoming an adversary rather than an ally. But I also can say that in many respects, when you work for the athletics part of the organization, you know, you're the one who basically is going to have to live by their rules. I remember many, many years ago at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Dan Hooker, who at that time was their head athletic trainer and was also a physical therapist, went, went to the administration and said, we, we can no longer work for the coaching staff. We need to be a part of student health services. So they moved the entire staff over to student health services. Now they were working for the team position was the director of student health services, an MD. And they had nurses and they had PAs and they had physical therapists and they had athletic trainers and they were all under one roof as in student health services. Now that's a great model. I have now, will they make a million dollars a year? I feel Belichick is going to be making probably not. Right. But they're also not going to get fired either. Greg and I have their jobs for 20 or 30 years and early into a great job provides great student health services via athletics. Is that the best model to operate under? I don't really know. I think in many respects it is because it purifies your services and you're not incumbent to head coach because if the head coach gets fired and the new coach comes in and goes, well, I don't like John Lopez and he was loyal and Toby and Toby's gone now. I'm going to get real Lopez because I'm going to bring my own guy in. Yeah. And that's kind of what's. So sadly we've, we've gotten the worst of both worlds because we haven't aligned with that model and that still happens today. A coach will come in and bring in their staff. So we don't get the salary benefit that the strength and conditioning coach might get. And we also maybe were protected a little bit from that. And in some model, I know the University of Kansas has pulled theirs out and put it in the hospital system, which is a unique model. Right. But it just really feels to me like no matter which direction we go, we've managed to shoot ourselves in the foot either way. Well, there's a lot of different models that are out there. When I, when I left the NFL in 1984, I went into a private orthopedic practice back in Maryland. At that time, it was six orthopedic surgeons and myself. We formed a partnership to create a sports medicine center, which they had not done before in that orthopedic group. There was one at the hospital, but it was a whole different model. So from the standpoint of creating a model where it allows you to get out from underneath athletics, get out from underneath that traditional high school or university system was a good thing for us back in 1984. Now today you see that all across the country where you've got large hospital solution. And we have focused so much on education and providing a vehicle for continuing education on an annual basis at a big expensive annual meeting. That we've made a big mistake along the way. We've got to change our model or else we're doomed. I think you're absolutely right. There's so much done pack there and maybe for another conversation, but I can certainly see where there are marketable opportunities that we've missed the boat on and in many ways kind of been swooped by other professions. You look at the proliferation of sports science. It's a whole new certification with the NSCA now. I thought the trainers could have done that. We could have been the experts in analytics and data collection and how that informs. So I'm not just the enemy coming to talk to the coach. I've got data that says that this athlete is trending toward an injury and overuse condition and we didn't do that. We allowed essentially a whole new profession to spring up under our noses. And now we're left wondering, you know, when those jobs are created, we kept hearing there's not money for raises in athletic training. Well, we also weren't doing anything to add value to the organization in my opinion. And what's the motivation for an athletics department to pay me more if I'm not offering them anything that's more advantageous? Whereas an analytics person can can offer them something totally new. Well, yeah, I think, you know, it's the level of care that that organization can provide or would like to provide. Certainly if you're at the professional level in the NFL or a major league baseball, then the analytics, the quote, sports science, they all come into play again. Now the question becomes is, you know, are you adept enough to be able to manage all those professions together? When I was still back in Towson, Maryland, we took care of a Canadian football league franchise for two years. They had a CFL team in the United States. So we took care of a team called the Baltimore Stallions. I was criticized because I brought in an athletic trainer friend of mine who was a massage therapist. And the reason for the other than that was that I wanted those services being provided in our athletic trainer. I didn't want them as a little sleazy massage parlor somewhere because our guys are going to end up getting in trouble down there. We bought a car practice. You know, Sean Watson, being surgeon almost struck down. Why, what do you know? I'm laying a car practice here. Well, the problem was they were going to go to see a car practice on their own. I want that car practice working with me. So I brought a physical therapist in the athletic training room. We were working together as a cohesive team and that's what I'm communicating. And the athlete is at the center of those conversations. Whereas if it's a distributed model, everybody's doing their own thing. And a lot of times we're combating with what each other's doing. Yeah. There needs to be a whole new approach to it. And, uh, you know, I don't want to sound like I'm bashing the N-A-T-A, but I really am. I think we've got to really start to wake up because we're not the leader. If the N-A-T-A is not the leader, then who's, who else is going to throw that role? Yeah. Right now, nobody's spilling it. Everybody's kind of off doing their own little thing. Yeah. We can talk about the profession for quite some time, but I really want to kind of drill down as we're kind of nearing our time here to how this impacts actual people. Newcomers who are entering the profession. Remember how excited you were to find out you were a certified athletic trainer? These students have incurred six plus years of education and the costs associated with that. They've sat for and they've passed that board certification exam. They get that first job and now they're being worked to death and they're not making much money. So thinking about reform and athletic training, work-life balance, even our identity, what's the cultural shift that you think is overdue and how can we help that younger generation of athletic trainer? Well, I think the first thing that we need to do as educators is to talk about the value of family, especially if you're going to be married. Your spouse has to be prepared to understand what you do as an athletic trainer. If it wasn't for my wife, I would not have made it. I made it for over 50 years, but thank God, Jane was the one who could constantly pull me back into reality and say, Hey, you know what? You've been doing this an awful lot today. She's always told me, Why don't you go to sleep with your cell phone under your pillow? Well, because somebody might call me at two o'clock in the morning and she would whack me in the head and say, go back to sleep. Thankfully, she wouldn't get up in the other room and go call me on myself. I did do it more. But I think we've got to take that, that first step, which is make the people that support us, that are part of our family, husbands, wives, children, mothers, fathers, in-laws, all aware, was involved in this crazy profession that we're in. And I know I hear you talk about your family, how important they are, how upsetting it is to you when you are not there to see that last baseball game or be able to go to graduation or to miss that music recital. And I can't be going to tell you how many times I miss those things with my daughter. I can, I think that's one of the big mistakes that we make as a profession. One of the big mistakes that we've made as an association. More importantly, though, I think, is we as athletic trainers need to teach the other athletic trainers that we're working with, that we're educating, that are doing graduate assistantships, although we're not supposed to officially have that anymore. I see more education programs now advertising for graduate assistantships. They're getting paid a decent salary to go to school at the same time through an approved KD program. So if we, we don't change our methodology and understand and embrace it. You know, I look at it as a big, big family. That's, that's where I've kind of looked at it. I was fortunate enough to have those older mentors who would pick me up the phone and call me and say, how are you doing? You guys just played the Pittsburgh Steelers yesterday. And then, and man, you got really hammered. How many guys you got in the trainer every day, John? And they would say, you know, if you need anything, give me a call and make sure you're taking care of your family at home. I got to jump in here again. It's funny how many times in the past few months I've heard guests talk about how important it was for their mentors to call, to write, to pull aside for a word, to today, to text, whatever the format or medium, to inspire and to encourage. Dick told me, did it. Multiple guests I talked to, former players and coaches, still do it to this day. The lesson has stuck for me and it's changed me. So I want to tell you how, not to brag, actually quite the opposite to share just how powerful this practice has become for me and how it keeps on changing my life. First, I created a list of every person I could think of in my old job back at Texas Tech that I wanted to thank for the past almost 15 years, just to tell them what they meant to me. Each week, even now, I hand write a thank you card to at least three people on that list and I send it to them. Then I've started sending episode artwork along with a handwritten thank you note to every guest. It's a labor of love. Each one takes me about an hour and a half. And after the frame, the print, the postage, it's not a small investment to systematically work through over a hundred guests to tell them thanks. Even in the classroom, I've also started having my students at Baylor write a little bit each day in class. I give them a blank three by five note card and the prompt is always the same. Write a praise or gratitude on one side. Flip it over. Write a prayer request or a concern on the other. I gather them up before we start the lesson every day. I read them. I pray over them. And lately I write back. A word of encouragement. A thank you, a reminder that I prayed for their grandma or that job interview that they were concerned about last week. So yeah, sure, it takes time. But I'm convinced that all of this matters. Then most recently in my job, we interviewed a candidate for a position we had open. He did pretty well, but it just wasn't quite the right fit. Now I've been on the receiving end of job interviews that lead to disappointment. Didn't get it. I know the hurt ego to not get the spot that you really wanted. So for the first time ever, I sent a handwritten note of gratitude to the applicant that we opted not to hire. Just to hopefully encourage them, provide some helpful feedback. Trying to inspire others to maybe do the same because it felt so good for me to do it. I posted about that practice on LinkedIn and the response was overwhelmingly positive. There was one naysayer, but whatever. So far it's drawn more than 35,000 impressions. Over 400 reactions. 20 comments, six free posts. Not bad for me. Not long after I get a DM from this guy who'd been liking and commenting on several of my posts, John Lopez turns out he was an NTA Hall of Famer. And oddly, he DM'd me and asked if he could have my mailing address. Said he wanted to send me something. About a week later, I get a handwritten card in the mail from South Carolina. I opened it up. It's literally sitting on my desk right now as I'm recording this, where it has been pretty much since it arrived. Let me read it to you. Quote, just a short note to say thank you and you're correct. Short notes of thanks are truly becoming a thing of the past. I however, refuse to allow that to happen. Be well and thrive. Exclamation point. Signed. Loops. End quote. This is a legend in my field. A man I've never met in person, mind you. But he took the time and the expense and the effort to send me a note of thanks and encouragement. For all the talk about the rampant college cheating and plagiarism, not to mention the gloom and doom horror stories about how AI is coming for all our jobs or worse, Terminator-esque dystopian destiny. There's one thing you cannot dispute. AI will never be able to take or to replicate or to substitute the value and the impact of true human connection. For John, it was a card sent thousands of miles to some random dude he'd connected with on LinkedIn. For me, it's been a powerful reminder to keep on doing the same thing for others and to pay it forward. For that, I say thanks, John. Those are the old guys that have been around the block several times. You understood the value of what it was to take care of each other. Yeah. And we were talking off camera before the interview started and a little bit about Dick told me, and that's one thing that stood out in that conversation for me is this was a guy who was a major college head coach and he made time for people. It's, it's fascinating to me that we live in such a super connected world. I've got a phone in my pocket. I can message you 24 seven, 365. I've got more access to people in my community than I've ever had in my life. But the fact of the matter is fewer people call me for that kind of thing than probably ever have. I can remember being 10 or 11 years old and my buddy would call me on the phone and just because it was fun to be on the phone, you know, on the cord. And we don't do that anymore. And it's made me realize that I need to be more purposeful about that with the students that I mentor to be more present for them and not just be like, Hey, you know, message me, send me a text if you need me. There's a difference between send me a text when you need me and me calling or texting you to tell you I'm concerned about you. And Hey, how are things going? I know things were rough the last time we chatted. Are you okay? And that takes more effort on my part, but that's the way you serve and lead. The way I feel like I've been commanded to do. Hi, I was very blessed to have had a lot of those guys that walked through my life and they were primarily older collegiate outplay trainers and guys on the NFL that would pick up that phone and call me. I try to do that today myself. I try to pick up the phone at least once a day and call someone and just say, Hey, Toby, how are you doing? How's things going? What's the weather? Did you work on the yard this weekend? You guys going on vacation? How was your vacation? You know, those are the little things that if we don't have that connectivity, then boy, this, this profession just can chew you. I wish I met your coach out there. Sounds like he was somebody that was so special that you really want to just be there to experience all the things. I hear you talk about his recruiting, his methodology, you know, how tough he could be on you. But then again, he could put his arm around you and say, Are you okay? And what do you need? And are you doing all right? Yeah. And those are the things that we're just not getting that enough done as athletic traders today. Absolutely agree. Again, talking to retired NFL athletic trainer, John Lopez, John, it's been a real treat. I thank you for joining me tonight. I've got a couple of other ones here that I always ask of all my guests. I love music and the emotions that it can represent. If we were to watch a montage of your life, your career, what song would you want to play in the background and why? Oh, geez, Toby. I know I should have been prepared for that, but I wasn't, you know, someone asked me the other day, you know, what, what, what kind of music are you into now? What are you listening to? It, I think at my point in life, I, I like to listen to jazz today and not necessarily vocal jazz, but I love Elphis Gerald and her arrangement. And her ability to cross over from one far side of jazz all the way over into the more traditional music, which she was singing George and our Gershwin songs the other day. But then on the other side of the school, I love listening to Willie Nelson. And I was a big country music fan growing up. You know, we, we listened to a lot of country music in the trailer and for years and years and old time country, you know, Hank Williams and some of the old guys in there, George Jones. And I love that you say in the training room, as I walk through facilities today, you know, pregame taping and that kind of thing. It's dead silent. Most everybody's got their headphones in and I'm like, I actually had a CD that I burned when I was at UTEP that was our taping mix. And either you put that thing in and that's the pregame mix. And that's just missing today. I increasingly sound like this lamenting, angry old man, because everything's different today, but I really do think some of it was better. Well, yeah. And I think music, you can't, you can't hear it in the training room today. Like you used to, uh, we used to burn that country music station up in Tampa Florida for years and years. And, um, I think that those are the important things today. Well, last one, John, what for John Lopez remains undone? Well, you know, my daughter recently told me that she wants to put my grandson in T-ball. Uh, I got a pretty upset about that, to be honest with you. I am not a big proponent in youth sports. And we could go talk about that for a couple of weeks. And, and the things that I dislike about sports, I think right now, if there was anything that I can do is be able to spend 24 seven with my grandson who's six years old and be able to give him the knowledge, the insight to be able to go play all sports to have fun. You know, like my dad used to say, when I wanted to sign up for literally, he goes, just go play in the backyard. And by the way, don't hit your sister. So I think that's the best advice that I could give somebody. And that's what I would really like to do right now is spend a lot more time with my grandson and watch him grow up. That's beautiful. Yeah. As a recent empty nester, there are a lot of days when it's beautiful outside and there's nothing I wouldn't give to go play a game catch go. That is heard and understood. Well, John, thanks so much for joining me tonight. It's been a real treat. This is John Lopez and I am undone. In a profession that too often forgets its own heartbeat. John Lopez reminds us of the power of persistence, mentorship and being human first. His story isn't just about athletic training. It's about doing the work, taking the hits and still showing up for the people who count on you. The sidelines to the front lines of reform. John's career speaks to what can happen when someone chooses to lead. Even after being told they'd never make it. It's not just a lesson in athletic training. It's a lesson in life. And if you're paying attention, it just might change the way you show up for others and for yourself. I'm thankful to John for stopping in today and I hope you enjoy our conversation. 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