From Super Bowl to Setback to Success ft. Setema Gali | Coffeez for Closers with Joe Shalaby

Welcome to another episode of coffees for closers today. We're sitting with a very special guest former Super Bowl champion The founder CEO of Gamechanger Mr. Satima galley welcome to another episode of coffees Big Joe good to be here with you. Thank you for having you. Thank you. Thank you I know you get this a lot, you know, you're almost the rocks twin That is a compliment and I'm grateful for his success because it makes it easy to break the ice with people Yeah, it definitely does. Yeah, so Steve, I like to start the show off. What's your morning routine morning routine It consists of suited my feet hit the get hit the ground gratitude. I got something I call conscious self-creation It's a visualization exercise in the mirror while I brush my teeth and groom up And then I do something called a daily focus where I gratitude targets for the day Electrolytes protein food and I'm off to the gym. So I it's pretty dialed in I mean, it's clock where it's easy for me Yeah, I don't know how much I mean, that's it in a nutshell, but that's the morning routine now Now give the audience a 10,000 foot overview of what is it that Gamechangers does? So game changer, you know in 1995 I was a missionary from a church 19 years old and my mission president You know the leader of our mission gave me a book called seven habits By Stephen Coving. So he's like, I think you should read this. So I opened the book and start reading it Like rocked my world. He talks about a paradigm shift as I'm reading the book this thing in my heart said You are supposed to do what Covey has done for you. You're supposed to do that for others So back then there was no programs and there's no courses like there are today But in my mind I'd see Jim Rohn Zig Ziglar Tony Robbins Darren Hardy like these big speakers and I'm like I'm supposed to do that I'm supposed to change lives and inspire and breathe life into people move their heart and soul And so game changer is a culmination of the last In three decades of work of coaching mentoring leadership results for clients and in a nutshell I would say if you feel called to do something Significant in the domain of changing lives of sharing your talents and gifts with the world to make the world a better place Game changer is for you. That's what we do We help you become the person who breaks generational curses Who shifts the trajectory and changes the entire future? Of course makes your ancestors proud who are watching from wherever they're at like he's doing it or she's doing it I love that now you do that in one speaking session a series of courses You know, how long does it take for that transformation to occur? You know, we have we have Two-day seminars three-day seminars. I wrote a book called game changer. We're just releasing that right now People can get their free book. They just pay for the shipping. I have a podcast called game changer and There's a number of ways just depending on where someone feels comfortable investing right time energy and money But I love just even if I can speak one time and have someone feel and see and hear Experience a shift Then I've done my job now if I get an opportunity to work with people longer term like I've had clients stay with me for four or five years Then that's what we do But curriculum from a keynote speech to a podcast such as this I'm grateful Joe All the way to spending four days with me and or one or two three four or five years Wow, yeah, do you do them in Vegas you do them local here? Yeah, we do them in Vegas We used to run everything out of here right in Southern, California, right the Cliffs Laguna That was our spot for a long time over down at Dana Point And then I was in Destin, Florida and now I'm in Vegas. So we run everything out of Vegas now Nice nice now. What was it like, you know growing up here? Are you from a football family like the rock like? Well, I'm from just a family of musicians and entertainers and dancers and I'm the only one that played football And so then coming up with the family of nine kids grateful for my parents who came from the Islands of Samoa so grateful for them We just kind of figured out everyone has their own path and I early on wanted to play football. I loved it I was like, I'm pretty good at this game and I think I'm gonna take it to the next level. So nine seven eight siblings. Yeah Wow and Awesome some Owens are all pretty pretty. I'm not the biggest dude of my family. I'll put it that way I'm the most handsome. I'm kidding not kidding But I'm not the biggest one in my family, but all my brothers are all size 15 shoe Six four six five six four six three six four big boys 300 pounds give or take Well, and your parents are big like that. There's my parents are tiny man. My dad is probably like, I don't know five seven My mom is maybe five seven. They're not tall. Really? Yeah That's crazy. Now, how did how do you think your roots shaped you to become who you are today? That's a great question, Joe You know Polynesian people we are like warriors and we sail the seas and we're guided by the stars in the heavens. So family culture Every time I talk about my parents I Grateful so grateful for Their sacrifices for their work they put in for coming to this country for giving me a shot So, you know family first hard work There's nothing given you got to go earn it Putting again respect for your elders respect for your parents even to this day I'm almost 50 years old and I still one of my drivers that drives me and pushes me is to make my mom and dad proud I mean just to I want them to just be like That's our boy. That's our son It's amazing. That's amazing even to this day and are they with us still yeah, but they live in Utah Are they divorced both remarried? but so I have two sets of parents who are amazing and So much love and respect for my parents. I'm grateful You know I as a you get older right and you look at your parents and a lot of people want to blame their parents there They blame their mom and dad for whatever. I'm like, you know our parents Did the best they could with what they had because I'm a parent and I'm doing the best that I can with what I have to Help my sons be the best they can be and prepare them for life So my family my culture my Polynesian roots. I'm so grateful so so grateful for the way that I was raised It's incredible. So all nine kids were from one mom. Yeah And then she divorced and then we divorced and then I have two more from My stepmom a younger sister and brothers Thursdays like 11 and I have a for your dad My dad did he have more kids within? Yeah, so my stepmom my dad and my stepmom had two more But my mom once she had her she was done and she got me and she's like yeah, cuz he already they again Blended family on my mom and step dad's side. So It's a lot of a lot of family my kids a lot of food big food bill Yeah What's he grew up in I grew up in Utah or Utah Provo Utah. So you guys are Mormon? Yeah, yeah Mormon I'm a little I may not be your average Mormon, but I believe in God believe in Christ. I love the Book of Mormon Love the scriptures. I love serving people. I love making a difference for people and really trying to live My purpose on this planet. So when I go I Leave the you know, I empty the tank. I've lived my life. Let's see apostle Paul says I fought a good fight Fight fought a good fight. I finished my course kept the faith and again. I do the best that I can every single day God bless you. Thank you now before football Who was the team of galley? You know, huh who was sat in my I grew up Physically weak. I was never strong was never like really coordinated athletic. I mean, I was big, but I wasn't strong. I Love the dance Polynesian dancing. I loved singing and music and I was just a very just Feel like I always was blessed to have this positive mentality again. I Accredited credit God to that And then this football came in football was that the hill cause you know that allowed me to To work hard to set goals to have ambition to overcome adversity And they become just a stronger physically and mentally and spiritually persons more spiritual person. So Again, I love music. I do a lot of singing we sing in church with my boys Used to do a lot of luau's entertaining guitar music harmonizing and but I think that my favorite thing to do is I Don't think my favorite thing is just really making a difference for people like lifting someone's life helping them smile Helping them see something they couldn't see helping them solve a problem. That's getting in the way And you know, what did you what did the young satema? What did you believe was possible when you were young? You know, that's a great question Growing up It's like I knew I had this concept of if you work hard You can achieve But when I became like my freshman year of high school is when I wrote in my journal I'm gonna get a scholarship to be while you had that I wrote it down And that I had this conversion to the Lord in age 14 started to pray started to read the word of God Church meant way more to me and I started to strive again and keep the commandments and do what's right And I started to see blessings Like crazy just like my life was better. I was happier There's more purpose and you know, right? I started to walk as they say the straight and narrow path. So I Love I say this often. I am the man who loves his life and I do absolutely do This is what a blessing now. What was the moment you realized that football? Was like more it was more than a dream even after you, you know, you were being under drafted and injured. Yeah, you know From my sophomore to junior year in high school So again, I wasn't very good seventh and eighth grade. It's horrible hated practice. I didn't like it I tried to get out of practice all the time. I was like, I don't want to do this But I never wanted to quit. We just we started we're gonna finish it But from my sophomore to junior year, I became addicted to the weight room Started lifting so I was a skinny 170 pound kid six four hundred seventy pounds and I hit the weight room didn't play basketball and I put on 30 pounds of muscle so in eight months eight nine months, I was about 205 and You know, you hit the gym and confidence increases and when you work out as you know, right? We were talking about you just too early when you do physical things that are hard Everything changes and so for me that going into my junior year Confidence to the roof and I was like, okay, I'm gonna get a scholarship I was offered a scholarship from a few different universities and I went to BYU and I love I mean football's been such a blessing for my life Yeah, so what are the you know top three things it's done for you? Number one it has taught me how to overcome adversity I've had five shoulder surgeries a fracture multiple concussions But in football you get knocked down to get back up So number one like you're gonna face adversity You've been there a lot of everyone faces adversities Love one passes away. Love one gets sick financial turmoil. That's the first one second one. It's just like sheer work Hard work smart work consistent work It shows you like if you want something go put in the work and then the third thing is I Find your gifts like I'm not an NBA basketball guy. I wanted to I would have rather played basketball but I got a football body and I got athletic ability and then I put in the work I put in the time So again, there's there's people who are musicians who are artists who are podcasters who are influencers to help people find your thing All right, and I believe there's more than one thing So find your gifts and find your vehicles and tools and then like go. We only got one life. So go get it Yeah, go get it now You know selling your Super Bowl ring must have really eclipsed like a lot of tough moments. Yeah What was going through your head that day you did that? Oh man So we did really well in the mortgage days back then when it was as you know easy to print money stated income stated asset no income no asset refive option orms and In 2008 when the recession hit and that economy turned we just got crushed and I wasn't ready But I was also on my way out to do what I do now So can't put food on the table We downsized from our brand new home that we built on the hill on the benches of Provo We're in this tiny 900 square foot town home. We had built an 8,000 square foot home We had the cars we lost the cars we lost everything by the time I went to sell my ring I'm yelling in my he's like three years old I'm yelling at the top of my lungs to not waste cereal and he's crying. I'm like what what am I doing? Couldn't pay the rent rent was like 1200 bucks. It's like oh my gosh, so I Knew what I did. I knew what I had and I Cried my eyes out on the way to New York City got on the plane. I'm balling like a baby Get off the plane give him the ring. He gives me cash. He inspects it and I told him I'm gonna come back and get this and he's like they never do. I'm like, what do you mean? He's like I got hundreds of rings hundreds And so I actually went back to him to go get my ring and he would I offered him big chunk of cash He wouldn't sell it. He says not yet so I text him at like once a year we stay in touch because I'll go get the ring the moment. He's ready to sell it to me. I'll get it I'll give him the cash. Well, how do you sell it like just the collectors collect? Yeah, just a collector Brother it is one of the hardest things I've ever done I want you to imagine you work your whole life or something you get to the pinnacle and then you know Maybe five six eight years later. You got to give it up. I cried because You know 50 60 guys a year get that What's it even like winning a Super Bowl like walk me through the feeling? Oh Man So you take something you work your whole life at all year lifting weights running conditioning eating watching film Injuries of surgery here surgery there winning travel and all of a sudden you get to the NFL So it's one thing to get to the NFL, right? It's another to win in the playoffs It's another to get to the Super Bowl But to win it. I mean we grown man. We walked into the It was in New Orleans. We were playing the greatest show on turf the Rams and Grown man crime my heart was filled with joy like Imagine like the pinnacle the thing you if you wanted to be the best-selling author or a musician who plays around the biggest stages or Whatever that thing is. Everyone's got a Super Bowl. Everyone's got a Super Bowl and this was the literal Super Bowl and Like when we won, you know, Venetian kicks the field go over hogging grown man are like we did it. We're hugging we're crying One of the one of the top experiences of my life for sure and the reason why is because I worked for it You know, if someone just hands you a hey, here's your Super Bowl ring There's there's no joy in that that is, you know when you work to build something when you work hard and you put in the time and the Energy the sacrifice the grit the grind determination It's just something so gratifying and so fulfilling of like and I'm like, thank you God Thank you so much for this great opportunity that I have incredible now After that low point they use went through what sparked the turnaround was it faith was it a conversation? Was it a moment of clarity? Was it? Yeah, just the feeling of rock bottom. How did you really? Get out of that So 2008 2009 sold the ring 2010 filed a bankruptcy 2011 four years and what I call like the pit of despair right the jaws of hell wide open Depressed this in this deep deep chasm and in my heart. I always knew Like I knew Satema this is just a setback for the comeback. This is just a moment like you have to overcome this You have to because you know what you want to do in my heart always desired To change lives to transform hearts and souls to shift paradigms for people. I always wanted that So even in the darkest moments and from between 2008 2011 There was something that was like said tell me you're supposed to do this. I remember praying to God I'm like, God, please like I will do anything because Everything I did in those four years nothing worked nothing worked and Then I can continue to pray to God. I was like I will do anything to get out of this hole And to get back on top And you know if you go to the Lord in the prayer like that and you're sincere and you're like serious about it You better be ready when he sends you the opportunity now honestly, I was like Just send me someone with like it like let me win the lottery or let me just easily get back on top Send me a suitcase of gashes. I mean my mind was playing weird games on me and I Got recruited to go knock doors as a door to door salesman. I'm in my mid to late 30s And I get recruited to go knock doors and I'm like Really like this is it this I got to go live in an apartment live in hotels six days a week 22 to 26 weeks a year of knocking doors And I'll never forget. I'm in easily, South Carolina in 2011 I'm out there. I can see the clouds and the winds on my face and the sun's on me. It's my first week And I was so so like kind of angry like This is it, huh? Like this is this is where I'm at. This is what I'm doing with my life And I remember just praying I was like I asked for this Okay, and I'll never forget I'm carrying like the clipboard. I Got my lanyard on I'm in this neighborhood in easing. I'm like, okay. Okay. God. I did ask for this I'm all in like I'm both to burn. I'm all in I'm not going home to this. I I'm gonna hit my goal And I just I put my shoulder on the wheel. I put my head down I put my blinders on and I went all in and I didn't stop I was like, you know the movie with Arnold the Terminator the first one where he just doesn't stop That was me. I could see the the faces of my family faces of my parents my children You know, that was my why and I was like, I'm gonna be the best or knocker ever and there were days where I was Sick and they're like, oh, just take a day off. I'm like take a day off You don't understand like these young kids were like 1922. I'm like 36 years old I'm like Now I got time to do that. I'm red bull some day quail Puking I like put me on the doors and I never just knocking and hit my goal Work like a dog that summer. I mean, I never worked. I had worked so hard before and as we're driving home from so we went from South Carolina To Georgia in Augusta. It's the middle of September end of September I'm driving home and we're in Tennessee And I'm just like look over My boys are in the back. I'm like, we did it We did it and I think I slept for like three weeks when I got home Just slept straight because I was filled with caffeine from the whole summer just Potato chips, caffeine, McDonald's hit the doors work like a dog But I promise God I'd do whatever he sent me to the doors and I knocked and I never stopped knocking Were you not gonna sell in solar or were you selling security for Vivint? I was and it's crazy. I you know, it was 2011 2012 2013. I still have people that will find me on social media No kidding. They'll didn't they'll say we always knew you were destined to be great. You were such a great salesman. I'm like, I Love it. I remember the I remember I was I was a different salesman. I really enjoyed the doors I embraced it. I was proud of it. That's why you crushed it. Yeah, that's why you crushed it Now when you finally spoke your story publicly for the first time and I've noticed this like about you're super vulnerable. How did that vulnerability really change your mission? You know, I grew up very I was a lot of emotion So I would cry if if we lost the game when I was in elementary. I'd cry I'm like, what am I crying and I've never understood. I hated it. I prayed to God like God. Why'd you make me this way? I was in high school. We'd we lost in the in the semifinals ball like a baby I'm like, no one else. I'm like, why why am I so emotional? Why does my heart feel so much and I hated it? until In my late 30s when I kind of figured out like, okay, God, you gave this to me. Cool. I'm gonna use it I'm gonna be real with people. I'm gonna tell people the truth. I'm not gonna live this fake life this pretend life and If I feel it I'm gonna share it and Sometimes I go from very loving or with my clients when I'm in coach mode I got a punch someone in the throat punch him in the face figuratively, of course But it's been a blessing. It really has been an incredible blessing for me You know, I'm in the mortgage space obviously We run a big mortgage company and you know, it's been a tough year for a lot of guys racing in the 7s We're finally catching a break now after like the first kick break we got Was today ironically you're here. We have a conference coming up And a lot of people are discouraged. I feel like, you know, what would you Tell people right now that are feeling discouraged whether in real estate and mortgage and any financial sector because many people are down I would say this I'm like remember exactly what it is that you want and why that matters and People can remember like For me again my why right? What did I want X amount of dollars back in my bank account from that first summer? my why my family my children my parents my duty to God and You got to have a bat you got to have those why's You have to have the reason why you're going to get up and Push For some people it's their children. I didn't want my boys to say oh my dad was a football player like Football that was in the early 2000s. I want my boys to be like my dad's my hero I wanted that I want my parents My love wants to look at me and say and he inspires us and I also knew that there were there would be people That one day I could share this and they would be touched So to anyone who's going through like feeling discouraged and feeling doubt like Here we are moment of truth You're gonna get up and fight and slay the dragon or will you cower and Go live the safe route and give up and tuck your tail and throw the towel and I just tell people It's a moment to say it's a critical decision And you can do it if you look in the history of mankind The greatest people face the greatest adversities and it's it's hard. I tell people straight up It is so hard, but you can be better than that you can do hard things and you know, this is something that's pretty popular today It's hard to be broke. It's hard to run a business. It's hard to be overweight out of shape unhealthy It's hard to work out choose your heart and I just believe that I'm like look at the end of the day You are responsible Like you better figure out what you're really made of you better decide every day you wake up You look yourself in the mirror. Do I want the path of regret? Or do I want to come out victorious and and conquer and let's tell people get knocked down Get back up and so many people didn't quit so I tell my boys if you were to say this to my boys Get knocked down. They say get back up Get on down get back up if you were to say them you can have anything in life And they will fill in the blank if you pay the price We have a ton of those fill in the blank work of phrases. So that's what I would tell to some like tough tough times don't last But the best people in the tough people do so keep pushing keep moving remember your why Like get mad if you have to wake up Then go fight and go slay the dragon if you want the top prizes And you want the dragon blood I'll over you you got to slay dragons Got to slay the dragon Now What is it like that? How do you define results now now when the stakes are personal and they're not just professional How do I define results whether it's professional person look at results? I always tell people it's there's two things man What is it that you want? Why does that matter and the what you want got to be specific measurable? It's got to belong to you And I would tell people look Whatever it is that you want that you think you want Go get it if it's more money Now I don't know there's always the people out there. They say oh money can't buy you happiness I'm like don't listen like if you feel like having more money is gonna help you which for most people it does Let's be real like it does and I'm like go get it Go become the type of person that can produce If you feel like be more fit and stripping fat after your body is gonna help you be an example to your kids Give you more energy more confidence go do it and If you build up all this financial success and accolades, but you leave your family behind That is not success. I don't know anybody Who wants to be at the end of their life? alone Even if you have all the stuff in the world no loved ones No wife or husband no kids no grandkids like To me success is what you achieve and who you become Together so if you achieve something, but you don't you're a jerk or you're a crew to your mean That's not success and at the same time if you're becoming a great person But you can't pay your bills and provide as a man might hey dude that don't fly that doesn't work So success is who you like what you achieve and who you become in the process and it takes both Takes both of those That's very true Now what is the legacy you hope people carry forward after hearing your comeback? I Love this question about legacy a lot of people talk about Generational wealth and leaving a trust fund and yeah, I want to do those things. I want to leave behind Resources which I want to but more than the trust fund or whatever money God I want to leave inside of my boys. I want to leave it in them right this. Yeah, I heard this is not mine, but Legacy is not about what you leave with people. It's about what you leave in people and I want my boys to have trust in themselves Trusting God Trust in other people more than just the trust fund. I want them to not have the lottery mentality We're so oh my dad left us all this stuff now. I want them to learn how to set goals and achieve goals I want them to have alignment before the achievement. I want them to be kind and to make a difference And to leave people and things better when they found them so to me that's the legacy it's like and I want to be if I'm you know Whenever the time comes when I I graduate to the next life and I leave this planet. I want to be surrounded by my kids and Grandkids and my loved ones and I want people to be like my life is better because that guy took a chance My life is better because he said something or he wrote or his book or his podcast or just being around him changed me Legacy is in here And what it allows it gives people permission to go do something not just I know something is like they go do what they go build They go create they go change they go make a difference I love that couple last questions for you. This is about goals It's a personal goal that you have for yourself a family goal that you have for your family and a goal that you have for Game changer. You got it personal goal for me. I have a bodybuilding competition coming up My goal is to win the overall now. I'm a true novice. It'll be the first show that I ever do But I want to win that I want to win just a winner. I want to win that I Not going to compete. I want to win so I got literally I got food in my car I pulled up here about 1245 like 15 minutes You know I'd be on time and I'm scarfing down lean ground turkey and rice. It's my third meal today I had to open my oatmeal blueberries egg wash this morning. I got my workout in I already got cardio plan tonight. So I want to do that a family goal man, I want I Got teenagers right now And it's anyone who's got teenagers it's work. It's challenging because it's it's hard hard because I want so much for them to to see things and to get it and Sometimes it just I want them to work harder or to be more responsible So one family goes that We learn I mean I'm working on this to communicate more clearly be more patient and then one goal for game-changers I want my book called game changer. I want that to get to a million people's hands Like a million people to get the book because the book It is a game. It changes lives It the book came from 10 years of running a program called immersion where people would come for four days We transform their world intense tears like barely old person new person rise and rising up a phoenix Hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of men and women who the book is on I want this book to be in their hands and then change lives Last question for you. Yes, sir When you're in front of the pearly gates, what do you think God's gonna tell you? well, I hope I Hope he tells me Well done That good and faithful servant You have been a great steward over a few things Now you get to have it all and he'll hug me he'll say you did it like you did what you were supposed to do So that's what that's my goal is when I meet God. He's like Maybe I can just I did I gave it everything I had I did what was required God bless you sit on me It's been such a pleasure such an honor to have you on the show if people want to connect with you How do they find you? You know go to I have a obviously my website is my first and last name S-e-t-e-m-a G-a-l-i I'm on Instagram Facebook follow me and just connect with me I love like I respond to people in my DMs as much as I can I respond and leave voice messages So it connect with me on social pick up my book. It's free cover the shipping and I Love people and people love me and we're gonna go do this thing the right way until we die man Let's go God bless you man. Thank you. It's been a pleasure to have you on the show. Thank you so much You You You You You You You You