How to Flirt With Your Wife

8 min

•Feb 7, 20262 months ago

Summary

Dr. Laura discusses 18 practical tips for husbands to flirt with and maintain romantic connection with their wives, emphasizing small gestures, physical affection, compliments, and consistent attention as keys to a strong marriage.

Insights

Non-verbal communication and physical presence (eye contact, touching, hand-holding) can be more impactful than words in maintaining romantic connection
Consistent small gestures (notes, calls, compliments) compound over time to strengthen long-term relationships more effectively than occasional grand gestures
Public displays of affection and appreciation serve dual purposes: they reinforce the couple's bond and inspire others
Understanding and respecting a partner's boundaries and comfort levels is foundational to all romantic gestures
Attention to a partner's accomplishments and qualities beyond physical appearance deepens emotional intimacy

Trends

Renewed focus on maintaining romance in long-term marriages rather than assuming passion fades naturallyEmphasis on low-cost, high-effort gestures over expensive material gifts as relationship maintenanceRecognition of public affection and visibility as important to relationship satisfactionShift toward consistent daily micro-interactions versus scheduled date nights as primary relationship maintenanceGrowing awareness of compliments targeting character and competence alongside physical appearance

Topics

Marriage maintenance and long-term relationship satisfactionPhysical affection and touch in committed relationshipsVerbal communication and compliments in marriagePublic displays of affectionRomantic gestures and surprise planningEmotional intimacy and connectionGender dynamics in relationship maintenanceRespect for partner boundaries and preferencesDaily relationship rituals and habitsAppreciation and recognition in marriage

Companies

momjunction.com

Source article that Dr. Laura referenced for the 18 tips on flirting with your wife discussed in the episode

People

Dr. Laura

Host of the podcast who provided commentary and personal observations on marriage and romantic relationships

Quotes

"Your eyes sometimes are worth a lot more than your words."

Dr. Laura•Opening segment

"We like holding hands. It feels warm. It feels like you're close. It's cute. Just like when mommy holds your hands when you were little to cross the street."

Dr. Laura•Mid-episode

"Compliment. Make her feel important. Tell her something about how wonderful she is, how smart, how creative, what a good baker, talented at this, that and the other thing."

Dr. Laura•Mid-episode

"Never try to make her do or be anything she has clearly told you is not comfortable. Don't ever do that."

Dr. Laura•Closing segment

"It's not that tough and the rewards are great."

Dr. Laura•Closing segment

Full Transcript

Thank you for listening to my morning monologue brought to you by Golden Crest Metals helping everyday investors protect what they've worked so hard to build by adding gold and silver to retirement portfolios. Learn more at goldencrestmetals.com slash protect. Remember you can hear my radio program daily on Sirius XM Triumph and connect with me 24-7 at dr.ora.com. My topic to open up has to do with an article found in momjunction.com. How to flirt with your wife. So this is for you guys to pay attention to, okay? 18 tips to spice up your marriage. Here we go. Check her out, babe. Your eyes sometimes are worth a lot more than your words. No matter what she's wearing or not wearing, no matter what time of the day or night, no matter what she's doing, either you walk by her or she walks by you and you do a leering thing. Leer at her. It's pretty sexy, especially if you're like at a party. All the women are all dressed up. You walk by your lady. She walks by you and you blatantly leer at her. Yeah. Calling her flirty names. I mean, typically speaking, people develop nicknames, sometimes very strange sounding, but it doesn't matter. They're affectionate between the two of you, but have flirty names. Cute. Make her smile. When you're in public and I see this so rarely and I always comment, every time I walk by people who are holding hands, I make a comment, a supportive compliment. It is so wonderful to see people holding hands and they always smile, big grins, and it's typically the husband who speaks up and says, well, you know, we've been married 120 years and we're still happy. She's still my woman. The guys always say something and the women, you know, flutter their eyelashes and look embarrassed. It's very cute. I always compliment it. Hold her hand, put your arm around her waist when you're in public. It feels warm. It feels like you're close. It's cute. Just like when mommy holds your hands when you were little to cross the street. Makes you secure and wonderful. That never stops. We like holding hands. Little notes. I knew one couple every day of their marriage. He would leave a postage somewhere saying something and this is like 35 years of marriage. That's a lot of postage. I hope he invested in the company. Compliments. Guys have their problems, but women over time with gravity, self-confidence sometimes drops a little bit in securities. Hey, compliment. Make her feel important. And you've seen movies, I'm sure, where some woman has been in a car crash and everything's all messed up and he just says, you're the most beautiful woman in the world. Compliments. Not only on her appearance, although female types soak that up. Tell her something about how wonderful she is, how smart, how creative, what a good baker, talented at this, that and the other thing. Pay attention to what she does and tell her how impressed you are. Now, these kind of things are easy and you can do them all the time. Calling randomly. I love you. I miss you. Those were great pancakes. Whatever. Physical touching. You know, just walking behind her and touching her hair, her neck, her back, her shoulder, whatever. Don't do the once a week we're going on a date. Just whenever. Surprise. Grab her hand, go in the backyard and the pizzas, but have a picnic. Some wine and some pizza, whatever. Whatever. Surprise. One candle stuck in the ground. Who cares? Be cute about it. Honey, kids are at Nana's house. We're going for a ride. Go for a ride. Just take her on a drive or a motorcycle ride or a bicycle ride. Just go for a ride. Long ride. Reminisce about all the wonderful things you've experienced. Reminiscing about all the wonderful things you've experienced together is very important. It reminds you both how deep and profound the relationship has been. Buy her some sexy clothes. Not vulgar, sexy. Unless you two are into vulgar. Okay. But generally speaking, classy, some sexy lingerie. Have food, have flowers, have cookies, have muffins, have something to eat, send to her every now and then. Kids are all grown up and out or you don't have kids at all. Are they in school right now? Send her stuff, especially when other people can see it. Girls are very competitive. So it's kind of nice if she's getting stuff at the workplace and add a cute note. Make it personal. Never try to make her do or be anything she has clearly told you is not comfortable. Don't ever do that. All in all. It's not that tough and the rewards are great. My number, 1-800-375-2872.