All right, it is Mojo in the morning. Chelsea and I, my wife and I have a podcast called the We Don't Podcast. We have a new one that is out today. We talk about the fight that we got into this weekend. And I wanted to kind of have you go check that podcast out, but I'm gonna talk a little bit about it right now for a second. We had the greatest weekend, don't get me wrong. But it started off in what could have been like one of the worst moments ever. We had a really nice night on Friday, went out, grabbed dinner, and then came home after dinner and decided that we were gonna go sit out on the back deck. It was actually not that bad outside. It was nice. And we were gonna drink. We even, at the restaurant that we went to, we asked them, hey, can we take roadies with us? They gave us drinks and paper cups to go home, which was nice, because then I didn't have to like try to make a drink and stuff. So we get home, we're sitting out on the back deck. Luke is out with friends. So we got the house pretty much to ourselves. And we're out there on the back deck, and we're kind of having fun. And I'm thinking to myself, this is gonna be a good night. It's gonna end possibly with something really good happening. Something good for me, not good for Chelsea. And we're sitting out there on the deck when I said something that ended up stirring up Chelsea to get up and literally go, I'm going to bed and went to bed. And then I passed out on the thing. I drank a little bit too much. So I passed out, literally, and woke up at like 11 o'clock or 1130 for a couple hours outside under the stars. You know what I mean? And actually it was one of those ones too. Where I'm thinking to myself, I'm going there's gotta be some animal. It's like eating my nose hairs or something right now, because that's where I was. And then it led to me going to the bedroom. She was still up. She was laying in bed on TikTok, lights on. I go brush my teeth. After I get done brushing my teeth, I come in, I turn the lights off, and I lay down and I go to bed. Well, now let me tell you the whole story here. And I want to ask the question, what is the longest that you ever got the silent treatment? Because our fight probably started at about 839 o'clock at night and it ended up going that we did not talk to each other. This is no joke. We went to bed, woke up the next morning, laid next to each other in bed, got up, showered, did all our stuff. It almost was noon before we even said a word to each other. Oh, that's the worst. And it was me that gave in because she would not give in. She could go days without talking to me. It was crazy. And I didn't talk to anybody from 8 o'clock or 830 at night until almost noon the next day. I didn't even get on the phone to talk to a friend. She didn't either. There was literally complete silence as we're laying next to each other. What was the first words like? The first words were. That's a good question. The first words were exactly, so I think we should probably talk about last night. That was it. And then it turned into her and I having a conversation. Now the fight, we get into it on the podcast. We talk about it on the podcast. And it's funny because I kind of jotted down some notes here because the one thing that was interesting was, we got into some deep conversations and some of the deep conversation were a lot of regrets that you have. Like when you're married for as long as we have been and for as long as we've been doing things and how I feel like I have tons of regrets over the fact that early in our relationship I prioritized my work way more than I prioritized her and my boys. And for some reason I'm dealing with us a lot lately. And I think it's because my last birthday was a big birthday and I think that it's been really hard. And she finally has said to me, I'm tired of hearing you say sorry about this. Move on, we're good. Everything's good. We're still together. Everything's going good. The boys are successful, love you. Yeah, and the kids love you and stuff like that. But I can't get over it. I gotta go back to therapy because I don't know why this is that I'm living with this regret. And then it kind of to me, this is what got her was when I said, and then I have regrets over the fact I never really did anything for myself and you would go do things for yourself. And when I said that to her, she looked at me like, what was I doing for myself? And I'm like, well, like you would go back to Arizona and visit your family and stuff. And she's like, I was taking care of my grandfather. And I'm like, well, yeah. And then also you visit your friends and all this. And she got really upset. Cause I was like saying this to her and making her seem like she was doing something that was wrong by going with or little selfish or yeah. When in reality it was wrong that I don't go and do things that I should do when I want to do them. Like I've been, I'm invited to go on guys' times all the time. I don't like going on guys' weekends. I like being home with my family. And so long story short, we talk about it in the podcast. Go check it out. But this is where I wanted to talk about what's the longest that you've ever gone? Because I think I'm going to go and do a retreat. What do you mean? Like a, one of the silent retreats? I think I can do a silent retreat. Dude, I don't think you can. Can I tell you something? I've had a few guys in my life that I know do one of those one for a weekend and the other one for, I think God for like six days. You know, they make you hand over your phone at the beginning of those. You hand over your phone, you hand over your laptop, you hand over your iPad and you do not talk to a single person. The entire time. The entire time. I literally had my phone in my hand the entire time that I was up just scrolling and with the sound off. Cause I didn't want the sound on. Cause I wanted, I felt like if the sound was on, I felt like the sound would make it seem more awkward. So I had the sound off and I was just sitting there reading anything that had a caption to it. And I was trying to figure it out, but I, I don't know. It was weird. There was something kind of therapeutic about not saying anything. And then honestly, when we started talking to each other and Chelsea and I started like having conversation with each other, it honestly felt like, ah, this was like, ah, comforting that I can actually hear her voice telling me how upset she was. I'm really good at giving a silent treatment, even though I know that it is so destructive. Especially if it's so destructive for relationships. Yeah, you should not do that. However, I disagree with you. So, and so would Wes, because Wes is the type, when we get into disagreements, he will tell me, essentially they're just gonna give me the silent treatment, but he phrases it in a way of, hey, I'm going to take some time and space. Yeah. And he really will. He will not respond. And you know me, I will, how are you doing? I miss you. I love you. I'm sorry, you know, whatever. And he's like, I have come to learn after being with him for several years that that is, he has taken the space. So it's interesting. And I hate it. Chelson and I have been doing, you know, a lot of talk about like our relationship with this podcast, doing this podcast, but then also, you know, the years. We used to be really horrible fighters where things were said that you can't, you had to take, you couldn't take back. And now I feel like you need to think what you're gonna say before you do it. And I think sometimes you need to have a waiting period. Okay. So you, did you talk to us? No. Why did you guys have a silent treatment this weekend too? Or what? I mean, we've gotten into a disagreement recently and he did, he said, I need to take some space. And I hate that because I want to talk things out right away. And he's like, Shan, like, trust me, I love you. I'm not going anywhere. However, if we continue just to stay in a disagreement, we are both going to say things that are even more destructive. So let's take some time apart. Did you learn that from his first marriage? Because I will say this to you. I don't know where you learned that from, but. Chelsea and I actually feel like we have learned from the periods of our relationship. Like there have been periods in our relationship, like the newlywed period, the first having kids period, the, I was an A-hole, you know, period, and very selfish period. The period where she was an A-hole and selfish period. Like we all have gone through periods. And I think that that's where you kind of learn things through. And I, and I'll be honest with you, Friday was uncomfortable, but Friday or Saturday afternoon was actually positive. Cindy, what's going on? Good morning. Good morning. What's the longest you got the silent treatment or gave the silent treatment? I gave my husband and I had an argument because I work EMS and they asked me to pick up a shift. And I asked, I was like, Hey, you know, can I pick up this shift? You know, does it work in the schedule for some extra cash or whatnot? And he was like, yeah, I guess, sure. So I told that my supervisor in front of me, I was like, yeah, you know, that's fine. Put me on a schedule. And I hung up the phone and he goes, you really picked it up. And I'm like, I'm gonna go. And I gave him the silent treatment for 51 hours. 51, you know the exact hours. Ooh, I love it. And I came back, I came back, I did not speak to him, I did not text him. And I came home after 51 hours and he said, I'm sorry. Wow. 51. I was like, my friend, you don't want me to pick up a shift. Just have a back bone and tell me. Who is it harder on? The silent treatment, was it harder on you? Trying to keep quiet from saying that you're wanting to call him a big idiot? No, because I'm like what? I need time to process how I'm feeling. And before I speak, I have a sharp tongue. It's the way it was perfectly fine for me. Which is smart. Yeah, which is so smart. And we should all take it that page. I just, I don't like being in conflict. And so I'd rather like resolve it right away, even though I know I am not in my right mind to do that. 844-MOJO-LIVE, 844-665-6548, taxes 955-00. Dylan, hi. Morning, how's everyone doing? Good. Dylan, what's the longest that you and your wife gave each other the silent treatment? So I gave my wife a three day silent treatment. Holy cow. What was the fight over? You know, mostly like finances and stuff like that and complaining to me how I spend stupidly, but she doesn't, you know, just stuff like that. And you started the silent treatment before she did. I did. And so you were offended by her blaming you for this. And did you at any time during those three days almost break because you just couldn't do it any longer? What do you mean break as in like speak up to her? Like almost, yeah, like, you know, break the streak. So I did. So I did it to where we needed like the talk and confront our spending issues. We went from there. So what did you do though? Like when you guys wanted to figure out what was for dinner or what each other was going to do, you know, the next day? Kind of less like notes on the fridge. So you guys were actually writing notes to each other, but not speaking it to each other. Mostly me. She kind of took it to heart and she doesn't like to speak with that kind of stuff. So I would nonchalantly like, hey, this is for dinner or I'm spending for myself, you spend for yourself. Were you worried at all that anything was going to happen to her because I always would worry if I was leaving the house, God forbid she gets in an accident and this is how we end the things, you know? Yeah, that did cross my mind a time or two, but it wasn't too horrible, you know? Yeah. Or at any point were you wishing she got into an accident? I'm not. I'm just kidding. No, no, no. I'm just kidding. That's amazing though. Three days is a long time. I can't believe how long this one is. Kia went longer than three days. How long did you go? Two months. Oh my God. Was this a spouse or like a boyfriend or girlfriend? This is my husband. Okay, oh my God. Two months. And what the hell was done that caused a two month silent treatment? So it was a really, it was a really bad time for us. We did not know how to communicate but of course through therapy and everything but it had to do with our parents. Okay. I did not care for his parents. He didn't care for mine. And we kind of like got them involved in our mess and things were said and we both flashed out on each other instead of keeping them separate. When you were not talking to each other for those two months, were you still living under the same roof? Yes. Man, that's amazing. What would be- We have two daughters. We have two daughters. Would you wait, would you have them talk for you? Like would you go tell your dad or tell your mom? No. I just love, my parents used to do that. My husband don't do, we don't bring our children in. Like we just, we know they feel it. Yeah. Because I mean you can't hide when you're mad at each other. So when we do have to talk to each other as far as the kids, we text each other. Okay. Let me ask you this question. I would say, you know, or we will have to put their activities in our calendar and pay just to let you know. Yeah. You know, this kid has this, this kid has that. Make sure you get this for the groceries and stuff. But when we're at home, we don't talk. We just talk to kids. Kia, here's my question. The first words out of your mouth to him, were they stupid dumbass? No, no, actually they were, I'm sorry, for saying what I said about the mom. Oh, and what was his first words to you? Yeah. He said thank you. Oh, see that's nice. That's nice. Do you always remind him that you were the bigger person there and apologized first? Wait. Yes. Wait, what time of year was the two months? Was it winter time or summertime or when was it? It was the winter time. Oh my God, winter time and you're indoors. You gotta stay indoors with them. Yes, we couldn't go anywhere but to work at home. I completely understand how you feel as well because he's the same way. He has to take his time to like process things and stuff. So if Wes is saying hey, I need some time, give him that time because he's processing what was said and what was done and he's also, because my husband does the same thing now, we're able to communicate this but he says it like, you know, it stops his self form. Like you said, saying something that he's gonna regret later. And then also blowing it up to where it's not as big as it needed to be. Yeah, that's cool. Thank you, Kia, for the call. I appreciate it. So back out the We Don't podcast. It's on the Mojo and the morning show pages, the more Mojo page, but it's also, you can search for it on the I Heart Radio app and just search Mojo We Don't. But Kia, if you ever get an opportunity, listen to that and all the other podcasts because I'm sure that you could relate to a lot of stuff when it comes to being married. Definitely, definitely. And I listened to it already. Oh, do you really? And who do you usually side with? Me or my wife, Chelsea? It depends, but more so is more so, Chelsea. Oh, yeah. That's gonna call her a B word. I'm not gonna call you there. No, I can only. I still love you though. I love you too. Everybody does. I, the worst thing about this podcast, people used to love me before this podcast. Now they love her way more than they love me. All right, take care of yourself.
