1045. Q&AF: When To Stop Planning, Psychology Behind Premium Pricing & Respecting Yourself

What is up guys, it's Andy Fursella and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys. Today we have Q and AF. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. DJ's going to tell you how to submit them. Yeah, guys, you can email your questions into askandy at adforsella.com. You can also click the link in the description below or just drop them in the comment section of the Q and AF videos on YouTube. Yeah. We should tell them. We'll tell them here in just one second. Okay. All right. If this is your first time listening to the show, we have Q&A, which you're about to hear, and then we have CTI. All right. CTI stands for Cruise the Internet. These are like two points of the overall theme of the show. The overall theme of the show is to help fix what's going on in the world, especially here in the United States culturally. Okay. 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All right. there's also a book called the book on mental toughness which you can get at andyfrusella.com which has the entire live hard program plus a whole bunch of other information on mental toughness how to cultivate it why it's important and how to use it in your life last thing we don't run commercials on the show all right we're the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads or commercials and we ask and return something very simple that you help us grow the show by sharing the show all right so if the show makes you think it makes you laugh it gives you a new perspective it's something worth hearing or worth sharing please help us share the show uh if you see the clips online and you think these are good points please help us share the show by sharing the clips all right uh don't be a hoe share the show all right what's up it is peanut butter and jelly man yeah you know everything i've ever done has been to try and make people better you know so it's i really don't do anything even the new um operator standard project that we have with the arcane system inside of it uh for those of you that don't know that are fans of the mfco project the mfco project is back um if you go to operatorstandard.com you can sign up to get it uh we've been recording episodes in there for seven months so it's all business focused all mindset focused uh if that's what you're into and like this is your preferred format uh q and a f of the show you're going to definitely want to go subscribe to that so just putting that out there and it's a whole bunch of other stuff too it's not just a podcast it's an entire human behavioral operating system that if you use properly literally makes success inevitable so uh check that out operatorstandard.com hell yeah man um now i asked if we should tell them because we did we did have a we are bringing something else back. Tell them. We're bringing call-ins back. Live Q&As are coming back, man. Yeah. We'll be pushing out some information for you guys on how to do that. We had to address it. I think one thing you do very well, Andy, this is, you know, I'll suit your home for you, but you're very good on taking something and, you know, the saying, like, if it ain't broke, don't fix it, I don't think necessarily applies for you. You know what I'm saying? I feel like you're always looking for ways to improve something gonna make it better and uh i think we're gonna make the the q a's yeah it's gonna be way better the first go around we kind of learned a lot about what we liked what we didn't like and so this this next one's gonna be a lot better has that always just been like an innate thing for you you know i'm saying like like wanting to improve something like like not settling with it's good enough you know i don't know man um not always like yeah like i used to be like most people are where good enough was good enough and like i'd check a box and i'd be done but once i really got into business and i really started understanding what it took to compete um because of my desire to win i realized that's just what it took and then i i've operated it's so long that way now where i think it's just become part of who i am yeah but no i don't think that was something i was born with or innate or anything like that it's just it's what's required and and when you do what's required long enough it becomes second nature yeah 100 dude i forget what uh i mean i used to be a pretty lazy fucking person dude like for real like i and this is why i get so frustrated with a lot of people especially when it comes to their own personal development their own success because it's like i know what the fuck they can achieve i'm aware of what they what they can achieve and the stories that some of y'all tell yourself about why you can't are like honestly just so weak that it pisses me off you know what i mean it's like dude you could be so much more if you would just like get out of your own way so right it was uh what's that famous saying that uh less brown has you can always better your best yeah you know i'm saying like i it's just stuck with me it's just uh it's a really good saying man yeah i love it dude let's uh let's make some people better cool shall we? Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, I'm the type of person who likes to have a plan. I research everything, think through every angle, try to minimize my risk. The problem is I think it's become an excuse. I'll spend six months planning something that probably only needed six days of thought. How did you learn when enough planning was enough? Was there ever point in time in your life where you over planned it's a massive struggle for me no uh there wasn't and this is why i always tell you guys that some of the dumbest people in the world are some of the most successful okay we have this term going around the internet now called retard maxing all right yeah yeah that's what people are saying that's a thing okay and what it actually means is a very valuable thing to keep in mind it's that don't overthink it just go fucking do it okay some of the most successful people that i've come across in my life are not people who are highly intelligent bro they're just people that are so dumb that they don't think about the consequences of what might happen if they fuck it up and then when shit gets fucked up they're like oh, well, shit got fucked up. Like, what do we got to do? And they handle it. Now we got to figure it out. Which is in line with the proper attitude of what it takes to win. You can sit down and you can read every book. You can go to every podcast. You can go to every seminar. You can make all the plans. You can sit down and you can map it out as perfect as you think you could possibly do it. And once you start to go down the path, you're going to find out that things are going to change. And you're going to get punched in the fucking face. and you're going to realize, oh shit, what do I do now? And you're going to have to figure it out along the way. Okay. So all great entrepreneurs have something in common and it's, they are willing to go before they understand exactly what to do, knowing that when these situations arise, they'll handle them as they come. That is what all great entrepreneurs have in common. Every single one, every single one is willing to go before they are actually ready to go. That's just the way it is. Most people are the opposite of that. They are like this person where they are planning and scheming and reading and consuming. And then they're consuming all this information where one person says this and another person says this and this book says this and that book says this, and this seminar told me this, and this guy told me this, and they freeze because they can't figure out what the right thing to do is. And what you got to understand is you're not going to know the right thing until you're on the fucking path. Okay? So you have to be willing to go, and you have to be willing to accept that no matter how good your plan may be, it's not going to go as planned. And you're going to have to figure it out. That is the nature of entrepreneurship. And that is why so few people actually become successful entrepreneurs, because the fear of the unknown is intolerable to most people. OK, this is the nature. And you say, well, I think it's become an excuse. Yes, absolutely. It's become a fucking excuse. Yeah, you are. You are what I call a success zombie. OK, a success zombie is someone who has this idea of what they want to do. And then they go out and they read every book. They listen to every podcast. They go to every seminar. They consume every fucking data point. They become on paper experts and they never go. Okay. And they think that consuming more information is actually somehow going to relate to them having more success. When in reality, it has nothing to do with it. Because even if you know nothing and you decide to go, you're going to figure it out as you go. So really, dude, the bottom line is you just have to fucking go. And it doesn't matter if you read one book or 10 books or 20 books. And I would argue that the less, the better. You know, when I was starting out, dude, we didn't have the overwhelming amount of opinions and information and posts and reels and experts and gurus and this and that. There was like five books you could read on success. And they were written by guys like Sam Walton. Okay. And Jack Welch and Tony Robbins and these guys who have done amazing things in their life. And that's what you had. So you didn't have this overwhelming amount of information coming in your ears all the time. And I think that was a big advantage that somebody like me had when I was younger versus some of these people now And dude what makes it even worse now is that these people consider creating content about business the same as being successful in business. And that's two different things. How many of these people actually own a company? How many of these people have actually built anything? How many of these people are doing anything other than selling courses on how to coach coaches to coach other fucking coaches okay we're talking about building real businesses we're talking about actually operating companies there's like three people on the internet that have actually built real companies that you could fucking go and see and you can go in the stores and you can see the products and they have employees and they're there's probably like 10 okay for real 10 the rest are fucking full of shit. All right. And they're talking about how to manipulate traffic, hoping to cause some sort of success in business. Oh, you got to have this hook and you got to say this thing and you got to have this CTA and you got, how about this? How about you build some real shit? And then people want to find out how you built some real shit, build some real shit, and then talk about what you fucking built. How about that? That's credible. That's real. Listen to those people, the people who have actually built things that are sharing how they built things. Okay? Outside of that, you should be consuming zero content. Period. Because the rest of them don't know what the fuck they're talking about. There's a thousand reels a day that come in my feed that I can tell you for sure are terrible advice. For sure. I know for sure because I've made those mistakes. I've thought that way. I understand why they're saying what they're saying. And they're saying it with such certainty that it makes these people who don't know anything think, well, this must be the way. There is so much terrible information on the Internet around building a business and entrepreneurship that I couldn't I wouldn't even know where to start to break it down. OK, so pick one or two people who have built real shit. Listen to what the fuck they say and go. And you'll be at a huge advantage. You know, the thing on the planning piece, because I was thinking about this as you were answering it, but it's like, dude, I don't think I've ever had a plan that I've made in my life that actually like stuck to the plan the entire way. Like not that I didn't succeed, you know what I'm saying? But like the original plan in mind stayed through 100% of the way. I don't think I can. I can't name one thing. That's just not the nature of building things. I mean, when it comes to when we're talking about building businesses, that's just not the nature of how it works, bro. There's too many outside circumstances that are happening at any given time to for the plan to stay rigid. The plan's got to be fluid and you've just got to be committed to going and committed to learning when you make mistakes and the rest work itself out. Yeah. You know, but like you're you're basically like saying, you know, I'm going to climb Mount Everest. I'm going to fucking climb Mount Everest and we're going to go at this many steps a day. And you're not accounting for storms. You're not accounting for avalanches. You're not accounting for this. So a storm comes and you missed your one day. So then you just quit plans over. Plan doesn't work. That's right. That's not how the fuck shit gets achieved. That's right. Okay. So like, you know, yeah, dude, to answer your question, you're aware that you're in this success zombie mindset and you need to break out of it. And so whatever it is you're trying to do, you just need to fucking go do it. And you'll learn a thousand times more than you could ever learn consuming information from someone else. This is why it's important to listen to people who have done it. There's a big difference between theory and reality. There's a big difference between saying this is how it works and knowing this is how the fuck it works. Two different things. The guy at the starting line who's making content about business has never built a motherfucking business and all he's doing is selling his own brand to get coaching and shit like that. That motherfucker does not fucking know. He can't know. He cannot fucking know because he hasn't gone down the fucking gauntlet. The guy on the other side that's actually built something, he can look at that guy and be like, yeah, that's wrong, that's wrong, that's wrong in like a snap of a second. Okay? And I'm telling you, 98% of the content on the internet is fucking bullshit. It's all people trying to stroke their own dicks and try to pretend like they're this big thing. They went out and rented a car. They appear to be successful. And, dude, like, you know, people buy it because they're ignorant to what's going on. But, you know, it's whatever, man. Like easy come, easy go. Yeah. And you see it because every three years is a new batch of these people. I don't know where they come from. It's so weird. Yeah. Yeah, man. Well, they see the easy money, bro. Yeah. They say, oh, I can make a digital. I'm not against digital products, by the way. Okay. Digital products from people who have built real shit are valuable. Digital products from people who fucking theorize about shit are trash. That's it. Okay. So they realize, these guys realize that there's a ton of margin digital products. And instead of going out and building a real company, they try to consider, well, this is actually a real company. No, the fuck it isn't. It fucking isn't, dude. Okay. Coaching coaches to coach coaches to coach other motherfucking coaches is not a fucking real company. I'm sorry. You might want to, you might want to like think that is, but it's not. Okay. We don't need more coaches. We need more motherfuckers building shit that actually contribute to the fabric of this fucking culture in this country. Okay. Real products that serve real people, not selling them a dream and saying, oh, here's the dream and fucking $9,997. and here's the dream and then like like that's what the fuck we're dealing with dude and and at some point those of you that buy that shit you deserve what the fuck you get because you're buying the same you're buying the quick fix you ain't got the the acuity to understand the difference look man it's important i i you know it's hard for me to feel bad for people like that yeah like you decided that this was going to be the quick solution and you decided to fucking leverage yourself and put yourself in credit card debt and all this shit and makes you just as bad as the fucking dude selling it well it's like you i mean you get the first one um well we've all been fucked one time like bro like like dude when i was young you know i got fucking burned like that yeah okay and it's because i had the wrong attitude okay when i was young i bought a fucking i tell you i bought a product okay when the internet first came out like very first came I'm talking about the late 90s. Okay. Google and search engines was not really a thing. Okay. So I'm going to explain to you. You couldn't go somewhere and type in a fucking and say, what was this or what is who in my area does plumbing? Okay. It wasn't a thing. You had email addresses. You had websites that you went to, but search engines were like not a known thing. All right. You had a couple of things like Yahoo and they were coming around, but people didn't really understand what it was. so before i tell you how fucking retarded this product project that i bought into is i want to explain that we were living in a different time because you're gonna think i'm a moron i tell you well anyway so i broke out scammed by the first game i did i did i got scammed from the guy selling the selling the dream on the internet i got scammed yeah okay and uh there was this guy who was selling this thing, and it was called Internet Yellow Pages, okay? Which made a lot of sense because back in the day before the internet, like if you wanted to look up a plumber, you had to go to the Yellow Pages and look up plumbing and there'd be a bunch of ads in there, all right? So this made sense, like it made sense back then. So he had this thing called the Internet Yellow Pages, and what he did was he sold franchises to independent reps for $9,000, okay? now listen so i bought this on a credit card all right and my job was to go to businesses door to door and say hey would you like a listing on the internet yellow pages and sell the shit i sold zero fucking ads okay and i tried it for a long time yeah nobody gave a fuck because no one saw the value in the internet too new no one understood it yeah um so it never worked and the whole project never worked and and i got fucking taken for nine thousand dollars on that okay at a time when nine thousand dollars might as well been nine million dollars i didn't have it that's okay so uh so i mean i could understand people being taken advantage of when they don't know any better but at this point in time like i feel like with the amount of fucking information that's on the internet and the amount of i don't know maybe it's just my perspective it's it's it should be easy to tell when people are full of shit i don't know well i mean or you know bare minimum you're not you know you're not trying to do that again yeah you know what i'm saying like you gotta learn from it yeah i didn't buy another program yeah i went and built something oh well that coach was just wrong let me try this Yeah, right. Yeah, it takes more, man. I get it, dude. I get it, man. Guys, any question too? Let's get to it. My question is, did you ever feel guilty on moving your prices up? If so, how did you go about that? Hello, and Yati, Andy. I am from the Navajo Reservation. I am Navajo. I'm a 24-year-old wedding photographer, videographer. When doing my job, I charge a lot for weddings. However, I have always had this sense of guilt for charging what I charge. Coming from the res, I did not see a lot of wealth, so charging $1,500 or more feels wrong. My girlfriend, family, and friends have told me to charge more for weddings, and even some of my clients say I need to charge more, but I cannot shake this guilty feeling for charging people high prices. Even when adding more value to my wedding packages, I still feel the same. Well, you're going to be poor your whole life. Get used to it. Because you have a poor mindset. All right. Your mindset is because fifteen hundred dollars is a lot to me, then it must be a lot to everybody else. I know people that shit fifteen hundred dollars out like it ain't nothing. OK, they don't give a fuck about fifteen hundred dollars. All right. And when you start to make objections up in your head based upon your own personal financial situation, you are guaranteed to lose in business. You're guaranteed to lose. And most of the time we see this in salespeople. Salespeople have a really hard time selling things that are outside the affordability scale of their own personal financial situation So you have to as a salesperson and as a business owner understand that this is a math equation Okay. You have to charge the value of what it is that you offer. And there are going to be customers that cannot afford it. And there are going to be customers that don't think twice about it and you have to decide which ones you're going to pander to. Okay. And if you want to pander to a bunch of broke people, your entire life, you're going to have a hard time in business. It's going to be a constant fight forever. My recommendation would be to raise your prices or even double your prices from where they are and only work with the people that can easily afford it because those people are less maintenance. They don't bitch. They don't complain. They don't nickel and dime. They're usually much more grateful and it makes your life way easier because now you're making money and you have less rub on the backside. Okay. So this is a personal insecurity of yours that is coming from your own worldview that you need to change if you are going to be successful in business. Period. Yeah. I feel like there's an important thing here. You have to. You never know what somebody can afford, by the way. like for all you salespeople that think like you know salespeople like to do this they like to look at someone and they like to decide what they think this person can and can't afford let me tell you something this is a this is a a reality of people the people that you think can't afford it because they're walking up in a pair of fucking workout shorts and a cutoff t-shirt versus the guy that's dressed up in a nice suit or whatever are usually the people that don't give a fuck about whatever it is it costs and the reason they're not in a nice suit is because they don't give a fuck about wearing a nice suit because they don't have to okay so usually your judgments are backwards anyway we used to have this guy that would come in to uh supplement super stores bro and this it was like this older black dude and he was dressed straight up straight up like a pimp okay he'd wear purple pants and like a fucking silk shirt lemon pepper step oh dude yes like an old like an old pimp daddy okay and and and dude you you would look at this dude and you'd be like this guy is a fucking clown like he's not gonna buy shit this guy would come in and buy a thousand dollars worth of shit out of cash he'd pull a fucking bankroll right out of his fucking pocket and and walk the fuck out he was a pimp okay yeah but the thing is is that you know if you if you didn't take the time to help that person and educate them and show them top to bottom what they would need you would have never got that sale or figured that out and a lot of people will brush that off because they'll prejudge somebody based upon what their appearance or what they're wearing or what it is bro most of the places i go into i'm wearing like exactly what i'm wearing right now i'm wearing fucking free first form shirt shorts and a free t-shirt that i got from i mean it's not i had to pay for it's free right and a first form hat you know and and uh you know dude i could buy anything i want like without thinking about it so you know this is a big problem with entrepreneurs um and and sales people and then also how do you want people to perceive your brand okay how do you want people to talk about your skill set as a photographer do you want them to say oh steve is good you know he's cheap and he'll get it done or do you want them to say you know what steve costs more money but fuck he's the best okay because price value correlation is a real thing people that pay more automatically defend the product that they buy so instead of saying oh yeah he does a pretty good job and he's affordable they're gonna say yeah man he costs more money but look at our fucking pictures they're amazing that's right okay as long as you can deliver on that well that was gonna be my second piece on this because i i don't i don't i don't want this to go like oh i'm sure they understand this piece but like you know the the whole thing about charging you know you recommend even maybe charge double the quality of the work still has to be there the quality work has to be there no matter what i just didn't want that to be like oh it's assumed it's understood yeah let's let's assume that it's decent or good yeah okay I'm assuming that it's good. I mean, if it's shit, you're not going to be able to charge a higher amount of money for it. Right. Okay. But, dude, the point I'm getting back at is that there is a direct correlation in the consumer's mind between price and quality. Yeah. Okay. You can't break it. People understand inherently that when they pay more for something, they're 99% of the time getting a much better product. Okay. And when they pay more for something and they know it's a better product, what's built in is loyalty and then also marketing. Because when they tell their person, you know, hey, I worked with Steve and he charged me $5,000 for wedding pictures. And people are like, what? That's fucking crazy. Now, all of a sudden, that person is attacking their judgment. It's a personal attack. For paying the $5,000. And they automatically go into defense mode for you. so they go in and they say dude you don't understand this guy is the best there is he's a fucking legend this is like having you know uh babe ruth photographers okay and then that is what builds your brand equity in people's mind okay so there's all kinds of things psychologically to think about here about how you want to you know charge but at the end of the day bro like i i mean you do whatever you want but i'm telling you what i would do yeah i would raise my prices not apologize and i do the work and i'd market to the people that can afford it and i wouldn't fuck with the other people yeah i love that dude side note you know how i am i like to think about why people do certain things and on the topic of like you know that judging the customer based off of what they look like do you think that goes back to a time in society where people did put more respect into their dress right like you know men were wearing suits on a daily where they were going to work and so like they went into a store like okay yeah that guy's a suit guy maybe you know i'm saying like i'm just trying to think why where that comes from though i mean maybe maybe that's where it comes from i don't know yeah you know it's not what it is though it's not now it doesn't matter what what where it came from what matters is what is yeah and what is is uh the richest motherfuckers usually don't like wearing suits so they don't fucking wear them that's okay so the rich dudes look just like the poor dudes and if you prejudge them in fact it's the opposite now huh it's the opposite now all the fucking poor dudes wearing the fake rich shit it's the middle it's the middle okay middle people in the in the middle of a social economic class try as hard as they can to look like they're at the top okay and the people who are at the top try hard to look like a regular person and that's the that's why like it's i don't know it's pretty easy for me to spot the fake motherfuckers on the internet yeah because nobody with any real money fucking acts like these dudes no what they're doing is they're playing a character based on the perception of what people who are in lower income see as success movies and shit yeah yeah I want to say this. Don't misjudge what I just said. Okay? Driving a nice car, having a nice watch, putting yourself together will open up doors for you. It will open up doors for you. But what I'm saying is when people actually get to the point of having a lot of money, like a lot, they don't care about that shit. Because they know that they can buy the door open if they want to. You see what I'm saying? I think more importantly, there's phases to it. Yeah. Yeah. No, I took that more importantly, though, for the sales guys. Like, you just shouldn't be judging people based off of that shit right now. No. Yeah, I think that, yeah. I got it. Yeah, guys, Andy, question number three. Hi, Andy. I'm 23 years old, and I spent the majority of my time over the last few years trying to earn other people's respect. My boss, my friends, the people I look up to. But the older I get, the more I realize the opinion that bothers me most is my own. there are days where I know I didn't give my best and I have to live with that so how did you get to the place where you could honestly respect the man you saw in the mirror I followed through on the things that I told myself I was going to do at the level of standard that I expected for myself in a non-compromising way it's very simple that's what 75 hard live hard is about that's why that's what it teaches you okay um if you have high standards for yourself and you think you should be doing certain things and you should be behaving a certain way and you should be acting a certain uh putting on a certain effort etc etc and you don't it doesn't matter what the numbers say on the scoreboard you're not going to feel good about yourself okay you can still win on the scoreboard and feel like shit because you know you're half-assing yeah yeah yeah you understand yeah so like the winning isn't what creates the inner peace that you're looking for in fact um that's a whole nother discussion but the point of the matter is is that when you live to the standard that you expect from yourself regardless of what the standard is around the people around you a few things happen one you start to respect yourself and you have more confidence, but two other people start to respect you and they start to, you know, you're talking about, I want to earn the respect. Well, earn the respect by living to your own standard. That's higher than everybody else's. That's the easiest way to get people to follow you in the first place. You know, in the beginning, they're going to be like, why are you doing things like that? Why are you doing this? Why are you doing that? Why are you doing this? And you can just answer and be like, that's because that's the way I do things. All right. And when people observe the way that you do things at a much higher standard than the people around them, they automatically fall in line there's a hierarchy of natural order that starts to materialize without you having to say anything you don't have to say oh i'm a leader i'm doing this to be a leader people look and they say that guy's got his shit together you know that guy's a fucking killer okay and they start to respect that and that's that's how respect comes around that's you know trying to manipulate manipulate your way to respect by behaving the way that other people expect you to will leave you feeling empty and disappointed because the truth of the matter is you're not being true to yourself and you're likely not living to the standard of your own, which is probably higher than what they have for you. So you got to quit doing the dance and do your own dance, if that makes sense. And to your point, it's going to accomplish both of these things you want. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. The seeking the approval, I guess, for validation from others right um i feel like this is more maybe it's becoming a young generation no it because dude that the way our culture is set up now yeah our culture is a performative culture okay when you look at the way that social media operates social media does not operate in a healthy way for people What it does is it trains people to perform in a way that gets rewarded through meaningless metrics like likes, shares, and comments, okay? So what they're constantly doing is doing a dance for the public approval. and this is why a lot of people get caught in victim mentality okay and this is just an example that that i want to use here but someone there's lots of examples that i could use here but this is one that is very damaging to people so say someone is going through a hard time and they decide to be quote-unquote vulnerable to share that story on the internet on instagram okay they make a post They say, hey, guys, I just want to be transparent with you. You know, I'm going through a hard time, this, that, the other. You know, these are things, and it could be totally valid, right? It could be a totally honest post. Well, that engagement will typically be pretty high because it's outside the norm of what they normally post, and people are empathetic, right? People don't like to see other people going through hard times. They want to offer support. That's how people are. and you know there's a lot of people that want to offer support hoping that you'll still fucking fail right um that's a really i like this that's a real thing dude yeah so so you'll get a lot of engagement on something like that yeah and then what happens is those people are like holy shit look at all the engagement i got so then don't mean it huh dopamine it yeah well they'll say well that worked quote unquote that worked well what does working actually mean it means you're rewarded on the internet with meaningless shit because you told a story one time all right but here's the dangerous part because they say oh it worked and they're looking at it as like a game to win versus a game to authentically share who they are or benefit people or this or that they'll tell that story again. Okay. And then that story will get a lot of engagement again. And you know, there'll be two or three posts in between and they'll tell a sad story. And then they'll start telling it more often, more often and more often and more often and more often. And what ends up happening is they unintentionally create this jail around their mindset that they are a victim, essentially convincing themselves that they are a poor little me that can do nothing about what it is and they are unwilling to change it because that's what gets rewarded on the internet. Okay. So now think about how that damages someone in real life. So you have someone who's understanding that life is just life and we go through hard periods and we go through good periods and then they tell that first story, right? And then they tell it again and then tell it again and they tell it again. and pretty soon the perception that life is made of good and a little bit of bad becomes life is made of a lot of bad and sometimes good. Okay. And we all know these people. We watch them on the internet. How many of these people that we know on the internet constantly complain, constantly cry, bitch, moan, talk about this thing or that thing or this thing they went through or that thing they went through or this or that or this. and they don't understand that they're actually convincing themselves that they are a victim that cannot overcome these things. And there is nothing noble about wallowing in your fucking sad story. Every motherfucker out there has a sad story. And a lot of them are a lot worse than yours. And the people with the saddest stories don't fucking talk about them all the time because they're so bad. They don't want to remind themselves of it. All right. But these people now become victims of their own stories where they cannot break out of it and they see the world in a different way that is psychologically damaging all right that ruins people's lives it's no different than these therapists that legitimately are predatory in terms of convincing everybody that they need to heal their entire life and oh by the way to heal you need to join my community and buy my book and buy my program, right? What incentive does that person have to actually help people get any better? And are we supposed to spend our whole life, the first 20 years of our life living life and then the next 80 trying to heal from it? Get the fuck out of here, dude. Life is life. Good shit's gonna happen. Bad shit's gonna happen. We're gonna get our ass kicked. We're also gonna have times in the sun where the sun is shining and everything is right. That is what life is about and we learn the lessons from the bad We overcome them and we inspire other people to overcome them. That is what the fuck this is about It's not about convincing people that they're broken and that they need to pay you for a solution for their whole life That is the most predatory shit going on the internet right now Now i'm not saying there aren't some really good therapists because there are but i'm also going to say not everybody fucking needs therapy Okay, not everybody needs to have you know this kumbaya yes like bro it's it disgusts me how how some of these therapists psychologically brainwash people into believing that they're fucking victims of something that happened when they were eight years old okay you can't control what happens to you when you're eight years old man and the more you relive it your entire life the worse you're gonna fucking feel at some point you're gonna have to let the shit go and be like hey fuck that fucking it happened it is what it is this is what i learned and you move the fuck on man yeah dude i think a general safe rule let me know if you agree but it's like you're gonna cry over spilled milk in a video cool the next video needs to be you cleaning the shit up yeah yeah bro instead instead of yeah bro if you're gonna share if you're gonna share your hardships make sure that you're sharing how you overcame it too that actually serves people that's noble shit yeah okay because we all do have hard times. And there's a lot of people that are having hard times that are similar to the ones that we might be going through. But if we just get on there and cry about it all the time, all we're doing is confirming to them that they can't overcome it either. Don't get better than that. Yeah. Like, dude, that's terrible. So, you know, but that's the nature of the internet. The nature of the internet is that it rewards performative action. And because it rewards performative action, A lot of people never figure out who they actually are and what they actually want because they're doing things for strangers on the Internet just to get attention. So it's it's it's kind of fucked up, man. You know, like what you do on your social. Is your business for sure. But like be be careful, you're not falling into this trap of performative culture. And you know what the irony is, is the motherfuckers that don't perform and just say what the fuck they think. are the ones that are successful at social anyway yeah yeah because everybody's trying to perform so weird isn't it i mean you know like i was talking to my buddy who's a he he uh he runs a personal brand consulting agency he's good at it he's built some big people this is one of the guys that's actually done this shit and we were fucking laughing back and forth the other day and it's like bro how many of these people want to have a quote-unquote personal brand but they've never literally done fucking anything never done anything but you think you're going to get a microphone and say some shit that someone else who's done shit has already said 50 fucking times and somehow you're going to become that too what's your story what have you done what have you built you want to have a great personal brand either tell people what the fuck you actually built or document the process of building it and they'll follow you along the way but like dude you don't just get to fucking have people listen to you because you go out and buy a thousand dollars worth of fucking podcast equipment and sit in front of a fucking microphone no one gives a shit bro they care about why you're credible so go out and build some shit and then talk about it or share the process that's interesting i like watching people build their businesses online that's interesting shit like the little kid we featured on cti doing the the trash can cleans yeah that's cool he's gonna kill it okay like it's cool watching people build their business online now i will say this there's a lot of fucking morons online even that have some decent sized businesses that get on there and disclose every single decision that they're making not realizing that everybody else is watching and they're like oh okay well uh you know and and stealing or fucking manipulative like you got to be careful what you share yeah you know within reasons you have to share within reason yeah you know this dude sharing his fucking whole game plan yeah like what are you talking about this is a fucking war bro yeah i'm not gonna share with you where the fuck i'm going yeah they're about to run until until i'm already there and then i can say oh this is how we got it you know what i'm saying like right it's right hell yeah i don't know i think people dude real talk i dude and i'm not trying to discourage anybody i shouldn't even say this but it's just the truth it's just entrepreneurship has gotten so blown up and glorified that there's a lot of people that think they should be entrepreneurs that just shouldn't be and there's a lot of people out there to say that everybody can be an entrepreneur and not everybody can it takes a certain fucking type of person to do it it takes if you want to be good at it it takes a certain kind of person everybody can have a side hustle everybody can open up a fucking drop shipping thing or to amazon or whatever right but if you're going to build a real thing dude you have to be obsessed with it You have to be obsessed. You have to be relentless. You have to like literally be 100% committed because everybody else that's, that's competing with you is, and if you're not, you're going to lose and you still might lose because they might be better than you. So it's just like, it's like the most competitive thing in the world that people, and, and, and, and I don't know, like, it's weird to me. Cause like the, the paradox of it is like, it's the most competitive thing in the world that people think is like the easiest thing in the world it's like what the fuck dude and that comes from the internet man table tennis dog yeah it's not casual there's nothing casual about winning bro anyway i love it man well guys andy that was three yep all right don't be a hoe show the show went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case close