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And it says, Am I the Arsall here for refusing to take down my post and letting my ex face the consequences of her cheating. I was with my ex Kay for two years and living together since a year. To make all the drama short, I found out she was having an affair since six months with her boss. I found out about it and broke up with her on the spot. Kay didn't even try to justify or deny and just moved out. But here comes the main thing in all this mess. Honestly, I wasn't expecting that she'd bring out our breakup on Instagram, but she did with a classic BS of me holding her back. A brighter future was waiting for her and all this type of stuff. But here comes my part, because the one thing that made me mad as hell is one of her posts when she said that I was abusing her emotionally and physically. I have a special spot on this because I volunteer in one of those abused women's centers and I provide housing for real victims of abuse. It's a long story about a female friend of mine who died because of her ex and that thing particularly touched me. It was the main reason why I'm volunteering. So you can imagine the rage and anger I felt when she posted about this fake BS. So I simply made a post on my Instagram page with the proof of her cheating and tagged her directly. Well, the part I wasn't expecting comes now because to me, for no reason it's like Instagram decided to make my post go viral in our community and the internet rage started under her posts. I was expecting maybe someone calling her out and nothing more. But the consequences hit her harder than I could expect because in just two weeks her profile is full of people calling her every possible name in the book. People wishing her the worst stuff and all these things. But K being K, instead of doing what normal people would do, she doubled down and got even more hate and worse stuff than I thought was possible. But the cherry on top was the fact that she is now on administrative leave because apparently her boss tried to throw her under the bus to save his job and mostly because her jobs become flooded with not so kind comments about her from the classic fire her to stuff I can't say here. And the most insane thing happened three days ago because her car had been smashed by someone. Not me obviously because I have better stuff to do than worrying about her cheating ex and even her own family started getting harassed by people on their socials. And yesterday she wrote to me from a new number asking me to delete my post because she couldn't keep up anymore by people insulting her on every post she makes and the job thing was the last straw. Honestly, I wasn't expecting all this mess and of course some people crossed the line with her car, her family and her job. But you know what? I don't feel bad for her at all. I mean she knew about my spot for abused women and tried to paint me as a villain by accusing me of stuff she knew exactly how I feel about. So maybe it's because it's all still fresh but I don't feel bad for her and I have no intention to take down my post which actually gained me 50k followers out of nowhere. So I'm either arsehole here for refusing to take down my post and letting her face the consequences of her cheating. OK Bill says on the back of this one, Ask her to post a retraction and apology to you on her social media. She made false statements that would threaten your job and reputation. So until you get at least that, fuck her. She made her bed so she can lie in it. Difficult bus says Ditto. She needs to both apologize and retract the accusations of abuse. Severe just reply saying publicly. Another one says tell her you're consider taking it down as she issues a full apology and her attraction to social media. Another commenter says you don't owe her anything. If you want to be nice, take it down but not if she's just going to lie about you again. She can certainly just delete her social media and not deal with any of this anymore. That's probably the best idea for her now. If you want to work with her, I would say you can take your post down since it's already done its job. But she needs to make a post admitting that she lied about you. If she's going to tarnish your reputation, she has to be the one to clear it before you take your post down. Not the arsehole. Like that last comment was saying, I'm surprised she even kept the social media up because every post she puts on there now is always going to be treated negatively. It doesn't matter what she does unless she apologizes publicly, which you know, that's not even going to go down well. I mean, she accused him of abuse. She could have absolutely done to him what's happening to her right now. There could have been thousands of people threatening his job and everything because of what she tried to do. And there was many comments just saying, demand an apology before you take it down. Some people saying they wouldn't ever take it down. Some people saying to OP, you've already won. So, you know, take it down if you want, you know, almost be the bigger person in that way. But a lot of people saying, fuck around, find out kind of thing. But OP did update the post and says, here is the update on how things ended up. And I really hope to post again about more funny and better stuff than all this drama. In the last post, I talked about my ex texting me to delete the post and end all this charade. And at the end, we've come to an agreement. The agreement is simple. She makes a public post on her Instagram page in which she honestly tells the truth about how our relationship ended and takes full accountability for her false allegations. And then, and only then, I take down my post. Three days ago, she agreed and she did. Actually, under that post, she got more hate than before. But that's not my problem. And I did the same. About all this mess, I have to say that in these last two days after her apology post, like I call it, the situation has calmed down pretty naturally. But she still receives hate and death threats. On this part, I have to say that before deleting my post, I made it clear that insulting my ex and wishing her death wasn't normal. So please stop the charade and respect her apologies. So until now, her profile passed from 2k comments to almost 500. And like I said, almost all, not exactly kind, but the situation is going better. I think people got tired of this drama and simply moved on to another one. In the last post, someone talked about a lawsuit for defamation. And you're absolutely right. I just didn't and had any intention and energy for something. So I just wanted to make it disappear faster than I could. And for the last point, someone asked me if I resented her for all this mess. But actually, I don't. What I feel for her is just pity and disappointment. The internet rage did the rest, even if I don't approve. Obviously for the death threats and all the extreme part. So that's it. I really hope to not update you anymore on all this mess. Just dandy candy says, Sounds like she didn't have any shame to begin with. So all's well that ends well. Loopy says exactly. I'd never imagined all this mess, but here we are. And all this because of a victim complex like I told her. Order replies that same way. We actually told her that as in, use the words victim complex. Holy shit. Now I got to know what her answer was to hearing slash reading that. Also good for you for making her take accountability. Loopy replies saying her words. There is no need to be cruel and says like seriously. Commodore says still not the asshole. It seems like she got what was coming to her minus the death threats. Of course, those should never happen. It sounds like accountability is like kryptonite with her. She only did the right thing when she had no other choice. I wish there was a way we could see this stuff when we meet them so we can avoid the toxicity. I'm sure you would have never in a million years guessed she would have done what she did. These keepers updated about her boss and her job situation. It'd be interesting to see how that turns out. Hopefully you can put this stuff behind you and move forward. Good luck. But now I'm going to turn this one to you guys. What do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Let's move on to another story. Our next story comes from strain at week 2575 and says I'm either asshole here for refusing to sell the house my wife wants me to sell. When my ex and I divorced, I moved out and she lived in our house until she found her own place. I bought the house three years before we got married and her name was added to the deed when we were married. At the time of our divorce, I was nine years into the 15 year mortgage. When she found her own place, we decided to keep the house in both of our names and rented out because neither of us wanted to sell it. For the past six years, we have rented out the house and basically broken even. She manages the property more than I do, so she kept the meager profit. Now that house has paid off, we are actually going to start turning actual profit. We agreed to a 60-40 split of the profit with her keeping 60 because she is the one that deals with the tenants. My wife, who I married last year, really, really wants me to sell this house. At first, she wasn't that insistent, but lately she has become so. She said there's no reason for me to co-own a house with my ex-wife. She also says that now that it has paid off, we could do a cash sale and make a lot of money. Neither my ex nor I want to sell and it's our house, so I don't really see the point of these conversations. Even if I agreed with her, my ex wouldn't agree and it would be an unnecessary fight. I'd have to get a lawyer. I'm exhausted just thinking about it. Last night, my wife asked me if I intended to co-own this house with my ex forever. I told her truthfully that we had many times discussed eventually giving it to our son once he reaches the appropriate life stage. She was upset by this answer. She asked if I intended to give a house to my step-kids or any future kids we might have. I told her this isn't Apple's and Orange's situation. The house isn't fully mine. No penny has ever gone from our shared household into that house. It's more my ex's than mine at this point really. Not legally, legally it's 50-50, but she spends more time on it. Also, this isn't a nice house, not like the one my wife and I bought after our wedding. The house I co-own with my ex is a small two-bedroom house. It's not like he's going to get a mansion. All the same, she is very upset. She said she feels the house is a source of strife in our relationship and she wants it gone. I told her I love her, but the answer is no. She's been called to me all morning as a result. Like phones for talking to your friends or your AI chef. If cheese won't stick to pizza, add glue. Either way, this expertly refurbished tech costs way less than you. Guaranteed by the back market promise, one-year warranty and 30-day free returns on every purchase. Yum, you are so good at this. Back markets were the world's shop's refurbished tech. You can buy all the stuff you want from Wayfair.co.uk where you can shop all things home. You've challenged me with sorting our office out with Wayfair's help, haven't you, Peter? That's right. How are you finding it? Wayfair.co.uk is the best destination to shop online for furniture and decor. And the value is unbelievable, so you won't ruin the budget too much. Exactly, and I'll tell you what else is unbelievable. The variety of great stuff you can buy for your home. Oh yes, the stuff for us both then. What I've done to the place. I'm sure I will. And if you at home need to shop all things home, then shop now at Wayfair.co.uk. Now, I think we can all know that this isn't actually about the house. She's not concerned about the house being an asset. She's bothered about the ongoing contact with your ex, I think. And one of the conversations particularly jump out to me, the what about our kids argument, just feels like it's about feeling like your past is taking priority over your current future together. But the thing is, your wife married you knowing this arrangement existed. So she doesn't suddenly get to decide that she's uncomfortable with it now because the house is profitable. In my opinion, she just doesn't get a say in the matter. I mean, you can have a conversation to find out what is actually bothering her because come on now. And the top commenter said, it's not about the house. Opie says, yeah, I know, but all the same. Is it reasonable to demand that I get rid of something valuable as a sort of weird loyalty ritual? Commenter says not the asshole. She's coming off as greedy and a bit jealous here. Acting like it's weird that you essentially co-owner business slash investment with your ex, whom is also the mother of your son. It's not like you're playing house with her. Add to the fact that she seems more focused on getting the money for herself slash her kids. How did you get this far into the marriage without your plans for the house coming up? Are you always clear about them or? Opie says it has come up many times, but she's got a more insistent than she was before. Previously, it was her preference. I sell it. Now it's almost a demand. Commenter says she sounds very firm in her opinion. Unfortunately, she doesn't have a say. It is your property that will benefit your son and most of all does not impact her. How does your wife by all of a sudden a set boundary here? Furthermore, where is she intending to go with your money? Don't cave or give in. She's rude, immature and manipulative with the treatment of you. Opie says she thinks we could put the money in our retirement plans and the children's college funds. Commenter replies saying is she not able to put equal amount into her half of their retirement plan? Also equal amount into her existing kids. Your step kids with her ex into their college funds. Her kids with her ex isn't your burden unless you sign papers to legally adopt them. Opie says I'm actually in the process of adopting them. It's just difficult because we don't know where her ex lives. So that complicates everything. Commenter says why do you need to pay for your step kids college fund? Why isn't she and the child's father doing that? That should have no issue with you. Opie says bio dad flew the coop. Commenter says not the asshole. I fully understand your current spouse yet I do not think she grasps the situation fully and she cannot be in your shoes. If you and your ex-wife are on good terms, relatively speaking, consider selling your share to her if she's open to it or buy her share to fully owning it again. And please do not add your wife's name to any future properties. Love trumps all but money like a rotten one can spoil a fresh basket of fruit. Opie says my wife's name is on our current home as it should be. Regarding my ex buying me out, I don't think that's fair to her. So she should shoulder the financial burden of selling for the benefit of our shared child. Commenter says you've been married for a year. Who owns your current home when you married? You should consult a financial counselor right now to get a reasonable plan because as things stand, you could be headed for a bigger financial mess with your second wife. Opie says we bought it together right after the wedding. Commenter replies saying did she contribute a significant amount to the down payment? Is she employed now? Opie says yes, a quarter of the down payment came from her. We're in the same earning bracket. She makes almost as much as I do. Since she has two kids and a deadbeat ex, she wasn't able to save as much as me before we married. But we both contribute more or less equally to our current shared household. Commenter says you have a prenup that excludes this property from being claimed as community property by wife number two. Opie says in my state, property owned before a marriage is not considered community property unless the spouse contributes to the property, mortgage payments, repairs, etc. This my ex has been managing the property. She's been the one paying the mortgage from the rental proceeds and handling repairs and such. So there's no reality where my wife could claim a stake in this property. Someone said how old is your son? Opie said he's almost 12. Opie on the college funds for all children involved. Opie says yes, my son has a college fund. We also set up funds for my step kids. My step son is seven and my step daughter is five. They're very smart children. Someone asked if Opie's current wife get along with his son. Opie says my wife gets along with my son, but she does not like my ex. They almost never interact. So it usually doesn't matter, but yeah, there's real contempt there. She's always known about the house and never liked it, but lately it bothers her more than before. Commodore says it does matter if she is verbalizing that contempt to your son. Why is she contemptuous? Why does it bother you that your wife feels comfortable integrating someone you're on such good terms with until she came on the scene? Opie says no, she doesn't say anything in front of my son. Basically, my wife thinks my ex-wife gave up on life and is a lazy, unfeminine slob. She mostly wears sweatpants and never puts on makeup. She doesn't push herself to relearn how to do things she did before her accident. She no longer has professional ambitions. I think those things are none of our business, but my wife is more or less disgusted by my ex. She doesn't usually say anything and only ever in private when she does. Opie talks about the divorce itself and says my ex-wife was in an accident that limited her mobility and killed her libido. Our sexless marriage made me resentful of her and made her paranoid that I was stepping out on her, which made me even more resentful because I was both not getting any and dealing with accusations of getting what I wasn't getting. Also on top of all that, my previously active wife now couldn't do most of the fun activities we used to share. Finally, she said, if we stay married, eventually we hate each other. Let's get divorced while we at least still like each other. You'll be free and all I ask in return is that you look out for me. So that's what we did. I got to move on and marry someone I'm compatible with and I always make sure she and our son are happy and healthy. It was her idea to get divorced because her paranoia about me potentially cheating on her was driving us both crazy. Opie on his current age and his current wife's age and says I'm 37, she is 31. So Opie did come in to update the post and says, well, I decided to make some changes to the house situation, but my wife didn't like them. Max and I are filing a new deed, but we each gifted our son a portion of our equity that falls just under the annual gift tax exemption. If we do this every year by the time our son is 18, the house will be fully or almost fully his no tax penalty. The same my wife was pissed would be an understatement. I'm going to use my share of the rental proceeds split four ways to buff up the college savings for each kid. Mine, hers and the baby we are trying for. My wife is unhappy with all of this. I told her the house is an asset from my previous marriage and so it goes to the benefit of my son from the marriage. Any asset she had with her ex would be rightfully my step kids if such assets existed. I basically said we need to get past this because if we're going to bring a baby into this world, we can't be fighting about such a non issue. She said she would accept it and move on, but she needed some time to do so. Basically, that's the resolution. In a clarification, a lot of you are confused about what the initial understanding concerning the house was. Max and I invested money in this house. Our understanding was always that the house would be our son's once he became an adult. Not that any income made off it before that would be his. We always intended to split profits once the house became income generating, which it only recently has. And people were skeptical about this. One said, no it isn't. She will keep fighting you. You need to fix your head and think of your son. She will try everything to get your son out of the picture and his money. It's getting laid that important to you. I hope he says I've mostly been ignoring that really hateful comment because I know that's just how the website is. Here's the thing, you don't know my wife. You got a financial disagreement. That isn't indicative of her feelings towards my son. She thinks holding the house is a waste when the money could go into high yield savings funds for college for our kids or into our retirement accounts. It's frustrating to her that I disagree with what she thinks is the best course and since the house isn't hers, her opinion isn't counted. Dealing with frustration is part of life. That doesn't make her a bad person. Someone said, what does she give to your children, her stepchild? Why would you split the profit between your child and hers? I'll just stop to it now. She has no say. It's not a house. She did not even get to have $1 from this house and her children too. Don't be stupid. I hope he says all of our income is used for the benefit of the entire household. Rental profit is income. The house itself will be my son's when he turns 18. But until then, my share, 40% of the rental proceeds is mine. It goes in the general pool just like everything else. Commodore says, I would never stay married to someone who insists on owning a house with the ex-wife for years to come. There are so many other ways you could keep that money separate to give to your child when the time comes. Hope you're replying it's not about the money. If he wants to sell the house when he inherits it, he can. But the point is to give him something valuable that we have maintained for him for years. It's a symbol of how our love for him has never wavered, even if we don't love each other anymore. Commodore says this resolution seems equitable, but you do realise that while you are splitting the rental income, you're taken away from the current kid and the kid to be. I get you need to keep the peace and this may be how you achieve that. However, your step kids have another parent and a set of grandparents that your kids won't, slash, don't have that. Would, slash, could be contributing as well. They will not be given to your current kid. Just a thought. Hope he says my step kids dad isn't in their life. I'm actually trying to adopt them, but it's difficult because he's hard to find and we need to serve him. Commodore says, I have anything in place to ensure that if anything happens to you, that your remaining chef for sure goes to your son and not your wife. The default for assets is generally to go to the surviving spouse. Hope he says the deed is structured with rights of survivorship. Only my ex-wife and son could inherit my share of the house because they are on the deed. No one not on the deed can inherit anyone's share. Hope he on his current wife and his earnings. He says I make around 120k. She makes around 80k. Commodore says you are basically asking her to sign a prenup in a way and you have a half house, but not exactly a high roller situation. This is not cut and dry as this thread makes it seem. You're essentially bringing in let's say 300k into a marriage. You're telling her that is for your son, not her. And it is your money, not your sons. That's fine, but I don't think it's strange for her to think that money could be used to grow your future family. Not only that, but you are tied up in a rental situation with your ex for the foreseeable future. Hope you respond that saying no. All incorrect. First of all, but least importantly, this house isn't worth 300k. It's a small two bedroom. Secondly, I didn't bring it into the marriage. Max and I made a deal concerning this house before I ever met or married my wife. This house was always intended to eventually be for my son's benefit. It's not a marital asset, not a penny of her money ever went into it. Not a penny of my money went into it after our marriage. So no, I didn't bring it into the marriage. Hope you respond to another comment saying I understand that you want to believe that. However, I go off what the attorney says, specifically mine. It's very common for profit sharing not to be even. Max wife and I invested money in the property. It is completely legal for us to get some of it back. Understand that feels unfair, but that's the reality. It's completely allowable to make your child a co-owner of your property or not giving them a share of the profits immediately. Opion, the divorce agreement regarding the house and says the divorce agreement made us 5050 co-owners of the house. We wanted to save the house to give our son in the future, but didn't formalize that in an agreement just in case. If something horrible were to happen, we wanted the option of liquidation. Like if a medical situation worsened and she needed the cash. We wanted flexibility, but we always had an understanding. My wife was aware of this. And the last commenter says, Have you considered the tax consequences beside annual gift tax exclusion from gift in the house over several years? There are several things going on. Property being rented, depreciation, gift in over several years. Your son's basis is your original basis, but when he goes to sell many years from now, that will cause substantial gains. Appreciation recapture on sale. Maybe do something else. I hope you consulted a professional. Opie said, I consulted a professional. This is the method that saves everyone the most money. After all that, I just came out the end of the story thinking, What an awful person current wife is. You know, the comments she made about the ex-wife, the lazy, unfeminine slov, what, wearing sweatpants and not doing makeup. After she had a life altering accident that destroyed her mobility. I think that's the moment where you can step back and you saying, I've married someone who is just a cruel asshole. And someone that I wouldn't be able to look at the same way again. I mean, it's not about the finances anymore. It's just about being married to a bloody awful person. But what do you guys make of this situation? Let us know your thoughts down in the comments below. Now, just a huge thank you for being here today, getting involved in the stories you'll love to support your time. It always means the absolute world to me. 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