Hello listeners, MotivCity is excited to share that we have launched a new podcast called Morning Motivation by MotivCity. If you are looking to start your day with positivity and the most uplifting motivational audio, this is the show for you. For today's episode of Motivation Daily by MotivCity podcast, we are sharing a recent episode from the Morning Motivation podcast. If you like it, go follow the show. New episodes are being released every week. The link is in the description. Hi it's Liz Earle from Age Better with Liz Earle and we are sponsored by Ben and Health. Now I know what you are thinking, private healthcare sounds expensive but this is different. Ben and Health isn't traditional insurance, it's a monthly membership designed to be more accessible than standard private medical insurance. Now we talk a lot about ageing well and life doesn't slow down when our bodies surprise us. With 24 7 GP and mental health helplines and support with diagnostics and selected surgical treatment they can help you press play on your health. One can join regardless of age or medical history for less than 16 pounds per person per month. So press play on your health and search Ben and Health. UK residents only fee reviewed periodically limits exclusions and wait periods apply to some services. Limited surgical procedures only available after 6 months membership, 24 months Northern Ireland full details at benandand.co.uk. So here is a list of things that are not doing the thing. Preparing to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Scheduling time to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Making it to do list for the thing isn't doing the thing. Telling people you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Messaging friends who may or may not be doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Writing a banger tweet about how you're going to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on yourself for not doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on other people who have done the thing isn't doing the thing. Hating on the obstacles in the way of you doing the thing isn't doing the thing. Fantasizing about all of the adoration you'll receive once you do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how to do the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading about how other people did the thing isn't doing the thing. Reading this essay isn't doing the thing. The only thing that is doing the thing is doing the thing. And I love this insight that you can dress it up however you want the work just needs doing. No matter how big your dreams you're going to die everyone will move on. Do what you want. It sucks to not be liked but it sucks more to not be yourself. Until you win effort always goes unnoticed. Get used to it. No one roots for you until everyone roots for you. That's just how it works. The initial sad reality is that on your journey of personal growth at some point you may need to leave a group of friends behind who aren't growing at the same pace as you. We don't rise to the standards we have when others are watching. We fall to the standards we have when no one is watching. The only work that really matters is the work that no one sees. It shows you who you really are rather than who you say you are. Stop complaining about the results you didn't get from the work you didn't put in. The only way to become more successful than most people is to be willing to do something most people aren't willing to do. If your life was a movie and the audience were watching up to this point what would they be screaming at the screen telling you to do? It's usually a very reliable indicator of where you should be putting your attention. Some people procrastinate because they're scared of what they'll find out about themselves. If they try the thing I thought that's so true. The upside of never trying is never having to feel the pain of failure. You're going to lose sleep. You'll doubt whether it'll work. You'll stress to make ends meet. You won't finish your to-do list. You'll wonder whether you made the right call and have no way to know for years. This is what hard feels like and that's okay. Everything worth doing is hard. And the more worth doing it is, the harder it is. The greater the payoff, the greater the hardship. If it's hard, good. It means no one else will do it. More for you. Life is inherently ridiculous and guaranteed to end sooner or later. So you might as well enjoy the ride. And I think that that series of insights, problems are a feature of life, not a bug. Whatever negativity is consuming your thoughts probably won't matter in three months' time. Learning comes from the edges and stop taking things so seriously. There's a common sense of not-enoughness. Like, I will be enough when. Right? Because you can either run away from something you want or run towards something... Yeah, run away from something you fear or run towards something you want. And what's the consequence of that not-enoughness? It's a sense of lack. It's also a provisional life. It's putting life off. I will be happy, satisfied, peaceful when. People only root for others at two times. First, when they're at the beginning of the race. Second, when they finish. Neither is when you need it. So, you have to master the middle. The boring, exhausting, soul-crushing middle. That's where the winning happens, on your own. People will only cheer for you as long as you can't beat them at the game they value most. Friendly reminder that every person who doubts you is right until they aren't. It's a bug, not a feature. Success is the only revenge. As you expand, they shrink into irrelevance. As you get louder, no one can hear them. You don't beat them. You cast a shadow so big, no one can see them to begin with. When people copy, they copy the wrong stuff because they don't know why it worked to begin with. And when it breaks, they don't know how to fix it because they didn't build it. So don't sweat it. Copycats will always be behind. And it's very uncomfortable because it's tempting to go back to the old life that you're used to. The old patterns, the old routines, the old friend groups, the old everything. And you have to stop doing the things that you know bring you validation in the moment to start doing the things that you have no idea about whether it'll actually work. Like, you're going to tell me that I'm not going to go out with my friends this weekend because I'm going to keep my meditation streak going. Who even knows if meditation works, right? It's so much easier to just stay in the routine that you were previously. Doing the same sort of things. For you to pull away from that, you're going to have to do stuff usually that makes you more different, more easy to be mocked and more alone. When you're on your way up, everyone roots for you because you remind them of their dreams. When you're at the top, everyone tears you down because you remind them that they gave up on them. And you have one, which is for anyone who needs a reminder, no one is going to hate on you for doing worse than them. You need to do at least a bit of what you care about now, as opposed to banking on finding time for it in the future. Once the decks are cleared and life's duties are out of the way, life's duties will never be out of the way. And so if you really mean it, when you say that you'd like to write a novel or spend more time with your aging parents or fighting climate change or having fun, at some point, you're just going to have to start doing it. I'm pretty sure that these right now are the golden years. I think that it's quite likely when you look back that these times right now will be the ones that you cherish. So you should approach them with joy and care and presence, the requisite joy and care and presence. And I think most importantly, ignoring the cynics and the buzz kills. This idea from Paci McCormick, he says, the greatest trick the devil ever played was making you believe that the pessimists are the good guys. Basically, just don't like, don't wait, like life is happening. Right now, it is there for you to enjoy, it is there for you to take. Delayed gratification in the extreme just results in no gratification. The sacrifice reward dynamic that you are used to is great in the micro and awful in the macro. It's not about waiting for personal growth to be over. It's not about waiting for something life is not happening in future. It is happening right now. You don't have to feel good about it. You just have to keep going. The feeling will pass, but you will remain. You are greater than your feelings, going to bed late and waking up early to work for a few days won't kill you. You're not going to burn out. You're doing what it takes. If you're one of those people that push work-life balance, just remember the people who like working a lot don't care. I've never regretted trying harder at anything ever. Hard times last long, but an epic story feels like a lifetime. Reminder that if you want to be exceptional, you're going to be different from everyone else. That's what makes you exceptional. You can't fit in and also be exceptional. Both have discomfort. When you fit in, you have internal conflict because you're not being 100% you. When you're exceptional, you have external conflict because everyone sees you as different. Pick one. When your friends start to say, you've changed, remember it's because they don't know how to say, you've grown. Hello, Fern Cotten from Happy Place here. My podcast is currently sponsored by Benendin Health. 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