Why You Need Friends

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And maybe even like each other more because you're so real together. I mean, you can more likely trust somebody who is vulnerable enough to tell you the pimples. Not just the clear skin. So I'm just going to talk about knock off some ideas about what a friend is. Friend is very supportive. You know, when somebody is a non-friend, when something good happens to you, you win the lottery. Forget that one. Now that just makes people as money. Okay, let's leave that one alone. But you get a promotion at work or just something wonderful happens. You're pregnant. Let just something wonderful happens. And they seem to want to take the shine off it. That's envy. That's not support and that's not a friend. Loyalty. Oh my God. Any time I have worked with anybody and it's hard to come by. Loyalty. Standing up for each other. Being there in times of need. Never betraying trust. That makes both of you sort of a comfy blanket with each other. You know, a nice, a warm comfy blanket is, right? That's what that's like. You can count on them. They will not betray you. Now I wrote a book called Surviving Shark Attacks on land. Because gosh darn, people who are supposed to be loyal and who appeared loyal for a long time can breach that because of some selfish motivation. There used to be very little visibility and control in treasury. Today, JP Morgan Payments delivers real-time dashboards and control at your fingertips. That's the power of clarity. That's JP Morgan Payments. Copyright 2025. JP Morgan Chase & Company. All rights reserved. JP Morgan Chase Bank. And a member FDIC. Deposit's held non-US branches are not FDIC insured. Non-deposit products are not FDIC insured. This is not a legal commitment for credit or services. Availability varies. Eligibility determined by JP Morgan Chase. Visit jpmorgan.com slash payments disclosure for details. You see that in families where there's a divorce and there are problems in one parent's really kind of a bad guy. Whether it's the male or the female. And the kids go in the direction of the money. No loyalty to the parent who really cared. Happens. Honesty. Honesty lets you see each other without distortions. A says it's seer friend doesn't sugarcoat the truth. Doesn't hide behind fake compliments. The truth. A lot of people say, boy, I like listening to you and I wanted to call you because you're going to hit me with the truth. Hard. It's going to be unpleasant, but I need it. Yeah. In friendships we need that. Empathy. That's an ability to understand that somebody has feelings other than in addition to you. It's putting yourself in their shoes offering support. When you're empathetic, you make the other person feel seen and offer them a safe space to communicate. Comforting word. Respect. Is not agreeing with everything that the other person believes or feels deeply in no way. I have friends with entirely different religious views, for example. As long as people are kind and understanding and not crappy about the fact that you have a different point of view, you can be friends. But then there are the people who cannot tolerate a different point of view. It's not going to happen. And I would agree that there are some points of view. I guarantee you I could not and would not tolerate. Because I would find them egregiously anti-humanity in some way. Trustworthiness. Your friend won't spill your deepest secrets. Or flake on you when you have plans. Those kind of people are not friends. You can't trust them. Forget it. Reasonably non-judgmental. That means you get a safe space to be yourself without ridicule. You might get some criticism. But no ridicule. And you can be open with each other. Dependability. Quietly ensuring everything runs smoothly. A dependable friend is your go-to person. There's sort of a GPS navigation of friendship. You really count on each other. Generosity. A people think it's a grand gestures and a lot of money. No, the unexpected compliment to selfless act. You're in a restaurant you share dessert because there are no calories. And cheesecake that shared. That's been scientifically demonstrated. Humor. Patience. Encouragement. Common interest. Flexibility. Keep secrets. Low maintenance. That's where a lot of people fall off. They're so dependent as opposed to dependable. That just drains you. Deep conversations. I've mentioned her many times. My dentist friend from Boston. We haven't seen each other in 20 years. We know what each other looks like. Although in a crowd I might miss it. Because I've been seen her so long. But it doesn't matter. We have deep conversations. I'm deeply deep. And it's such a pleasure to have someone I can be that deep with and receive her deepness. Yeah. Air. Water. Food. Friends. My number. 1-800-375-28-72. 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