Thanks for listening to my call of the day, Bunk Served by Vibrian Supersea Serum, My Personal Solution. For smoother, more hydrated skin, Supersea Serum is a full line of skin care products all in one line. Get 37% off plus free shipping by going to Vibrians.com slash Dr. Laura. Remember, you can hear my radio program daily on Sirius XM Triumph and connect with me 24-7 at Dr. Laura.com. And the Lee. Welcome to the program. Hi. Hi, Dr. Laura. I have a question for you. I'm hoping you can help me feeling a little bit of, I'm feeling conflicted about, well, I live with, on my adult daughter, this with me. Do you have a husband? I don't. Did you ever have one? I did. Yes, we've been divorced for about 10 years. Well, we've been separated for about 20 years. Well, yeah. OK, then. And your daughter, has she ever been married? Does she have kids? No, she's never been married and she doesn't have kids. And how old is she again? She's 33. And why is she moving in with you? She's, we've always, she's always lived with me. Is there something wrong with her? No, she's perfectly capable of living alone. She's just, well, most young people really want their own digs, their privacy and control over their lives. What's her story? I know. Maybe she's, I'm thinking maybe she's afraid to be on her own or maybe she thinks I need her here. I don't know. You really don't. I have a question. Which of those is true? Come on, you know. This is true. I don't know. I'm just a little afraid to be on her own. And how are you going to get her over that fear if you keep her in your house? Well, yeah, I guess you're right. I think it's part of it to me I like her here too. That's right. This is for you. It's not in her best interest. Anyway, what did you call about? Mm-hmm. So we got a dog. We lost our dog about five years ago and just have had a lot of moves. I lost my house in a fire. A while ago, we just moved around a lot, just trying to find a home. I think we have a home now and we're settled where we're living. And we've got a dog. We've been wanting a dog. And I'm just not real happy with having the dog here. It's very, very big. And I tend to be like clean freak. It's my fault. I tend to maybe have too many expectations. And I think she's feeling really overwhelmed. Not wanting to, you know, can't meet those expectations. So we're just bonking heads on that. And I guess I'm just calling for a little bit. So she's not in charge of cleaning up after the dog you are. JP Morgan Payments helps you drive efficiency with automated payments and intelligent algorithms across 200 countries and territories. That's automation driven finance. That's JP Morgan Payments. JP Morgan Internal Data 2024 Copyright 2025, JP Morgan Chase & Company, All Rights Reserve, JP Morgan Chase Bank, and a member FDIC. Deposit's held non-US branches are not FDIC insured, non-deposit products are not FDIC insured. This is not a legal commitment for credit or services. Availability varies, eligibility determined by JP Morgan Chase. Visit jpmorgan.com slash payments disclosure for details. Well, maybe we just have different standards of clean. She does, you know, she's paying rent. She doesn't pay rent, but she's paying the taxes on my home and she pays all the utilities. And we started out with no furniture because of the fire. She's bought all the furniture. So how old is the dog? She's about a year and a half now. She's a great peer in these mix. And when we got her. How come you two wanted a huge dog and now you don't want a huge dog? You didn't want a huge dog. You didn't want a huge dog. The place where we got her, where we live, is this massive building that just didn't look that big. And then we walked her out side in. She did look as big as the building. She didn't want the correct answer. You will not accept. So what can I say to you? What's the correct answer that I will not accept? She needs to get a place of her own with her dog so that you can live in the way you choose. And she's got to start actual life separate from her mommy and she'll take her dog with her. That's the correct answer, but you don't want to be alone. So she's not going to be free till you're dead. And then it'll be two years later. You don't want to be free till you're dead. And then it'll be too late for her to establish herself as a unique person in the world. And you're probably going to live another 20 years. The dog will be dead. You don't think you can have to wait about 10 years and then the dog will be dead because those big dogs don't last as long as little ones. So can you brave it out for 10? And stop fighting about it? I mean, why make your home a miserable place? You either want the home to be sparkling clean and miserable or not so sparkling clean and friendly. Okay. Yeah, I get the choice. I get that. So I get that. You want it to be at home or a sparkling home. You can only have one. You can't have both. You can't have both. Yeah. Yeah. I do want to have a happy home. But I also want her to be on her own. Yeah, I know you don't. You don't. You were honest about that in the beginning of the call. I'm so confused. No, you're not. So you were very wise. You said, either she's scared or I need her to stay here. You were honest. I don't think you realized you were as honest as you were. How do I go into this conversation? Do I just push her out the door? Do I say it's okay? I'm going to send you a copy of our call and you can listen to her. Listen to it a few times with her and discuss it. Okay. Okay. Giving you that option. I don't want to make my people make the effort if you're not going to do it. No, I do want that option. Okay. I'm going to put you on hold. We'll send you a copy. You listen to it with her. 1-800-375-28-72. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. 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