Bear Grease

Ep. 441: This Country Life - The One That Got Away And The One That Kind Of Didn't

26 min
Apr 10, 20269 days ago
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Summary

Host Brent Reeves recounts two contrasting turkey hunting experiences in Missouri and Mississippi, exploring the unpredictability of hunting and the deeper value of relationships and persistence over success. The episode emphasizes that turkey hunting's appeal lies in the challenge and experience itself rather than the kill.

Insights
  • Distance estimation for roosting turkeys is highly subjective and influenced by multiple environmental variables; turkeys are typically closer than hunters perceive
  • Hunting success is not the primary measure of a fulfilling hunt; the experience, relationships, and challenge provide greater value than the outcome
  • Preparation and planning matter significantly, but external factors (animals, weather, timing) often override even the best-laid strategies
  • The emotional investment in pursuing a specific animal creates deeper engagement and motivation than casual hunting opportunities
  • Mentorship and shared hunting experiences strengthen relationships more effectively than other social activities
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Companies
Moultrie
Presenting sponsor of Bear Grease's 12 and 26 film series featuring long-form hunting content
Onyx
Co-presenting sponsor of Bear Grease's 12 and 26 film series featuring long-form hunting content
Case Knives
Presenting sponsor of This Country Life podcast series on Meteor's podcast network
First Light
Outdoor gear company specializing in merino wool and technical hunting apparel with conservation focus
Meteor
Podcast network hosting Bear Grease and This Country Life, featuring outdoor content and YouTube distribution
People
Clay Newcomb
Host of Bear Grease podcast presenting 12 and 26 film series with hunting expeditions
Brent Reeves
Host of This Country Life podcast sharing turkey hunting stories and experiences from Mississippi and Missouri
Lake Pickle
Hunting partner and co-host on Mississippi turkey hunt, experienced in filming hunts in the South
Jordan Blissett
Mississippi property owner hosting turkey hunts and providing scouting information for roosting turkeys
Keith Polk
Hunting companion on Mississippi turkey hunt with family involvement in shared meals and hunting experiences
Toby Neymar
25-year hunting relationship providing Missouri property access and hunting mentorship
Ty Evans
Featured in Bear Grease 12 and 26 film as top mule handler on southwest Utah lion hunt
The Meekums
Legendary lion hunting family featured in Bear Grease 12 and 26 film on southwest Utah expedition
Bailey
Brent Reeves' daughter mentioned in hunting stories and personal life context
Alexis
Brent Reeves' family member mentioned in personal life and weekend activities
Reed Bargaineer
Upcoming hunting partner for Alabama turkey hunt mentioned at episode conclusion
Quotes
"Tricking them into coming close, that's my game."
Brent ReevesMid-episode Mississippi hunt discussion
"Turkey hunting is nothing like that. It gets better every time and has for the last 41 years I've done it."
Brent ReevesEpisode conclusion
"They're usually closer than you think and you probably didn't get nearly as close to them as you thought you did."
Brent ReevesDistance estimation discussion
"Fellowship is critical in maintaining what's really important as the days click off the calendar like sand through an hourglass."
Brent ReevesReflection on hunting relationships
"If there was something I could take that would make me feel that way I'd be only right now with both hands. I love it."
Brent ReevesEpisode conclusion on turkey hunting passion
Full Transcript
Hey, it's Clay Newcomb here from Bear Grease, and I want to tell you about my new 12 and 26 film presented by Moultrie and Onyx. These are 12 of Meteor's biggest and baddest hunts from the last year that are going to be released through 2026. These are long-form episodes, or what I call films, so you're going to get more of what you love. My film will take us into the deep and cold rugged country of southwest Utah on a lion hunt with hounds, where we traveled over 80 miles in five days on mules. But the best part, I'm hunting with the legendary lion hunting family, the Meekums, but also one of the country's top mule men, Ty Evans. This is about mules and lions. This is the kind of place where winter hangs on tight and every track in the snow tells a story. If you've ever wondered what it's like to pursue a mountain lion in big country on muleback, then this is the episode for you. Check it out now on the Meteor YouTube channel, and be on the lookout for more 12 and 26 in the coming months. Welcome to This Country Life. I'm your host, Brent Reeves. From Coon Hunting to Trot Lightning and just general country living, I want you to stay a while as I share my experiences and life lessons. This Country Life is presented by Case Knives from the Stormor Studio on Meteor's podcast network, bringing you the best outdoor podcast that airways have to offer. Alright friends, grab a chair or drop that tailgate. I've got some stories to share. The one that got away and the one that kind of didn't. And we're back! It's time for the second half of my Mississippi turkey hunt with my friends, Lake Pickle, Jordan Blissett and Keith Polk. I treasure that hunting trip every year, but the relationships I've built with those guys and their families, and that surpasses everything. I'm going to tell you all about it, but first, I'm going to tell you this story. Twenty-something years ago, I was riding around rural Missouri with my longtime friend, Toby Neymar. I've talked about Toby on here plenty of times, but for those that don't remember, I've been hunting at his place for the better part of 25 years. Last year, I finally talked him into going with me and we doubled up on two whoppers. But this story was back then, as my daughter Bailey says, and Toby's interests were only in finding me places to hunt. We drove by a small farm and there, feeding out in the open pasture along with a group of yearling calves, was a big old Missouri lawn beer. He wasn't paying any attention to them and they walked around him like he wasn't even there. Toby said he knew that man that owned that property and after a quick phone call to the man once we got back home, I had permission to hunt it. The next morning, I made the hour of drive from Toby's to the new place, stepped across the fence and waited for daylight. As Missouri woke up, I was greeted by a gobble at the opposite end of that pasture along the tree line. It was still plenty dark and I had a lot of time to pick out a spot to sit. Unfortunately, this didn't have a lot of choices. That spot was at the top of a rolling hill that ran a length of an air property with the top of the ridge in the middle of the pasture and the terrain sloping down toward the fence rows on each side. The tickets dominated both sides of the field outside the barbed wire so it was just a matter of finding a spot that would work, making a little makeshift blind and jobbing a hen decoy in the ground and getting comfortable until he flew down, spotted my decoy and slid on over to socialize. The songbirds were letting it rip and it was past what I thought was fly down time when I clucked a couple times. He answered me and he just pitched off the limb and went in the full strut 200 yards away. I was in complete radar lock. I had to beat of that shotgun on him as soon as his feet hit the ground. Sitting on the edge of that field like I was wasn't going to offer me much wiggling room once he got closer. I was counting on him looking at that decoy walking into range. Let me set the stage for you. My back was to the west fence but I was aiming south and that turkey was strutting at the south end of the pasture and I had the decoy sitting northeast of me about 30 yards. He would have to walk past me to get to that decoy but I wasn't about to let that happen. I was going to monkey flip him with an espresso cup full of number 5's lawn before he got there. I yipped at him and I saw him gobble back. He looked down where I was sitting and he locked on to that decoy. And here he come. He wanted to stop and strut but he also wanted to run. So as he was running he did his dead level best to look cool while he did it. This was happening fast. So fast I didn't notice the thunder and hurt of calves that had walked up to the decoy behind me. I'm not sure how I knew what the sound was but when I heard it I could tell there was a bovine chewing on my foam turkey decoy. At 75 yards that goblet slammed on the brakes, did an about face and left quicker than he was running to me. I looked back to where that decoy was and there stood a hurford calf holding my decoy in its mouth like a Labrador holds a duck. I didn't understand everything I knew about what I was looking at but I knew that turkey hunt was as done as cornbread. I picked up a rock and I tried to throw it through that calf but all I did was cause him to drop my decoy and stampede off while his pals followed him. Literally grinding that decoy into oblivion in the Missouri dirt. Well that was crazy. I was sitting back at the truck getting ready to leave and singing the blues when the farmer drove by. I told him what happened. He promptly opened the gate and pushed the calves across the road into another pasture and I thanked him and offered him some money but he refused. The next morning I was right back in that same spot before daylight and when goblin time came that turkey was on the same limb as far as I could tell. I watched him drop off that limb and go into the full strut just like he had the morning before. I clucked twice at him and here he came. He didn't even pause to see if there was a hen down there. I guess he'd forgotten seeing her yesterday in the deadly jaws of that killer calf. For whatever reason he wasn't slowing down and I didn't care. He was on a mission and unbeknownst to him I was it. He'd made it to the edge of my monkey stomping range but he'd walked behind a group of cedars and as soon as he stepped out from the other side he'd be less than 30 yards and I was facing a poke both his eyeballs out when he did. That's when I heard the horse running towards us from the opposite direction. I glanced left and coming at full gallop was someone's trusty steed tracking toward my turkey like a missile. I heard the turkey putt from behind the cedar and run for his life back the way he came. That horse skidded to a stop just past the cedars. Dropped a pile of pasture apples and started grazing like nothing had happened. I didn't even know there was a horse there. Where was he yesterday? Walking back to the truck I slipped next to a mud hole and dropped my shotgun right in the middle of it. It went plum out of sight. I went back to Toby's and while I was taking my shotgun apart he called the farmer about the horse. Apparently he dropped that horse off after he moved those calves and I left the day before. He said he'd go over and move him too. Toby hung up the phone and said you'll have that whole place to yourself in the morning. No calves and no horses. Finally I thought to myself how much bad luck could one fellow have and not kill a turkey that had run to him two days in a row. I felt good about it and my shotgun had never been cleaner. That was my last night. I had to go home the next morning following that hunt. We set up a little later than usual talking and visiting with neighbors who'd come over to eat. The next morning I was running about 15 minutes late but had it figured in my head on the hour drive over that as soon as I got out of the truck I should just grab my shotgun, hop to fence and go sit in my spot. The sky was glowing when I parked my truck at the north end of that property and I opened the door and I heard him gobble on the roost. Had to be in the same tree if not on the same limb once again. I got you now buddy. I put my vest on before I left the house. I had a call in my mouth that I had been warming up for the last 20 minutes. All I needed to do now was grab my shotgun and jump across that fence. I took a gobble again and I just stood there staring at the muddy spot in the back seat where I had laid my shotgun the day before after dropping it in that mud hole. The shotgun that was an hour away leaned up in the corner of Toby's kitchen where I'd spent all afternoon cleaning it the day before. And that's just how that happened. There's a lot of people out there shrugging off the elements. First Light is built to help you go farther and stay longer designed to buy hunters, for hunters with a deep commitment to conservation and land access. No shortcuts, no excuses. Just gear you can count on. Head to First Light.com. That's F-I-R-S-T-L-I-T-E.com. Last week I left y'all in the Lurch right in the middle of a Mississippi turkey hunt. The work was so blue and we had to call it a day right in the middle of me hearing a second turkey. Remember, the first turkey from the day before was doing everything he could to find the source of those calls. I was dishing out like a pez dispenser only to get roughed up and run off by a squad of hooligan jakes. So on the second day, my partner and grime and host for the Magnolia State Turkey Tour 2026, Lake Backwoods University Pickle, he and I were standing on the front porch of where that joker had been roosting for dang near week. Now, if for some reason you missed last week's episode number 439, stop what you're doing right now and go back and listen or this ain't gonna make a lot of sense. We'll wait for you right here. Take your time, but hurry up every chance you get. For all you overachievers, we're moving on. We traced ourselves back toward the truck and as we got into General Ascendant where we'd heard him, Lake punched him in the ear with a barred owl who had almost made me gobble and he answered. We guessed him about 350 yards. We needed to close the distance and pick out a good spot to out at him again. We moved quietly but with a purpose for about 100 yards. Doing the math and my noggin that Mr. Brenda McDougal lovingly beat into my brain and literally beat into my behind. That would put us on the same 10 acres as him with plenty of cover between us to conceal our approach giving us plenty of time to pick out a spot and sit down. Now, he answered us every time we hooted at him and we had yet to make any racket resembling a turkey. He ought to be right where he was the last time he gobbled at us. We stopped after crossing a little water field drain about three inches deep and three feet wide. It would be our final spot to hoot for a response to find him. I felt like Sean Connery in the hunt for the red October when I turned to Lake and instead of giving the order one ping only please, I said send him on Lake. I estimated Lake's owl imitation to have been almost out of his head when that turkey gobbled less than 100 yards away. Yowls up! He was close. Now, looking back now, we may have overestimated how far he was by about 50 or 60 yards. Which brings up a fair question that I get asked pretty often and that's how do you estimate how far a turkey is when you hear it? Well, the answer takes a lot of variables with experience in spooking turkeys being the two best teachers by far. But a goblin turkey 300 yards away from you while on the roost is going to sound different than 300 yards away from you on the ground. Even if he dropped off the limb and was standing at the base of the tree. If he's facing towards you as opposed to turned away from you, it'll make a big difference. In the most wind direction, the stage of spring leaf growth on the trees and bushes, rolling hills, flat ground, humidity, environmental noise. There's so many things that go into the equation of guessing the distance of a turkey. A turkey goblin from the same limb two weeks apart during the spring green up can sound like they're not even in the same zip code, much less the same tree. All the things you have to take into account when you're moving on a turkey. But out of all of them, there's two things that are almost always true on every one of them regardless of where you hunt them. They're usually closer than you think and you probably didn't get nearly as close to them as you thought you did. I'll always mind you, like this time for instance. Me and Lake were standing beside one another after crossing that little drain and he revved himself back up and let loose a low key hoot and BOW! 80 yards away. Had that stand of pine not been there, he'd have been close enough to see without any trouble. And if we were close enough to see him, he was close enough to hear us think. His gobble hadn't got plumb past both of my ears when we started hunkering down and tipped to him to a reddo, that spied in front of him. Lake followed suit with the camera just behind me against some gum trees. The length of time between sitting down in that first call was only a few seconds. Lake and I had never turkey hunted together before this trip, but we were both veterans of filmin hunts in the south so there really wasn't a whole lot to go over. We knew to be still, communicate only when necessary and until someone said he's gone, we would operate as if he could see us whether we could see him or not. The length of time between me calling him answering was even less. I waited a bit and called again and he gobbled loud and started getting closer. BOOM! I heard him drum when Lake did, but I couldn't tell exactly where the drumming was coming from. That sound is unmistakable and sometimes difficult to course. It's like I can feel it, like it consumes me at times and it overwhelms my sense of direction. The gobble he followed up with was clearly right out in front of where we were staring into that small patch of mature pine, trying to catch the slightest glimpse of movement. Then like so many times before he just materialized as if by magic right out in front of us. Lake had seen him, but I couldn't. I strained as hard as I could, moving only my eyes as I stared through and passed the privet and hardwood saplings that dotted that area between me and the edge of the pines. I should be able to see him, but I can't. He wasn't there and then, then he was. There he is. I got you now, buddy. My eyes locked onto him and I dared not blink. His head was red, white and blue against the contrast and darkness of that patch of pines where he stood unmoving in full strut 60 yards away. I knew he was too far, but I asked anyway. How far? At least 60. What I heard sneaking through the tension that held us both in a state of alertness that for me is only surpassed when an element of danger or an imminent threat is present. I could hear every puff of wind, every rustle of leaves, every bird and every breath I took. My heart pounded in my chest, but all my thoughts and movements were deliberate and planned well in advance at the time I was currently in. I was seeing not where he was, but every possible place he could go from where he stood. I targeted the 40 yard mark limit I'd placed on myself to shoot him. I need him to close the gap between us by a third, just a third where he was. He just stood there and strut and creeped his way to my left, coming an inch closer. 60 yards isn't much when you're shooting turkeys these days and I further limited myself by using a weather be a rye side by side in 4-10. But it wouldn't matter if I'd been toting the 30 out of 6, I don't want to shoot turkeys at 60 yards. Killing him ain't my deal. Tricking them into coming close, that's my game. Eventually he drifted back the way he came and then eased off toward the neighborhood property. We moved up to where he had been well inside our property line and when he gobbled again he was deep on someone else's land. Disappointed? Not really. It was an exciting hunt, start to finish. I didn't actually count that as a missed opportunity because I wouldn't have pulled the trigger on him with anything at that distance. But we had him pretty well patterned now so we backed out. We didn't want to put too much pressure on him, it was the middle of the week I had 2 more days to hunt. There would be no need to get all worked up over this turkey and pushing further away. So we let a shulk and started prospecting. 6 miles later we got back to the truck having not heard another turkey but taking great solace and not bumping one either. Tomorrow would come soon enough and when it did we had already made plans to be standing beside that little drain where we first sat down on that turkey this morning. According to our buddy Jordan Blissett he had been roosting for the last week about 350 to 400 yards southwest of where we had planned to be standing the next morning. We had also heard him in the area of that spot this morning before he flew down and we encountered him over on our property. We finished the day out with nothing of great significance to report other than having supper in Brandon, Mississippi at a pizza place called The Cleaners. We met Keith Polk and his family and Jordan, his daughter Bryn, Josh Thrash and his son Reed and we wrecked 2 tables of food and we had to go to the kitchen. We wrecked 2 tables full of pizza and told one turkey story after another. It was a grand time. Fellowship is critical in maintaining what's really important as the days click off the calendar like sand through an hourglass. It's good times and I enjoyed every minute of it. Next morning when it was barely light enough to see Lake and I had already been at that little drain for 15 minutes. I slipped in without making a sound or turning on a light or saying a word. It was a short walk of less than 300 yards from the truck. One of Jordan's cleaned out woods roads that doubled as a food plot allowed us to direct approach from the truck to our listening spot. My favorite time of the morning is right after the first red bird starts singing. Partly because red birds are my favorite songbird and partly because I know if the red birds are awake, the red heads are awake too. I whispered to Lake. He roosted that way. In a voice so faint he was more reading my lips than hearing my words and he nodded, yeah. We waited another three or four minutes and then as if he'd been reading the script I turned to prompt him to send a hoot through the woods when I saw him take in a belly full of air to do just that. Gobbler answered back and he was so close it nearly scared last night's pizza out of me. We were too close to him. We had to sit down and we had to do it right now. Now we didn't move 10 feet from where we were standing. It wasn't ideal but we were hid. We hadn't spooked him and had a great chance of shooting him before he got his feet dirty if he pitched down between us and him. Less than a minute after we sat down we were ready for action. Lake punched the record button and I saw that gobbler as he pitched off the limb gliding out in front of us and landing out of sight on the old damn road that he walked away from us on the morning before. As far as I know he landed in a well. He didn't make a peep when he lit or when I called to him. Nothing. Nothing. It was like I'd only had a vision of seeing a turkey that morning. We stayed out there for plenty of time and eventually heard him gobble way off the property. He'd been on a mission that morning and we'd only been privileged to see where it started. So we left and we made a dash over to Keith Polk's place and had to go with two gobblers over there that were torn with my emotions to the point that I was starting to second guess all my major life decisions up to that point. It was just not going to happen on this trip. So Lake and I both had work stuff to do. I saddled up and mushed the doggies back towards Arkansas. And on the way I talked to Jordan and he said, Brent, just come on back when you get a chance. I know you got a score to settle with that joker and you're the only person that's hunting that spot. Perfecto. I had two days of office work and podcast stuff to get done before Riva Hanson flew down for Boseman and beat me up. I'd be able to get that done, spend time with Bailey and Alexis and then beat feet back to Jordan's place to hunt Monday morning. I got it all done. Had a great weekend with the girls and was an hour south of my house Sunday afternoon, headed to Mississippi as fast as the law allows when I got a call from Jordan. He said, I talked to a friend at church this morning and told me that the camp next to us killed your turkey just over the line from where you and Lake called him up two days ago. I caught my reflection in the rear view mirror as I looked for a spot to pull over and cry. I'm sure the expression on my face was similar to Mother Gues when Dale told her that he was moving west to become a mountain man. If you haven't seen the movie Jeremiah Johnson, I'm not sure that we can still be friends, but on the off chance you didn't get that veiled reference to my condition, I looked like I'd been gut shot. The ride back to Castle Day Reaves was quiet as I parted all the decisions we'd made chasing the turkey and the others and I wouldn't have done anything different. We made good moves and setups and we'd been on turkeys on every hunt while I was there. Sometimes it's just what it is. The struggle is real. But is it really a struggle if you love everything about it? Not really. You can go to the baseball hall of fame by getting a hit three out of every ten times you go to bat. Killing a turkey three out of every ten hunts won't get you anything but prison. I've never killed a turkey that I wouldn't a little sad that he wouldn't be there for me to hunt the next morning. Lake and I were sitting in the woods and talking about how turkey hunting was such a passion. I told him some folks compared to drugs. They say it's an addiction, but I disagree. A person that does drugs enjoys whatever that substance is the most on the first try. And they spend the rest of the time trying to recapture how that initial dose made them feel. That's addiction. Turkey hunting is nothing like that. It gets better every time and has for the last 41 years I've done it. And not after every kill. I mean every trip to the woods whether I even hear one. I get frustrated like anyone does because the ultimate reward along with the sights and sounds is to fry them up and share them with the family. If there was something I could take that would make me feel that way I'd be only right now with both hands. I love it. Thank you all so much for listening. I appreciate it very much. Now by the time you're hearing this I should be in Alabama turkey hunting with my good friend Reed Bargaineer. So wish us luck. If you want to send us a story send it to myTCLstoryatthemeateater.com Until next week this is Brent Reeves. Sign it off. Y'all be careful. . Hunting demands preparation persistence and gear that will not quit on you. That is why I wear first light. This isn't about height. It's about no compromise gear. Built to perform. Built to last. Whether it's their industry leading merino wool keeping me comfortable through the cold and the hot or their durable outerwear shrugging off the elements. First light is built to help you go farther and stay longer designed by hunters for hunters with a deep commitment to conservation and land access. No shortcuts. No excuses. Just gear you can count on. Head to firstlight.com. That's F I R S T L I T E .