Handsome

Pretty Little Episode #80

22 min
Feb 27, 2026about 2 months ago
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Summary

The Handsome Pod hosts discuss intentional joy-building practices and share LA travel recommendations for a listener's 30th birthday trip. The episode features personal stories about reconnecting with friends, family time, and finding happiness in small daily moments.

Insights
  • Intentional joy practices like reconnecting with friends, daily movement, and unplugging from phones significantly improve mental health during difficult periods
  • Work-life balance requires actively prioritizing family time and small daily rituals over career ambitions to maintain long-term happiness
  • Accessible tourism experiences like hop-on-hop-off bus tours provide effective city exploration for visitors unfamiliar with sprawling metropolitan areas
  • Micro-moments of connection—coffee walks, reading time, family impressions—generate more sustained joy than major life events
  • Creative personal projects (like documenting 50 hot dogs) combine passion with community engagement as a joy-building strategy
Trends
Wellness tourism and experiential travel gaining popularity among millennials celebrating milestone birthdaysSkincare technology and beauty machine adoption increasing among entertainment industry professionalsWork scheduling flexibility becoming negotiable benefit for performers balancing touring and film productionFamily-centered lifestyle prioritization over career advancement among high-profile entertainersMicro-content creation around food experiences as personal joy documentation and social sharing
Topics
Mental Health and Intentional Joy BuildingWork-Life Balance in Entertainment IndustryFamily Time and Relationship PrioritizationLos Angeles Tourism and Travel PlanningHiking and Outdoor Activities in LAComedy Tour Scheduling and ReschedulingSkincare Technology and Beauty ProductsPersonal Documentary FilmmakingEyelid Surgery Recovery PlanningDaily Wellness Rituals and RoutinesFood Experiences and Hot Dog TastingNeighborhood and Community EngagementMorning Routine OptimizationPet Companionship and Mental HealthCreative Personal Projects
Companies
Skims
Kim Kardashian provided Skims loungewear and pink fuzzy slippers to podcast hosts during film production.
People
Eva Longoria
Director of the film currently in production with the hosts; known for meticulous preparation and clear creative vision.
Kim Kardashian
Provided skincare machines and Skims loungewear to hosts; offered to demonstrate beauty technology usage.
Andrew
Documentary subject who wrote poem 'The Little Things' about finding joy in small moments.
Stephanie
Family member prioritized by host for daily quality time including coffee walks and reading sessions.
Joe Rogan
Referenced humorously when hosts joked about renaming their podcast to match his show format.
Quotes
"I started to reconnect with friends more. I started reaching out to people more. And that was really nice. That was a good way to like just stay connected and not isolate."
Fortune Feimster
"I just started to really feel like, gosh, what am I choosing to do with my time here while I'm watching a friend want for every last second?"
Mae Martin
"Those little moments I just am... it is those little tiny things that, like you're saying, sitting on a bench, spending time with your dog or your mother or whoever it is calling your friends. That's what it is. Utter joy."
Mae Martin
"Every morning I have a mandatory five-minute dance party. I have committed to trying one brand new thing every month. And I have been documenting my journey of trying 50 new hot dogs."
Corinne (listener)
"Get on that top of the double decker there's no roof and somebody just drives you around and you have the option to plug in headphones to hear the history of the town."
Tig Notaro
Full Transcript
This is a HeadGum Podcast. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not checking how to hang a curtain before I try to hang a curtain. Mistakes were made. Some do-it-yourself jobs can quickly turn into hire someone else jobs. Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions, and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company and affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. Handsome Pot. Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pot. Chatting with friends on the Handsome Pot. Pretty little episode. Hello. Hello. Hi, Fortune. It's Tig. Hey, Tig. How are you? I'm great. You look good. Do you want to introduce everyone? Yeah, this is the Joe Rogan experience. Is that what his show is called? The Joe Rogan experience, right? I believe so, yeah. Okay, yeah. So that's a real curveball. People didn't realize they were subscribed. Sounds like an NPR show. Hello. Well, welcome. Welcome. That's right. Hi. We're just hanging out. Do you want me to say welcome to the Handsome Pods Pretty Little Episode? Oh, yes. That's what we were missing. That's Tig over there. That's Fortune over there. What if Joe Rogan had Pretty Little Episodes? All of a sudden? Yeah. I don't think his listeners would be into Pretty Little Episodes. I don't think so. No, I don't either. Where are you? Are you home? I'm home in L.A. Yeah, this was a rare weekend at home, but I'm filming right now. Oh, how's that going? It's going really good. Good. It's a whirling dervish because it's a big movie that they're doing in two months. And the four of us are in like almost every scene. So it's every day. It's just like so many pages and lots of it's one of the few projects I've had where there's very little downtime. You know, normally in movies, you're like sitting around forever and waiting on things to get set up and lights. This one moves. Yeah. Well, you're one of the stars of it, right? So that would make you busier. That's true. Yeah. That too. Yeah. But also our director is Eva Longoria. And she is very, very prepared. um and uh like very like she knows exactly what she wants exactly yeah so that's great nice yeah well cool it's a lot of girl power yes you gotta have that you can't make movies without girl power that's right well it's funny because the golf show i just did was a lot of dudes sure it's very man heavy and this one's all late a lot of ladies so mad power kim gave us some skincare um i thought you looked good thank you some skincare machines for our pretty skin and some skims loungewear so you know i'm just i'm being my most pretty little lady self on this shoot than i ever have and what are face machines like you remember my vibrator for my face fortune remember this fortune it's like something like this but way more high tech okay okay and it's got lights and things and you put it on your face did you show that to kim and was she like girl no no she didn't even know i had anything oh but she discovered this machine that she was really into yeah i mean you know there's all those it's just like you roll you roll your face with them i don't know you roll your face with i've got to actually youtube how to use how to use this maybe kim can do a youtube video she did tell us to let her know if we needed her to show us how to work it and i think it actually would be pretty hilarious to have her showing me how to use beauty care machines and you didn't stop her and say you mean work it and then start working it that's right wait tell me are you getting a question from kim um i will work my way up to that i'm still getting to know her it sounds like no i don't i don't like to ask right off the bat you know i like to i like to work work my way there ease into the sequel uh-huh yeah you're gonna ask her for the sequel or the prequel is there a is there room for a prequel to this movie maybe yeah okay yeah there's a prequel to everything there should be a handsome prequel who would that be who would play us yeah young version there there is a young version of me in this movie it's kind of a trip who is it anyone i know no oh how young young like i think like 15 or something maybe. That is adorable. I know. Yours would be someone who looks like you and Tom Cruise. Yeah, who is that? Who are the young versions of the three of us? That's a really interesting... Would it be young Sheldon? For me? For me? Yeah. That is hilarious because the guy Ian who plays him his mother showed me a picture of Ian where everyone thought Ian looked like Tom Cruise See? Wow, you're on to something. Okay, so wrong gender, but okay, so Ian and then. Just throw some glasses on. Also, by the way, it just dawned on me it was the wrong gender. I was like okay yeah Ian could play a young tick okay and then who is a young you? I don't know. Who's a young May? A young May would be I don't know who the young actors are right now Could it be Thomas? Thomas without the stache I know that's we need someone younger because this would be like what early 20s Or maybe we get a male handsome. Yeah. Whatever. We can figure this out later. Mine would be Chunk from the Goonies. Thomas could be a young me since he has the mustache. That's true. You rock a good fake mustache. It's not fake fortune. Have you been touring a lot? No, I had to unfortunately reschedule a bunch of shows because of this movie. But you've been touring on the weekends. I did do a weekend of shows, Valentine's weekend, because the movie gave me the okay to do those. Yeah. And then I'll do San Diego in early March because I can drive down there. But then my tour will resume the beginning of April. Love it. And then I'll be on the path to trying to get ready to film another special late fall. Okay. And then I'm going to be recovering, hopefully, from my eyelid surgery. That's right. Right after the Oscars. Oscars. And all of that. I'll be taking several weeks off. I mean, you know, hopefully I can do things like podcast, but I'm not going to be torn. Just wear sunglasses. Yeah, yeah. We won't care. And real mustaches. That's right. Well, I love it. I love you too. Should we get into our questions? Let's do it. Hi, Handsome Pod. My name's Corinne, and I'm from Houston, Texas. So last year was pretty rough for me and for a lot of people around me. So this year I decided to start being more intentional about experiencing and creating joy every single day. A lot of my friends have asked for examples of ways to do this. So my question for each of you is, what are some ways that you intentionally bring joy into your life or some ways that you would like to? Corinne, good question. It is definitely the time to try to wrangle up some joy, right? Mm-hmm. We need some joy wrangling. Well, I mean, last year was rough for me as well. So I get you. I get you, girl. I think for me, when I was really going through it, especially the earlier part of last year, I started to reconnect with friends more. I started reaching out to people more. And that was really nice. That was a good way to like just stay connected and not isolate. And that helps me stay in a better mood. And I would also like if I was just had a lot of thoughts on my mind. We talked about before, I would go find a bench somewhere like in a park. Sometimes I had my dog with me. That was really nice. So we would just sit there chilling and, you know, kind of people watching and just sort of like not on my phone, sort of being. and just trying to just appreciate things a little bit and not get too sucked into the thoughts of things not going well. Breakfast burritos helped. Love those. That's good. What about you, Tay? I mean, you know, I had a real awakening, I think, when I was working on the documentary and I was living in Toronto and I was away from my family, I just started to really feel like, gosh, what am I choosing to do with my time here while I'm watching a friend want for every last second? Right. And then how, and I know I've talked about it on the podcast, but how to find that balance of like working and doing these things I want to do. Yeah. But also really prioritizing my number one focus, which is Stephanie and the boys and our little kitty city. And so I think that, I mean, I hate to sound cheesy, but I can't pretend like it's anything other than this. But when I get to go hang out with Stephanie and the boys and just taking a walk through our little village in our neighborhood and going to eat or the bookstore. We also do reading time at the end of the day where everyone reads for like 15 minutes and then talks about what they read. those little moments I just am and then I know I've talked about this but even in the mornings when Stephanie and I have our coffee and then we take our morning walk together those are the things that I desperately missed when I was gone all the time And the level of joy that those and you know funny enough in the documentary Andrew has a poem called The Little Things, but that is what it is. It is those little tiny things that, like you're saying, sitting on a bench, spending time with your dog or your mother or whoever it is calling your friends I really you know it's that's what it is like utter joy utter joy and in those hangout moments getting to experience our son's silliness you know Max does incredible impressions and we all sit around and he does impersonations of friends of theirs, friends of ours, people from TV. And so that's just really, really fun to just sit and laugh and connect with everyone. Like just the best. And a pile of kitties lying around, you know. And a cute little Pomeranian. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not packing my headphones when I go on the road? Now I'm on the airplane unwillingly overhearing a conversation about toenail fungus. Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary, subject to terms, conditions, and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company and affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. But man, listen to or read Andrew's poem, The Little Things. I think it really puts some stuff into perspective. Yeah. Well, I think in general, too, like my mom getting sick right when my life was falling apart really put like all of that into perspective, too. Like, yeah, I was like so sad for so long and just everything was just kind of like spiraling. And then she got sick, like right at the same time my relationship was coming to an end. Yeah. And it just kind of put me in this other orbit. Yeah. I was just like, OK, you got to you only have so much time with people. Yeah. Like, let's let's not wallow in the in the bad stuff. Let's focus on time together and good things. Yeah. Yeah. That stuff definitely puts things in perspective. Yeah. There's so many little celebratory moments you can have in your day to day that I highly recommend getting into. Yeah. And also jams, putting on some music. Also jams, like grape jam. Also jams as in jellies. Yeah. Like use those. Shoulder shimmies for sure. Yeah. That's what we think. Does Corinne have an answer? Let's hear what Corinne said. Yeah. Every morning I have a mandatory five-minute dance party. I have committed to trying one brand new thing every month. And I have been documenting my journey of trying 50 new hot dogs, which is my favorite food, to share that joy with the world. Okay. Thanks. love you all and love the podcast 50 new hot dogs 50 new hot dogs all right i mean how does she just casually say that like we're gonna like you know just like yeah of course you gotta try 50 new hot dogs i didn't know there were more than five hot dogs i mean different places i think like whatever i i would assume you're buying the same five different hot dogs at different restaurants they're just making them different i like that she has a dance party yeah do you know what also puts me in a good mood oh you want to guess okay no no no i don't need to spend time guessing what is it pink fuzzy slippers that feels like it could go to the same tune as big chunky scissors i forgot how that tune goes the big chunky scissors yeah so let's do it with slippers Big fuzzy pink slippers. I got my big pink fuzzy slippers on. We're going to have some phone. Did you purchase those? No. Did you purchase those for yourself? Or did somebody say, I know what she wants? No, this was from Kim Kardashian. Okay. These are Skims. Oh, okay. Big pink fuzzy slippers. And do they only come in pink? I don't know. But I am wearing them. Is she trying to femme you up? Yeah, I'm a real femme bitch now. Yeah, I shuffle around silently in our house in slippers and terrify Stephanie with every turn because she does not hear me. They're like clung shit. I did not want to draw attention to how big. I can't believe how big, I mean, how dare Kim make a slipper that big pink? It's like clown shoe slippers. It should be army fatigue design rather than pink. It's pretty funny, but I live by myself, so who cares? Yeah, nobody cares. Next question. Hey Hansomes My name is Sarah I am originally from Vancouver I actually Calgary but I lived in Vancouver for a long time in Canada And I actually live in San Francisco right now And my 30th birthday is at the end of February. And I'm going with my new husband, which is very exciting. And we're going to go to LA, which I've never been to before. And since all three of you live in LA. I was wondering if you had any recommendations. We're going for basically a long weekend. Yeah, please, please send them my way. Um, I'd love to hear it. And thanks. Love you guys and love the pod. Love you too. I got my LA hat on. You really do. And you got your big pink slippers. Well, did Sarah say when she was coming? Well, at the end of February, if you would pay attention to Sarah. Oh, so like right now. Uh-huh. And if Sarah... I hope she gets this in time. ...even spends half a second listening to this podcast, she would know my number one recommendation is what? Um, hold on. Oh, wait. Mm-hmm. Your number one recommendation would be... Number one. Number one would be... I've said it many times, And clearly you and Sarah don't listen to the podcast. What is it? Do you want me to tell you? To go to Largo for a show, to go to the beach, to go to a vegan restaurant. Sure. All of those things. But number one is go on the hop on hop off bus tour. Oh, that's right. You love those. Just like my mom. I love them. And you can laugh at me all you want. But guess who loves them now? Stephanie and our little cubs because it's a great way to see the city. It's so great especially if you have a few days get on that top of the double decker there's no roof and somebody just drives you around and you have the option to plug in headphones to hear the history of the town and the you know sites that you're passing or don't put them on at all and just chill and have a peek and enjoy the ride. And then you'll see, oh, I want to get back to that area. Ooh, I like this spot. I want to, this looks cute. And then you take little notes and you go back. Uh-huh. So that's what I suggest, Sarah, for the millionth time. That is actually a great suggestion because LA is massive. It is a big city and it's very spread out. So a bus would not be a bad way to hit the hot spots. No. So, yeah, I think Tig's suggestion is great. It's the correct answer. If you're a hiking person, a lot of people love Fryman Canyon. No, not Fryman. That's more for local. Either Griffith Park hike or Laurel. Is it Laurel Canyon? Runyon Canyon? Runyon. Runyon Canyon. No, no, no. Go to Griffith Park. And then after your hike, go to the Trails Cafe and get the vegan sandwich. Oh, my Lord. Oh, my Lord. That is a good suggestion. L.A. is a big hiking city. So a hike, if you're an outdoorsy kind of gal, the beach is always great. Hermosa Beach is really beautiful. That's a little bit more of a drive. But Santa Monica is the closest one. What else? we have lots of entertainment out here you can go to if you want to see like Largo always has good comedians Dynasty Typewriter they have like you know the sports teams if you're into sports there's so many different sports teams here there's a lot to do actually there really is Sarah you're gonna be fine you're gonna be just fine hopefully we got that to you just in time hopefully you're on the plane right now headed to LA listening to this. Hopefully you're on the hop on hop off bus right now listening to this. Now, the rest of you people listening, please submit your questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com slash handsome pod. All right. And also check out my tour dates on tignotaro.com. I have local LA shows as well as other nationwide wide tour dates. Also, apologies. Some have been canceled or rescheduled, but hang in there with me. That's right. Same here. I'm on tour San Diego in a couple of weeks and then the rest of my tour starts back up in April and all those dates will be that I had to reschedule. I'll be getting to and it'll be so fun, but we appreciate you guys. And until next time, keep it pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Tig Notaro, Mae Martin, and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Ouellette. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com. Follow us on social media at handsomepod. What a podcast! That was a hate gum podcast. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not checking that your piñata is full of candy before letting the kids have at it. On the other hand, never fun. You're about to be contending with a whole pack of disappointed 10-year-olds. Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary subject to terms, conditions, and availability. 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