1020. Q&AF: Pushing Through Hard Times, Being "Too Nice" & Leadership Struggles

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How did you push through this stage and keep going when your bank account and your goals were so far away from each other? What other option do you have? What are you going to do? You're going to go work at McDonald's? Okay. I didn't have any other options. That's what made me push through. This is why we talk about this concept of zero option mentality. All right. When you're in the beginning of your business, it's very easy to keep pushing through. And to be honest, where you're at right now is the easiest it's going to be to stay focused and push through because you don't have anything else you can go to. Maybe you do. Maybe you have a rich family. Maybe you have an inheritance coming. I don't know what it is. I didn't have that. The thing that kept me going was very simply that I had had experiences doing manual labor growing up pretty much my whole life growing up. I wasn't qualified to do anything else. I didn't have a college degree. Back then, you had to have a degree to even get an interview. And so I didn't have any other options. And that made it very easy for me to continue going down the path because every time I felt like how you're feeling right now i just thought well this is better than digging ditches yeah all right and that's what kept me going and i would love to say and oh you know it was this big vision for all these things and i wanted to do all these great things and this and that but in the beginning man it was very simply i just didn't have anything else to do now that changes as you start to make money and it changes a lot when you start to make good money and it changes a lot more when you make great money. And you have to remember what you're feeling like right now, because what's ultimately going to make you successful over the course of your life is being able to manipulate your own mind into believing that you have no other option but to continue down the path. This path that you were on is very difficult. It would be much easier for you in the short term to just get a job, get paid go home live everybody else's life but that is going to hurt you in the long term all right so the honest truth is this dude what else are you going to do what else are you going to do okay and and by the way from a tactical standpoint when you're first getting going and you're trying to do things you have to figure out ways to bring in the money that may not be in the avenue that you're in. Now you're 32 years old. You're working 12 hours a day. You're doing all these things. I'm a little confused on why you would still be broke. Okay, so you have to ask yourself, are you doing the right things that are going to pay off? Have you made a good decision in the path that you're on? What levers do you need to pull? What knobs do you need to adjust to make this a profitable endeavor for you? All right, because there's so much entrepreneur information out here. And a lot of people just say, follow your passion, follow what you want to do. But sometimes those things, they don't have the payoff that you're actually looking for. So you have to understand what am I doing in five, 10 years? Does this have the potential to pay me and provide the life that I'm going to want then if I continue down the path? If the answer is no, then you have to do what you have to do right now and find a way to get there But if the answer is yes, you have to double down and get more effective Time put in is not the same as effective time All right, we have two different ideas And most people believe that the more time they put in That that going to equate to more money Or the more effort they put in that going to equate to more money I know a lot of people that have worked very hard their whole lives very long hours and never really gotten paid. So effort and time put in doesn't necessarily equal pay. You have to be on the right path. You have to be on the path that's going to provide you with the outcome that you're looking for. So there's a lot of things here that you need to evaluate because dude, unless you just started this, like it didn't give how long he's been doing. I don't think unless you just started this, then by this time you should be making some money. Now I'm going to assume that you probably just started this. All right. So what I want you to do is I want you to sit down. I want you to look out five years, look out 10 years. I want you to look around at peers, people that you may know that are doing the same thing. Are they living the kind of life that you want to live out there in the, in the future? Or are they still struggling? Are they still broke? All right. Because if other people could do it, you could do it and you could do it better. All right. But if, if these other people have put 10 years in and they're still struggling, it's probably a time for you to readjust your path, but you have to understand this fundamental reality, dude, is that effort put in and time put in is not what it is. It's effectiveness. It's the skill set that you have. It's how good you are at what you do. And if you're great at what you do and it takes you half the time, you're going to get paid more than the guy who's putting in double time that's not great at what he does. So what's your skill set like? Are you good at what you do? Are you effective? It sounds like right now, maybe you're not effective. So you're going to have to, if you're putting in the time and you're putting in the effort, you say you are then it's a skill problem or it's a time problem okay but you gotta be honest with yourself yeah that's right you got to assess it everybody thinks that they can just work hard and everybody thinks that they can just put time in um and then there's this other group of people who think oh it's not about working hard it's about working smart you're wrong about that it's actually both okay you have to work hard you have to work enough time and you have to work effectively it's not one or the other it's all of them and that's a fundamental problem especially with you young bucks out there who are trying to build shit you guys say you guys hear these people say these things these cliches like the average millionaire has seven sources of income yeah maybe when they're 50 maybe when they're 40 not when they're 20 or 21 or 22 you have to become great at that one thing that produces income then when you leverage that income into other things that bring in more cash flow and more enterprise value to your portfolio, which is what you're building right now. So the reality of that is that there's a lot I'm saying here, but at the end of the day, it's not work hard. It's not work smart. It's not be great. It's all of those things. And that's how you win. Okay. So don't listen to these people who say this shit on the internet. Most of them are broke. Most of them are trying to make money, just trying to sell you how to make money and they've never really built anything but i'm going to tell you as someone who's built many things of a sizable nature eight nine figures worth 10 figures it's all of those things and it's for a long time how important to man like i mean let's go back bro you were 22 23 years old or even you know not from the age standpoint but just simply early in business young in business entrepreneur age how important is it during that time to be skinny with your spending and oh it's you know what i'm saying huge huge deal yeah okay you have to understand that there is going to be a time in your entrepreneur journey where you are going to starve that is reality if you want to make it now if you don't want to make it long term which is what a lot of these younger kids are doing because the the examples that they look to are these internet hustlers all right what they do is they make a little cash they go out and spend a bunch of money to look more successful and then they try to like use that to get more more business right it doesn't work like that man it doesn't work like that you have to understand you got to live way below your means and you it's okay to be embarrassed about it it's dude do you think i wasn't embarrassed when i was living in the back of my store right you think i wasn't embarrassed when i had to move back in with my dad at 27 years old that's embarrassing 27 yeah at 27 years old seven years into my business i had to move eight years into my business i had to move back in with my dad you know how embarrassing that was bro but if i hadn't done that i wouldn't be here yeah so you have to be willing to eat a little shit along the way knowing that the end result is going to pay off all right and all those people that were making fun of me, you know, telling me things like, man, Andy, you know, you've been at this for a long time and now you're having to move back with your dad. Like, you're right, bro. Yeah. Like when are you going to get serious about your life? You know, now all those same people are saying, Oh Andy, I'm so proud of you. I can't believe, you know, I remember back when, and it's like, dude, you were the guy telling me to quit, you know? So all those people that are laughing at you, all those people that are making little remarks and And that's fuel, dude. You should be grateful for that because I never forgot it. I still remember it. I remember every single person, all of them. And for any of you listening that ever says shit to me, I remember you too, okay? I remember all of it. I'm like an elephant. I have like this permanent memory, especially when it comes to the negative energy that I receive from people because I've become very good at taking that negative energy and then transforming it into productive action. And a lot of people talk about, oh well that's not the right way to do it you know you should be doing it for the right reasons well what the fuck is the right reason if the result happens okay does it matter does it matter what drives me does it matter what drives you all right it doesn't matter because you're trying to get to this place and you have to use the right kind of fuel to get to this place this is like saying hey i'm trying to drive to uh california and you know i ran out of gas and i could get ethanol but i don't want to put ethanol in there because that's not the right kind of fuel. So you just sit there. Yeah. All right. You got to use all the fuel and you got to, you got to be grateful for it. So when these people do these things to you guys, especially when you're younger, just remember, there's going to come a time where they have to eat their motherfucking words and you're going to have the last laugh. All right. So don't be afraid to downsize. Don't be afraid to, to get your spending in order. Don't be afraid to, you know, maybe get a little bit smaller place or drive a you to your car or minimize your bills in a way or eat ramen or whatever you got to do. There was a long time, man, in the beginning days of business where, you know, the way that we ate was because we were bartenders. You know, there's the bartender code where you go to other bars and they give you the hookup. We go, we go eat, right? And we get free food because we knew these guys and we took care of them. We did what we had to do. And you have to, too. That's the name of the game. The good thing I will say for all of you guys out there trying to do it is that you live in an age where there's more opportunity for speed and velocity of what you're trying to create than there ever was for people that are my age. Okay. We didn't have social media. We didn't have digital ad spend. We didn't have any of this shit. We had radio, TV, newspaper, and hopefully word of mouth if we did a good job, which I'm thankful for because it gave us the fundamentals to understand what business is really all about. But that's a very slow process. So even though you might be feeling frustrated right now you have to understand you're in a much better position than i was ever in and if i'm being completely honest and this is real truth i swear this is real shit if i could trade places with any of you guys that were 20 right now i fucking would i give up everything i have and i'd start over at 20 because of the technology that's available to go at velocity so yeah i love that dude i love it if we had what y'all have i would have created this entire thing in like seven years i'd have been 27 years old fuck you know yeah and it's proof there's other guys out there doing big business now that are 30 years old okay because of the technology that's available it used to be the anomaly like the zuckerberg correct correct no I mean, even in CPG, bro, there's guys out here who are doing shit at 25, 30, you know, 35. They're doing big things that wasn't possible for people that grew up in my era because the technology didn't exist. But the cool thing is, and I'm grateful for this, is that I built businesses before technology. So I understand the fundamental psychology of people much better than what they do. You see what I'm saying? So there's advantages to both. You know, you're not going to get that experience because it doesn't exist anymore. but take it from me you guys are in a really good spot I love it dude I love it I love it man guys Andy question number two Andy I struggle with being too nice sometimes I always try to bring others in or share in things I worked hard for Any tips on how to actually be more selfish or how to or keeping my hard work and effort for myself? I feel like I'm limiting my outcomes by being too nice in this way. You are. I struggle with that same problem. believe it or not what you guys see on the internet um i always want to give more than than than i probably should i think it served me well in the long term i've gotten screwed over a lot i've had a lot of people take advantage of me and my advice to you would be to try and keep that good heart of giving try to keep that that good part of you uh that selfless part of you there but learn where the boundaries are and learn what your responsibilities are and what they aren't you know if you are there can be such a thing as like toxic responsibility all right the amount like when you start to feel and this is this happened this happens to me this has happened to me a lot you know i take it very serious when someone decides to bet on me all right like for example like an employee or any of you guys or anybody that's relying on me to pay their bills i take that very seriously very very very seriously and because i always want to help people win sometimes i've been too generous to where it becomes a thing where they become entitled yeah and once they become entitled they're no longer an asset to your to your mission then they become a drag so this is just a boundary question you have to you have to decide where your boundaries are going to be and you have to make decisions about you know what you think they should be and and stop a lot of this comes from a fundamental need to please people all right you can't make everybody happy no and dude like when i grew up you know when i grew up i didn't get a lot of praise I wasn't ever like I didn't ever feel like I was appreciated right and it created this thing in me where I felt like I needed to make everybody happy and then take care of everybody and sometimes dude when you try to take care of people they don't want to take care of themselves right yeah and you can't want it more than them and that's something that took me a very long time to understand and it burned me a lot and a few years ago i would say five six years ago i learned okay well there's boundaries to this all right if they show me i can come towards them but they got to meet me halfway right so i don't think there's anything wrong fundamentally with wanting to be a good person wanting to help other people be successful but remember this man you're going to be able to help a lot more people when you are in a financial place to give. And by you doing what you're doing, you're trying to give before you even have, you're preventing yourself from actually getting, which prevents you from actually giving at scale. So you got to be selfish to be selfless. And that's, that's something that we talk about a lot. You've got to take care of yourself first. And then when you take care of yourself, you're able to take care of people much better. So my advice to you would be very simply to understand you don't owe anybody anything. And whatever you decide to help them with is your good heart. And if people try to leverage you and make you feel guilty, they're the last people you should help. All right. So learn to say no. Learn where the line is. Stick to it even when it's hard because it will be hard. You're going to have to say no to people and they're going to walk out of the room. They're going to be upset with you. and you're going to think, man, did I do that wrong? And then they're going to guilt trip you and manipulate you and gaslight you. And honestly, you start to realize who's really on your team and who's really not. You start to see it a little more clearly. And when you're a good person, and this is a lot of what's going on in society right now, when you're a good person and you don't want to hurt people and you want to help people, it's really hard to see the bad in other people. All you know is that you have a good heart. All you know is how you feel. All you know is I want to help people. So everybody must be like me. But the truth is they're not. Most people aren't that way. And that's why most people are most people. And you're working and not become most people. And you have to become that before you can actually help at scale. Kevin O'Leary has a really good, I remember seeing this clip of him on this topic. And his rule of thumb is I will help anybody once. And like I heard that, I'm like, damn, okay, what do you mean by that? And he goes into it. He's like, I don't care if it's family, if it's friends, whoever. I will help you. You come to me, you need 200 grand. Yeah, I got you. I don't want it back. Well, that's another thing. I don't need it on a loan. Yeah. But don't ever ask. And he tells me, don't ever ask me. That's another thing. Okay. One of my rules is absolutely, I do not loan money. I give money. Yeah. Okay. So if I ever give someone some help, I don't make it a loan. I make it a give and the reason is is because 99% of the time you're not going to get the money back that's right you're not and it's going to ruin relationships with people that you love and care about and friends and you've got to be able to do it once and say no next time and the other thing to realize here dude is that every time you save someone you're preventing them from learning the lesson that's going to make them better anyway okay so so when you when you when you when someone gets themselves in a bad position let's say um you know uh i don't know they they got a drug problem or they got behind on their bills or whatever and you get in there and save them they're just going to go do that same thing again because you didn't allow them to learn the lesson and when you think about like the damage you're doing to someone long term by saying yes like that it becomes easier to say no right yeah so and when you're young when you're 20 you don't understand this you don't understand that people have to learn their own lessons and you're not the karma police bro you're not the protector of the bad karma yeah and one thing that will happen man and this is true if you step in the way of someone else's karma you're the one that takes the punch of it and that's not good for you so you've got to learn where you can help and where you can't and i would highly suggest that if you do get in a position to help don't make it loans don't make it conditional get make it a gift and i think o'leary's advice is really good just one time one time i hope you want yeah and and if they if they turn that into something then maybe you can help them a little more you know like maybe maybe like there's been guys i've helped who have taken it and ran with it and become built really good things with it and then they come back and they say hey we need a little cash flow or we need an investment and i'm like well fuck okay you've proven that you're that kind of person let's go yeah right absolutely so i want to hit on this too on the same point because i feel like this could also get missed being selfish to be selfless this also doesn't mean you have to be an asshole no you know i'm saying there's Like, how do you, how do you, I mean, you got to take care of number one, bro. Yeah. Number one is you. And that's okay. That is okay. Yeah. And people will guilt you and they'll make you feel bad. And they're, you know, they'll humility signal and the gaslight and they'll, they'll do all this shit to make it feel like you're a bad person, bro. Every single human on this planet takes care of themselves first. Every single person on this planet that makes a big difference takes care of themselves first, gets them to a point where they can help. then they help all right and you can help along the way all right when i didn't have much when i didn't have you know like dude i can remember giving look man people won't believe when i say this but i know it's true and uh i've got people that can validate it like there's times in my life where you know i might have had a thousand dollars total cash and i saw someone really struggling i gave him a hundred bucks that's a fucking tenth of my of the money i have right But I also believe that when you do good, you get good. And I've always believed that. And it's shown to be true in my life. And so I always gave what I could, man. And I think that's a big reason why, you know, opportunities have happened for me. There not a logical reason for it I can explain it But God and the universe and everything that you know that we can see rewards that but you can do it to a point where it damaging you or holding you back of your own life. Yeah. That's so real, bro. That's real. Uh, let's get to our third and final question, man. Um, we've got a leadership question, I guess, uh, guys, Andy question number three. Andy, as I grow in my career, I find myself leading people who I previously had either had negative experiences with or wrong impressions of. Most of the time, it was the way I handled myself and the way that I led. I've changed the way I not only lead myself, but the people I'm around. Now I have this burning desire to have one-on-one conversations and air things out, for lack of a better phrase is this my insecurities or do you feel it's necessary for me to do to have a new relationship with these individuals i'm also aware that talk is cheap and my actions will have to back these conversations up uh but that's why i question if the chat is even necessary it's not i'll just share with my actions it's not just make the change start doing it they'll notice okay and here's the problem with explaining everything like what like you want to do and by the way i did i've done that so i'm not just like i understand where you're coming from because here's what happens you handle something poorly you do something wrong and you're like fuck i feel bad about that and while it might be okay to go back up to them and say hey man you know i could have handled that a little better but you understand what i'm getting at right we gotta do this we gotta do that that's okay but when you start to over explain it and you start to show too much vulnerability in that situation it comes off as insecurity which by the way weakens your ability and your respect to lead these people and also shows them where your vulnerability is. And if they're not the right kind of person, they'll press that over and over and over again to get you to like even feel worse. Okay. Because they feel like it benefits them. It doesn't, but they feel like it does. So my advice is that if you've been a poor leader and you recognize that you've been a poor leader, then just change the way that you're leading and the rest of the team will follow suit they will talk amongst themselves they will say man you know what andy's like really changed you know he's doing things a lot different and that will earn the respect as opposed to trying to sell them on having respect through a conversation yeah now like i said if you do handle something poorly there is a proper way to handle that but it's not some long drawn out discussion yeah it's you walk up to him you say hey steve look dude sorry i got a little upset there here's the deal i got upset because of this it's nothing personal but you understand why right i definitely could have handled it better but you understand where i'm getting at right yeah all right man so i love you i appreciate you i lost my cool a little bit there but it doesn't change the message that i was delivering yeah all right for sure and that's Those are the kind of ways that you kind of do that. Yeah. From this, dude, it sounds like this might have been like years ago. And now you're in like an actual, I don't know. And like now he's trying to address shit that happened years ago. It's like, bro, they probably forgot that shit. No, they probably didn't. But the longer that you go behaving the right way, they will. Right. They will forget that. And by the way, you shouldn't care if they forget it or not, man. Because if they forget it, then they don't recognize the progress you're making as a leader. Right. That's a them problem. Yeah, but I'm saying, don't you want them to recognize that you're making progress? Yeah. Okay, well, if they forgot about how you were before, then how can they recognize that you're doing a better job? I see what you're saying. Right. That's real. So it's irrelevant what they think before. What's relevant now is how you behave now and moving forward. And it sounds like you've already figured out what the problem is, and all you have to do is adjust your behavior. Okay? And one of the most important things that you can do as a leader is to understand this. Leadership is a lifelong journey. you are going there is no finish line for becoming a great leader the leader that you are at 20 the leader you are at 30 the leader you are at 40 at 50 at 60 is always going to be a better version all the way up until you stop leading or die all right so it's a lifelong process and all of us develop at different rates and we all make mistakes so it's not like all these leaders that you look up to who you see that you want to be like haven't made these same mistakes they all do it you just don't see it all right so it doesn't mean that you're not a good leader it means you're going through the process in fact i would argue the fact that you feel bad says that you really care about being a great leader the worst kind of leaders are the ones that lead don't give a fuck if they feel bad all right so i think the struggle and the question that you're that you're asking is actually a sign of the awareness that you're going to become a great leader, dude. All right. So you just have to understand, change your behavior, start working forward. Don't worry about it. Forgive yourself for what you did in the past. Realize that is a part of the process. Just like when you start to learn how to ride a bike, dude, guess what? You're going to fall over a whole bunch of times. You know, you don't, you don't fall over a whole bunch of times and learn how to ride the bike and then say, man, I was so stupid. I fell over, you know, that's what everybody does. It's just the great leaders that you recognize as great leaders. You don't see them becoming great because they don't get recognized until they're great so like you don't see uh you know john wooden you didn't see john wooden the greatest ncaa basketball coach ever you didn't see him when he sucked as a leader all right great leader right now on social media is uh echelon front jaco okay jaco and leif you didn't see them learning how to lead you see them now all right you you don't see these people when they're learning all right so you're learning and you're moving and you keep moving forward and you're going to get better and better and better. And I think you're on the right track, dude. Yeah, hell yeah, bro. It made me think too, like, dude, we're in Missouri, bro. This is a show of East State. Yeah. Just show them. Yeah. Just fucking show them. Yeah, bro. I mean, he said it. Talk is cheap. Yeah. No one cares about your talk, especially if you already have a negative reputation. Like, if your team doesn't like you right now because they think you're a bad leader and you go up and try to say, like, oh, I'm going to be a better leader, it's no different than when they come to you and they've been fucking off for the last two years and they say andy i swear this time i'm really gonna change and i'm like okay okay dude right right it's so different than your overweight friend who says oh dude i'm gonna lose weight i'm gonna lose weight i'm gonna lose weight i'm gonna lose weight he says it for 10 years and then he gets pissed off that nobody believes him all right like you gotta follow through man if you want respect as a leader it's the same thing if you want respect in any area, it's your actions. It's not your words. So don't worry about these conversations that you feel like you need to have. Maybe that's something you need to have with yourself and forgive yourself or in your prayer or whatever it is that you do, but let it go, dude, and see it as a part of your journey. This is what you are trying to become. And the fact that you are struggling is the evidence that you are working to become it. So dude, just change. Get better. It's okay. Everybody fucks up. Everybody struggles. leadership is hard management is hard i think it's the hardest job that you could ever have and it takes a long time to become great this is why you don't see a lot of great coaches that are under 50 years old man yeah they exist but they're anomalies all right it takes time but you can do it dude and it doesn't matter if you were a leader before bro i was never a leader i was never a leader i wasn't the captains of my teams i was always one of the best players i was never a leader dude i was i was i was never a captain i was never voted i never even couldn't i didn't even understand why i'm like i'm like shit dude i'm i'm i'm beating everybody's ass out here but i wasn't leading i was worried about myself i wasn't worried about them my intent was on me not them my intent was on me not the team when i was playing football i want to know how many yards i got how many tackles i got i didn't care what the score was on the scoreboard all right that's not leadership that's selfish in a negative way you see what i'm saying absolutely dude so absolutely bro it's the process man and if you find yourself working to become anything and it's very hard that's a sign that you're on the right path that's not a negative thing anything worthwhile is hard don't run from that no that it's a sign that you're on the right path i love it dude Fuck man that was a quick hitter bro Yeah I'm with it dog I'm fired up Hey man you know it is what it is Let's get out there and beat some ass today Alright let's do it We will see you tomorrow on CTI Don't be a hoe Share the show So cold.