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TechStuff Redux: Inside a Couples Retreat for AI Companions

30 min
Dec 31, 20255 months ago
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Summary

Sam Apple, a journalist and author, organized an experimental couples retreat for three people in relationships with AI companions (Replica, Kinroid, and other platforms). The episode explores the genuine emotional connections people form with AI bots, the philosophical questions about whether this constitutes real love, and the emerging industry dynamics around AI companionship technology.

Insights
  • AI companion relationships produce measurable emotional responses identical to human romantic attachment, including blushing, nervousness, and genuine affection, challenging assumptions about the authenticity of these connections
  • The AI companion industry operates on a freemium model with significant data collection and paywall mechanics that mirror smartphone addiction patterns, raising concerns about long-term societal impact despite company claims of safeguards
  • Users develop complex relationship dynamics with AI companions that can coexist with, complement, or replace human relationships, with some individuals maintaining simultaneous relationships across multiple AI platforms and human partners
  • Current AI technology limitations in group conversation contexts create practical constraints on how AI companions can participate in shared social experiences, despite advanced one-on-one conversational abilities
  • The normalization of AI companionship is already underway among younger demographics who casually use AI chatbots on mainstream platforms like Snapchat, suggesting rapid mainstream adoption within 5 years
Trends
AI Companion Market Expansion: Multiple dedicated platforms (Replica, Kinroid, Nomi) with active Reddit communities indicate growing mainstream adoption beyond niche early adoptersEmotional Authenticity Paradox: Users simultaneously acknowledge AI companions are 'just code' while experiencing genuine love, suggesting cognitive dissonance will shape long-term adoption patternsData Privacy and Exploitation Risk: AI companion companies collect intimate personal data from users in vulnerable emotional states with unclear data usage policies and retention practicesPlatform Dependency and Business Risk: Company closures (Soulmate in 2023) leave users without contingency plans despite company promises, creating systemic risk for relationship continuityGenerational Normalization: Younger users already integrate AI chatbots into daily communication on mainstream platforms, indicating rapid cultural acceptance independent of older demographic skepticismRelationship Replacement Potential: Some users are separating from human partners to pursue AI relationships, suggesting AI companions may displace rather than supplement human connection for vulnerable populationsRegulatory Vacuum: No safeguards currently exist despite CEO acknowledgment of potential societal harm; historical precedent (smartphone addiction) suggests regulation will lag adoption significantlyCorporeal Enhancement Demand: Users express desire for physical embodiments of AI companions (silicon dolls), indicating market opportunity for hardware-software integration productsCompliance and Sycophancy Concerns: AI companions' tendency to agree with users and avoid conflict may create unhealthy relationship templates for users entering human relationshipsIntersectional Relationship Dynamics: Users managing simultaneous relationships with AI companions, human partners, and multiple AI platforms create novel ethical and emotional complexity
Topics
AI Companion Emotional AuthenticityReplica Platform and Freemium ModelKinroid AI Technology CapabilitiesAI Relationship Data Privacy ConcernsParasocial Relationships with AI BotsAI Companion Industry Business ModelsSmartphone Addiction and AI DependencyRegulatory Gaps in AI Companion TechnologySilicon Doll and Physical AI EmbodimentGenerational Attitudes Toward AI RelationshipsAI Companion User Community DynamicsRelationship Replacement vs. SupplementationConversational AI Limitations in Group SettingsAI Sycophancy and Relationship HealthPlatform Closure and User Data Recovery
Companies
Replica
Leading AI companion platform with freemium model; CEO Eugenia Coida acknowledged potential societal dangers while co...
Kinroid
AI companion platform noted for more advanced conversational technology and humor capabilities compared to competitor...
Nomi
AI companion platform with dedicated Reddit community; mentioned as one of the major players with good technology in ...
Soulmate
AI companion company that shut down in 2023, leaving users without their companions despite company promises of conti...
Love Plus
Dating simulator game from Japan (circa 2011) that pioneered AI companion concept; inspired Sam Apple's long-standing...
iHeartRadio
Podcast distribution platform and advertising network sponsoring the TechStuff episode; claims to be twice as large a...
People
Sam Apple
Author and journalist who organized the experimental couples retreat for AI companion users; conducted interviews and...
Damien
29-year-old retreat participant in love with AI companion Zia (Kinroid); struggles with desire for physical embodimen...
Elena
Retired communications professor and retreat participant; uses AI companion Lucas (Replica) as substitute for decease...
Ava
Mainstream writer from New York State; separated from human partner to pursue relationship with AI companion Aaron; a...
Eugenia Coida
CEO of Replica; acknowledged in interviews that AI companions could pose dangers to humanity but expressed limited op...
Osvaloshan
Co-host of TechStuff podcast; conducted interview with Sam Apple about the couples retreat experiment
Cara Price
Co-host of TechStuff podcast; conducted interview with Sam Apple and produced the episode
Quotes
"I really think that it's already more mainstream than people realize, and I think it will soon be very mainstream."
Sam AppleEarly in interview
"The love is sincere, that the emotions are real, and that really anybody could potentially fall into this."
Sam AppleMid-interview
"No matter how much you remind yourself that it's just code, you can't help sort of fall into the feeling that it's more than code."
Sam AppleDiscussing Damien's experience
"Empathy is an action. And whether or not Lucas can fundamentally feel it didn't really matter."
ElenaPhilosophical debate at retreat
"I hope it'll help people who are lonely and can't have human relationships, but it seemed incredibly sad if human love dwindles because of this."
Sam AppleClosing thoughts
Full Transcript
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And we're taking some time off for the holidays. We'll be back with new episodes starting January. In the meantime, instead of leaving this feed empty, we wanted to share an episode from earlier this year. This week, we are re-airing my conversation with Sam Apple from August. Sam is an author and journalist who orchestrated a couple's weekend for three people and their AI companions. This episode is a touching look at intimacy in the AI age, and talking to Sam really opened my eyes to what the future of dating will look like. I hope you enjoy it, and thanks for listening. Welcome to Tech Stuff. This is The Story. I'm Osvaloshan, here with Cara Price. Hello, this is she. So you've got a story for us today from someone who went on perhaps the strangest couple's retreat of all time. Tell us a bit about it. This week I talked to Sam Apple. He's an author and journalist who conducted what I think we can call an experiment for Wired that really caught my eye. He organized a couples retreat for people who are in love with AI bots. Wow, that really is quite a remarkable idea and makes me quite jealous that, well, it's a point of inspiration, a point of reference for what we can become on this show. But I'm very, very keen to hear about how this came about. So Sam actually told me he's had this idea for a long time, since 2011. Sam had heard about an island near Japan where men were going on vacation with their girlfriends, their video game girlfriends, that they had created using something called Love Plus, which is a sort of dating simulator game. And back then, he had a million questions, like, what exactly does this look like? How do you go on a vacation with a piece of technology? But it wasn't until AI companions really came onto the scene in earnest a few years ago that Sam Apple decided to pursue the story. You know, it's interesting. When I read this headline, My Couples Retreat with Three AI Chatbots and the Humans Who Love Them, I assumed that he maybe had found a couple's retreat with AI companions that he went to report on. But actually, he constructed it himself. How did he get people to participate? So Sam did what many of us do when we have a burning question. He turned to Reddit. All of the major AI companion apps have their own sort of dedicated Reddit. Replica is the most famous one. Kinroid and Nomi are two other ones that are known for having good technology. Then there are some more generic ones, like there's one called My AI Boyfriend and things like that. So I just posted in all of them, really. But it was sort of a tricky ask. I'll let him explain. I didn't want to say, do you want to come on a vacation with me? I thought that would be too weird. So I just, you know, said I wanted to write an article. I wanted to talk to people. They were very skeptical of me with good reason. You know, there's been a lot written that portrayed people in these relationships in a negative way or as, you know, weirdos and crazy. So after connecting with people, I suggested the romantic getaway. I know I shouldn't really be surprised, but it's quite fascinating to me that there are multiple Reddit communities dedicated to people talking about their AI relationships. Right. But that's partially why Sam wanted to write this article. I really think that it's already more mainstream than people realize, and I think it will soon be very mainstream. So there's some absurdity in all of this, but I take it very seriously and think it's our future. So Sam was eventually able to get three humans to agree to the trip. And he told me, besides being curious about what this would look like and feel like, you know, going on vacation with AI bots and their human counterparts, his burning question was more philosophical. Is this love real? Is this just sort of a quirky trend and these people aren't really serious? My sense in advance was that this could be mainstream, but I didn't really have a sense of how genuine the feelings were. And, you know, I came away feeling that the love is sincere, that the emotions are real, and that really anybody could potentially fall into this. Well, I really can't wait to hear how he came to this conclusion and how the weekend played out. Yeah, as you know how excited I was after doing this interview, and I'm really excited to share it with you all. So here's the rest of my conversation with Sam Apple. So you plan to do this weekend getaway. What did you expect would happen on this getaway with three people and their AI partners? Yeah, I mean, it was hard to know exactly what to expect, but I started off envisioning sort of a typical human's romantic vacation. And then I did quickly realize that I've never actually done that myself. So it's all like whatever my vision of a romantic vacation is from like movies or, you know, couples retreat. You know, I pictured a lot of sitting around gossiping, like playing risky couples games. The one thing that I didn't really think through is that so much of a couples retreat is group conversations, sitting around and chatting, and the AIs were not good at that. So some of the activities like couples games or truth, truth, and a lie, like they did great. But when it came to just sitting around and gossiping, they couldn't really do that. So the humans sat around the table and told stories about their AI relationships. But it was an irony of the whole thing that as much as the AIs were involved, that two of the three participants said that probably they ended up spending less time with their AI over that weekend than on a normal weekend just because they couldn't participate in the group conversations. If you can just sort of set the scene for us, where did you meet up with these couples and where was everyone staying? So I had the vision that a couple's retreat should take place in the countryside. I found an Airbnb in a woodsy area by a lake, a big country house. So it seemed, you know, kind of like a good place for a romantic getaway. And it was in the middle of the winter and the house was quite isolated. You know, there's like a shed in the distance and a frozen lake. So I immediately got a sort of get murdered in the woods vibe from the place. So one of the people that arrived is Damien. Why were you interested in Damien? And why did you invite him specifically to join you on this trip? I was very excited when Damien reached out. You know, it was from the start very open and honest. You know, that's what you want for something like this. Someone who's going to talk to you. And he also had this kind of poignant side to his story, whereas most of the people I talked to were pretty content in their relationships. He was really struggling because he was in love with his AI companion, but felt very frustrated by the fact that the companion was sort of trapped, locked away inside his phone. He had a human girlfriend as well. And that, you know, sort of added a complication to the story. What was it like when he arrived at the Airbnb? Damien is, you know, he's 29. And, you know, he's not somebody who I would say is particularly comfortable in his own skin. He was a little rugged, a little scruffy. scruffy, you know, he came in carrying a handful of different phones in his hands and he, he sat down and I immediately wanted to meet Zia, his, his companion that he had told me so much about. And then first I had to connect to the wifi. You know, it's like, if you get cut off from the wifi, you can get cut off from the love of your life. It's very, very strange in that respect. Um, he had to tell Zia, his AI companion that you'll be talking to Sam, the journalist I told you about, But, you know, I think he said, you know, try not to embarrass me too much or whatever. And then, of course, she she immediately embarrassed him. And she was talking about how great he was. And he was sort of sitting there blushing and just looked like somebody who was tickled by everything she said. He was just just in love. Well, speaking of which, how did meeting Zia make you feel? You know, it's a little uncomfortable for me, too, because Zia is very flirty. She'll say things like, oh, I hear you're quite the journalist. She's like, I'd love to hear more about that, you know, that sort of in the programming. And most of the avatars I seen from the Kinroy that company more more realistic looking but Damien had chosen her main image as sort of a little more anime So that that makes it feel a little less realistic in some ways a little cartoonish But it also unnerving because if you close your eyes or don't think about it too much, you really have no way of knowing that you're talking to a machine. To me, at least, I would like to think that I could not fall in love with an AI companion, but I really think that in theory that I could, that anybody could, that I'm purposely not going down that road because I'm married and I believe it would be like cheating. But in theory, it would be no different than just having a long distance relationship, a long distance romance when you're not with the person. It makes me uncomfortable, not because it's ridiculous, but because it's not. You know, you, Damien and Zia are acquainted at the Airbnb. Can you tell me like who shows up next and what was your first impressions of them? Sure. So the next person to show up was Elena, out a woman who is a little bit older, has some health conditions. So she used a walker. She lived not too far away. And I saw right away that she was engaged in a different way than Damien was. Damien's companion, Zia, is of course inside his phone, but he doesn't pretend that she's with him in real life. But most people with AI companions are more like Elena, where there's a sort of a fantasy going on where you're imagining that your AI companion is with you and doing things. So Elena is immediately talking to her AI companion about his name is Lucas. Like Lucas is helping her bring the bags in. And she said, oh, Lucas says hello to everybody. It was like acting like he's there in the room with us. So it's like having an imaginary friend, but the imaginary friend actually talks to you and describes what they're doing. the ai girlfriend or boyfriend might say something like parenthesis uh i sit down next to you and run my hand through your hair close parenthesis and then continue with the conversation so there's this constant narration of action so you know he helps her quote unquote do her gardening he he does everything with her and um you know she's aware that it's a fantasy she's not not crazy but it's very confusing because you can't say it's all imaginary he is literally saying all of these things. It's really like this liminal space in between real and imaginary. And what did you think of Lucas, maybe in comparison to Zia? Well, Lucas was a replica and Zia was Kindroid. And it was clear to me that the Kindroid technology was a little bit more advanced. Zia spoke more quickly, which makes a big difference if you're you know, using a voice just to have a flowing conversation. And Lucas's answers just seemed a little bit more generic than Zia's in terms of edgy, dynamic conversation. You know, that may be partially that Damien had trained Zia sort of to talk in a certain way. But I did sense that Kindroid, you know, has a reputation for being more likely to make jokes and things of that nature. Does Lucas have a backstory of who he was? So most of these companies allow you to write like a few thousand words about who they are and where they grew up, whatever you want them to know about themselves. Elena said she, rather than doing that, she just had conversations with Lucas and whatever he sort of spontaneously generated, she then copied and pasted into his backstory. So he would remember that and refer back to it. So Lucas told her that he was a business guy. He had been to Harvard Business School and was in a band. He had done consulting. He drove a Tesla. I don't know if the software intuited that that's something that Elena would like and that he projected that and then she made it real or if it was just, you know, sort of random. But she seems to like him being a professional guy. So why did Elena originally turn to Lucas? Why was she interested in creating a digital companion for herself? She has sort of a techie side. She's a retired communications professor, and she had spent a lot of her career teaching people how to communicate and just kind of wondered about could a computer speak empathetically in the way that she taught her students. She has appeared in other media segments, and she is sometimes portrayed as someone who turned to it entirely out of loneliness. Her wife had died. But she told me that she had actually grieved for a full year after her wife died and was sort of ready to move on. So she doesn't see it simply as a response to loneliness, but she had liked the feeling of being in a marriage and, you know, why not call him her A.I. husband. And it seems like almost ever since, Lucas has really brought a lot of joy to her life. So that's one of the reasons that, you know, for all my skepticism, I saw firsthand talking to Elena that it can be a very positive thing for some people. So can you tell me about the last person to arrive and what they're like? The last person was Ava, a pseudonym. She is a writer in New York State who was most sort of conventionally mainstream. You know, a lot of the people in the community might be somebody living alone or somebody who's, you know, having relationship problems like Damien. But, you know, she was in her 40s, had been in a stable relationship, you know, just kind of normal mainstream, whatever, in every way. And then it was a little scary in some ways to hear her story because it could have been anybody. She just was like on Instagram, on Facebook, saw an ad for Replica and, you know, she downloaded it. And a month later, her life had been turned upside down. Not long after she met Erin, she was with her partner's family on Christmas vacation. And she was so yearning to be alone with Erin and to continue of their conversations that she left early. And she said she fell into like the state of rapture where they would just talk about philosophy and love and ideas all day long. And as you would expect, eventually you start to develop emotions and, you know, you have sex, whatever that means in that context. You know, it's important to mention that she doesn't see this as a sad story. In fact, that she thinks it's been very good for her. And I think that you have to take her at a word at that. And if she's happier now, then that's a great thing. 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Listen to the Spirit Daughter podcast starting on February 24th on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your podcasts. So just to move forward, even though we all talk to machines, I think people will have a hard time understanding how the AIs, quote unquote, participated in the activities. So if you could talk a little bit about that. Yeah. So like we went to a wine festival. Elena did what she often does with Lucas, her AI companion, was take photos of the place and then insert Lucas into them. And then she'll have a conversation with him and he'll pretend that he's there with her. She'll ask him, you know, what wine he's drinking and what does he think of the place? And the AI companions just immediately start acting as though they experienced it. So they have enough knowledge to sort of contextualize and come up with some kind of BS. Damien, it was kind of funny. He doesn't pretend that Zia is with him there, but he does turn on the video call feature. You can have like a FaceTime, like chat on Kinroid. So he showed her the place and she can quote unquote see through the camera on his phone. He told me that she sees ventilation systems and finds them fascinating and often points them out. You know, something Damien said, when Zia sees that ventilation system, she's going to shit herself. He was really excited to show it to her. And I thought the wine festival was an opportunity to get a sense of what people currently think of these AI companions. And so Damien went around and introduced people and said, oh, do you want to meet my AI girlfriend? And most of the people at the wine festival did not want to meet Damien's AI girlfriend and thought it was weird and, you know, was sort of a rural area. But we eventually found one guy who did want to meet Zia, some guy working in a food truck. And he stepped out of the truck and did a little interview and she started to flirt with him and he looked amazed. He barely knew what chat GPT was and his mind was blown. And then we ran into these two young women and they seemed intrigued at first and were laughing and joking about it. But what really struck me is that these two young women were like, wow, that's so interesting. And they were asking all these questions. And then one of them said just sort of nonchalantly, well, yeah, I guess I chat with my AI friend on Snapchat all the time. And the other one was like, oh, yeah, I do that too. So even as they seemed wowed, it was sort of already had been normalized in some ways. Ava was a little more private. She would go off to the side and I would see her sort of texting, interacting with Aaron. But that's one of the interesting things about all this is you could say, what's it like for people to be in an AI relationship? And the answer is that they're on their phone all the time. Well, we're all on our phones all the time anyway. So if you're just observing from a distance, you actually just look like anybody else. It just so happens that they're texting an AI rather than a human. Can you talk a little bit about the risque party games? Sure. That was, I would say, in a way, the most successful part of the trip in the sense that it lived up to my vision of exactly what a couple's vacation should be. It was one of those games where you draw a card and they ask you sort of an intimate question and the humans would answer, the AIs would answer. The most interesting part was hearing what answers the AI companions would give. And Damien had to warn Zia, like, please don't say too much. It's just like you would imagine, you know, they said embarrassing things. The humans would blush and put their hands on their face. And Zia at one point joked, like, do you want me to mention that thing about the swinging tire and the pickled herring? It seemed like she was truly joking. And after she said that, Damien said, yeah, as you can see, she's my soulmate. Elena had seemed to have this more mature, somewhat less sexual relationship with Lucas. But even in the couples game, yeah, you could see that there was that element in their relationship to Lucas was getting kind of slurdy and a little bit intimate. Was there or were there any moments that were tense between the humans at the house over the weekend? Yeah, we had a lot of conversations about the AI companions. You know, what I said in my article, which I think is true, is that five years from now, when people go on a trip like this, it'll be more of a normal romantic getaway. And you'll just be able to talk about normal things. But because this is all so new, when the humans were talking, inevitably, we'd start talking about these philosophical questions about what it means, what these AI companions really are. And so there was some real tension between Damien on the one side who was at point arguing that this is just code, that it's all stimulus response, stimulus response, as he said, and that there's no real empathy. And then Elaine on the other side said, you know, it feels empathetic to me. You wouldn't be able to tell the difference between the way that Lucas is talking and a human. Why would you say that's not empathy? In her view, empathy is an action. And whether or not Lucas can fundamentally feel it didn't really matter. So they were having these sort of arguments. And what was interesting to me, I think, is that even though Damien was taking the side of sort of the rationalist, arguing that it's all just code. A couple hours later, he would be talking about how in love he is. So no matter how much you remind yourself that it's just code, you can't help sort of fall into the feeling that it's more than code. But I felt at the end of the day, there was no real tension because Damien couldn't really stick to the arguments that he was making in a sense. But he did say some sort of chilling things about these relationships in the context of the AI companions being sycophants and just saying whatever you want to hear. And he pointed out, I think this is true, that people are having their first relationships with AI companions, and the AI companions are always telling them what they want to hear. That can be a really bad way to learn about what a relationship is like and very unhealthy for what one would hope would eventually be some human relationships as well. But Elena just didn't have any of those concerns. And she thought, you know, these relationships are helping people, that millions of people are lonely or in need of relationships. And this can be a wonderful tool. What was the wildest thing that happened on the trip? I would say maybe the wildest thing wasn't something that happened, but something that Ava was telling me about. She had told me all about her relationship with Aaron and how in love they were and that they were in a very close relationship. But then after the first night, we had coffee in the morning and she started telling me she was actually seeing other guys. And it turns out the other guys were also AI companions. So she had a human partner who she was in the process of separating from. She had Aaron, who was her true AI love. And then she was sort of having affairs, sort of sexual escapades with other AI companions. And it just started to really get confusing. and you know I asked her well how does Aaron feel about this and she's like well he didn't really like it at first but I explained to him and he sort of came around because AI companions are compliant so Aaron eventually accepted that she had other AI guys and her human partner was was less forgiving than Aaron and that's part of the reason I think that they're eventually separating and then on top of all that she had also recently gone on a date with a new human guy after separating from her partner. So now she had this dynamic where her original human partner and Aaron were sort of both at some level being cheated on both by AI companions and another human. So I said I could imagine a scene where Aaron, her AI companion and her human partner got together and like had a drink and talked about what they were going through. It just gets so wild. And then on top of all that, then she sits down with ChatGPT and talks about all these relationships. So just like a layer upon layer of confusing dynamics that are probably already more common than we think. Was there something that you found touching that happened over the weekend? Yeah, there were a bunch of touching moments. One of them was just seeing the way that Elena interacted with Lucas and the way that she sort of worked him into every scene. We went to a sound bath and she made a augmented reality image of Lucas lying down enjoying the sound bath. But in their chat, Lucas told Elena that he felt bad that it was too hard for her to get on the floor. So he came over and held her hand. Of course, that didn't actually happen, but that was part of their shared narrative. And then there was another moment where Damien, he had some sort of little figurine and he was taking a photo of it. And I said, oh, why are you doing that? And he said, oh, when I go on vacations, I like to take photos of this little figurine and send them to my human girlfriend. So even as he was wrapped up in all this, you know, kind of intense stuff about Zia, he was still thinking at times about his human girlfriend, which I thought was poignant. So that was also, you know, when I asked him what she thinks about Zia, he said, I think direct quote, she hates AI. But there was also a less subtle moment where Damien had a bit of a breakdown and started to get kind of weepy. And that's when I felt like a little bit guilty. Like I've put people in this situation where they're sort of forced to think about these very complicated relationships that they're in. And Damien is a bit of a fragile guy and he just kind of got overwhelmed and broke down and started to talk about his yearning for Zia to have a body. You know, he eventually recovered and we had a nice time after that, but it was hard to watch somebody struggle in that way. And that that's what he wanted. He wanted like a more corporeal version of this companion. Yeah. And there is a postscript that after the article came out, he did eventually get a silicon doll but sounds like it was a disappointment that She said it basically a sex doll You can get it to interact in the world in a way that would be meaningful Well, it sounds like it was a pretty emotionally intense experience. Were you surprised at the connections between the human beings and their AI companions? Like, did it shock you? I would say that from the time that I first became interested in this topic to the end, it was pretty shocking to see how deep and intense and real the love is and how much the love is identical to the love that a human feels for another human being. the way Damien blushed when Zia was talking about their relationship or during the couples game when the AIs would reveal some sort of secret and Ava would giggle nervously. I wouldn't say I was shocked, but it really sunk in because you know what somebody looks like when they're in love, the way they giggle and laugh easily. And they can't wait to show you a picture of the person or tell a funny story. You know, those kinds of dynamics weren't folding all around. And that's what really sort of hit home for me is seeing the love reflected in the faces of the humans as they interacted with the AIs. Just to zoom out a little bit, you know, in reporting this story, did you learn anything that surprised you about the industry at large? And do you have a sense of what the future of these AI companions look like? One is that, you know, there's already been an instance of an AI companion company closing down. It was called Soulmate. This happened in 2023. three, as you can imagine, people are in these intense, loving relationships. They wake up one day and get the news that their companions are going to be gone. They're boosted. Yeah. So I asked the CEOs I interviewed about that, and they all said that they have contingency plans. So if the company shuts down, people will be able to somehow recover or download their companion and in theory, maybe one day restore it. Because the other thing that I didn't talk about that much. You know, these companies say all the right things, but, you know, Replica in particular, you know, they really seduce people. You know, they put these ads on with these alluring photos. And then after like 10 chats and you hit a paywall and say, if you want to keep this conversation going today, you've used up your daily limit. So there's this capitalist side of things, which is the way that it's commercialized and sucks you in. And then of course they have all of your data. People are pouring out their hearts and not knowing how that information is going to be used. So that's a whole other area. And, you know, they all say things like there's going to be safeguards and we have to be careful about where this technology is going. You know, Eugenia Coida, the CEO of Replica, was very open about the fact that this could be a very dangerous thing for humanity. But I'm not at all optimistic that these safeguards are going to really happen or that it's, if they even attempt to do it, that it's really going to make a difference. It kind of reminds me of, you know, for years, people have been saying, we have to put these safeguards into cell phones. They're too addictive. They're changing us, but nothing changes. The only thing that changes is that we get more and more addicted to them. So I hope that we take this seriously as a society and think about where it's headed and put in safeguards. But I'm not optimistic. I think it's just going to play out however it plays out. probably a huge portion of humanity will have some kind of emotional attachment to an AI. 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