Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day, sponsored by Vibrian Super C serum, my personal solution for smoother, more hydrated skin. Super C serum is a full line of skin care products all in one model. Get 37 percent off plus free shipping by going to Vibrians.com slash Dr. Laura. Remember, you can hear my radio program daily on Sirius XM Triumph and connect with me 24-7 at Dr. Laura.com. Jimmy, welcome to the program. Hi, Dr. Laura. Hi. Hi. My wife was a big listener, big fan, so I figured I'd probably have to ask your opinion on this. My wife passed away five months ago, and I'm doing okay with the grief. Oh. No regrets in our relationship. And my kids are all grown and out of the house, and now I'm just trying to figure out what my path is going to be. I was on 58, so I'm getting ready for retirement. You are? I'm 79. I'm not retiring. Well, I mean, you know, it's a thought. We're not happy. It wasn't happening, but we're going to get together. But at this point, my daughter's going to get married in the backyard this year, and then possibly after that, I might sell the house in downsize. Yeah. But the other thing that my wife and I were also, when we were thinking about retirement, was that, you know, we do have two dogs. They're older, but we realized we can't travel like we had planned with our dogs, and so we decided to use our dogs. If you've got an RV. That's true. That's true, but they're not, they're not, they don't play that well with others. One of them, the older one, is that way. So we had figured, well, you know, when the dogs pass, we won't get any other ones, and we would travel when we retire in a few years. And now I'm kind of stuck with it for myself, because now I've liked to just get out of the house and be with friends and maybe visit some friends and family across the country. And I really can't do that with my dogs. So I've talked to the kids about it, and you know, they're like, well, we should put them up for adoption if we can. And I mean, I know I have them here to keep me company right now. And I mean. That would be devastating for them. That would be devastating for the dogs. It's a love hate I've had with the dogs for a while. Like I love them, I'm not in love with them. They're more like the kids' dogs that we're just continuing on with after they moved away from us. So I don't know. Oh really? I don't know if I'm being irrational. Why don't the kids take the dogs since they were there in the first place? Well, you know, there was something with an apartment. My youngest son took the younger dog, who was eight, with him yesterday to be with him for a couple months. I think he's gonna see how it works out, although he is saying it's going to be maybe till they can get fostered. I'm just feeling like I wanna leave some options open. I don't wanna feel trapped. Like even just going to visit a friend for the day, I have to make sure I'm back to let them in out of the house. I can't spend the night anywhere even if I were to go to a friend's house and spend the evening. So I just don't wanna make any, I wanna make sure I'm not overreacting anything, but I feel a little trapped in that way. Yeah, you are a little trapped in that way. That's what these responsibilities are like. So, and also last year, I think, you know, both of, I've never had a dog with fast nine and my, because I've always had purebreds, my one purebred is eight and the other one is a mutt and he's 11 and I just had like a, he had a spleen removed last year. He had a rupture tumor and vested, you know, try and keep him alive. And then I don't know, just I have all kinds of thoughts going through my head. Like, because I lost my wife, my best friend. And it's, I don't know. Like I said, I might be emotional. I might be jumping the gun on somebody. Yes, of course you're emotional. Of course you're emotional. But I'd hate to put them up for adoption and then realize I was being rash. It could be months away still, you know, but I don't know. I just was seeking your advice on my being stupid. Is this part of an irregular grieving process? You need to take more time. It's only been less than a handful of months. And you're wanting to hit the eject button and just be free of everything. And I think you ought to pace yourself a little, think things through, take a whole year, then make decisions. Okay, thank you. Just take the time. So you won't have regrets. Yeah, I've got no regrets for my relationship with my wife. I don't want to have any afterwards. So. I know, I understand that. Thank you, thank you, Doctor. You take care. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars. And be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.
