How children learn culture — and create it, with Dorsa Amir, PhD
43 min
•Jun 3, 2026about 2 months agoSummary
Dr. Dorsa Amir discusses how culture shapes cognitive development in children across different societies, comparing children from industrialized Western cultures with those from traditional foraging communities like the Shuar in Ecuador. The research reveals that while some developmental patterns are universal, many cognitive processes—including decision-making preferences, fairness judgments, and even visual perception—are significantly influenced by cultural and environmental factors.
Insights
- Cultural environments fundamentally shape cognitive development beyond just beliefs and values—affecting time preferences, risk assessment, fairness judgments, and potentially even basic visual perception processes
- Children in foraging societies have greater autonomy in daily activities and naturally assort into mixed-age peer groups, contrasting sharply with adult-directed, age-segregated structures in industrialized societies
- The marshmallow test and similar preference studies show different results across cultures not due to universal developmental stages, but because local environmental incentives shape decision-making strategies
- Children actively generate and transmit peer culture within their communities, playing an underrecognized role in cultural evolution and adaptation rather than passively receiving adult knowledge
- Cross-cultural research reveals that many assumed universal developmental milestones and parenting concerns are culturally contingent, potentially reducing unnecessary parental anxiety
Trends
Growing recognition that psychological research heavily biased toward WEIRD (Western, Educated, Industrialized, Rich, Democratic) samples limits understanding of human cognitionInterdisciplinary approaches combining anthropology and psychology are becoming more valued for understanding culture-cognition interactionsPeer culture and child-generated cultural knowledge are emerging as important factors in understanding cultural evolution and community adaptationCross-cultural developmental research is challenging assumptions about universal cognitive timelines and revealing context-dependent learning patternsParenting science is shifting toward acknowledging cultural variability in developmental milestones and questioning one-size-fits-all parenting adviceResearch on visual perception and basic cognitive processes is increasingly examining whether culture can influence low-level perceptual mechanismsThe role of children as cultural innovators and producers—not just consumers—is gaining theoretical and empirical attention in developmental science
Topics
Cross-cultural cognitive developmentCulture and visual perceptionFairness and cooperation development in childrenTime preferences and risk aversion across culturesPeer culture and child-generated knowledgeDevelopmental milestones and cultural variationForaging societies and childhood structuresWEIRD sample bias in psychology researchParenting anxiety and cultural contextualizationNorm internalization in middle childhoodMarket integration effects on decision-makingAnthropology-psychology interdisciplinary researchCultural evolution and adaptive learningAutonomy and agency in child developmentEvolutionary anthropology perspectives on human variation
Companies
Duke University
Dr. Dorsa Amir is an assistant professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke, where she leads the Mind and Culture...
American Psychological Association
Speaking of Psychology is the flagship podcast of the APA that examines links between psychological science and every...
People
Dorsa Amir
Guest expert discussing cross-cultural research on how culture shapes cognitive development in children
Kim Mills
Host of Speaking of Psychology podcast conducting interview with Dr. Amir
Chas Firestone
Collaborated with Dr. Amir on research about cultural influences on visual illusions and perception
Shane Adlavlevi
Co-authored article with Dr. Amir on peer culture and children's role in cultural production
Quotes
"I define culture as essentially things that are the product of other people. So one canonical definition of it is about socially transmitted information, so stuff you have to learn from other people."
Dr. Dorsa Amir•Early in episode
"What you find is that kids that are living in these much more remote communities that are less market integrated are actually pretty present oriented, but they're also very risk averse."
Dr. Dorsa Amir•Discussing marshmallow test results
"Across this period of middle childhood, kids start trending toward what the adults are saying is the right thing to do."
Dr. Dorsa Amir•Discussing fairness and cooperation study
"Most people are probably doing a good job. If you care about your kids, the fact that you're asking me this question is already revealing that you're an engaged parent."
Dr. Dorsa Amir•Discussing parenting concerns
"Children are not just playing and socializing, but they're actually producing culture. There's a body of cultural information generated and transmitted between children."
Dr. Dorsa Amir•Discussing peer culture research
Full Transcript
It's a question many of us have pondered. If I had been born somewhere else, in another country, another community, another culture, would I be the same person? Would I think the same way? Would I see the world differently? Psychologists have long searched for universal truths about the human mind. But another growing area of research asks a different question. How much of what we think and perceive is shaped by the culture we grow up in? Today we're going to talk to a psychologist who studies just that. What aspects of human development are consistent across cultures? And what things vary? Can culture influence basic cognitive processes like visual perception and numerical reasoning, not just beliefs and values? How does culture shape children's cognitive development as they grow? And how do children themselves help shape culture over time? Welcome to Speaking of Psychology, the flagship podcast of the American Psychological Association that examines the links between psychological science and everyday life. I'm Kim Mills. My guest today is Dr. Dorsa Amir, an assistant professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University, where she leads the Mind and Culture Lab. Her research explores how cultural environments shape the mind and how the mind in turn shapes culture. She's worked with children and adults across the world, including the Shuar people and indigenous community in the Amazon. She's published dozens of articles in scientific journals and her research and writing have been featured in media outlets including The Washington Post, Slate, Eon, and Scientific American. Dr. Amir, thank you for joining me today. Thank you so much for having me. Let's start with a couple of definitions. As I said, your work looks at how culture and cognition interact. How do you define those two terms, culture and cognition, in your research? Wow, okay. Big question, right? Those are very, very tough terms to define. I will say, you know, I have my working definition of those concepts. But one of the things I often encourage people to do is to define their own versions of those concepts when they do their work. And some of my work has really been about having more precision in those definitions. So loosely speaking, I would say I define culture as essentially things that are the product of other people. So one canonical definition of it is about socially transmitted information, so stuff you have to learn from other people. I don't know if that's necessarily broad enough because there's lots of stuff that we're learning second or third hand from others. And of course, we're interacting with technologies and tools that other people have produced. So that's kind of my fuzzy definition of it, but I think it can vary quite a lot. And cognition, similarly, that is quite a loaded question. What exactly is cognition and what are its constituent parts? There are people, for instance, that would argue that the way that we visually perceive the world and our knowledge and beliefs about the world are actually different parts of our mind and maybe to associate between those two things. I don't necessarily have a dog in that fight, but I guess you could think about it as the way the mind functions, how it interacts with the world, and what those input-output relationships look like. So very broad terms, I would say. Now, has psychology as a field spent a lot of time thinking about these questions, or has it focused more on looking for universal aspects of cognition rather than how it varies across cultures? Well, I will say this is a very old question, this idea of how cultural influence and how the environment shape our minds. I think it's one of the oldest questions you can trace the history of this all the way back through diverse cultures and lineages throughout thousands of years. So it's certainly one we've been grappling with for a very long time. I think, in fact, to the kind of modern renaissance that produced cognitive science and its more modern form really actually had cross-cultural studies and anthropology as one of the central foundational disciplines in this view of what cognitive science was. So I think there's long been a theoretical interest in the way the culture shapes the mind and vice versa. Though I will say that the empirical work, there was a lot of it, certainly in the mid-20th century, it was really picking up a lot of steam. But then there was a series of essentially historical and epistemological accidents you could describe them as that fractured the field a bit. So my home field, I was initially trained in anthropology, adopted the four-field model, which has become emblematic of American anthropology, within which there is cultural, archaeology, linguistic, and biological. And it really spans the entire, the world of methods is quite broad. So you go all the way from extremely qualitative, humanities-based inquiry, all the way to very quantitative. And so as a result of the changes that were happening within anthropology, I think this relationship between culture and cognition became less of a hot topic, so to speak. And I think there's been a revitalization of that effort in recent years. So certainly with the advent of, for instance, a very notable paper in BBS called The Weirdest People in the World, this idea that the mind should be examined across cultural environments, I think, gained the second wind. So old question, some ups and downs historically, but I do think there is increased attention and energy in this subfield today. Now you've been working since 2014 with a community in Ecuador called the Xuar. Tell us about that community, how has working with them shaped, how you think about these questions of culture and cognition? And why the Xuar? Yeah, definitely. So the Xuar are a hunter horticulturalist group in the Ecuadorian Amazon, and they're one of many different groups around the world now that are still practicing what we call traditional subsistence practices. So they are hunting, gathering, cultivating garden crops, and doing sometimes some small-scale agriculture. And now what's notable about that is that the social structure and the daily activities of people and the ways the communities are organized have a very long tail in history. So I think a lot of those structures and interactions and practices are thousands, if not hundreds of thousands of years old. And so you kind of get to see what the human life is like in a structure that maybe resembles something very different than what someone in an industrialized society might experience. And so you can really start to tease apart what the role is of those kinds of social, ecological, and environmental factors in shaping some of the things that we're really interested in. So I've been working with the Xuar and other communities that still practice some of these more traditional subsistence practices for a long time, and of course through many collaborations with wonderful researchers all around the globe. And I've really learned a lot, I will say, just in my initial experiences spending some of my summers out living among these communities, it really was quite a transformative experience, both personally and professionally, because I think you really get to step outside the culture that you are familiar with. And in both the subtle and more seriously and more explicit ways, start to question some of these assumptions that you might have about what life can be like or should be like. And so I think it really helped expand my view on what life could look like. And in particular, as you mentioned earlier, what something like childhood might look like. So one of the things that I've been quite interested in is how children develop across different cultures. And there are really some market differences between children growing up in these more foraging based societies and what a child in a much more market integrated industrialized society might experience. And I think seeing that in sharp contrast was really evocative and really interesting intellectually, and really trying to understand what are some of the consequences of these changes across a relatively short span of time, and what that means for cognitive development more generally. And what do you see? I mean, how do children in a culture like the schwar differ from kids you might meet in your Duke, I mean, right, the kids in North Carolina? Yeah. So I would say some big differences and some surprising similarities. So one of the things to note is that in a lot of these foraging based societies, communities are smaller. So you have, you know, a number of households that all kind of know each other. Sometimes they're kin, sometimes they're non-kin. But what you also have is a community of children kind of within the larger community of members. And because humans are, you know, we are not seasonal breeders like some other primates, and so we have children all throughout the year. And really as a function of just the number of people in the community and the fact that we, you know, can have children throughout the year, what you end up with are children of various ages. So very rarely do you have a cohort of kids that are exactly the same age in the same way that you might, for instance, in a second grade classroom. And so the first thing to note is that there are a lot of kids and they're all, they are of mixed ages. And actually the further back you go in time, the more children there are. So this is one big change that's happened with the advent of things like industrialization is that the average family size has changed a lot. So you're going from a fertility rate of let's say five to seven kids per family down to something like two or three. So there are more children, about 50% of the population, for instance, among the Shwar and among, you know, similar communities are under the age of 14. So it's a very young population of mixed ages. So that's just the demography, right? So just structurally very different, smaller population sizes, more children, more mixed ages. And the other thing that I think is quite interesting is the locus of control, I suppose you could describe it as, which is who gets to determine what children are doing on a day to day basis? Who is making those choices? And what you find is that, for sure, in industrialized settings, the daily activities that children participate in are largely adult created. So we kind of determine when school starts, for instance, what they do in that classroom, and there are periods, of course, and hopefully increasingly more in these settings where children have some autonomy to decide how to engage with things. But it's a very, very different in terms of the amount of agency and autonomy granted when you look at children in some of these smaller scale societies. And so typically they are deciding what they do on a daily basis. And most of the time what they're doing is assorting into peer groups. That's what they want to do. And this is, I think, one of the nice and really striking similarities actually is that that inherent motivation is still the same in societies like the United States. That's still the kids want to do, but sometimes they have to get a bit more creative about how to do it. So maybe they see their friends on Minecraft, right? But they are still really strongly motivated to assort into what we call these peer groups and create what we refer to as peer culture. And so you really do see again in this direct comparison what really stands out, some things that are quite distinct and different, but really you also see this underlying shared capacity and motivation that I think is quite striking. One of the experiments that I think you've run with the short children is to recreate Walter Michel's famous marshmallow test. And you get a very different reaction from these children compared to the ones that we might see in the United States or Westernized cultures. Can you talk about that? Yeah, absolutely. So this is some of my earliest empirical work, was trying to test what some of these hallmarks of cognitive development looked like across these very different ecologies. And one of the things I was really interested in were these preferences that are kind of at the heart of decision making. So those related to time, like the one you're mentioning now. So how willing are you, for instance, to wait for more rewards in the future? And I also looked at risk preferences. So how likely are you to take on risk, essentially? If I say you can have a candy guaranteed or you get a one in six chance of two candies, does that seem compelling to you? And what we find in the United States is that there tends to be this change across development where younger kids seem to be more present oriented. So they prefer things now. And they tend to be a bit more risk seeking. They're more exploratory, they take on risk. And this has kind of long been described as a signature of early childhood. But what you find, actually, when you look at communities like the shore, and this is the work that I conducted over a decade ago now, what you find is that there are differences actually based on what the local environment is incentivizing. So what you find is that kids that are living in these much more remote communities that are less market integrated, meaning they're less reliant on markets and infrastructure and urbanization for their subsistence. So mostly, for instance, hunting and growing crops, they are actually pretty present oriented, but they're also very risk averse. And so you see this profile that's kind of more generally risk averse because waiting for tomorrow for something kind of carries some risk with it. You have to kind of be willing to accept that I'll be there again tomorrow to return these rewards to you. And so there seems to be just this much more risk averse decision profile. And what's really interesting is that when you compare those kids to shore kids that are still in shore communities, but just much closer to the cities, you start seeing a profile that looks a lot more like the American kids. And so those same patterns seem to be moderated by stuff like industrialization and market integration. And I think that casts a little bit of doubt on this idea that there is kind of a universal cognitive developmental timeline that all children go through. And the argument that we try to make is that those types of preferences are really shaped by the local incentive structure and the decisions that you're making based on what's available around you. So it doesn't seem to be the type of thing that's necessarily universal, but much more sensitive to the context. We're going to take a short break. When we return, I'll talk with Dr. Amir about how kids learn about fairness and cooperation in different cultures. More recently, you published a study that looked at how cooperation develops in children, both in the US and the Schwarz children and several other cultures. Talk about that. What did you find? Yeah, absolutely. So this is kind of our attempt to enter the social world, so to speak. So I had been working on these preferences and these individual decisions for a long time. And I started thinking a lot more about social interactions, because, you know, at the heart of it, the humans are an extremely social species. And we are very much reliant on other people for our success. And so one of the things I was really curious about is what those cooperative preferences look like when we interact with other people. What are the types of preferences that are guiding those decisions? And how are those the types of things that are also shaped by culture? And so we did a very similar exercise here, which was looking at the development of this type of decision across different cultures. We looked at kids in five different countries. And we gave them a battery of tasks that were related to social interactions. So for instance, we gave them a chance to either accept or reject a number of candies that was divided between them and another person. So let's say they got four candies, the other person got one, and then you get to decide, does that seem good to you? Do you want to enact that? In which case, you can say yes, or you can say no, no, maybe that's not fair, reject it, and nobody gets it. And so we really wanted to look at how these types of responses varied across cultures. And what you find are some interesting, again, similarities and differences. So again, teasing apart this idea of what's shared and what's not. What you find is that five-year-olds everywhere are pretty much the same. I have a five-year-old myself. I guarantee you would do this. You give him four, you give the other person one, he goes, that's great, right, accepts that. Because why would you say no to candy? And what you find is that kids everywhere at age five are basically making that same choice. It doesn't really matter if they're hunter-gatherers in the Amazon or American kids in Boston. They seem to be making very similar choices. But then what you find is that across this period of what we call middle childhood, so between let's say five and 12, you start getting kids changing their mind a little bit. But interestingly, what they're doing is changing their mind in line with what the adults in each of those communities, which we also surveyed, are telling you is the normative thing to do. And so we actually asked other kids and we asked adults in each of those communities in person, hey, imagine you're given a context like this. You get four, the other person gets one. Should you accept or reject it? What's the right thing to do? And what you find is that there's actually a lot of disagreement in the adults in what the correct thing is to do, right? So in, for instance, the United States, you have adults saying you should reject it. It's not fair to have more than someone else. But many of the short adults are saying, yeah, accept it. Why would you throw it away? It just seems inefficient. And what you find is that across this period of middle childhood, kids start trending toward what the adults are saying is the right thing to do. And so again, you see this really interesting balance of similarities. You see kind of the similar behaviors in early life. And then you see that the norm internalization process, then actually internalizing what the thing is that their community endorses and actually behaving in line with that takes a long time to develop, especially if it's costly. It's hard to say no to candy, but it's taking place approximately at the same timeline across every society that we looked at. So what we would take away from this is the culture is supplying the norms. So what should you do? And development is kind of, development is kind of continuing along this relatively consistent path where this period really seems to be this hot period for learning what those things are and bringing your behavior in line with those norms. And so I think we were able to extract out really cool insights about what's the same and what's not and what that tells us about cognitive development more broadly. It makes intuitive sense that some higher order concepts such as cooperation could be shaped by culture, but you've also written about more basic aspects of cognition, things like perception, visual illusions, numerical reasoning. How can culture influence those processes? What a great question. Well, this is an open question, right? So what can culture influence and what doesn't it? And I think this is a great empirical and theoretical question. I think it's really at the heart of this conversation. So I totally agree with you that these what we call higher order things. So things like social norms are exactly the types of things that you might expect vary across cultures, right? So I'm Persian. If you come to my house, you have to take your shoes off. I'm sorry. And my American hasn't had a long history of trying to understand why that would be the norm. So those are the types of things. Anyone who's traveled or has met anyone from other cultures understands that those things can vary. And I think the really interesting and complicated questions arise when we start digging deeper, when we say, well, what else can it do? And there's a very, I think, interesting debate at actually arising from right around the 20th century, the early 20th century and through the mid 20th century, that almost sounds like a dorm room conversation, you know, where it's like, akin to do we see the same color red? And it has to do with visual illusions, as you mentioned. Now, there's a very famous visual illusion called the Mueller-Lyer illusion. And if you're listening, I'll try to describe it, you have two lines of equal length. But the line on top has these outward facing arrowheads. So imagine like two little arrowheads pointing to the center of the line, and the line below has the outward facing arrowheads. And what's interesting about this illusion is that even though the lines actually are the same length, the one with the outward facing arrowheads just appears longer. So you ask people this, and they say, this one's longer, it just looks longer, it doesn't matter if I know they're the same length, I can't get rid of it. And this is actually at the heart, I think, of a very fascinating and longstanding debate about culture. And it really encapsulates these two really interesting bodies of work. So there's one body of work that says visual perception is this core thing that's happening. And the fact that if you measure it, and it's exactly the same length, you can't get rid of the illusion, that's the point. There is nothing, there's no knowledge or belief state and certainly cultural, that's the experience, that can change the fact that it just appears this way. But there is another influential body of work marshaled by Siegel et al. in the mid 20th century that argued the opposite. So they took this illusion to many different cultures, and they showed what appeared to be a lot of variation in this illusion across these societies. And so there is a mystery, there's a mystery here, as to whether or not this is true, is it true that vision can reach deep down into something that we would describe as a really core low-level process, like the discrimination of length. And so what my colleague and I, Chas Firestone, did across actually almost a decade of thinking and writing this, we tried to marshal the evidence in favor and against what we call the cultural byproduct hypothesis, the idea that culture actually changes how you see these types of visual illusions. And what we argue is that it's probably not the case that culture is shaping our ability to, let's say, be susceptible to this illusion. And I'll just kind of throw at you a few little highlights of the evidence against it. So the first, for instance, is that humans are not the only ones susceptible to this illusion. Actually, you can see the same illusion, for instance, among guppies and other animals. So first of all, it doesn't seem to be human specific. The other is that you can actually get this same illusion in a haptic version. So if I touch an embossed version of the illusion, I actually still feel the illusion, even though I'm not seeing it. So it does seem to be about vision. And the last one is quite interesting, the idea that, so the cultural argument was that the types of environments that you're exposed to kind of form these visual habits. And so if you see a lot of, let's say, carpentry that has these sharp angles that look like the arrowheads, that actually produces the illusion. And so it really is about kind of cultural experience during visual development. But what you find in this really remarkable study where this humanitarian effort went out to correct congenital cataracts in children, so these are children that had not seen for their life because they were born with dense cataracts, but they're reversible. And so this humanitarian effort went out to fix those cataracts. And then as part of the assessment of visual acuity, they showed them illusions like the Mule and Liar. And what you find is that they are susceptible to the illusion. And so it seems to not even require past visual experience per se. So I think that's just an example of the type of research endeavor to try and adjudicate these types of questions, which is like, what are the types of things that culture really can penetrate versus not? You said earlier, you started out as an anthropologist with a PhD in evolutionary anthropology. How did you move from that field to working in a psychology department? And does having both of those perspectives influence the questions you ask? Yeah, absolutely. So my background is in biological and evolutionary anthropology because I was really captivated by the idea of human variation, human evolution, and just the really fascinating ways in which we have evolved things like culture to be able to live across every terrestrial ecology on the planet. Like we live everywhere. How do we pull this off? So I started my PhD in biological anthropology, but I was always really interested in behavior. And what I really appreciated about the anthropological perspective is that culture was really always at the center. This idea that things like subsistence, whether you are hunting or gathering or farming, really have these important influences on the types of social experiences and behaviors and preferences and culture that you produce, that was really central. But I was always interested in behavior and psychology as well. And what I noticed in psychology is that it was really, I think, quite interesting in that it was looking at cognition itself from this perspective of what are actually the mechanisms, what are when information comes in, what's actually going on in this black box to produce this output. And what I found there was actually that the conversation around culture was still kind of emerging. And I really felt that that was a good intellectual home and that what I was most interested in is kind of what's going on in the mind. But this, the piece of culture and the role that it played seemed to be less developed. And so I really thought I could make a bigger impact and find a good community and home for my work in psychology, which I think I've been able to do. It's a bit of a risky gamble, I think, to be truly interdisciplinary. It kind of feels a bit like being bicultural, which I also am, you know, or like, am I American, am I Persian? It's a little bit of both. And so I had to kind of become a dual citizen, so to speak, in anthropology and psychology. And it took a while, I think, to really become fluent, you know, in those languages and those cultures. But now that I have done it, I genuinely appreciate the insight that it gives me into both bodies of knowledge. I think there's a lot of room in between disciplines that is less excavated. And I think there's a lot to uncover there. And so it was a little bit of a risky strategy, but I found it quite intellectually fulfilling. And I've really, I think, found a great home in psychology. And I think psychology in general has been very receptive to this approach. And likewise, I think anthropology has been similarly welcoming. So I think in general, it's been a very positive endeavor. Well, given that background and the research you're doing, you're clearly pushing psychological research beyond weird societies. And for our listeners, just so they understand, that means Western educated industrialized rich and democratic weird. But since most psychological research up until now is biased toward weird samples, do you think the body of research is wrong? Great question. So I thought about this a lot. So I don't think the body of research is wrong. So I don't think what I'm saying is no, but I think what I'm saying is yes, and. So I think we have great knowledge about how, for instance, children develop in industrialized societies. We have a lot of insights that we can leverage to create great environments for learning and at home for children, for instance. But I stopped short of saying, well, and that can automatically be exported out to every child on the planet, because I'm not sure that's true. And I think that there's just a lot to gain here in addition to what we already know, in trying to both stress test some of our theories that we think may be universal, but we don't actually know. But also just this idea that, so, you know, kind of challenging and examining long-held assumptions, for instance, about things that are assumed to universal, I think that's one very useful application of cross-cultural work. But also this other application, which I find much more generative, which is, well, what can cultural diversity tell us about cognitive diversity? What can we gain? So in addition to kind of what we know, how can we understand what else is happening, right? What is variable and what is not? And what is growing up in all these different environments get you? What are the things that are malleable and what are the things that are less flexible? And so I find it to be a really exciting, you know, addition. And I certainly don't see it as an addendum. So I don't want to be in there like, you know, there's a citation, and then you go, but see a mirror at all who found that this wasn't universal. You know, I think there's a lot more we can do beyond just testing assumptions of universality, because culture offers us almost like a natural experiment laboratory. Like, you can go out and find variation and ask really pointed and interesting questions about human cognition. Beyond just, does it generalize? To switch gears, I want to talk about a Twitter thread you published a few years ago on things parents don't have to worry about, which sparked a little online debate. Can you talk about that connection to your research or their other broader practical lessons you think people, especially parents, should take from your research and maybe explain what it is that parents don't have to worry about? Yeah, well, I will say there's a lot to worry about as a parent. I'm a parent myself. I have a five-year-old and now I have twin, for turtle, twin one-year-olds, by the way, which is a psychologist dream, really, because I'm running my own nature nurture experiment. By the way, genes matter a lot, it turns out. But I think both those personal experiences of trying to navigate parenthood in the United States, which is where I live, but also having access to what parenting and what childhood could look like across cultures, I think has really alleviated some of my anxiety. For instance, right now I have fraternal twins, one of them, they're both 15 months, one of them is walking and has been walking for three months, one of them has yet to walk. I feel that under normal circumstances, a very well-intentioned parent might see that and be concerned. I totally understand that. At the same time, you can contextualize among the broader spectrum of variability, for instance, in milestones like walking, where, for instance, we know that in some cultures, where walking is highly encouraged, so among the hot-sets, for instance, they hold their babies up as much as they can so they can get their legs strong because they're a mobile group versus you have populations like the Ache that are in the rainforest. They actually don't want them to walk because they don't want them to wander off, and so they discourage it. Those types of things really do have impact on when children walk. Knowing that there's a lot of both genetic and cultural variability in that really calms me down, frankly, and I'm like, well, we're probably somewhere within the range of normal. Just being able to see how much variation there is, and most kids become bipedal when they start walking earlier, a little bit later, does it make them slow walkers or super walkers or whatever, when it comes bipedal to seven degree. Just knowing those types of things, I find quite comforting. Being able to contextualize American parenting and American childhood within the larger kind of evolutionary and cross-cultural picture, I have found very really illuminating, and I think a lot of these micro-decisions that we're often concerned about, and again, it's well-intentioned, we want the best for our kids, I think in the big picture really wash out, and I find that a lot of my friends and colleagues, there's a lot of pressure to be the perfect parent, and there's a lot of pressure to monitor and set them up for success, and I completely understand that. But my general takeaway, honestly, is that most people are probably doing a good job. If you care about your kids, the fact that you're asking me this question, for instance, is already revealing that you're an engaged parent who cares about your child's well-being. A lot of the outcomes that we care about, I think that's a pretty good predictor of it. The other part truly is that you as a parent are also a human being, and there are costs and benefits to you, and you do need to think about yourself. The family has to be in some degree of harmony. If you find yourself really anxious and really upset about some of the choices, that maybe will have a tiny effect down the road, maybe not, I would encourage you to think also about your own experience of that decision. It's probably fine, is my general takeaway. It's probably fine. I love that you said it's okay for kids to be bored. It's not parents' responsibility to keep your kids entertained all the time. Oh my gosh, yes. I am actually quite a boring parent, I will say. So here's, by the way, talking about the demographic changes that have happened. So, children for a very long time, for basically all of human history, interact with other kids. That's what they do, and in fact, they want to run off with other kids in every situation that they can find. One of the things that I feel it's happened as a result of these demographic changes is that children are around other children less, and they have less interactions. They have much more interactions with adults than ever before in human history, essentially. What that creates is this really interesting quirky thing, which is that adults are kind of in order to interact with their kids, kind of take on a childlike mentality. So they will kind of become their zany play friend and play pretend with them the way other children would do. But the problem is I'm an adult. Number one, I'm not good at it. And number two, I don't particularly enjoy it. And so what I try to do as much as possible is get the kids together, because I just think that I'm not good at it. And every time I try to pretend something with my five-year-old, he tells me I'm doing it wrong anyway. So why am I bothering? But I think there's a lot of pressure to be like their zany play friend. And the other thing that I want to mention is that I think we have this conceptualization of a perfect childhood as one that is always positive. There are no negative experiences. They're not bored. They're entertained. They're learning all the time. They're really happy. And I think those are good goals. But I also think that that's not necessarily what life is like. My life is not one that the absence of negative things is not necessarily the thing that makes something perfect. And so things like friction and boredom and even conflict, I think, are actually extremely important. They are formative experiences for children to really internalize and understand things like social interactions. So I can tell my child not to cut in front of someone in the line at the slide until I lose my voice. But until he gets cut in line and knows what that feels like, maybe he doesn't have this deep appreciation for why that rule exists in the first place. There is so much to learn from the ups and downs of day-to-day life that I don't think are bad per se. And so obviously we want to avoid the big negative things. We want to provide a nourishing and safe environment for our children. That is, I think, 100% the right goal. But I'm much more tolerant, perhaps, as a parent and a scientist, of the little perturbations of day-to-day life, even when I get frustrated or I have an argument with my partner. I think it's okay for those things to exist because those things do exist in the world. And what I can model is kind of how to repair it and how I talk about the narrative of what I experienced. And I think giving children access to the real world in age-appropriate ways, I don't think is a bad thing. So just to wrap up, what's next for you? What are you working on now? What do you hope to work on in the future? Lots of fun things going on in the lab right now that I've been setting up here. I will say one of the things that you mentioned has become increasingly an interest of mine, which is this idea of pure cultures. So I mentioned that children assort into these peer groups and they love spending time with their friends. They actually don't want adults involved at all, frankly, and this seems to be a cross-cultural universal. And the question we can ask is, why are they doing this? And there's one version of it and one version of childhood more generally, which is that children are kind of there to learn. And this is the, I think, canonical view of children. They need to learn about things. They're copying us. They're great imitators. They're sophisticated emulators. And it's all about kind of the receiving of cultural information. And some people have argued that childhood is really long in the human species to allow for learning, which is true. But I feel like there's a little bit more to the story and I think it's related to what kids are doing in their little peer groups. So my colleague, Shane Adlavlevi, and I recently published an article outlining this idea that maybe what they're doing is a lot more important and sophisticated than we're giving them credit for because we think in their peer groups, they are not just playing and socializing, but they're actually producing culture. There's actually a term we borrow from sociology called peer culture. And it's the body of cultural information generated and transmitted between children. And you might think of your own experiences of peer culture, for instance, in the West is like little playground games or little hand clapping games or rhymes or whatever. And that's true. I think a lot of the peer culture in the West encompasses these things about play. But we did this broader analysis of peer culture. And what you find is that in a lot of other societies, especially these foraging societies, it is much more complex and much broader than that. Children have lots of cultural information, for instance, about how to forage for food. They target different game. They make their own material culture. They pick up the social and linguistic conventions of groups around them. They're much more exploratory. And one thing that we're arguing is that this kind of exploratory and distinct culture is actually really important in the history of cultural evolution, because it can help us as a whole community adapt when environments change. So as an adult, you're maybe setting your ways, you're doing things that you've probably been doing for 20 years. The Lord knows I'm already at the point now where I can't adopt new technologies. I'm done. But my kids can pick it up really quickly. And we think there's something really profound going on there, which is that as an entire unit, the human community, children and their peer groups are playing a really interesting role in the generation and evolution of cultural knowledge in a way that I don't think they had been recognized for yet. So a lot of the questions, both empirically and theoretically that we've been grappling with are about this. Like, what, how do peer cultures change across time? What do they contribute to the whole community? And more generally, are we undervaluing and under appreciating children's roles in the human story? Well, that's all great information. And I look forward to seeing more of your research. Dr. Amir, I want to thank you for joining me today. Thank you for having me on. This is wonderful. You can find previous episodes of Speaking of Psychology on our website at speakingofpsychology.org or on Apple, Spotify, YouTube or wherever you get your podcasts. And if you like what you've heard, please follow us and leave a review. If you have comments or ideas for future podcasts, you can email us at speakingofpsychology.apa.org. Speaking of Psychology is produced by Lee Weinerman. Thank you for listening for the American Psychological Association. I'm Kim Mills.