Mojo In The Morning

Lunch with The Mistress

9 min
Apr 16, 20262 days ago
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Summary

The hosts of Mojo in the Morning discuss the appropriateness of sitting on the same side of a booth during business lunches between married men and younger women. They debate social norms around physical proximity in professional settings and share personal anecdotes about similar situations.

Insights
  • Social perception of physical proximity in professional settings carries significant relationship risk, even when interactions are purely business-related
  • Transparency with spouses about lunch meetings with opposite-sex colleagues is a protective measure against misunderstandings
  • Context matters: bar seating is more socially acceptable for same-side sitting than booth seating due to spatial constraints
  • Unintentional physical contact (leg touching, hand placement) in close proximity can create problematic optics regardless of actual intent
Trends
Workplace relationship boundaries becoming more scrutinized in social settingsImportance of spousal communication about professional meetings to prevent relationship frictionGender dynamics in business lunches remain socially sensitive despite professional contextPhysical proximity as a trust indicator in relationships
Companies
Feldman Automotive
Host shared anecdote about business lunch with Marla Feldman from the dealership in Novi
Starbucks
Caller mentioned leaving wallet at Starbucks location at Somerset Mall
People
Stevie G
Witnessed the lunch situation with married man and younger woman that sparked the discussion
Kevin
Co-host participating in the discussion about booth seating appropriateness
Chelsea
Host's wife referenced throughout discussion regarding relationship trust and transparency
Marla Feldman
Owner of Feldman Automotive who had business lunch with host years ago
Jackie
Called in to share perspective on same-side booth seating appropriateness
Noah
Called in to discuss relationship boundaries and mentioned leaving wallet at Somerset Starbucks
Quotes
"Chelsea wouldn't kill me. Chelsea would just take everything from me. And that would kill you."
Stevie GEarly in episode
"I think the same thing. Okay. Question for you though, cause I'm curious. Do you make it known to the guy that you saw him"
HostMid-episode
"I think it's super weird to sit on the same side of the booth. Even like with friends, I feel that's super weird, especially if there's just two of you."
JackieCaller segment
"if you're, even if you go to lunch with a female and it's even one of the people around here or whatever, I would tell Chelsea, hey, I'm going to lunch with someone."
HostMid-episode
Full Transcript
Mojo in the morning. So yesterday I went to lunch with Stevie G. He was here cutting his commercials with Kevin for a Zod forward. And we were hanging out at lunch yesterday and we witnessed something yesterday that seemed a little interesting. And I wanna ask this question. If you are a married man and you are going out to lunch with a much younger woman and even if it is quote unquote, I put the air quotes up there, even if it is a business lunch, work related, okay? And you are eating at the restaurant. Do you sit on the same side of the booth if it's just the two of you at lunch? La la la. Is that a real question? See, I feel like there is one scenario or situation where this may make sense. I feel like there are extremely personal conversations that sometimes require you to be a little bit closer to that individual. Like if you're telling me something like, I don't know, God forbid, like a friend of mine, her dad, just passed away yesterday. Like if it's that type of situation, me as like a comforter, I'm gonna wanna be as close as I can to get that. What about me as a husband of Chelsea? Do you think, how do you think okay, if it's me and it's name any woman, could be somebody from the show or somebody not from the show? And I go to lunch. Do you think it is appropriate for me? Cause this is a, so here's the story. We saw a married guy that we know, we know his wife, we were sitting there eating and all of a sudden we look and go, oh, look who, there's, we'd say, okay, oh, hold on a second. And then I said, is there somebody else at the table? And it's like, no, there's nobody else at the table. And they're like, cozy. And it's one of those things where it's like, is the hands visible or are they? Oh, the hands, the hands were on the table, believe me. Well, at least I thought his hands made it. Maybe her hands weren't. But it was like, they were kind of there. And Steve goes, oh, that's kind of an interesting one. And she's, you know, much younger and more, honestly more attractive than his wife. But we're seeing that. And I thought to myself, I'm like, I said to Steve, I go, Steve, what do you think Chelsea, he goes, you don't even ask that question. Honestly, Chelsea wouldn't kill me. Chelsea would just take everything from me. And that would kill you. That would kill me. And one of the biggest things is she would, you know, she would just be like, I'm done, whatever. So long story short, here's the thing I ask. Can you sit on the same side of the booth with, if you're a married or a dating or, you know, whatever person with a person of the opposite sex that you're out on a lunch with or dinner with? Outside of the situation, I said, where it's like a heartfelt conversation, I think the only time you see people sitting next to each other is if they're sitting at a bar, but if it ain't, then they definitely smash it. We're thinking about that. A bar is okay. I think a bar is a countertop. You have no choice. What do you think? I think the same thing. Okay. Question for you though, cause I'm curious. Do you make it known to the guy that you saw him like, hey, nice to see you. I wanted him to see, cause you know Steve more than me. I wanted him to see Steve, but, which is funny cause you can't miss Steve. Like Steve is like noticeable, like when he walks in and out of a room, not because of any other reason, then he just kind of has that. Hey, what's up? It's got the presence. How you doing? You could have sent the drink. And then when a waiter pointed over to you, I said, it came from them. Y'all just sitting over there waving like, what's up Jackie? How you doing? Doing well. How are you? Fantastic. What's going on? First time, long time. Yeah. What's up? What are your thoughts on this? I think it's super weird to sit on the same side of the booth. Even like with friends, I feel that's super weird, especially if there's just two of you. Yeah. Like I don't want somebody that close bumping elbows, but I think if it's like the situation you're talking about, a younger girl, I just think like the legs touching any of those is super odd. Her hands on his thigh. I think, yeah. And I think just, even if it's an accident, the accidental touching and all of that is just, yeah, I wouldn't ever fly. I wouldn't let it happen. I wouldn't do it, but I think a bar would be different. Obviously, like you've said, but not at a booth. If you also, I love watching Kevin Piston's games and I love Shannon supporting her niece. And I love all of you guys. I love that you said that. That was very nice to you. Thank you, Jackie. I appreciate you so much. Have a great morning. Would you like to sit on the same side of the booth with me? I've had this happen. Like I tell the stories sometimes. The infamous Marla Feldman story. Marla Feldman's from Feldman Automotive. Okay. Back in the day, Marla asked me, this is years, I mean, this is decades ago. She asked, hey, let's go to lunch. We were going to go to lunch, talk business, whatever the deal is. And I remember we met at the restaurant that was right across from the dealership over there and that they had Novi. And I remember sitting at the table and we sat in it. And you tell me if this is appropriate. We sat at a four top table in the chairs right next to each other. So we were right next to each other. And somebody had said something to Chelsea about, I saw Tom at a table with a very attractive brunette. And Chelsea knows Marla and actually Luke was friends with Marla's twin daughters. Who by the way, they're cutest kids in the world, cutest girls in the world. And we're sitting there and it was like, somebody said, but somebody was at the restaurant and like I was and saw this guy and called Chelsea. Took it a step further. Yes. I was like, what did Chelsea say? Oh, she knew already that you were going out. Yeah, she knew I was going out and stuff like that. But it could be, that's why I don't think I would do that. Like I would, if I'm, even if I go to lunch with a female and it's even one of the people around here or whatever, I would tell Chelsea, hey, I'm going to lunch with someone. So she knew at least. Cause you, like you've mentioned, you've been on lunch dates with like say Lydia for example. And y'all never sit on the same side, right? Yeah. I don't think so. No, I not with, I was sat on the same side with Lydia if there's other people at the table. Right. Yeah. Like I, like, but I would not, I, this is an interesting one. What if I sit on the same side with one of the girls when there's an open spot next to one of the guys? I probably would say I'd sit next to one of the guys. Cause that would be. You're saying you just for, yeah. So there's three people. So you Zach and me, you and Annago. Yes. I'll sit probably on your side with you. For real? Yes. Because of, I don't know. You should too, Kevin. People see us sitting next to each other. It's a wrap. Yeah. It's always a wrap. They automatically think you're together. What's up, Anna? Hi. Hey, I'm just like, where were her hands? I need to know where her hands were sitting at that table. Her's were not visible at all. No, I'll be honest. I don't know. No, I don't know where the hands were. I didn't, I was joked when I said that, but. Okay. Well, I mean, if you saw his hands, you didn't see her hands. Well. I didn't notice any hands. They couldn't stare. I think she was a woman with no arms. I don't know. That's why we're on the same side. We can feed her. The same side of the booth, if there's no arms is perfectly adjustable. Somebody's got to feed her. It is weird though, how they were sitting. What's up? No. How you doing? What's up, Mojo? What's up, everybody? What's happening? I'm on my way to get my wallet. I left at Somerset Mall yesterday, but I texted in. But I think the situation here is definitely not appropriate for a married man. Like back when I was dating and trying to, you know, some girls are in the situation where they only want to hook up. So in those situations, I would sit next to them like in a booth or a table, right? Because you have that incidental leg touching. You have the opportunity to touch their leg and do everything. The mood is right. I'm not going to, you're not going to just touch them. No. But that situation is, yeah, you can't do that. Why'd you leave your wallet at the Somerset? And what were you doing yesterday? I was at Starbucks. Oh, you just at Starbucks? Okay. You weren't tricking on someone that wasn't your wife? You weren't at the Capitol Grill. Yeah. Touching her leg. No, I got a great girlfriend. She's from Lebanon. She's amazing. Okay. And she would stab you if she found out that you were cheating on her, right? She's out of Lebanon. I know, yeah. Good for you, buddy. All right, thank you for the call. Go get that wallet. Yeah, I love you guys. What happens if I go to the Starbucks at, hey, my name's Noah. I'm here to get my wallet. I love my wallet. Right.