Dating Advice You Might Not Like (But Need) | Sadie Robertson Huff & Christian Huff

What's up everybody? Happy WoW that's good. Wednesday I hope you're having a great week but per usual y'all it is about to get so much better because we have two actually three of our county Christian as guest. I'm not a guest anymore. He's a guest. I'm a co-host. Okay we have my temporary co-host. What are you talking about? My bestie. You've seen the numbers. When I'm on with you it's Parker. The numbers are so drastically different. I believe it. I help co-host. Stop introducing me as a guest. Okay I'm sorry. I'll probably get flamed in the conversation for that. That is okay because it doesn't bother me. But we have two amazing friends here Parker and Mila. It's not about you. Thank you for shouting out. I was just introducing them. You introduced me as a guest. I'm your husband. I am a co-host at minimum. At minimum. Well you know if you came for Christian we're so thankful for the co-host but we also have two incredible guests on the pie guest today. We have Parker and Miller and I'm so excited that y'all are on. Thanks for flying here. Of course. You're so excited to be here. Thanks for having us. It's gonna be so fun to talk to y'all. I love following y'all on social media. Let me just say and this is like so funny. I should have not said this on the pie cast and after the fact but it's just true. We just got some energy drinks sent to us and I was like these are the permanent people to try these with. So after this we need to try some energy drinks. Are they forgiven? Yes. Okay so good. Are they really? We've had it once. Like a week ago. But they're so good. Well I've had two. Wait that is so funny because this when I got to the office and they said hey you got some energy drinks and you need to try all of them and I said wait I had the perfect two people to be here because if y'all don't follow along y'all literally try and rate energy drinks on your story like often. It's like a thing. It's an addiction. I'm working on it but it's so it just it's the experience of the energy drink like cracking the can and it's not even about the caffeine you know. Is this everything I said? It's everything he says and I'm typically not an energy drink person. I am the biggest. So I'm always like Christian that's so dramatic but everything you just said is exactly what he says to me. Yeah thank you. It's the experience and he goes to the gas station every single day to get an energy drink and I'm always like why don't you just buy like seven so that way you just like have it and he's like no it's part of going to the gas station. 100% by industry. 100%. It makes our experiences ten times better when we're on the way on a road trip somewhere and we're like we have to stop and get in Alani. What's your go to Alani? Mine is Hawaiian shaved ice or orange kiss. Is this pink slush? Yeah I'm training or transferring into a ghost. Yeah. More and more ghosts right now. It's kind of scary. But like if it's like 10 a.m. I'll wait like a couple hours so I can like build up the hype to my energy drink. Dream float Alani is the one. Christian that is the biggest hot take I've ever heard. Dream float. That is like the bottom of my head. I don't think I've ever drank a drink. The blue one? Yes. With the orange? The judgment. That's crazy. Dream float craps on orange kiss. Oh my gosh. I'm not trying to be mean here but dream float is by far the it's it's the only flavor I drank. A few years ago there was a bang and it was called purple guava pear and it was the best tasting drink I've had in my life. Purple guava pear. It would change your life if it really would but they don't do it anymore. That's so sad. Have you emailed them about it? No way. I've emailed them about it. That's why I felt about the OG watermelon wave for Alani and then they took it away and I was like all of these are not even good anymore. Are you only Alani? Well here's the problem. I've only had one the last two months because I found out I have high blood pressure which I think I took my blood pressure when I was sick. So I've had to get off of energy drinks lately because of high blood pressure but my numbers are great now so I think that's actually really really helpful. I had one last week and it was fantastic. We're really trying to cut back even though we love the experience of it. There is a whole group of people who are like y'all who love the experience of energy because one of Christian's best friends when we met him he would say the same thing and had the same so I love it. So I love how people are probably listening right now going like it's a community. Anyways y'all do post about that. We post about so many more fun things and obviously well not obviously people might not know. I know your sister's super well-graced. One of my great friends when I lived in Nashville still is a great friend. We both have three kids. Our life is kind of tracking which has been really fun and kind of got to know you through her and have followed along and we're just super grateful to have you on and now people will follow you guys. Y'all are like TikTok influencers which is so fun but tell us a little bit about y'all's relationship. How how'd you all meet? Yeah you want to start? Yeah I'll start us. So my family moved down from Illinois to Tennessee like five years ago. We moved down like June 1st and so I knew a couple buddies in town. We knew no one but besides these two buddies. Some are going into my senior year of high school. I think after his senior year 2021. 2021. So hung out with these two buddies started hanging around. We were throwing the football. I was going to college to play sports and they were like hey there's this awesome family the Marenix and they have a daughter Miliran that you should meet you know like that'd be fun. So literally I shot her a DM like on Instagram slid in the DMs. He gets it. All I said was hey like I don't know. I was just like hey. That's it? Yeah that's all I said. Like an exclamation point? Uh I think so. I think so. Okay. Hey exclamation point. No Moji just we're hey. No just hey. I was like hi. And so I was like hey we moved to town you know I don't know really anyone we're just we're just here. I know some of your friends you grew up with. I'd love to hang out you know. And so that turned into me picking her up at her parents house. First date. The most daunting experience for sure. Yeah like you know whole first date thing. I walk in the front door in Illinois we didn't really like meet the dad that I mean like that kind of wasn't. They didn't like go to the door and shake his hand and my dad is very. Yeah yeah yeah yeah for sure. Come to the door shake the hand open my door all the things. Yeah and my mom the whole time is like hey you have to walk up the front door and like shake her dad's hand. I was like what? I'm like no what are you kidding me you know. We just didn't know. Yeah you're glad he did. And so yeah thankfully I did but her dad you know walked up answered the door. I said hey my name is Parker he introduced himself and literally turned around walked sat on the couch like just. My dad was just interested. And I was like okay let's go. And so we walk into the kitchen and there's literally like 15 people around the island. I mean I'm not even kidding. You gotta set the tone because your family's big. Yeah she's one of eight. Mine is too but I'm one of five. One of eight. Uh huh one of eight he's one of five so like he thankfully like kind of got that life but when he walked in I didn't really know that I knew he had a lot of siblings but I didn't know that he was used to chaos too. So when he walked in I mean my brother had three friends Tuta had friends from Honduras my grandparents were there my aunts and uncles and they were just. Oh Davey was not there. Davey wasn't there. But when I tell you my dad literally shook his hand and walked inside on the couch and I was like my jaws and forearms oh my gosh he needs to be nice to him. But from all my dad knew it was like this boy from the north that was previously already doing TikTok by himself. Yeah so naturally my dad was like no I didn't know that. You were a TikToker before? Yeah it was bad. Just walking into that southern family I'm from the north I'm a Yankee that's right they're like you're talking to a Yankee that's literally what they called him for a little bit. What? So I had some I had some proving to do. Yeah a TikToker this is so new I thought like because I don't know y'all story like this I thought like you were more into the social media and like pulling him in so you already did it that he did it. What like what kind of TikToking though? Like just like I mean dances. I love it. You name it like you're typical you know doing TikTok in high school. Okay I gotta know from your perspective though don't let him judge you. No they're yeah yeah. Okay I thought it was really cute I mean obviously that's what I said yes. When he said hey were you like oh hey like you thought he was really freaking out. Really were you already following along? Well I went back I didn't follow him on TikTok but I looked back through all his videos and like I had liked some of them so I had seen who he was and at this point. So there was some like virality on I mean yeah okay yeah yeah yeah yeah I love this. I had the friends that told him about me the girl that that friend was dating at the time told me about Parker so I followed him thinking like I mean he's never gonna see it he thousands of girls follow him like this isn't me like shooting my shot you know and then so when he messaged me I was like oh my gosh he did notice but anyway but yeah so I left this part out when I went to look her up on Instagram I saw I said follow back so I was like what she already follows me you know. I boosted his ego. No I mean it was wild so you know shot her DM and yeah where were we we were at your house. Oh yeah sorry oh oh oh so there's so much forward yeah we're talking we're on a date it's amazing also like I knew that Parker really loved country music and I had like this one unreleased Morgan Wallen song so I like played it for him and he was like I mean this is that gave me some street cred for sure with Parker. I mean it was pretty sick. Yeah I was pulling out all these things. Hold this to him. Also we're at Sonic for the first day. Yeah we got ice cream. Anyway we go so then the next day or the next couple days Parker comes over my mom's like hey we're going to the lake this weekend do you want to come and I was like she invited him. Yes I was shook that she invited him and I was obviously so excited. This season has been so full in the best way between work traveling speaking and everything at home. My days can look really different from week to week but one thing that I've learned is consistency doesn't come from having a perfect routine it comes from having something simple that can stick with your routine no matter what your day looks like and that's why AG1 is such a go-to for us for more than three years. AG1 is just so simple to add to your day routine. 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His family was actually moving into a house they're like new house that day and so Parker was like I really want to go to the lake and so his dad was down with COVID his family like just rallied moved their house and Parker barely helped them move in he came to the lake with us and watching Parker he grew up on the lake so yeah when they invited me I was shocked but also was like this is good yeah like we grew up on the water we surf you know the whole thing literally gets gets up behind the boat I mean have y'all ever been surfing before yes yeah okay so I grew up in Florida I fear that our experience was very different when you showed up at the lake it was like oh yes when I had to show up at the lake and do the thing it was a horribly embarrassing you were on the gulf it was so humbling it was like this is the like this is where I would feel the least confident to show our family who I know but you probably had a great attitude about it yeah I did that's really telling with my face a thousand times for that family show that I was here to try and that's all that matters thank you for that now though can you pop it off your good surf um not nope three babies later it's not my strong suit you're a good tuber hey and that's what the kids want to do so that's what I keep telling his family like I love to be on the boat just let me be happy on the boat I'm having a great time I don't need to be in the water this is great nonetheless back to the back to the lake so you were like shining yeah it was it was a yeah go ahead from my p o b parker has the the surfboard in the water before the boat goes up like usually you put your feet up in the air on the board his is in the water he's already standing on the board he's like I'm good my dad's like what okay turns on the boat he starts going parker's like doing 360s hopping the wake one of my brothers lost his hat parker reaches up and catch him yes literally I was I was like you're like in love I was baffled at this point I was at the time I actually shed tears you shed tears literally shed tears and about was like my sister she looked over she was like why are you crying and I was like he's just he's so cute my family was like okay what is going on like this is so weird anyway so he obviously showed out and not in like a pride like it was it was humble he wasn't like look at me I also I was like with a family I just met I mean like I'm dating there was I dating you at this point no we weren't dating I don't know we weren't dating yet but it was all just like I'm at a lake with the family I'm known for six days you know I'm just out here I'm gonna get a fight for myself six days oh my gosh you'll only have like the sonic date under your belt no he asked me to be his girlfriend the second time he met oh this is sweet so you doing the song to him was like it's equivalent to him showing out 100% you're awesome that was history that was me after I uh face planted in the wake a million times I was like let me show you something I have that's cool I feel like I feel like you always do want to put your best foot forward you do yeah I feel like I was I was I don't remember what our first trip was but I definitely would have been the person trying to he definitely showed out yeah similar to like the I mean all of your athletic ability was what I was like well because I'm really not good at surfing but I am an athlete and that's what we bonded on so much and that was like my favorite thing about our dating time is like we played so much tennis so much basketball like we bonded over that which I'd never been in a relationship where we both love sports as much and that was so fun because you're really athletic and you love the lake and doing all that no yeah we'll go 1v1 pickleball a lot let's go just get into it it's so fun I mean usually we'll play basketball 1v1 yeah yeah we love like just being active and going and having fun you know it's the best it is the lake did that woo did that steal the deal your dad a little bit more oh yeah 100% it was like he really put some respect on his name that time that's awesome and he was still I think at that point like not silent treatment but like we weren't buddy he wasn't warm and fuzzy with Parker because he was just like I don't really know you yet you know probably how did how did y'all's relationship progress from this moment y'all obviously liked each other a lot you were crying watching him you which I get that I mean sometimes that's like a scene from like a movie no it was you probably started catching the hat and you start crying like that is a movie like he's your dream guy right in front of your eyes and you're just thinking especially like that early on you're like I really want this to work out like this would be awesome but you don't want to get ahead of yourself right and all the things so after this happened how did y'all progress and actually like starting to date yeah so we started dating July 21st and then he left for college August 9th wow so we dated in person and I was a year year older so she was still in high school yeah senior in high school and I remember I was like that season of our summer all we wanted to do was just spend time together so I was like every day my family was like well Miller is gone and we just spent every day together and then he left for college and I was it was so sad but then we went straight into long distance he was playing football at school in Indiana I was obviously still in high school so we're doing we did long distance for like two years he transferred to UTC to play football for the first five months I was in Indiana I think it was like a five-hour drive back home but I would literally drive home every weekend I didn't travel my freshman year so like I would leave after workouts on Friday and then come back Sunday night and it was a grind but it was so fun because you come to all my games I got the ones he could yeah she played basketball in high school it was really fun yeah but then sophomore year he called me or spring of my freshman year he called me he's like I'm coming to Auburn because I went to Auburn my heart had been set on Auburn ever since I was like a sophomore in high school my sister went there and so I knew I was going there and he called me and said that and I was like what like I didn't even know he had applied I didn't even know and his brother was committed to play football there at the time so obviously our relationship got more serious we're dating a person which like looking back God in that interweaved in all that timing which is crazy for a lot of reasons but then he came to Auburn we dated in person for how long a year yeah year year and a half yeah we got engaged at the end of my sophomore year I feel like we should talk about long distance though while while I was at chat before it let's talk about it I was at Chattanooga which is in Tennessee and she was at Auburn I think we did long distance from there like a year and a half but like we have so many people ask about long distance you know hey we're dating in high school we're both going to different colleges what should we do you know but honestly like long distance has its you know things that's tough and a lot of people don't love it obviously you want to be in person but we found like some cool ways to kind of walk through that and one thing we did was before we when we came together before we left we'd have a date in mind of the next time we'll see each other you know so it's not just like all right you know see you yeah I'll see you soon you know um and then also in that like when she was I lived in the house at the time so when she was coming to visit we had to be really intentional about setting boundaries because you know you go from high school and with your parents to college now you're on your own and so thankfully like we had an extra bedroom that she would stay in when she would come in town um so that helped us kind of obviously just not go in my room we're gonna we're gonna just not even entertain that and she was a spot to stay but I think too like a lot of people like I've slept on the couch before she'll sleep in my bed or whatever it might be I think it's just so important to not venture into the room it's good or just set clear expectations and boundaries before you even get there you know is that something that y'all had talked about like going into y'all's relationship because I feel like a lot of people ask those questions on here like how do you set up boundaries with someone and I feel like a lot of girls I've heard like struggle because they're trying to set the boundary and stay with the boundary and then if the guy doesn't align it's like they're constantly in this tug of war and I feel like it's so important that as a couple y'all are both seeking the same group or something like for Christian and I we always talk about how we did not date well before we met each other when we met each other really we're doing this God's way it took both of us desiring that and setting those boundaries together so it wasn't like one's constantly feeling the weight of like you're both carrying the weight so that's what I mean it's so cool to hear you say as a guy like leading that but how did y'all come to that and even start those conversations yeah we were kind of the same and like when we started dating we knew we wanted to do it God's way too um I would say to those girls too that like there's I've heard so many girls be like oh I just feel like I'm stringing him along and if that's the case like probably not gonna work like you cannot be facilitating that as a girl because you're just gonna fall into temptation every time probably um or maybe it'll work for a second and then it doesn't but we kind of started this having those conversations this summer like literally when we right started when we just started dating um and I would say to start though we had those conversations we definitely like we're struggling with finding our rhythm you know we're young we're 18 and 17 you know and so like we're doing things we shouldn't and then when I transferred that first semester to Chattanooga and she went into college in Auburn that was when we kind of locked in but something we learned was like if at the start you don't have those conversations you don't actually follow those boundaries it's so much harder to pull back yeah yeah and be like all right here we go you know for sure so like to anyone out there it's just like hey do your due diligence and set these boundaries as early as possible so that's all you know you know especially for a dude it's like yeah hey it's just you know it's tough when you have seen it be destructive in the past it's like you know that you don't want that and so I feel like the biggest thing for us was just intentionally setting boundaries before you get to the moment where you have to make a choice are we gonna do this or not so like you know because you could say oh we're not gonna do XYZ but we're gonna watch movies together every night like yeah well you're probably not gonna you're probably gonna cross that boundary you know you're gonna be honest with yourself yeah I'm like so I mean I can't even tell you we probably we barely watch any movies because we were like this is not gonna end well it sounds so lame but that's so real and everybody listening to this knows that's true for sure you're in a dating relationship and you're watching movies together and it's just you too like it just does not lead to setting yourself up you're 100% setting yourself up for failure yeah everybody knows that it's not a good recipe it's not a good recipe with it starting to warm up outside I feel like sleep just hits different this time of year if you wake up even a little bit hot it's game over and as a mom who doesn't get perfect sleep every night I'll take all that I can get that's why I've been loving Miracle 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like Jesus stood up for her condemned her no more but then said go and sin no more like don't go back like you're different now you know so you really can start fresh even if it's the same relationship it doesn't mean you have to break up with that person and start over because you all mess up like God can redeem at all and you really can live differently and we told that in our relationship too like we had to have like serious conversation like hey we really do want to do this God's way so what do we need to do to position ourselves to do that best and why matter so much if you're just like oh we're not across the boundary because that's what our parents said not to do or that's what church it's like you're gonna do it it has to be like the heart of like why because we've seen this be destructive because we know that it is destructive outside of the confines of marriage and that God has this beautiful form marriage and we want to experience that so that matters so much 100 and I feel like now that we're married we've only been married for 11 months yeah I'm about a year and I feel like we've already seen such glimpses of the blessings of that and just like you know even when we did fall short being like alright repenting and turning away and having accountability oh my gosh that was like the biggest thing yeah it's like I knew every time I spent time with Parker my sister was gonna text me like how was it you know it's so important yeah and saying that some people are like really like you really need that and I'm like yes because I mean if you look in the bible like people are getting married so young and we're created to desire that you know and so it's like it's a I was taught I've talked to our pastor a lot about this but like it's a good thing to desire to do that with the person that you love but just like you said in the balance of marriage and I always think of it it's like sex is like a fire when it's in a fireplace it heats the house it warms the people but when it's outside of the fireplace it's destructive and so I feel like we just had to remind ourselves of that all the time of like okay we're actually fighting internal battle too you know us making this one little decision isn't just for the moment it's like this is going to have a lasting impact in some way and then you can even see the correlation in your relationship like for us anytime we fell short it was like we would get an argument the next day or you know it just like caused destruction and so it was super cool though to be on the other side of that and just like watch God's hand watch see his faithfulness and like the blessings of it now that's so incredible that's so cool so y'all did get married pretty young because you were a sophomore yeah in college whenever you proposed right at this point though before we get into y'all's engagement I want to backtrack a little bit before you go yeah yeah go well I was going to say because why do I do have a question kind of even before you get to that point but because we talk about long-distance dating a lot and we talk about it a lot from the standpoint of you kind of just talked about accountability but accountability in long distance is so huge because it and at least for us because there's so much trust that that is required for long distance relationships because for you like I said I did not have the best past and if eternally so you had to I had to do things to gain trust to where hey we're in a long distance you used to be pretty crazy and if eternally to where you're not constantly checking my location and all those things to where you developed friendships with my friends I developed friendships with your friends to where there was a there was a gain trust to where it's like I can trust you that you're not going to go out when he said I'm with Parker and Bradley and I was like yeah you're not you're not good guys like because because then and I have friends that so huge that I have friends that don't have that accountability to where the girls don't know any of the guy friends and it's just this negative headspace of what is he doing is he talking to other girls is where is he where is he like did he leave his phone at the house so you got to the bar to where there is such a level of gain trust that comes with long distance because of taking time to work on those friendships with with your friends and with my friends and that for us was was the biggest thing with long distance was we stumbled you know we had our plenty mishaps throughout dating but the thing for us that was so crucial was there was so much trust that was gained in the long distance dating process because of hey this I'm a man of my word in this yeah like yes I'm going to come I think I put over 20,000 miles because we were we were opposite I was in Auburn she was in Nashville you were telling she was normal so I was in Nashville every single weekend he put the time in I did put the time in but the long distance for us was huge to where we gained such a trust for each other so quickly because it was not gonna if if you couldn't trust me and I'm at this college we were just gonna constantly be yeah be butting heads I think it's like so important you know for our listeners to hear the type of men that you all are though and how y'all were pursuing us because we talk about like we have to guard our hearts the wellspring of life but I think when it's a good man who's pursuing you he's also guarding your heart like hundred percent he's intentional about that and how you were saying like we have a date in mind we had you were driving yeah you were putting time and it's just really cool because that's what like pursuit looks like you shouldn't be confused all the time is he gonna call me is he gonna text me when are they gonna like you should know because they should be leading that in a way that's like not confusing because you would always be like I'll tell you tomorrow hey what does this time work this is where I have my window and then can I come next weekend like there was always clarity that you like where you stood and how you saw me and how you're gonna treat me and I just feel like so many girls just think like that's just the way it's gonna be and like you know is he gonna text me my way two days and then he finally doesn't like that's not healthy that's not him caring for your heart and it's even with the boundaries thing if he's pushing you that's not healthy that's not guarding your heart and let it be known that there are men out there who are pursuing the Lord who will pursue you in a godly way it's worth the weight to find that and it's gonna be hard to break up with those who you might be in relationship with but it's worth it because every breakup gets you to where you're going and and he's saying a lot of that because before I dated Christian I had dated someone who was also in college was long distance and he would do stuff like that he would say hey I'm studying but I know but he would say I'm studying I'm studying and then literally because we're both more well-known people you know he would go out to the bar and then I would have people tagging me say I'm with city robertson's boyfriend at the bar and I'd be like I thought you were studying and he's like well and and so it's like constantly like that to where I was like you know having to be like okay well I don't want to be over-controlled but it's like no that's manipulation that's he was lying that's not a healthy relationship and so I had to learn to trust Christian one to not put my past experience on him and to be distrustful because that was hard for me but also trust like this is a different situation and he's being honest and I do think that so many girls just make excuses for guys because they just think oh that's how everyone is and it's not how everyone is that's a lie from the enemy there are great men out there pursuing the Lord and you are worth being pursued in a godly way so I love that y'all are talking about this. My next question was what was y'alls um did y'all have any newfound struggles going from long distance to pretty much seeing each other every day like did the struggles shift was that easier or harder than you thought it was? Because we went from long distance to marriage to COVID so like long distance to quarantine. We went long distance dating long distance engagement to marriage quarantine. So we get it yeah yeah honestly when he called me and told me it was coming over and my first response was excitement because we hadn't been dating a person in two years but I also I mean I just finished my freshman year I just felt like I got my feet under me had got the community like friends that actually know me deeply and my second thought was like oh how is going to be splitting time because like he's going to be the new kid as a junior that's so hard for him you know and so as we dated and you lived in a house with uh five girls yeah I was moving to a house with five girls and so there's just I feel like I was just getting my footing and then he was stepping into a whole new season of unknown which by the way literally the first when we first started dating his family just moved from Illinois Nashville that's new and unknown then he goes to college for the first time back to Indiana new and unknown then transfers to Chattanooga new and unknown then to Auburn new and unknown so it was just like thing after thing and I feel like we were both just like hitting our stride and our places and so naturally I was like oh what an unknown again like what is this going to look like and you can take it from there yeah I mean it was it was definitely tough first we got I got connected with some awesome dudes through her older sister yeah um which was really sweet ended up two of them ended up being my wedding so that's awesome such a blessing um but also in that just like splitting time with friends and obviously us was tough at first and also just having like direct access to each other at all times being in the same place is something that like we didn't know you know and so like with boundaries with all these things created a new problem you know but but in the same breath like it got to a point where at first I was like oh maybe a little bit of fear of how we're going to split time and then when we got engaged I feel like the the problem quote unquote that presented itself was like all I wanted to do with was be with Parker you know and I'm like we're about to get married we're praying our preparing our hearts like building these lives together and all my friends were still in college like no one else was in that season and so I feel like for us in that time I was living in this tension of like oh my friends want me to be so present I want to be present with them and like soak up our last year but then also I'm about to step into this marriage and I also want to like be ready for that and put in the time and go to premarital counseling and all the things so I felt this constant tension of like yeah explaining I found myself explaining like oh I'm going to hang out with Parker because like yeah yeah she would explain because of this and finally my best friend Alice looked at me and was like you don't have to explain that's why you're going to hang out with your fiance like we want that for you go and do that and so it was also really telling him my friendships that they were supporting that but there was a season where I was like oh my gosh I have to explain and then I was like this this is I'm living in bondage like I should have free up because also sorry I want to I want to say like it is so important for me to have guys for everyone to have guys familiar and have our girls just because we found ourselves you know going and doing our thing and then after a while we're like I need time with the guys yeah and I need time with dudes who are sharpening me pointing back to Jesus and then I can go hang with Miller and you know it's really good I don't know about you but staying hydrated can feel like just one more thing on the to-do list and honestly I used to just grab whatever was convenient which usually means something full of sugar and just plain water that really wasn't cutting it but once I started using element I realized hydration is kind of everything your energy your mood your focus it's all connected and if your 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of elements most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase at drink element comm slash whoa find your favorite element flavor or share with a friend that's drink element lmnt.com slash whoa you need your friends but also your marriage is the most important thing so you have to focus on that we experience that he really experienced that because he was constantly leaving you know Auburn to come to Nashville to do premarital counseling and all the stuff with me though so important because we were like walking towards being engaged we'd already been talking about like wanting to get married and all that kind of stuff and then even when we were engaged I think that was maybe even the hardest part because his friends were like we were about to be gone senior year we're about to be married that's who raw dude yeah you know and I'm gone every weekend yes that that was the the engagement was the hardest tension just because it was you know it's the last year yeah all of us getting to kind of spend time together but I'm gone every weekend you know it's interesting about that this is kind of a deep thought but it's just when you said that it's interesting because there's so much tension in that because it's already in the not yet like you already made a promise but you're not yet married and it's interesting because we are living in the already the not yet with Christ like he already died on the cross he already rose again we already had that promise but then he's not yet here coming back and it's so interesting when you think about how like we're the bride of Christ like he will return for his bride but we're in that I was like that is so interesting but really cool to think about in in these terms so that's why we all we feel all that like we're following sure you know the boundaries and this and that and it's hard and the tension and I want to be here but I want to be there this is what really matters I'm like that's so our whole life that's so interesting sure yeah it's a spiritual comparison good off the cusp deep thoughts yeah it's true we could go on a whole rabbit trail of that but anyways I just remember you experiencing that and maybe there are people listening who are in that and it is true that you need your friends because friendships are so important and they make you who you are but you also have to start prioritizing your future well you do and that is you're starting to kind of be less in the heart part too was dying to self like we got to be premarital we got to be things aren't so fun but like they're going to set us up for success well the hard part too isn't I'm sure you guys experience this but when you're not because none of my friends were going through the same thing I was going through like none of them were engaged none of them were I mean some of them were seriously dating but none were near engagement none were even close to getting married so for me I also had to have people like that I could talk to that were in a similar yeah in a similar thing and then for me that was when mentors were huge so my pastor at the church I was at I also had another older mentor speaking into certain things I had to realize that I could not expect my friends to give me something that they didn't have the framework for like I couldn't ask for engagement advice or hey how do you like if they're single like but I think I would do that and it would be met with this you know like this not great answer and it would frustrate me but I had to get to the point where I realized I can't seek that from you I have to find someone else that has either been there or is in a similar situation or is married that can speak into this so the friendships are huge but it's also equally as important finding someone that can relate to your situation and for me I found that through our pastor which was huge yeah that was awesome and then I think it freed your friendships up to just be fun during that stage because you didn't have an expectation that they needed to understand and they had to stop having the expectation that you had to always be there for you to know for them to know that you love them and like all your best friends who were like in our wedding you're still close with and so it's like there's that balance but I think that's so important it's so weird how much our lives are tracking yeah wait we literally had the same pastor that's crazy because when you were telling the advice I'm like I think we've talked about that with him that's so well and it's fun too when your friends do end up going through it and then they're like oh yeah that's the best now it's like that with kids I fell in love with kids they're like whoa we did not realize how what you were going through and you had okay yeah great it's so great how long was y'all's engagement we were not engaged for too long six months yeah so we got engaged in June I went back to Auburn in August so it was my senior year we were you're back in Nashville long distance for August so which are June six months we got married in November six months he's saying we got engaged in June and then we both lived in Louisiana at the time that was like our one time to live in the same place building duck calls that summer yeah and then I came back here just so we could be the same place at the same time because my family didn't really know him either I talked about winning the respect of the dad like I wanted him to know which for me it was a double win it was like Sadie and her dad it's a little little intimidating you did great the first time we played tennis it's just funny we beat him six oh yeah and then he went back to Auburn in August so we went back to long distance while we were engaged and then we were in person engaged for two months and then four how long were you all engaged for too long a year yeah the end of her I guess your sophomore year to the end of her junior yeah I told Parker going into our engagement I was like hey look I will be getting married in the hot month so you can decide how long our engagement is going to be and also I it had to be in the summer his brother played college football I was literally a sophomore I was like we can't get married in the middle of the school year anyway so and you are so like summer girl all your colors were so beautiful I loved I love the colors it was stunning thank you and it ended up being great because just like doing premarital while in school while planning a wedding trying to be intentional with our families back home and our community I feel like God knew we needed that much yeah in which I wouldn't normally to the to anyone getting engaged I'm I'm always like get a short engagement for sure have a short engagement yeah like if we were working in the same place and we didn't have school a year would have been brutal yeah we're in tough the end we were definitely definitely ready yeah anyway it was here whenever y'all okay so you got married young and you had said at some point I think my team was telling me this whenever y'all chatted that you didn't think you would get married young and so what did that look like yeah so I knew I wanted to marry Parker while we were dating um but you know his parents got married in college that was like so normal for him and I guess mine did too my dad was out but my mom was in college but I never really thought about it like that and I just had this expectation that my life was going to look like my sister's at Auburn and she had been there for four years had awesome friends they all lived in a house together and had all these fun adventures and I was just like had this vision of what my life was going to look like and even though I knew I wanted to marry him I just didn't necessarily have the timeline yeah and um then he you know it's actually funny so my dad got diagnosed ALS which we talked about a little bit um summer no fall of my sophomore year which is when Parker had just transferred to Auburn wow and I guess for him at that point when he was transferring he didn't really know why like he had always been an athlete and I don't want to speak for you but like football he was so good at it and loved it and it was like not who he was but I mean a little bit of your identity was definitely wrapped up in sports yeah and so when he left he was kind of like what am I about to walk into I don't know how God's going to use this and then he got to Auburn that fall my dad got diagnosed and well it just like shook reality in so many ways and I kind of started deep diving of like what is my why for wanting to wait to get married like the Lord just kind of changed my heart and was like hey this is what I have for you why are you not seeing this like who it honestly made me evaluate like oh am I just on the world's timeline of what the world says is when you should get married you know because you know most people will be like oh go to college have your four years and then get married but it was in that time where I was like oh it just kind of reminded me this life is a miss you know and we're not even promised tomorrow and like I know I want that so what the heck are we doing waiting you know and all the godly counsel in our life our families were so supportive of that so it's just like thing after thing that Lord was just like yeah this is this is what I have for you and you need to walk in it and so we did and now looking back I'm like I cannot imagine waiting any longer like I actually can't and I'm only 22 but it's so sweet and I mean on top of that too like it's so tough to honor the Lord for a long time in a dating relationship without being married it's not how he intended it to be you know and so we kind of got to a point where like hey if we're gonna do this let's do it you know like we both know and we want to honor him like take that step so when you we all started the dating story it's funny that you know you shook her dad's hand and then he went and sat down and then you know rounding out to getting engaged and now your dad's going through ALS and y'all are getting hit with this diagnosis and it's so wild how did y'all's relationship you and her dad's grow over the years and where is it at now her dad to start was someone I would say who maybe didn't he wasn't like gonna get feely and get deep with you you know like that wasn't who he was but over time and getting diagnosed with ALS I've seen just a completely different side of him you know just sit on the porch having super intentional deep conversations about his heart you know our heart talking about the Bible and like it's been wild to see and just also see his faith walking through something like this I couldn't even fathom walking through it myself and seeing him still hold on to hope and Jesus knowing he has a terminal illness has been wild and yeah it's it's really cool it's encouraging and also he's always been deep just not necessarily feely you know but because he's been stripped of all these identities he could attach himself to like even just being the male provider and not being able to do that anymore he's like oh what is my true identity and so I feel like it for me it's been sweet to watch y'all get deeper in that way and just get closer and you like have him to look up to and he has so much wisdom and so and I'm sure that I'm sure that brought y'all so much closer together for sure and then for sure oh my gosh yeah which back to the engagement like we are engaged at the end of that year we're now yeah at the end of that year and through that season at Auburn and I'm like that was so the Lord intentionally bringing Parker to Auburn because I was able to watch Parker shiver my heart in a way that I hadn't been able to see when we were doing long distance because we were in person and like he is my he's my person and so even just watching him like care for me and pray pray with me while I would cry or like you know point me to the truth um that was also so confirming that was such a confirming season that we were supposed to be together and take that step of marriage too because I was able to watch him take care of me in that way so cool wow that's so beautiful you know I've told you this before but I really mean it when I look at you and Annabelle and Grace and all your sisters and Tuta I'm like Josie love all of them I gotta keep going I'm like but it's like I always think like y'all are so the epitome of like a sister and a friend like when I think of the relationship I hope our girls have it would be y'all's relationship like oh truly and then not only that but the way your parents have raised your family and even seeing your parents from social media I'm like wow this is such a beautiful family we look up to y'all's family so much we watch your dad's testimony at ACC and like I'm just so inspired by him and your mom's relationship and just love your family for those listening to just the connection love one international which is one of our sponsors of the show I talk about all the time that's her family so we probably should have made that connection up front at the beginning and that's what y'all put your work to and we just couldn't be more inspired I just want to ask y'all just now that y'all are a family coming from such amazing families what are some of the things that you're taking from your parents and how they raise your families that you all want to incorporate in y'all's family that's a great question I think one um seeing my parents growing up one thing they did was they were pretty intentional about not speaking about each other to other people um like in a negative way or even maybe in general you know just like cultivating that around our marriage I just really want to do like I want I want us to be united in any way possible and I don't want any bad talk about Miller and to come out to anyone else you know like the mom culture getting together be like my husband did this his mom and his dad never do that it's like you will never hear his dad speaking poorly about his mom or his mom singing poorly about his dad so good which is so cool and like you would think that would be normal but it's not so real um that's a great one I feel like we're gonna say some incursion no no I was just feeling my beard 80 wants me to shave it soon dude I think it looks good thank you it does look good I'm not talking about it like you're good you're good but sorry no I was not gonna say you're good um I feel like for me which I know me which I know you could probably say this too when I now that I am an adult I guess kind of I don't really feel like an adult but now that we're married I look back to my parents life in all the things that they were just obedient in without knowing what the outcome would look like like adopting four kids and starting a nonprofit that in Uganda where they literally have no idea what they're doing um just thing after thing that I'm like just required so much faith and obedience and I mean approval of man has to go out the window because there's so many things that the Lord asked them to do that they were just like absolutely locked eyes with him and it was so hard but they grew so much in it you know um and so I just want to carry that like obedience no matter what into our marriage and I think it's easy to focus on outcomes be like okay Lord we'll do this but like I want you to give me clarity on the other side and it's like all the time my parents growing up the things they would do they didn't have any clarity you know like they just had faith and they trusted that the Lord was going to provide and he did time and time again and so I feel like in a world where everybody just wants answers all the time and wants our future laid out like I just want to take the right the next right step and that's exactly what they did if that makes sense yeah it makes so much sense it's one of those things where I've been thinking about this lately because we were talking about this my mom and I how people don't talk about this part of life enough where whenever you have a baby and like your mom comes and she helps you and it's like such a blessing you know not everybody has that situation but it was like such a blessing for my mom to come help me postpartum but then like when your mom leaves the house it's like oh my gosh like this I remember like crying and I was talking to friends about and they were like saying the same being they like cry when their mom left because it feels like this weight hits you where like I'm the mom now like I like it's like past the baton like I've been helping you but now you're the mom to this child and it's like so wild and I think that for a long time you had this perspective of your parents that oh because they're older they're your mom and dad like they're the adult they just know what to do like they just know what to do so they're just doing it and they're confident and then when you become the adult and you become the mom you realize they didn't know what to do they were like they were scared they were you know because you don't see that from them they're like superheroes in your eyes as a kid and then now I'm realizing oh they were scared and they were confused and they had to have faith and like the Lord was speaking to them and they were being obedient and the things you just think that oh yeah they started you know level one or they adopted four kids like my mom she adopted my mom and dad adopted and that commander it just felt like that's just what you do and then you realize oh that's so hard that was so scary and hard and I've just been learning so much from my mom now as a mentor of like okay this is when how you walk through this is how you handle the situation and it's just been so cool I have so much more respect for like their faith and letting the Lord really lead our lives um and just want to say to to those who don't have parents out there like I sincerely am so sorry and I just encourage you like get plugged into a church because that's how you are surrounded by a godly family and mentors and pastors who can help uh like she said shepherd your heart through life's trials and through different things and so please surround yourself with generations I think God really did intend for us to live within generations like to have mothers and grandmothers and if you don't have that and grandfathers and that is so found within the church that's what the church should be for so um I love that I don't want to um finish the episode without asking you all a classic question on whether it's good uh if y'all have a best piece of advice that has been significant in your life I would say don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from that's something that I have clung to in so many different seasons grace actually told me that advice and I was in middle school I remember being like oh my word it just shifted my perspective on everything because like you know in high school and I was trying to walk intentionally with Jesus and you know people would say things it's like so reframing oh what I what I asked their advice probably not so I'm not even gonna let that comment affect me and then now like we'll post something on social media that's on our heart that the Lord has put there and might be bold or whatever and then people criticize it's like oh I'm probably not gonna sit down and take their advice so why would I even let that affect me like I've kind of just watched that advice hit me in a new way in different seasons and so and it just you're like oh yeah you're like yeah because it seems like we should know that but it's so true 100 so I would definitely say that it's great I love that people will rarely remember what you said to them but we'll always remember the way you made them feel that's um I don't know I just feel like whether it's in conversation or whatever it might be looking someone in the eyes asking intentional questions just making them feel welcomed you know and loved I feel like that's helped me a lot just in all the different places I've been in so good I love that and it's so true so many times we overthink like what would I say and people just want you to be there and just be a friend I don't think I'm making this up I think this is true did I see on your story when you moved into college that you have scriptures all over your wall like I just remember as you've been talking I keep get that picture of seeing your story that day which is so well because think about how many Instagram stories you see that like you would never remember but I was like I remember you so I know but I remember you moving into your dorm and putting all these on the wall and I think the memory keeps coming to my mind because the Holy Spirit's bringing it up to make the point that you know as you all have been watching Parker Miller and speak like so much scripture comes out there's just an overflow of the Lord and His goodness and like y'all have that because you've treasured it in your heart and because you've really pursued the Lord and it says in the Bible like from the heart so the mouth shall speak and so when you come on a podcast it so effortlessly comes out because it's in your heart like yes your parents were amazing and your friends are so great and you go to church but like y'all pursued the Lord on your own time and it's so evident in your lives and in your marriage and so I said this before we came on and I'll say it again like y'all are truly influencers worth following and I hope so many people continue to follow y'all's journey and look up to you guys because y'all are doing great and that's not to put pressure I've been in front of the spotlight for a long time and messed up a million times but I think the beauty of it is showing people even when you mess up and that's the beauty of repentance and showing people that you gotta receive the Lord's mercy and His grace and no one needs another perfect looking influencer to follow that even though they took real one following the Lord and so thank y'all for being who you are and thanks for being on the podcast my gosh thanks so much for having us so fun