Lovett or Leave It Presents: Bravo, America! (with Dorinda Medley)

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Earn points on rent around your neighborhood wherever you call home by going to joinbilt.com slash love it. That's join built, J-O-I-N-B-I-L-T dot com slash love it. Make sure you use our URL so they know we sent you. Built says this kind of thing all the time, which is it's great to be loved. It's fine to be hated. The only thing you can't be is boring. I agree. And you know, we talked the- I can't believe I'm agreeing with that, but okay. I know. It's gonna be the first time I hear- It's gonna be the first time. I hope we'll see you at the last. Hey, everybody, it's John Lovett. Welcome back to Love It or Leave It Presents. Bravo, America. I'm sitting down with some of my favorite personalities from Reality TV because I genuinely believe that you cannot understand politics in this moment if you don't understand the dynamics of reality television. Here's how Congresswoman Sarah McBride put it on Pod Save America earlier this year. Some of my colleagues are treating me the way they are treating me for a couple of reasons. One, it's because they want attention, right? They want to employ the strategies of a Bravo TV show to get attention in a body of 435 people. And the way to do that is to pick a fight with someone and throw a wine in their face. Today is a big day for me because I'm talking to the one and only Darinda Medley, one of the icons from the Real Housewives of New York, the Queen of Making It Nice. It was so much fun talking to Darinda about everything from how she sees her time on Rony, her thoughts on what our elected officials can learn from the housewives, and surprisingly how she feels about her former castmate Ramona Singer today and Ramona's chances if she ever decided to run for office. Truly it was such a blast, such a like charismatic and interesting and vulnerable person, but also a really tough person, which is, I think, two of the qualities that made her such an amazing figure on reality television. So here she is, the one and only, Darinda Medley. I just want you to know, when we finish, everybody wants to gather for a photo. Oh, I'd love that guy for the night. And here are the people that we've done that for, that have been ex-people have been so excited about that we've done the photos. Kamala Harris. Oh. Bernie Sanders. Okay, love you. Megan Rapino. Elizabeth Warren. Who else is on that list? Julia Louis-Dreyfus. A lot of people don't, Bill Nye the Science Guy. A lot of people don't make the list. Well, obviously I'm doing something right outside of Housewives. Darinda. Yes. Welcome. I'm very excited to be here. So you and I have something in common, which is we have a shared experience, and it is this. Know what it is like to fly halfway across the world, film a reality competition show, then spend six months having people say how excited they are to see how we do and not being able to say how we did. Yes. Very, very, I had to exercise a lot of discipline on that one a lot. I would walk down the street and people would be like, oh my God, I'm so excited for you to be a trainer. And I'd be like, well, don't get that excited. I mean, it was really hard. I was on a plane and Julia Louis-Dreyfus was like, I'm so excited you're going to be on Survivor and I can't wait to see how you do. And I'm just thinking, oh, she's going to watch me go home first. Oh, I'm going to tell you something. I was in such a state of, when I walked in, first of all, I'm thinking, I've got this. My daughter who is at Harvard getting her PhD, so she studied the whole thing. I had a 20-page dissertation on how I've broken down the UK one verse. Read that. I was reading the art of war. I was reading all these poets. I was working. I spent like $10,000 on trainers. The clothes. The clothes. The looks. The looks. And I'm thinking, I am smarter. I am a warrior. And guess what happened? The piece of paper you all murdered. I was beside myself. It's unbelievable. With fear and grief. It's a combination of fear and grief. And I think it was, because I was like, how do I, like, first of all, I got to go home. First of all, you can't even leave your apartment or be on social media. So you literally go from being sequestered to being sequestered in your life. Yeah, because you can't, you have to pretend like you're still there. And I don't know if you had this feeling because, because, failure. Well, sure. Humiliation. Absolutely. Fear. But also, flying halfway around the world to get punched in the face. You know, when major do it, you chose to do it. Well, I didn't think about it like that. I just was so deeply disappointed because it was the first time, and this was the great, I always say you walk away from everything with a, hopefully a lesson. And it was the first time that I couldn't control it. You know, like on The Housewives, it's not that you can control it, but you can sort of very cleverly create your narrative and manipulate others. Like, this was the first time that it really was a game of chance. I couldn't even, I remember calling someone at NBC and saying, so sorry that I disappointed you. He's like, get in. You weren't even long enough. I'm long enough. They just, in fact, we're, we think in the long run, it's going to be a compliment to you because they obviously were afraid of you at some level. And of course, I couldn't buy into that because I'm just thinking, but it actually worked out fine because I think I got as much press as the winners. In fact, I may have gotten more. I'll tell you something. They got you out because you're a threat. That worked on me. That made me feel better about it. So you first pop up on Real Housewives in an earlier season as a friend. Couple times. Couple times. Not even as a friend, just as background. Just as background. You're just in the background. Well, as their friends. Yeah, but not in a friend role. Right. Not an official friend role. You just were on the show. Because we're all friends. You're all friends. Is it true that, that you were offered, or at least you had entertained the idea of being on the show a few years before you were ultimately on it? Well, here's the thing. It was a very different way they, the way they handled it back then. Now I think it's gotten much more formal and official. Back then, you know, we all just do each other. So like, I remember it was, it was almost like they're doing a show. And we're all like hanging out somewhere, you know, just dropped her. Because her daughter went to school with my daughter. So it was like they're doing a show and they're going to follow us, all of us around. And they're going to, we're going to, I'm thinking, well, why? Like that's the most ridiculous. Why would they follow you around? Right? And at the time, Hannah was at a private school and I wasn't with her father anymore. So he would have never considered it. And I just was at a different point in my life where, first of all, I really didn't understand the concept. And B, I just wasn't in a position where I wanted my daughter on TV so young, right? I just thought. And so I just started, Ramona and all of them would be like, come to this, come to that. So it always was like, are you going to come on next year? Are you going to come on next year? And you know, after I married Richard, I couldn't do it either because he was involved in speech writing for Hillary Clinton and council formulations. So then I had to be that wife, you know, the political wife that was very up-reside and you know, fancy and chic. And then after he passed Ramona was like, okay, now it's time. And it wasn't very formal. I wouldn't have lunch with one of the people and they said, okay, and I did a film and that's it. I was originally only going to do it one year and kind of try to be a friend of, but obviously that didn't work. I'll tell you one thing, but I remember I was in Ramona's Singers Kitchen doing our first scene in the Hamptons. And I remember that camera coming around and thinking, oh, I like the camera and I think the camera likes me. So that's what, yeah. This is great. You know. What, what? You, yeah, you had, you definitely clearly were, you found your calling. What do you think? But what was your, yeah, I think you might have, but what was your feeling? That's a positive and a negative, but let's go with that. Right, well, I, we'll get to that. But like what, what was your impression of reality TV before you were on it? Like what did you think about it? Had you consumed it? Were you aware of it? Well, I watched it of course. We all, I mean, back then reality TV was such a new concept. I mean, Bravo and all that kind of thing, they weren't really real channels to anyone yet. So you got to remember, I come from the era where probably you're like, I hate to say it and they're going to kill me, but it was kind of like a skip channel. You're like, Oh, this is Bravo. Right. And then reality TV kind of, this concept was so new even before the housewives, when we had querye first straight guy, wow, what is that? And so you started to engage at a different level, which was reality. And you, even I as a viewer, you know, started to fall in love with the characters. So you really thought in a different, you watch a movie, you don't really know these people, you know, they're acting, but all of a sudden you're like, I really like that guy top Felicia. I think we're going to be friends. You know what I mean? There's definitely a crossover. So I was engaged in it. And, uh, but you know, I know it sounds ridiculous, but I think it was simpler times. Yeah. You know, so I don't think there was a lot of thought presses. You just went on and you were yourself, authentically yourself. And you got to remember that all of us knew each other so well that and they were all in it together. We both knew each other so well, but we also knew that, you know, we made a commitment and we come from an era that if we sign our name to something or commit to a job, we do a great job. I think my generation is very competitive, very like has to succeed at everything they do and do your best and don't let anyone down. So you just went in there and you just were kind of your authentic self. And I don't, I think the real question is, was it, what did I think of it? Is what did I think after the fact? Right. That's the real question. That's what I, I was curious about that. So, and it does seem like there's multiple afters. So there's filming, right? Yes. And there's what you feel about it after you've filmed it. Well, I didn't know. I was like, because I had no idea. I didn't even know what editing meant. I kind of in this weird way, even though we were filming, yes, six, 10, 12 hours a day, I just thought it all went on there and they could see everything. And I'm sure I was just hoping for the best. And, you know, and also to have to remember, it was soon after that post thing of Richard passing and Hannah going off to college. So I was sort of like a toothpick in the ocean. I was sort of like, didn't, I had lost all the titles that sort of I kind of cherished, you know, and I was like, what am I doing now? And so for me, it was a great way to occupy myself. And it was also very therapeutic, right? To be with all my girlfriends six days a week and have purpose again. Also too, I think I, what I realized very, or am I talking too much? No, you can't. There's no, it's, we got a lot of time to feel between the mattress. Okay. So don't worry about that. I think what it was for me, I think the biggest revelation was for so many years, you know, I'd been, you know, Hannah's mom, you know, Mrs. Lynch, where, you know, my first husband's wife, Mrs. Medley, like these were these, these, you know, what kind of labels that I put on myself or jobs that I love. Listen, I love doing it. I would do it all over again. I have no shame and, and, and that, and it was very committed to that and in all ways that it was really interesting to all of a sudden just be Derrinda. That's it. For the first time, people just were falling in love with Derrinda, you know, and I found that really interesting and I really didn't take that on until I came out. And it was funny when it first came out, I'll never forget it. They had done a, back then we used to, we used to have to be super secretive. So no one knew you were on. Now they post it as soon as they're doing like their first scene. It's posted everywhere. And your big come out was you got a open page on the New York Post of spread. So that came out and I was like, Oh my God, I'm famous. Like, look at me. I'm really glamorous. I am, right? Because I've never seen myself in that way, right? And I remember the next morning I went to my favorite. I would walk, come out of my building and across the street was this fruit guy that I do two things. I'd get a coffee and then get a piece of fruit and go upstairs and I would just have on like a sweatshirt and my leggings or pajamas. And it was like seven in the morning. And this person turned to me and said, Oh my God, are you during the medley? And I was like, yes, now where have we met? You know what I mean? And I realized, uh-oh, the veil has been lifted. It'll never be the same again. And so, but so there feels like there's two experiences of watching it. One is seeing the edit and seeing yourself. Yeah. And then the other is seeing what you couldn't see, what people were saying. And I'm wondering if that affected how you thought about being on the show going forward. Like, you don't know if it affected me, but it was a learning curve because you realize there's, there's a, there's an art. It is a bit of an art of war. Like there's some people that are very clever at like just being one way when you're filming and then they use the confessionals to destroy you. Right. So I'm like, Oh, I can actually do that. Like that, you know, so you start to like anything, it's a learning curve. It's a strategy. It's a, and some people were brilliant at it. Like Bethany Franco was brilliant at her confessionals. You know what I mean? There's nothing like a Bethany Franco confessional. Well, that was, I mean, that seems also jarring for the other women on the show, which is they would see the confessionals from Bethany to be like, well, holy shit, you ripped me to pieces. So there's a quote that you have in your book about the show being chess in high heels that you have to march in like a military general. But at the same time on the show, you're saying, this is me, this is who I am. And that doesn't feel like those can both be true. Of course they do. I mean, I think they're both true because I think the difference is, I think I march into all my life with heels on with a sergeant judge. I mean, I'm barely ever playing checkers. I'm kind of in life always playing chess, you know, but I think it gets exacerbated a bit when you have the cameras on and you're filming 12 hours a day. So you really have to be prepared for what's in its coming, like it or not. You know, you have to be prepared. And after the first season, you have to decide if you have the mentality, the stamina, the wherewithal to take that on. But it's a shock, right? It's a shock. Right. It's a competitive friendship. Like you said, you know, you're attacking perpetually and re-evaluating your situation and how to win. What is winning? What is winning? Winning is probably twofold. It's walking around, walking away from it, even after the show airs. And even if you don't get the response from the audience, you're like having the conviction to know, I believe in that. And next season, I'm going to show you and I'm going to build on this. It's a buildable thing. And winning is also just allowing the audience to walk through that process with you. Listen, you, I always find it very interesting that people go in this, especially now when they're so knowledgeable and stuff. You sign the dotted line. They're pretty clear about what you're doing. And if you don't want to take the good, the bad in the ugly, which is what being authentic is. And you just want it to be, you know, I say, I always say portraits can't be participants. So if you want to be a portrait, then stay on Instagram, be an influencer, do a TikTok. But this is going to, you know, it's like peeling an onion. And the longer you're on the show, the more the onion is peeled. And that ultimately is a good thing because you hand it over to the audience and they take from it all these things and they decide, I like this person. Yes, microleasers, things I don't really enjoy about her. But I've done that before. But macrolea, I get her and I will choose to engage in her and have a love affair with this character. Hey, don't go anywhere. There's more of love at or leave it coming up. Love or leave it is brought to you by Cowboy Colostrum. 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You said the show can make you protective and the show can make you reflective. Are there moments that from the earlier seasons where a similar moment could have happened later, but you caught yourself that, oh, you're about to do that thing that you hated seeing yourself. You know, honestly, probably no. Probably no. I don't, because I don't, I think when you're in it and you're in the days are so long and you're so engaged that, A, you forget about the cameras and B, you just, you're who you are. And in a weird way, the screw ups become the great memes, you know, and you reconciling them or bringing them around and having to go through the process of trying, attempting to make both your colleagues and your audience to understand it is kind of where the rub is, but also where the growth happens. Yeah, there's, part of it is knowing yourself, but you have to trust yourself, but you also have to trust the show a little bit. Yes, of course. The whole thing, you know, you got to remember this show, you have these incredible characters, but there's layers and layers of people, your cameraman, your sound people, your editors, your production company, Bravo, NBC. And I will say that throughout the years when I was on, they're in constant communication with you and they do carry you through the process. So, you know, you're sort of dealing with your production company first, which is shed and smaller. They do their thing. Then they give it to Bravo. So then Bravo kind of takes you over and does through the PR. Then it goes to NBC, which is sort of like the big daddy, right? At that point, you're either cooked or you're whatever, right? So you have to lean into it. But you never feel like even when you're going through it, you never feel, I I could only speak from my own experience, but I never feel, I never felt abandoned. I felt like, oh, that probably wasn't such a great season. Hopefully I'll do it in the next few hours. You know what I mean? Or, oh my God, that's a great season. But there always was something that came out of it that I think, I always say, and I still think it applies today, when someone new comes on, at the end of the season, you should be able to take six things from them. What are the six things you learned about this character that is going to create a love affair? It's like when you first go on dates, oh, I really like his family or I like the fact that he does this or his hobbies. And I think if you can do it, like for me, I was, you know, I had Bluestone Manor, I lost my husband, I was friends with these girls, I'd like to make it nice, I love holidays. You know, just all these kind of things that people like, I'm a great, I think of myself as a good mother. I'm ballsy, I tell it like it is, I, you know, you don't want to pull shit on me, you know, because I'm going to call you out every time. So all of a sudden there's people are like, okay, I can get my hands around this girl and I want to see how she's going to grow on the show. That's so fun. That's so interesting because I understand how that would be your list of six. But when I think of you on the show, to me, it's two things. It is one, that you're incredibly vulnerable, that you're actually that and that you are open, you know, you go on this trip with Carol, you're clearly on this show at a period of transition, a difficult period of transition in your life. And people forget that. You gotta remember, I was only like two years out. I didn't even know if it was from, you know, going through that, that. So, but that was what a beautiful gift that was, not only for me, but for a lot of people that, you know, were young. I always, you know, I think about that time and, you know, people would call me a widow and I'm like, I'm too young to be a widow. So I was misplaced there. Do you think about a widow as some old, I remember this woman at Elio's when night was talking to me, she goes, so are you here with your husband? I said, oh no, I'm a widow. She goes, oh no, you're not a widow. I'm a widow. I'm 88 years old. You're something else, just unfortunate, but not a widow. Very up-reside. I was like, well, thanks a lot. It doesn't really make it better. But, you know, I think to have someone to discuss that with and then the amount of people that reached out and like really just like found peace in it and didn't feel alone because as we know, there's certain things, divorce can be one of them, death can be another, things you can feel isolated and not shameful, but you don't know how to connect. And it was a great way to connect on a level that you could share this kind of thing that was going through. It was a teaching moment as far as I'm concerned. You know, I would write a lot of jokes for, you know, I wrote jokes for politicians. And what we would find is the more, the more honest you are about your own flaws, joking about yourself, the harder you can be on somebody else. I don't know if that's true. Well, here's what I mean by it. I mean that what it gives you the space to go harder on other people whilst people still like you're the one of the meanest people that I love. Right. You are. You think I mean? Oh, there are moments. There are moments in this show where you are. I disagree with you. No, I'm honest. Yeah. I'm honest and I may call it out, but I don't know if I'd call it mean. And usually if you notice and you go back, I'm always, it's always in response. Yeah, absolutely. Do something. I always say in life, I'll never shake your hand first, but I'll shake it back hard. Well, absolutely. No, not saying it has to come back to us. That's not mean. That's like we got to put a stop to this. Let's say tough. Tough. That's a better word. Extremely tough. Extremely tough. Because mean is labeling. Yeah. Well, I, I harsh. There were moments of, and probably well deserved. And well, well, and never for apps. No one's saying otherwise. No one's saying otherwise. Well, there's a line. And I think that's the, and you're doing a little housewife for you because that's the way to, to corner you or put you in a box. It's not because you can't ever micromanage a situation. You got to look at the macro and understand, do I shut the shit down? Yeah. And I do that in my own life. It just happened a couple of days ago. I was like, now we're done. Yeah. I've been leaning it. I've been good, but that's a very Sagittarian trait. Yeah. You know, when you're good, you're great. When you're bad, you're terrible. You know, I will be a sleeping tiger, but you pull my tail one time. I'll let it go. Well, you pet me, pat me on the back. I'm great. You start to touch my mouth. Well, then you're going to get a bite, aren't you? I mean, honestly, people like it. People like, but yeah, well, you said, there's one point of it. You said, um, treatment like a dog, I'll bark. Yeah. Uh, so the reason I bring that up is there's no show like Real Housewives with men. It just doesn't exist. And I wonder why you think that is, like, what is it about women in a show like this, that there's a, I think there's good and bad. I think part of it is just like, uh, I can't, it's conceivable for men to be interesting. I've thought about that, uh, because you're absolutely right. I've thought about that. I don't know if it's just historically we tend to gather together. Like I come from a very Italian Polish family, but mainly Italian because my mom's Italian. So of course you always lean to, or in our family, it was everything was Italian, and whenever there was a room of aunties and uncles and grandmas and cousins and all the women in the kitchen, it was in, you know, Christmas morning would start off great, but by two, someone was fighting. You know what I mean? They were this and you did that. And then, and then at the end of the night, they all kissed each other goodbye and off they went. And I think there's something about women that are together in these, we're just very, you don't see, I don't anyway, you know, men just gathering. We love to gather. We like, I mean, listen, I always say, oh, you got to do to sell something on Instagram and say girls weekend, they'll stampede to it. Like we just love girls weekend. So girls retreat and everybody, we, that's who we are. We like to gather in big groups and just, you know, gossip and banter and tell each other off and get back together and then love each other. Then always, there always ends with a cry. We love a good cry, you know, at the end of the weekend. So I think it's just historically how we kind of roll. And then they obviously gets, you know, it gets shown on TV and you got to remember some of those days were filming, they're long. You may see it in an eight minute clip, but that may be hours. And sometimes you start at eight 30 in the morning on those girls trip. You don't go to bed till midnight. Yeah, it seems exhausting. I was watching it. But it's fun. It, well, you kept going back for more. You're still going back for more. And well, no, I'm not. I don't know what show you're talking about. I'm not. Well, you've been, you've been, well, all right. Fair enough. Fair enough. Let the record show. Did I miss something? No, didn't say anything. Didn't miss anything. But it also sometimes feels like, like alcohol is like the eighth housewife on the trip. Of course. And that like shows up. Alcohol is the eighth is, is, this is what I love is when people start to question things, what party have you been to a bachelor party? Have you been to a bachelor party? Bachelor party I've been to. Have you been to a, are they, are they usually sober? Have you been to any picnic where it's usually sobered? Have you been to a wedding? The alcohol is usually involved in most of our life. So I don't think you, I think it's very easy to corner it to these things because, but of course, I mean, that's just a given. And I think they've lessened that. You know, we had free reign. You know, like I said, it was a bit, for me anyway, and I'm just speaking, I have to use all those words like allegedly, I mean, I've covered myself now, right? Allegedly, allegedly, allegedly. You know, it was much more of, I think, the wild west because we didn't worry so much about everything. Now I would be very frightened to be on reality TV like that because, God, we've gone through so much, you know, in the last five or six years, everything has changed, the rules and the regulations, what you say, what you don't do. It's very monitored that I actually think it'd be much harder to be on reality TV full time now. And you can get in big trouble. You think because of the reaction, because of the people paying attention? Yeah, I just think the stakes are much higher now. I never thought about it. Is that so sounds so weird? I never thought about it. I never worried about it. Of course, I was like, that was a bad episode, but I didn't really walk around with also to, I think the social media game is so intense now. And the, and a lot of the bloggers and stuff like they're, they're really running. They're really running the game. They know more than we know. So it was a much more of like we'd be filming and it was a big mystery until it came out and there wasn't that voracious studying and, and, and just micromanaging everything and pulling out every word and talking about this and lawsuits and like it's scary now. Yeah. That's so there's something about, like I know that that I never once walked away from the show thinking I'm going to get sued or I said something wrong. That's going to get me in big trouble. Yeah. I mean, I know that when I've had nights, because I agree, you know, alcohol is part of my best and worst nights, you know, of course for all of us. And you'd be silly and ridiculous not to admit that. Right. Of course. You know, we're only human and that's part of the authentic people. And that's one thing that you can call out in reality is when you know someone's playing one game on the show and then the minute the cameras are off, they're doing it all. And you're like, wait a second. And that must drive you crazy. Of course. And then that bleeds into whatever else. Cause you're like, what? You know, so, you know, there's a lot of stuff you have to take in. Yeah. One time I drank too much and called in Joe Biden to withdraw. I was thinking about even the love hotel that was on now. And I, it's doing that. Who's the host names again? Joel, whatever. Yeah, you know that when I was reading those Instagrams, I'm like, uh-oh. Someone was drinking too much because he must have. I just thought to myself, because we've all done that Instagram or that late night. I mean, I, I remember once I texted something late night and I woke up next morning and I was praying at six 30 that I didn't write it. I'm like, it was a dream. It was a dream. I was like, oh my God. Well, yeah, you have those moments. That's the thing that I, what I was feeling when I, whenever I see it, which is you have those moments in life where you've, you know, and by the way, sometimes it's just a truth you weren't ready to share yet. Or maybe you don't always say it in the most articulate way, but it's many times coming out. Uh, but it's very different when it's also going to be on television in a few months or is it not? Who cares? Who cares? Who cares? Okay. So Sally and Iowa doesn't like me for a couple of weeks. I'll win her back. Well, you know what I mean? All right. And you do win her back. And it doesn't change my life. I get up and I do the same things and everything's the same. And, and I never really was, I think also too, that's different now is it's a much more branded thing. Like everybody was selling something or branding something or really curating their image. I mean, half the time you saw me and we were in our bed. We didn't even brush our hair. Like we just wasn't that curated. Well, I remember I wouldn't even have the wardrobe or the makeup people. Well, I'm not going to say who, but I was in NBC about, I don't know, a year ago. And I was doing something for Bravo Insider or something and in walked one of the housewives that was a new housewife. Um, and they had a whole team with them. I never, I still, I just have Ryan here. And that's like, I never had a team. I never had people. Like it was just, I, if we were going to do a press tour, I would be like, Luanne, you want to share a car? You know, and then there were crazy conversations. Like what I was laughing with the moment the other day, I said, remember this time and literally we didn't, there was no room to complain or say we're not doing it. There was, there's a lot of that now too. Like we just got our schedules and we were like, okay, I remember where we gathered at NBC, this is a true story. And we were laughing about the other day and they said, okay, you know, Bethany and Carol, they're going to good morning America. Well, like, oh, that's a fair. Okay. Whatever. What's my assignment? Okay. And then they do the way on and so, you know, you're going to something else. You're going to H and M to be on the jumbo tram. I'm like, well, that's a good one too. Why didn't I get that one? Right? So it's left for the room on. So we're almost like, well, okay, what are we doing? But they said, oh, you're going down to Times Square and we're going to stick you on the jumbo tram and you're going to say, one of you is going to say, and the premier of Real Housewives of New York City and the other person is going to bite into a hot dog in front of a hot dog stand. This is true. It's you probably can still pull it up. And we're almost like, well, I mean, I don't, I mean, I don't eat hot dogs. So like, I'll do that. And you're going to, I'm like, well, okay, I'll eat a hot dog. But I said, they're like, we won't put a lot of ketchup on it. So it won't spill on your thing. I'm like, oh, well, you can put ketchup on it. So of course. And I'm thinking that's how that went down. They drove us down. And I'm like, okay, tell me when to bite into that. Let's go. We go in the jumbo tram and Ramona goes, and tonight the premier of Real Housewives of New York City sees it whenever an Eichel. And that was it. No discussion, no rehearsal. Check. We're next. You know what I mean? You're just like a team player. You're just into it. Well, we all were. Yeah. And we all were excited for press days. There was really no team, no nothing. Ramona was always worried about where we're going to have lunch. You know, yeah, you know, it was just sort of like another day to be all together. Yeah. Also, those trips seem so grueling, but it seems like for Ramona, it was like just a vacation. Oh, Ramona thought they were real vacation. She would call me up and be like, oh my God, are you back for the holiday? I'm like, what holiday? Like, no, no, she really, really. But Ramona was remarkable because by the time we got to these, I'm thinking about it like, okay, how are we filming? By the time we got to any place, Ramona would have every restaurant owner, every nightclub, every contact that she owned it. Like she's remarkable like that. And there wasn't a time that we would stop filming that she then wouldn't go out. So, that's a... I was like, oh my God, it's 11.30. We've been filming since that day. I'm going to go out. I was talking to Joe and he's very excited about us coming. So I'm like, all right. So that's what people don't realize. When the cameras went off, we were still sort of all together. I think there was one time when Bethany, I think, or someone released the tapes of us after the cameras went off and it was Halloween and we were on the pool table. And people were like, now why aren't we part of that? Because we really did stay awake with each other. You know what it was like? I think it's because we come from that college era where we all hung out and sororities and stuff. For us, it was like we were back on spring break again. And we were making money and being loved generally. Generally. It seemed like we were just ourselves. It seemed like it would bug you when say it's the morning, you're all just woken up and like Tinsley walks in full glam and you're like, how are you already so made up? Well, Tinsley went to sleep with full glam. Like I think she would keep her eyelashes on and everything. Tinsley was always perfect. Yeah. That's her arrow, but I think that's a, but she would, she would go to sleep with her eyelashes and stuff. And she was much more, even in her, when you see her filming, she was always very well put together. We were put together well, but you know, we had, we, it wasn't a huge concern. Like if we weren't cast partying at your stuff, you kind of came into our lives and saw what we really wore. Right. Well, it just seems like you were less concerned, which is what made it good TV. We weren't concerned. Well, because it was, there's, I think that like one, one way in which what's happened in reality TV has sort of come over to politics is, and Trump says this kind of thing all the time, which is, it's great to be loved. It's fine to be hated. The only thing you can't be is boring. I agree. And you know, we talked the, I can't believe I'm agreeing with that, but okay. I know. That's going to be the first time I hear from you. Hopefully, he was the last, but the, we talked to Sarah McBride, who is a congressperson from Delaware. And she said, some of my colleagues are treating me the way they treat me because they want attention. They want to employ the strategies of Bravo TV to get attention in a body of 435 people. And the way to do that is to pick a fight with someone and throw wine in their face. And she might be correct. Well, with the current day we live in, she just might be correct. And we're seeing it happen over and over again. And sadly, I don't like it, but there is effectiveness in that. Yeah. Like that must be something you feel when you watch politics now. A hundred percent. You feel like deja vu. Like, oh, wow, that's a move I saw Ramona pull. Yeah. And I think, you know, I think all things in life are kind of political. Marriages can be political. Reality TV can be political. I mean, there's a lot of things in life where people can apply strategy. And I don't think this is any different, right? And for us to think that politics, I mean, I think if anything in the current age, we're living like it or not. And you know, whatever your opinion is, you do what you want. But it is a learning curve that it wasn't all that it seems like it is a lot of movement and jiggering and and game playing and stuff. At least that's been my experience watching it because maybe because I grew up in an era where the six o'clock news was your only knowledge. And now you see that there's a lot of other stuff that goes on that is unfortunately, or fortunately, very reality TV like. Well, because part of it's about attention. Yeah. It's about getting attention and Trump figure that out. People like Marjorie Taylor Greene figured that out. So and you can't take your eyes off it for good or for bad. You're like, what? You know, so reaction is reaction. 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Because the imperfections will be as interesting to the audience as the perfections. Well, also- And that's the difficult part. That's the rub. And you've already, I think they're, I imagine, going through watching yourself, seeing the talking heads, seeing the online reaction, seeing the edit, and then doing it again. And not trying to kind of be risk aversive. It must be very difficult. Not trying to be risk averse or, you know- Being willing to do what you've done. You know what's so interesting about this? You're overthinking how much we thought about it. That's the problem why it's difficult to answer this. Because you're applying things that we just, we would literally end filming and go back to our normal lives. Like, and not really think about it until they were like, you start press next week. And then you went through that, that we would put our workouts on again, and go through the process and mourn it, be horrified, be happy, be thrilled. I say it's like, it's like belonging to the NFL. Okay. You get on the field. You beat each other to the pulp. You do great passes. You do bad passes. You're frustrated. You're happy. You're high five. And you're like, what the F? And then you get off and that night you're having dinner, patting each other and saying, high five. It's like spring training is in six months. So let's have some fun until spring training. It's a little bit like that. And I think that's what makes a great reality star. You have to be able to be strong enough to, well, I think the relationships have to be strong enough to cycle through it and understand what you're doing. Because if you don't, it'll kill you internally. And you see that happening to people. They just can't not take it on. And they eat it. They drink it. They sleep. I remember Hannah said to me one day after I'd finished filming and we were at Bergdorff shopping and someone said, oh my God, it's during the, she goes, no, we're not doing that during the Medley thing from the house. Right. We're back to normal again for a couple of months. Right. You promised me, mom. And I was like, yes, I am. Yeah. Cause I don't want to do that now. You promised it doesn't start again until September. I said, okay. So we would, we're very good. And that's an art form in itself to transition back and be able to wake up the next morning and be like, well, I guess there's not a car service waiting for me. And back to reality, I got to go wash my dishes and I'm going to just wash them. You know what I mean? Yeah. Well, I bet, I bet you may not have overthought it. I overthink everything for the record, but, but I mentioned people that have struggled on these shows have been, have been doing some overthinking. And also too, that stakes are much higher now. I mean, we're seeing people go to jail. We're seeing people do this, all these things that I, you know, but again, I go back to this. It's not that I don't have empathy or sympathy. It's that you kind of sign the contract. So I remember someone said to me right before I started housewives, one of the final things that they said, now remember, if you're going to do this, all, do you have any skeletons in your closet? Because all your skeletons will come out eventually. So you got to be prepared for that. And I remember thinking about that thing and what would be the most embarrassing thing that could come out about me? And I was like, I think I'm good. I will own up to all of them and I pay my taxes. And I think we're going to be okay. Yeah, that's, you know, I pay my taxes and I haven't been in a sex scandal or I've never said to dirty video. So I think we're okay. So if let's say Pete Buttigieg or another Democratic candidate told you he's about to shoot the Real Housewives of D.C. and he's going to be joining the cast with Donald Trump and Marjorie Taylor Greene and JD Vance and Marco Rubio and you're trying to advise this person. You're there. You're there kind of confident. They're about to go into battle in high heels, not Pete in high heels, but you know, what's your, how would you, if you were thinking about politics as a reality show, what would be your advice for how to kind of go into taping and win? That one's tough because that would be a tough one because you'd have to, I think someone like him would have to research to think his whole strategy. I mean, that is a sink or swim. That is a, it's either, you know, beat him or join him at that point, depending if you want to stay. Well, that's the problem. That's the problem. If you want to stay on TV, I think you're going to have to, or maybe I would say, probably pretend like you're joining them and then throw in the acts at the end. That's good. Collect information, create an environment where they get very comfortable with you and they're exposing too much, but at the same time be the Skull Collector and then at the end in the reunion, just like slam that shit. We need an insider. We need somebody to get inside. You know, I went back and look. But that would be, he probably wouldn't make it second season because... Well, what would we do? And probably to be honest with you, JD Vance and those people would be great reality stars. I'd watch it. Well, that's the problem. That's the problem. Well, who do you see out there that would be a good democratic reality star? Who's the person that's built for this moment to you that you think, oh, wow, that's a person who would be a great housewife? See, this is the problem. Kamala Harris. Kamala Harris, Kamala Harris, that's a good one that she could do it. I think she's a character and I think she's fun. And I wish we saw more of that because she's actually brilliantly smart, number one. She was a prosecutor for a year. So you can imagine the skills that she has. I mean, you need those good prosecution skills when you're executing it through Housewives. And she has a quiet greatness about her that would create both mystery and fear. Do you think that she has at times made a mistake that housewives have made about trying to... Oh my God, you're going to get me in trouble politically. Oh gosh. Yeah, exactly. That's how it all begins. That's how it all begins. But no, but that maybe she was a little bit held back, a little bit afraid to be her full self. The woman had no time. I just thought the whole thing was, she just had no time. What did we have? Six months, you know what I mean? Less, three months, three months. I mean, I think considering the time she had, that was a very difficult thing to do, even coming into it, probably getting that call. She was like, oh my God, there wasn't a lot of preparation for that. And let's face it, those people are usually groomed for what, two or three years beforehand. So that alone was a feat to watch. You know, I went back and looked and... And I don't want to be political, but yeah. I went back and... Or do I? Do be political. I went back and looked and I found, because I was Hillary Clinton's speech writer. Oh my God, so was my husband, with Madeline Albright in those early days. Those are years before me. Yeah, yeah, of course. Well, I know that. I knew we would be 72 now. I'm not saying you're the... But I went back... That's impressive. I was very overwhelmed and I was not qualified. That's a hard job. It was a really hard job and I developed a kind of twitch in my nose for a while. Because I was 23, I was 23, 22 when I got the job. I was completely and over my head. But I went back and pulled her old calendars and there it was in 2006, fundraiser Hillary Clinton, Richard and Dorinda Medling. Yes. And so you did a full... At my townhouse. At your townhouse. Yeah, on the Upper East Side. Well, they were very close and so was when Madeline Albright was a very good friend. You know, but even that's so interesting is that back then when Richard was involved with the DNC and the Council of Relation and all that, Richard Haas and all them, all of the Connolly's rights, it was much more of a bipartisan thing. Although you were loyal to your parties and worked very hard for your parties, like you'd go to the Council of Formulations and the bipartisan thing is really was such an incredible think tank. There wasn't that sort of, you're either Republican or Democrat. Now they were much more open about speaking and learning from each other than it is now. I kind of miss that, right? No, it is. Well, you feel that in the show, right? Because there was something about 2016. Oh my God, I can't believe you found that in the calendar. Dennis, what's his name? Yeah, Dennis Chang. Dennis Chang raised that. Of course. And that's so weird that we remember these things. Absolutely. But you're right that politics feels more fraught in part, I think, because So separated. It's separated, but also because Republicans have become, the Trump Republicans have become so extreme that it starts to intrude on real housewives. Well, it starts to intrude about creativity because people, you either are one or the other and part of those kind of bipartisan think tanks, like the council or whatever, it was an ability to, I remember Richard used to have big, huge talks with Trump, you know, Jr. and not Trump, Bush Jr. And like they could come over and he just found them, even though he, you know, was one party in which it was that they just learned so much from each other, especially during, remember, I come through the time when they were dealing with Saddam Hussein and they were dealing with bin Laden. You know, there would literally be think tanks in my garden with all of them, Colonel Powell, all of them. Like, and then these wacky characters that I wasn't, you know, Richard would be like, why don't you not come down because someone's coming. They were the wacky characters, you know them. Yeah. They don't look like they're anything, but you certainly don't want to wrong them. And I remember one of them, I was in the kitchen with one, he said to me, you know, the best thing about coming here is having a piece of lasagna. I was like, well, are you going to kill me now? You know, because they were like that, you know, they were personality list, but crucial to this sort of, you know, and then that's when you would have all the great thinkers, people that I don't know, you would even think of now and they would literally openly talk about. I think about it now as like a person that was just like, oh my God, I got to go grocery shopping because they're having a, I think tank thing in the garden today. I want to make something really nice, you know what I mean? And there, yeah. But when I think about that now in retrospect in the learning curve for me, and especially when I talk to Hannah or even Richard's kids, it's very embroidered in who they are because politics were a much different thing back then. They weren't scary. You, you was something everybody could be involved in without getting stuck on one side of the other, right? Yeah, yeah. I mean, I know it said the other day. God, that's wild that you found that calendar. Yeah. There it was. Yeah. I was like, oh my God, I might have liked more. And you know who was at that? It was Desmond Tutu. Wow. Which is amazing. Big gap. Big gap. Yeah, yeah. And then I remember when they had one night he had Nelson Mandela stopped by the house and I was literally in the living room and he just came from, I think they were at the regency because he used to stay at the regency, right? And that, they were all the politicians stayed. And he brought him over for like 10 minutes and I was like, wow, this is really a moment. Because she goes, in that world as big as it is, it's very tiny back then because they had their clubs. You know what I mean? Their clubs have meant that they would move around. What if you think Nelson? I think I have a picture of it somewhere I should find. I kind of forgot about all that stuff. That was another life I had to let go. Do you think Nelson Mandela saw the man at the bar at the regency? I do remember being in an elevator with Netanyahu and all security guards and thinking, that guy's kind of cute. Who is he? Which is like, come on, Jordan. I was, I really did. I didn't know who he was. That is a true story. They were, they were closing the thing. I'm like, which are we can fit in? So, so we get in. And it was Netanyahu and he sweltered and he said, hello, are you, I really didn't know who he was. I know I'm probably going to get a lot of shit about that. But remember, it was like 20 years ago and I was much younger and more interested in fashion than politics. Hey, don't go anywhere. There's more of love it or leave it coming up. Love or leave it brought you by Mint Mobile. 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I am a number one and Ryan can agree to this and everyone, I don't know again if it's just not my interest or I'm not a person that's always on Instagram. I just don't do it. So I go to my main people, Luanne, you look great. Ramona, I miss you. She's always with these Palm Beach characters. I didn't really know who it was. I know that's going to sound terrible. No, no, it's not. And I responded, Ramona, you look pretty and I stand by it. I thought she looked very pretty. Yeah, well, there's anything about the person. Next to him. Well, the reason it was. So people, when they asked me about it and I'm a person that when you asked me about something, I answer you. Yeah. Because if I didn't, if I, if I did it, I'll tell you why I did it, even if it's a mistake. I was, so someone called me, said, or wrote to me, you know, right away, some people call from those numbers that said, did you write this? I said, well, clearly I did it. It's on, it's on the Instagram. What are you asking me? I don't understand the question. And he said, well, why did you say that? I said, because I thought she looked pretty. It's not that deep. Yeah. But, but like there, I think that. Can I put that in print? I said, well, it's already in print on Instagram. Just take a screenshot of it and I'll put it on my own Instagram. I mean, I just don't. That's what I mean about social media. Everything now, and that's a bad thing. Everything now is torn apart, is like picked apart and over analyzed. And I think ultimately, not just for this, but for a lot of things for this generation, it really does take away from your ability to be creative and be free and maybe make mistakes. For anyone to walk around like they're so correct all the time is just fucking boring. We're not. I make mistakes all the time. Ask Hannah Lynch. Hannah thinks I'm a walking, Hannah's like, I'm so surprised at this point in your life, you haven't been canceled or something because you do things that like. Can't be canceled. How could this be canceled? You can't be canceled. Uncancellable. No, but she's like, mom, it's not 1960 anymore. So we make mistakes. And I think the best thing about making mistakes is just make it real simple. I made a mistake. Don't try to get a peep. Don't hire a PR team. Don't try to like hide away from it. Just say, uh, oh, I made a mistake. Well, it does seem like it seems like part of your, it gives you that power, right? Is that you know who you are, you're not creative who you are. And so people, and people already know you. So if you do say, I, you know what I screwed up, people, people take that at face value. Just like, I didn't know. Thanks for telling me. I won't, won't happen again. You know, and I always say, I used to say on Housewives, if you're really in bats, like someone would come to me and be like, I don't really know how to get there. I mean, I was like, just cry. It works. It works with men. It'll work on Housewives. Just good tear. Get pulled over, get pulled over. Cry. What do you like, there's rumors that Ramona is going to run for office. No, there's not. That there's that she's doing these photos. She's flirting a little bit with the magus stuff. That's what that picture was. In Palm Beach. That's what I, that's what we're here. I'll tell you what, I wouldn't put it past her. And you know what, she may win. That's the, no, I'd be scared to run against her. That's for sure. Literally Ramona, what people don't know about Ramona or maybe they do, she's brilliantly smart. And I consider myself a smart person. I can't say that about all the Housewives, but she's very smart. She's very switched on. She's good. She's good. I go to, like I consider myself very switched on financially. And we're always talking about post-hack dollars and we're doing this and are you going to put it in LLC? Like we're really, I do because I have money had. So, but Ramona will lay it out for you. The best thing to do, don't do an LLC. And if you, I'm like, okay, that's great. That's great. Hold on. Let me call my accountant. If you need my accountant, she's very, don't let it fool you. You know, don't let it fool you that she's this wacky person. There's nothing wacky about Ramona. No, you can see that. You can see that. And listen, she was part of an era where she was doing, like running, now people probably don't even know this, but she was part of the first part of these discounters like wack, daffy's and TJ Maxx and Marshall's and all these things that were just starting. And she sweaped up in the garment district. She was connected to everyone. And I worked in the garment district at the time for Liz Claiborne. I knew who she was because we would outsource all the stuff to her. Last thing before we let you go, you didn't know what this show was. No, I didn't. You had no idea. But it's better like that. But this is okay, right? It's beautiful. I'm good at this kind of stuff. I could be with you all day long. We're playing verbal combat. To me, this is like a date. I want to go over and kiss you. I would take you home. This is the kind of date I like. I know. Honestly, if I hadn't just gotten engaged, I just got engaged. There you go. And also, you're not my type. Gender-wise, gender-wise, gender-wise. It's a stunning woman. But I'm glad you cleaned it up there at the end. You got to clean it up. Got to keep it nice. Well, Dorinda Medley, this has been so much fun. Everyone here is such a fan. I do think that we have… Yeah, thank you. It was really fun. I enjoyed it. And I learned a lot about myself. No, I'm not getting that. Well, no, I do think that there's something about… There's no one who has, I think, a better perspective on how politics has become like reality TV than someone who has gone to battle and won and done both. Yeah, you've lived in both worlds. In both worlds. Yes, yes, yes. And so, thank you for bringing up that thing. It just took me down memory lane because in order to survive through all this stuff, I sort of placed that time with Richard, you know what I mean? He makes you want to cry a little bit. So, I appreciate you bringing that up. Well, there is… It's very sentimental to me because I was that person, you know? Well, you're still that person, aren't you? No, of course. But I think for survival's sake, you know, you have to sometimes compartmentize in order to… But when you brought it up, I was like, God, I actually remember what I served at that dinner. It like took me back. So, sorry about that, guys. No, no. But I think this is why people love you because there is this person right there. You're so tight. You know, I got within three inches of facing the toughness. The tiger. And I said, well, I'm going to lock that cage back up. And you're back on my lap with me petting you. There you go. That's the art form right there, ladies. You want a husband? You want anything? 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