The Ryan Leak Podcast

The Cost of Success

9 min
Aug 18, 20258 months ago
Listen to Episode
Summary

Ryan Leak explores the hidden costs behind visible success, arguing that successful people casually present their achievements while omitting the sacrifices, sleepless nights, and emotional tolls required to attain them. He emphasizes that aspiring achievers must understand and be willing to pay the true price of success, not just admire the end result.

Insights
  • Successful people normalize extraordinary achievements through casual language, making impossible feats sound routine, which masks the actual difficulty and sacrifice involved
  • The gap between perceived success and actual success includes invisible costs: lost sleep, failed relationships, emotional breakdowns, and personal sacrifices that aren't publicly shared
  • Wanting someone else's life without willingness to pay their price is a fundamental mismatch that prevents authentic success and fulfillment
  • Success requires counting the cost upfront, including potential loss of comfort, old habits, and relationships that may not align with future aspirations
  • The public only sees the highlight reel of success (medals, promotions, bestsellers) but never witnesses the 15-year 4am training, missed family moments, or repeated rejections
Trends
Growing awareness of survivorship bias in social media and success narratives, where only victories are sharedIncreasing focus on mental health and emotional costs of high achievement among ambitious professionalsRise of authentic storytelling about failure and sacrifice as counterbalance to curated success narrativesShift in leadership philosophy toward transparency about the true requirements of success, not just outcomesGrowing interest in understanding the hidden price of wealth and status among aspiring entrepreneurs
Topics
Hidden costs of success and achievementSurvivorship bias in success narrativesSacrifice and personal trade-offs in career advancementSleep deprivation and work-life balance in entrepreneurshipEmotional and psychological toll of pursuing ambitious goalsReal estate investment and property flippingPrivate aviation and luxury lifestyle costsInfluencer culture and social media comparisonLeadership and personal developmentAuthenticity in sharing success storiesRelationship costs of career ambitionEntrepreneurial mindset and resilienceFinancial success and wealth buildingPersonal transformation and goal-settingStewardship of success once achieved
Companies
Netflix
Referenced as platform where dramatic behind-the-scenes stories of success could be documented as multi-part series
Nasdaq
Mentioned as symbol of CEO achievement when ringing the opening/closing bell
Apple Podcast
Referenced as ranking platform where podcasters aim to reach number one status
Zillow
Used as example of real estate platform where successful investors casually find and flip properties
Airbnb
Mentioned as rental property investment strategy used by successful real estate investors
Home Depot
Referenced humorously as location where emotional breakdowns occur during renovation projects
Applebee's
Used as casual dining analogy to illustrate how wealthy people discuss splitting expensive assets
People
Ryan Leak
Podcast host discussing the hidden costs and true price of achieving success
John Maxwell
Leadership author quoted for his insight about willingness to do what successful people did to achieve success
Quotes
"Successful people have a way of making the impossible sound like brunch plans."
Ryan Leak
"People will tell you what they did, but they will rarely tell you what it cost."
Ryan Leak
"Behind every, yeah, I just drop ship this thing to the moon and monkeys bring it back down to China, is a 10-part docu-series on Netflix of drama that most people would never see."
Ryan Leak
"The worst thing you can do is want someone else's life, but be unwilling to pay the price that they paid."
Ryan Leak
"The life that you want tomorrow might cost you the comfort you're clinging to today."
Ryan Leak
Full Transcript
What's going on my friends? Welcome back to the Ryan Leek podcast. I am your host, Ryan Leek. It is I and we like to keep things short and sweet on this podcast because I know that you're busy and so am I. But we like to give you just some small nuggets of inspiration that can help you throughout your week and add value to your life, your work, your relationships, leadership. And over the next couple of episodes, I'm actually going to be doing a podcast series on success. Just three or four episodes, I'm not exactly sure, but I know I want to do at least a few because I've been around a lot of success lately, just in the flow of where my career is. And I've actually been blessed to meet some of my heroes and some people that I look up to. And there's a lot of the insights I've just been noticing about success that I think one can help you be successful, but two, also help you to know how to steward success when you do get it or when you do have it. There is this guy on Instagram who interviews millionaires and billionaires. His handle is at school of hard knocks. Okay, it's at school of hard knocks with a Z. Gotta love it. And I love what he does. He literally walks up to people on the streets that look rich in some way, shape, or form, and he just starts interviewing them. He walks up to people with supercars or they could be on a yacht or walking out of a luxury brand department store. And he stops them and says, "'Hey, how did you make your first million? "'What do you do for a living? "'What do you do to afford this house or this car?' And it's a very interesting channel. And what amazes me is that the answer is always pretty simple for them. They'll say something like, "'Oh, I just sold a tech company. "'Yeah, or I just built a makeup company and sold it.'" Like they say it like it's just super casual. Like it's no big deal. And at school of hard knocks, goes on to actually ask them, "'What's the most amount of money you've made "'in a single year?' And they'll say, you know, 300 million or 400 million.'" Like they always give like this number. And it's just always so casual. And what I've learned listening to, following, being around successful people, is successful people have a way of making the impossible sound like brunch plans. Okay, I've got friends who fly private and the way that they talk about it makes it sound like it's no different than ordering in Uber. Okay, they'll all say stuff like, "'Hey, I just got a jet car, fractional ownership, "'split it with a couple of buddies and boom, you're good.'" I'm like, you're making splitting a private jet sound like we're splitting spinach artichoke dip at Applebee's. Like what are we talking about? I don't know if you've got these like real estate friends. I think we all have some real estate friends that talk like this. "'Yeah, I just bought 10 houses, flipped them, made a billion.'" Yep, yep. Yeah, I was bored. So I just decided, you know, we're just gonna flip some houses, the Lorena, you know, just, you know, we're just doing anything. Like a billion dollars, like, like it's like where you just bought on Zillow and you just found these properties. Yeah, yeah, just bought a duplex, fixed it up, sold it for 27 times what I paid for. Yeah, I picked up some land from my grandpa, sat on it for a decade and flipped it for a few million, you know, got a couple Airbnb's, you know, some rentals in Florida, you know, like they just dropped these little lines of success. You're like, but it's gotta be harder than that. And here's what's interesting, the way they talk about success, they make it sound easy, look easy. But what they don't tell you is that they didn't sleep for three years. You know, what they didn't tell you is that contractors ghosted them mid-Rena. That tenants trashed the place during spring break, that the Airbnb got a one-star review because the soap wasn't lavender. What they won't tell you is that there were lawsuits, tax bills, plumbing disasters, hurricanes, leaky roofs, and perhaps even a mild emotional breakdown in a Home Depot parking lot. People will tell you what they did, but they will rarely tell you what it cost. The ease in their tone isn't always arrogance. It's just that once you survive the chaos, it's like you develop amnesia for how insane it really was. My friends do not be fooled behind every, yeah, I just drop ship this thing to the moon and monkeys bring it back down to China. And they just, as they tell you their story, I just want you to know behind it is a 10-part docu-series on Netflix of drama that most people would never see. You see, we are inundated every single day on our televisions and on our phones with people who are successful. We see the Olympian getting gold. We see the CEO ringing the Nasdaq bell. We see the best-selling author on a book tour. We see the influencer with 3 million followers. We see a musician dropping another chart topper. We see the podcaster hitting number one on Apple Podcast. We see a politician getting sworn in, but what we don't see is that Olympian waking up at 4 a.m. for the last 15 years. What we don't see is the CEO missing their kid's recital again. What we don't see is that author rewriting chapter three for the 11th time. What we don't see is that influencer managing constant criticism and comparison. What we don't see is that musician getting rejected 98 times before one song ever went viral. What we don't see is that podcaster recording 100 episodes before anyone actually listened to a word that would come out of their mouth. What we don't see is that politician getting death threats for just having an opinion. My friends, there's always a hidden cause. And perhaps you've heard me say this before, but it's worth repeating. If you ever see somebody you admire, you wanna ask them the question, what does it cost to be you? Because that following, that car, that house, that business, that platform, it all came with a price. And the worst thing you can do is want someone else's life, but be unwilling to pay the price that they paid. I love what John Maxwell says in one of his books. Somebody came up to him after speaking to Ben and said, hey, I wanna do what you do. And he responded, yeah, but are you willing to do what I did to be able to do what I do? The truth is the life that you want tomorrow might cost you the comfort you're clinging to today. It might cost you some old habits. It might even cost you some old relationships. So by all means, I want you to hear me do that. I want you to dream big, no question about it. I just want you to know that on the other side of that dream isn't just hard work, it's sacrifice. And not just the kind that keeps you up late at night, grinding, getting on the grind, no, no, no. I'm talking about the kind that makes you rethink who and what you're willing to carry into your future. And so as you dream this week, as you have goals, as you have aspirations, as you think about a future version of you, I want you to begin to just count the cost. Because the cost of success is not always what it looks like. Thanks for listening to the Running Link Podcast today. If today's episode added value to your life in any way, I would just ask that you share it with a friend. Don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe. I also send out an encouraging text every single week. If you'd like to subscribe to those encouraging text messages, you can text the word podcast to the number 469-809-1201 and you'll start getting some encouraging text messages from me. Hey, have a great week. And next week, we are going to be diving into the dangers of success. Today, we talked about the cost of success. But next week, I want to talk to you about the dangers of success. Hey, have a great day.