The WHOA Line is Open: Our First Call-In Episode!

What's up everybody happy Monday y'all we are so excited about this episode and when I say we She means me. I got my bestie back. You can't you can't get enough of me on the podcast. I really can't I just you gotta be on it with me so I'm really excited about today we kick started this on Instagram we told everybody that we have a new woe line see our little phone right here and it's really cool because so many of you guys have already caught in and I really mean so many of y'all we were blown away by the intentionality behind your voicemails that you left us and they were so good so originally we had talked about what if we just start incorporating these into the episodes at the end of the episode which we're going to do but there were so many great ones that we decided to dedicate a whole episode to this and so today we're gonna answer y'all's questions but we're actually gonna hear your voices and so if you call it into the woe line thank you if we don't get to yours today don't worry like I said this is gonna be a more regular thing and this line is always available so we'll have it in the show notes you can always call leave us to know let us I mean you can really ask anything a lot of times on the voicemail we're gonna have prompts for y'all based off certain episodes we're gonna be talking about today's prompt was just like what advice do you need in life right now and so we can't wait to dive into some of the things that y'all sent in and hear your voice again thanks for being like such a dedicated listener to this podcast and hopefully as we continue to grow at this podcast is it's not just a place where you listen but you get to speak in two-two and that's why I'm so excited for your voice to be on the show today before we dive in though one thing that we do literally every single time before we film an episode of what that's good is we always pray for you and today Krishna we're praying over y'all and we were like you know what let's pray on the podcast today there's a devotional that I do almost daily it's a daily devotional but I'm not the most consistent person in the world but it's the worship initiative devotional and I love that every single day they pray over you and they always say if you get nothing else at least you got prayed over and at the end of the day Krishna we're talking about this we don't have all the advice in the world right like we're gonna point you to towards the Bible we're pointing towards Jesus we're gonna point towards the best advice that we have based of our life experience it is but we don't know it all you have to lean into the Holy Spirit to let God guide you in your life and in your circumstance so we're gonna speak in we're gonna bless you but also the most important thing that we could do for you is pray for you and trust that God's gonna meet you where you're at in your life and so we're just gonna pray for you God I thank you so much for every single person who's listening to this podcast God I thank you that this is a day that you have made we will rejoice and we are so glad to be in it God I thank you that you have the listener in mind that whoever is listening to this right now you knew they were gonna hear this today and maybe this is gonna be an answer to prayers that they've been praying maybe they've been seeking your counsel on things or asking these big questions and maybe today you're gonna use Krishna to speak right into that and so God I just pray that you would fill us with your spirit so that we could speak to your your child on the other end of this podcast and God I pray that we would bless them encourage them I pray that they would know at the end of this podcast and all in between how love they are how celebrated they are God I thank you that hopefully through this podcast they will come to love you more know you more and feel more loved and known by you and so God I thank you for this time thank you that this podcast is gonna come at the perfect time in the listeners life and God we just thank you so much for what you're doing in their life Lord bless him keep them make your face shine upon them be gracious to them God and fill them up with peace and it's in your name we pray amen all righty let's get to the voicemails let's get to the woe line hit it Josh Josh is our producer my name is Haley and I'm so excited to be calling in I've been following you since we were both about 16 17 years old so it's been a long time now my question and need for advice is how to stay hopeful that God will provide a Christian man for me when I'm living in a worldly city I live in New York and I'm plugged into my church and my community but there aren't any eligible bachelors in those environments and everyone I meet outside of church is not a Christian it's really hard to not give up or to settle and I'm having a tough time thank you for being a sister and a friend when I needed one I love you that's so sweet such a good and relatable question it was so relatable Haley right was it Haley right Haley Haley thank you so much for leaving that note and also shout out to being each other sister and friend from afar it's so cool you've been tracking since we were 16 that is a long time so I love that so much such a relatable question a question that we get asked a lot I was just talking to some girls the other day about this and it's interesting that you were talking about living in a big city and there's not an eligible bachelor who's you know faith-based and all that because I was talking to people in a small town and they were saying the same thing in a different way there there's nobody here there's not enough people here there's no eligible bachelor and I was telling them I said you know you just really can't limit God to a city I mean truly I was living in Louisiana I mean sorry I was from Louisiana I was living in Nashville Christian was from Florida he was living in Auburn Alabama and somehow we meet on a vacation on a vacation I'm on a vacation you know what I mean and so you really can't limit God to a city limit God to a singular location the way that you're gonna meet your husband is going to be a divine time it's gonna be a divine setup I really believe that I believe that God has your guy for you and I think the most important thing that you can do as you wait and say hopeful is pray sow those seeds of prayer I mean one of the coolest things about Christian and I's meet up I mean I always say this to girls because how do I find my husband and I say I wouldn't have found a Christian if I was trying to look for him in the sense of God just I would have I would have tried to find you but I would have never found you you were trying I would have you were doing so yeah but I'm saying but I never would have found you yeah because it's just bigger than that and when I look back at prayer life and how that aligns it's really cool because Christian actually sent me this DM in January of 2017 that I never saw until you know a year and a half later whenever we finally met on that vacation but what's really cool is February in 2017 I have a note on my phone on my app the notes app on my phone and I was praying for my future husband and it was really really cool because some of the prayers that I was praying for him really did align with what he was going through in his life which we never knew and to literally we were about to get married I remember I found that and I was like this is so cool and no in Christians testament I was like when did that happen wait that's so crazy because I was praying for you in that and so even though your relationship isn't starting now it's really cool how God already has your relationship in mind so sow seeds of prayer talk to God about those things because then whenever you do meet that person it's going to be more obvious it's like oh of course you're the guy like you're the guy I've been praying for you're the guy that God has led me to and um yeah just don't limit God he can do so much just stay I would say keep positioning yourself in places that it would make sense to meet your spouse church is a great place to meet your spouse you want to meet someone like minded and so again we met on vacation you can meet anywhere but go into church put yourself out there showing up places going on dates meeting up with friends studying at the coffee shop yeah come on now well because it's even cool even being in New York City like I feel like that there's so much optimism of things that got happened in New York City it could be next week and your husband can move to the city and show up at the church you never know the guy that you're gonna date that we might become your husband like you just never know you can be at the coffee shop and this person just moved here last week and they're trying to find a church and you invite them to church like that's the cool thing about the big city is that even though it's a secular environment you know the possibilities I feel like are endless of things that could happen so yeah I think that obviously you know man plans a step man plans is makes his plans but the Lord establishes his steps so make the plans but as of today um ask the Lord to guide your steps it's great I love it thanks Haley you've heard me talk about Love One International before and how special it is to me and my family but this week is extra exciting because we're celebrating Love One's birthday whoop whoop just thinking about what God has done through this ministry over the past eight years is so incredible Love One has been able to reach over 110,000 children and families across Uganda with life-saving care and that only happens because people like you said yes to being a part of it if you've ever wanted to be a part of something meaningful steady and ongoing trust me Love One's Love Club is it when you join the Love Club your gift of just $20 a month will provide 10 Mounters children a nutrient dense meal and as a thank you not only will you get exclusive Love Club merch but also the first 100 new members are also going to receive a free copy of my devotional book how to put love first I'm just so excited for everything Love One does and what they're continuing to do it's so important literally changing lives if you've ever seen a Mount Irish child you'll never forget it and to know that you can make a huge difference with just $20 is something that I would just encourage you all to say yes to and their community really is amazing so not only are you giving but you're also going to be part of a community that's great so if that's something that's been on your heart this is your moment to jump in and be a part of something that's saving lives every single month be a part of a community that's providing life saving care to critically ill children in Uganda every single month with Love One International join the Love Club today at love one international dot org slash woe that's love one international dot org slash woe help us celebrate eight years of Love One by joining today hey Sadie thanks so much for doing this I was wondering if you could give some advice on rejection and how to deal with that and wrestle with that um I just have been dealing with that from the past of being in a relationship and ultimately ending in just rejection and hurt because that person just didn't uphead having the same feeling so I was wondering if you could speak on how to deal with that and um just also just to reconcile and wrestle with that as well as just to rest in that the Lord is our portion and that he's enough so yeah thanks so much for doing this so so like vulnerable of you to share that with us and thank you for calling and saying that because I know so many people have seen this podcast are probably like same I've experienced that in some way or another um and it's such a hard feeling and such a like hard one to wrestle with I think so many people have probably experienced that on a lot of different levels sometimes that's relationships with like a guy that you're dating or a girl that you're dating and then sometimes it's like a friend that you feel rejected by or a family member you feel rejected by and um I've certainly felt those things in my life too I would say one of the things that I've experienced after experiencing rejection is there's such a like there's that part of it that feels like oh like so shattering that you got rejected by somebody or that somebody didn't love you or you know like you enough to stay or whatever those things are I think the first thing you have to do is weed out the lies that the enemy will try to you know root in you is that you're not lovable because he didn't love you well that's not true he has his own stuff there's so many things that maybe it were insecurities in his life or things that he had going on or his personal thing that God had was dealing with with him that really has nothing to do with you you know and so first of all you just gotta say just because he didn't love me doesn't mean I'm not lovable I am lovable I am love because God created me loves me gives me purpose gives me hope just because he didn't like me doesn't mean I'm not likable just because he didn't think I was funny doesn't mean I'm not funny you know whatever it is you know and so like root yourself in the truth of what you know what you know is true based off what God says about you not how that person acted towards you or treated you after you weed through that and go through the heartbreak and the re-establishing what is true in your identity I think one thing that is cool is every and I'm really speaking to like relationships or friendships if you're rejected by family members I know that that's a whole nother ballgame that I would advise counseling in if it's somebody that you have to stick it out with but when it comes to like okay someone I was dating or someone that I was friends with just totally rejected me totally kicked me out all that stuff after the hard part I feel like every closed door it leads you to another one that you can open you know every no leads you to the right yes and so I think sometimes what I've seen is I'm like oh that stinks oh that's the worst but also on the other side of it like God setting you up for a better relationship like someone who will treasure you someone who will love you someone who will love those quirks that that person didn't see as you know the treasure that they are or in a friendship it's like oh that stinks oh that was terrible we're in a job oh man that that really hurt my pride or that really hurt you I am but now I get to step into a new job now I get to step into new friendships and so it kind of creates this new beginning for you in a new relationship a new job a new opportunity to be accepted in a space and to actually like thrive in a space instead of living in a relationship or a job where you're you're not welcome they're not wanted if that makes sense and so even though it's so hard it really does get you where you're going I always say every breakup gets you where you're going you're only gonna marry one person so if that's not the one you gotta gotta move on and it's kind of the same thing in other areas of life it's like okay if that's not the job for me thank god even though that was hard help me to not you know grow roots of insecurity help me to not plant these things that are not true I know I'm loved I know I'm capable I know that somewhere I will be wanted and then move forward go to the place that you are wanted go to the place that you can thrive go to the place that you are accepted and so yeah I think on one hand it's really shattering and really hurtful but on the other hand it sets you up for a great opportunity in new spaces where you really can be accepted that's really good yeah I think well first off I think you're it's it's bold to to seek counsel on that to to admit that because we all have that fear of rejection um so just to just to say making the first step of calling being vulnerable to ask that is a um it's a huge first step you you brought up counseling and I would advise really in in in any areas with that of seeking counsel like you know like a counselor a person to talk to in person because even for me you know I've it's because like like you said it does spiral it's if something like that happens and then you look up and you know you get kicked out of the group message that's happened that's happened to me before it's like you say something may be dumb and then you get kicked out of the group message and then you you feel that rejection and it might not be something you know it could have just been an accident or something like that but then you take it so personal or for me at times I've confessed this to you it's like if I don't get if my friends don't invite me to something uh and I see they're all hanging out I'll I'll feel rejected and it might you know not have been anything personal but I think sometimes something like that can happen and then you you you don't address the lies you spiral you spiral and then then you you look at all these smaller things and then you feel that same feeling when it might not be that deep so for me I've I've had simple things like that that I've I've had to address in counseling because I don't want something bigger to happen and then it becomes this all-consuming truly rejection of my identity so for me I've found the smaller things when I can feel a certain way that's when I need to go get help not waiting for the bigger thing to happen and then going there it's like you know these smaller things eventually it can it can accumulate to where if you don't address it now then it can't become detrimental but so sorry that happened to you that is so real um yeah I think humans uh yeah it's like just a fear of everyone feeling rejected makes me think of lauren daigle song uh you say because it's like I keep fighting voices in my head that say I'm not enough every single lie tells me I will never measure up and then she's talking about like this lie of rejection that we've all felt like we don't feel like we're good enough we don't feel like we're enough and then she speaks the truth that you say I'm love when I can't feel a thing so it's like I'm speaking the truth over myself even though the lie is telling me the complete opposite like you're saying I'm loved even whenever I don't feel that way you're saying I'm strong even whenever I feel I'm weak and so when you feel rejected it's you really do have to lean into God where you are fully accepted as your identity so that you don't start acting out of the insecurity of the rejection either man put on you or you put on yourself that's good that's great next hi sady um the thing that I really needed nice on is I remember the day and the time that I asked Jesus to save me but how do I deal with the feelings of doubt that keep coming up that that I've done something to lose my salvation or I've done something that maybe I just not quite need to cut thanks I wish I'm a bible do I have my bible let me see real fast do you have your phone yeah break out the word for this okay I feel like we should go to romans 8 you got roman's 8 I got first Corinthians 15 okay you go there and I know I'll hit Romans I love this verse I hope it's comforting to some people it might not be but to me it's super comforting um so this is first Corinthians 15 versus one through two so this is Paul riding to the church of Corinth he says never ever decision I want to remind you of the gospel that I preached to you which you received and on which you have taken your stand by this gospel you are saved if you hold firmly to the word that I preached to you otherwise you have believed in vain so for me you know you have roman's 10 9 you have roman's 8 there's all these salvific verses in the new testament and for me I don't know there there's something about about that verse that Paul's writing it's a I just love it he says by this gospel you're saved if you hold firmly to it and it's this idea of yes we all doubt and that's what's so beautiful about the bible you read read go read the Psalms and read David you have Psalm 22 got my god why have you forsaken me and Jesus quotes that on the cross like I don't think Jesus was down in that moment but you have David in these Psalms running from Saul you have these these crazy moments in King David's life to where he's doubting he's doubting the promise of his anointing and of the kingship and something about that for me with Paul I don't know it's comforting it's this gospel saves you if you hold firmly to it and that idea of through the trials it's it's it's continuing to pray God help me in my unbelief help me my doubt you have the story of the new testament where Jesus is going to go heal I believe it's this it's this interior son and he says I believe it helped my unbelief and Jesus marvels at that and there's something beautiful about admitting when you're doubting when admitting when when you're struggling to have the faith so like I said on the last question just even having the you know the way with all to admit that and confess that and and and ask for guidance I would say you're further along than those people who aren't thinking thoughts like that these questions are so good and that's what we were like blown away by the voice memo because you guys are truly seeking the Lord which is so beautiful and that ended up itself like it just shows the posture of your heart I would say this I love what christians just said because he went with more like doubting on doubting faith and stuff but when I heard in your question was a lot of like doubt of your own salvation like I know I would say but I doubt because I messed up and I just want to encourage you you're not saved because you did anything to earn it or deserve it you are saved because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ and so you don't have to doubt like we're not doubting ourselves when it comes to salvation like that really is like doubting that Jesus did what he did and that that was enough I don't doubt Jesus like Jesus sacrifice was enough Jesus was perfect and so yeah if it was on me I'd really doubt myself because I messed up all the time because we all do because we're human but that's the beauty and the grace of God that he did send his one only son so that Jesus did what we couldn't do Jesus did it on our behalf and so we don't have to doubt where we stand with God because we messed up whenever God sees us like he's seeing the sacrifice of his son and so I want to read Romans 8 because this is like this says it all but it says there is therefore no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus so that feeling that you're feeling oh what if I messed up but I know I would say but I'm not really sure because now there's no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus for the law of the spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death for God has done with the law weakened by the flesh essentially what he's saying so the law is in the Old Testament whenever you know God gave the law to Moses the Ten Commandments but way more than Ten Commandments like so many laws and it was you got to do this if you're gonna stay holy enough to enter the presence of God well we couldn't uphold the law just like the Israelites couldn't because we're weakened by the flesh because we're human and we just can't get it right so what it's saying is God did what we couldn't do because we're so weak by sending his one and only son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin he condemned sin in the flesh in order that the righteousness required of the law might be fulfilled in us who walk not according to the flesh but according to the spirit for those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh but those who live and according to the spirit set their mind on the things of the spirit for to set the mind on the flesh is death but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace so when you start thinking about what you did everything you've done how you got to measure up how you got to maintain righteousness that just leads to death like that's turmoil but to set your mind on the spirit that Christ Jesus did for me what I couldn't do for myself that results in life and peace and so I just encourage you when you start going down that spiral of doubt to start thanking God for Jesus thank you God that Jesus did what I could not do thank you that he was spotless and blameless and perfect thank you that he upheld righteousness thank you that he did that on my behalf so that when I come under that blood that's how you're able to see me as holy and righteous and pure you know that song it's only by the blood sometimes we sing these songs and we're about the now we're dancing around no one knows what it means y'all it's only by the blood it could have only been the blood of Jesus when it says does anybody want to be holy righteous purified and spotless how could you be that other than the blood of Jesus and so I just want to encourage you I hear so many people doubting their salvation so many people doubting if they're good enough for God and to earn God's love and to enter heaven and I'm like yeah the same people doubting that are the people screaming this song only by the blood at the top of their lungs that's how you don't know it's only by the blood of Jesus and so I'm so glad you asked that question that's so real and I know that's going to speak to so many people who are listening to this that was so good and then I was it was not this interior son it was Jesus healed the young boy with the mute spirit so just to clarify that and then last thing I was reading this on the plane uh Luke 7 it's uh when Jesus is he's um dining with the Pharisees and the woman you know anoints Jesus and then is is a weeping over on his feet and then drives her tears with it with with with her hair and Jesus says verse 50 your faith has saved you go in peace and then Luke 8 it's the similar thing this is the woman um with the blood discharged and he says daughter your faith has healed you go in peace so I want to I need I want to talk to like someone like Lisa Harper I'm like because it's the same idea it's a daughter your faith has saved you go in peace then the next one says daughter your faith has healed you go in peace but just that idea of like because the Pharisee is like partaking of this woman in front of Jesus and Jesus is telling this woman who is at the time sinful because of things she had done and Jesus says that your faith has saved you and uh something about that to me was just so beautiful of of Jesus looking at this woman who in her day was deemed sinful the Pharisees were were were judging her critiquing her and it was the faith that she had that Jesus says your faith has saved you um go in peace so just wanted to say that verse I thought that I read the issue I thought it was really powerful it's cool so I think ultimately like yes like your faith matters so much there's there's room for doubt yes God can handle all of that but ultimately what you come back to is it's not on you it really is not all on you uh Jesus really did do what we couldn't do and I love even just finishing out Romans where it says those uh who are in the flesh cannot please God like we can't please God but at the same time God loves our faith God God loves when we ask for a faith to believe whenever we come with uh you know repentant heart so like there is something on you to do there's belief there's faith there's repentance there's uh accepting salvation there's all of that but at the end of the day you could never earn you know you couldn't do it like you like God just loves you so much like God did it on your behalf and so take rest in that that you can do something but he did everything like John Tyson says God comes where he is wanted and I think if you want God he will show up in your doubts in your questions good good hey my name is Jordan and I kind of have a deeper question a few years ago my family was in a car wreck and sadly my mom and sister both passed away ever since I have questioned can prayer change the outcome or is your story written and prayer won't change the ending and if so how do you not get discouraged in praying for things in life thank you wow first off Jordan I just want to say I'm so deeply sorry um I can't imagine I can't imagine the pain of that and I can only imagine that it would definitely make you question why even pray if if what's gonna happen is gonna happen and why would that happen and all of those things and I just want to speak to first in an empathetic way of I really can't imagine and I'm so sorry and thank you for trusting us with that question and coming with your deep question this this is this moment this voicemail is for that you can ask anything we always say we're a sister and a friend to those who don't have one and we mean it um sister and friend we can laugh together we can have fun together we can dance we can sing we can do all the silly stuff by the end of the day it's the realest relationship you know you ask the hard questions you you say those things and so thank you for coming with that question uh the first thing that comes to mind when it comes to why pray if the outcomes already fixed is Jesus in the garden um I guess so many when Jesus knew what was gonna happen he knew that he was sent to die on the cross that that was what he had to do to be the sacrifice to be the perfect lamb the sacrifice on behalf of all mankind but at the same time although he knew that was what was going to happen and needed to happen he did not want that to happen I mean that's a horrible situation to have to go through um the circumstances were not ideal he was going to be taken by the Roman soldiers he was going to be beaten whipped crucified like did not want that to happen and so Jesus was so worked up about it uh that it says that he was literally sweating blood I mean this was like true stress but he was praying and he was asking the Lord you know if there's any other way would you let this cut pass for me if there's any other way would you would you do could could you take this from me like I don't want to have to do this and then he would say but not my will but yours be done then he prayed again you know is there any other way if there's not another way then it's not it's not my will but yours be done and I think that that's that um kind of the way that you have to approach prayer is that God can hear you there are times in the bible where God did kind of change his mind about things I mean Moses would pray to God and God would change his mind I mean there are times where Paul you know was doing things um going to Jerusalem and he's the spirit of God's like don't go there you know and then Paul goes there and so there there are definitely moments where I think this is like such a deep theological question so I want to be careful with how I approach it this is based on my reading understanding I think that there are definitely moments for that but at the same time like we don't understand the will of God we don't understand the ultimate outcome we don't know the why I will never know why your mother and your sister had to pass away that's just an awful thing like I am not going to say and try to sugarcoat it and go and here's why because God gets the glory no it's so hard to understand um some things are just we're not going to understand on this side of earth and that's with the hope we have in heaven and Hebrews 11 it said all these people of faith died without receiving the promise that they had I mean you think about that you're like what the heroes of faith died without receiving the promise but then it says for God had something better in mind and it's talking about eternity to come and so this world we don't have the promises we would want to happen but like we have the promise of eternity so Jesus is praying in this garden he's saying not my will but yours be done and then it's so interesting because right after he's praying these things um let me just go it's in Matthew 28 um right after he's praying that you know what God would you change your mind God would you do something different um they show up to to take him sorry not Matthew 28 it is okay it's Matthew 26 um let me find it okay so Matthew 26 the betrayal and arrest of Jesus so he just prayed all this that God would change his mind and God doesn't change his mind Judas comes you know and Jesus says come do what you are trying to do and that's whenever Peter whips his sword out cuts the dude's ear off because he's fighting he's like no this can't happen like we're not gonna let y'all take Jesus and then Jesus says put your sword away back into his place for all who take the sword will perish by the sword and then he says in verse 53 do you not think that I couldn't appeal to my father and he will at once send me more than 12 legions of angels so stop there for a second because wouldn't you think well he did just appeal to his father appeal to his father he did just ask his father to change his mind Jesus just said to God could you do something different but he didn't just say that he said but not my will but yours be done and so even though God didn't change his mind and do the thing that Jesus kind of wanted him to do which was change your mind do something different don't make me have to go through this Jesus didn't doubt that God was still good Jesus didn't doubt that God so had a plan he didn't doubt his love for him he didn't doubt that he was there for him and so he goes put your sword away do not think if I really asked my father to change his mind that 12 legions of angels would come on my behalf right now and save me but then verse 54 it says but how then should the scriptures be fulfilled that this must be so so he's saying if I don't do this then how is it that I will fulfill all of the scriptures of coming and actually being crucified I'm doing this thing that is the will of God even though it's not what I would want but it's God's will and I know the promise that's to come and so Jesus's story is an example of the promise to come because we see him die we see him crucify we see the worst of the worst happen to him but then we see three days later the tomb rolls away the ground begins to shake there's a resurrected king and then not only is there a resurrected king who's alive and well but he speaks to eternity to come where we're all going to be and so that's what you have to anchor your hope in I don't know the why for the suffering right now I don't know why it has to be like this but I don't doubt that God is still good even when my circumstances aren't I don't doubt that God doesn't love me even when I don't feel that way in the moment because there's a promise that's yet to come and it's anchored in Christ Jesus being raised from the dead and giving us the hope of eternal life and so that's a very deep answer back to a deep question but prayer is necessary Jesus not only gives us an example to pray and when the disciples say how should we pray and he says our Father who art in heaven hallowed be your name like you know come that will be done on earth as it is in heaven even he says it there like you know come there will be done on earth as in heaven but not only does he give us an example of how to pray he exemplifies how to pray throughout all of his life if you go read all the Gossels Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John you'll see Jesus pray actually every single tab I have here is moments Jesus prayed because I want to be reminded that if Jesus prayed I need to pray and so yeah you don't always know the outcome you don't always know if it's going to change God's heart or mind but it's not even always about changing God's heart and mind it's changing your it's like submitting your heart and mind to the will of God even when the will of God is not the outcome you would have wanted expected or hoped for or believed for. 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God uh first Corinthians 11 also goes on to talk about how you know you can only stand you can only understand those thoughts through the power of the Holy Spirit um and it's such a man I'm trying to figure out how to just kind of what to say because it is these are things we wrestle with like oh yeah we've prayed you know for sicknesses and and and nothing's happened we've also prayed and and and there's been healings um and I think that's the beautiful thing is is you just keep praying it's it's a relationship you keep you keep seeking advice because and you also have times in the Old Testament where where people pray and they're probably eventually got glad that God did not enter that prayer right you have Elijah who's who's praying that that God would end his life and take him to heaven and God doesn't answer his prayer because that's not what that's not the plan that he had for them you have Jonah who if if if he would have you know if God would have done what he wanted him to do then he would have never gone and saved the Ninevites um one story that I want to read really quick um it's a little bit longer so I'm going to try to read it pretty quick but when I think about the power of prayer and the things that this man saw in his life it's this this this story so powerful to me it's it's David right after he has the affair with with Bathsheba and she gets pregnant with uh his son um and this is right after Nathan confronts him and uh Nathan says that you know the son um shall surely die uh for a sin and and it's such a beautiful story so really quick he said and the Lord afflicted the child that your eyes whiteboarded David and he became sick David therefore sought God on behalf of the child and David fasted and went in and laid all night on the ground and the elders of his house stood beside him to raise him from the ground but he would not nor did he eat any food with them on the seventh day the child died and the servants of day were afraid to tell him that the child was dead for they said behold while the child was yet alive we spoke to him and he did not listen to us how then can we say to him that the child was dead but when David saw that this that the service were whispering together he understood that the child was dead and David said to the servants is the child dead they said he is dead then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes and he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped he then went into his own house and when he asked they set food before him and he ate then his servant said to him what is this thing that you have done you fasted and wept for the child while he was alive but when the child died you arose and you ate food he then said while the child was still alive I fasted and wept for I said who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me that the child may live but now he is dead why should I continue to fast can I bring him back no I shall surely go to him but he will not return to me and that beautiful just thinking about all the times David sought counsel from the Lord in times where his answers his prayers were answered and that's the thing in this story you read that David believed that he could change the mind of God because of the old stories because of things he seen in his life and and God did not answer his prayer and it says after the child died he he fasted or he he went to the house of the Lord in the temple and he worshiped and he ate food because he said the child is dead I can't bring him back but he said I will go to him and for me that's just a comforting thing of you know it's the question you're asking it's can I bring him back and will God save him and his prayer was not answered and I think that's something that he probably wrestled with too and so I think that's a beautiful story of his prayer not being answered and his response after that. I love it too that story it says and God loved them and gave them another child and you know it's like when people go through miscarriages to get pregnant again doesn't bring back the other baby and that's what's really hard to wrestle with because you're still grieve the other baby it doesn't solve all your problems but I do believe God is a God of redemption and I think like some people agree to disagree with that statement of like if it's not good then he's not done because sometimes it doesn't look good in the way that you think of good you know that doesn't mean he won't redeem I mean think about Joseph's life that there's so many stories in the bible like this when like Joseph and we could just ping pong all day long of like bad things happen but God was still good bad things happen but God's still redeemed like Joseph said you know it's very famous what the enemy meant for evil you took and turned it for the good and so um yeah the enemy means evil sometimes life is really hard as a matter the world we live in just has bad things happen but God is still good and God can still take what was so hard and he can redeem things for good and some of that we'll see on this side of heaven and some of that we'll have to wait for eternity to see but thank you for sharing a bit of your story and thank you for asking that great question. Hey Sadie my name is Cade college student here in Dallas Texas and I know it's probably a little unusual for a god of economy podcast but I grew up watching you on duck dynasty and I see the wonderful relationship you have with your husband you have a beautiful family so I'm calling to get some advice for myself and other young men out there trying to find a Christian relationship with a young woman in today's crazy world and once you're in that relationship how do you keep it Jesus center God centered especially in this crazy world. Okay well first off great question should Cade go to New York and meet Hayley? I think you should. Is this a matchmaking service? I think this is Cade and Hayley either she should go to no no yeah no he she should not go to Dallas you should pursue her fly to New York figure out which church she goes to and you should meet her. You're in Dallas you're in the you got an easy flight. Yeah easy flight Cade. Easy flight. Hey pay a note together shout out to the woe line okay okay but for all your question was beautiful. We could officiate the wedding and we could end it with saying woe that was good. Where'd you remember over here but for real DMS so we can kind of. No that's a great question you did not know I was going to be on here. What's up I'm here. Great question so I think he's asking. We find a good relationship and how do you keep it yeah. Well I think I really want you to speak into this because Christian and I both talk about how we did not date well before we dated each other that's everybody knows that we we could have written two separate master classes on not dating great before we found each other but by the time we found each other we both so wanted to do it God's way that was something we said all the time we want to do this God's way we want to do this the way that was intended and I feel like you were really like really trying to do it the right way and maintain this relationship in a godly way and I remember so many things you intentionally did I want you to speak to it but I'll pick up what you missed. No that's good well I think I think to the tension is I think sometimes you can because I even kind of sometimes found myself doing this in our relationship was like you you focus so much on maintaining it that it's like you you think you have to be perfect in it so and not that I don't think I ever did this but I think sometimes it can become performative to where it's like she expects me to do this so like I need to act I need to act this certain way it's like well I opened her quarter of the first time so it's like should I do that the next hundred times to maintain this thing that she loved at the beginning you know so I think sometimes you can get in your head of like I maintain this by always putting my my best foot forward and which which you should strive to do but at the at the same time you know I think sometimes you can maybe just it can become an act if you try to maintain this doing things that that you know that your girlfriend likes to do which can become a dangerous thing to where it's gotta be from the heart has to be from the heart yes but I think you know obviously keeping God at the at the center of it for me I don't think I would have maintained our relationship to be healthy and especially God's hundred if I did not have guys around me that I could talk to that I could pray with that I could confess things to that I could ask for wisdom on not a great relationship with my pastor still have a great relationship with my pastor from college and he would would give me advice on on on on how to pursue you know questions to ask and things like that so for me I maintained it by seeking counsel around me which is like what you're doing now which is awesome but asking the questions surround myself with guys that that could relate in part to it to a situation of men and having an elder speak into it having a pastor speak into it and not getting so consumed and caught up with how can I try to impress and press my girlfriend I would say if you want a godly relationship you have to be living a godly lifestyle that's not something that you're gonna magically get in a relationship if that's not what you're bringing to the relationship and Christian had been living a godly lifestyle before we met and I had been too and so when we met and we both want to do it God's way it was a mutual decision that this relationship is going to be one that honors God whether we're together or we end up breaking up we're doing this God's way and I was telling some girls this the other day because they were kind of trying to carry the weight of leading the relationship spiritually and I said the guy needs to lead that but you're also speaking into that and helping lead it and steer it to y'all should both be fighting for the same goal together and that's to do this the Lord's way it shouldn't be something one person's fighting for because then you end up fighting against each other to maintain this and there's shame involved and as you did this there's you to that like no you gotta be like-minded and both living godly lifestyles if you want a godly relationship is gonna make it so much better also yes the expectation is that we're pursuing the Lord but not perfection and not performance so I always tell girls don't just date someone for three months and then go okay I'm gonna marry them that works for some people but you gotta give it at least six months because anybody can be anything you want them to be for three months okay you gotta give it some time for them to show who they really are people like you are gonna put your best foot forward you want to be likable but being loved and being liked are two different things it's it's it's fun to be liked it's fun to do things that are likable by the end of the day when you're married to someone and you're going through life's moment and you have children and you go through just different things you're not gonna be likable all the times you're not gonna have your best foot forward you want to make sure there is a deep foundation of love and a deep foundation of God of God's word of who God is that goes so much deeper than your performance or your likability in the moment or your oh I open my your door for it that's so sweet I love that I always love when Christian opens my door but we are way deeper than that when it comes to why I respect and love Christian so much and so yeah I would say live a godly lifestyle if you want a godly relationship and yes surround yourself with community I think that is a really big thing Christian was talking to his guy friends all the time getting advice getting questions to ask me and I knew that like he would be like oh Parker said uh that I should maybe ask you this he would like try to out like he knew it all he's like me and Miles were talking he was saying this and I love that because I was like oh wow he he talks to his friends about me and he really wants to get to know me deeper and I just had one of my best friends was in a relationship and they ended up not being together but it was so good like the way that they did it because they were asking each other such great questions and it made them realize they're really not compatible and that's okay and so your questions matter just like this podcast y'all are asking such great questions we're able to speak you know hopefully great answers that have some depth to them that are you know actually shaping you you can say service level all day long but that doesn't get you to the relationship that you're probably seeking if you're seeking a godly one someone you're going to marry yeah because there is a great question though fantastic question because there is that authenticity and I do think the longer you are with someone you do see their true colors and so for us I'm just thinking about our first major argument was at an airport behind a magazine rack because I I still really struggle with this but more so at the time I've gotten a lot better but patience I there could reach a I had a certain threshold of patience and if that just if that got crossed it doesn't matter who I was with and I was with the love of my life at the time and I was just furious so all that to say like she saw that side of me and we were able to work through it and talk but I'm just thinking like I could have suppressed it and been like I'm fine everything's I know what it got me right I'm like whoa then it would have been like yeah I'm like what what where the world has this been but it's like but I didn't show you that side of me yeah and so that was such a blessing like that's how you get to know someone and that's how your relationship deepens when you do see this that's when you start to love someone and not just like someone when you see them on the not so great sides and you still love them because it's like yeah we all have our things and so Christian like I always think I broke up with people for like silly reasons you know like I mean yeah I did make it was like because I have bad breath okay so like some people I'd be like no I'm glad you did that I mean Christian and I didn't get it figured out was he perfect no he did have better breath but yeah there was a patience thing but I have all my things I had jealousy issues and I wasn't trusting and I was anxious and like we all I'm dating Shady where the airport and me and the me and the guy at the at the gate we're like getting in this heated argument because I'm on standby trying to catch this flight to fly to size to fly someone with her and he was just not letting me get on the plane finally he got so annoyed he said just he he said you are annoying me so bad just take the ticket he just gave me a ticket and he said just please go get away from me and then we had a huge argument so we were dating we were just dating but it's those things that like I think back to something like that to where I could have suppressed that I could have tried to have hidden that side of my patience but that was something that you were able to see we were able to work through it and I've gotten a lot better at it it's a relationship it is a relationship it's like don't always try to be perfect like don't try to put up a facade and then not actually have the person you're dating see who you truly are it's great do we have one more let's do one more hey Sadie it's Kate I just wanted to say first that I left your podcast I listen to it every morning on my walk and it's just nice to get the word of God and you're just such an inspiring godly woman so my quick question is I just I am almost eight months both pregnant with my first baby and I had a pretty traumatic birth experience and postpartum anxiety and all that I know you can relate to that but I'm just wondering my poor husband you know has had to deal with a wife that's not so patient as I have been in the past and I'm just wondering how to work on that and um what your advice is on just having patients and you know being able to work with your husband through that I hope that made sense but thank you so much and I will continue to pray for your your podcast and your family um thank you so much so sweet so sweet first off Kate like thank you so much I also resonate so so much that you say that makes sense because eight months postpartum a lot of times you're like am I making sense right now we should late like you know there's like bridezilla yeah there should be like like I don't know if it's like postpartum zilla or like no there shouldn't you don't think okay sorry that might be bad advice that's a really bad advice Kate don't listen to him don't listen to him okay here's the thing sorry I just was like just to give it a label okay no we're not we are not labeling that to all the women out there sorry I hope that's just encouraging you that every husband probably struggles with the same thing because it is hard it is hard we're going through so much and they have no idea and if they walked in our shoes for one night I'm just kidding that's also bad advice here's the thing it is hard it is very hard hormones are involved you just get over simulated you're so tired I 100% get it um it is vulnerable to do a podcast after having a baby too because you're talking so much in a microphone and like you're going through so much in life and so gosh there's been times where I have just felt I think some people have said to me like oh how do you do it like you're crushing it yes right here right now but there are so many moments that I have that are just I'm exhausted or I feel weak and my body is not regulating right and I've shared this on Instagram recently because I actually kid eight months today um but I have had like this crazy hormonal shift lately and it has like made me feel so not myself and has been so hard to deal with and one of the things that I've seen it affect the most really is like my patients and like my fresh I get like frustrated easier so I was feeding kid the other day and sometimes whenever I'm feeding kid I just get really over simulated fast so a lot of times I'll feed her in another room because I know myself and like when honey and haven are pulling at me and needing me it's like you just feel over touched and like overstimulated and so I can't remember what honey did but it just like made me react big and I was like honey I can't remember what I said and Christian was like are you okay and I was like no like I'm I really don't feel okay right now like I feel very emotional I feel overwhelmed I feel sad like and I just told him how I felt and he was able to be like okay like why don't you go take a bath I got bedtime and it was so helpful now that's not every night and realistic for every night you know we're a team we operate like a team there are some nights I might carry the team more there are some nights he might carry the team more but for the majority we're carrying the team together and so be a team it's so important you share when you're not doing okay when you do need a little extra help and then when you are able to be more present and and do it like do it show up be the best that you can be you know and so I say that to say like it's it's such a team it's such a team thing to to have a family and to love your family and to just be honest with your family and to me like being for both of us like quick to apologize I mean I even said to honey honey I'm so sorry mommy was not patient with you earlier I've had a really long day and I felt overwhelmed but it's not okay to talk to you like that I'm sorry so being the first to apologize being the first to admit when you need some help I feel like that has helped us thrive in this time that could be more chaotic because I look at this time of our life and my body has gone through so much and like hormonally it's just hard and you know pregnancies and c-sections are hard to recover from and all that but genuinely like this year has been one of my favorite years of my life like the best space we've been in our marriage and with our family and that's not because it's been easy and that's not because I've done it perfectly but I think really because we've done it honestly and we've done it as a team and so I would just encourage you do it honestly be the first to say sorry and be a team with your spouse let him in on it and Christian you've done a really great job of helping me through it thank you that was really sweet yeah you have anything to say other than postpartum Zillow no just forget I ever said that Kate I'm really sorry but no but yeah just to the husband's just yeah you know like you said we don't know what what it's like to go through that so I think constantly just being understanding you know we talked about rejection earlier to not always feeling this this feeling of rejection if your wife reacts a certain way to you it's not always you sometimes it's just what they're going through but it is hard it is super difficult I don't know what it's like to be in those hormones and emotions but you've let me in on that it is such a team we're in it together man I love you so thanks for saying that. I think that's has been cool too is like I know Christian doesn't understand that because how could he and so you know you got to give them the benefit of it out of like they don't know but it's really cool whenever I've been like can I tell you what this feels like and I like will explain to you like what it feels like and you're like gosh I can't imagine I'm so sorry and it like creates a space of empathy instead of being like you don't know how I feel or whatever like don't be accusatory like they don't know how you feel so it's like hey can I tell you how I feel right now because it's making me feel really sad or it's making me feel like I feel whatever it is you know and then you come to this point of understanding it's an empathetic place is a place of compassion and so that's just rule of thumb for anything in life you know just come at it not with like a you don't do this but it's like here's where I'm at and this would be amazing if you can like pray over me or help me with this or whatever it is and so you're a team you're crushing it Kate you're doing a great job you're a better mom than you think you are you're a better wife than you think you are and I keep receiving the grace of God it is sufficient for you when you are weak then you are strong that's what Paul says and it's only true because of the sufficient power of the grace of God and so I just want to say thank you all so much for sending in these questions I love that we have created a community like this of sister and friends that you don't have to show up even on this and at polish or purve it or say it right like just get it out just get it out in the light and God can do so much when you expose those things in your heart and you get things out in the light and I hope today bless you I hope that you feel encouraged I hope that you feel like someone sees you and is in a similar situation you're not alone and that ultimately God sees you he's in it and so if anything I hope this pushes you to prayer lean into the what the Lord's doing in your life and speaking in your life and keep calling into this line like I said we'll have different prompts prompt sometimes it'll be fun sometimes it'll be deep but always feel free to call anytime and just leave us a note and if we can work and into the show we will if not like I said we're gonna have so many so we'll speak to these things on in our Instagram captions we'll speak to these things and sermons that I'm preaching and books that I'm writing and so it's so helpful to just hear your voice and know what's on your heart I hope you have a great rest of your week and thanks again for tuning in love you guys you