The Super Bowl Sequel: Tuesday, February 10th, 2026

I sound amazing. Welcome back to The Toast and happy Tuesday that for me feels like a Monday because boy do I have a lot to do today? Turdy went MIA yesterday. Apologies, something came up, but I'm here and I'm ready to discuss. I'm ready to show up for my people. We are excited to have you. It was such a treat having trout. Treats with trout. That should be an alternative title. But we had to put Super Bowl in the title because it was the big day after the big game. And today's the second big day after the big game because we're going to get Super Bowl Turdy's version today. Yeah, sorry if it's repetitive, but I have a job to do. I think that people would still like to hear my thoughts. Yeah, people are still talking about it. It's still in the news cycle. But don't you feel like it has sort of faded quicker than other Super Bowls? This was very like, like there actually were a couple of like big things like Bad Bunny and everything. But in terms of like buzziness, I feel like everybody quick, like went home quickly. I agree. The game, as I've come to learn, the Seahawks put up a very strong defense, wherein not a lot of points can be scored. And when points aren't scored, like it's not that exciting for like a pea brain viewer like myself, who just wants to see touchdowns. People catching. Yeah. And points and cheering. You know, it was a good game in terms of football. but it wasn't the funnest game. It wasn't the most entertaining. No. By any stretch of the imagination. So today's episode has a lot. We've got Dear Toasters, of course, because it's a Tuesday. We never leave the DTQ hanging. We've got Turdy's version, celebrity, celebrity, Super Bowl recap. And we've got Jackson Claw just being themselves, which is such a beautiful thing to be able to be authentically represented in modern media. Being part of delicious Stefanicious. Okay. So I saw something that I've been, I actually was like, I wrote it down because I wanted to talk about it on the show and not tell you. person. So we were talking a lot about the patriarchy last week. And I saw this kind of beautiful theory on the patriarchy that I feel like we need to discuss. Okay. Patriarchy is sort of, it's sort of this like Darwinistic evolutionary tactic by men. Men are clearly the subpar gender. And the only way for them to ensure their survival is to instill these sort of toxic systems like the patriarchy. Because if we didn't live in this like very toxic male-dominated system like we would have found we are smarter we are responsible for like birthing we would have found a way to do it all without the men and they are ensuring their own survival by installing these toxic systems let me ask you something and i'm not saying men are smarter than women or women are smarter than men i think like we're both have our great qualities and we serve different purposes but if men were so much dumber than women how could they pull that over on us i don't think that there's so much no but if they're inferior to women how could they pull that over on us their brute strength that is what they have on us and like you know inferior right back in medieval times when they like were could use that brute strength i think that their physical strength which yes we all have our you know strengths it's so to speak and so men's yes they are stronger than women in a physical so they used their physical superiority to dominate us yes intellectually yep societally to keep us down financially absolutely very interesting i thought it was a really good take for me i feel like the patriarchy like had its moment and wasn't like necessary like men to go out like up until because up until like modern advancements in menstrual health like first of all pads tampons like if you didn't have those how can you go out into the like and slay how can you slay all day it's so true when was the pad invented and well people could have used like you know cloth when was the sanitary napkin formally invented but no i think they they used cloth reusable cloth but i really think the tampon opened up a lot of doors for a woman you know because if you're like bleeding into a cloth all day like you don't feel like going and slaying no and not only do you not feel like it like you are limited yeah right and you have cramps like you're just not like so good man go but now man go we have my doll we have you know the flow the flow pms gummies that i was advertising yesterday like we have all of these things that allow us to be out of the house 28 to 31 days a month for better and for worse it's true that's i think it's really the advancements in in women's health and that's why we should constantly be funding women's health research 1000 i love that so so yeah that was the thing that i saw that i wanted to talk to you about i just not to be like scott galloway i i i don't want and not to make it serious when you were making it light-hearted but it's like men aren't so much dumber than women like we have different like i hate to be those man woman hated yeah yeah you're like men are dumb like i don't i just want to say i didn't say that they were dumb i think you did they provide i didn't they provide value as well and of course and i think we feel some type of way because as women we've been put down you know so we have we feel like you have to be like well you're ugly and stupid yeah i think you're like projecting i never said that they were dumb i feel like you i feel like that's what you led with i feel like that was your opening remark i would love to just sit back and roll the tape me too did i say that oh and we have a man here how did that make you feel not good i didn't say it he agrees obviously the men are on my side scott galloway scared of you i good it's working i agree i'm not one of those like man-hating women either um and that's not at all what i was saying at all i was kind of commending them for that slave and evolutionary tactic keeping us down to keep themselves up okay so i just think we need to all work together i mean you should stop pitting man against woman and i've been saying that you know oh speaking of man against woman do we have a story about utah of course okay okay okay so i won't talk about it of course i watched so much olympics this weekend if it wasn't for the super bowl like that's the number one story of the day there's so many like there were so many sports going on this weekend waste management like who cares waste management full swing who won i don't know but that's where travis was so that was like big news but then he was with the chain smokers at waste management chain smokers was definitely super bowl he has a jet like i thought i saw him on the sidelines of the super bowl on the sidelines i don't know oh i think i saw him in the beginning ceremony yeah no but the weight management was like the day before it's like three days yeah yeah yeah so i think he was just sort of doing it all i'm so excited to find out what happened at waste management next year on full swing yeah too bad we have to wait your recap of waste management 2026 is coming next in 2027 yeah um so and then of course the olympics which have just been bringing me so much joy even though it's not the summer olympics which are just so much better they still have a lot of merit i think a lot of people don't even watch the winter olympics i watch all and yes summer is better but winter has a lot going on i forget you know of course the utah of it all figure skating which is in such a joy i love that couple i like that guy do you see his goal of course i know that guy and it's funny because like he gets so much he's the quad god like the quad god yeah and his name is like ilium Milano yeah and I was watching his performance he's obviously very talented and then like halfway through I don't know why he just decides to like put his whole Ilya Osi into it and it just like became insane and he's like throwing extra tricks like doing more swivels than they said that he was about to do like he just popped off yeah and he won gold so what I'm learning watching the Olympics is like figure skating is just not this sort of one size fits all and I know figure skating from ice princess of course and triple axel you know and her using geometry jumping shrimp right her using geometry to figure out how to jump perfectly brilliant um but there's so many other elements and it's like most of the things that i'm watching are not even like triple axel it's like ice dancing there's freestyle so ilia is like doing like men's ice dancing and it's like kind of crazy looking same with the baits and gates like last night that couple who everybody loves who's married they did their ice dancing routine to a Lenny Kravitz mix. Oh my God, it was amazing. And they got so robbed in their score. And so like his tricks, like the quad, like he's not doing your typical ice princess like tricks. Yeah, no, he's like making up Ilya's own trick. And I'm living for, it's crazy how differently I think of Johnny Weir and Tara Lipinski in the Traders Mansion versus, you know, the Milano Cortina. Okay, because Milano Cortina. In Milano Cortina, they are slang. You see her TJ Maxx commercial? no tara did this like fabulous commercial to me they're like so unimpressive in traders and i'm like who are these people i feel like i'm really learning about them as athletes as people in their commentary the point they crushed like they really did not do a good job of showing us who they are in traders i'm doing i'm putting in my own time and research in in the um cortina i don't think we were open you know even if they showed us i would say why are you showing us so much except for tara like she's a cutie but like no no jackie i'm telling you like and their friendship is so real like every time they talk about their friendship i'm cracking on traders i'm like okay they are best friends for life it's so cute i saw such a funny tweet that was like you think they're gonna be able to find figure out rob's the traitor they can't even figure out that the two figure skaters are best friends they've known each other for a hundred years it's so true like this very niche sport they do broadcasting together and no one like knows their best friend This is also like day five of me asking Peacock to release the Colton files. Like, where is that video of Colton finding out that Rob is the traitor? Because I know he's going to be like, oh, I knew it. No, you fucking didn't. I check every day. Like, I'm so excited. I checked last night. What's today? Tuesday? They owe it to us. It's great. And I know that they wait like a little bit for spoilers, which I appreciate them like looking out for their community traitors. No. No. Okay. sad i haven't posted in 16 hours like i'm twitching what were we talking about oh the olympics yeah so it's been fabulous we will talk about you to this big night last night um yes it's a great day yeah lots to do should we get into it i guess yeah i guess without further ado to do here are the fast five stories that you do need to know and the fast five stories that you do need to know are brought to you by legacy box So Legacy Box is something for swirlies and families everywhere. 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Here, let's get into it. The game, meh, the halftime show, the commercials, the celebrities. What are your thoughts? So I did feel like overall, I feel like, yes, some Super Bowls are buzzier than others. Of course, Taylor and Travis. Like in years past, I think there's been so many cultural elements. Also, it depends on the location, too. A thousand percent. Like Vegas. tying into the game, like outside of the game, that it lifts the whole thing up. I just feel like this year was a little lackluster in its overall glamorousness and buzziness. Like I said, I feel like people are already moved on where I think in years past, we've been talking about it like for days and days and days. And of course there were like big moments that we're going to talk about. But overall, I would say a little underwhelming. Do you agree? Yeah, the teams in the game, you know, I think the couple celebrity connections are like Cardi B and they're like barely together. I don't know, just the celebrities that were there. Like I know Kim was there with her man. I'm like, no one cares. Like, yeah, it just felt like a little. It's like there's a picture of them kissing and like no one. Everyone thinks it's AI. I believe it is AI. So like they're right for that for saying that. But like, who knows? And if I hope it's AI, it's such a weird picture. Yeah, I agree. But the celebs did all go. They did. They were in the halftime show. Let's talk about Bad Bunny. What did you think? OK, so I didn't understand a word. Didn't know a single song. I understand a lot of it. I speak Espanol. I know you speak Espanol. those two things withstanding, you know what? I really enjoyed it. I thought it was like so colorful. And, you know, I think we talk a lot in music about how like, you know, dark is cool and like darkness and depression It like that Billie Eilish aesthetic Yeah And this was just like celebrating family and love there was a wedding and it was like that little kid like it was very and i do think that very you know the latin culture celebrates like that what i always saying you know food faith family and it was that do you know what i mean i actually really enjoyed it and the mayor photo to feed cello like i really um i wish i knew like three songs that would have made it a little bit more fun for me but as a viewer i was entertained thoroughly I liked the set like it was all very I don't know like bright yeah and that like I'm always looking for positive joyful things and that was extremely positive and joyful I imagine if you knew the music like it was amazing um and no I I thought he did exactly what he was supposed to do and what he was hired to do yeah like it was it was really it was fun oh and then like not Alex Earl being in casita like i was shook not uh not a chita christineider's casita okay i was shook like so the concept of like there being other people like you know we always are thinking like who's gonna bring out i wasn't thinking he was gonna be the casita you know jessica alba cardi b now of course jessica alba is of latin descent cardi b is our dominican queen so i wasn't expecting alex earl all's that to say but she is miami like she does really represent miami like dave grutman was there too he's jewish like not but i think they represent miami really well and i think bad bunny is very um like a lot of his fans and community members come from miami so i understood it i was really shook to see her there and i thought she did a really good job it had the potential to be awkward like you're basically just standing there dancing yeah and if you've ever been to the super bowl like if you're in the stadium like you actually don't really hear a lot it's produced for television so i can't imagine she was hearing the song super well or like the beat super well i thought she really played it off it looks like a lot of the like background characters had ears in oh interesting monitors yeah yeah so maybe that they could hear interesting um i have like kind of a hot take about lady gaga yeah um did you watch the toast yesterday i don't think that you did i didn't i'm sorry because i caught up with stuff no no i don't think that you did because it's so funny like what you're saying is exactly what i said okay so what you're about to say is also what i said so i don't want to say like she ruined it by any because whatever gaga's around And Die With a Smile, the number one song of the year. I fucking loved her outfit, too. Like, she showed up, she knew the vibes, and she slayed the house down. Hair, glam, everything. It was such a bad arrangement of the song. I actually liked the music. They were giving it, like, that sort of mariachi Latin. But she didn't change. Mariachi. I'm hanging out with you too much. Sorry, mariachi. They gave it that very Latin flair, which I loved. Yeah, it was a great idea. It was. And then she started singing just like the regular old vocals. And I was shook. As I said yesterday, it was a mashup that did not mesh. Yes, it was. It should have been a mashup, but it was a mess up. It was a mess up. It was like that was playing while that was playing. It's like someone turned the music off. I'm trying to think of because it was also a time recently where maybe this happens a lot where the performer didn't sing with the guest. They just sort of gave the floor to the guest. It did feel weird and random. And I'm not mad. sang their own song that has nothing to do with the performer. Yeah, like it was so fucking random. And I'm sure Bruno's watching that. They definitely invited Bruno. What about me? Yeah, he was, somebody said on Twitter, like, so mad, but chained to the basement of the casino. That he owes money to. I saw that on Twitter. And the Super Bowl's not paid, so he couldn't go. He only gets out of his cage for paid affairs. So I think... Like Lady Gaga like actually cannot do anything wrong in my life. No, and she didn't do anything. She didn't. She also did the job that she was paid there to do. But like the overall direction of her part felt really random. Misdirected. Yeah. I agree. And I love her effort. I love Ricky Martin. A for effort. Great idea. Yeah. Bad execution. Still enjoyed. Never going to complain about Gaga. I'm trying to think of what they could have done better. And like Lady Gaga sings in German. Like she sings in. She would have learned a Spanish song. No, no, no. I like Die with a Smile Mariachi edition. I do. do it right no because it also doesn't involve bad bunny like oh that's okay i they could have sung like a selena song you know no or they could have done a lady gaga song that would mesh better with mariachi well of course yeah yeah it was just weird um i thought like ricky martin was a uh not obvious actually because i wouldn't have guessed him but like a good person to bring out i like when people bring people out i think a lot of times people feel like too proud like they have to do it themselves like it's fine like it's good i like it both ways I like sometimes on the person when someone like when Lady Gaga did it herself. I loved that. Like the weekend should have brought someone out, you know? Yeah, it depends. Yeah. So I enjoyed it. I know it was like this big like, what will it be? And you know what? It was exactly what I think his whole vibe is. And I enjoyed it. I do like I am personally and this is just like a selfish thing. I'm ready for a pop girly. It has been we had Rihanna ever since Jay-Z took over for Apple Music. He really widened. It used to be I feel like back to back like the pop girlies were holding it down. even Bruno Mars um so when Jay-Z took over like he expanded it quite a bit and just my own selfish like I'm ready for a pop girly or a country a country star um so if Jay-Z's listening like that's just what one person turning wants and I would appreciate you know that but beyond that it was kind of a boring game it's also my first Super Bowl like being a parent definitely less fun yeah that's what that was the big theme yesterday like we were like oh the and I mean during bath time yeah i wait to pause because i was doing bath time um we have to talk about the anthem we have to talk about charlie pooth do you have something to say i was wrong um and it's so funny because like some of the hate that i get is like turning over admits that she's wrong mostly when it comes to like the baldone lively case and i'm seriously not wrong um history you don't have time for that history will be on my side um jackie's like shut the fuck up we can't take any more hate no i'm saying like we're the clock is running yeah yeah it's a 20 minute dive sorry sorry sorry dive into the hole. All that to say, like, I'm always happy to admit when I'm wrong and I had very low expectations of Charlie Puth and I thought he did such an amazing job paying honor to our country but to also, like, the greats before him and he had posted a TikTok about how, like, Whitney Houston's version is, like, the greatest. Like, the pressure to do the anthem when this one exists. And then he also shared that his arrangement, like, did sample her arrangement and he really, like, just tried to do the whole thing with such respect for everyone and everything. His, so I saw him being accused of, using auto-tune because like his voice is so perfect but that's just his thing and I feel like it was a great night for Charlie Puth it was an like also a very great night for Taylor Swift because she is right like Charlie Puth should be a bigger artist it was so impressive for me if you want me to like something put a gospel choir in there like I will be shaking my titties like take me to church mama he had all the elements of it he also played an instrument live so he is being compared to Chris Stapleton who recently did it vocally it's hard enough to focus on the voice let alone the piano or the whatever in front of you. And then some people do too much. They're like, I want to give the anthem my all. They're trying to prove. And they are trying to prove that they can sing and play. And it's like, just do it good. We don't care what you're having to prove to us. He didn't look nervous. His voice didn't shake. But it felt like he understood the magnitude. Yes, that's what I mean. Like, there was so much respect for everyone and everything in the performance. For him, for our founding fathers. It felt like there was respect for the country, for the flag. For the founding mothers, Whitney Houston. For our troops. yes everything i had chills he really he understood the assignment yeah um i thought coco jones was incredible i can tell she was really nervous so like i felt like her voice had a little bit of a tremble to it in the beginning i was not familiar with her game like vocally insane um i don't remember them doing like a concert ever before green day green day ben was doing bath time so he was like i don't even we decided to not tell him that it happened i don't think he knows i don't think he didn't know that was happening because we if he knew that he missed it we'd have to go back and watch it again and we're like if he never knew that this happened like he wouldn't be upset that he missed it yeah let's just move forward um and then they have like all the players like you know standing around it was like a little awkward um but it was fun it was fresh it was different um what else can i tell you the commercials like maybe i'm just like a jaded consumer like they did not do it for me in the way that i think in years past i was like making people be quiet during the commercials like my game is on yeah it's very hard to stand out. I think these days and now people do pre commercials and we saw the fanatics on that's still the best one. I think I love the Pepsi one. Oh, yeah, the Pepsi Zero sugar one. Yes. And you know, the Super Bowl recap is brought to you by Pepsi Zero sugar. I loved their commercial. First of all, it's nice to feel represented in modern media. And a fun fact about me that a lot of people don't know is I prefer Pepsi. I actually really do. And I think that we get so bogged down by labels in this country, in society, and we're kind of label obsessed. And what about the product? What about quality? What about taste? And I loved to see a commercial taking that conversation seriously. And I really related to that cola loving bear in the commercial, sort of working through those feelings. I went through that process. He's a little delayed. I went through that process years ago. I had been making Pepsi Zero Sugar and the Pepsi brand. I had been making them cool for years. But it was nice to see my personal experience being represented on the world's greatest stage. On the big screen. You experienced the Pepsi paradox for yourself years ago. Years ago. When everything is taken out, labels, brands, and you're looking at and tasting two products, you're going Pepsi Zero Sugar. And we've always said that, you know, we've always said quality over, you know, image. And we like I get it. You know, I've been in a place where I've become obsessed with what people think of me and the world's perception. And much like that bear, when you have that sort of come to life moment, it can be devastating at first and then you're unstoppable. Your world opens up. So during the 2025 revival of the Pepsi Challenge, did you guys, you might not know this, 66% of people said that they preferred the taste of Pepsi Zero Sugar over Coca-Cola Zero Sugar. Pepsi won 100% of markets in the 2025 Pepsi Challenge. Yes, even Atlanta. Enter the Pepsi paradox. I have chills just talking about it. It's so shocking. And I am a certified Pepsi girl. And I feel like when people label you, you know, like diet soda, they never say Pepsi. No, and everyone wants to say like this one's better, that one's better. but there's nothing more truth telling than a blind taste test. I highly recommend. I want everyone to kind of stop and think about, you know, what they think they know about these beverages and give Pepsi Zero Sugar a chance. You're going to be floored at the taste. And much like the bear, like, you don't have to do like a blind taste test and like start. I mean, you can and like film it for TikTok. But like, you don't need to put a blindfold on. Try and leave everything you know about these brands at the door. And I think that's kind of what we're always saying, right? about being open to changing your mind and not doing what you just think the world wants you to do or say no and not staying on the surface and i'm trying not like surface lyrics i'm trying not to get emotional about the commercial but it's so much deeper than that you know what i mean i think as you get older i don't know i think you care less about these sort of i'm actually getting choked up like labels call me what you want yes i love pepsi zero i'm a pepsi zero sugar loving bear that's who i am it chills just that's why i wear these bears to represent the cola loving bear who prefers pepsi zero sugar and it was actually quite emotional to see him go through that journey don't you think and to be able to admit maybe i've been wrong and that's kind of a theme of today's episode you know and i said it just a few minutes ago like i am not one too big to admit when i've been wrong no and neither was he and it was nice to see that represented on the world's largest stage it was i think that's a message like literally everyone could learn from in all aspects of your life but especially about what we're putting into our bodies yeah especially about tasting just because something's you've done something one way for so long it's never too late to change and of course i hate to make everything about myself but i feel as though i must but i think that's the point of a good commercial is to see yourself in it and make it about yourself i feel vindicated of course um i have been ahead of the curve the entire time and i think a lot of people are now coming to this conclusion after seeing it on such a big stage and it does feel kind of better. I'm better than everyone. Like I had this realization like actually 10 years ago, I want to say when I was in college. And like we could say like turdy was right, which would sort of balance out when you said you were wrong earlier. Like now you're like, the scales are even. And it's again, not to make everything about myself. It does feel like people are confronting their life choices as a result of this commercial. And I confronted those choices years ago. Yeah. Yeah. You didn't need this push. You're bigger than everyone else, but it's good that other people are now seeing what you've already seen and tasting what you've already tasted. Highly recommend you trying Pepsi Zero Sugar. Do your own mini Pepsi challenge with your loved ones. Have those hard conversations and you will not regret it. Don't let the label decide. Let your taste decide. That's really beautiful. And a message that I want to take into all aspects of daily life. and specifically the past five of course and specifically the past five our next story oh okay we're done with it let me just think what like anything else about this anything else about the super bowl licks and raid oh we talked about it yesterday i mean we can't get a bigger licks rad fan than olivia ashray than olivia did you hear her of course she's so funny did you see the video it came out today him grabbing her tushy no yeah it was just like it actually wasn't a grab i want to say it was like a soft caress it was quite where is it she's the leading source shout out to Dumois I feel like Dumois went through kind of like an a shake-up where people stopped trusting Dumois um during COVID it was like the bible and then there were a couple and I just feel like she didn't know what to do with her platform and now she is the leading news source on Alex Earl and Tom Brady and I'm like happy for her to have found her new niche yeah and personally she's my go-to like I live for it yeah I do think I've actually noticed a change in Dumois I feel like It's not really like blind items. No, it's more like a media site. I feel like they've hired. It's very boots on the ground. Like people like this. It's like a. Just Jared. News like. Yeah. But it's very Internet, which I think is smart. Packaged for virality. It's kind of brilliant. I think she's slaying even though she's getting hate because she posted the allegedly AI photo of Lewis Hamilton and Kim Kardashian kissing. And people are like, please do not post AI generated content. And she can't prove that it is AI. And she can't prove that she posted this photo is AI. Oh, she did? Yeah, it's in the caption. Oh, okay. Well, that's that. Yeah. So Alex Earl and Tom Brady, he touched her to she. That's really crazy. It was crazy. I mean, I'm sure they're doing crazier, but like that's really wild. It was crazy on the Super Bowl stage. They did like the Hall of Fame. Everybody came out of that photo booth with their jackets on. And it was just crazy to see him there. It's like, oh, that's Alex Earl's situation ship. Yeah. And they were both on the field. That's my girl right there. I just love her. Slay mama. You think so now you think they're yeah well they both do live in miami so i think that they hold even though she's been like exclusively in la i hope she doesn't move well she came back for sally's birthday yes of course i don't think tom was at the 25 hour affair i hope not um he cannot hang i really hope though that she happy birthday sally happy birthday sally hope your party was amazing um i know that um she has a place in la and for dancing with the stars it was great and it's good like to have a place there because she probably has to go a lot for work but i really hope she does not move to LA. I think that would, there aren't a lot of things like she could do right now that would derail her success. And I'm not saying her moving to LA would, but it would, I don't think it would be good. Like, I think what people love about her is that she's just like that girl from Miami, you know, it's such a part of her image. And so he lives in Miami. So I think they've probably hung out between St. Bart's and now insane. Insane. What the fuck do they talk about? Maybe like, as Olivia said, like being goats. Yeah, goatness. Olivia is so funny. Olivia is so funny. I at a place where I kind of accepted When I first saw them in St Bart I was still in the shock phase of the whole thing Now I in like a digesting Like OK I see you OK I guess this is what we doing Yeah, I'm still in disbelief. Like, I actually don't believe it, even though allegedly he grabbed her tushy. But I do want to talk about some other goats. If we may switch subjects to the big news of the day. Yuta Leardom won gold at the Olympics. jake paul's fiancee she broke an olympic speed skating record in milano cortina yesterday she came in first place in the women's 1000 meter um jake posted a video of him like hysterically hysterically crying like when she crossed the finish line then when she saw that she won and she broke the record like they're so emo the black tear it was giving lauren conrad 100 because she always wears her iconic eye makeup and then she got it together for the podium oh of course no and like oh good um this was one of like my hallmark moments like i've been waiting yeah when it comes to the olympics like things i want to see was her speed skate not only did she win gold which was her goal she set a new olympic record so it was just like an insane feat and if you watch paul american you know that like a part of their story it's like her personally sacrificing like so much not being with her fiance and training like for the sake of this goal and even if she didn't get it like it would have been a valiant effort but like the fact that she did makes it all so worth it and now she can ride off to the in the sunset with jake in peace move to puerto rico not always be like chasing the olympic dream because she's climbed the mountain she's reached the summit and now she can move on i also didn't realize how big of a deal she was in the netherlands like she's kind of like a katie ledecky i'm trying i was trying to think of like a similar um athlete she's so beloved and like the um announcers on the live broadcast were saying like you know she's five million followers it was giving like so chokey they were like she's five million dollars and then they cut to the broadcast in dutch and like how the commenters were screaming like she is this like a michael phelps of her generation and she's so beloved and i did pride of her country i didn't know that people speed skating is a huge sport to me it's like so random but in the Netherlands it's like swimming for us or figure skating so she is this enormous so I didn't realize and they had this like whole party for her did you see her like going on stage at this like Dutch party like it's been such a fabulous saga of events I love her um no I think she's like my number one athlete in this Olympics of like who I am rooting for yeah and she won gold like this is amazing I wonder if she still has more races or this is it I don't know I saw her at the party like it was giving its over um also her like she's just also the best influencer she's like an alona mar type different types of content but you know come with me here's what i'm eating at the olympic village and i just live for it yeah and so she flew private she did what she had to do i completely endorse her decision to fly private also they talked about in paul american how she's had like a bit of drama like going out on her own as an independent contractor like she left the team that was training her because she wasn't like getting what she needed and so yeah she's kind of like flying solo literally and she flew solo and i'm fine with that and it's actually amazing that she it really speaks to her talent and i feel like if she was sitting next to other people on the plane she wouldn't have been able to win well also i've been watching a lot of speed skating and it's low-key insane how they skate completely perpendicular like oh my god my back could never and so yeah she needs a big jet to stretch out on like she's training half bent over the entire day yeah her back must kill her well no because she's doing it right yeah it's it's been a wonderful way to end her like athletic career i'm and we need season two of paul american because we need to see the behind the scenes of course he i saw a camera like they were well they film everything and then he wrote in his caption like you'll see it in the documentary like i wouldn't be surprised if he makes a documentary about her stop i love her um and i guess she's like moving to puerto rico i know jake paul's like packing up her things while she's at the race like stop i can't it was really beautiful it was and it's just like it's so impressive you know yeah it's so impressive congrats yuta no this is so major of the neanderthals of the neanderthals speed skating team our next story first promo just dropped for taylor frankie paul as the bachelorette wondering if she's worthy of love so taylor frankie paul is our next bachelorette they put out a teaser video set to look what you made me do she's like walking through a hallway in a red dress like with all like you know content of her throughout the years on the walls and then she busts through the glass and she's like maybe i'll just be myself and she's wearing her cozies and her crocs and that's what we have so far um the season premieres march 22nd it did bring me back like there was a time when the bachelor promo dropped and every year was like it was a super bowl like when we and then like a dress made out of flowers and then what song they were going to use it literally made songs i remember fifth harmony that's my girl like any song they chose like was the song of the year their impact at one point just reminded me this clip like of how much has changed but like how big their impact was for like my young adult life um it was giving like really scripted it was kind of weird i thought it was giving low budget i thought it was weird okay i need to be a hater and i was glad that it wound up being like the glam was the point of the glam was that it wasn't for her and she shut it off because when i was watching her in that dress i'm like that dress is wearing her like it wasn't a moment at all i was like this is not glamorous and maybe the point was to be like yeah that because she's not comfortable maybe i'm reading too much into it but it just felt like low budget and you know the whole thing was on a green screen so she's just like walking around a green screen and then they added all this shit and i guess they're like playing into a storyline which is her life it's not a storyline but like that you know she chooses these terrible people because it's sort of like a projection of how she feels you know how she sees herself um and i don't know it didn't just give me a lot of confidence because i feel like when you go to the bachelor like you should be ready like you should have answered these questions no i i'm not feeling a lot of confidence in the actual like relationship that will come out of the show like i think it will be really entertaining i love her i just want to watch her but i agree like i don't know she's like ready to meet the one right all these in in past when I think of like the girls whose promos like stuck with me it's like you know they are so ready for this they know who they are they won't accept anything less and you know you're supposed to go on the bachelor journey when that self-discovery journey has ended and it feels like her self-discovery journey and her bachelor journey are the same journey and that's never good they say you shouldn't do that like you really you can't love someone until you love yourself you can't find someone until you find yourself yeah so not to be like so deep but it was a weird one yeah and then the promo picture is like her busting out of a barbie box and it says like if you don't fit the mold break it with like a bunch of like things around her wait can we talk about i sent it to you i forget if it was new york magazine or new yorker because i actually get them confused i think it was new york new york magazine did this cover story let me just read it it was about how like mormons are taking over popular culture i literally dm'd it to you because i was so shocked okay yeah so wow i dm you a lot just give me two seconds a lot of content back and Oh, maybe I put it in text. Or, yeah. Yeah, I think it's in our text. Okay. So it was New York Magazine, and it was, one, two, three, four, seven Mormon women. And it says, ding dong, do you have a moment to talk about how Mormons conquered pop culture? A report from Utah. So on the cover is Taylor Frankie Paul, Whitney Layavit, and Jesse Draper from the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Mormon Sex Lives, which are, of course, three Mormon women. And then there's also Whitney Carson representing how so many of the dance pros on Dancing with the Stars train in Utah and are Mormon. Hannah Neely, of course, ballerina or farm. Heather Gay, Real Housewives of Salt Lake City. And then in the back corner, Rach Parcell, who is a fixture here. We talk about her all the time. She is one of the real OG mommy Mormon YouTube bloggers. When we think of like mommy Mormon, she is the blueprint. Everybody copies her. She's got the big house. She's got the hundred kids. Like she's got she is that girl. now the weird thing and why i sent it to jackie is because we've got taylor frankie paul running center and everyone else sort of like fans out yeah and it's interesting because a lot of you know being a public figure and just like being a woman is you know we notice when you look different the picture of heather gay is so recent it is you know she's put says she's on a glp one so it's post her like sort of glow up it's present it's a present day the whitney levitt picture is her red hair so it's like seriously from the last year at least also it's it's she's also been on a journey it's from yesterday she lost weight so it's literally from yesterday like the jesse draper photo because jesse draper is always really public about her um plastic surgeries procedures and she just recently got one done and she looks like very different from it and this picture of jesse draper is from 24 hours ago like it's so recent the picture of rachel parcell has to be 15 years old it's so weird that they did that it's like so deliberate and like mean but but why her i don't know it's so we i mean it's insane that she looks 17 in the picture yeah i think it's like her wedding photo like i don't know if it's meant to be shady or whatever or lazy like they just like looked up rachel parcell and didn't like even know that you know she doesn't really look like that anymore because she's grown and it is like i got sidelined by the picture they chose for rach parcell but it is like a good call about how like mormons really do right now in pop culture like are kind of taking over every major i didn't even realize like how all the dancing with the stars people are more utah mormons um there is this like obsession like fixation with mormon culture um and then of course the comments were like so interesting to read because half the people were like you know these people aren't mormon why are we losing out more like so well i just think they're they're fascinating they're fascinating they're beautiful and interesting and and i think a lot of the things that like they value are things that we find interesting. Yeah. You know, like beauty and family. Right. Like I think a huge tenant in their religion is like seeking perfection, like always to be like doing your best, looking your best family. Like, so that makes for good TV and just good, interesting things to follow. And I think it's a, I mean, I wonder, I'm sure the church isn't thrilled about it because they would rather see like, you know, perfect Mormons or whatever. But like, I think that actually it's a net positive for a Mormon Q score. I completely agree. I bet the church like is pissed about it. But I feel like it's especially considering the last big thing was like Book of Mormon. So that's what I was going to say is that like up until like the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and all these shows, like the only real thing I knew about Mormonism was that Broadway show. I saw it. They made the best for the Mormons. like so i imagine that they're thrilled with the the change of tone yeah but i i don't think they're thrilled no but i do think it is better it is good for them yeah we do our next story oh mark anthony is speaking out about the beckham family feud the man at the center of the drama so mark anthony told the hollywood reporter he was discussing um you know the drums and he said they're a wonderful wonderful family he said i've known them since before the kids were born i'm godfather to cruise i'm really close to the family but i have nothing to say about what happened there it's extremely unfortunate how it's playing out but how it's playing out is hardly the truth he said okay so he said a whole bunch of nothing but then a little at the end so he's at the center of the drama because allegedly he performed at the wedding a very romantic special song and he called up the most beautiful woman in the room victoria beckham and apparently like it was sort of like him the villain in the story unless victoria told him to do that it was just him wanting to celebrate his beautiful friend victoria beckham yeah um before brooklyn and nicola had their first dance and apparently brooklyn and victoria weren't supposed to have a dance which is disgusting for boy mamas everywhere agreed that was like i know like i see things through my own lens but that's definitely where my mind went so if it was a surprise mother-son dance that means there was no dance to begin with i'm on the side of reels of like of boy i don't want to say to talks to boy mamas it's like boy mamas who stand with victoria beckham oh that's beautiful yeah and it's like all of them dancing the spice girls talking about how they're gonna dance at their son's wedding mama i kill um okay i didn't see that mark anthony had spoken out i kind of was waiting for him to say something and while he didn't really get involved you could read between the lines and he's saying they're but he's saying fuck that bitch nicola lying snobs yeah brats yeah brats i'll ship them off to switzerland parent trap yeah parent trap was like a side of it takes two you know what i mean because clarice yeah and meredith blake are the same person nobody talks enough about it takes two rest in peace kirstie alley one of the best movies ever made and dennis quaid who's no no i'm getting confused with parent trap who's like the hot dad it feels like christie alley but it also feels like the dad from little giants it takes to imdb 1995 i need to watch this movie again alissa and amanda so so real um okay alissa and amanda the cast is steve guttenberg oh of course steve guttenberg he's so fucking classic roger calloway yeah oh i fucking love this movie loki there was a time where christie alley was like banging out look who's talking that movie with john travolta about the babies who talk i need to re-watch it because like it's the best movie ever made yeah and then i think they came out with like three sequels because it was that good and each sequel was amazing and clarice sort of got who's the actress who plays clarice jane sibbett she got sort of like shoehorned into playing like mean evil stepmother yeah because she's also an au pair remember that movie of course i remember au pair that was a crazy movie it was an amazing movie and it did i think really good wonders for the au pair community everyone wants an au pair there's nothing more fabulous than an au pair yeah but it's not what you think no i know it's like but i'm saying it's an au pair so it is but it sounds really fabulous yeah no like the life of an au pair is actually really dark really yeah you like get paid nothing and a lot of the dads are like predatory because it's just like an excuse to hire like a beautiful young woman yeah i don't like and i think i'm gonna get a governess a governess is what you think in o'pear it correct you need a governess big time will you be my governess i would be an amazing guy you would dream job literally live in a castle are you ready for our fifth and final story i am kim kardashian appears to be cheered on by lewis hamilton as she attempts the titanic challenge with her sisters chloe and kim so oh shockingly last night kylie posted a video of the sisters doing the titanic challenge like did you also think it was a throwback video no i was more so listening like because there were a lot of men like laughing in the background like it was like giving date night i was thinking timothy's there because kylie posted it and the sisters were hanging out and like men were laughing i guess it could have been rob but like that's so not interesting no i feel like rob doesn't hang out with them it better not have been rob um but now they're saying that they think it's lewis hamilton like hanging with the sisters but i could also see like lewis and timothy like wanting to hang oh definitely yeah i really thought i don't know if there was like a filter on the video it looked like a snapchat video from the king kylie era and she was like reposting well the vibes were snapchat of like giggling in the living room yeah okay and like kylie never hangs out with her sister so i thought for sure she like was posting this throwback video from the last time she hung out with her sister right because she doesn't post stuff like this anymore i was honestly shocked that she posted it was just like so silly and kim had like long a long ponytail it was giving like the miami era yeah okay i'm not okay but i don't think it was a throwback at all i think it was like last night or the night before well the night before was super bowl so literally like maybe it's been the super bowl night maybe they were like all watching oh no kim was at the super bowl and and chloe and kylie were in but kendall was i wasn't like looking in the background trying to hear voices because i thought i don't know it was probably like ray j in the background like i thought it was so old chris humphreys no so there were like men chuckling and i thought it was timothy because like men should never laugh like never broke bitches should never laugh um sorry continue um but it it seems to be lewis hamilton i don know why you guys think lewis i going timothy but it could also be both i don think it like a multiple people hang night i don think timothy would find this funny like i couldn see him laughing at this you know but if kylie thought it was funny yeah and he loves kylie yeah and i don't think she would like do something that he finds like stupid yeah they also have been together for five years like i think they think less about like should i do this in front of him i think they're comfortable yeah around each other just a guess yeah and really happy um the way i like actually don't care that kim's dating lewis hamilton like it's so not doing it for me i agree it's actually doing the opposite for me but i think that's more so like a reflection of where i'm personally at with kim which is nothing about lewis self yeah which is just like a real indifference yeah i was talking about this with olivia yesterday when she was asking like which one you vibe with the most and i was just saying like chloe but it also changes yeah sorry chris like chris is eternal but also kylie yeah but kylie like and like by the way when i'm talking about the show courtney sometimes courtney and sometimes kim like there was a period yes a couple years ago yes you know and it's not like she's done something wrong but like you just you evolve everything flows and it's all good it's all good vibes you know yeah but to me like chris is who she is and she has been forever so like i'm going chris but i also could like if kim dated someone like interesting to me right now it could change every it could bust a case wide open it's true and instead she's not she needs to just do something different and date like someone ugly and poor no no i sure but like also a celebrity even when she's eating pete davidson that was so interesting yeah something different so buzzy yeah and i'm open it's it'll be hard for though even she was dating like tom brady i'd be like yawn agreed um i'll have to noodle on it yeah noodle um let's do deer toasters which is brought to you buy Taylor Farms chopped salad kits. 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And we try to give, you know, our tough love old Jewish mother advice. OK, if you want to write in our email is deartosters at gmail dot com or you can head over to our website, the toast podcast dot com. Scroll down a little submission box. Both are totally anonymous. We'll never blow up your spot. We don't use real names or things of that nature. Hello, swirlies. I recently found out that my boyfriend's family created a separate group chat without me, but included the other brother's girlfriend. Am I wrong for feeling upset that he didn't tell me and that he never asked anyone in his family why the new chat was created without me? I'm newer to the family and I'm trying to be understanding, but it makes me sad to think that he didn't even question it when the new chat was made or give me a heads up about it. By the way, his mom is the one who added me to the original chat, not him. Okay, I don't think this is a big deal. I think there are a lot of permutations of chat and whichever chat pops off, just speaks to the nature of the people in the chat, but there's no reason why that chat should be more vibrant than the chat that you're in. And if you want to be involved in more chat things, then write in the chat you're in and make that the one. Sure. I also think it's just like simply a seniority thing, like family chats. Like, I don't know how serious people take it, but like you really only get added when you're like, and you said that this girlfriend has been with the brother longer than you. So I just feel like maybe your time's not in yet. And like, it's actually nice that they have a chat with you. But the OG family chat, like you're not, you haven't sort of been there long enough to be a part of and your boyfriend not telling you like i i want to say one he's a man he probably didn't like notice or really care and two like it was probably more in service of your feelings why do you need to know about a chat that you're not in yeah i agree and you are in a chat right and there are just like a lot normalized having like all different combinations of chats without this person without because what's worse than like being in a chat that doesn't apply to you right this is so kardashians like talking about the chats but we have so many chats and like some i guess someone could be like oh my god how am i not in that chat well it's like it doesn't hurt it doesn't apply to you it doesn't apply to you and the one that applies to you you are in there is a version that applies to you yeah i think you're like looking way too much into the chat i'm trying to think like you guys get married and everything you will be in this chat forever like it's it's all coming like you don't need to rush this stuff yeah i agree um and i certainly wouldn't be mad at your boyfriend like there are definitely things like you should be mad at him for i'm sure like he didn't take out the garbage but like this is really not one of them no it's so important to pick our battles yeah i agree and like this comes in time like i feel like people in i don't know how long you've been dating for but i feel like people just like think that they are owed this just by dating like no all of it first of all it unfolds organically when you are needed when they're going on a trip and let's have a chat like did he sing you can't just be like put me in the chat like yeah it no whenever when there's a group photo you want to send it to everyone then all of a sudden we have a chat like let the chips fall where they may let the chats fall where they may don't force it it will happen organically and then continue on this path if you like force it and they put you in and then it's like no one's gonna write in the chat because like it's just awkward and like yeah you're there are things that's just not for everyone not for everyone all the time like you will get there and then soon you'll be in the chat and they don't stop writing and you're like get me out of the chat so just accept where you are right this next one felt like deeply personal oh hello is this postpartum rage or am I justified which could be a whole new segment I just want to say because nobody talks about postpartum rage I actually had a lot of pregnancy rage too people talk a lot about like the different emotions like a lot of people get like very emotional very sad or whatever I experienced mostly rage fiery passionate rage about mostly directed at bed I'm a new mom and I love my husband I've never he's never given me a reason to question him after numerous asks to throw away his vape because we have a daughter now and swearing that he was done I caught him on the security camera using one again when i confronted him he completely lied a little too well and only when i confessed that i watched him on the camera did he slowly then start to admit to it saying that he lied because he knew that i didn't like the vape is this shady am i being hormonal like what is the proper reaction so to me sitting here having no personal stake in it this like doesn't sound like a huge deal however to you there have been multiple crimes committed here that have to do with your daughter's health your partner's health lying trust betrayal all of this while you are in a very fragile state so i understand for you dear reader why you're seeing red and i'm not going to stop you and i am coming at this as a former vape addict just to perhaps like color the situation a little bit like i want to assume that he's trying his best it's so hard might i recommend quit with jones um i don't think like you should reprimand him no i i'm putting myself in her shoes i'm irate i actually just been pregnant for 10 months i've just given birth perhaps i'm breastfeeding i'm giving everything i have to our child you can't stop vaping for one minute and then you would lie to my face the woman who birthed your oh oh i'm sick yeah i'm sick it's not about the vape no i do sympathize the fact that you can't make one small change yeah when i change everything yeah about myself my body no you're right my mind sorry not me taking the side of the husband no like that's what i mean when i sit here i'm like from the outside i'm like oh he vaped whatever but like no no no when i'm in that bed i'm holding that baby and i see my husband right on the camera oh i'm sick and of course like it does make me question like the obsession with putting this phallic like thing in his mouth like perhaps he's gay like you can't stop sucking on the vape well maybe that explains some other things i'm mad for you like yeah no you're you're the more jackie's right like you're entitled to be enraged. It's not a big deal, though. And don't let this steal your joy. No, this is such a joyful time. But this is the exact sort of thing that just like gets a postpartum woman riled up. Because like, when we've done what we've done, you really have to do everything. You have no excuse to step out of line when we've done what we've done, considering what we have done and what we will do and what we are doing and what we will continue to do. Mind you, there's no excuse. Yeah. And also send him quit with jones we have a we have a code it's not about the no like now you have to find a solution for him respect yeah and the refusal to change and improve yeah when i've done what i've done it's true it's really beautiful okay ready for our next to third and final my husband wants to quit his very well-paying job his boss is very toxic and my husband is very miserable the problem is he doesn't really have a backup plan he wants to freelance he's confident that he'll make even more money than he does now in his field by freelancing and he will have much more freedom and flexibility he doesn't want to wait to find a backup plan he's so over it and ready to use our emergency savings in the interim also this is not the first time he's gotten really sick of a job because of a terrible boss our corporate boss is usually terrible managers or is my husband the problem um it's very possible like your husband has had multiple toxic bosses like i would like to know how many is it like every single one because then it's like yeah you're the problem but the thing is like I don't really care um one thing about me like my toxic traditionalist comes out in dear toasters I'm like I'm sorry this man is a provider that's his literally job um and his boss is toxic what are you a girl like figure it out yeah I like I literally don't care about his happiness and if he wants to quit and be a freelancer like he now needs to spend the next six months to a year building a freelance business seeing like you can't just like figure it out like i'm sorry you're a man no there's like bills to pay while you're figuring jackie like if he had this sort of side hustle that he thought he could take full-time like there was a little bit of infrastructure there i would say you know what maybe he could take a little bit and like you never like quit your full-time job until your side hustle eclipses that that's my biggest issue with shark tank they always get mad at people who have like full-time jobs like sorry i have a family yeah like i hate that shit like toxic entrepreneur culture no like you can build your side hustle till it's at a point where you think if you then had you know x more hours in the day you could really crush it like a little bit of a risk a jump there having nothing like what are you like a 17 year old girl like yeah no no sorry i say fuck no i don't even care if he's the toxic one maybe he is maybe he isn't sorry you have to go to work no someone who has like an issue with at every workplace like they are the problem but she said only like this one and the one before so like maybe it definitely could be a coincidence and there are a lot of corporate bosses and managers who are just like so high on their own supply like there should be a study as like why people come the worst versions of themselves when they get like a little bit of power in the corporate office like that's totally real yeah that's totally real it is but you go you do your thing you come home and if you don't like it work out you have to have a plan b like before nights and weekends ditch plan a nights and motherfucking weekends that cool not cool and like i hate to get to like the breakup with your boyfriend thing but like is it a boyfriend it's a husband i don't know like a husband who's not eager to provide like it sounds like he thinks he's eager to provide because he's going to go do he's not saying like i'm who's so risky like that to me but this is like pompous to think oh i'll just consult what if i just consulted it's like not yeah this is definitely like a personal thing like i'm aware of my own like things that i really value are like stability i don't like to take risks especially when it comes to money and like i think a home needs to be like a stable and if your job is boring and unfulfilling you're like that's just too fucking bad yeah um but that's that's i'm not saying that's the right way to be that's how i think things should be so are you this like sort of willy-nilly freelance like flower hair in the wind type of gal or do you also sort of value those pillars of stability yeah um and security because if that's the case like maybe it's not a match i think he needs to establish like proof of concept before he can obviously quit his job like as as a man quitting a job and like going out on your own is such a big thing um and i think more more precautions need to be put into place great thank you to everybody who wrote in that's dear toasters our weekly advice segment and that is also our show the super bowl uh sequel title sequel i love that yeah i just literally just came to me oh it's so that's my creative i love when in the 11th hour when it just comes to us because i was thinking like what the fuck are you in a super bowl turdys version Right. 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