What's going on, my friends? Welcome back to the Ryan Leak Podcast. We love to keep things short and sweet for you each and every week. I believe this week's episode is going to help you, perhaps, do something hard. Yeah, I'm going to encourage you to get outside of your comfort zone. This week's episode is entitled The Willpower Muscle. The Willpower Muscle. I was working out with one of my best friends, James Wilson, the other day, and he starts telling me about this willpower muscle, which is interesting. Let me ask you this question. When was the last time you did something that you did not want to do on purpose? like not because you had to not because someone made you but because you chose to do it out of sheer fact that it's hard because here's what's interesting most people are actually waiting for life to get easier but the people who grow they actually train for harder there's actually a part of your brain called the interior cingulate cortex that's right it's called the interior cingulate cortex. And some researchers have started calling it the willpower muscle. And I love that because, well, it reframes everything. Here's what it does. The interior cingulate cortex is the part of your brain that kicks in when there's a conflict between what you want to do and what you know you should do. It's like the referee between your impulses and your intentions. So for example, when the alarm goes off at 5 a.m., right? And one part of your brain says, just stay in bed. You deserve this. And the other part says, get your booty about a bed right now and let's get it going. The interior cingulate cortex is the tiebreaker. It decides which voice wins. And here's what's wild. Brain scans show that people who regularly practice self-discipline actually have a stronger, more active interior cingulate cortex. The more you use it, the more it grows. Just like your bicep, just like your hamstring. It's not fixed. It's trainable. Which means willpower isn't something you're born with or without. It's something you build. And how do you build it? By doing hard things on purpose consistently. not heroic things not necessarily extreme things just small uncomfortable things that your brain would rather skip getting up when the alarm goes off instead of hitting snooze That help you Having a hard conversation instead of letting it fester That's a hard thing and it'll help. Perhaps it's opening a book instead of a time when you could just be opening up an app. Perhaps saying no when yes would be easier. or sometimes saying yes when no would be more uncomfortable. Like here's the deal. Every single time you choose the harder thing over the easier thing, you're building that muscle. You are literally training your brain to override the part of you that wants the path of least resistance. Think about it. Most of us don't struggle because we don't know what to do. we struggle because we don't do what we know. You know you should have that conversation with your spouse. You know you should stop spending money you don't have. You know you should put the phone down at 10 p.m. The information isn't the issue. The follow-through is. And follow-through is a willpower problem. And here's what I've noticed in my own life. the seasons where I felt the most stuck weren't the seasons where I lacked talent or opportunity. They were the seasons where I got comfortable, where I stopped choosing discomfort on purpose. It's when I started coasting. It's when I thought, oh, I can get away with this and nobody's really going to know it. The only problem is I knew. I knew I wasn't bringing my best. I knew I was coasting. And coasting can feel great for a while. But you can only coast downhill. I had a season a few years ago where I just realized I hadn't been pushing myself in any direction. Not physically, not spiritually, not relationally. But just professionally for sure. I think I was just maintaining. and maintenance mode sounds, I don't know, sometimes like responsible, but for me, it was just a dressed-up version of avoidance. I wasn't growing. I was hiding behind a busy schedule, and so I just made a decision. I started doing one hard thing a day that I just didn't want to do, and most of the time, that's around eating and working out. It's a vegetable. Just give me one. I don't want this. This is hard. Oh, this is hard, especially when you've got other options for sure. I do this workout class. Listen, let me tell you something. Anytime I invited a friend to this workout class about 15 minutes in I say if I was just trying to do this workout by myself this is the moment where I would stop and then we realize we still have another like 35 to 45 minutes to go Like, it's hard. But it's like, I chose this. I literally signed up for this class on purpose. And here's the deal. It just kind of just became a habit of me just doing a hard thing. It's not dramatic. It's not a 30-day challenge. It's not a no social media announcement. It's just one small act of discipline in some way, shape, or form every single day. Some days it's waking up early to write, especially before my house gets really loud. Some days it's apologizing when I'd rather just move on. And some days it's, I don't know, putting my phone down when I would rather just scroll and catch up on the latest and greatest or just get through email. I mean, every single day I'm just, I'm not looking for the path of least resistance. Like I'm looking for something that's just a little, a little hard. Every time I speak, I try to add a new bit or a new story or a new antidote, a new slide, something new. Why? Well, because that's hard. It's how you get better. Because here's what nobody's going to tell you about willpower. It compounds. And small, consistent deposits of discipline build something massive over time. You don't see it day to day, but six months later you look up and realize you're a completely different person. And now we know the science behind it. It's because your brain literally changed. That interior cingulate cortex got stronger every single time you chose hard over easy. And I'll just tell you this. The opposite is true too. Every time you give in to the easy option, you're training your brain that comfort is king. Over time, your tolerance for discomfort shrinks. Things that shouldn't feel hard start to feel impossible. And that's not a character flaw. That's an undertrained muscle. Nobody watches the Olympics and thinks, wow, they were just born fast. Nobody says that. No, we know there are thousands of hours behind that moment. We respect the process when it comes to sports but when it comes to our own lives it like we want the results without the reps You want to be more patient? You're going to have to practice patience in situations that test it. You want to be more disciplined with your money? You're going to have to say no to things that you want right now. You want to be more present with your family. You're going to have to put a phone down when your brain is screaming to check it. The willpower muscle only grows under resistance. So here's what I want you to hear. Don't wait for motivation. Motivation is a feeling, and feelings can be very unreliable. I'm going to encourage you to do it anyways. Do it tired. Do it uninspired. Do it when it's boring and no one's watching and there's no applause. Why? Because it's growing a muscle inside your brain that you're going to need later on. The version of you that you're trying to become, that person didn't get there by waiting to feel like it. They got there by showing up when they didn't feel like it. And so today, not tomorrow, not next Monday, not next quarter, today, I want you to pick your hard thing. And maybe it's a conversation you've been dodging. Maybe it's a workout you keep rescheduling. Maybe it's forgiving someone who hasn't even asked for it. Maybe it's opening a blank document and writing that first terrible sentence of something that's been sitting in your heart for years. Whatever it is, you already know. It came to mind the second I said it, and I'm just going to encourage you. Don't negotiate with it. Don't sleep on it. Don't put it on a list that you'll take a look at later. No, do it before your brain builds a case for why today isn't the right day. Like if it's working out, go for a walk. Matter of fact, you can walk and listen to this podcast at the exact same time. And you might go, I don't feel like walking right now. I don't feel like going for a run. Good. Do it anyways. because your brain will always build a case. That's its job. Your job is to overrule it. My friend, I'm going to encourage you. Train that muscle. Trust the process. And watch what happens when you stop waiting for easy and you start choosing strong. My friends, thank you so much for listening to the Ryan Lee Podcast. If today's episode inspired you, I'm going to ask you to do all the things. Come on, share it with a friend, rate it, review, subscribe. Your support helps us reach even more people with these short and sweet nuggets of inspiration. 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