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I'm just pulling your skull. We were like, that's your cute bow. I just started grabbing your skull. Grab someone's skull. Yeah. Could I grab? Yeah, you grab. Grab a squeeze a little wild. Do you think you ever overreact anything? Do you do is that something you're afraid of? We get paid to just going. No, I love I love how you react to most things. I'll be like, oh, I took a shoot the other day and you go, oh, no. Everyone's yeah. What is what was your big roast of me? Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. I interviewed for something and I said, I'm so excited for my guests, not as excited as she is when I tell her literally anything. It's Angela. And it's a good roast. No. I don't know why, but I think actually I think now I do more stopping myself from overreacting, being like, no, I'm freaking out. I'm gonna tell. Oh, yeah, yeah. Like being like, no, I'm gonna relax. And now that's becoming what I'm overreacting about is overreacting. Overreacting. Interesting. When will the cycle go back? Yeah. It's a tough feeling when you think you're overreacting to something. And there's a subreddit called Am I Overreacting? And it's filled with people just kind of needing validation over things that most of the time I would say they're not overreacting. In fact, I would say almost 99% of the time. But we'll see. I kind of love when they are, though. It's kind of funny when they are overreacting. It does happen. Yeah. I was recently overreacting with my best friend and just over some stupid thing. And it was so sweet how she was trying to tell me I was overreacting without using those scary words. She was just like, no, I think you're feeling it really in an extreme way. And she was like, we should, like, I want to hold space for that, but know that like, it doesn't have to be like this. Oh, that's a really good way to put it. Yeah. But I drove home and I was like, I was overreacting. Like, oh. Yeah, it's a tough thing because like, it's kind of good news when you're overreacting. It's like, oh, it's not as bad as your body is telling you it is. But it's also tough because most of these are with relationships. And a lot of times that's really tough because it's like, ooh, is this person is what this person's doing to me or doing really out of line. Okay, let's get into this first story here. Am I overreacting? My fiance isn't invited to the wedding because the bride doesn't want people thinking she is prettier than her. Ooh. Well, what does she look like? Antonio Banderas. Hicks, please. Okay. This is a 26 year old man. My lifelong best friend, a 26 year old man, is getting married later this year. When he first got engaged, he asked me to be one of the groomsmen. I obviously accepted and have been excited for the wedding and to see my best friend get married. His fiance, a 26 year old woman, and my fiance, a 25 year old woman, have always gotten along really well. The four of us hang out pretty frequently, always have a great time, and there has never been any problems. My fiance has always considered her a friend and has been extremely happy for them and excited about their wedding. His fiance has even asked my fiance for her thoughts and suggestions on certain decor for the wedding, venues, colors, things like that. The official wedding invitations went out recently and when it arrived at our house, I noticed it was only addressed to me and also didn't say anything about a plus one. I was kind of surprised by this because I had been assuming that my fiance would be invited, given the fact that I had been with my fiance for four years, longer than he has been with his fiance. He has been my best friend since preschool. The four of us hang out all the time and some of my family members received invitations to the wedding. But before jumping to conclusions, I thought maybe none of the groomsmen or other friends of the bride and groom are allowed to have a plus one due to costs or things like that, since weddings are obviously expensive. The other groomsmen are all friends of mine and his, so I called them to see if there significant others were also not invited. Turns out every single one of them received an invitation that included their significant other and the bridesmaids all get to bring their significant others as well. So at that point, I called him to let him know that I got my invitation, but that my fiance was not included on the invitation and I asked if there was just an error or if they forgot to include her. That's when he informed me that his fiance doesn't want my fiance coming to the wedding because she doesn't want all of the guests thinking that my fiance is prettier than her. Now I will say, my fiance is insanely gorgeous. If I had a penny, this guy friggin thinks his wife's hot. Is it pervert? No, I will say. What a pervert. What a pervert, dude. Okay, if I had a penny, every time someone asked me how I managed to get her, I would be a billionaire. On the other hand, his fiance isn't the most conventionally attractive woman. I feel bad saying that and it's something I have never said out loud to anyone, but for context to the situation, I wanted to include that here. I told him that I know it's not my wedding so I don't get to pick the guest list, but I think it's a bit unfair and ridiculous that my fiance, who they are friends with, is the only significant other of the whole entire wedding party that doesn't get to come to the wedding because his fiance is worried people will think she is prettier than her. I told him that his fiance is the bride, so everyone is going to be looking at her and no one is going to be focusing on my fiance, who isn't even a bride's maid, so she's not even going to be standing up in front of everyone instead. He said that he agrees with me and that he has already tried multiple times to explain this to his fiance, but that she won't budge and is insistent that everyone will think my fiance is prettier. So I ended up telling him that I cannot be a groomsman or attend the wedding then because in my eyes, it's not fair to my fiance for me to attend or be in a wedding where she is the only significant other not invited due to the bride's own insecurities. He's upset with me now and thinks I'm overreacting, but I just don't think this is fair. My fiance told me not to worry about her and that I should be part of my best friend's big day, but even with my fiance being completely fine with me going, I honestly don't want to be around the bride. Oh my god. Oh, that's so tough. I mean, I don't know. The verdict is not overreacting and I don't think he's overreacting. If you're significant, they all hang out. They're all friends. This is not like, I mean, I don't think this is fair no matter what. If we got invited to a wedding and your significant other can't come, it's like, I don't want to go. Well, also, yeah, and it's the fact that all the groomsmen, all the other groomsmen were able to bring their plus ones. It wasn't even like, oh, we just want the focus to be on the bride, so no plus ones or whatever. Yeah. It's shitty no matter what, but if I'm the fiance to this woman who's so insecure that she's like, she cannot come, I'd be like, all right, if we're going through with that, then we can't have any of the plus ones for the groomsmen. You have to cover it up. That would make it fair. But to just select the one, I'm like, it's going to be pretty obvious to everyone. And then you're also, what's also annoying is that you know that this friend is also not only expecting him to do that, to say, all right, my fiance will stay at home and I'll go to this wedding by myself, but he's also probably expecting him to lie to everyone when they say, why isn't she here? And he's at this wedding and they're like, why isn't your fiance here? You're the other one without your fiance. And he has to be like, he could- She's too smoking hot. Yeah. My hot fiance is at home. I'm assuming, I'm only assuming that he's going to be like, no, don't tell everyone. It's because of the bride. I agree with the whole notion of like, it's your day. Like it's for you. Yes, no, you should feel special. But it doesn't mean that you get to break the laws of respect that people have for each other. Right? Yeah. If you're a shitty person, you're doing a shitty thing and there's going to be consequences for that. Like you are kind of messing up your friendship with these people by doing this. They're all close friends and you're saying, I don't want you there. Yeah, it's interesting. I don't know, because I don't want to call the bride a shitty person because it's like clearly she's just like, she's so insecure about her. No, for sure. You ever just meet someone that's so fucking gorgeous, it's painful. Yes, yes. And they're always so kind. And that dress fits you perfect. No, I totally know what you mean. It's just devastating. Like devastating. You're just like, ah, but I've heard the point where it's like, I can't have you around. I know what you're saying. It makes me feel like they're a little bit like teenage girl coded. Like, are you in love with her? Like, sorry. That's what it is. She's too pretty. She's the bride is going to be distracted from her own room. Yes, she can't say I do. I think, I just think you have to have like, I don't know, it's like, she trusts her fiancee who she's marrying. Like that's what matters here. And like, I don't know, it's like people that are at your wedding love you and they care about you and they are there for you. Yeah, it is so interesting. It's like one of those like, hey, can we just take like an extra couple thoughts of like, like you're, you think this, this person's existence, you might even see them most of the day because you're going to have a crazy day as the bride. There being there will ruin your experience as a bride because people might look at her and think she's prettier than the bride. Yeah. And that's like, like if your family's doing that to you and going, geez, you're right to that girl. She's so much prettier than you, the bride. Yes. Like you're worried that. Like, what's going to happen? Yeah. Like you're walking down the aisle and they're all looking over at the left. Yeah, they're all just like, like, like, what? It's also like, oh dear, my small business owning friend, you never grow good business with bad website. I know, but it's really hard. Do not do the despairing. Try Ayonos. 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And when you're around people who are super talented and super sweet and gorgeous and whatever, that doesn't make you less than, right? That's a comparison mindset. That's so hard to get out of. It really is. But it will destroy you. Because yeah. It'll destroy friendships. Yeah, because like this is like, right, it's one day, but it's like, okay, so is this friendship like over? Like can you not have her around? Like what is this saying? I also feel bad that like this has been a conversation between the groom and the groom's men when it's like, did the bride talk to her? Like this just feels like a really personal thing that like is a bigger conversation than like you're not allowed to like, you're too pretty to like be at my wedding. It just feels like very like, oh, that's all she is to you is this person is too pretty and like, I think she's the bride is being the meanest to herself in that day because she's so worried about her attention, people having attention on her and her feeling good that she needs to like literally eliminate a person. Yes. Yeah. I think what I was saying earlier too, with just like it, the wedding day being a day where it's like, oh, no rules. I'm allowed to be disrespectful. It's like people treated almost like the purge where it's like, on this day, I get to do whatever I can treat people however I want. And then after we're done, we all go back to normal, right? It's like, no, people remember like they're going to remember how you treated them and like I would have a hard time being friends with them. What if she was like after that? Come to my wedding. I'm going to wear makeup, please. Just could you look really ugly? Oh, would you? Okay, babe. Can you just like wear a weird lip color? I do. Could you wear ugly jeans? The ugliest jeans you could find? I do feel so bad for her because I think all of us who live in LA and especially all of us in the acting industry, like we just know the feeling because like no matter how attractive you are, like as actors, we have walked into rooms and seen people that are just like unbelievably good looking. Yeah. Like it's just crazy. But I don't know. Like over time being in LA, like you learn to just like be confident in your own attractiveness and beauty and that it's a unique thing and that everybody's so unique. Like I don't know. I just, I feel bad for her, the bride, like because I'm like, hey, like people like love you and they, you have your own radiance to you and you have to trust that. But here you are like, this is haunting you so much. That's, that's tough, man. I also, I hate to make it an age thing, but I think I used to think that I was like, I think these thoughts when I was in my earlier twenties too. And like you, at some point you can't control the world like that. Right. I get it. You can control your wedding day, cut to the most, for the most part. But if that's the mindset you're going to have like going forward, you're not going to have this type of control every day. You can't control being the prettiest in the room. I think something that I think hit for me at a certain point because I've, I've had a comparison mindset a lot, right? And it's tough. Especially in our industry where you walk into auditions and you see someone who's better looking than you and you're like, oh shit, it does matter here. Cause you're probably going to book this role cause you're more attractive than me and taller than me and all this stuff. But like you have to get over it. You can't get over it, right? But there's so much power. But it's like by doing this, and I think what would haunt me is if I'm in the bride's position and I do this, I go, oh, I let my insecurity win. I let it dominate. As opposed to being like, no, you're going to come and I'm, I, I recognize that in security. I recognize what I'm doing inside. And I'm not going to let that dominate my choices. I'm going to choose myself and I'm going to, I can have any type of person here, but I'm going to have confidence in myself here too. And I think you're, she will feel so much better if she goes with that. And then as opposed to, I think it would haunt me over the years to be like, wow, I've made that choice out of pure insecurity. And she wasn't at your wedding. That would haunt me. Yeah. Like you knew full well today, Shane, when you put that shirt on, that I look better in it than you. Oh, and that didn't stop you from putting it on. And here you are today still wearing it in front of me, someone who would wear it so much better. I really tried. 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You did the right thing. Standing by your fiance is definitely the right thing to do. If your best friend wouldn't do the same for his bride to be, why is he getting married? Your fiance is your family, potentially the mother to your future children, the woman who will be by your side through thick and thin. If your friend doesn't see that, he isn't a man and he really shouldn't be in a relationship, let alone getting married. The bride needs some serious therapy to get over herself. She should be so excited for the best day of her life, but yet she's more concerned about another woman's beauty. I think that's what also makes me sad is I'm like, this is a thought running through your head. Yeah. Like this was a big choice you made. I'm like, you're not focused on all the positives that go on. You know what? You can't blame women for thinking that when you're like at a young age, you're constantly put up against each other. You're constantly told, especially like old movies that I grew up watching, there's one pretty girl. Right. And then there's one funny girl. And I think nowadays it's a lot more nuanced, but it sucks that that's a thing for so many women. It's tough though, but it's so true about like letting a thing win where it's like, this is your day and you actually kind of made it about this other person by making that choice. And like that, that's like, yeah, like if you're letting that person, you're making it true. You know? That's gonna be true. Everyone, like I, there are some men that people drool over on the red carpet and I do not get it. I like there's, everybody is attractive in so many different ways and it's like, you like, yeah. She'll, I think, I hope she like the bride one day like realizes how hot she is and like wins, you know, and that day. Do you think I would look better in that shirt or what do you think? Kind of rocking it. You are rocking it. You're rocking it. You're rocking it. You look great in that color. Take it off. My mic is on it. Do you want this cool trinkets teeth? Little trinkets teeth. Swap shirts. You guys swapping shirts. Selling the tightest shirt. It's a hard pie and you guys have a good one. This episode was brought to you by Booking Dock on. Someone said, you're definitely not overreacting. That's some bullshit on the part of the bride and shame on your friend for going along with it. As a woman, it's extremely understandable that she doesn't want to be overshadowed. I think that's the most average lady's experience and for it to happen at one's wedding would be devastating. However, you're correct that no one will be paying attention to anyone but the bride. Even the homeliest woman absolutely shines on her wedding day. She just sounds like the stress is getting to her and she's worrying about every possible thing that could go wrong and unfortunately your fiance is being nitpicked. Lastly someone said this is an insult to the other plus ones. So they're ugly enough to attend the wedding. What the fuck? That's actually true. That's true. I was like, where's the caliber? It sets an unfortunate standard for everybody else at the wedding. You're there and it's like, sorry, he couldn't come, he was too hot. I'm like, yeah, sure. Yeah. So nothing about me being here is intimidating at all. So like, yeah, I was thinking about that. It's like, okay, so what about Debbie? So she's just not quite there. Where's the ranking of like, oh, Elaine is two, she's above the line, but Sarah, she's like, you know what I mean? But Debbie come, we have a taco bar. Debbie, come on. This is unfortunately a Seinfeld episode where like halfway through, you know, like I'd be there just like, sorry, should I go? And George is like, you didn't invite me because I was too pretty. That was good. That was really good. Lastly someone said this is an insult to the other plus ones. So they're ugly enough to attend the wedding. What the fuck? It's also discriminating against someone who can't control what their face looks like. I don't think the bride realizes how messed up it is to cut someone out just based on looks. This is the definition of shallow and insecure. I feel bad for the bride. If this type of thought enters her mind, of course you can't say that to her, but you could say something like how someone's face looks shouldn't affect a friendship. I think that's just what's sad is like, they're throwing away a friendship over this. That's going to be permanent. You can't control your face looks. Well, you can't control your face looks. You can't control how your heart looks. But also that's not true because people get paid plus the good ring. You can't control how much it looks. You're going to like the way it looks. The bride guarantees it. It's really good. Yeah. It's sad. No, it's not. It's sad. It's sad. It's sad. It's sad. Anyways. That's it. No update. No update. No update. No update. We got an update song. 100 episodes in, we got an update song. Hell yeah. No update. Hell yeah. Oh my God. All right. Our next story. Boyfriend made reference during. Sex? Boyfriend made reference during. During. Four words. Let's go. Boyfriend made reference during. And we know exactly what she's saying. I, a 37 year old woman was having sex. That'll do. That'll do. That'll do. That'll do. I, a 37 year old woman was having sex with my 39 year old male fiance. I was on top doing my thing. He started laughing. I was confused and asked what was funny. He made a reference about me looking like the penguin. I'm heavier and was wearing a white tank top. I was still confused. He then pulls up a picture of the penguin from Batman with his disgusting face and white shirt moving in an obvious way that resembled me. Scott stop laughing. Stop. Scott. Stop. I'm not usually overly sensitive and can take a joke, but this made me angry. Very angry. I already really struggled with self worth, especially in the bedroom. It led to an all day issue. He apologized, but it meant nothing to me. Am I overreacting? Oh no. Dude. My man. Oh no. We have the mean. No. We have the mean. Oh no. Oh my God. Oh my God. We're about to overreact. I feel like. I'm about to lose my fucking mind. No. We're underreact. I'm about to rip someone. Bailey. Bailey. I'm about to rip a man. I've never met and we'll never leave a part. Bailey. We're doing. No. No. That's so fucked up. I. That is hate. Diabolical. I hate him. Can you imagine? I want him to go away for a long time. Sorry. I cannot believe this. I actually think this will be the first read story. I abstain. Abstain? I'll just sit here and listen to you guys talk about it. He had the audacity to be, she's topping you. You're welcome. You're blessed. And you knew that. We are blessed. She is performing for you. And you go to that. Buddy, can your mind please, please iOS update your brain. That guy in the middle of sex was like, what if I never have sex again? And then he made that choice. To go from sex to meme. Your brain's in a dark fucking space. That's the dark night. You either come the hero or fuck long enough to become the villain. Cut that. No. No. No. Say it again. Say it again. No. Stand up. Stand up on your chair. Stand up on your chair. I sat there cooking for a bit. I was like, I need to come up with a Batman reference. I will say, I love this woman for making this pose. You can tell she is, I do think she seems like she's very confident in herself. She goes, internet, do your thing. Internet, kill him. Here's the dress. Woman topping you in a white tank top. Slay. And then you did that. I think it's very clear the fact that he's alive means she underreacted. Because she's not writing this from prison. She probably, yeah, unless she was writing this from prison, it's like, hey. What? They got to clip this. We lost our mind. We did. We truly did. Fair. The verdict, not overreacting. Someone said, firstly, you're not wrong to feel how you feel. He hurt your feelings, period. There are a lot of factors that could play into how you proceed from here. Is this the first time he's commented on your weight in a negative way? Is he a joker that often tries to be funny even at the wrong times? Joker reference. Is he concerned about your health or just being rude? The best thing to do is tell him exactly how he hurt you, which it sounds like you already did. And now take it easy and observe him closely these next few days or week. Is he still making side comments or is he being careful around you and telling you he thinks you're beautiful, either by words or actions since we all have our own love languages. If you watch someone long enough, they'll tell you exactly who they are in spoiler alert. It doesn't take that long. Good luck and no matter what, remember there's someone out there, might even be him, that wants them some you in a wholesome way. OP responded, he generally doesn't make comments about my body mostly because I think he's afraid to. But yes, he has in the past while having sex. Once he made a reference of me looking like a dinosaur because my hand was kind of up and another that he wanted to push on my stomach and make me laugh like the Pillsbury Doughboy. All while on top. All while on top, his preference. His preference! His preference! You're welcome! Oh, his preference! And usually I can just laugh stuff off, but this was too much. I should mention he's not some super skinny dude himself and can out eat me. I'm top heavy in the way that my breasts are really large. Oh my God! He doesn't deserve this woman! Baby! I'm so hot! Move on to the next story. I hate this fucking asshole. Oh no! Oh my God! He's thinking about literally anything else while she's having sex with him and he gets to say in the position, the position for him should be in a corner. Uh, someone said, this guy is 39? Oh, I forgot his age! Oh, it is age! Oh my God! Clear! I'd expect this level of stupidity and lack of tact from a 19 year old who's obsessed with memes, but a middle aged guy who's engaged in an intimate moment with their partner, that's just really fucking dumb. I mean, I can definitely get lost in the thought sometimes or say something that might get taken out of context, but he's straight up compared you to the penguin during sex. Is this way out of character for him? I'm getting the sense that he might be a bit narcissistic or just incredibly immature for his age. Lastly, someone said, I don't know if I would stick around, but if I did every time he tried rubbing up on me, I'd tell him to go fuck with the penguin. You know what actually, like if you really break it down in that moment, she's saying he's too afraid to talk about her body, but except for in sex, he... Yeah, now you're right. Which is like, that's the last place that you should... That is the most intimate and last place that you should feel confident enough to say something like that to anyone. And like, just because we're doing this, let's give space to intrusive thoughts, I guess, right? When you're like, oh, this looks like that. Oh, I didn't mean to offend, but this is a reoccurring offense. But it's specifically during sex, which also makes me fear that it's like, if it's like he enjoys humiliating her. Yes, yes, and he's also just like making fun of the size of her body. Like, wow. Multiple times. Yeah. And I'm just to go as so far as to show this meme and be like, and you know, in his mind, he's like, oh, this resembled it. Maybe it was like a tiny element of it, but she sees this whole picture and he's like, you think that's what I look like? Yeah. Like he has no idea how that could impact another person. Like they got to figure that out. Yeah. Like, ooh. Yeah, that's awful. And like the fact that someone asked and she's like, yeah, he's done this a few times. I'm like, bro. Yeah. Like don't marry this man. And also his preference of her. Oh, God. I know it. He doesn't deserve that. It's been red flag after red flag on this guy. This is her whole reaction. I'm sorry. It's just like, she sounds like a lovely woman. She does. Yeah. Everyone is lovely except that guy. Yeah. Even the penguin. You know, with the penguin. Then that guy. Hi, this is Alex Kanshawits. I'm the host of Big Technology podcast, a long time reporter and an on air contributor to CNBC. And if you're like me, you're trying to figure out how artificial intelligence is changing the business world and our lives. So each week on Big Technology, I bring on key actors from companies building AI tech and outsiders trying to influence it. Asking where this is all going. They come from places like Nvidia, Microsoft, Amazon and plenty more. So if you want to be smart with your wallet, your career choices and meetings with your colleagues and at dinner parties, listen to Big Technology podcast or ever you get your podcasts. Yeah. Next story. So update. No update on that guy. I will say if OP, if you're somehow watching this, you're a fucking queen. And it's your preference if you want to top. Fuck yeah. And I'll be there. Hey, look, the next time you get on top and you're like, you're like, Hey, this time I'm Harvey Dent. And then you flip a coin, you pull out a gun. You're like, we're going to do this. We're going to, if you want, if you want this, we're going to do this. All right. Our next story. Am I overreacting for thinking of leaving my husband after he left me alone to hang with the boys hours after I nearly died? I swear. It's just like just getting worse and worse. It's getting so bad out here in the place we call the world. Y'all, I could use your wisdom here. I'll try to make this as short as possible. Two days ago, I, a 37 year old woman, went into anaphylaxis from an unknown source while shopping with my husband, 37 year old man, my face erupted into burning hives out of nowhere. It never happened to me before. I asked him to call the nurse line to make sure the ER would be covered. I'm American. He wouldn't. So I had to while my face was on fire. I get the green light and off to ER. I go where he drops me off and heads back to sit with the kids who are 15 and 11. Long story short, the head nurse took one look at me and had the anaphylaxis cocktail ordered before I made it to the registration. Five minutes later and I wouldn't be here. I get discharged and I'm flying high on that cocktail and adrenaline. Man gets me home and asks if he can go play D and D with the boys. Both kids are at sleepovers. Again, I'm effed up on meds. Happy to be alive. I would have agreed to anything. So I said he could next morning. It hits me. Why would it even cross his mind to go out after that happened? Now I'm so hurt. I'm seriously thinking of leaving him. Am I overreacting? I can't believe. So she has anaphylaxis while they're out shopping. But he refuses to call the ER. She goes, hey, can you call 911? He goes, no. He wouldn't. He wouldn't. So I had to while my face was on fire. She's American, so she's clearly maybe in another country and asked him to call the nurse's line to see if she would, like she was worried about spending a ton of money being picked up by an ambulance or something. She said I asked him to call the nurse's line to make sure the ER would be covered. I'm American. He wouldn't. He'd have to while my face was on fire. Right. So he wouldn't even. He's not doing anything. That cannot be the only time that's ever happened. For him to not take her seriously like that. You're high on drugs. After almost dying. After almost dying. I'm going to leave you home alone while I go out and play D&D. Someone who's not going through that medical thing will think that person's overreacting because their body's simply not going through it. And I'm like, it's just a bad fucking look. you simply don't know what happened to her. You can't act like, like, sure, she went through something that he, his adrenaline didn't hit. She felt like she was gonna die. He didn't obviously feel that. So they're on different playing fields and it's just, it's bad though. It's bad when your partner, I don't know. I'm trying to like figure out, maybe he just didn't hit him what actually was going on. And he thought she just had a bad day. Well, he knew that she needed to go to the ER. He dropped her off at the ER. Like to drop your partner off at the ER cause they're going through something and then just not even be concerned about it at all. And I understand like, oh, I'm not going through the same pain, but like just also be concerned of like, I don't know what's going on. Exactly, that's what I think. I think I'd be, it's almost more, I feel more anxiety when someone else is going through something. That's what I'm saying. So I'm like, what are you feeling? What's going on? It's a red flag when someone can't identify that they don't know what this person's going through. So they write it off rather than get more interested and offer help. Right, literally. And that's just, ugh. If my partner said, can you take me to the emergency room? The way I would leap into action. In fact, like I've had migraines where I am in so much pain or my stomach when I had food poisoning recently where it's like, oh no, I might need to go to the hospital or something. But I know that like, it's not going to be a conversation. You just will take me. And so sometimes I'm like, okay, maybe I shouldn't. I'll fight through it because like, I don't want to have to go through all that. But like knowing that that is a serious thing that you will take seriously. Then you don't have to convince your partner you're going through something. Your partner should just be there for you, no matter what. Ugh, like that's such a, I'm sure the feeling she's feeling now is like, oh, I can't rely on this person. I don't feel safe. Like I have to kind of look out for myself and I might just die. Cause he's not going to like help me. I think like it's probably all hitting her really fast. So she must be, she's like making the judgment on herself being like, this must, am I over reacting from going from this to that? But I think it's just probably that it took her to see him ignore her in a time of like literal life or death. And multiple ways of it ignoring her needs, but making one phone call. She's like, OP, you are not overreacting. That's a feeling that you are getting from seeing someone leave you out to dry. Yeah. The leaving them at the emergency room is wild. I hope at his D&D session, he meets a bird that hates him. Oh, I got that reference. It's a reference. The verdict was not overreacting. Comments, were the kids already scheduled for sleepovers or did hub plan that himself? How did you get home from the ER? You were clearly married to a child who thinks of himself and not of you. It would have been nice if he sat with you and comforted you after your ordeal. The fact that he refused to call about ER coverage is such a red flag, not overreacting and you should consider leaving him. OP said the kids arranged the sleepovers themselves. Their friends asked their dad. He said it was okay. He came and picked me up. I guess I never realized how bad he's treated me until now. I wanna say don't attribute to malice what can be mostly explained by stupidity, but this one is beyond defensible. I know my trust would be broken if my husband pulled that shit. Totally. So when I said, this is horrible, what an asshole. No, you're not overreacting. I had an allergic reaction and my ex was kinder to me than this. I wouldn't leave him over this alone, but my guess is he's done more than this, which is usually the case with stories like this. I mean, it's a kind, yeah, like it's a break of trust. It's similar to like cheating where it's like a realization of like, oh, you're not on my side. Like you're not here for me. You don't care about me. Could you imagine? Hey, can I come over spend the night? My mom is like dying and my dad, my dad's a bard and he really wants to go. My dad's a bard. My dad's a bard with all of his buddies from State Farm. What a fucking loser. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, the guy sounds clueless, but I think kind of doesn't matter. Like, cause the reality is, oh shit, I have someone who I can't trust. Yeah. Like I might die and this person's not gonna save me. The fact that she like, he just has no idea that she almost died. Like that, like imagine if, imagine if she didn't get help. She like, where would he be? Like, like that's so wild. Yeah. Update. Oh. Update. I think, do you think, okay. Update. Wow. I'm absolutely overwhelmed by how this took off. So many comments I can't keep up. So I'll try to address what I can as an update. We still have no idea what caused it. I have an appointment with a specialist. I do have known allergies, but never reacted that quickly or that intense before. I'm not a doctor and can only repeat what they told me. It was anaphylaxis shock. I was minutes from dying. I am not the type to cry wolf and will refuse a trip to the ER at all costs. I've given myself stitches to avoid the ER. Oh my God. I am 95% sure my husband did not try to poison me. He's a donkey bum. Yes, but not an evil person. I did have that thought. Silly Reddit. Like, did he try to kill? There was a moment, yeah. She said, he is not neurodivergent. I am and so are my kids, which is why I didn't want them at the ER or left alone. I talked to him the morning after about being hurt that he'd even consider leaving me alone like that, which is when he said I was overreacting. Him saying I was overreacting, combined with his nonaction, is what made me start to think about leaving him. I spoke with him again last night, showed him the post and spent a good amount of time balling. He's appalled and has been the sweetest, most attentive man since. Lastly, I have been, lastly, I have spent a lot of time reflecting on this relationship. It probably isn't healthy, but he's not the only one to blame. We're going to try counseling. Okay. I mean, I God, I can't, I'm just a Reddit post made you wake up sooner than your wife almost dying. It's always unfortunate. It's like, hey, all these people on the internet said this. It's like, oh, well, then okay. Some of these users might be, man, I should listen. Oh, no, the boys are disappointed in me. The other bards are never gonna forgive me for this. Bards. Oh God. I feel bad, but it's their choice, you know, like, Right. Maybe she needed one final big wake up to be like, whoa, I'm not going to ignore this kind of behavior anymore. And now they're bringing it to a third party, like a mediator to figure that out, but that's hard. That's really hard. She doesn't strike me as the type to forget this. So, you know, it's going to be different from here on out. And like what I would assume could happen with a type like this is like over time, he's going to be like, okay, we're good. Like she's not going to leave me. So, and then he'll slide back into that behavior. And it'll just be on her to be like, okay, he's back to doing this. So this is forever. Yeah. And I have to now make this call. Yeah. And making that call before it comes down to life or death. Right. Right. I mean, hopefully that never happens again. And if they try this and in a few more years, their kids are full on adults living their own lives and a divorce will be a lot easier. There you go. Yeah. There you go. Our next story. Am I overreacting for leaving my birthday dinner after my fiance announced a fake pregnancy? Huh? Oh God. So last night was my birthday dinner, just to chill night with family and friends. Everything was great until my fiance stood up to give a special toast out of nowhere. He goes, we're so excited to announce, we're expecting, what? I just stared at him like he's lost his mind because I'm not pregnant. He's smiling. My mom is crying. His family is clapping. And I'm just sitting there like, question mark. I finally asked, what are you talking about? And this man with a straight face says he's been manifesting it and it's only a matter of time. Oh, so it's not a joke. I was done, got up, left the restaurant. He followed me all mad saying I embarrassed him and should have just gone with it for the night. Now his family is blowing up my phone saying I ruined a beautiful moment. Like, what even was that? Was I really overreacting? This is a horror movie. Oh my God, that was the end of it? That's the end of that. What? Where? Wait, I thought he was like, sorry, that was a prank. We're expecting some martini in a few minutes. Like, like, like. I'm expecting another beer tower. We're expecting this bill to be massive. Yeah, yeah. Like, what is, but he said that in order to manifest. He's like, no, I'm gonna make it happen. That, what? And how does she ruin a beautiful moment? I'm sorry. The moment isn't real. Cause she's like, I'm not pregnant, are you? You're saying this about my body. There was never a moment. You're manifesting something about my body. I manifest that my boobs will look less weird every day. I don't know if this could happen. That's my body. And then his family, that's my body. And that's my body. And that's your body and that's my body. That was fun. Oh, verdict is not overreacting. Comments. I am overreacting. No, you're fine. I like how the comments said, not the asshole. Leave the man, not just the party, how heartbreaking for your family to hear you're expecting. Then here it's all made up. He will play on yours and everyone's emotions for as long as you're with him. Don't let him. Someone said, nope, that's insane and incredibly cruel run. Lastly, someone said, for the love of all that's holy, would you please raise the bar for yourself and dump that idiot? There are better men out there, but you won't find one while tethered to him. Yeah, that's definitely, that's an immediate run away. Run away from that man. How long are they together? I don't know, but that's her fiance. Okay, you know, because I know people will sometimes announce like, we're gonna start trying. That's a very different like. Yeah. She is pregnant. He's certainly expecting, but like, he's expecting. Like, you know what I mean? He's expecting something. Even if, this is a red flag, even if she is pregnant, because they didn't talk about announcing. 100%. Like, no, this is so many layers. Yeah. I don't even know, it doesn't make it sound like they were trying, which makes it even scarier for him to turn and be like, I'm manifesting. He's manifesting this. What? It seems like he's misunderstanding like marriage. This guy's acting like he has powers, like he's fucking Sauron or something. It's creepy. Like, she's not a lottery slot machine that you can just hope and be like, hey guys. I'm feeling good about this today. I'm manifesting my wife to have a bun in the oven. If she was actually pregnant, there'd be a lot of reasons this is messed up because, well, mainly because she wasn't in on this. If the both of them talked and were like, oh yeah, we want to announce to our family tonight, but like, what the hell? He just took it on his own. He's treating her like an object where he's just like, oh yeah, like your opinion doesn't matter. And he like wanted, I feel like it was her birthday dinner. It was like supposed to be a night about her. I know. And you did it at my birthday dinner. Seems like. This is terrifying. Like he wanted to take a moment. He wanted to feel special. He wanted to like feel that attention with her for a moment. And like, it's like such a Michael Scott thing to do. Like we're expecting, I'm manifesting that it's gonna happen guys. Like it's so like you want attention and like, yeah, even if like, if they were, if he just had a feeling that the embryo was in there, right? Like that, like that's too soon. And people have like really intentional conversations and planning for when it's okay to announce either so many complications or just personal reasons. Yes. People wait. Yes. And they just talk about it, you know? Yeah. It's not just like vibes and like, I feel like, yeah, this is good. Right. This is good. Poof. All right, our next story. What? That was it. There's no update. No update. Our next story. Okay. Little book voice coming in. Our next story. Am I overreacting? My husband tried to fucking kill me. Yeah. That's good. Am I overreacting for wanting to cut off my family after they went to my fiance's workplace to expose her? Pfft. I, a 24 year old man, have been with my fiance, a 25 year old woman for six years and were planning to get married in the spring of 2025. My fiance and my family have always had a strained relationship, but I thought things were improving until this week. My sister, who's 26 and her boyfriend, 25, only visit once or twice a year. So I was excited to see them over the holidays. One evening, my fiance and I went to my parents' house for dinner and games. She had a couple of drinks. I stayed sober to drive and was a little emotional because we'd recently had to put down her childhood pet. My family was supportive when she shared about it and the evening seemed to go well. At one point, she got an email from work and the conversation briefly turned to what she does for a living. She works in an office. The night ended fine and we plan to return the next day. The next morning, as we were heading back to my parents' house, I got a text from my sister saying they were in my city, which is over an hour away. Confused, I replied, WTF? Why would you guys do that? But got no response. When we got to my parents' house, I tried calling them, no answer. Finally, I called my sister's boyfriend and he answered. That's when I learned they had gone to my fiance's workplace, questioned her coworkers and discovered that she doesn't work there. She works in the office, not on the floor. He and my family accused her of lying about her work, why she left her last job, and about her getting hit by a car and told me I shouldn't marry her. They also wanted me to provide evidence. To make it worse, I had him on speakerphone so my fiance heard everything. I was furious but tried to stay calm. I defended her, hung up, and decided we needed to leave. I went back to my parents' house, grabbed our things and left. Now we're at home trying to process everything. I'm beyond upset that my family disrespected my fiance and crossed such huge boundary by going to her workplace and harassing her coworkers. I'm thinking about cutting contact with them, but I keep wondering if I'm overreacting. Is this something I should try to do? Oh my God. What in the world? What? So the family goes to the building she works at. Goes to the wrong fucking floor. Goes to the wrong floor, asks a bunch of random people there and they're like, we don't know who that is. And then accuse her of lying about all this stuff. But that would also mean they're accusing their own son of lying about everything too. Massy. What in the world? What is going on? No, I mean, I don't think... Hi, this is Alex Kanshawitz. I'm the host of Big Technology podcast, a longtime reporter and an on-air contributor to CNBC. And if you're like me, you're trying to figure out how artificial intelligence is changing the business world and our lives. So each week on Big Technology, I bring on key actors from companies building AI tech and outsiders trying to influence it, asking where this is all going. They come from places like Nvidia, Microsoft, Amazon and plenty more. So if you want to be smart with your wallet, your career choices, in meetings with your colleagues and at dinner parties, listen to Big Technology podcast wherever you get your podcasts. He's overreacting for wanting to cut his family off for that, like that's intrusive, abusive behavior. Yeah, her workplace, like what? Yeah, like they drove a long time. That's an HR thing. Just to go there and do all that. I mean, kind of lucky they didn't go to the correct floor. They went to a random place of work and nobody knows who the hell these people were. I'm like picturing like the Home Alone family when they're like running through the airport, but it's just like them in this office and they're like, where's Patrice? Oh, do you know Patrice? Like this weird family going around. Like they said it was four, six. I want more answers. The verdict is not overreacting because they're not, but in the comments, someone said info. Is your family really this silly? Okay guys, this is really silly. That's so funny. Sorry, my family's really goofy. They'll stalk you. Oh, did I tell you? I didn't tell you they're silly. My family's a little silly, so they might show up to your work. Okay, they might accuse you of lying about everything. So boundaries aren't really a thing for us because my parents are silly. Is your family really this silly? I am almost positive that jobs can't just tell randoms that someone works there. What if the random is a stalker? This is so weird. Why did they even do this? Is there missing context that explains driving an hour to do an employment check when it quite literally is none of their business, not overreacting? OP said, they are just this silly, sadly. They have been like this every time I've dated someone. They just took it way, way, way too far this time. Someone said, shit is weird all around. Probably not a great support system there. Hey, that's how they wrote it. They had hey at the end of that. And hey. Hey. Maybe they wanted to have more to say, but then they're like, I don't think I'm gonna say anything else. Hey, hope you enjoyed this comment. Yeah. Hey, if you liked this comment, follow up more. OP responded, her family is amazing. It sucks mine turned out like this. OP also commented, here is some clarification. Her work has two separate locations, one office where she works and one retail, where my family harassed people. My fiance told them the company name and they just assumed they only had the retail location and it wasn't just my sis and her boyfriend. It was also my parents. That's so weird. Oh my God. Like, and of course they've never gotten this wackadoodle because this, you know, he's engaged to this person. Yeah. They seem very like possessive over him in a way that they like. He said they've done this with all of his previous relationships. Every time he's dated someone. Yeah, that's not good. Because doesn't he technically been dating this fiance since he was like 18? He's 24 now and they've been dating for six years. Yeah. But if, yeah, so it just seems the family's possessive of him and like, yeah, he might have to cut them out. It was like the math is silly. They're giving him a little bit of silly math. They're giving him no option. Yeah. So update. Okay. I apologize for the delay in providing an update. Just needed to collect my thoughts. If you want to see the previous post, you can check my profile. I don't know how to work Reddit. My fiance and I are still together and moving forward with our plans to get married. My sister and her boyfriend have gone back home and they're officially uninvited to the wedding. So now I'm back to searching for a best man. We've also gone no contact with them. I also sent a long text to my parents the day after everything went down and they never replied. At this point, I don't even know if they're going to show up to the wedding. In the past, we attempted to set boundaries with my mother because she's nosy as fuck. And that greatly upset her, which should have been the first red flag. Unfortunately, my fiance did end up losing her position at work, which has been incredibly frustrating. We haven't told my parents. We haven't told my parents or any other family other than her parents who have been very supportive through all of this. And I'm not sure if we will for a while, as it would mean talking to them. Thank you to everyone that has been supportive. We're taking things one step at a time and focusing on what's important, each other. Sorry for ending it so cringy. Not cringy. Not cringy bud. ETA, she lost her job because they caused a huge scene that made the coworkers uncomfortable. She was still in the probationary period and they didn't want people that would bring drama. Oh, my God. That sucks. Because that's such an issue. That is a thing we learn about when we have our harassment, like education stuff for HR is like, if people from outside of work come in and harass you within the workplace, that is a work issue. Like it. Yeah. That's so unfair. Yeah, I mean, I'm never quick to be like, oh, cut people out of your life, especially cutting your family out of your life. It seems his family's given him no choice. His family basically said, you're either going to be miserable your whole life, or you have to cut us out. He's going to cut them out. That's so strange for an entire, what kind of a vacuum were they in with each other that they were so convinced they needed to take this woman down? That all four of them showed up like the freaking Scooby-Doo gang at an office or a retail spot to gotcha somebody? It's so weird. It's so silly. That was probably the silliest story we've ever read. That's so weird. I feel so bad that you lost your job. I know. I've never been more supportive of cutting a family off and then this story. I'm like, dude, they're going to make your life hell forever. It's also especially bad when you explain yourself and you explain why you need this space or whatever, and that you don't even get met with a response. You don't get a response. Yeah, they're so far gone that I'm like, there's no sense. They're not going to go, oh, you're right. I can't believe we've been doing this. Even meeting in the middle, they're going to be awful to you. You hear these stories about a mom who doesn't want anyone to end up with her son or just every relationship. No one is good enough for their son. And yeah, it just sounds like if that's been his experience this whole time, that there's no one's ever going to be good enough for him in their arms. Yeah. That's hard. Unbelievable. It's wild that it's all four of them, his brother and his brother's wife also. And did they even answer the text? Yeah. They're not showing care for him. There are situations where I could be like, OK, the parents don't like the person you're with and they love you and they're being overprotective, but they don't seem to respect him either. Yeah. No, it's about them. That's the whole thing with ego, right? It's like, that's my son. You know one's good enough for my son because it's mine. Therefore, it's really about you in that moment. Yeah, it's very selfish. Ugh, awful. What a strange, silly. Not overreacting, though. Nor. All right, our final story. Am I overreacting for threatening to take my sister to court after her toddler destroyed my $2,000 gaming setup because she said I should have baby-proofed my apartment? Huh? Right, right. Well, I mean, I'm just kidding. Hi, Reddit. I'm a 25-year-old woman, and I'm honestly at my breaking point with this one. So I, 25-year-old woman, am a student software developer and a pretty serious PC gamer in my free time. I live alone in a one-bedroom apartment that I've spent years making cozy and functional. I saved up for a long time to build my dream PC setup, triple monitors, custom mechanical keyboard, ergonomic chair, the works. Altogether, my rig is worth a bit over $2,000, and I take care of it like it's a damn child. Last weekend, my older sister, who's 30, asked if she could crash at my place for one night because her apartment was being fumigated, and her husband was out of town. She has a three-year-old son, Max, who's, let's say, spirited. I love him, but he's a little chaos goblin. I hesitated, but she swore she'd keep an eye on him and that it'd be for one night. They show up Saturday afternoon, and immediately it's clear she wasn't kidding about Max being a handful. Within 10 minutes of arriving, he'd pulled four books off my shelf, thrown my houseplants on the floor, and spilled juice on my area rug. I tried to stay chill, he's three, I get it, but I asked my sister politely to please keep him out of my office where my PC setup is. She rolls her eyes and goes, he's just exploring, he's curious, it's normal. But she closes the office door anyway. Cut to Sunday morning, I woke up to screaming. Max had apparently woken up before his mom, managed to open the office door, and decided my setup was his new jungle gym. He pulled down one of my monitors, cracking the screen. He stuck crackers into the PC's tower ventilation slots. I'm not kidding. Yanked out my keyboard's keycaps, and had colored on my chair with permanent marker. The cherry on top, he poured apple juice into the tower. Into it. When I tell you I went silent, I mean dead silent. My sister comes in, sees the damage, and just says, oh no, in this incredibly flat tone. Like someone knocked over a cup of coffee. I start freaking out, and she has the audacity to say, you should have baby proofed the room if it was that important to you. I lost it. I told her that, one, she knew he wasn't supposed to be in there. Two, this is my space, not a damn daycare. Three, baby proofing a $2,000 gaming setup is not a standard requirement for adults living alone. She told me to calm down, and said that he's just a kid, stuff is replaceable. I told her she could replace it then. She said she didn't have the money right now, but maybe in a few months, she could give me a few hundred. I told her that wasn't acceptable, and that she needed to take full responsibility. She left in a huff, and now my whole family is blowing up my phone. My mom says I'm being materialistic, and should understand that my nephew didn't mean it. My dad said I should have locked the door if it was that important. My brother actually said, why do you even need three monitors anyway? That's kind of overkill. I filed a claim with my insurance, but there's no guarantee it'll be covered since it was technically guest damage. I also told her that if she does not pay up, I'll take her to court for what happened. Now I'm getting text from my sister demanding an apology for blaming her kid for being curious. I told her I'd drop it if she covered the cost of repairs and replacements, or at least met me halfway, and she blocked me. So am I overreacting if I take my sister to court over this? Oh, that is so unfair. That sucks. That's awful. I am understanding that three-year-olds and stuff, there's so much they're gonna do, and there's so much that is forgivable, but this situation was so, like there was so many preparations and so much talked about before. It's like, dude, that's also your son. You are responsible for your three-year-old. And that is, I understand it's a mixed bag. You don't know what kind of behavior your kid's gonna elicit, but this is also screaming, like, this mom is not setting up any boundaries for this kid whatsoever. And this type of behavior is like, he's screaming for attention. Yeah, I'm like, as soon as, if I was in an OPs position and this kid came in like that, I'd be like, oh, should we take him somewhere to tire him out, because this is a lot for a little apartment. Yeah, like knocking houseplants over and spilling within such a short amount of time, and this mom just non-reacting. And he's doing this mom and her kid a favor by letting them stay there. So he can't baby-proof his whole setup by doing them a favor and letting them spend the night. Yeah, her place isn't baby-proof because she doesn't have kids. Baby-proofing is expensive. Like, we're not gonna do that unless there's kids living in that space. Can I say something a little crazy? How did this child wake up before their mom get access to crackers and apple juice? And go to a different part of the room? And all coloring things? Kids are magical, you don't know. But I'm just like, did this mom just choose to ignore what was going on? I don't know, because... No, it's true. I mean, like, that's a lot of stuff. And I mean, to me... This kid didn't just do that in like 30 seconds. That took time. Shoving crackers into a computer, pouring juice and drawing and knocking shit over. That's loud noises that a mom should be reacting to. Yeah. Or a parent in general. I mean, look, it does happen, obviously. Me as a toddler, I managed to escape to a pool. But like, they are sneaky. But to me, it's just like, this isn't just like, oh, he's just like out exploring. It's like, no, he's testing boundaries and he's pushing boundaries. He's doing destructive things to be destructive, to see what the reaction is. And he's clearly just not getting a reaction. And it makes sense, it's the same thing that's happening to OP. That OP's not getting a reaction from their sister. And it seems like this person is just like ignoring the problem. Yeah, absolutely. On both ends of OP's problem and their kid. Yeah. Yeah, and it's so sad the family is immediately citing her. Yeah, and just being so minimalizing of like, I'm minimalizing, is that a word? I don't know. But like that computer, this person, she's an engineer? She, I'm pretty sure she said she works as like a computer engineer or she's an engineer or something. This computer isn't just like a fun little play place for her. Software developer, yeah. She's a software developer. The computer is everything. That's. Beyond just the thousands of dollars she's invested into it to be her place. It's also her workplace. Yeah. Like she absolutely can stand on business to pursue legal action. Yeah, man. What sucks though is like, when we've heard those, like when the legal actions happens and you win, sometimes that family member will just like put off paying and just like never pay. And it's just not fun. Like. Yeah, I think also it feels like OP was like driven almost to take legal action because the family wasn't validating her loss. It's almost not the money. It's more like just like, hey, can you guys care about this? Like I'm gonna take legal action because no one is giving me the sympathy and like understanding for what I just lost. Yeah. That sucks. And it's thousands of dollars of equipment. That's a lot, man. Verdict, not overreacting. Comments, honestly, wow, your sister's just something else. Isn't she? I mean, cracking a monitor and pouring juice into a computer tower, that's peak chaos. And while I definitely sympathize with the family drama, you're absolutely right to be upset and even consider legal action because seriously, who behaves like that? It's just, I don't know if I would even bother arguing to be honest, but at least you've got the right idea. And while it feels stressful now, eventually things will settle down and you'll look back on this with a good laugh, maybe even get a nice settlement to pay for a new monitor because you deserve it. Someone else said she's an absent parent that wasn't watching her kid. She should absolutely replace it. Weren't y'all taught if you break something that belongs to someone else, you fix or replace it? Especially if it's due to negligence. I have two teens and barely owned anything until they were old enough. I also watched my kids like hawks at other homes because I was responsible if they destroyed something. Lastly, someone said, babies explore an unfamiliar space, but that doesn't mean you let them destroy everything in front of them. I can guarantee you that your sister would not be so nonchalant if someone else's baby was doing that at her place. Your nephew broke your stuff, so now the mom has to go pay for it. I would say it would have been smart to lock any doors that you didn't want the baby to get access to, especially given how he was the first couple of days. Oh man, that sucks. That's awful. It feels so bad for them. And also, I'm just going like, it's normal, they're exploring and there's a carpet on fire. Yeah, you can't, you can't. Update, that's an update face. Update, eyebrows. Update, update, update, update, update, update. You're gonna take your shirt off? To give to Angela, not for any other reason. Update. Update. Oh, okay. Let's go. So this update is from yesterday. Woo, I love when they're fresh. Okay, just wanted to post a quick update since it's been a little under a week and a few people asked what happened next. Things are better, pretty fucking weird, and still ongoing, but here's where we're at. Last Saturday, my brother-in-law came over to check out the damage himself. He actually brought Max, toddler, with him, which I was almost livid about at first, but he had a reason. He asked Max to try opening the office slash closet door. The kid couldn't do it. No! The door was too heavy for him. Shut the fuck up! You can probably guess where this is going. Brother-in-law offered to take my PC to the store that originally built it for me, just to see what was fixable. I agreed, but asked for something in writing just so I had some peace of mind. We put together a little agreement that he'd be responsible for it while it was with him. Yeah, yeah, it was just a formality and would not hold much merit anywhere, but it helped me feel a bit more in control. On Monday, he dropped it off at the shop and gave them my number so they could keep me updated. He also told me he confronted my sister about how things played out. I sent him my original Reddit post too. He read the comments and apparently showed them to her. She still hasn't unblocked me, and from what I've heard, was not happy about the fact that my brother-in-law is actually listening to me. I also shared the post and some comments with my parents and brother since no one really believed me before. My parents don't fully get it, but they've at least stopped pushing back. My brother is more understanding now, though for some reason he mostly wanted to talk about how many people saw the post. I don't think either of these three will still care, really, and I'm fine if they see this. Do better. Anyway, I went to see the PC today, Wednesday here. The shop said it's mostly salvageable. It needs a very, very careful internal clean and a few fans replaced and some wiring fixed, but overall the main part survived somehow. Brother-in-law told me he'll cover the cost of the repair, no hesitation. When I brought up what my sister said about not being able to pay even $200, he said she's lying. He also said he's not sure Max actually did all the damage. He thinks the door was left open on purpose, or that my sister might have even done some of it herself. Oh! Based on the height of the tower and where the crackers ended up, it didn't quite add up to a toddler acting alone. Weird! Why does she wanna do that? I actually, you know, thinking back on it, like these slots and computers are pretty small. Like that takes some accuracy, and three-year-olds are not good at like perfectly measuring things and pouring things. And why would a three-year-old... Like toddlers are destructive in a kind of incoherent way. Exactly. Not in a like precise way. In a stupid way. Like why would a toddler destruct it in like a very... This takes like understanding how a computer works. Wait, that's so crazy. Yeah, this is... This story went from like a two to like an eight because of the update. Like the only toddler I think who could be capable of this would be like RIT guy Tim. Like him as a toddler probably could have done this. I know how to really fuck that thing. Cause he respected it. That's crazy. This continues, apparently she's been telling him I have a gambling addiction. I did get a bit hooked on Genshin like four years ago, I guess. And that maybe this whole thing will wake me up, which is new. She used to be supportive or at least indifferent. No idea where that switch came from. So yeah, that's where we're at. My PC is being cleaned up and fixed and my brother-in-law is covering the cost. Sister still has me blocked and won't talk to me. Still tempted to start something with her to be honest, especially if she actually did all of this on purpose. Still not ruling out small claims court depending on how things go. Thanks again to everyone who responded to the original post. Seeing how many people understood what happened really helped me hold the line with my family when I felt like I was losing my mind. One thing I've been turning over in my head lately is what if my sister did do something to my setup on purpose? I don't wanna believe that. It feels like a stretch. But the more I think about it, the less so, I guess. But then I remember how she acted when I asked her to keep Max out of the office. The eye roll and the, he's just curious comments, like she didn't take any of it seriously. And now hearing from my brother-in-law that she's been saying I have a crippling, gambling, gaming, whatever addiction and needed to grow up. It's just weird. She used to be cool about it. Never super into games herself, but she got that it was important to me. If something changed, I don't know when or why. And if this was some weird way to make a point or teach me a lesson, that's messed up. You're not our mom. How about talking first instead of this? I don't wanna jump to conclusions, but the more I think about it, the less it makes sense that Max could have done all of that alone. It's sick if she blamed her own son for it. So yeah, not accusing anyone outright, but that thought is there now. And if you're my sister reading this, which I'm guessing you are because I bet you'd love to look at the comments that are on your side a lot. I don't know why you blocked me. I don't know what shifted in your head about all this, but if you actually had anything to do with damaging my setup, whether it was on purpose or just through complete carelessness, fuck you. You know I worked hard for that. You know what that rig meant to me. And you know I would never do something like that to your stuff. And if Max really did all of that on his own, I hope you're paying closer attention now. Not for my sake, but for his. Read the comments on my first post again from other parents and people with younger siblings who clearly know better than you. That's all. Thanks for reading those who did. Whoa. I've never seen a Reddit address the person. Oh, it's happened here before in a machine cry. Wow. I'm honestly on that side because like, I'm trying to think of like a three year old, but like destroying a computer in the way that she's describing takes so much precision. And the fact that it wasn't like loud enough to wake people up means it had to have been done carefully. It's kind of where I'm thinking like. That's. Oh, and her trying to justify that. That means he brought crackers and juice from other places. That's what I'm saying. That's what I said. I knew it. I said I knew it. How did you get cracker access and apple juice access and marker access and not like anybody up in that time? Weird, weird, weird. I wish I could see the chair with the markers because you could probably decipher how long someone's arm is and their wrist based on the strokes. Cause a three year old can't is not, but I bet you. Drop the strokes. And the effort in the strokes, his kids, when they're young, they don't know how to freaking hold a marker. So shaky and like hard. But adults are like, wow. Yeah, it's like very clearly. I wish we could see photos of this stuff. Cause I think by looking at the photos, we'd be like, this is way too precise. Oh my God. The sister, the sister hurt us and she's destroying our, our shoes. Guys, we are not, we are not overreacting right now. The power has gone out. This is so crazy. That was weird. So the power went out. We're not overreacting to it. But Courtney, you had one last thought on that last story. Oh, on the last story, I was just saying, I think the sister is jealous of OP because she has a nightmare toddler. Toddlers can be nightmares and we love them. But like imagining your, your sister doing well and having her own private place and you get a little mad, you get a little jealous. Having a sick gaming setup like that. Yeah. I'd be jealous too. Yeah. Also other thought I had that I told Angela is and when the power went, goes out in a room, when I was a teenager, if that happened, I would immediately think of which boy I would make out with in the room. Who, who are you thinking? I love this. Let's make swars. Guys, thank you for watching. If you're listening, the power's out. 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