The Two Nanas Conundrum

Thank you for listening to my morning monologue. Brought to you by Golden Crest Metals, helping everyday investors protect with a work so hard to build by adding gold and silver to retirement portfolios. Learn more at goldencrestmetals.com slash protectors. Remember, you can hear my radio program daily on SiriusXM Triumph and connect with me 24-7 at drvora.com. Okay. This is from Elizabeth. She writes, I'm writing. Now, I had to read this about three times to keep it all straight. So I'll go slowly, because I understand it might be a little difficult to follow. You're right. You ready? I'm writing to ask you for your input. Please. We have a family compound where one Nana, my mother, lives full-time and another grandmother, my mother-in-law, who chose the name Nana for herself when her oldest was born. And we informed her then that when the grandkids renamed her, and that stopped me right there. Grandkids renamed you? What? She would need to embrace the new name. So this woman gave birth and her mother and mother-in-law both wanted to be Nana. But the mother-in-law visits a few weeks at a time. Our seven-year-old, who is the oldest grandchild for my mother-in-law, my husband is an only child, has gotten extremely frustrated having two Nana's. And in using names, last names, it just didn't work for day-to-day interactions. So Lucy, the daughter, renamed Nana number two, Nona. So for seven years, the mother-in-law has been called Nana. The seven-year-old has decided she wants to rename Nona. And I don't understand why the mother anticipated that a kid would want to re-change, would want to change a grandmother's nickname. So I'm already lost, okay? Well, Nona is having a fit. Will not embrace her seven-year-old grandchild's nickname and uses every chance to remind everyone she is also Nana, not Nona. How do we navigate this? My husband has spoken with Nona and Papa. And I have been yelled at that the name change was my fault. I am the villain, daughter-in-law, for every issue. Well, if we drop the word fault and use the word instigator, yeah, you are. Seven years ago, you warned your mother-in-law her name was going to be changed. Your mother's name was not going to be changed. The mother-in-law's name was going to be changed. I don't know what you had in your mind. I want to respect them as individuals, but the behavior has not been honorable or respectable and I need to protect my children from the spoiled brat bullying of their grandparents. Whoa! There used to be very little visibility and control in treasury. Today, JP Morgan Payments delivers real-time dashboards and control at your fingertips. That's the power of clarity. That's JP Morgan Payments. Copyright, 2025, JP Morgan Chase & Company. All rights reserved. JP Morgan Chase Bank, NA Member, FDIC. Deposit's held non-US branches are not FDIC insured. Non-deposit products are not FDIC insured. This is not a legal commitment for credit or services. Availability varies. Eligibility determined by JP Morgan Chase. Visit jpmorgan.com slash payments disclosure for details. Am I being completely unreasonable? Yes. I love when people do that. You figure if you go to the extreme, I'll say no. Yeah, no, you're being completely unreasonable. Please tell me that too. You're being completely unreasonable. This was ridiculous. Offensive. To your mother-in-law. That for seven years, she is equally in Anna and it gets changed because some seven-year-old is told she ought to rename people. If they both enjoy the name Nana, who does it hurt? You tell your seven-year-old daughter, they both would enjoy the name Nana, so that's what we're going to call them because it makes them feel good. The only brat is what you may be turning your seven-year-old daughter into. I don't really want to have to call the both of them Nana's. For seven years, both of them were Nana's. So when you picked one to lose the title, yeah, you caused this. Mm-hmm. I'm Dr. Laura Schlesinger. My number, again, to send a quickie, it's quickie at drlora.com, which means basically I get to answer you without an argument. Okay. All right. My number, 1-800-375-2872. If you like this podcast, be sure to rate it on Apple Podcasts or your favorite place to listen to my podcast. Of course, I'd love if you gave me five stars and be sure to share this podcast with a friend on Facebook or your preferred social media platform.