You need to pinch me. It is hard to believe. 2026 is here. Ready or not, 2026 is here. A new year stands before us. Quiet, shimmering, full of unwritten stories. And the world celebrates change loudly. Oh friends, they are celebrating it. Loudly. But legacy forms softly, quietly. Not in the noise, not in the rush. In the return of you. You are coming back to life. The small moments that you repeat today become the big moments your children will recall tomorrow. Those beautiful, small moments that may not seem like much to you now. But those are the moments that we remember when we were children, don't we? That's what we're talking about. Not the perfect moments, but the present ones. In this episode, this is where excitement matures into stewardship. And where leadership turns towards the smallest boardroom you will ever lead. Your kitchen table. In your car. The little car seats in the back. Your child's bedside. Because legacy isn't what your children discover about you someday. It's what they watch you practice every day with them and with your spouse. Welcome to the final episode of this special New Year's mini series. And it is a good one. Get ready. Let's go. Uh, no. Ooh, that's better, right, Beth? Yeah! Yeah. She founded an architectural concrete company. He founded a hundred million dollar clothing company. She took the world by storm as a social media star. He took the world by storm as a famous serial entrepreneur. Together we started a business. And had babies. We're figuring out the best ways to do both. Join us as we learn from other entrepreneurs going through the same life struggles. As they share their life hacks about success, love, kids. And everything in between. Hello, my friend. Welcome back to Becoming Unshakable, the Legacy Conversations bonus series. Presented and brought to you by the Entrepreneur Parents Podcast. I'm your host, your friend, Ilico Ferenzi. Last episode, we explored courage in your blueprint. The one that you can lean on all year long. And before that, we did the 48 hour challenge. We pushed ourselves, didn't we? And today we close this mini series differently with a steadying truth. Legacy doesn't collapse under pressure when your family is part of the foundation. You are here because your heart recognized the deeper calling to build life with your children in view. Not behind your pursuit. Listen to this verse. Okay, we came up with it with the community and it is perfect for this episode. It really is. Deuteronomy chapter six verse six and seven. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road. And when you lie down and when you get up. So this scripture is teaching us something powerful about Legacy in the home. When it says keep these commandments on your heart. It's telling us God wants his word to live inside you first. Not just on Sundays, but in your daily life. And when it says impress them on your children, it means teach your children about God, not just with words, but with repeated moments they can see and feel. When it says talk about them when you sit at home, think of it like this at breakfast after school or around the dinner table. Those prayers, the conversations in those ordinary moments are where faith becomes family culture. When it says when it says when you walk along the road. That's that's your drive time. When you take a walk, sure, but we're in the car lot on the bus, perhaps on a walk to the park in the park. Those are the moments to ask, listen and speak purpose into your children. And it when it's and when it says lie down. And when you get up, you know what that is. That's your morning, your bedtime rhythms. When you pray over them, remind them who God made them to be and say thank you to God together before the day begins. And before sleep takes them. This tells us faith is not meant to be occasional. It's meant to be rhythmic. Legacy grows in the everyday moments you already have. You disciple your children in the ordinary overlaps of life and your home becomes the first place you're calling lands, not the last place it completes. So let's let's talk about how legacy actually takes root, not in spoken intensity, but inconsistency your family can feel their fists. They explain it like this, children don't remember everyday conversation, but they are shaped by the pattern of connection you repeat. Right. I mean, it's very obvious even for us as adults or even if we think back about children, we don't really remember the words, but we definitely remember how people made us feel. Right. We may not even remember what the fight is about, but we remember the feeling and what happened. So the small moments when protected and practiced, it becomes the infrastructure of emotional security. In every example. And research confirms when parents treat connection as a daily ritual. Repeated children grow in emotional regulation, confidence and relational stability. That is so important. You need to be able to work things out. I'm talking about other things too. You need to be able to fight beautifully. You know what I mean? You need to work it out. We're not always going to see eye to eye. They need to see you be strong in faith. Don't tell them to get off the phone if you're always on the phone. And you have to live by example. A legacy is built through repetition of presence. Are you present? Children inherit calm leadership when stress is narrated with honesty. You have to be honest. Marriages grow stronger when family connection is treated as a shared purpose. Not sacrificed in competition. Or not only what is it called? Not the one-sided, the default parent where they do everything. The marriage is going to grow stronger when you do things together. Here are the three moments that quietly transform families. One, there's the morning anchor where identity is spoken over your children before distraction competes for their attention. Because distraction comes all day long. So get that moment in. Number two, the table anchor where connection is invited, not rushed. You could take your time there. And then, so that's at dinner time. That's what I mean. A dinner time, lunch time, breakfast. Then there's the night anchor. That's number three where gratitude and peace come before your family's final imprint of the day. I would never miss these moments with my babies. Nothing or no one can make me miss it. It's everything. It's everything to us. We love these moments. And you don't need a perfect delivery in these moments. You need the predictable presence with them. Prayer, gratitude. That predictability becomes their emotional safety. That's the emotional safety for children. And shared meaning for the marriage. Right? And here's the beautiful thing. When your home becomes the headquarters of connection, connection, ambition no longer pulls you apart. It gives your family something to build with you, with you, not wait for you. You build together. So I want to take a minute to invite you to grab your journals. You can pause this, grab your journal, put it in your notes or just snapshot where we are in the episode. Snapshot the time and then you can come back here for later. You can save it for later. But let's start with these three invi- I want to invite you to write down these prompts. So number one, what emotional tone am I repeating most often in my home? What is the emotional tone? I am repeating most often in my home. What does that look like? Number two, what does connection look like through the eyes of my children? This is very important. Not what you think connection looks like, but what your children see you. How do your children see you connecting? 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And what daily family ritual will matter a decade from now? What is that daily thing that you do? It could be several times a day because I have several things that I do with my babies. Close your journal, take a breath. I know that was powerful. Perhaps it was painful. Perhaps it confirmed joy. Maybe you're happy with the way that you're doing things. If it made your heart crack, feel sad a little. That just means it's time for change. We're not punishing anyone. The beautiful thing about these conversations is that it stirs something within you to either confirm, yes, I like the way that I'm doing things, or you know what, it's time for change. It is time for change. And with 2026, it's the new year. I think we can all squeeze some kind of change in there to better ourselves. I think so. I mean, that's for me and my community. We want to be the best that we can be. We get one shot at this life. Darling, darlings, we get one shot at this life. Okay? So we may have to weave in and make some, we have to make some changes. I'm going to say I need to make some changes. So legacy doesn't need more words right now. Legacy needs the right moments repeated faithfully telling you it doesn't matter what you say. This is the first thing I want to teach my daughter, my son. It doesn't matter what anybody says. What are their actions? What are their actions? How do they treat you? They can say they love you all they want, but how do they treat you? What are their actions? Okay. If we teach our children the utmost love and respect, they're never ever going to lean on a cheap form of that. Okay. They're never ever going to have to beg someone to love them, to consider their feelings, to care about them because one red flag and they know that this person isn't the one. Right? We all want a happy, beautiful life for our children and we need to start training them now on what to expect. They need to know who and whose they are. They need to build the strongest relationship with their father in heaven and that's the only, they don't need to accept what anybody else thinks of them. They know. They know they are more precious than jewels and that starts at home. How are you treating your spouse? Scary part is that they are going to go out there and look for that same relationship, whether you like it or not. So you need to make a change. You need to think about these things. My earliest lessons in leadership, it didn't come from a stage or a spotlight or what is it, Ted Talk. They came from a small jewelry counter in Canada where my mother ran her businesses and raised us in the middle of it. Sometimes it was at one point it was an antique counter or antique shop and it was a jewelry counter. I was in a baby basket in a gas station when I was a baby. Behind the counter. It was always somewhere near a counter somewhere. In a transmission shop. Sorry. They're good memories. I'm laughing because I loved it. I loved it. She built her future. Never outside of ours. I watched her praise gemstones, give quotes, broker antique deals, study real estate opportunities and pray before every decision that carried weight. When there was something big, we would all pray as a family. I could hear her praying in her room in the morning and then we would pray together. She would always pray, always praying. And when pressure hit our family, illness, loss, financial strain, exhaustion, whatever it was, she never hid the turbulence. She modeled how to stand steady inside of it. She would gather us close. She would get down at knee level when she needed to when we were really young. She would always look us in the eyes, give us full connection and remind us that the problems are temporary. The courage you carry through them becomes generational. And it did. I still remember it to this day. My kids know how she handled it. Through her and through me. She lived that rhythm faithfully. When an investment succeeded, when something good went through, we celebrated as a team. When a challenge passed, something hard, we got over something hard. We marked it not with relief, but with intention, celebration, family trips every single year. Laughter around new tables. Memories built with purpose. Gratitude spoken out loud. Always gratitude. Always gratitude. Always inviting God in. God, it's in your hands. God, this is in your hands. God, we are in your hands. And remember her saying that so clearly. So clearly. I'm getting emotional. Woo. Ha. And one evening when I had grown into motherhood myself, she was encouraging a dear friend who whispered through tears. I just want my kids to know they are the greatest blessing in my life. I wouldn't want to do this without them. I want them to know how much I love them. My mom smiled gently and said, you can with this one powerful lesson. Love is spell T I M E. Children want your time. Nothing else. Nothing else matters. They'll forget about the gifts and the toys and the things, but they'll always remember the time that you poured into them. She explained children feel loved when presence replaces the distraction. I'm talking about the gifts or the grand things, the distractions when they are listened to, included and spoken over with a belief. Not just talk to, but really connected with, really assured that they are so special that you believe in them. And in that quiet conversation, something shifted in me. Because the truth is that friend, she was coaching and lifting up to rise. That was me. She was talking to me. She was talking to me. I was tired over thinking every choice questioning my voice. And she didn't give me criticism. She gave me, she gave me clarity. She looked at me with a mother's tenderness and said, you know, you'll be called legacy is not built. In your loudest moments or in success alone. She knew I was always this go getter always trying to succeed and grind, grind. Just always, always trying to win. She said it's built in the moments that you choose again and again with your family, your children. And suddenly it all made sense. I mean, it always, I always knew it. I always knew it, but it made sense. It just shifted in a different way within me that that was why she built the businesses with us, not away from us. She didn't leave us with babysitters. She didn't leave us with nannies. She didn't leave us with strangers. She built the businesses with us by her side since we were babies. That was why prayer happened every day with us, not just in emergencies. Not just in emergencies, not just when we needed something. It was every day gratitude. Talking to our father in heaven. That was why every idea, every investment, every risk and every win carried our fingertips, our fingerprints. Our fingerprints is the word I'm looking for. It's why every win carried our fingerprints too because our fingers were in there with hers. We were working together with our hands, all of us. Our fingerprints were all over it. This legacy isn't the reward at the end of the story. Legacy is the foundation beneath it. And now I parent the same way. I include Daniel and Destiny, not to pressure them, not to show them hard work is important. It is, but to impart identity in them, to let them witness courage, to hear the mission from my mouth and inherit a calling rooted at home first. So psychology and scripture agree on this truth. Children develop emotional stability through consistent connection with their caregivers, parents. Leadership is absorbed by what they repeatedly observe, not only what they are told. It's what they observe. It's what they see. That's what they soak into themselves. That's what they're marinated in. Marriage is, are strengthened when families build shared meaning, shared mission, and shared presence into daily life. Science and faith harmonize beautifully. Families thrive when presence becomes a practiced rhythm, not a passing moment, not something just talked about. Legacy is, legacy is what is repeated, what is modeled, what is spoken, what is spoken at sunrise and again before sleep. For us, this is, this is prayer, gratitude, affirmations, not woo woo affirmations over them, but what God says about them, who God says they are, who they are and who's they are. Like I said before, like I always say, who and who's they are, because someday someone's going to come at them and say something ugly or terrible or that, I don't know, who knows. Something awful, something awful about their character, about their personality. But you know what? It just rolls off. It may be painful because it's someone they cared about, but they know that the truth is who their father in heaven says they are. So they could be called anything. They could be called anything and it doesn't matter. So that's why we have to shield them in this armor, protect them in this armor, because one day what if someone says something ugly, like you're a waste of skin or you're, you're a what, who knows what will come at them, but they have to punch that off of them. They have the armor of God on them. I'm very passionate about this. I hope you can tell. Okay. And you should be too. And none of this is reserved. None of this is a gift reserved for some day. It is a rhythm that we have to practice with them today right now. That is how legacy lives. That is how love leads. And that is how families rise together. Therapists identify a core principle that aligns beautifully with scripture. Children absorb emotional energy management through repeated family interaction patterns. This is what we're talking about. This is exactly what we're talking about. And there's the backup. This tells us your kids learn how to handle pressure by watching how you handle it at home. We mentioned that earlier. Leadership identity grows when children witness that honesty, calm decision making and togetherness. That is the important things. That is the important things. Marriage is deep, deep in when purpose is integrated into family storytelling and not treated as a solo pursuit. That is so important. That's why my mother included us always. And we won together. We celebrated together and we overcame obstacles. We had some very hard times in our life. I lost my brother. She lost a son. Nothing is harder than that. Losing a child. And there was no red flag, no warning. He was such a good boy. I talk about this all the time. Such a good boy. He went to go get a secondary job that my mom begged him not to do because she wanted him to work in the jewelry store. He wanted to support himself through university to become an attorney. He didn't want it to come from the store. He didn't want to take food off the table. He didn't drink alcohol. He didn't do the D word. He didn't do any of that stuff. He wanted to help his little sister and his mom by not taking money away from the family. And he went to go get a construction job. And there was an accident. There was an accident 22 days before Christmas. And we lost them. We went through some very hard things, but we overcame them. It still hurts today. Those that are grieving, it doesn't matter what you're grieving. I mean, what your situation is of grief. Grief is hard and it doesn't go away. It will last a lifetime. But you have to be able to. Sometimes you're going to sink. Depression, it's going to come. But you have to be able to push back off once you reach the bottom. You have to be able to push back and rise to the top. You have to be able to rise again. And that is something that has learned. We're going to have a grief episode sometime soon in the new year. I know a lot of people had a hard time. A lot of parents losing children this year. My perk, I was that to all of you guys, I know what that's like. So, okay, getting back to it. I wanted to share that there's a complimentary clinical truth that I wanted to share with you guys. A parent who consistently engages emotionally in those small moments, builds a child who engages confidently in the big moments later. So that's so important. That is so, so important. Just remember friends, legacy is not inherited. It is observed and absorbed. Just remember that you can write that down. And with that, we're getting close to the end of this very important, preciously important episode. And one more legacy moment worth mentioning. Daniel and Destiny are practicing what we're teaching, what we're all pursuing in our community. They're showing up faithfully to build something for other children too. They are funding their own show. Entrepreneur Kids Legacy Show with courage and commitment that inspires me. It inspires our whole community. They are working so hard. It's such a privilege for all of us to watch them pour into the show. And all of you that listen to it, their voices have, their voices have planted, if their voices have planted something, something strong in your home. That's what I'm trying to say. If they've ever planted something strong in your home, consider planting a gift back into their mission. And you can support them at buymeacoffee.com backslash entrepreneurkids. They'd be so happy and they'd be so, they'd be so grateful. I know that. And I'd like to, I'd like to invite you to take accountability today to share one moment you fiercely protect with your children. Open your Instagram stories, tag us at entrepreneur parents podcast. Tag me personally. You'll find my links down below in the show notes. It would be an honor to stand in agreement and pray over your family's brave steps. You can use a hashtag becoming unshakable or entrepreneur parents and add a line, add a line claiming it. This is my legacy moment or I choose presence. Or I choose family. And then hit share done. You're done. You're done. You've taken accountability. Sometimes we don't have accountability partners. And I've had people come to me. Can you pray over this for me? Can I share this with you? I love it. I love it. I am here. I am here and I will stand in agreement with you. And I will definitely pray over you and your family. Legacy leaders are not measured by a life without fear. They are measured by a life that refuses to abandon the assignment at home first with their family. Your children don't need the most successful parent in the world. Okay. They don't need to see you in the spotlight. Okay. They need the present one, the most present one. And as I said, you can include them just like we do that presence that just like my mother did that presence will become the story they repeat. That repetition becomes the legacy that lasts. I'm sure you have moments that you repeat that you've taken from your childhood. And that legacy lives on in your home. Or perhaps there's something that you wanted to break the chain on. That's powerful too. Friends, may your home become the safest, the safest place for your purpose to land. And may your family feel heaven in your rhythms. And may your story, your children repeat one day, be marked by your presence, not your absence. Lead the story your family will inherit one day. God bless you, my friend. Have an incredible week. God bless you always. God bless you and your family and glory to God always. I love you. Thank you for joining me today. I truly, truly, I am so proud of all of you, each and every one of you. I love you. And I'm so proud of you. And if someone hasn't told you today, this is especially for the mamas, you're doing an incredible job. You're doing an incredible job. I know you are because you are here trying to better yourself. I love you. God bless you. Thank you, beautiful friends, for listening to this important message from Mama. There is someone you love and care about. Oh, and we'd love to personally invite you to listen to our podcast. It's for young future leaders ready to change the world and be a light in the dark. Listen together as a family. It's called the Arsenal Kids Legacy Show. We know you'll love it. Be bold. Be kind. Build an unforgettable family legacy. God bless you. We love you. And parents, if no one told you yet, let us be the first. You're doing a remarkable job. And remember, you are the hero of your story because every legacy begins with a hero. And that hero is you. This podcast is for inspirational and educational purposes only, and it is not intended to replace professional advice, legal advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The views expressed are based on personal experience and faith-based insight and are meant to encourage reflection and growth. Always seek the guidance of qualified professionals regarding any questions or concerns you may have about your health, relationships, or business.
