Do You Really Like Them or the Idea of Them?

Thank you for listening to my morning monologue. Brought to you by Golden Crest Metals, helping everyday investors protect with a work so hard to build by adding gold and silver to retirement portfolios. Learn more at goldencrestmetals.com slash protect. Remember, you can hear my radio program daily on SiriusXM Triumph and connect with me 24-7 at drvora.com. You actually like the person, really like them, or is the romantic fantasy taking over? Is it love? Is it just attraction? And when you need somebody new, it's hard not to feel completely enamored by the prospect of a new romance. It's all exciting! Especially if they're super attractive, schmoozing you in all the right ways, flirting. No obvious upfront red flags. Do you really feeling them? Or just the idea? And the possible happy ever after mentality. How do you know? Because pressures are a dime a dozen. Oh my gosh, you have crushes on people that you see in a movie, and you're having a coffee. It's very easy to have crushes. Those initial euphoric feelings are such a high. It's like taking a drug like cocaine. But that attraction only goes so far. Especially when you start asking yourself the important question. So how do you discern whether you genuinely like somebody or just the idea of them? So it was a cute article in, let me get the last page, www.verywellmind.com. Signs you actually do like this person. They make you feel good. You want to keep learning about them. You can be yourself around them. You go out of your way to make time for them. You find joy in doing nice things for them. You feel energized versus drained by them. You have shared interests. Your values are aligned. You remember small details about them. You may feel a little nervous in their presence in the early stages only. You may feel like you're with somebody. I've known forever. You share goals. You feel kind of safe and respected. You think about them even when they're not there. You're endeared by even their odd traits. Now let's do the signs. You just like the idea of them. You only want to spend time with them when you're bored or lonely. You find them physically attractive but aren't quite sure about their personality. By the way, anytime in my opinion you feel not quite sure. That's a red flag. You feel drained after spending time with them. You're fixated more on whether they like you versus liking each other. Your feelings fluctuate depending on your mood. That's a very telling one. You're hyped on their potential versus who they really are. Your interest in them is driven by how they make you look to other people. Arm candy. You don't feel a strong emotional connection. You don't have shared values. And there are outside pressures making it feel like I need to stay together. You don't share life goals. There's no spark. The relationship feels stagnant. And quite frankly, you don't really see a long-term future with this person. Now, one of the criteria that drives a lot of you to ignore the like and decide it's something more significant is being lonely, which has become magnified in the past few decades. And obviously, being lonely for any period of time, there's nothing horrible about that. It's not pleasant to do things about it. However, it can make you delusional. How many times have women called N-men? Why did you marry this person? I was lonely. Oh my god, that's why you were lonely. So, just that mean you have an urgency to partner up with someone. And if so, why is that? What's missing from your life that you need? This fiction to feel complete. That's a tough one, isn't it? Loneliness is a voluntary condition. But with so many people, I just watched the people walking around looking at their cell phones. How can you not be lonely when your interaction is with plastic and metal? It used to be people spend actual physical time together. That happened less and less. So, that drives people to go on the net. I'm in love. Meet somebody. Hand full of months. Let's get married. Because then I'm going to feel alive again. Now you don't, you feel screwed. My number 1-800-375-28-72. Check out my social media on Facebook and Instagram. I post stories, photos and videos seven days a week and feature some of what you sent me to. There's always something interesting going on there. You can find me at facebook.com slash drlora and instagram.com slash drlora program.