The Biohacker’s Guide to Relationships, Energy & Emotional Mastery | Tracy Harmoush Ariss

Tracy Harmonish, welcome to Biohacket. I was so excited to bring you on because I was researching you and I've been following you for a while and I was like this is probably one of the fittest Middle Eastern women I found online. You inspired me so much that I did a gym workout this morning because you have such great arms. It's like I have to go on prep to this show. So I'm going to give a little intro to my audience for you. You were an investment banker turned on to pin your involvement advocate. You're also the founder and CEO of Untraceable, a leading wellness company as well as a co-founder of the UAE-born brand Mama Bozes. How did you go from being an investment banker to ending up in Walnäs? Wow, that's a that's a story in a half but I'll make it short for you. Listen, I mean we all start in careers that we don't necessarily, first of all, thank you for hosting me and thank you for your kind words. We all start in careers that we don't necessarily choose for the right reasons but it does make sense sometimes at the right period in your life. So back then my ego spoke louder than anything else proving that I could be in a a difficult industry that I could be the only girl on the desk and I would be able to make it. The money, a lot of those reasons were big reasons for me in my 20s and I had the stamina to hustle to work hard to do the long hours in investment banking but as I started pushing late 20s 30s I realized like I needed to create something that I felt was more of service, more impact and as I started to be introspective and realizing what's really important and what I need, you know, the power of growing and building and self-optimizing I started realizing that I wanted to kind of focus on myself and as you probably know I mean when you try to solve a problem for yourself you realize there's a lot of people that would also need it as well so then I started transitioning more and more into service of in the wellness space with other people. You spoke about having stamina and I really want to touch upon that. Women as we age from our 20s to 30s to 40s our tolerance for stress dramatically changes and what we're able to put ourselves through. Can we talk about how that shifted for you and what advice do you have for women listening who might be going through the same thing? I think in many ways there's a beauty of how you can handle stress in your 20s but there's also another beauty of how you can handle stress later in life but there's cons to both as well. So in your 20s you can get beat up more and you could probably pick yourself up. You'll probably tolerate more things that you probably won't tolerate later on but I think you get better at managing your reaction to stress as you move into 30s and 40s. You have much more boundaries. There are things you won't tolerate. You know yourself. You know what can trigger you and what can't and you know how to set boundaries for people. So if you're really again in tune with yourself you get better at managing stress later on so you will avoid it where unnecessary and then you will take on the load and know how to tackle them with resilience when necessary. I think that is very key but a lot of people won't get there if they're still looped and not understanding themselves if they're not self-aware. That's so important. Like you can't transition from taking on anything and everything to that unless you're really self-aware. I think picking up on that also when we're in our 20s and 30s a lot of us women especially when we're living more in our masculine energy we have this attitude that we can take on the world we can do it all. When we start shifting and our hormones also start shifting our susceptibility to stress also reduces a little bit so we have stronger boundaries but also our hormones are not there to support us in the same capacity. So for me personally when I started doing this shift in my shift didn't happen until actually really recently where I realized hey I'm losing sleep over things that I don't need to be losing sleep over. There are things that are out of my control and I'm giving my power away to things that don't even deserve it for what. So that's why I say the boundaries is so important because you're so right my energy means so much to me right now. I've never really felt so entuned to how important my energy is that if anyone is like a vampire of my energy I can't tolerate that. People that just take and they don't give back and sometimes it comes at the price of you becoming successful or you having your stuff together and you being a powerhouse in many ways or people look up to you because you have your discipline your hard working so a lot of people are going to gravitate towards you. It's natural that they want to take a bit of your energy but a lot of them take that energy with nothing to get back in return. Even if it's just to vent or for you to listen to them or to give them advice or to guide them sometimes you just really do have to say not now later too much like you know you have to put those boundaries especially if you're in a position of power where people want to gravitate towards you and that's a beautiful thing but it needs to be on your terms I think. And I think that is what so many women need to learn when I come to boundaries is more you say no the more yeses will show up in your life and that's a beautiful thing but also to be able to say I don't need to be everyone everything to everybody there's time in a place I need to nurture myself and feed myself and take care of myself which when before we started recording I said in North America I feel like women are just constantly being driven to this point of you can do it all you can be a boss babe you can do this you can do this and not understanding that something's going to give. Right I can't be everything to everybody at all times yeah and even for mainly for yourself there's a time in a place for everything you can do it all just not all at once if you choose to you know be in your boss babe era in your 20s because you don't have a family to take care of you don't have a dependence on you um you know your parents are not depending on you I don't know many reasons like you can be in your masculine energy and you can be in your boss babe era totally fine but as you transition and you have other responsibilities your problems get bigger with work you get married you have a husband to take care of sometimes you get pregnant and you want a shift gear that should be okay too and I think that's what people with this whole boss babe era it has made a lot of women feel like they're not doing enough because they think well I'm not matching boss babe like I don't feel like a boss babe I'm probably putting it online but when I go back home I'm bawling because I can't handle everything and that shouldn't be that shouldn't be the narrative that we're pushing if we're here to really push and vouch for women we should be able to tell them not push complacency but to tell them things happen they can happen but the truth is they're not going to be they're not going to work all cohesively all at once give yourself a break give yourself grace and I think knowing that women can take the time out we can slow down we can give ourselves that permission so much of the time we're going so fast and so hard because we're trying to prove ourselves in spaces that we think are dominated by men whether we need to be the same as them when we don't at all need to be the same as a man who is whether it's a co-founder whether it's a colleague we have our own space and our own roles that we fulfill and I think women come whether it's health and wellness or to the business with a matter of intuition and knowledge that men don't have and that's and we're great multitaskers look I think there's there's many things that I resonate with is that like if I were to compare the things I'm good at versus the things my husband is good at my husband is better at the vision the the planning for the family where we're going to be in five years I'm very good at creating what what I think the market needs right now you know getting things down very quickly I'm very decisive proactive very very quick on today and the tasks I can do and like you said I multitask I think it's not the right word because it's hard for us to really do a lot of things but we do maybe we don't do them beautifully unless we're super organized but we do a lot of things my husband is more of a one at a time kind of a thing and more of the long-term vision kind of a thing and I love the fact that I appreciate his role versus mine but it's more of the matter of like and if I'm going to tell girls in their 20s if you're in your boss babe era and you can get a lot done get a lot done and climb the ladder like that's against the wall that's leading to where you want to go because if you ladder up against the wall that's the wrong wall then you're going to have to do all of that boss babe era in your 30s and in your 30s it's very difficult and I say this from experience because I don't have a mom and dad to spend on me if I want to right I don't I don't have the the the safety net so there was no choice and I also take care of people so there was no choice but for me to have to be independent and work hard it's a beautiful story to say yeah the masculine role versus the feminine role but sometimes that's not the cards you have right so if you if you know that that's not your fate then at least use your energy and your stamina and your masculine era and your masculine energy wisely in your 20s so that by the time you're 30 you can relax a bit you know things are working things are moving but I had to push again in my 30s after I left investment banking all over again you know did the whole you know broke for a while had to rebuild for a while so it's it's tough it's really really tough so just choose wisely I know people say 20s are for you to make mistakes it is but also don't waste them they're really the times where you that's the age where you have the stamina and the mental capacity and the bandwidth to be able to do more you know today who you are today you know at your age with everything that you know what does being in your power mean to you I think to be decisive is a very important characteristic to have because you trust your own judgment when you're making when you're calling the shots and you're you're making big calls right for you for your family the the hesitation approaching life with hesitation makes you lose a lot of your power if you know how to make quick decisions even if they're going to go the wrong way but it's a decision that you took and you trust that it's the it's fate of where it's supposed to be because you moved and you took action towards that decision that is a power that a lot of people don't have they need to ask 10 people before they make a quick decision on what to wear tonight yeah so let alone how to move the needle in your business or what relationship works for you I think it's important to build the self-relief and self-trust of how to make decisions even if everyone's against you even if it's just you thinking that it's right for you but if you have the power to say I know this is right and I know a lot of people don't think that's right but I think I should I should do this it's a power it's like it changes the game all together and how much power you feel you have I think you're so right because a lot of people lose time on the indecisiveness I should do this I should do this I should do this versus I believe if you have 70% of the information that is enough information to make a decision and if you decide to make it and it doesn't work out well that you can pivot from there but I think we lose so much in this back and forth in our own mind but I think that's because most people do not know how to surrender to and take a risk I think we have become so risk averse in so many ways we're terrified of what if it doesn't work out well what's worse than not being able to take a risk is being a paralysis because of fear like it's either you take the risk and you possibly move forward or you live in fear and you go nowhere which one do you want and I mean you have to really think of it like you're gonna have a story at the end of the day which story do you want to tell do you want to tell people you know when you're sitting in 50 years old having a chat with your kids you know I had this opportunity when I was 30 and it was so scary and I didn't take it or do you want to tell them I tried it I failed I tried it again it ended up working out but it was the best experience of my life assume it goes sour in both cases which story do you want to tell that's what I have to always I always tell myself what story do you want to tell always pick the one with a better story when you go home and you have to go into like family mode and mom mode and wife mode you're somebody who comes across really assertive and decisive and all that stuff how do you shift internally within yourself between the feminine and the masculine because every single one of us has both energies and us it's just turning it on and off but how do you consciously do that in your family life so I'm not a mom yet hopefully soon but I could I could speak for being in it with my husband I'm very much in my feminine energy with my husband like probably more than normal like very very relaxed I could be childlike with my husband because he just brings the safety for me to feel like I can so that gives me a lot of comfort and I love to push relationships because I think doing life with someone with a partner that's a supportive partner that's a good backbone there's nothing that matches that and not to say that women can do things on their own I would have very much done it on my own if I didn't find my husband but it's not a narrative that I would push to say you go girl you do it on your own you don't need no man I would never push that narrative because it's so much easier to do life with a partner because you're just doing it together you know you're building together so in that in this scenario where you find somewhere where you can be someone where you can like really let loose and feel safe it's when your feminine energy can come out but in this day and age life is tough things are expensive it's hard sometimes you need to income sometimes you need to build together we don't need to be chasing the provider that will give me everything and all girls are now saying no to any man that's anything less than tax money yeah I really don't like that because I have seen time and time again between all of my friends and myself we were never the guy the girls that went for the super crazy rich guy we always dated hardworking men who built from scratch and all of my friends have a beauty in their relationship that not many people that go after the rich man where the guy that has everything together and everything figured out from when he's 25 having one thing in common the respect and the love and the partnership and the beauty of having built something together there's that unbroken bond that I watch and I see which my husband and I and my friends when you build something from scratch with somebody it's an unmatched kind of partnership and there's a beauty to that so give people the chance even if they haven't reached the end as long as you know the potentials there take the chance as long as you see the prospect be the backbone be the multiplier of that man and help him and help yourself and work together to build that is also okay so that's very very important for a lot of women to know I think I think what you're saying basically is that it's how somebody makes you feel it's not just what they bring to the table so they provide you safety and security to really shine and be yourself it doesn't matter at that moment if they're not able to provide the financial comforts as long as you see potential in them being able to get there we were talking about the masculine feminine energy I have to say that I'm so grateful every day for my masculine energy I feel my masculine energy took me so far it is the reason why I have become so resilient why a lot of knows I'm here right now after a lot of knows when I was confronted with difficult people with pushy people personalities that I it's hard to deal with I'm still here the negotiation skills I have the resilience I built like all of this was because I came in with my masculine energy so I like to be in it doesn't bother me and I love I love it I love it I love everything about it I would never exchange it for anything in the world as long as I know how to use it to my advantage and I know how to use it you know in balance with and in harmony with my feminine energy it doesn't overshadow it's not there for trauma it's there for protection it's there for building me you know and I think everybody should embrace having both again something I don't like seeing a lot is a lot of women huff and puff because they have to be in their masculine energy take it take it it's such a great joy it why are you upset about that if you have the capability to versus other women who don't they just feel timid and annoyed and bothered when they're around an aura of like masculine energy or even women that are intimidating and scares them or bothers them and I feel I feel for them but if that's not you and you are able to be in your masculine it's just take it man I would take it I think it's a gift I don't think you and I would be here without this energy this would not be our careers we would not have the ability to build what we're building we would not be the voices that we are it is all because we had that masculine energy which is a driving force in us but what you've done so beautifully is when it comes to your personal life you've able to switch that out and be able to go into your feminine and your play which is really the feminine is to play to love to live to laugh and I think a lot of women get that piece wrong is like how to create that safety in their personal relationships to be able to fall into that little girl who can just have fun but that takes to your partner has to be able to let you feel safe to do so otherwise that shield is going to stay up no matter what I have been there and past relationships and I know the difference between feeling safe and what's safe to you that's a bigger question for me safety is someone who adores me who loves me who helps me build when I'm feeling like crap he knows how to uplift me he knows how to guide me that's more of safety for me than someone you know buying me a Lamborghini or whatever you know what I mean like what is safety to you so it depends on where you're going to shift into your feminine energy because someone's taking care of you and spending on your lavishly is that what makes you feminine that for me that's value system that's a value system what's valuable to you that makes you feel like a feminine for me it is definitely not those things for me it is everything I mentioned earlier the care love the the protection always coming by passing by kissing me telling me you've got this when I'm crying about something with work he's like I'm not going to solve it for you you've got this that for me is allowing me to be a my feminine energy I don't need you to fix it for me and I love the fact that he says trace your smart your capable of shake it off sub crying you know you're going to do this you know you are you're very smart like that for me is like what do I want more than this someone that's after my growth wants me to be the best is not competing with me who's inspired by you who's inspired by me and he says it to me every day he says it to people all the time I'm so inspired by my wife however I'm not going to be in my feminine energy if I have a husband that's because you're celebrated every single day and I think that is what a lot of women mess is that peace about a man should be celebrating you and honoring who you are in your truest essence if that means going and building a career and still being a wife and in inshallah being a mother and all those things you can be all those things together is just that there has to be a time and a place absolutely very true do you believe that the man that you meet is always going to that is a baseline of who they are they can change they can become get better work make more money all that stuff however the baseline of who you meet is who they're always going to be no I don't believe that I used to think that in my 20s I'm a huge believer in people being able to change all throughout my 20s anybody that knows me knows that I used to say nobody changes people are who they are I don't trust anyone who has bad past or has a bad I mean past in the sense of like a value system that doesn't matter in my mind I probably wouldn't have I wouldn't go for because it's a value system but I mean assume someone used to be lazy assume someone wasn't working on themselves not introspective when the time comes for you and you have your calling of I need to do better and it's usually after you hit rock bottom or something shuts in your face some woman leaves you someone you it's a loss like a feeling of loss that's when most people are like I I got to do better an injury a pain yeah most people are like I got to do better if people can change their bodies from being completely obese to super fit if people could you know get over there I mean they're injuries in a spectacular way like they can run after they also they've gotten amputated if you have decided to make a massive change like that it's because something in you said you can so of course I think if a man or a woman had were lazy once upon a time they weren't focused they didn't study well I was that girl I would say about myself when I was younger I don't remember feeling like I'm extremely very capable of creating different businesses like I I felt like a glass ceiling on top of me maybe I didn't really see my capability but only my age and my time and my experience has has allowed me to feel like I can you know so if you really want to change people change and I trust that the reason I'm asking that because so many women fall in love with the potential of someone versus who they are and they get lost into the potential of what that man and person can become and they lose so much of their time trying to hope that they can change into x-mine z so I asked you that because I wanted to see from your perspective women listening to this and they're like Tracy you found love you're happily married you're settled and you still have this incredible career how do I not fall for the potential how do I look for who the baseline of somebody is so that's the tricky part you have to have really good judgment because a lot of women mistake potential for making excuses for behavior that will never change right if you see potential it's because you see the habits that the person is doing today being really implemented and like wired in that is going to define the success of where they're going to be in the future if the habits are not there today red flag I would worry so you can't just say but I know one day he's going to you know work hard like no that's that's one thing but like if you potential means not everybody needs to be not every man needs to be 25 or 30 or 35 and have all his shit together that is an unfair ask if we see the statistics men don't usually do well or really see success until 42 to 55 I was reading the stats the other day in the US 42 to 55 but these guys don't have a break in their 30s because no woman wants a data guy in their 30s when they don't have their stuff together but if that man is head down working really hard building on something that you believe in you're like oh wow this product is really cool I think you can make it and you're there right by him to kind of anchor him in because that's what women do women anchor men in they they they're multipliers they're able to push you to do better and they able to settle you down so that you can focus be that woman if you can if the man is today instilling the habits that you know are going to reap the benefits of what he's going to create in the future that is key the habits have to be there today and the success can happen later I also want to shift gears towards like your personal transformation you talk about all the time online how you change how you eat how you're working out a lot of Middle Eastern women or South Asian women are terrified of weightlifting like they're terrified they're terrified of so much more than that food groups are terrified of so how can we walk women through because you're in obviously incredible shape your Middle Eastern your Lebanese and you're fitter and healthier than you've ever been so how did A you discover that for yourself and two then what do you teach people to do all things that you build that's a service to other people it starts with a problem that you're solving for yourself usually and as I started to age I'm 39 now as I started to push 35 36 or seven I started realizing that the eat less move more stopped working it may work in your 20s you can get away with the you know not having dinner and then dropping a kilo you may get away with eating a salad and then drop shedding and your six package showing or even having a sandwich and you're totally fine and you know weightlifting a couple of days a week but as we grow older obviously our hormones are changing and coming from someone who was training heavy six days a week thinking why might not lean why am I not shedding like I'm doing thing you know I'm eating the carbs they said I should be eating the carbs I'm eating how they're telling me fast I don't eat until 2 p.m. so I'm like that's what I supposed to do coffee coffee coffee coffee and then only so as I was taught from the books that are out there from the experts and the doctors and the white folks that are telling you little did I know I mean obviously because I have this I'm very curious and I have this growth mindset and thanks to 2025 that we have what I mean podcasts everywhere we have access to all the experts all over telling you the information but you need to be really looking for it people that are doing their independent research that are not funded by big food big farm a big agriculture big tech and as you go down that rabbit hole you solve the problem for yourself you're like how have I been doing it wrong this whole time what am I thinking boasting about not sleeping and I can you know function on four hours of sleep what am I thinking about drinking coffee on an empty stomach and going to the gym and working out what am I thinking about carbs are necessary as staple in your diet because otherwise you're losing a major my micro a macronutrient in your body all of these things what am I thinking being afraid of fat why am I like don't don't put fat on my steak what am I thinking and then you realize that certain people need you to believe this so that you remain numb you remain sick you're able to go to the doctors you're able to get your prescriptions that are going to put you on stats and shots for god knows how long and then they're going to tell you you need pills you know nobody asks about your nutrition nobody asks about your lifestyle they give you the pills and then you wonder why you still feel like crap where why your brain fog is there why your anxiety is there we're not only talking about physical we're talking about how you feel the the being lethargic in the middle of the day groggy anxious snappy it all comes from what you're eating and how you're living and how you're anchored with a circadian rhythm and none of this is to say I judge anybody because I would have never known if I didn't go down this rabbit hole and I get a lot of backlash because I'm not wearing a white coat of why I talk about this and I can't tell you how much more and more and more as I see other people in the white coat that I respect their research saying the words that I'm saying like Gary the other day in the supper club Gary Brook is saying the exact same things that I'm saying and I'm like I'm proud I'm proud that I'm researching the right people that we speak the same language but if I'm wearing the white coat you'll have a instantaneous ability if I don't wear the white coat that people are going to question you right and then again you see the people that question you being nutritionist or doctors and then you look at what their lifestyle is yeah what they're selling what their practices I'm like non man like this is this is a hard place to be but I think we've we're living in a world where we know now that the system is not always there to benefit you the government's not always there to benefit you you need to really do your own learning and understanding of how things work because we're walking into an era that is going to be very very difficult and other people take things into their own hands and advocate for themselves and advocate for themselves and do the research and be willing to unlearn the things we were told forever I was that girl too who believed all of those things and if someone's living proof and they have experience with other people living proof of the thing then do it I would rather trust you if you're living proof then go to the doctor that's telling me something that he's not living by by example if you are taking protein powder you definitely need to hear this the Clean Label project tested 160 different proteins from different vendors and brands across the US 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minerals Gary said the other day don't just drink flat water like all of this stuff matters people go through hours in a day or days on end they're like but we're not thirsty well that's not a good sign that shows you your body was giving up so true I mean you said this thing about fat I was reading this other day we have 30% fat in our body 30% okay between your brain to prevent you from Alzheimer's in the future to think memory your ovaries to carry a baby you need fat we have 30% fat in our body and they've vilified fat for so long so that you don't replenish that fat where it's so necessary we have 70% water in our body and people don't drink water your muscle is your biggest organ and you don't eat protein you think that you can get away with not eating protein and you'll be totally fine and how much carbs do we have in our body 1% 1% carbon our body and everyone is so afraid of taking a break from carbs or timing their carbs around their workout nobody I need to have it as a staple every single meal no you don't you don't need it it makes you feel good you want it and maybe if you're a high performance athlete then yes I get it you're using it for energy but most people aren't most people it's their average dinner when they're watching TV eating rice and something and then they wonder if their goal is fat loss why they're not losing fat and again no judgment to anybody I was that girl what's wrong with that meeting rice and sweet potato what's the problem everyone said those are fine if my goal is fat loss amazing I work yeah but again what is your goal is it performance is it fat loss what is your goal and then cater your meals accordingly what is your staple diet look like at the moment all right heavy on protein I eat two times my body weight of protein every single day and how do you do that what are you eating to take in that protein so I mean now I can eyeball it but what I initially started by measuring it for two three days I'm like okay this is the kind of the size of my steak the kind of the size I don't do the calorie thing because you don't need the calorie thing if you're eating the optimal way but then as I start introducing other things which I do I mean I have an ice cream brand I love food then I start thinking okay this might be about 500 get 600 calories if you're introducing inflammatory foods count the calories they matter but assume you're eating like I would eat in my day today on midweek breakfast I have let's say four eggs in the morning boy legs with half an avocado and two pieces of turkey bacon like fresh turkey bacon I put them in the air fryer that's my breakfast staple my lunch is a chicken thighs rib eye steak I mean salmon whitefish any of the above protein of my choice 300 grams let's say a steak with any of the vegetables of my of my choice I choose them low oxalate vegetables so maybe research that if you want to find out what low oxalate vegetables are and sweet potato on the days that I've trained now because I'm no longer in fat loss mode on the days that I was was more on fat loss mode I would maybe drop it to two days a week as opposed to every single day but at the very beginning when I wanted to fix my hormones and I do the same thing for dinner so these are the three meals sometimes I'll have a larger lunch and I'll eat twice a day so it's either the three meals that are medium size or I'll have the breakfast and the lunch and I'll eat twice a day and I don't eat after six o'clock six on most days the one or two days a week I have a social event no problem but most days eat with a son I eat eight in the morning I have lunch at one o'clock I eat six p.m. because it is so important to eat with a son to get your body to trust you that you have a rhythm and a routine to have sunlight in your eyes in the morning to go for long walks to be consistent with giving your body what it needs so that it feels safe to let go of fat and that is how I changed everything when I gave it what it needed and then it all of a sudden the stubborn fat that was covering all of my muscles started falling off what are it to be at 39 mind you you know most people are worried like yeah but I'm older I'm 39 this is not a me at 25 kind of me at 25 I can just skip dinner on my abs would show yeah 39 right I'm in I'm 42 now I'm gonna be 43 next year and I'm in the best shape of my life because I started eating right for my body I started prioritizing my day with protein I stopped being afraid of lifting weights I left really really heavy five days a week and when I started doing all of that and introduced a lot of fat like I will literally eat butter off a spoon and I love it I love it butter with dates is delicious so my best right it's a good dessert it makes you not like anything else because your body knows what it needs when you have a piece of day and you put a butter in it I'm like man I can eat this all day like you can't eat the chocolate anymore from the rather supermarket yeah not at all because it also burns slowly so when you start giving your body the nutrients that needs the building blocks then it doesn't matter if you're in your 20s 30s 40s or 50s you can at any stage being the best shape of your life when you make that decision to feed and fuel your body it's so true it's so true and for so many though this is what's key is that things if you've done damaged your body for 10 and 15 and 20 years sometimes you're gonna need a bit of a harsh reset and that would mean eliminate everything in flammatory I know it's tough it sucks I did it and I didn't like it but sometimes your body signals don't work anymore your hunger cues don't work anymore your insulin doesn't work anymore you need to make everything sensitive again so that your body's like okay I can now I work yeah so now I know I can tell you on your full now because I you made me here train myself you know that the muffles are not on anymore I can hear it and then after you park and this is doing your service it's allowing you to give your body a break to heal it's like an addict you take away the drugs you take away the alcohol you don't say I'll just give it to you a microdose exactly no you cut them it's cold turkey so yes sometimes when you've done so much damage do that reset phase which is what I talk about in my program reset first get your hormones to work and then in your maintenance phase you introduce the date and butter and the honey and the foods that are good for you and that help you thrive but and they're not I mean the process stuff but at the same time you will learn how to do it in moderation or in a way where it will work your advantage I'm going to the gym I'll have two dates and butter amazing like you you really work with your body with how it will help you fuel and the in this era of like GLP1 drugs and stuff it's even more important to tell people please stop ready to break yeah doesn't mean restriction when we tell you have a stake in salad what restriction is is injecting yourself with GLP1 and then saying yeah but it's just for my summer body that is restriction yeah nobody's vilifying that everyone's like oh yeah she's on ill-template but when you tell someone have stake in salad for an eggs for a month and see what happens what do you mean that's restrictive this is how humans are meant to eat this is what food looks like but they brainwashed us so much with what is available with all the dopamine options that are available that this doesn't look like it's good anymore yeah and that is how we're meant to eat and also we moved away from eating like nose to tail yeah which is so essential to us that's how we were built especially if you're from this part of the world that's how we eat organs of course of course and people are so nervous to eat organ meat and I'm like guys we if you look at us historically that's how ancestors ate so why are you so terrified of eating that way eating raw dairy raw milk like we have all of it is you know key different it tastes different you know I didn't touch milk for like 20 years I couldn't even smell it really because I was drinking raw milk and then when I started realizing that I'm not drinking farm milk that's unpasteurized or raw milk I'm like drink I drink it like it's honey like it's so good amazing and you would never know same with butter when you're getting supermarket soft butter versus real butter I can eat a butter stick and I feel amazing and it really balances your hormones so well if you know how to we're planned this with proper butter you know especially women especially for women it's so important and especially the older we get because we need that external fat to help us produce hormones and when we don't have that we're depriving ourselves our bodies like listen am I already getting pregnant in pausal you need to actually add in more support in order for me to be able to function more so get in more sleep cycle with the sun circadian rhythm help becomes so important feeding your mitochondria becomes so important absolutely but greater energy and your ATP 100% is we're not taught that and that's why I talk about it no matter what they say no matter how much they want to say no you're not wearing a white coat you can't talk about it I will talk about it till you're both continue talking about it because I know it's to be true and I know it to be right and people need to know you spoke about people cutting out inflammatory foods can you highlight just for everybody listening some main inflammatory foods that they should be aware of because some people don't know all right so the main one that is the hidden one is foods that are high in oxalates and they come in in places that you don't even realize and a lot of the times they're in your fruits and in your vegetables and in your nuts the things that you think are good for you they're not necessarily helping you absorb minerals properly so sometimes you need to take a break from that because if we go back to our hunter gatherer days you don't have access to that much fruit it wasn't genetically modified as it is now you couldn't just eat it at the click of your fingers it wasn't in the season and now we forget because I can get anything I want just rest rolling on you know an aggregator so things like kiwi there it's very high in the skin of the kiwi is very high in oxalates the beetroot is very high in oxalates nuts for sure like the peanut that have mold in them but it's not to say that it it hurts everybody some people are way more sensitive to oxalates than others so as an example when we park a lot of the high oxalated vegetables and fruits and nuts and whatever from my program at the very beginning what happens is a lot of people get withdrawals they get teenage like passouts like I'm like they're so exhausted for the first day they're planting themselves and they don't they think it's a stake but they don't realize that it's because you are eliminating the oxalated food and and the sugars and the coffee we have coffee in the program but even the sugar we take that out at the beginning if you feel like I can't cut sugar that means you need to cut sugar I can't need you have to do it if my husband is a kind of guy that's like I can have like a small square every day bro don't cut it out yeah yeah yeah I will finish the slab yeah I have this thing with sugar I love sugar so for me it is necessary to control my sugar and it took me parking it for my body to be sensitive again and know how to burn it and know how to want it in moderation some people may never want it in moderation and sugar is 10 times more addictive than cocaine 100% not by just just saying it is just with the research show yes 10 times more addictive than cocaine do you realize what that means people think oh the sky took cocaine now he's a drugie we're drugies too being so addicted to sugar refine sugar like that so we really really need to be careful like they they market it as joy and pleasure and beauty but they don't tell you the truth it damages you and people that are worried about longevity and their beauty be worried about sugar the first thing you know so it's so funny when we were in South Arabia and Rio somebody put up their hand I sitting next to Mark Iman and they said something like what how much sugar can somebody have a week and he burst out laughing he's like that is a sugar addict right there because if they're even asking it they're trying to negotiate with themselves he's like you're addicted to sugar like that's not even a question if you know that sugar is a root cause for so many things like Alzheimer's Parkinson's all of this stuff stems from destroying our microbiome and sugar is a major culprit of that why would you want to take something that leads to all of these essentially aging diseases that we have and leave us so unwell yeah I mean I think it's a matter of priority so what is your priority is your priority not aging well is your priority not feeling like feeling good all day not getting anxious not getting if those are not on your priority list or they're not atop of mine then you're just gonna say I'm gonna have a cake I don't already care so I think it really depends on the person and again I love sugar I love it but I know that it's not good for me so I have to make a conscious effort that in the weekdays nothing is in my house once in a while we go out I have my ice cream brand we do something I will enjoy it but I have to practice the discipline of everything in my house every single day I have to do the fight because it is hard for me it doesn't come easy for me to say ma it doesn't mean anything to me I really like it yeah so it's not like we give the advice from a high horse like no we're practicing it ourselves because it's hard and I get it so if someone tells you take a break and you get defensive that's the problem right there you have an issue I wanted to talk to you about hormones because you obviously do that in your program as well and you teach women how to fix their body and fix their hormones now can we walk through when somebody comes to you or you fix your own hormones what are the core building blocks you gave your body to help enhance your hormone health again number one is anchoring to circuitin rhythm absolute must sunlight in the morning in your eyes wake up with the sun six seven a.m. I don't care make it a point to get that infrared light and anchor in your melatonin to come out at night 14 hours later because that's exactly what it does you look at the sun it anchors in the melatonin to come out at night and it gets you sleepy which is a beautiful thing cut food four hours before you sleep because your melatonin that has you worked on in the morning to get anchored in will not come out at night if you're still digesting if you're digesting hormone is still out they don't come out at the same time so when you eat eat eat eat eat eat and go to bed and then you wonder why you're not sleeping well it's because melatonin is not able to come out so you're popping your melatonin pills and you still do not feel in good so that's another way to regulate it absolutely change your nutrition that changes everything have clockwork time on how you eat your meals don't just wing it i'll just see if i eat it three or two or whatever you have to have a date have it at one have it at six eat with the sun and if i'm just gonna start there with the basics your walk after your meals just to make sure that you're getting that movement in i'm not i'm not even talking about lifting and going there this is just in the basic level of how it's a diy version of how you could regulate your hormones without anything right eat the fat eat the meat i mean girls with PCOS eat the fat girls that are on restrictive diets that are doing calorie deficits lose their period when they're not eating fat you can still get lean and thin like i did i got really lean at some point i had muscles like i had six seven packs because i chose to do it this way for the first time i used to do it the wrong way before you know lean lean everything i don't yet put any fat on my food i lost my period for three four months yeah you do it the right way your period comes back at clockwork go heavy on the fat let your body if your period is not there your body is telling you something is wrong like you have to really listen to these signals it's not possible for your body to be okay and now have your period like it's your sign to say look something's wrong in your diet right totally so uh those are the things i would say to regulate your hormones like at the very beginning a di-y version is just anchoring on all of these things get your food get remove the inflammatory foods get everything to work again by going really high protein number one fat don't be afraid of it and have the vegetables that are good for you so that you can absorb all of the the protein and stuff that are not going to be depleted because it has high oxalates stuff like that what you're seeing is also so important yeah exactly what you're seeing is also so important because you're talking about getting good quality sleep at night as well and you need to cut off the food so your glyph is your essentially your brain detox is between 10 p.m. and 2 a.m. but if you are still digesting your food then your brain can actually detox and i would just wipe people wake up and they're like i didn't have a good night's sleep i didn't really get much deep sleep and well are you giving yourself a chance to actually fall into that rhythm of sleep and a lot of people are also just talking about food as if like the junk food is the only thing there's also something called junk light when you have blue light right up in your face which is why big tech is a big part huge up in your face blue light as you stoop scroll and numb your brain that blue light is acting like it's the outside 2 p.m. light right that's exactly what it's acting like so your brain is not going to tell the difference of whether you're in nighttime or you're in daytime so if you're doing that and you're wondering why you can't sleep then think again i have the thing another thing i have in my house is red lights all over my house as a 5 p.m everything looks like sons at my house starting 5 p.m. you'll never see a like a headlight yeah because it does bring the energy down it does suit you does prep your body to like calm down it's safe to go to sleep i do watch tv i do small things here and there yes i'm not perfect in everything but i have like 9 30 10 i'm like i'm like exhausted so my even my tv time has become so much less people always worry about how am i gonna wake up early if you sleep early wake up early wake up early i don't even use an alarm anymore i literally don't have an alarm my body knows i wake up i kind of see the crack a dawn i look at my phone same time every day it's like 6 6 0 5 6 15 sometimes 5 50 like at this area is where i wake up and if your biological clock is telling you you're comfortable wake up then amazing you know it's doing something right but i love about the advice that you're giving is you're telling people when you build structure and routine and discipline then your body knows how to support you but you need to first create that safety through habits and routine i love that you're saying that because every time someone gets on my program and unfortunately i have to sell it as fat loss program you can look like this in four weeks this is what you look like this is how you will look because that's what people want if i tell them i'm gonna help you build discipline they're like no thank you crazy dude that's what i want but what you you sell them what they want and then you give them what they need and when they're in my app all the lessons start with habit building structure time block calendar discipline uh deep work uh locking and deep work how to create deep work in your life how to create purpose i'm sure they're like scrolling through the program thinking what the hell is this course like what did i sign up for where's the fat loss yeah that's all part of it you have to start here if you don't have the clean slate the discipline the habit building tools there's no way you're going to commit to the program for longer than a week and funnily enough the majority of the people that do the program when they come back to me and they do it properly tell me i can tell them how did it go they'll be like you know what the fat loss is great i'm so happy but honestly the discipline what i learned is how to be structured how to keep do boundary how to keep my boundaries intact time blocking my calendar i have so much more time now i'm working on a side hustle but thank you for the fat loss like it is it becomes not that mean priority yeah which is great because i don't want people also to only care about their aesthetic so much but at the same time they have the capability now to know that you're not broken that thing's wrong with you you just have to do the things correctly and you don't need these crazy weight loss hacks in order for you to get there you can do it by yourself and people lost the ability to trust themselves that is the scariest part because it's become so easy so easy to say you know what i mean i'll just take this drug for two weeks it's so easy like why do i need to do the discipline and the hard work if i could just take the drug i get it i get why people resort to it because they stop trusting in their ability to do it and if i have one mission with this program is to tell people you can do it by yourself you will do it by yourself i don't care if you're 30 or 40 or 50 you'll do it by yourself if it's just enough consistent days in a row of following it exactly as is it's not rocket science it's not my own curated program it's what people are talking about the experts are talking about it you're just not listening to the right experts and that is the issue what i loved about which is why i wanted you to come on the show is that you're taking people back to themselves you're helping people return home and i think there's so many gurus and doctors and stuff fear mongering you online don't do this but buy this but that you're not telling them to buy anything you're telling them you're gonna fix them this way you're telling them i'm gonna give you the tools and resources to teach you how to be fully independent within your own body and that decision will lead to so many other great things better relationships better being at work quality time with friends quality time with family and really empowering the individual which is the complete opposite of what people want you to do you know the thing with empowering the individual that is a key element if you just check out the program the key thing that i talk about is every single expert why what i read which book i want you to do your own research i want you to continue and double down on that ask questions if there's anything you want me to research i'll do the research for you a lot of people are busy they don't have the time i have the time i will do the research but i keep mentioning the different expert advice that i'm reading upon check out this book guys you need to listen to this doctor right because they need to know that this information is free they're not gonna get the information from me like it's some secret and absolutely it is free but most people don't know where to look so i've consolidated everything everywhere but where they come to you is for the accountability and for the community that is with the only thing that you can't get randomly so if i'm able to structure it for you in a way that's digestible and easy to understand so you could trust yourself again i feel supportive and if you support it that's amazing that's amazing and i'm there for you that's that's the idea you know are you somebody that's also training with your cycle because i know a lot of people talk about that i don't i don't have time to like cycle train you know with time of the month that i'm in and what workouts i'm doing i'm somebody who loves to lift weight so it doesn't matter what day of the week it is i lift four to five times a week look i have my structure okay i now lift three times a week i do yoga twice a week i do a functional training once a week and i play paddle okay so i had to cut down the weight training because i want to enjoy these different sports when i used to train six times a week i enjoy these things but i am very in tune with my body so even around my cycle let's say i'm at you know almost about i just about to get my period or at the beginning of my cycle like i know that my period day onwards i'm a beast i feel it like of course that's when you're supposed to lift the most and that's when i do lift the most even the day one of my period you know i have no problem i lift like a beast but i feel a bit lethargic and groggy before but it doesn't change my routine personally i still go to the gym on the days that i said i'm going i still do the yoga on the days that i said i don't say this these two weeks i'm not going to go to the gym because this is my whatever the tio phase or whatever i go but i get it some people i just don't i don't want to give in to the biology necessarily if i don't feel that i need to but what i do do is if i do feel lethargic i tell my trainer i'm not i'm just not feeling it so it's not going to be a hundred kilos today it's probably going to be eighty yeah i get it i get it no problem or my hips thrust are bothering me you know your hips start hurting right before you're back i'm like i just i don't feel it today my hips are a bit tight like after i get my period i'll be better but i'm there at the gym anyway because it makes me feel good so you know i don't train necessarily around my period but i'm so in tune with how i feel around my cycle that i know what to like you know put up the breaks you're also somebody who's working in multiple different things at the same time right how do you not lose your vision with being in the grind so much how do you give yourself a break hard i mean you're asking me at a week that i was drowning yeah i know the fear like i know it was not a good week this week yeah yeah i hear you say drowning so it's not a great feeling and i would like to be better at like planning my weeks properly so that not everything is like energy days how i intensity days but i don't have high intensity days every day all the time but i do have weeks at a time that come this way i have gotten way better at rejecting opportunity which used to be so hard for me because i come from a place where i was begging for opportunity i need that job i need that money i need that in i come from a place that i needed it so bad that i would feel like i'm disappointing myself and letting myself down if i didn't take it how can i say no to five thousand dollars extra how can i say no to this person wanting to invite me on his podcast and maybe i get more visibility for on their platform and then in due course you realize that what as you grow in business and you become better at it you become more in demand people want to talk to you more they want to work with you more then you're in a position of power that you could choose i can now say no thank you i know it's a great offer ten thousand dollars is great but i can say no today to ten thousand because if i keep procrastinating on what i'm doing now that may make me a hundred thousand in two years or one year then because i keep saying yes to these little things right then it just pushes you off track so i think the only way i learned how to do it and i only learned this recently i would say the last two years is i really do say no not as nearly as much as i should but i say no a lot a lot a lot what you eat me alive you see me alive shit maybe i don't get the opportunity again but you have to it has to be those really important things that you focus on nothing gets done if you don't focus as i open mama boozas because investors like our partners approached us and said look you guys are great in marketing and and my husband's good he has an agency creative and branding and marketing i'm like you guys know how to do this we have great flavors can you help us we're like great we want to invest in a brand let's do it and as we did that we have multiple brands approach us and a lot of that we have to say no to because how much can you possibly first your time when i have the podcasts and i have untraceable and have branding so now we just do select like really really exclusive brands that are really cool that have a very good potential we think about the investments i have to say no to multiple options now it's really hard one of the things like getting to know you and seeing done it interviewing you is you have really strong value systems and you are somebody who has very high integrity when you understand what your value systems are and you operate from a place of integrity the things that don't align with that you will learn to say no to the older you get and the more you get to know yourself and my mom when she was alive she'd always say something if something is meant for you a person a place or an opportunity no matter what happens nobody is somebody tries to take it away from you maybe that timing is all right it will always come back into your life so sometimes when you're feeling overwhelmed at that moment it's not a yes but knowing that something belongs to you having that faith that it will return back into life when you're ready is very liberating i also have a lot of faith and with faith i have this this unwavering thought or or or belief that if something is supposed to be for me and i work hard enough at it so those come together because people usually take the first one yeah and if something meant for me it will come yeah but you have to work towards that to work towards exactly something meant for me and i work hard enough to figure out a way to get there it will either be mine or if it's not meant to be for me i truly believe god is saying i know you think that baby i know you think this is going to be for you listening better out there for you just i know it hurts now but you'll see and i swear to you time i mean that's why we listen to our parents and say when they would tell us when our kids trust me i know it's because time and experience shows a little the repetition of the pattern like it happened to me all throughout my 20s and throughout my 30s the times i got fired the times i lost money the times i went into a bad deal and i'm like how is this happening to me and in due course you always see on high side that it was meant for the right reason it was a lesson you needed to learn it was the redirection into the better project that came like you have to trust if you have faith it helps a lot i think as a human beings don't realize that our capacity to still think and manifest is still limited to comparison to god he has this master plan for you and you can only manifest or desire at the at the place that you are today but where you're going to go to with that faith is so much more and i think that's where spirituality and having some sort of belief in something bigger than you is so important because that becomes a guiding light in your life to be like maybe i think this is what all there is for me but there's so much greater out there for me that i can't as the version of me that i am today imagine that so true you know it's it's if it's not for the faith at all if it's for one thing it's just to ground yourself because most of us walk around like narcissists thinking the world revolves around oh my problems my issues i can't believe this happened to me the bank did this to me the second you're believing something bigger than you like god spirituality meditation any the universe anything that's bigger than you and you humble yourself to pray or to find some calm you realize wait a second trace your problems are not that big you're okay even if it's for selfish reason yeah do it because most of the time people think it's me me me about what i want what's happening to me and that voice in your head that's talking to you behind somewhere know that that's god telling you you have to do this thing or yeah it's going to be okay or come on i know like you know that thing at pester's you like you don't do this thing you did do the rabbit hole yeah that's that's direction and you're not going to hear it unless you take some time that to pause and listen when you're distracting yourself you won't hear that you won't hear the voice you know i had a major thing happen to me with work this week and the team start panic and stuff and i said guys it's going to be okay it's going to go through as it's meant to go through we need to know that we're on the right path and to take a step back it's up to this with going backwards you can actually go forwards and understand that this is exactly an alignment with what you're meant to be doing right so true i wanted to leave our community with one piece of advice that you think all women should incorporate if they want to live happier healthier more liberating lives and have better relationships even with their partners what would that be i would say resilience and control over your emotions is very important to navigate everything if you want a good relationship with your co-workers with your husband you need to know how to be resilient to the difficult things that happen you need to be able to take the criticism take the feedback give feedback for work the same thing you know not to be emotionally triggered by everything you know to really learn how to adapt to the difficult things in life like things come at you the even the bigger you grow i mean in my 20s my problems were nowhere near as big as they are now now the money problems are bigger the opportunity opportunity bigger a family problems are bigger there's more fear there's a there it is scary okay it's scary life is like this and if you don't have the emotional capacity to deal then it's going to really slap you in the face your problems are no different to anybody else's the only difference is how you choose to deal versus how someone else chooses to deal and if you could just practice the art of having control over your emotions and knowing how to manage those things and the difficult scenarios then it may be a little bit easier i'm i was laughing when you were saying that because of theme in my life for the last two weeks as being emotional mastery it was probably one of my biggest Achilles heels and it's like when you learn to master your emotions and you don't you're not so reactive but yet you go back to a place of being an observer and sitting back and let things play out and then decide your decision where you're landing on things you will feel so free and liberated within yourself because nothing outside is dictating what's going on internally in you it's so true i love that you said that that is spot on i'm going to start using that too right and you were saying it out like this is literally Tracy being my lesson for two weeks you know this would have been going through where can the people find you online i'm on instagram and straight through our mouche they could find me on my podcast on youtube what they don't tell us i also have the self-optimization app if they wanted to it's to take back control i know we talk about biohacking a lot and everyone's like looking forward to how all this tech that they could do or like you know the ice plunges but you can't ice plunge your way to the basics right so basics first you can find that di y yourself into proper biohacking untraceable dot com undash traceable dot com on my website thank you for being such an inspiration and i am so excited that i found your page so long ago and i was like when i go to the millease to batch she is somebody i'm bringing on i'm so glad that i'm talking to you because i feel like you and i have were very similar in many ways and i mean it's it's it's always great to meet someone that have like similar passions and similar values so in some ways i see you know i always say like attracts like when you're at that place other people will come into your life at the same time that align with your energy then align with your value systems and that's really how community is built right it's about supporting each other it's so true thank you for having me i really appreciate you thank you traze thank you for tuning into biohack it if you've enjoyed today's episode please don't forget to subscribe rate and leave a short review it really helps us reach more listeners just like you follow us on instagram at biohack-it for inclusive content and the latest 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