BRAVO’s Summer House: The Real Villain Isn’t Who You Think

Hello, good afternoon, and good morning. I'm LaKendra Tooks, and it is time for Tooks Takes. Now, I know what you all are thinking, Ken's Deck Crew. Did LaKendra get a new house? Did she decorate? No, you guys, I'm at my parents' house. I actually came to visit my parents in Knoxville, Tennessee for Easter. I spent Easter with my family, and we had a great time together, and this is my parents' beautiful home. One of these days, I would give you guys a tour. My mother is an incredible interior decorator. Honestly, my mom should be an interior decorator. When I do get a house, she's going to be my interior decorator. She's just so good at it. All my life, everywhere we've lived, ever since I was a little baby girl, no matter whether we were living in an apartment, a trailer, on the base, in a house, my mother always made sure that our home was beautiful, beautifully decorated. And of course, my parents are now empty nesters. they are living in actually this is my dream home I don't know if this is necessarily their dream home this is the house that I always dreamed of living in when I was a little girl I would see people on on tv living in a house like this and this is the house I always wanted and honestly it's just a blessing it's just a testament to God's blessings and hard work and what it will get you someday and I'm so proud of my parents and I've had a blast being there with them but guess what? I am a working woman. I am a working girl, just like Melanie Griffith in that movie. And the show must go on. So I am bringing you Took's Takes from Tennessee today from the Took's home, Casa de Took's. We are here for Took's Takes. And let me tell you, we got a lot to talk about today because, whoa, there's, we had a big, big bombshell story in the Bravo-verse to the point where I know the Real Housewives of Rhode Island premiered. We've got a lot going on in the Bravoverse right now, but for me right now, there's really just like, all I can think about is Summer House. And here's the kicker. The gag is, I don't even watch Summer House. But all I can think about right now is Summer House. All I can think about right now is this, is it a love triangle? Is it a lust triangle? It's a messed up triangle. between my girl Sierra, Amanda Batchelor, and that guy. I don't even want to say West, whatever, West, East, North, South, whatever his name is, we don't really care about him, okay? Because he's a guy, we already knew what was up with him, we already knew he was a little bit of an F boy. People are saying, well, La Kendra, La Kendra, oh my goodness, not La Kendra, Sierra. People are saying, well, Sierra doesn't even care about West. What's the big deal? They didn't date that seriously, and it's been two years. I don't care when you're friends. People who say that, I'm like, do you have friends? Maybe you don't have friends. Maybe you don't even watch friends. Maybe you don't even know what a friend is. But like, it's not about him. It is not about East, West, North, South. It's about Amanda Batchelor acting like a spatula and flipping on her friend. That is the part that's not cool. West, who cares? He can stay West. We don't care about him. What I care about is girl code. I am a girl's girl through and through. Y'all know me. I care about God, the girls, and the gays. That's what I care about. I'm God, girls, gays, period, okay? So I'm looking at this from the standpoint of somebody who is a girl's girl, as somebody who has a lot of good girlfriends that I love, okay? Though other girls that are like me, you're single, We're in the same age group. You're single. You're not married yet. You don't have children yet. You know, I have a beautiful, amazing family that I love so much. I'm very blessed. But I have really good friends that I also consider to be part of my family. I have really good girlfriends that my children will be calling auntie one day. I have really fabulous gay friends that my children will be calling not uncle, uncle. Okay, we're not. This is not a game. This is real. Okay, the people in my life, they are a part of my family. And the idea of betraying one of my good girlfriends over some stupid, dumb, smelly, broke man, especially one who's definitely been around the blocker time or two, like that would never even enter my brain ever. My good girlfriends know. Okay. And my besties, y'all know who you are and you're watching right now. Okay. Y'all know my, my one, I got a couple of bestie groups. So I also have my my blendian tribe okay and so in my blendian tribe one of my good girlfriends I'm not gonna put her on blast but she know who she is we ran into her ex at a party and when I tell you baby I could not even say hello I could not even I'm I don't because I don't want to say hello I don't want to say hey how are you I don't care how he is I hope he's not doing well he does not deserve to be doing well because he mistreated my friend what do I look like even sharing pleasantries with somebody who mistreated my friend. I don't get hood often, but if you want to see the hood come out, if you want to see me take off these earrings, slather some coconut oil on my face and be ready to get it crackle-lacking, you F with somebody I love. I don't play that. Don't F with my family. Don't F with my friends. You can F with me if you want to. And I'm still going to go toe-to-toe with you, but I'm going to go toe-to-toe with you even harder if you F with somebody I love. I don't play those games. And to me, that is the real crime here. I'm actually not mad at the guy. The guy is just being a guy. And a guy is going to be a guy. I don't care who he is. The only guy who you can really depend on is Jesus. And hallelujah to Jesus. We just celebrated Resurrection Sunday. Really the only, if you got Jesus, you got one man that you can depend on. Okay. So if you got Jesus, if you have a good dad in your life that you can depend on, that's a huge blessing too. and those of us who have amazing parents, we definitely take that for granted. There's a lot of people out there who don't even have good parents that they can depend on. So if you got Jesus, you got good parents, you got family, you got friends, you are so blessed. So if on top of that, you can find a man outside of your daddy and Jesus that you can love and trust and that cares about you and only wants to love and take care of you, that is quite the blessing. And I do pray that for all us girls and gays because we deserve that, okay? so I want to talk about the bachelor betrayal because is this Scandaval this is a little bit different than Scandaval because I remember when the whole Scandaval thing was happening um I re okay Vanderpump Rules I watched Vanderpump Rules but I wasn't like fully committed to Vanderpump Rules I have a thing sometimes where I just like I don't like sometimes y'all and this is gonna sound so boomy but sometimes I don't like young people that's why I couldn't watch love islands like too many young people in bikinis and having to wear a microphone around their neck like I'm just not like that's just like not my vibe like I like to see I like the housewives okay the scandal stuff to me was very diabolical on the part of both both the toms tom tom and rachel raquel I thought that was so messed up I thought oh my gosh like who does that and And then I was watching it back after the fact. And Ariana used to go so hard for Raquel in a way to me that felt like, I don't know. I felt like Ariana and Raquel were more like, you know, big sis, little sis. Like I didn't really get like bestie vibes from them. And again, I am saying this as somebody who doesn't religiously watch Summer House. I remember because Summer House has been on for several seasons. Like, I mean, let me, even though I don't watch Summer House, Clearly, this is a show that people love and people enjoy. It has been on for several seasons. Now, although I haven't religiously watched it, I will say I did watch not this past season, but the season before. I watched the season before because I did want to watch the breakdown of the relationship between Carl and Lindsay. So I did watch the season where they broke off their engagement. I watched that. Now, that's how I am sometime. I'm very sometime in about some of these shows. I guess I'm a I'm sometime summer house because if there's a scandal going on like I'll probably start I'll probably go back and watch this season now have I watched a single episode from this season so far no but I am of course like you know hello I'm still I'm here I may not watch a show but I still know what's going on I still see people's clips like I I know what's going on okay and I did like I said y'all I did watch the previous season where uh West and Sierra get together. And I remember West kind of pursuing Sierra and her being like, I don't know, I don't know. And I feel like he really pursued her. I do believe he pretended to like her. Did he pretend to like her just to get in her pants? Maybe. And so really what I want to talk about right now, because I'm a girl's girl, not only am I a girl's girl, I'm a black girl. I'm melanated. so I always see things through these beautiful brown eyes of mine I can't help but see things that way and for anybody who's rolling their eyes and saying why does everything have to be about race well when you're not white sadly everything's about race sadly I don't want everything to be about race I don't want anything to be about race unless it's like celebrating our cultures and celebrating our differences. That's really the only thing I'm interested in. I love being a part of a diverse friend group just so I can have access to different foods. To me, if you are a racist, you don't get to eat any good food. To me, if you're racist, not only are you not invited to the cookout, you're not invited to the fiesta. You're not even invited to the s'morius board if you're racist. To me, if you're racist, you need to sit over there with your unseasoned chicken and that's what you get to eat. You don't get to have guacamole if you've ever said build that wall. If you think what ICE is doing right now is okay, I'm sorry, no tacos for you, no guacamole for you. You don't even deserve to eat at Chipotle, okay? So I love diversity. I love learning about other people's cultures. I love learning about other people's religions. I love going to my different friends' families' homes for dinner. I love seeing how other people live. I'm a very curious, inquisitive, some may call it nosy person. So I've always had a very diverse friend group. Also, I'm a military kid. any of my fellow military kids know on the on the base it's very diverse like when I was a kid I truly never dealt with any racism I really didn't I the first time I went to school off base well not racism but I would deal with people it'd be your own family it was my own family constantly telling me you talk like a white girl fast forward to today all their kids talk just like me all their kids so funny my my cousin hey cookie my cousin she's my double cousin so I could talk about her she used to make fun of me all the time but you know we were kids it was all like light-hearted they were all my cousins would make fun of me actually let me not just all my cousins would make fun of me they would make fun of the way I talk and they would make fun of the fact that I talk a lot well I used to say even as a kid one day people are gonna pay me to talk and they do I manifested that for myself but anyway it's so funny now all my cousins used to make fun of me and all of their kids are so proper like you would not like just hearing them talk they might have a little bit of a southern accent a little hint of it but you would not think that these children are from small towns in Georgia they're all so smart so intelligent so well spoken just like their auntie kin they get it from me but anyway I saw growing up I've always been very like aware that I'm black and those are white people. And I, of course, I know the history in the United States. Like if you're going to pretend to not know the history of the United States, I just think that is a mistake on your part, because I feel like this current administration wants to try to wipe things away and say, oh, no, no, no, it wasn't really that bad. And oh, oh, no, no, no, you know, slavery wasn't that bad. No, it was terrible. It was really, really terrible. And of course, things that happened then are still affecting us today. How could it not? You know, that is just, listen, okay, I, here in the United States of America in 2026, I myself as a black woman, is there anything that even a white man can accomplish or achieve that I can't? No. I have freedom. I have rights. I can do anything. I can get an education. I could be the president. Maybe one day I will. But the one thing the one when I think about this and I like what is the one thing a white person can do that I as a black person can do That is be white And honestly, that's enough. Like, that's what the white privilege is. You know, when people are like, well, I don't get special treatment because I'm white. Also, you don't lose access to things because you're white. Also, neither did your ancestors. You know, the things that I can do today, and it's things that I think a lot of us take for granted, us black people, you know, I took it for granted. I remember being in college, and it didn't really dawn on me that, you know, 50, 60 years prior at the University of Florida, black students were not allowed to attend the University of Florida. That wasn't that long ago. And yet there I was. So for me, when I think about all my big dreams, and I don't want to get emotional, but when I think about all the things that I want to accomplish in my life, I can't think about that without thinking about my grandmother, without thinking about my great grandmothers, because I have to think about, I have to do, I have a, I have a responsibility to achieve everything that they couldn't achieve based on them just being born in not the best time for black people in America, you know? And of course, I think it's important to think about how just because like, you know, today, yes, I have rights to, I have access, I have freedom, I have rights to everything. Today, it's not fair to not consider how things that happened 100 years ago can still affect us today. Absolutely, it does. for instance if you have a history of a particular illness in your family it could still affect you today if you have a history of diabetes cancer whatever it may be it could still affect you today if your great great grandmother had an ailment maybe your great grandmother didn't get it but your grandmother got it and maybe your mom didn't get it but you got it so these things i mean it just makes sense that like of course something that happened you know a couple hundred years ago or however long ago, it's still going to be affecting us today. And the reason it's still affecting us today is because a lot of people don't want to acknowledge what happened then. You know, it's like if you don't know your history, you're bound to repeat it in a bad way, you know? So I think it's important to listen. Let me say this too, to my white people, because I know the Kinsey crew, we're very diverse. That's what my auntie army, we are very diverse. my auntie army and my niece navy hey y'all i love y'all we are very diverse and as your little black niece it is i i have to be honest okay like that's one thing here like i just want us to always be able to be honest and be able to have conversations and we're gonna laugh and we're gonna have fun but every now and then we do have to talk about important stuff and this is an important topic and this Sierra Amanda West thing. If Sierra wasn't black, then probably, yeah, then race would not be a part of this at all, you know? Or if these were three black people, race might not be a part of this at all. Or maybe, you know, and then we have our little nuances within the black community about dark skin, light skin stuff, colorism. Like there are so many layers to everything. It is not all just black and white, okay? Now for any of you who are like me and you don't watch Summer House, I'm going to just give you the quick, I'm sure you've seen it this week, but let me just give you the quick play by play. Ciara is a beautiful black girl. Absolutely gorgeous. Stunning. She's a model, but she's also a nurse. So like if all of this hits the fan and she doesn't get to and she's they're like, hey, you know, no more summer house for you. No more reality TV for you. The child has an education. OK, she can go anywhere and be a nurse. OK, she's got a career outside of this, which is very important. and I noticed a lot of, that's what I see about some of these guys on Summer House. I'm like, what you got going on outside of this? Even this guy West. That's why I'm like, honestly, girl, this is a blessing. This is a blessing. And we'll get more into the blessing of it all in my Took's Takeaway. We're gonna get to the blessing because let me tell you something. When you love the Lord, no matter what, everything is always working out for your good and for your favor. Remember that. I have to remind myself of that sometimes because I get really bummed sometimes when things don't work out. I get bummed I get depressed I get sad I say god why and it's like what if the answer is baby I got something better for you you're tripping you're tripping on those small potatoes and I got something better for you you're tripping on the pebbles and I got big old diamonds over you over here for you baby girl so we'll get to that in the tux takeaway don't you worry we're gonna get there but so we have to talk about how you know for black girls and women of color you know my Asian girls y'all know what I'm talking about my Latinas y'all know what I'm talking about all of us black and brown girls, us women of color, when we date outside of our race, when we decide to date a white guy, especially, you have to consider like, you know, does he actually like me? Does he actually care about me? Or does he just want to have an experience with me? And that is something that you have to think about. I have had many a white guy reach out to me when I it happened for the first time when I was in college, the whole, wow, you're hot for a black girl. You're hot for a black girl and I remember because I never heard that before and so I remember just being like so what does that mean does that mean when I get in a room full of white girls I'm not hot anymore because we know that's not the case so but but as black girls and as women of color that is something that we're dealing with and maybe the white girls maybe maybe white girls are dealing with it when they date outside of their race too you know maybe that's something maybe that's something on different levels that all of us women have to think about I mean we have a lot hard to think about as women it is just it's too much sometimes and it's not fair but it is it is what it is so when you've got this black girl who has been on reality tv and this is what i didn't like sierra if you're listening right now sierra and i hope you are sierra the next time we do a round of interviews my last round of interviews by the way side note okay wait y'all know y'all know i'm add and i go you know i'm like my brain's always going so let me let me just say this too. I want to thank everyone in the Kinsey crew doing my, I love interviewing people. I love it. I love interviewing people. I am nosy. The industry term for nosy would probably be curious. And the multi-syllabic term for nosy and curious would be inquisitive. And I am very inquisitive. I'm very curious about people. I like to know people's backgrounds. I like to know people's stories. So getting to interview people here on Took's Takes, I love it. It makes me so happy. I can't thank all of my interviewees. I cannot thank you enough for being willing to come and sit down and talk to me and open up to me. Our last round of interviews was so good. And I'm really excited for my next round. My next round of interviews, I really, I have this list. You know us, Archmaester Rennie, Acolyte Veronica, and Scribe Wendy. Dragoncast is now covering HBO's A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms. We'll break down every episode, the politics, and the bad decisions made in armor, from the Podcastica Network, so you never face Westeros alone. Search for Dragoncast wherever you get podcasts or go to podcastica.com. I have a list of women that I really admire and I really want to interview women that I admire and I look up to and I have my wish list and the invitations are going out and I'm hoping they all say yes and that their schedules allow because I'm really excited to sit down and talk with so many women that I admire. and it's just, I really love talking to people. I love talking to people about their background, about their childhoods, about, you know, for all my girlfriends, you know, when we're out for a birthday dinner, I love to say, okay, so tell me, when was your, what's your favorite birthday memory from childhood? I mean, I love that. I'm très nostalgic. I'm also learning how to speak French right now, but je suis très nostalgic. So I do love to take a walk down memory lane and with my interviewees, you know, they've all been so open. We've been able to talk about things. It's been really fun and it's been great for me to get to know these people that I admire. It's been so much fun for me to get to know them on a slightly more personal level and know their origin stories and know their backgrounds. That means the world to me. So thank you, Kinsey Crew, for all your love and support on our interviews. You guys, it means the world to me. And again, I don't want to get emotional, but I appreciate you all so much. Okay, back to the story because this is, again, this is not Scandaval. But I think this is, this does deserve its own cute little name. Now, I have been calling it Bachelor Betrayal. And, but I think maybe we should just start calling Amanda. We need to just call her Bachelor the Spatula because she going to flip on you. So now we know, girls, listen, when people show you who they are, we have to believe them. And that's what hurts the most about this. It's not the guy. It's the betrayal from who you thought was your good girlfriend. that is what breaks my heart for Sierra the most because we've seen her on this program get her feelings hurt and get her heart broken I mean again I don't watch the show all the time like that I'm not like invested in it but I do know that she had a thingy with Austin from Southern Charm which my first thought on that I mean I'm sorry I know looks aren't everything but they's something and I've just never thought Austin was cute so then I'm looking at Sierra who is gorgeous okay we all know she's if you have eyes you know that Sierra is gorgeous her bone structure her body her hair is perfect this girl's gorgeous okay so honestly even with with Austin with West I'm like baby why are you why are you dating beneath yourself you know and and by the way we've all done it right ladies we've all done it if we go back and look at our history if we go back and look into rolodex of of exes and who we've dated and who we've we've all been there we've all did it beneath ourselves okay and i do i sometimes see and i've had this happen to me and listen any of my black girls listening right now please reach out to me and tell me your experience as well because I have had some moments where I've even had some some white guys reach out to me where I'm like are you kidding you know I mean I might not be a full 10 but I do think I'm a nine and I think I deserve minimum an eight and I've had some fives and I mean not just looks wise fives and when I'm when I'm giving these ratings, by the way, when I say that I'm a nine, this is not simply looks, I do believe I have something special that radiates from deep within me. I have a personality, I come from a great family. I think when you add it all together, baby, yeah, I'm a nine. And I've had guys and I've dated guys who are beneath me, sadly, beneath me in terms of their career beneath me in terms of how much money they make beneath me in terms of what kind of families they come from you know because I I think the bible says we should be equally yoked so it's like if I'm a nine you should be a nine too if I have all these elements that all you put it all together you you mix it up and you get your to get your La Kendra Tooks there's many elements outside of just being a cute girl and having a nice body there's many elements that make us who we are right ladies you know there's the way we were raised coming from a great family is so huge you know so and I Again, I don't know all of Sierra's family background, but I was looking at her when she was dating Austin and I was like, I don't think he's good enough for her. And I'm just looking at it. So sometimes I'm just looking, okay? I'm squinting. I'm trying to see it. I don't see it. So I didn't really see it for her in Austin. I actually, I thought it could be cute for her in West because I'm like, Sierra, if you're a white guy magnet, listen, I have a history of being a white guy magnet. I get it. but then you have to think like, why as a black girl to be thinking like, why is this guy interested in me? What does he want from me? And, and it's really hard when that is displayed on national television. And I actually really applaud Sierra. I know that they just recently had an episode where Sierra and some of the other black people that are on summer house are talking about their experience of being on a reality show as a black person And Sierra is talking about her experience of of getting into an interracial relationship on a show like this where you have a lot of people you have a lot of eyes you have a lot of opinions and then you know getting getting your feelings hurt by a guy it hurts regardless but to have it happen on a tv show especially when you add the race aspect it's really really hard so I remember thinking when Sierra was getting with Wes even though I thought they could be a cute couple in my mind I'm like girl you already went through this with Austin I don't want to see you go through this again with Wes and then seeing her at that reunion we remember this not this past season but the season before we remember at that reunion she was super sad about the way things shook out and then I know Wes did some interviews that were a little insensitive. And I, again, I don't think West is a bad guy here. I think he's just a guy. So really in this Amanda West Sierra situation, the victim is Sierra and the bad guy is Amanda, period. And if you're thinking, if you're trying to say, oh, well, Amanda was in an abusive relationship. You know, I mean, I don't know. To me, first of all, the word abuse, is that's a big word okay I don't think that word should just get thrown around there are plenty of women out here that are actually being abused that are probably like what are you guys even talking about like I'm actually being abused I'm actually stuck and I have to leave in the middle of the night with my children so I mean is Amanda somebody and I don't even know that Amanda would consider herself someone that's been abused I haven't not heard her say those words um but no matter what I don't care there's still no excuse to betray your girlfriend there's a creator a tiktoker an instagrammer a creator who started the whole you know before it was official when there were just rumors and rumblings of something going on between amanda and west this one creator i'll figure out her name later she made a video where she was saying this whole amanda west sierra situation is giving anti-black and of course there's a lot of pushback there's a lot of people they're like what does race have to do with it but again when you're black and when you're not white you do always have to consider race that is just the way it is and so then it's like it just doesn't look good you got to think about the optics of this you have this beautiful girl smart absolutely stunningly gorgeous everything is going like smart great family great home ambitious like definitely a 10 borderline on 11 and then you don't want to be with her but then you go and you link up with her friend who i'm sorry i mean she's a cute girl but to me does not hold a candle to sierra now this is no shade to amanda beautiful beautiful gowns beautiful gowns however does not hold a candle to sierra so it just doesn't look right and then it's like so then that is the question do you want to fool around with the black girl but then go be in a serious relationship with the white girl now do I think that Amanda and Wes are about to be in a serious relationship no I do not and this is why Amanda really effed up here because if you are going to try to get into a relationship with someone that your friend previously dated you need to make sure you're really the only way it's ever going to be okay first of all you got to talk to your friend about it first and foremost if you even start feeling any little hint of anything you have to talk to your friend about it first you don't let your friend find out you have to like where's it's so disrespectful amanda this is why amanda for me i don't care what she has to say about herself she's done i mean i wish her well i i hope you know i wish her well i wish everybody well you You know, I, well, just about everybody, but I wish her well. You know, this doesn't have to ruin her life. And by the way, she will be fine. Look at Raquel. Raquel's fine. She'll be fine. This will blow over. She'll be fine. So let's say you're in a situation where you have a friend and maybe you do start developing feelings or something sparks between you and your friend's ex. There's a way to do it. you go and you talk, you have to talk to your friend first. You have to talk to your friend first and separately. You don't let your friend find out about something like this. That's so messed up. And I've heard, I don't know if it's true, but the rumors, the rumor mills have been milling away that apparently, allegedly, a PI was involved and there were videos of Amanda at West's apartment. I mean, I cannot think of a worse way to find out that your friend and a guy that you liked and pretended to like you have betrayed you. I can't think of a worse way to find that out. And that really, really stinks for Ciara. And to be honest, in this whole situation, I'm sorry. Y'all can do what you want. The only person I care about in this situation is Ciara. Now, first of all, I know my girl is going to be just fine. She's a child of God. You can't hurt a child of God. I know she's going to be just fine. But what I don't want, because now this clip has been circulating and I'm going to post it to this clip has been circulating from a couple of seasons ago on Summer House where they're playing a game. They're playing those games as they do on reality shows. And Danielle asks, Danielle gets the question, rather, who do you trust the least? And she says, well, Amanda. And so it's like, you know, again, that's when these things, they start coming back and you're like, wait a minute. it's all adding up these little pink flags pink flags pink flags they all equal one giant neon red flag you know and so then of course and y'all already know what they do busy routines can make it hard to focus on your health goals but med express offers a simple way to explore weight management treatment online complete our short eligibility consultation with no need for face to face appointments or travel. If eligible, treatment is delivered discreetly, with UK registered clinicians offering support along the way. Visit medexpress.co.uk slash podcast to get started today. She starts crying, what do you mean? Playing the victim. And then of course, everybody's like, oh, poor thing. We're not falling for that this time. Okay, we're not falling for the tears and no, we're not falling for the but I was abused in my mental health. No. If your mental health is that bad, go live in an institution, in a padded cell and stay away from people. If your mental health is that bad that you don't know how to treat somebody that is your friend, then you should not have friends. Like stay away from people. Go be a hermit. Go live under a rock or something. I don't want to hear it because I know they're about to film that reunion. She better show up, Amanda. You better show up. And you got to just take what's coming to you. Okay, and I hope it was worth it. So I'm trying to think, in what situation would it be worth it for me to betray my good girlfriend over a man? So I've been mulling over this and I think about it. Okay, so we all have our childhood crushes, our dream boats. Well, one of my crushes when I was a little girl, I really loved John Stamos. I used to watch Full House. I always loved Uncle Jesse. I loved that he was a musician. He always wore really cute jeans and he had cool hair. even as a kid I remember thinking wow I'm so glad Uncle Jesse's not my uncle because I think he's so cute I remember this even as a kid let's fast forward to today now let's say okay let's say that today I'm really or like as an adult whatever I'm really good friends with Rebecca Romaine Stamos okay this is just a hypothetical okay we're making hypotheticals if I was good friends with Rebecca Remain Stamos okay we become good friends then later on I meet John Stamos and remember he's been my childhood crush ever since I was a kid but if I'm really really really good friends with with a girl who's even like they're divorced now whatever and let me tell you this Rebecca Remain Stamos is now married to the great Jerry O'Connell Rebecca Remain Stamos O'Connell but still if she's my good girlfriend there is just no way there is no way I'm even going to touch that with a 10 foot pole because my good girlfriends mean way more to me than any guy ever could and if there was a situation again there's a way to do it this is not worth it's not worth it to betray your friend over a hookup maybe if not if they were like madly in love if in this situation if amanda and west were like falling in love what they should have done before anything they should have both gone to Sierra and said hey something's happening here and I don't know what it is but we wanted to address it with you first that's the way to do it had they done that this whole situation would be a lot different but they did not do that and so then we do have to think about the racial aspect of these things and I gotta tell you something and I see a lot of people I've seen the comments if you're a part of any of these bravo groups on facebook if you don't think racism is a problem in america anymore please go join some of these bravo groups on facebook and you will see you will see i just took a gander at some of the comments about real housewives of beverly hills bows doesn't belong there bows should be on real housewives of atlanta this is literally a comment that someone said oh she looks like a man i hate her hair this is what this is what they say when you're the only black woman on the cast this is what black people and women of color have to deal with we just saw katie janella who was ousted from the real housewives of orange county for i think no good reason other than those i'm sorry to say it i don't think those white girls felt comfortable um with a non-white person around that's the only thing i can think of well yes she did do some things that were maybe not the best on the show but to me she didn't do anything worse than what any of those ladies have ever done and I've said this before we see it on Bravo time and time again the white girls have each other's backs I guarantee you whatever you see on the show whatever remember on the Real Housewives of Dallas what Dr. Tiffany Moon endured I guarantee you whatever we saw on the show it was 20 times worse because I guarantee you there is worse stuff that hits the cutting room floor because Bravo has to protect themselves okay So when they're protecting certain housewives, they're doing that really to protect themselves. But then these things happen and you really have to be Stevie Wonder to not see it or choosing to not see it. And I got to tell you too, anybody who's like, well, I'm sorry, I don't want to talk about race. Why does everything have to be about race? Let me tell you something. Nobody is more tired and exhausted of talking about race than black people and people who aren't white. we don't want to talk about race we don't want to talk about race at all we would love a world where race doesn't matter anymore but that is just not the reality okay so if you're living in a world where race doesn't really play a big part in your life congratulations you know for those of us that are black and and people of color that is just not the reality for us and we always have to be thinking about that sadly always I just told you guys the things that I deal with sometimes when I'm doing Jeff Lewis's show the comments that I get oh she's too loud she talks too much she's too much that's what they love to say she's too much the whole show is too much I wouldn't be asked back if I was boring you know so sadly race always plays a factor guys I hate to break it to you I wish that was not the case but it is the case and I don't know what we can do as as humanity as society to make that no longer the case. But that is the case. Race is the case, sadly. And it is the case in this situation too. And let me tell you something. I came here today, I was prepared to talk about stuff like 90 Day Fiance and the landfill channel, but I had some people, and I really wanna thank the people who reached out to me, specifically wanting me to talk about this from the black girl perspective. And to be honest, when I do my next batch of interviews, I have my wish list of women that I admire that I'd love to be able to interview. Sierra Miller, baby, you are on that list. And I would love to chit chat with you. And I just want to, I'm always going to be a girl's girl. I'm always, y'all know my, y'all know me, God, girls, gays. But as a black girl, I'm always going to be able to see things from the black girl perspective. And y'all got to see, y'all are going to see it. Watch, you know, watch. Amanda is going to figure out a way to victimize herself in this. And what she really needs to do if Amanda smart she will just step forward and say I effed up Really really really bad I was a bad friend This was bad And listen we all make mistakes Who among us is perfect? Nobody's perfect, okay? We all make mistakes. But make mistakes, don't make excuses. When you make mistakes, you gotta say, I made a mistake. And I'm sorry. I'm sorry I hurt my friend. that's really what this is all about it's not about me it's not about you it's about amanda how could you do that to your friend how can you have i'm this is what i i don't understand it because this could just i could just never see any world where this is happening where my friend is crying on my shoulder over a guy and then i go and hook up with that guy no there's again Again, I wouldn't care. Who are my favorite guys? I wouldn't care if it was John Stamos. I wouldn't care if it was Michael B. Jordan. I wouldn't care if, who is that really cute guy that was on Insecure, the light-skinned guy with pretty eyes? I think his name is Michael something. I can't even remember the boy's name. I know the face, but I don't know the name. He is so cute. But let me tell you something. If he started dating one of my friends, in my heart, I might be like a little bit jealous. like dang I wanted him but I'd be happy for my friend I'd be like dang girl way to go does he have friends that that would be my only thing I would just be like well does he have friends make sure you just invite me to the parties too girl but I would be happy for my friend but like the idea I can't even imagine it I can't even imagine doing that to one of my good girlfriends because I love my girlfriends I would just never and and I can't imagine them doing it to me not my true friends anybody that listen ladies is because I know we got some young girls my little niece navy hey niece navy I know we got some young girls listening right now I want to tell you right now if you have anybody in your life that would do that to you baby that is not your friend period that is not your friend and and when and you have to you as you get older that's what I'm realizing too you know I'm grateful for my friends and for my friends that show up for me and that I know I can trust if you have a couple of friends that you know you can trust you are blessed with friends I I always say it's quality over quantity. And if you have a couple of people in your life that you can truly trust, that you can trust to be around your man, I mean, hello, well, we're going on another tangent here, but look at Portia Williams. I love Portia. Hey, Portia. I love you, Portia. I would love to get you here in a Took's Takes chair. But she did marry her friend's husband when she's going through a big divorce. You know, what goes around comes around in life, y'all. What goes around comes around in life. The Bible even says that you reap what you sow. Some call it karma. It's all the same thing. What goes around comes around. You can't go around being a terrible friend and expect to be able to get away with that. And now, okay, I want to get to the Took's Takeaway, but I'm just going to quickly, because y'all know this, now this, listen, this is still Took's Takes. This is still Took's Takes. We have our shows that we love to talk about. And we do, I just want to like, just quickly, because to be honest, Like I was watching 90 Day Fiance this week and I'm like, none of this matters. By the way, and I've been busy. Y'all know I'm working. I've been traveling. I didn't even get around to watching the new season of The Real Housewives of Rhode Island. I didn't get around to watching Ladies of London. I got to get caught up on Ladies of London, this brand new Real Housewives of Rhode Island. These ladies seem a little bit interesting. I feel like we got a little bit of a scondalo going on in The Real Housewives of Rhode Island, which I love. I don't know anything about Rhode Island. I just know the capital of Rhode Island is Providence. And I just learned that when I was like in the fifth grade. I don't know anything about Rhode Island. So I'm excited to watch. Listen, I watched the Real Housewives of the Moon. I really would. If they were like, hey, we got eight alien wives, I would watch that. Okay. But so I'm going to get around to that. This week, I just really wanted to dedicate this episode to the Bachelor Spatula. And really, I just wanted to dedicate this episode to my girl, Sierra Miller. And I want to dedicate this to any of my girls and gays that may be going through any type of betrayal or feeling like you've been done wrong. Let me just go ahead on and get into my Took's Takeaway of the day. And I've said this before, and I say it to you all because I'm also saying it to myself. It's a reminder to myself always to trust God. No matter what's going on, and this is, again, this is where I get emotional. No matter what's going on, no matter who does you wrong in life, vengeance is mine, thus saith the Lord. The Lord will fight your battles for you. You don't have to do anything. You just have to be still. And you have to trust him. So, Sierra, I'm telling you, girl, trust God. He's got something better for you. And I was about to talk about this earlier, but I wanted to save it for the Took's Takeaway. I think we've all seen that meme where it's a little girl holding a teddy bear. She's holding onto that teddy bear so tight. And she's standing face to face with Jesus saying, but I really want this. And Jesus, she doesn't know. She can't see it yet. But he's got a bigger, better, nicer teddy bear behind his back that he wants to give her. But she's clinging so hard to this one because she thinks it's the best she could do. She's so attached to this one. And I want to challenge you. And by the way, this is for me too. I want to challenge you to release, let go, let God, and trust God that he's got something better for you. Sierra Miller, God's got something much better for you, baby girl. This is going to elevate you to the stratospheres. And I'm so happy for you. And I am so proud of you. This is going to help you going forward. And this is something that we're all going to learn from, right, ladies, for my aunties that are listening and watching right now, you're nodding your head because you guys have already learned. But some of our some of the younger girls, sometimes we have to learn the hard way, right? Sometimes you learn things better when you experience it yourself. I can tell you, but you'll know better when you experience it yourself. And I want us all to take a look at this and see, you know, it, this it's not, it sucks. You know, it sucks to be betrayed by someone you thought was your friend. But when the people who are your true friends come in and show up and show out for you and have your back, it is the best thing in the world. And I got to tell you something, girls and gays when when somebody does you wrong trust me just well no don't trust me trust god trust god he's got something better for you each and every time and let me tell you this too you know we all know west is he's nothing to write home to mom about he's nothing to write home to anybody about ain't nobody ever written home to anybody about him this is probably why amanda didn't even want to tell anybody she's probably like dang i'm over here and i'm catching feelings for a loser. I don't even want to tell. She's probably embarrassed herself. She doesn't want to tell anybody, but I'm telling you when people do you wrong, you just let them. And the best, whatever, whatever, um, what did Beyonce say? The best revenge is your paper. I always said the best revenge is success. And you just keep, when somebody does your own, just, just say, okay. And just say, God, that's when you say your prayers. You say, God, I don't know what's going on right now. I don't know why you're allowing me to go through this, but I know that all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord. So whatever you believe, you can interpret that. Y'all know I'm Christian. I let allow it. But whatever you believe, you can figure out a way to interpret that for yourself. But I just want you to remember that. And that is truly my tooks takeaway for the day. Okay. I want y'all to know when somebody does you wrong, that is not the end that could just be the beginning of your incredible story okay so if somebody's doing you wrong you just trust god if things aren't going well at your job things aren't going well with your finances you're going through something and you're like well i'm listen i am the queen of why i am y'all i know i know god just be shaking his head at me like again again with the Why again with you not trusting me? And it's like, you know what? When we want to say, why, why is this happening to me? I think you just have to say, you know what, God, I don't know why you're doing this, but I know that things are going to work out in my favor. And that's what you have to believe. And Sierra, I want you to believe that. And Amanda, if you want to try to play victim, we're not falling for it. Okay. I'm just gonna let you know that right now. And anybody who does fall for it, anybody who's, listen, ladies, anybody who's figuring out a way to defend Amanda right now in this situation run run from them okay anybody that's doing mental gymnastics trying to say well they weren't even together that long trust me don't leave that person around your man because it's just a matter of time they think it's okay to betray friends anyone who thinks this is okay just wait any especially any woman who figures out a way to say I don't care I don't care I don't care I don't care if they date it for four seconds there's you don't you don't do this to your girlfriend you don't do this to your good girlfriend and if you're not understanding how race lays apart in this I do want you to to just sometimes it's like you know sometimes people are like educate yourself read a book also you know just listen to black people do you think we're making this up well you think somebody told me somebody told me they had to say that to their parents one time one of my friends told me that he told his parents do you think all black people are just making this stuff up is that what you truly think we're not you know this is truly this is what a lot of us are dealing with and we can't help but look at it through I can't help but look at things through the eyes of a black girl so I just want you guys to be careful just be careful there's there's something going on in humanity right now last the last time the episode before last we talked about this that manoverse or manosphere documentary something is something sinister is happening right now with the state of men and really it's just up to us women to say i don't think so and to just demand more and again that is when we have to trust god you don't deserve to be mistreated by anyone not a girlfriend not a boyfriend not no one has a right to mistreat you or disrespect you or betray you don't have to sit there and take that and that is again when we trust god and we say god please bless me with good friends that i can trust anything we ask the lord for he's gonna give it to us sometimes he's just waiting on us to ask oh i felt that in my spirit okay listen y'all thank y'all so much oh my goodness we were supposed to talk about 90 day fiance it didn't matter let me tell you what's happening on 90 day fiance um lion lesbian with a wig she got the blessing from the elders and they bought a goat that this sounds when you start thinking about what's really going on in the world it's like I'm watching 90 Fiance I'm just fast forwarding through because I'm like I don't really care about this I'm like Nancy Guthrie's missing still Savannah Guthrie just went back to the Today Show by the way Savannah Guthrie girl I can't even imagine what you're going through I can't even imagine how you feel you guys all let's please all let's all commit to praying for Savannah Guthrie and her family that they get some answers about what's going on with her mom god please because I cannot imagine that you want I would there's no way I will be able to record tooks takes today if I did not know where my mama was right now I would not be able to do that so I applaud her for getting back to work that takes a lot of strength and I really applaud her for that let's all pray for her let's all pray for Sierra let's all pray for the world I I meant the mistake of watching the real news with my dad the other night. And I was like, dang, this is why I don't watch the news. This we all just need to be praying right now. We need to pray for our country. We need to pray for this for the world. Because honestly, our only hope God is our only hope right now. God, please help us. We need help. And you know what? I pray for y'all. I pray for the Kansas Day crew. I love each and every one of y'all. Y'all show me so much love. Let me tell you something. I get a little bit of hate, but it makes me appreciate the love that much more. So actually, I'm like, thank you, God, for the hate, because it makes me appreciate the love that much more. I have so much love. The Kinsey crew, my auntie army, my niece navy. Oh, you guys are the best. Thank you guys so much for helping Took's Takes become the number one podcast on earth. And I appreciate you all so much. And listen, as always, I hope and pray that my light helps you find your light. And you shine so bright. I'm telling you, shine so bright. blind them let your light blind them don't dim that light for nobody you hear me oh and like like and leave a review and follow me on social media at la kendra tux at tux takes y'all know what to do and tell a friend about tux takes we're growing i love y'all i'll see y'all next time bye