Discipline Expert: The Habit That Will Make Or Break Your Entire 2026! James Clear

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That's vanta.com slash diary One thing I've learned from interviewing a lot of founders and building companies myself Is that trust is the real currency of business. It's the thing that gets customers to buy Partners to say yes and investors to back you but as you grow Trust stops being just a feeling and becomes something you have to prove Because the bigger you get the more exposed you are customer data security expectations regulations all of it And the risk of one small mistake becomes incredibly significant And if you've ever tried to scale while keeping on top of all of that You'll know it can become a full-time job But our sponsor Vanta All to make sure compliance processes and brings compliance risk and customer trust together Through their AI-powered platform and the company is already using Vanta Say they spend 82% less time on audits because of Vanta's platform So if your organization wants to inject time back into building and growing Make sure you head over to vanta.com slash diary. That's vanta.com slash diary You've written one of the best selling books in history about habits Because people always need more practical help with implementing their habits And I have different strategies and different tools to have a statistic Including one principle that is probably the single most important for building habits But so much of it is about mastering the art of getting started Let's get started then James Clear is one of the world's leading habit experts is educating millions to build lasting habits master goal setting And ultimately redesign their lives There are four different stages that every habit goes through Q. Craving response reward. So first I want to make it obvious easier Just to see your get your attention and more likely to add act on it The second is about the craving and it's all about making you attractive And the more engaging or exciting it is the more like you're stick with it The third is to make it easy the easier a habit is to perform the more likely is to happen And then the fourth and final ones is to make it satisfying And that's about increasing the odds that you do it next time And there's some tools that we can go through But one of the big takeaways from Vanta cabins is it's easier to build a new habit If you stack it on top of the habit you're already doing So let's say that your current habit is you make a cup of coffee And the new habit that you want to build is you want to start meditating So then you could say all right after I make my morning cup of coffee I will meditate for 60 seconds And you can do it for anything There's also a framework that I call hats, haircuts and tattoos A secret to winning habit shaping And real lesson of getting 1% better every day And we can talk about all of them But is there any frameworks, any tactics If you're trying to break a habit If you want to break a bad habit There's some things that you can do Dreams, the book is shaped tens and tens and tens of millions of lives Is there anything you look back on that you regret? If I could add something, I would add this Because if you really want to make progress again And if you want to get to the top and stay at the top And you need to be able to Just give me 30 seconds of your time Two things I wanted to say The first thing is a huge thank you For listening and tuning into the show Week after week means the world to all of us And this really is a dream that we absolutely never had And couldn't have imagined getting to this place But secondly, it's a dream where we feel like we're only just getting started And if you enjoy what we do here Please join the 24% of people that listen to this podcast regularly And follow us on this app Here's a promise I'm going to make to you I'm going to do everything in my power to make this show as good as I can Now and into the future We're going to deliver the guests that you want me to speak to And we're going to continue to keep doing all of the things you love about this show Thank you You James you've written thousands and thousands of things But one particular thing you wrote called Atomic Habits is One of the best selling books in history It is rumoured to be potentially In the top 100 books that have sold in history of all time But also rumoured to be Potentially the youngest book to make the top 100 books in history My question is What has the success of Atomic Habits taught you about the nature of Humanity and humans We all have habits we all need habits You know it's one of those really it's an interesting concept because it is both Universal in the sense that we all have them we all need them But it's also highly individual Your habits feel like your habits not mine You know and so it's both universal and specific And that's that's an interesting contrast And I think it leads to one of the reasons why people are so interested in the topic You know we all have them we all need them we all feel like they're our own We want to come up with our little version of them But the habit also is like an entrance ramp to how you spend your time in other ways Like the habit of pulling out your phone That habit might only take two seconds to do But then it might dictate what you do for the next hour You know your answering emails or browsing social media or playing a video game or whatever And it was really the initial habit of pulling out the phone that shaped what that hour did So the influence of our habits is enormous You know in a lot of ways your Your results in life are kind of a lagging measure of the habits that proceed them You know like your knowledge is a lagging measure of your reading and learning habits Your bank account is a lagging measure of your financial habits Even silly stuff like the amount of clutter in your living room is the lagging measure of your cleaning habits And so we all So badly one our outcomes to change No, we also badly one our results to change But the results are not actually the thing that needs to change It's like fix the habits and the results will fix themselves change the inputs and the outputs will shift automatically And it's funny because the book is shaped tens and tens and tens of millions of lives But it also must have shaped you in some ways Oh of course In a way I had to Learn the concepts to write the book Like I have to build writing habits to write the book The fact that I have struggled with habits and failed with them The fact that I've tried things and it hasn't worked out The fact that I have eventually broken through and I've been able to build habits That all of that made the book better Because you realize how hard it is to have something practical to say I actually think I have this little theory that a lot of books are branded as how-to books But they're actually what-to books They tell you what to think you should be confident You should believe in yourself you should take xyz action But they don't actually tell you how to do those things And then in hindsight is there anything you look back on that you regret about the book I don't think there's anything that I regret If I could add something I would add something I would add this simple question Which is what would it look like if this was fun What would it look like if your habits were fun Like the most common news resolution is to do some form of exercise So you know I feel like a lot of people are going to the gym in January Because they feel like they should go to the gym or society wants them to go to the gym You know or there's some kind of social pressure to go to the gym But if we were to come up with a list of what it means to be active and fit You know and healthy We could come up with a long list of things Go to the gym and lift weights You could kayak, rock climb, do yoga, Pilates What I like you know we could probably sit here for like 15 minutes to come up with a real long list And for most of your habits if it's an important habit to you I think it's worth it to take 10 minutes and write that list out And then look at it at the end and say What would this look like if it was fun What's which of these options is the most fun to me And that doesn't mean that your habits will be like the most fun thing that you do each day You know it's not like it's always going to feel like going to a concert or something But it does mean that pretty much any habit can be more fun than the default You know so you might as well take a little bit of time to figure out what is the fun version of this And ultimately I think the reason why this matters is that If you're having fun you're more likely to stick with it You're more likely to persevere The person who's having fun is actually the person who's dangerous Like you don't want to compete with them Because they're having a good time when it gets difficult They're way more likely to stick with it The person who it felt like a hassle at the start was kind of you know annoying They sort of have a negative frame around the the behavior to begin with Well as soon as it gets difficult they didn't want to do it in the first place So they're much more likely to give up David Epstein who's the author of range and sports genes friend of mine He told me once grit is fit Grit is fit And what he means is that everybody wants to be gritty They want to persevere But the way that you display that grit and discipline and perseverance Is in areas where you are well suited Where it's a good fit for you If it's a good fit if you're well suited for it If you're having fun if you're interested and engaged Then you're way more likely to stick with it And so in a lot of ways I feel like the biggest hurdle to clear And this is true maybe for life in general But definitely for habits because everybody wants to be consistent with their habits Everybody wants to stick to them The biggest hurdle to clear is are you interested? Are you engaged? Are you having fun? And so the more that you can get closer to that The more fun it can be The more likely you are to persevere and stick with it I was just thinking about this idea actually the other day Because I was writing when we hit a subscriber milestone I was writing I was trying to think about what actually mattered the most And one of the first thing I wrote was Creating the conditions to outpissist And what I mean by that is like create the condition So that you can do this for long enough that Things start compounding in your favor Like learning starts compounding in your favor Like the returns Like the subscribers or that could be your finances Whatever start compounding in your favor The question that you asked Is very similar to one that I asked myself a lot Which is am I creating the conditions for success So I had a really good stretch of training in the gym And then about two and a half years ago I was in pretty good shape And then I had a year where it was just like really inconsistent I missed a lot of workouts Sometimes it go well, sometimes it wouldn't, whatever And after that year I was like okay so I got to change something And on the surface you look at it and you think I'm having trouble with the workouts You think there's some problem with exercise But that was actually not the problem The problem was I wasn't creating the conditions for success And so there were lots of other things that were intervening And like making interrupting my day And making it easy for me to miss So this last year I hired a trainer And he shows up at 11 a.m. every four days a week And when he gets there every single time It's a hassle because I'm in the middle of something Right every time I've got something going on And I kind of like annoyed by it that he's there But we're creating conditions for success And then make sure that I get down there And I do it and then every time when I get down with the workout I'm like I'm glad I took the time to do that And so nothing really needed to change with the workout That was not the problem The problem was I didn't have the right conditions To start the workout And so I think this actually reveals a really deep And important thing about habits Which is So much of it Is about mastering the art of getting started It's making it easy to start In a way like probably 70% of what's in Atomic Habits Are different strategies and different ideas And different tools that help you get started Or makes starting easier This trainer who I've been working with now He came over the other day and he told me Yeah I had a class in the morning Eight people were supposed to come But it was like it was a pretty gross day It was like rainy and wet and kind of cold And only two people showed up And I was talking to him about it And I said what's interesting to me about that Is how little of an edge you need to gain an advantage You know really what we're talking about there Is you just need to be okay with being inconvenienced or uncomfortable for like five to ten minutes Getting dressed, getting through the rain Getting to your car, getting the gym The workout is the same that it's always been It's the same you're in the same gym That you are in the summer Or one of the weather's beautiful or whatever So it's really can you handle that like five minutes of inconvenience And so many things in life are like that Can you master that little moment And if you can and you can still get started That's when you gain an advantage Everybody works out on the good days But on the days when you feel stressed and tired On the days when the weather's bad and it's kind of inconvenient On the days when you don't really feel like it Can you show up even if it's in a small way One of my little mantras that I try to keep in mind is Reduce the scope and stick to the schedule So the normal scope might be I write for 30 minutes And then you look up at the clock and you're like, I only have 15 And sometimes what happens in your head is you're like, oh, I don't have enough time to write today Where you're like, oh, I was planning to work out for 60 minutes And you look up and you're like, time got away from you, I only have 20 minutes now I don't have time to go to the gym It's easy to talk yourself out of it But reduce the scope but stick to the schedule It's like, well, I only got 20 minutes instead of 60 So I'll just get in there and do a couple sets of squats and that's it And I've had so many workouts that have been like that Where you're like, almost you know It's easy to be kind of disappointed You weren't able to do the whole thing that you wanted to do But you didn't throw up a zero And if you don't throw up a zero You maintain the habit and you can maintain the habit all you need is time And so the bad days are more important than the good days in that sense You need to figure out how do you show up even if what when it's not optimal And that first five minutes Yeah, I was thinking about all the The first five minute battles that I've won over the last week Because I've you know, I lost track of my workout I've been traveling through Asia On this tour I've been doing Got back Fallen off The motivation doesn't seem to be Quite the same It was before I left So it's like I'm dragging myself there the workouts are like four out of ten But I went yeah, and now I think the momentum is building but that first five minute point Is there anything that you've learned any frameworks, any tactics for making sure you You get past that first five minutes so you can get into the flow of the habit Yeah, there's multiple things so first thing is Try to prime the environment to make the first action easy Prime the environment to make the first action easy So let's say writing for example I find that for myself the biggest point of friction is choosing what to write about Once I've actually finally settled this is the thing I'm writing today Then I can get into it and I'm often running But I'll sit there for two hours just debating whether it's the right thing to be focused on writing or not You know, should work on this chapter should work on something else or whatever So what I've started to do is sometimes I will write the first sentence of what I'm gonna write and just leave it on the Google doc Right there and then leave and the next day when I come back I'm already in right like it's already the first sentence is already written So now I'm just writing the next piece of what's coming rather than trying to choose what to write about Another one that I've done sometimes is I will write sometimes I'll write the topic or I'll write the sentence on a post it note And I'll put it on top of the keyboard And so when I come into the office it's right there in front of I can't you know, I got to pick it off the keys To log on to the computer and so it's like remember this is what you're writing about right now You know, so it's just trying to make it easy to get in I have a bunch of readers who do stuff like set They're running out running close out the night before you know, so they're right next to the bed You got your clothes new shoes there. I have one woman. I just talked to her at an event She came up after and she said I actually sleep in my running clothes and just get out and get put her shoes on and goes right up the door But you're trying to prime the environment to make the action easy. Okay, so how can you set up the spaces that you're in To prime those habits. I think one really interesting question to ask Walk into the rooms where you spend most of your time each day your office your living room your bedroom And then look around and ask yourself what is this space designed to encourage What behaviors are easy here? What behaviors are obvious here and The good habits that you say you want to build are those the path of least resistance? Is that the obvious thing in this environment? And if not maybe you can make some adjustments to try to make the good have it easier and the distractions maybe Harder so that's first thing prime the environment to make the action easy Second thing is if there's like one principle that is probably the single most important for building habits It's make it easy just scale it down and make it easy I refer to it sometimes as the two-minute rule So take whatever habit you're trying to work on you scale it down something takes two minutes or less to do Read 30 books a year becomes read one page or do yoga four days a week becomes take out my yoga mat Sometimes I will mention this to people and they resist a little bit, you know, they're like okay, buddy Like another real goal is just to take my yoga mat out You know, no, I'm actually trying to do the workout So this is some kind of mental trick and I know it's a trick Then why would I fall for it basically? But there's this guy I mentioned in the atomic habits his name is Mitch And he went to the gym and for the first six weeks He had this strange little rule for himself where he wasn't allowed to stay for longer than five minutes So he'd get in the car drive the gym get out do half an exercise get back in the car drive home And you're like this sounds silly right? Clearly this is not going to get the guy the result city wants But what you realize is that he was mastering the art of showing up Right, he was becoming the type of person that went to the gym four days a week even if it was only for five minutes And so I think this is kind of the deep truth about habits Which is a habit must be established before it can be improved You know has to become the standard in your life before you optimize and scale it up into something more There's that quote from Ed Latimore where he says the heaviest way to the gym is the front door There are a lot of things in life that are like that And so by trying to make it easy to master to easy to get started Then you're in the game now you're in the arena. There's all kinds of things you can improve from there I remember Jordan Peterson saying talking about his mother's clinical um Patients and referring to one in particular who was in a room full of junk and couldn't leave the room because of a certain fear and certain psychological problems He had and Jordan saying that day one they just brought the Hoover into the room and that was it day two They plugged the Hoover in and that was it and then by day like 30 the guys out of the room The room is clean and he's walking around outside for the first time in in months or years And he goes on to say that the reason why people don't get started is because the first step is so embarrassing Hmm people think that it's not worth it or that it's like shameful to do. It's like almost like patronizingly embarrassing And um, I've always kept that in mind since then and from your work as well Just that assume the first steps are like embarrassingly small There's this process called habit shaping which is is basically like that You know like if you want to run a half marathon the first day the step might be to put on your running shoes And then the second day the step is to like walk outside the front door on the third day the step is to go around the block And you know, you're just like gradually shaping into this this larger habit But there's this thing that happens when people think about building better habits. I think particularly ambitious people It's very easy to get excited about all the changes you can make you start thinking even if you don't say this explicitly You think like what would peak performance look like? You know if I could really get my habits dialed in what could I do and you start imagining five six seven things that you would do And what all of them would look like in their perfect form and so on And I think instead of asking ourselves what could I do on my best day It's better to start by asking what can I stick to even on the bad days And that becomes your baseline that becomes the first step and now that you have this floor that is achievable Even when you're tired even when you're exhausted even when you don't have much time Now you can show up and feel like you're succeeding You know and then you can progress from there one of the most motivating feelings to the human mind is feeling a progress If you feel like you're making progress even if it's smaller than what you ultimately hope to do You have every reason to move forward But often we become like a victim of our expectations We expect we spend all this time optimizing the perfect plan and then expect things to go perfectly out of the gate And you had it so built up in your mind that once you don't hit that mark in the first or second or third day It falls apart And you talk tell you run about Sitting that for two hours thinking about what to write I think I've learned through through business and in the first iteration of micro where I worked with CEOs and executives that were planning marketing campaigns that actually In hindsight often the biggest cost it wasn't being wrong It was the time you waste making a decision You see this and if you've ever you've interacted with so many big corporations Like they spend 18 months thinking about Get waiting for Joanna to come back from annual leave to get procurement to sign off the thing And I walked with this one particular founder during that season of my life who Where I was working with his dad and him and his dad would take nine months because the company was so big His son would interrupt me halfway through the idea and call us all in and say do it now And he taught me that actually in life that the biggest cost is the time you waste making the decision And I think about that with my own habits I think sometimes sitting around thinking about whether I'm going to run today Is costing me much more than doing like him And do you think about how you kill that mental debate like is that an effective strategy to try and kill the debate and not make a decision Yeah, so speed is perpetually undervalued. That's for sure Life is short and so the sooner that you make decisions the sooner you get information Now I will say I have a little framework that I call hats haircuts and tattoos And this is how I kind of think about it. So a lot of decisions are like hats Just try you try one hat if you don't like it take it off you can try another just real quick You know you get some information speed is most important move quickly get some information learn something If it was wrong, it's not that big of a deal just take it off and put a new hat on Haircut is a little bit trickier. It's a it's a decision that you have to live with for a little bit You know like you're okay if you get a bad haircut But you're gonna you're gonna have to live with it for a month or two You know, it's it's gonna take a little bit of time for it to grow out And so it's probably not a big deal to be scared of getting a bad haircut I think a lot of people probably talk themselves out of it. It's like you'll be fine in a month. It's fine Tattoos are trickier. You know, you get a tattoo. You got to live with that choice. It's permanent And so if a really what we're getting at here is is the choice reversible or is the choice irreversible If the choice is easy to reverse speed is most important you should move fast If it's hard to reverse and you got to live with it then you think carefully before you make the call And I think probably what you're seeing through some of your experiences is that most decisions in life are hats and haircuts It's very rare that you end up with a tattoo But we treat them all like tattoos. We yeah, we uh, I think in particular we are We are scared a particularly the bad haircuts I think the ones that like linger for just a little bit but not that long It's like it's gonna take you a month to fix this if it if you get it wrong But like that's fine a month's gonna pass anyway Um, and so it's not that big of a deal But we we act like it's bigger deal than it is. Is there a particular case study or story from uh atomic habits community member or someone that reads your newsletter That has been the most impactful for you There's not a single one. There are lots that I'm like proud of or really excited by once I'm surprised by um I heard from a guy the other day He was the head coach at St. Olaf's University in Minnesota And men's soccer and when he came in their record was something like five and thirteen and they were you know like near the bottom of the standings And he was like I read atomic habits right around the time I took this job and we came up with systems for everything We did we taught our players systems for how they tie their shoes and cleats to get ready for the game We taught them systems for how they prepped for practice. We taught them systems for their role in the field and You know gradually they improved each year five and thirteen then they went like eight and eight and then the next year after that They won the conference and then the year after that they went to the NCAA sweet sixteen and then five years later They won the national championship You know of course stuff like that's awesome to hear about right you know like they went from they went from five wins Uh and then five years later they win the national title But the ones that matter to me the most are the ones that I hear from somebody and they say um I finally feel better You know I feel different I look in the mirror and I'm like proud of who I am or my kids tell me that they're excited to see You know the change in me or things like that and that's what's always been about You know, it's always been about becoming the type of person that you want to be and so I think uh anytime I hear stories like that I think it's exciting So when they sent was a coach was it yeah Travis Wallace the head coach at St. Olaf's um he's a head coach at Kenyon uh now So he talked about systems there Most of us think about to do lists and goals and those kinds of things what what is the difference between a system and a goal I was very goal driven for a long time. I mean, I probably still am You know, I don't think there's any way to get around to the fact that we all have goals and think about the outcomes We've won so on But the goal is about the outcome that you want to achieve and a system is about the process for getting there And so your goal is the target the outcome the thing you're shooting for Your system is the collection of daily habits that you follow And if there is ever a gap between your goal and your system if there's ever a gap between your desired outcome and your daily habits Your daily habits will always win You know, and so almost by definition your current habits are perfectly designed to deliver your current results You know, if you want to see like where you're going to end up just follow the trajectory of your habits You know, what's the process you've been running for the last six months or two years and they've carried you Almost inevitably to the outcomes that you have right now Now, I'm not saying that habits are the only thing that matter in life right like strategy matters luck randomness Those misfortune those things can influence the outcome But by definition luck and randomness are not under your control And your habits are and the only reasonable rational approach in life is to focus on the pieces that are within your control So I think goals can be good for setting a sense of direction. They're good for clarity You know, especially if you have a team get everybody rowing in the same direction but Once you've decided what the goal is You should basically set it on the shelf metaphorically speaking and spend the vast majority of your time focused on building a better system How are the habits we're executing each day moving us closer to this outcome that we want And so where I've come after talking about this for five or six years now since the book's been out where I've come down on it is Goals are best for people who care about winning once Systems are best for people who care about winning repeatedly If you really want to make progress again and again if you want to get to the top and stay at the top You need some process for staying up there some collection of habits that's going to keep this machine running So This is why you know, I say in the book we don't rise to level of our goals. We fall to level of our systems Where's you're talking? I was thinking so much about about business and founders of entrepreneurs because they all have big goals We want to build the best AI app or the best I don't know restaurant And they stay really focused on those but the great the greatest founders that I think I've met and interviewed on the show Actually really orientated on like what you call in the book first principles and systems Is there a way to become more orientated towards systems and and thinking about first principles like they're the habits that lead to the goal is Or is it just just some that some people have it? Because like Elon Musk is always talking about first principles and he thinks in times of building the system I do think some of it is personality and like what you what's exciting to you to think about like some people are very Future oriented and like thinking about what the systems are and what that would lead them to and so on I'm more process oriented But there are a number of questions that you can ask that can help you figure out like what systems you should be focused on You know, so like a couple of the ones I like one question is can my current habits carry me to my desired future You have a bunch of habits you're falling right now. What's what path are you on? You know can your current habits take you there and they could be either way like sometimes the answer is yes And what you need is patience you just need to keep you know staying on the path But sometimes the answer is no and then obviously something needs to change You know you're hoping for one outcome But then you're following a different lifestyle So to want the outcome without the lifestyle is to like torture yourself And what really matters is not do you want the the result? Anybody would like the result if you just hand it to him the question is do you want the lifestyle? One of the little things I try to do whenever I have a new business project that I'm thinking about or something I'm excited about potentially doing The first question I ask is how do I want to spend my days? And so then you like draw a box and inside that box how can we Make the most money reach the most people make the biggest impact you know make the contribution that you want to make But not outside of it and what happens a lot of the time is people do that in reverse They start by asking how can we make the most money or reach the most people or make the biggest impact And then they decide oh well, this is what I want to do But it's actually outside of how they want to spend their days And it's not going to work out well because you know it goes back to our point previously about is this fun You know that if they don't want to spend their time that way you're just grinding for a little while and eventually It's not going to work That's the key for building systems that really work is is this how you want to spend your days The person who wants to live the lifestyle is much better positioned to get the result You say that there are multiple problems with with goals as a I guess as a rubric for thinking about What to do or what to aim for one of them is that when is in loses have the same goals Everybody wants the results. Let's say you have a hundred people apply for a job. You got a new job opening Presumably every candidate has the goal of getting the job The goal is not the thing that determines the outcome So the person who wins and the 99 people who lose they have the same goals you look at the Olympic games Presumably any event everybody who's competing has the goal of winning the Olympic medal right of winning the gold So the goal is not the thing that makes the difference So again winners and losers have the same goals So if they have the same goals they cannot be the thing that make the difference in their performance It has to be something else maybe having a goal is part of it Maybe it's necessary, but it's not sufficient for the outcome that you want and for that what you need is the system You need a collection of habits that are going to make the difference um and uh and accumulate into a bigger outcome And you say goals restrict your happiness There's some implicit promise internally that once I get to this goal then I'll be happy You know once I write a New York Times bestseller then I'll feel better about it You know once I Achieve this certain number on the scale then I'll be happy with my body once I get to a million dollars in revenue then I'll be happy with the business And so you're kind of constantly pushing happiness off to the next milestone and thinking that once you get there Then finally you'll be satisfied But I think in fact the better way to do it is to fall in love with the process to fall in love with the lifestyle Then you can be happy along the way and still achieve the goals as you go still achieve the milestones For a long time I wrestled I had trouble with this question of do I have to be dissatisfied if I want to be driven Yeah, you have to be dissatisfied to be driven Because to me I felt like There's where I'm at right now and there's where I want to be and so there's this gap and that that gap is dissatisfaction That gap is you know, you're you want it to change you want it to close And it's also what is motivating and driving you is to try to close that gap and so The healthiest answer maybe the answers. Yes. I don't know But the healthiest answer that I've come up with is imagine like an acorn false from a tree And it manages to take root that comes to seedling and then a sapling and eventually grows into this mature oak tree And at no point in that process when it was just an acorn It wasn't criticizing itself for not being a sapling And it was just a sapling it wasn't criticizing itself for not being an oak It wasn't dissatisfied with where I was at And nobody came over and was criticizing it for oh, I can't believe you're not a full grown tree yet But it kept growing the whole time So simultaneously you have this thing where it was both perfect at each stage that it was at nothing was wrong And yet it continued to grow and the reason is because that's just what an oak tree does That's what it is encoded to do it is encoded for growth And so when I look at myself, I think if I put myself in the right position That's how I feel about it, you know I am perfectly happy with where I'm at at each stage and yet I'm encoded to grow right I'm encoded to keep going and so I can both be driven and be satisfied I can both be appreciative of the moment and still moving forward And I think that works best when you find that thing Sometimes we call it your strengths Sometimes we might say it's what you're encoded to do But when you find that thing that's well aligned for you And if you do find that then you can have both of those I love that I love that and I think with with age and maturity I've gotten closer to being in that region where I'm well aware nothing is going to make me happier at all Like no accomplishment if you Nothing's going to change anything But at the same time I'm still striving And that does feel like a contradiction to some degree It feels like how can those two things be true at the same time They were striving for things that you know Won't really move the needle in any way The difference I see between like me And Something in nature is that I The thing in nature probably isn't comparing itself on Instagram to like Everyone else and I understand humans to be like comparison machines Kind of how we understand the value of things I kind of understand the value of the stake on a menu by the The cheap stake and the most expensive ones So I think the middle one is probably right Do you think much about comparison as a motivating or demotivating force in this picture? Well, I think it can be very helpful and also it can also be very harmful So it's just sort of a sense of how you use it I tend to find it better if you compare small things So if you compare marketing strategies or squat form Writing style or the first sentence of each chapter Like how do I have a good intro If you compare tactics Then that can be really helpful for building skills and for developing your ability If you compare big things Marriage net worth you know things like that It's like that's just kind of a recipe for ending up unhappy Because they as the scale gets bigger Things get more vague There's so many things involved in marriage And so you know or net worth or whatever You just see one little slice and you are trying to compare these two big things But you don't even know what the full picture is And so comparison is like the teacher of skills when it's applied narrowly But it's the thief of joy when it's applied broadly That makes sense yeah I leave running when you said that you know ambitious people They have lots of aspirations lots of habits they want to start I was thinking about myself and thinking There's probably 30 habits that I would like to acquire I'd want to be better at writing or want to be a runner I want to be better at speaking I want to be a better friend and be more attentive with my friends And make sure I text them on their birthdays and shit You know all of these new habits that I want to pursue How does one know which one To aim for first is there a framework for knowing Yeah, there's some things that you can do I don't think um to your point earlier about uh Sometimes the riskiest things just take a long time making the decision You know if you maybe you should just pick one and work on it And then you can get on to the next one But I do think there's some level of strategy Which is a good place to start is by asking yourself Which habits are upstream from other good things happening So for example I know that if you were maybe the maybe the question to start with is When you live a good day When you feel dialed in when things are like rolling along well for you What tends to be part of that day? Sleep, you know? Okay, so that's you know I would say for me sleep is definitely one I would say getting my workout in And usually reading and writing are part of it But I think I could just boil it down to reading If I just read like 10 pages That often sparks the writing It's like reading is like the fuel for writing for me So so I could say get a workout in and read for five minutes or ten minutes Those are the two things that are part of a good day And what happens is they're upstream from a lot of other good things happening For example if I get the workout in Yeah, I feel good I get the benefits of the workout But I also have a post workout high for like an hour or two So I my focus and concentration is better I sleep better at night because I got the workout in and now I'm tired I tend to eat better when I work out It's when I'm not working out that I eat terribly So I don't know it's kind of like I don't want to waste it or something So at no point was I trying to build better focus habits Or sleep habits or nutrition habits Those just came kind of a natural consequence of getting the workout in So what are those things that you do that are upstream From other good things happening I think those are good like anchor habits to start and focus on If I could add another one for myself I would say it's a little bit of time It's really just time to think But it's time to reflect and review There's this interesting thing that happens if you if you have a really good work ethic If you have a strong work ethic and working hard has gotten you far in life It kind of becomes a crutch You know for a long time I was like if I ever had a problem I was like well, I'll just work my way out of it You know, just work hard on it until I figured out And that that's great that's really powerful for a lot of things But at some point it breaks You know like you can maybe if you really try Maybe you can work 10% harder or 20% harder But there's some limit But if you work on the right thing Well you can get 100x the result or 1000x the result And so if you just keep your head down and work hard It's very unlikely that you'll be spending your time in the highest and best way And the only way to figure that out is to have time to reflect and review Time to think You know so you need enough time to think to figure out what should I be focused on next And so I think that is all it's almost Reflection review is almost like the meta habit That is above all others Because if you give yourself time to reflect and review Then you can troubleshoot your habits and figure out how to adjust them I was thinking as you were saying that that that time to reflect and review Is actually also a review of All my current systems moving me closer Because when when you're talking about that I was thinking of times in my life where I was so close to like the picture And I was so in the trenches doing the thing That I hadn't come up to even say Actually is there a system I could put in place To solve this problem Move the next 5 or 10 years Like for example is there a person I need to hire So actually should I go into the hiring process versus Be in their fixing the problem myself Should I spend 10 hours this week Hiring a candidate to do this or should I be doing it But sometimes you get so caught up in the trenches When especially when things are tough and difficult And moving very quickly that You don't review your systems And also when you talk about systems I thought about how systems sometimes expire Sure Yeah Because things change As a great point And I think this is probably one of the most overlooked things with habits A lot of the time when someone sits down and they want to build a new habit They don't save us But what they kind of assume is What it would mean to be successful with this habit Is that I do it for the rest of my life You know And that if at some point I'm not doing it Then that must mean that I failed or I quit on it But that's not how it is at all Like things have a season You know And so habits have to change shape over time Let's take my writing habit for example I the habit that launched my career Was I wrote a new article every Monday and Thursday And I did that for three years So the first three years, 150 articles You know right twice a week That was a great habit There were like 2,000 word pieces or so But then I signed the book deal for a time of habits I didn't have the capacity to do that And also write the book So that had to change And I wrote the book for like three years And then the book came out And now I write a newsletter once a week And that's much shorter But I kind of feel like my writing habit Is maintained that whole time It just changed shape But that's fine It just needed to shift based on the season But I don't know People They get so attached to one form Of habits sometimes That they don't realize that it's no longer serving them And I think that's the One of the trickier things to give up Is a habit that used to be good for you That used to work well But no longer serves you in your current season I find that I'm kind of a slow learner with that I guess parents can probably really relate Because they're forced to basically change their goals And therefore their systems would have to I mean, you're a father of three So you probably know this much better than I do But has there been systems that you've had to sort of I think there's lots of inflection points in life So having kids is one of them Starting a new job, moving to a new city You know, it can be big stuff like that I just talked to a mother who her kids moved out So she's now an empty nester You know, she's like, last 25 years I've been parenting all these kids And now finally, they're all out But it feels all in some sense It almost feels like a loss of identity You know, like I thought I was one thing And now, you know, it feels like things have shifted But also it just signals an inflection point in life And a new season that you're in And when your seasons change, your habits often need to change with it And you talk about this, some full burn is theory So I guess, DevTel's in what we're talking about here Where you use this to kind of think about what habits to pursue in any season of life But also a phrase that I've heard so often Specifically from mothers on the show Comes to mind, which is that you can't have it all at the same time I've heard that, I think four or five times different Mother's in particular, which is, I mean, says something about society Yeah, I've said to me that They've had to realize that they can't have it all at the same time For sure So this is not my concept, this is the idea that I came across Called the Four Burners Theory And it breaks life into these four burners on a stove So you have work and career as one You have family, friends, and then personal health Or, you know, yourself basically as the other The idea is that for the burners to really be going well You can't have all four on at the same time And burn, have being chooseed off The stove, yeah, the stove top So you have, you can choose, you could have three going on At kind of like a mid-level But if you really want them to do well You can only have two on at the same time And I, you know, who knows? I don't know if it's true or not or whatever But it's an interesting idea And what it does is it gets you to realize Yeah, a fundamental part of life is trade-offs And you cannot be good at everything at the same time So this is true across projects If you choose try to do seven things at once Spreading yourself thin in seven different ways Very hard to be excellent For me, what I think about is Life has a series of seasons And life has a series of sequences So let's say it's not always exactly ten years But let's say the big movements in life Or roughly ten year buckets Right, so like for me building my first business That was kind of like a ten year thing And eventually led to the launch of a ton of cabits You maybe get five or six of those And your adult life Some of those things make sense to do In a different order than others Like if you want to travel the world And see a bunch of places and party in Ibiza You're probably not going to do that in your sixties You know like I mean you can There's no way you can't But some things are probably better sequenced In other you know, in other spots Obviously there's you know, especially for women There's a certain limit on if you want to have a family What decades that happens in So yeah, it's just a matter of sequencing and prioritization If you look at the like tapestry of your life What do you want the big movements to be And where do those seasons need to slot in Yeah, it's a It's a that there is no right answer But it's interesting with as soon as you realize It's a finite number And as soon as you realize that trade offs are always going to be a reality You have to deal with that in some way I've decided that right now While my kids are young like I'm going to turn the career burner down And that's fine. It's not going to be how it was for the last ten years But that's okay because there are only five Once you know, they're only turning six Once They only go to second grade once And I want to be there for all that So Um They're always trade offs I think that sequence point is super interesting You got me thinking because you're right there are Sort of some constraints Whether they're biological constraints We're in the case of your kids like Just natural constraints That mean this season can only happen now Here, right Yeah There's also some things like You know, both of us are fairly young entrepreneurs I'm so glad that I started a business in my 20s Rather than my 50s Um, it doesn't mean you can't do it in your 50s There's no nobody saying you can It's just that it makes things a lot easier for the next decade You know, it's easier for me to be there for my kids now Because I have control my time Because I did the business part In the previous decade And so The risks Yeah And that doesn't mean it's always going to work out or whatever It doesn't mean that you're going to be able to perfectly plan it all But you just see how the sequences can um Can stack up in that way And how important do you think when we're talking about habits Do you think repetition is Because there's so many of these Sort of Well-known Our concepts or frameworks in habit formation One of them is that habits take roughly 66 days One of them is that it's about repetition Does repetition really matter? It definitely does I mean, repetition is how habits form The 66 days number comes from one study that came out That found that on average it took about 66 days to build a habit If you look at the study The range is pretty wide So if you pick something really simple like Drinking glass of water Um, at lunch each day That might only take two or three weeks to form If you look at something more complicated like Um Going for a run after work every day That might take seven or eight or nine months to form And so I don't know that 66 days really tells you anything It doesn't it doesn't tell you that This is how long it's going to take for your habit to stick I mean it the range is wide Sometimes when people ask me how long it take to form a habit My answer is forever Because if you stop doing it Then it's no longer a habit And what I'm kind of getting at with that is that Habits are not a finish line to be crossed They're a lifestyle to be lived You know And so we approach our habits as if it's a finish line Oh, let me do this 30 day cleanse and then I'll be healthy Let me do this 90 day sprint and then the product will be shipped I won't have to worry about it anymore You know, and it's like Most things in life especially the big important things They're endless, they're endless battles You know, so just because you went to the gym yesterday Or until you know bonus points for tomorrow Like you still have to show up tomorrow Just because you were good spouse yesterday Or until you know bonus points for tomorrow You still have to be loving and caring again And so all the things that really matter Are endless battles And it's not about crossing a finish line It's about living that kind of lifestyle And so yes, it is true That repetition matters And yes, it is true That the habits will become more seamless And automatic And maybe a little less effortful As you repeat them more But that doesn't mean that you'll never have to think about them Or you know, worry about them again Do you think much about what's going on in the brain When repetition occurs Like what is it that's making it easier If I've been on a role with the gym I've been going for 60 days in a row Why does it feel easier on day 61? That's a tricky question Because if you were to talk to an academic And they would tell you like a habit Is this automatic, non-conscious behavior Really quick, simple things Like brushing your teeth, tying your shoes Ever time you pick up a pair of barbeque tongs You gotta tap them together twice You know, like stuff that you don't even really think about Okay That's actual habitual behavior But if I were to ask you What are some habits you're trying to build You would say, I'm trying to go to the gym for days a week Or I'm trying to write every morning Or I'm trying to meditate, you know, five days a week or whatever And I know what you mean when you say that You mean I want it to be this routine This practice that I do consistently But like writing every day is never going to be mindless The way that brushing your teeth is You know, going to the gym is not going to be automatic The way that tying your shoes might be And so the things that we There's a little bit of Sloppiness in the word habits And how we use it in life It's not, they're not automatic mindless routines most of the time Most of the things that we want to be habits Are not like reflexes They're routines and rituals that we do consistently So, having said that It is true that after you've gone to the gym for a month or two It does start to get easier And I think there's a number of forces that kind of work in your favor there One is you've figured a lot out About what it takes to get into the gym What time am I going? What route do I take? How do I pack my bag? Do I need to bring a water bottle or is there a water fountain at the gym? Like all those sorts of things Are little one-time costs that you got to figure out early on That once you're into a pattern, you already know them You know, the water bottle thing sounds like a small thing I heard from someone who said I always forget to bring my water bottle And they don't have water fountains at this gym So like I sometimes I skip the workout because of that You know, it's like it's remarkable how little friction it takes to pull us off course And so figuring out all of those things Is something that once you're a month or two in You've crossed all that you've, you know Fought all those battles and now you know how to do it So that makes it easier The other thing is you start to build friendships Start to build connections You start to know the people there You feel comfortable there There's this concept Stephen Pressfield talks about Where, you know, if you have a wolf And it's roaming around Eventually it starts to feel like it has its territory And early on in the process A creative process writing a book or whatever You go into the office of the first time to write the first chapter of the book And you kind of feel uncomfortable It feels like it's not you yet You go to the gym on the first day You feel like people are judging you Do I look stupid? I don't know how to do this But after a while It becomes your territory It's just like the wolf It starts to feel like you're home court And so that familiarity I think also makes it much easier To stick to the habits You know, once you start to feel comfortable there And that takes a little bit of time And then the last piece is identity The more that you start to follow this habit The more you repeat a habit The more you reinforce being that type of person The more you start to have that element of your story I think this is one of the most important things For building habits and getting habits to stick Which is how your habits reinforce your desired identity We often start by asking What do I wish to achieve But I think what we really should start with is Who do I wish to become What are my actions reinforcing What are my actions taking me closer toward In a sense Every action you take is like a vote for the type of person you wish to become So no doing one push up does not transform your body But it does cast a vote for on the type of person who doesn't miss workouts And no writing one sentence does not finish a novel But it does cast a vote for I'm a writer And no setting one bit of positive feedback Does not make you like the world's best leader But it does cast a vote for on the type of leader who cares about their teammates And individually those are small things But collectively You build up this body of evidence for being that kind of person It's a little bit different than what you often hear Like you often hear people say something like Fake it till you make it And I don't necessarily have anything wrong with fake it to make it Like it's asking you to believe something positive by yourself But behavior and beliefs are a two way street And so what you believe influences the actions you will take And the actions you take also influences what you will believe And my encouragement, my suggestion is to start With the action to let the behavior lead the way To make one sales call or meditate for one minute or do one push up And let that in that moment be evidence that you were that type of person You know if you go outside today and you shoot a basketball for five minutes You don't instantly think oh I'm a basketball player But if you do it every day for next three months or six months or a year At some point you cross this invisible threshold where you have to admit I guess playing basketball is like kind of an important part of who I am You know I guess it's part of my identity And once you adopt a habit as part of your story Once it becomes part of how you see yourself It's not just like I need to go for a run It's like I am a runner You know I go I do this because it's part of who I am Then you'll fight to maintain the habit Right like then it becomes easier for it to stick And so the connection between habits and identity I think is ultimately how you really get habits to stick for the long run It reminds me of a study I was reading recently that said if you speak to someone in terms of Giving them an identity versus Using a word as an adjective the behavior curse So an example would be if I you do something for me And I say you know what James you are a kind person In the studies people become more kind but if I say that was kind yeah or that action was kind People are less kind so if I think if I can give you feedback that embodies your identity Then you're more likely for that behavior to occur So with my team and this is maybe giving a bit of the game away I will often refer to them as an identity I will say you are an innovator You are an experimenter because from the studies I've read that increased the probability that they embody that identity There's another study that did it for voting So people were more likely to go and vote if you said like I am a voter You got them to identify as I'm a voter rather than are you voting today? And so same same thing There's an example in the time of habits I talk about imagine two people who are trying to quit smoking You know and so the first person gets offered to cigarette and they say oh no thanks I'm trying not to smoke And the second person gets offered and they say oh no thanks I'm not a smoker And so the first person is trying to resist something that they still see themselves as But the second person no longer sees themselves as the type of person who smokes And yeah some of the evidence and research suggests that once you adopt those identities It's easier for you stick to the behavior Reminds me of the research from Leon Festinger The guy that came up with a term cognitive distance The way that I understand the concept of cognitive dissonance is that If I have a perceived identity of myself and something external threatens that which challenges it We're not good at living in contradiction I'm not good at say for example I'm a An accountant right now and I hear that AI is doing accountancy work amazingly well Now I've invested 10 years in that accountancy degree. I see myself as a great accountant My my my sort of initial reaction will probably be to either dismiss my current identity as a great accountant That that's going to have a great career in the future or to dismiss the AI And he talks Well people that have studied his work talk about how we're very poor at being able to hold two contradictory things to be true at the same time So we tend to protect our identity. Yes There's something incredibly powerful about this that also ties in habits which is that A lot of our identity not not the whole thing but large portions of our identity are tied to our relationships You know, I'm a father. I'm a you know husband You know, and so like it's the connection that we have with others our social bonds Influence the picture that we have of ourselves This is something that Widely influences our habits, you know So we are all part of multiple groups Sometimes that group is large like what it means to be American or what it means to be British Sometimes that group is small like what it means to be a neighbor on your street or a member of this family or a member at the local crossfit gym But all of the groups that you belong to large and small have a set of shared expectations for how you act Have a set of social norms for what you do in that group And when your habits go with the grain of the expectations of the group They're pretty attractive, you know, like you want to sit to and we get praised and rewarded for it You fit in and when they go against the grain of the expectations of the group They're kind of unattractive you get criticized and it doesn't feel good And so if people have to choose between I have habits that um I want But I'm cast out I'm ostracized I'm criticized or I have habits that I don't really love But I fit in I belong a part of something Most of the time the desire to belong over powers the desire to improve And so you want to do something different But you also know you're going to be heavily criticized for you're going to at least add friction to your relationships And we don't want to live with that distance that distance of I could have this But I also create friction here One of the lessons I think one of the big takeaways if you want to build better habits and get have a stick particularly for the long run You want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior Join groups where you can rise together where the people that you're surrounded by have the type of habits that you want to have It reminds me of this um This thing that appeared in Jeff Bezos' shareholder letter about resisting the equilibrium Hmm, I didn't know about this good So in Jeff Bezos' shareholder letter he writes to shareholders that when referring to Amazon's ability and desire and need to innovate through the future He says he makes a comparison to Richard Dawkins book called the I think it's a blind clock maker Yeah, the yeah, blind watchman blame watchman. Yeah, yeah, yeah, and says that essentially all living organisms Living this constant battle to resist the equilibrium and actually death itself is when we Become our environment because right now me and you have a huge amount of energy expenditure to be different from our environment In terms of temperature in terms of acidity etc And he means making the comparison which sounded a lot like what you just said that if you want to That all living organisms are in this constant battle to be different from our environment Um, and the more different our environment is the harder the fight So if I go to the desert my body has to put it put out even more energy To be a different temperature to be a difference sort of acidity than the environment But if I want to make my life easier and make that fight easier than go into an environment where my environment is the same as my Tungestei that's great I think that punchline of the more different your environment is from the habits that you want to build or from whatever equilibrium You're trying to achieve the harder you will have to fight to maintain And that is a fight that you can do for I don't know a day a week a month But it's some limited amount of time at some point it just is draining to try to grind against the environment all the time Sometimes I view environment both physical and social Almost like a form of gravity You know like the the physical environment that we're in right now Okay, it's always nudging you in certain directions like I'm sitting in this chair right now talking to you I could be sitting anywhere else, but I would have to sit on the floor right that the environment of the chair is ushering me to this spot It's almost like a form of gravity pulling me here rather than getting me to go somewhere else When that we leave this room if I wanted I could try to do something crazy and break through a wall or climb through the ceiling or whatever But I'm going to go through the door because that's where the environment is naturally nudging me toward It's where that behavior happens easily and all of our spaces are like that You're always being kind of pulled toward what is natural and easy and consistent in that environment So how can you prime your environment to make those the things you want to do that's for physical environment Social environment is the same You know, it's all you're always kind of being pulled toward what the behaviors are that are natural there What are the social norms sort of the things that people get praised and rewarded for what What is the culture typically calling you to do and? And that's where I think the answer is you want to surround yourself With groups who have the behaviors you want to have join groups where your desired behavior is normal If it's normal in that group then you can rise together So I mean that that must mean getting rid of certain people in one's life and sometimes those people hard to get rid of because their families their mums Sure, and I you know, I'm a little Sometimes you hear people say things like fire your friends, you know or whatever like and I'm not I'm not all the way there I think that yes, it is true sometimes you have um An extreme circumstance where it's a particularly toxic person or something like that and yeah like you know You probably maybe should not be around them and that those can lead to very hard decisions But I would say for the majority of life and the majority of your relationships What we're really talking about here is not getting rid of Relationships we're talking about finding specific places where that habit can thrive So here are some examples There's a number of studies that have shown that it tends to be easier to build a new habit in a new environment So for example If you well first let me back up There's an interesting way to define what habit is which is that it is a behavior that is tied to a particular context So for example your habit of watching Netflix might be tied to the context of your couch at 7 p.m. And whenever you walk into your living room and you're by your couch and it's in the evening You're kind of naturally being pulled toward picking up the remote and doing that because that's the context the habit happens in So if you want to build a new habit and again these studies have found that it tends to be easier to build a new habit in a new environment Well, let's say you want to start a habit of journaling Well, you walk into your living room in the evening and you sit down on the couch You're like I'm going to start journaling But you're naturally you know your brain is kind of like what's time to pick up the remote and turn on the TV That doesn't always mean that you need a brand new space like a new building or a new room to do every habit in But you could do something like you could get a chair and put it in the corner of the room And that becomes the journaling chair and the only thing that you do when you sit in that chair is you journal for five minutes So now you have a new context That is tied to the behavior that you want to perform and in the social sense So this is what we're talking about previously You want to be able to create a space that is a safe place for that environment for that habit to live or for that habit to thrive let's say Sometimes there were those spaces are ready made like Let's say you want to do yoga four days a week But you look around your family or your friends and your apartment that you're living nobody else is interested They don't want to do it too You do it in the living room you kind of get made fun of or you're stepping on other people's space They're like I'm trying to do stuff in here too, you know, it's just kind of inconvenient Well, you can go to a yoga studio and that's a place where for that hour You can be surrounded by a group where your desired behavior is normal You don't have to fire any of your friends And you can just go to the place where that habit can thrive and I think each habit likes to have that It likes to have somewhere where it can exist in a way that it's going to be supported or in a way where the environment makes it easy Sometimes the environment is ready made like that other times it's not So for me one of the most useful things that I did in my entrepreneurial career I had no entrepreneurs in my family no authors So I had this thing that I kind of wanted to do but I didn't have anybody close to me that I could like look to First six months I was entrepreneur I sent like 300 cold emails just to other people that were like a year to ahead of me Someone who seemed like you're actually doing this thing where you know, you've got this online audience and you're you're writing about stuff you like um Maybe 30 people got back to me I did like a little you know zoom call or whatever and we you know, we chatted and connected And then I met some of them at a conference like six months later So I was six months in I knew like maybe 10 people that I met in person and I had like 30 that I had reached out to So now it feels like okay At least I know a couple people who've done this thing and I started hosting these retreats every two once or twice a year I get six or eight authors together And I'd say let's just rent an Airbnb will split the cost and we can talk about how to build an audience and how to grow your You know email list and how to write a book and launch it and you know all the stuff that we were kind of focused on It was almost always like the best six month best weekend of my year Because I would have six months worth of stuff that I need to execute on after that was done That's kind of like going to yoga studio for yoga, but you had to create the space I was always worried that I was gonna look like some dork, you know I'm like invite everybody and they would all say no or whatever But everybody wants the same thing, you know They're all waiting for somebody to create the space for like-minded people to get together So sometimes you need enough courage to create the space yourself But the punchline is the same which is you're trying to surround yourself with people where your desired behavior is the normal behavior I've had so many founders speak to me and say Why didn't this particular ad that I ran on this platform work for me Maybe the copy wasn't good the creative wasn't strong But usually the problem is they're not having the right conversation Because that ad never reached the right person And if you're in B2B marketing that is much of the game And this is where LinkedIn ads solves that problem for 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They want to go do something else. They want to go be an author They want to go Following your footsteps They want to Build a business in the media business For example, but they're so far away from that they're held in place by their parents expectations They're held in place by a mortgage and all the things that you know life When they get home every day. They're tired really really tired. So It's remainder dream you must have so many of those people that write to you that message you And because of what you've you've produced them because of the content that you make What do you say to those people Where does one one such person start one is I don't think it serves you in any way to just like kind of wallow and how hard it is or to talk about how tough it talking Complaining about how hard it is just makes it harder You know, so the the act of complaining makes a bad situation worse The act of emphasizing the things that are going well or trying to take It's kind of this endless game of trying to take your current advantages and gain new advantages So like early on Most people don't have many advantages like I didn't know anybody in the industry I didn't have any money. I didn't have any experience But the one advantage that I did have was I had time And so I could use that time to try to gain new advantages So in my case, I used the time to write two articles a week and I did that for two years I did like kind of freelance gigs on the side to play the bills and stuff and Eventually, that's how I built the audience and then once I had the audience two years later Then I had a new advantage right I not only had time. I also had an email list Now I can go from there and I could get a book deal and then I have a new advantage I have a book deal and then you know, you just kind of like continually use your current advantages to gain new advantages and I just talked about this for about 20 seconds That was about seven years of my life It's the thing that the span of all that right it goes it goes slower than what you want But um, it's kind of just that that endless game it goes slower than you would want Makes me think about this whole idea of being one percent better every day. Yeah Yeah What are the most sort of pertinent parts of understanding that graph two things stand out right? So first is this is this charge to show it what this is showing is if you get one percent better each day for a year Okay, so 1.01 to 365th power You get 37 times better by the end of the year, right? So that's this curve If you get 1% worse 0.99 to 365th power you drive yourself almost all the way down zero now A chart like this just compound interest right this is just a compounding curve And real life is not exactly a lot compound interest You know your habits are not exactly like this mathematical formula But I think this chart does a good job of encapsulating what the process of behavior change feels like You know what it's like to try to get a little bit better each day because two things are true These are the two things that stand out first Any compounding curve the hallmark of any compounding process is all the greatest returns are delayed Right you are 80% of the way through this curve before it really starts to take off So all the greatest returns are delayed the early stuff doesn't feel that impressive The second is the on day one the separation between 0.99 and 1.01 is very small right 1% better or 1% worse is very minor So on any given day It's very easy to dismiss you know What is the difference between eating something healthy for lunch or eating something on healthy Today basically nothing your body looks the same in the mirror at the end of the night the scale hasn't changed You know there's no evidence what is the difference between The person who reads for 10 minutes today and the person who doesn't Basically nothing to reading for 10 minutes does not make you a genius, but The person who always goes to bed a little bit smarter than they were when they woke up The person who always takes a little bit of time each day to learn something new Yeah, two or five or ten years later like that's a meaningful difference in wisdom and insight And so you see the same pattern again and again throughout life Which is what starts out small and it's pretty insignificant easy to dismiss on a daily basis It compounds it multiplies and improves over time And so the effects of your habits are delayed time will magnify whatever you feed it So if you have good habits time becomes your ally and every day that goes by you put yourself in a stronger position If you have bad habits time becomes your enemy and every day that goes by you dig the whole a little bit deeper And so the real lesson of a chart like this the real lesson of getting 1% better every day Is not to get wrapped up in the number It's not like always at a 1% improvement or 1.6% or whatever it is not about that It's an attitude. It's an approach. It's a Focus and emphasis on trajectory rather than position You know, there's a lot of discussion about position in life How much money is in my bank account? What's the number on the scale? What's the stock price? What are the quarterly earnings? We have all these measurements and metrics for assessing our current position And then if the position isn't what we want it to be We get frustrated or we feel guilty or we judge ourselves or get annoyed or whatever And what I'm encouraging is to say listen just for a minute Let's stop worrying so much about our current position and instead Focus a little bit more on our current trajectory Am I getting 1% better or 1% worse? Is the arrow pointed up into the right or have we flatlined? So if you're on a good trajectory all you need is time Hmm This is this is almost become a religious belief I think because I think for everything you've said it has to become a religious belief Because the results are hard to see in the near term But um it is most certainly a religious belief in our team I have multiple readers who got tattoos of it which I was not expecting I drew the son of an index card and now it's on somebody's body Yeah, that was that was definitely surprising And it needs that religion because that first part Wait, you're doing something and there's no progress There's no evidence of progress There is something tricky about this so I think it's important So we all we all have made this mistake before which is you can make 1% improvements that accumulate And you can make 1% improvements that evaporate right you can spend your time on trivial stuff Meaningful you know you'd see it can be meaningful small changes or it can be meaningless small changes And so how do you decide the difference between the two and that's kind of tricky And I don't know that you can always get it perfectly right But to me the dividing line is does this action accumulate into something larger or not You know you can spend your time doing all small stuff whatever day in and day out But are you building to something bigger? And so in a lot of ways I think the two time frames that matter most in life are 10 years and one hour You know 10 years is just shorthand for like what's the big meaningful stuff you're working toward You think about most of the stuff that people really get the meaningful movements in life Most of them are multi-year things you know build a business that you're proud of Raising a successful family, you know having a happy marriage Getting in the best shape of your life. Whatever it is contributing some cause that you care about like They're usually big multi-year sometimes multi-decade things. So 10 years is shorthand for that But if you can do one thing each day that's going to serve you well in 10 years If you can find one hour sometime today to do something that's going to pay off in a decade You usually don't even need to wait 10 years for it to really start to show up You know usually get two or three or four years into that and you're like wow I can't believe how this stuff's accumulating already And it makes me think again about your idea of systems versus goals because The most exceptional founders I know they'll think about what can I do in the next hour? So that in 10 years time we're in a different place Which again it sounds I've said this a few times But one of the most important things in business I mean the definition of the word company is hiring so most I think all nearly all problems I face in business are a people problem It's like a people mistake that I have or haven't you know made yet So the photo I've got on my career I've started to think that actually most of my the next hour of my life should be Working on people Because that corrects what happens in 10 years time like if we want to go From what my company to go public in 10 years time in the next hour I should really be thinking about a hiring process which will find the CFO which will build the business I mean here you are talking to me No but I'm learning but I'm going to go take it out and I'm going to go No but it's really it's really useful speaking to you about this because it's given me the wording To which will create memorability which will create the repetitions and habits if you don't I'm saying is it on Shota And I wasn't thinking in terms of systems and goals. I was I always refer to it with people I say what's further stop stream? Yeah, and this can also be what we're saying about sleep and I see hiring for example in business Or do you actually generally in your personal life Selecting people is the single most important fact to everything that happens downstream Relationships in general are probably there It's obvious to everybody that they matter and yet they still are probably perpetually undervalued. Yeah, so It's true in a business sense, which is what you're talking about here like almost every business problem at some level Could be a people problem or there's a person who could unlock it and solve that problem It's true in a personal sense the most important decision you probably will make is like whether or who you get married to That you know that will dramatically shape your life It's also true in like a Just a luck business life sense, which is that There is no such thing as an opportunity that is not tied to a person right like opportunities come through people And so when you say oh, I wish I could just like have some good luck or I wish I could like catch my lucky break What you're probably talking about is there's a person who carries that opportunity with them that you need to interface with or get to know And so in all of these ways relationships dramatically shape our lives and Yeah, people people are probably the most important thing in that sense. I think with with age That becomes more apparent for most people It becomes more most apparent that the best decisions I've made in my life were people and the worst decisions But we don't think about that we think I'll work sad in Sunday in the office I'll have some great idea if I read a book. I'll have some great idea which will make me lucky and successful whereas And with time I realized that the smart work versus the hard work is focusing much more on people How do you how does your work dovetail into things like Self-esteem and confidence and because everybody wants to build confidence and For some people there in a bit of a downward reinforcing confidence spiral which I guess would look something like this You know something happened in their life So they're less likely to raise their hand or to step outside of their zone of comfort and even when and if they do they interpret it Negatively and that knocks their confidence. They see it. They're wearing sunglasses that interpret the things that are happening is negative And they're in this sort of downward compounding spiral And there's other people that seem to be going the other way first is um I had a high school basketball coach that told me confidence is just display ability And what he meant was if you want to feel more confident about like your ability to make a free throw go out there and shoot for an hour And once you knock down ten in a row, you're gonna feel a lot better about it And so what you realize this is true for everything which is once you have started to display your ability in any given area You know give a successful speech or you know make a nice presentation for work or whatever it is You feel better about it and so what you realize is you need reps You know you need practice whatever the thing is you need you need enough repetition to start to learn how to do the thing And so this is why sometimes I'll say like motivation comes after starting not before we think we need motivation to get started But in fact you should try to scale it down and make it so easy that you'll do it Even if you don't feel that motivated about it and start get some reps in And then once you've got and then once you perform the repetitions You start to build up some confidence because you know that you have some evidence that you can do it So confidence is display ability Let's try to scale it down make it easy start to display our ability and the confidence comes as a side effect The second thing though and this this might even be the more important piece You mentioned this idea of someone who interprets things in a negative frame You know they they get in the cotton this like downward spiral They see like evidence of things working against them or the world is tilted against them or like they're emphasizing the pieces of the story that aren't serving them that well I had so I played baseball for a long time I played through college um and when I was younger Uh 10 12 14 After each season we do this thing my dad and I would go out and sit on the back deck And we would talk about like The wins the good parts of the you know the biggest games that our team won or like my best plays from the year or just like things that I got better at From the season before and I was never the best player on any team that I was on but you finish each season with a sense of positivity a sense of confidence is feeling of like momentum going into the next year And I think I played for a long time partially because of that you know like we were it was a practice of emphasizing your wins And so I think that's an interesting thing that like more people should try is when you look back on your last year What are some of the wins that you've had and try to use that you know tell yourself that story emphasize that story and use that to move into the next moment I was talking recently so I had this I have this publishing company that I co-founded authors equity and We're publishing this book from the Skyname Brandon Webb who is a Former Navy SEAL he trained the Navy SEAL sniper unit in mental performance And so he he would teach them all kinds of things I was talking to him about the book and some of the strategies and I was trying to learn like what they would do And two things stood out to me the first thing he said is a positive outlook no matter the scenario So the first thing we trained them on is positive outlook no matter what situation or scenario they're in The second thing is visualizing things going well Okay, so one time a sniper came up to and said what's a good score on this course like they would give them these little courses to test Like you know, they have to make eight or ten or twelve different shots or whatever and he said a good score is a hundred percent Oh, he he was like now in reality almost nobody gets a hundred percent But I wanted to set that standard right to set that outcome in their mind as the thing they were shooting for and he had two guys He was training one of me on 96 one of me got a hundred Anyway, the point is that In life there are always things that go well and things that go poorly There will always be days that things are stacked against you and days when things seem to go your way And the question is which story are you telling yourself? You know which version of the events are you emphasizing now? I'm not suggesting that you should like ignore reality You know if there's a problem that needs to be addressed and you still need to address it But as long as you're not ignoring reality I feel like the only thing that makes the senses to emphasize the empowering version You know to emphasize the wins to sit down and reflect on what you've done and think about what the wins were and how that feeds in your momentum going forward And to visualize the next step and how it's going to go well It reminds me of um Something said David Brillsford said to me who I know is the prominent in the first chapter of your book He was talking a lot about one percent gains etc And he says the thing that he doesn't get to talk about enough is the psychological momentum that's created from Accomplishing these one percent gains and celebrating them amongst the team He said to me that when he was in the British cycling team and he went into there and they were down and out and depressed and kind of being ridiculed for being this terrible team He goes we started you know stacking up the one percent's etc And the crazy thing that happened is we started to quote feel like we were going somewhere And people stopped leaving the bike shop at 5 p.m. And started staying until 2 a.m Because they felt like they were going somewhere at dovetails and she'll point about progress But also just the power of Being intentional about um Celebrating those wins and the psychological momentum it creates in a group of people and yourself That's great I think you do need to be a little bit more intentional about it in the real world So if you look if you look at some of the most habit forming Technologies or some of the most habit forming things like let's take video games for example In a video game There are continual Constant forms of progress So your score is increasing in like the top corner of the screen Whenever you pick up a weapon or a ruby or a gem or whatever is like a little jingle or a chime or some musical note Even the pitter pattern of footsteps as you like run through the level is a signal that you're making progress that you're moving forward That you're going somewhere And so if you compare all of that immediate feedback that you're getting like all in the same moment when you're playing this level And then you walk outside and you think about most of the things you're working on in real life you're like This committee's been meeting every Friday for six months. We still haven't shipped this feature You know, like I've been running every day for the last month and I still don't see a change in my body And so it's very hard to compare the digital world and all the progress that we get there through our screens to the physical world And the habits that we're trying to build and foster in our lives and businesses And I think that's one reason why it is nice to be more intentional about it to try to think about what are the one percent improvements Or the small gains that we can make today and then celebrating those wins So that you have some feeling of progress there because in the real world progress is often delayed You know my parents like to swim Well, if they were swimming for the change that they're going to see in their body it takes two years You know like they the problem is they jump into the water and their body looks exactly the same when they get out Right, and so you need something in the moment that gives you some signal progress They use a habit tracker so they have like a little template where they just put a little x on that day But you need something that visualizes your progress that gives you some signal that you're moving forward I was reminded then of the Harvard Business Review did the study where they asked people what their best day and work was and they asked them to keep work diaries I think it was about a thousand people and the majority people pointed out today and their work diary in that week where they had a feeling of progress Even if it was tiny And this goes to your point about making it fun as well So highlighting one's progress and celebrating it makes it fun But also that's psychological momentum And then also you can do this stuff. You can do the one step better every day You put yourself in a position to experience the feeling of progress if you scale your habits down So let's say sometimes they're in chemistry. There's this come There's this concept of activation energy. How much energy it takes to activate a reaction So you know if the activation energy is high you have to put a lot of heat or a lot of energy into the reaction to make it occur I think habits kind of have an activation energy too. So like let's say that your habit is to do a hundred pushups a day The activation energy for that's kind of high on the first day when you're really pumped about it Maybe you're doing sets of 10 all throughout the day and you get to 100 and you feel really good Maybe you can do that for a couple days or a week or whatever, you know But at some point You get to a day where you're tired or you had a lot to do at work or whatever and then you turn around It's 930 and you're like I need to go to bed soon. Do I feel like doing a hundred pushups? And then you skip it But if you're something much smaller like your goal is to do one pushup or 10 pushups Well, that is a lot easier and the activation energy is much lower And so then you get to that day eight or nine or 10 days in when it's 930 You can still do 10 pushups for you to bed, right? And so You still get the feeling of progress You still get the feeling that you're moving forward simply because you set the bar lower to start You know if the bar is perfect at the beginning It's really hard to maintain that for very long But if the bar is getting you in Now you build momentum and you get the feeling of progress and you get a month or two months or three months in And you still have a streak going and you feel pretty good about yourself And at some point you start doing it enough that you realize okay There will probably be a day in here while I miss But I still feel good about who I am and how much I've shown up here And like you've proven a lot to yourself And so I think sometimes scaling it down and making it easy Gives yourself a better opportunity to feel progress Two words you said in the last couple of minutes one of them was your parents use a habit tracker And the other one was use the word streak Yeah, do you understand the context of this jar? For me with paper clips could you explain to me habit tracking and streaks and why why they matter? So when I was working on atomic habits I came across this guy named Trent Dersman and he was he had an interesting story He's an entrepreneur now, but early in his career He had this job where he was a stockbroker in Abbott's for Canada And Abbott's for this like in the 90s times like pretty small town like it wasn't you know some big City and he was supposed to just drive more business But like you know, they didn't have a lot of advantages. It wasn't like he was a new york or whatever He had this one simple habit that he used to end up becoming the top performer In the firm and building the biggest book of business there over like the next couple years And it was this simple strategy of paper clips So all he did a lot of his stockbroker friends who were like also working in this job They would read analyst reports. They would look at the news They would try to analyze companies financial statements They were doing all this other stuff and he said I'm not going to do that all I'm going to do Is I'm going to make a sales call And whenever I make a call See I'll tight anybody put these on Whenever whenever I make a call I'm going to make a sales call and then I'm going to take one paper clip and then I moved over And then I'm going to make another sales call I'm going to take another paper clip and move it over And he had a hundred paper clips in the jar and his goal every day was to move a hundred from one jar to the next And that was all he did and with that one simple habit he ended up building this huge book of business Two things about this one Obviously he has a visual marker of the progress that he's making right so moving paper clips to the other jar Is a way to see that he's progressing throughout the day It also makes it a little bit into like a little game, you know It's like okay, how how quickly can I move the paper clips over how much you know progress in my making Do I have 50 over by the time lunch rolls around you know you can start to see how you you have a little bit of a This these progressive markers throughout the day But the other thing that I think is interesting about it is he boiled it down to just what was the one thing that really moved the You know, and he just focused on that and there are so many things in life that it's really easy to get focused on the optimization It's so view or so focused on finding the perfect sales strategy the best business plan the ideal diet to follow You're so focused on optimizing you're like okay How about sometimes people will come to me and they say they want to build an audience and they'd like ask about all the Tactics and the strategies and I say just Write an article every week for the next two years and then get back to me like that Let's not skip that part. Can we start let's start there? We're like let's not miss a workout for two years And then like we can talk about whether the programs working or not, you know, and it's like that So I think this helps you focus on what is the big thing that's really moving the needle? I was thinking it about it through the frame of the habit cycle as well because As I look at this habit cycle, I'm seeing reward being hit. I'm seeing Desire for an outcome as well. Yeah. Yeah, this is interesting. So there um we haven't talked about this yet So let me just break it down real quick. So if you're building a habit There are roughly four different stages that every habit goes through So I call them in the book and atomic habits I call them Q craving response and reward All right, so the Q is just something that you notice So let's say for example, you see the play to cookies on the counter in the kitchen. That's a visual cue The craving is the prediction that your brain makes about what that Q means So you see the play to cookies your brain predicts. Oh, that'll be sweet sugary tasty enjoyable So that favorable prediction motivates you to take the response. That's the third step you walk over picking up and take a bite And then finally the fourth step is the reward. Oh, it is in fact sweet sugary tasty enjoyable. So Q craving response reward These steps are basically what every habitual behavior is going through even even really automatic stuff Like let's say you walk into a room and the lights are off. So Q it's dark Craving I want to be able to see response. I flip on the light switch reward the lights come on now. It's visible out there So even really fast stuff like turning on a light switch is going through those four steps So pretty much every habit follows that cycle and you can see that you know this Paperclip strategy does kind of play into this a little bit Q you have the paper clips on the desk, right? So like not only do you want to make the sales calls for a business standpoint But you also have these staring at you every morning when you come into your desk And so it's a little bit of a visual reminder Reminds you prompts you just think okay, all right I do want to make these calls and try to drive more business or you know build build up the Make another successful sales call that craving gets you to pick up a phone Which the actual response and then we're the reward is I get to move the paperclip over and now I feel like yeah, you get the little Ting jingle in your ear of the paperclip hitting and you know It just get it adds to the reward effect What I think is most interesting is how do we take this? How do we take these four steps that basically all behaviors go through And then translate it into something that we can use and apply in daily life and work So I call this the four laws of behavior change. So there's one for there's one for each step. Yeah, you got them right here I'll give them to you. So I call these the four laws of behavior change, right? So for the Q the first laws you want to make it obvious, right? You want the cues? You want the cues of your good habits to be obvious available visible easy to see Easier to see your get your attention the more likely you are to act on it So a lot of that's about environment. It's about making things obvious But it's the cue get your attention something you notice So let's put this in the context of me wanting to make sure I have my supplement routine every day Sure, because that's something I think about yeah, I want to have my crazy and everything So it's like where's the crazy and in the kitchen? You know is it is it tucked up in a high shelf And it's behind like a cabinet door and you don't really see it or is it like out on the counter? It's one of the first things that you see So they're you know, they're varying degrees of what you want to do here And like what you want to place out But you're just trying to make the good habit obvious you want to make it easy to notice Reminds me of when I started DJing and the DJing equipment was upstance in the spare room out the way And I had a conversation with my girlfriend who'd do that and I was like I really want to learn DJing So can I put it on the kitchen counter for the next year? Hmm Because then I'll be walking past one day and go oh DJ you know And then I put it on the kitchen counter and I started DJ I have a reader who he would go to his guitar lessons And he would practice with his teacher and then he'd give him some homework to practice certain scales or whatever And then he would come back and he would take his guitar put it in the case at the end of each At the end of each session and put it in the closet Well I mean forget it was there for a week and then you know The next week would roll around and he'd pick it out and go to practice and he'd be like you weren't you know You didn't do this throughout the week So he bought a guitar stand and put it in the center of the living room Now he passes it 30 times a day Much more likely to pick it up and play for five minutes So it's just making making your habits obvious The second law is about the craving and it's all about making you know attractive And this is where um I mentioned earlier like that question of what would this look like if it was fun You want your habits to be fun compelling attractive interesting to you And the more engaging or exciting it is the more like you are stick with it So like I had one woman who She wanted to stop going out to eat for lunch at work every day and start bringing her lunch in Because she felt like it would be healthier But the idea of making like a salad for lunch wasn't that exciting to her So she came up with this phrase of a party in a bowl And so she in the beginning she would do all kinds of stuff She would like take potato chips and crumble them up and put them in there Or she would like chop up sneakers bars and put them in with the salad or whatever She was just trying to find a way to make it fun And then once she was already bringing lunch in every day You know after she did this for a month or so Then she was like all right, I'm in the habit of bringing lunch in How can I start to make lunch healthier So find a way to make your habit attractive The third law is to make it easy This is all about making it simple, frictionless, easy to do The more convenient or frictionless your habits are The more likely they are to occur We've talked about this a lot already But it's you know scaling your habits down It's using the two minute rule to make it you know as easy as you can But the easier a habit is to perform The more likely it is to happen Daniel Coniman the famous psychologist I think he once said that If you were to boil behavior down to like a single principal A single thing that drives human behavior It's convenience, it's ease You know what is that? What is the easy thing to do? We are biological organisms and we expend energy to live And it is in your best interest to try to conserve energy whenever you can And so the more your brain is wired for it You're always looking for it In fact many of the largest businesses in the world Basically just take a human desire That we already want to do and try to make it even more convenient Like door dash is just like you need food Just tap a couple times through thumb and we'll give it to you I mean in fact the whole arc of human history and how we get food Is just been one long path of making it more and more convenient It used to be that we were hunter-gatherers and had to kill our food or forage for berries in the bush And then we started growing it so it was right next to our house And we didn't have to move we could just harvest the corn or the beans or whatever And eat it And then we started just shipping it to grocery stores Now you don't even have to grow it yourself You'll just come over here and you can buy it and take it home And then we said forget it You don't even need to drive to the grocery store anymore We'll just deliver it through Instacart or Grocery Delivery or whatever And now we say you don't even have to cook it in your own house anymore We'll just you can just order it on door dash You just tap with your thumb and we'll bring it ready made to you right here And you can just eat it It's all just one continual long arc of making it easier and easier And the more that you can make your habits more convenient The more likely it is that you're going to stick to it and fall through And then the fourth and final law is to make it satisfying The more satisfying your habits are the more likely you are to stick to them in the future And return to them again The first three laws make it obvious Make it attractive and make it easy Are all about making your habit more likely to occur this time Make it satisfying is about increasing the odds that you do it next time Because by the time you get to this step the habits already occurred Right it's already over now But was it rewarding or not? Was it beneficial or not? Did it serve you in some way? If it serves you, if you feel like it benefits you somehow That marks the experience in your brain And says, Hey, this was useful. Let's come back to this next time Next time you're in a similar situation Let's repeat this again And so make it satisfying the reward Is kind of it closes the feedback loop of learning You know it increases the odds that you're going to fall through on it I use that word learning intentionally We're talking about building habits But in a way what we're really talking about is the process of learning It's the process of how your brain and body learn what to do as you go through life You know you go throughout life and you experience different things And you come across different strategies And you try them out You know that at some point there's the first time that you take a bite of a pancake And then you're like, Oh, that's kind of tasty Maybe I should take another bite And other times you try things And you're like, I don't really like that much Or it didn't really do anything It was kind of neutral And your brain's like, well, maybe try something different next time So the behaviors that are rewarded The behaviors that are satisfying The behaviors that are enjoying enjoyable Are likely to stick And I guess there's lots of different ways one can make it rewarding I was thinking about our fitness group Which we have on WhatsApp Where it's called fitness blockchain And every month one person is evicted Every day that you go to the gym You take a screenshot of your workout and drop it in there And then someone who's like a freelance data science person Just kind of compiles it all into a document And sends screenshots every day With our combined workouts The whole game is consistency So it doesn't matter how hard you worked It's just like, did you go? And that has kind of made I don't know where that appears on this cycle But I think of it as like accountability It also makes it fun But where is that social packed element on this cycle Is that the part of the reward of it? I think it influences all of the behaviors You know, so the fact that you see other people working out is a queue Right? So like, you might get a text of somebody else's screenshot Yeah, I'm doing like, oh, yeah I need to get my workout in today I don't want to forget, so that's a queue that triggers the behavior There's something attractive about being part of it as a group You know that once you post your screenshot That other people are going to see it And like, you might get kind of rewarded for it Or like, you did your thing So that's kind of exciting and feels motivating That like motivates you to show up and do it Sometimes you may work out with somebody Right? And so that like that There's something there that's improving the response It's more, it's more fun to do it together But it also gets you moving And then finally there's the reward of You know, sticking to the streak or being part of it or not getting anything We get rewards We actually, there's actually a big metal belt A physical belt, that's handed out a rear But every week there's, you know, every month there's a winner That gets the display picture as their face And it's perfect I want the belt That's cool That's cool Right? It's got my name in grave It's like a wrestling belt That's awesome How does this work if you're trying to break a habit? So for each of these There are many ways to do each of these things You know, there's many ways to make habits obvious There are many ways to make them attractive and so on And what I'm giving you is just kind of the overview of how to build a good habit Or how to install a new behavior If you want to break a bad habit Then you just invert these four So rather than making it obvious Make it invisible Ah, okay Unsubscribe for me, males Don't keep junk food in the house Reduce exposure to the queue Rather than making it attractive Make it unattractive That's the hardest one we can talk about that in a second Rather than making it easy Make it difficult So increase friction Add steps between you and the behavior I find like here's two examples for me I've tried this new thing where I keep my phone in another room until lunch each day So usually it's like 9-11 or so in the morning My phone is down the hall It's in a different room than I'm in my office And it's just a chance for me to work on my own priorities Rather than whatever's you know coming in through the phone I'm like everybody else If my phone is right next to me I will check it every three minutes Just because it's there But if it's down the hall It's only 30 seconds away But I never go get it And I always think that's interesting It's like did I want it or not? In the one sense I wanted it badly enough that I would check it every three minutes One is right by me But I never wanted it so bad That I go work 30 seconds to go get it And I found that a lot of habits are like that If you just introduce a little bit of friction They kind of curtail themselves to the desired degree So beer is another one I don't think this would work if you like And you know actually have an addiction or something But I've noticed that if I get like a six pack of beer And I put it in the front of the fridge And I open it up and it's like right there And I can see it I'll have one at dinner just because it's there But if I put it like on the lowest shelf in the fridge Like all the way in the back I kind of got to bend down to even see it Sometimes I'll forget I'll have it It'll be there for two weeks I won't even remember that it's in there And so I think that's all about like You know Inversion of the first law Making visible And inversion of the third law Make it difficult The less likely you are to see it The harder it is to do The more steps that are involved The less likely it is to occur And then the final piece Is the inversion of the last law Which is Rather than make it satisfying Make it unsatisfying So layer on some kind of cost or consequence And I in atomic habits I call this the cardinal rule of behavior change It's like so pervasive of a teacher Which is Behaviors that get immediately rewarded Get repeated And behaviors that get immediately punished Get avoided And so obvious But You have to ask yourself Do you have a good feeling when you do the thing That you want to do The habit that you want to build Are you getting immediately rewarded for that And if you have a habit You're trying to avoid What is the cost? What is the consequence? Is there something that It feels like a punishment there If so, then you're more likely to avoid it If not It gets tricky It's hard, isn't it? There's cookies on the counter out there You might have noticed the machine walked in It's like we've got them on a little plate There's a No, but I'm going to grab them while I lay out But I was just thinking about that If I have the cookie now I'm not going to get an immediate punishment The only sort of immediate punishment Is a bit of guilt That I might start to feel That I'm now one step further away from The goals that I've shown myself in terms of fitness Is there any way to bring forward the The punishment in areas Not the punishment But the The downside The downside Yeah The cost of your good habits Is as the present The cost of your bad habits is in the future And so For a lot of your Quote and quote, bad habits It feels good in the moment You know like eating a donut Feels great now Playing the video game feels great now Doing it You know, whatever It's only later That you realize Oh there was a cost Associated with this Even something like the classic bad habit of smoking Maybe you get to stay with friends outside and socialize Or maybe you reduce stress in the moment after a long day of work It's only you know Five or ten or 20 years later That you have this consequence So A lot of the game Of building better habits Is finding ways to pull the rewards Of your good habits Into the present moment So you feel good now You don't have to wait three years for it to happen And pulling the consequences of your bad habits Into the present moment So that you feel a little bit of the pain right now And you realize This isn't actually serving me Which I guess is why they put the photos of people's lungs on the cigarette packets That's yeah like one of the things that's trying to do Right What about this um Habit school card over there Is that what your parents use with for swimming So the habit score card Just a this is just a simple like assessment The insight behind this practice Is that Intentional behavior change Starts with self-awareness Right So you will You will change your habits all the time Whether you think about them or not Your your building habits Whether you focus on it or whatever Like your your brain and body is built for it Now the more interesting question is Can you design your behavior Can you shape your habits in the way that you want And that's where self-awareness comes in It's very hard to shape your habits without being aware of them And so there have actually been some studies that have found that Just the act of becoming more aware of the behavior Will change it on its own For example there was one study that looked at people who journaled About their they created food journals for what they were eating No tracking of anything There's no they were not on a diet They're not trying to eat certain way They don't care about how many calories you have There's no tracking or anything All they did was simply write down what they ate each day And just the act of journaling about it Changed what people ate And reduced the number of calories that they had and so on Just because they were aware of what was happening And so This is true for most habits Which is once you start to notice them Then you start to notice ways that you could improve them Or ways that you could refine them Or ways that maybe you want to do things differently You're not operating as on autopilot And quite the same way So the habit scorecard is just a simple way to do this It's very simple You just write down all the habits that you're doing each day So you can start Usually there's like a package of behaviors in the beginning And maybe around lunch And then like a power down routine at the end of the day But you know it could be something like Wake up, drink a glass of water, take a shower You know check my phone, get dressed, whatever Like you just you know go through the list of what your normal day looks like And then once you have the behaviors written down You give them a score And the score is just If it's a good habit or a habit that you like That's contributing to your life You put a plus sign If you it's a habit that you feel like you want to get rid of Like maybe say I wake up and then I scroll on my phone for 10 minutes Before I get out of bed You're like well do I really want to be doing that Maybe not I'll give out a minus sign And then some stuff's just neutral You know like get dressed You know Sure Whatever Just put an equal sign And the idea is not to judge yourself for it It's more like Sometimes I tell people it's almost like Imagine when you like go to the zoo And you like you know look at the lions And you're like oh wow how interesting that they would do that You kind of like do that with yourself And you're like oh how interesting that I spend my time that way You know you're not like trying to judge yourself or analyze it It's just Let me see what I'm actually spending my time on And then once you have that list I think that this is like later in the book But there's um It becomes very useful for building habit stacks For layering your new habits on top of the things that you're already doing And so some of its self-awareness Some of it is priming for habit stacking Habit stacking Yeah What is a habit stack Look at this Like I like these props This is great All right, so first let me let me just unpack the idea Habit stacking is this concept that came from Stanford professors named BJFog And his insight which I think is great Is that it's easier to build a new habit If you layer it or stack it on top of An old habit The habit you're already doing He calls it the tiny habits recipe I think But it's the insight is just that we all have Habits that were performing each day And those can become anchors They can become cues that prompt The new behaviors that we're going to perform So let's say that your current habit is you make cup of coffee Right, so you're already doing this You're going to start each day You're going to make cup of coffee And the new habit that you want to build Is you want to start meditating So then you could say All right, after I make my morning cup of coffee I will meditate for 60 seconds So that this is just like a basic habit stack Right, so you start with coffee And then you meditate after Now once you get good at this You can start to chain them together So for example, you could say After I make my morning cup of coffee I will write my to do I will meditate for 60 seconds And then I write my to-do list for the day After I write my to-do list for the day I will prioritize them And start working on my first task or whatever And now you have this little stack That you do the same way Each morning, each time And it just is a way to build simple momentum and get you in I have, I've got readers who made like all kinds of habit stacks One of the funny ones that I remember is One guy, he was really into working out And he was always drinking protein shakes But his finances were kind of a mess And so anytime that he would make a protein shake He would like check his finances And check his budget for the day He would like When I make a protein shake I fill out my daily budget That was like his habit stack But you can do it for anything Right, and the idea is that you want to find a good place For this new habit to live Sometimes, like let's say, let's take the meditation example As a general rule, as a very broad stroke rule It tends to be better to do habits earlier in the day Rather than later Because the later it gets in the day The less your day is under your control Right, like more things interrupt There's just, you know, you run lower on time Lower on energy and so on So yeah, I like in general I like the idea of maybe doing meditation in the morning So you make your cup of coffee and then you meditate But if you have like three little toddlers That you're chasing around You're trying to get pants on your kids Then maybe that's not a good time to meditate Right, it's not a good space for that habit to live So I think once you've done that habit scorecard And you have like all of your normal habits laid out there You can start to think about the new habit That you want to build And look at that list And then say, okay, what's the appropriate place to insert This new habit Where should that new habit stack live What's a good trigger for that new behavior to occur And so you create these little stacks And then it just eventually, it doesn't take that long But eventually you get used to just doing in the same order each time You know, like I have one woman who she's like Every day I walk into my office I hang up my purse I hang up my jacket I go fill up my water bottle I sit down on the desk and hang answer the first email And that's like she just does that sequence every time she comes in I have one I think that's kind of related Which is, and this sounds very strange People go think I'm weird but whatever Is, I wanted to learn how to meditate But in my day, the way that my day was currently constructed There was no great opportunity where I'm alone For like 10 to 20 minutes And I'm uninterrupted and I'm in that position And so what I started doing is I started meditating in the shower I'm there anyway, getting clean So it's great It's private, no, it's showers Yeah, a lot of showers My girlfriend's like, what the fuck is going on in there I'm not in there, sat on the floor But now I started just meditating in the shower And it was, it was in the morning Alone, I'm gonna do it anyway So that really helped for me And then when that started to stick And I started to get a bit of progress And see the benefits like in me that of the shower per se That's great I had a, you're reminding me of a woman who came up to me after a talk one time And told me that she, when she brushes She wanted to work on her balance She was getting older, she was getting into her 60s And she said Any, each day when I brush my teeth I brush on one leg And I do like 10, like little kind of half squats on that leg And then I switch to the other leg And I do 10 more on that And she was like, I'm my balance is better My legs are stronger and my teeth are very clean They take it, it takes a while But yeah You can pair it up in all kinds of ways On that point of doing things in the morning And generally having less energy later in the day Do you do think much about how to manage your own energy It's, I spoke to Dr. Lisa Feldman Who's a neuroscientist Who came up with this concept of like the body budget That we have this finite amount of energy And since then it's really had a big impact on me Because I start In so many ways that we've talked about One of which is I try to not to try and take on too much Because if in a world term my energy on a daily basis is finite I don't want to get to end of my body budget But also the order of things Like do I put my most important tasks today At the beginning of the day Etc. Etc. Etc. I would layer, so yes I do think about this a little bit And I've heard this like you want energy management Not time management, you know construct The other thing that I would add to it That I don't know that I've ever heard any of my talk about is control So the standard thing that everybody says is Oh we all only have 24 hours in a day Which obviously is true But if you were to break that into like 24 one hour chunks And just look at your day laid out that way You have different levels of control Over certain one hour chunks than others So for example the you know what I said a minute ago Like if you have a bunch of kids and you're getting them dressed from like 7 to 8 a.m That hour isn't that much under your control It's not a good time to meditate It's not a good time to work out There's other responsibilities that tend to happen in that hour And so I think that's an interesting thing too Is to map your day out and look at this and say All right Which hours are is my energy the best And which hours are most under my control And then you can start to see like where you're Ultimately what I think you're getting to is What are the good hours for me You know like where do those live throughout the day And then the next step is to ask What is getting my best hours And what's getting my leftovers And I have had a couple different times where I've looked at things And said I say this is important to me but really it's only getting my leftover hours And so then you're like okay something might need to change So I think about all of that I think about where's How much time do I have in general Where the pockets where I have the most energy or the best energy And then also where the pockets where I have the most control And then you try to figure out how to slot stuff in And theoretically you'd want to put the new hard habits To try to form in areas we have the highest degree of control Versus like 11 PM at night Right, yeah I think in general that's right It's so tricky when you have multiple things that really matter to you You know it's like all right you're choosing between family You're choosing between work You're choosing between personal pursuits And these new habits you're trying to build Like everything's got to kind of work together And so it's a balance of shaping all of that So many of us are pursuing passive forms of income And to build side businesses in order to help us cover our bills And that opportunity is here with our sponsor Stan A business that I co-own It is the platform that can help you take full advantage of your own financial situation Stan enables you to work for yourself It makes selling digital products courses, memberships And more simple products, more scalable and easier to do You can turn your ideas into income And get the support to grow whatever you're building And we've just launched dare to dream It's for those who are ready to make the share from thinking to building From planning to actually doing the thing It's about seeing that dream in your head and knowing exactly what it takes to bring it to life Enter to win $100,000 for your dream All you have to do is share what it is Learn more at dare to dream.stan.store Did I ever tell you about the data breach that we had at my previous company Yeah, I remember hearing about that Which was a total nightmare so I'm glad that we now use one password What are shares that Steve? It's called one password and they're the sponsor of the podcast now And they have this feature called enterprise password manager Which means that if any of our passwords across the team are compromised or leaked Then it unnotifies us And obviously if that were to be the case We're at huge risk across the entire team Through one password, EPM, you can also store all of your sensitive information And it's helping us to move closer towards past keys Which means eventually everybody will be able to log in To pretty much everything without ever having to put a password in Sounds like a good addition Yeah, I think it's like the single most impactful security addition You can make to your team especially if your team has tons of passwords that are all like hidden in excel files and stuff To my listeners if you want to secure your business head to onepassword.com slash D-O-A-C One password is a game changer It's the future that I always wished would be the case As someone that has you know 2030 different passwords For 2030 different applications The first time we made our little fitness group on WhatsApp It was about how many calories you could burn And that was what I ordered you the points and won you the competition Didn't last long Didn't last long For a number of reasons kind of toxic Unfair because I have more I weigh more than anyone in the group so I burn more calories just by standing up And then it moved to this this idea of consistency How do you think about what is better? Is it better to be consistent or is it better to be something else? I feel like there there's the story that people tell themselves a lot Which is they want to do the big impressive thing You know like you want to do You want to run a marathon you want to do a week long silent meditation retreat You want to you know write the bestselling book whatever And I think about it does this balance between consistency and intensity So Intensity is a good story. It's I ran the marathon. I did the silent meditation retreat consistency actually makes progress You know, it's I meditate for five minutes each day I run you know three days a week or whatever And so people need consistency more than they need intensity And in fact what I would say is Consistency enlarges ability Consistency enlarges ability It's the act of showing up consistently that builds your capacity to do something That fosters the skill development and growth that you want and so Showing up even if it's just in a small way is the way that you actually create the opportunity to do something more intense or more impressive down the line I also think that there's this Deep important lesson that comes from appreciating consistency and what's required there Consistency is often adaptability It's flexibility. There's this there's this story about like mental toughness and being disciplined like being a disciplined person That um that we tell ourselves that something like you know I grind to make sure this happens. I will I will you know Make it happen no matter what the circumstances like that the mentally tough person pushes through regardless of what they face But I think that in real life a lot of the time consistency is actually being flexible. It's being adaptable You know if you don't have enough energy you do the easier version If you know enough time you do the short version you find a way to not throw up a zero that day You find a way to show up even if it's not ideal and that is actually being very mentally tough and so the The adaptable person is the one that um what's that line it's uh When the storm came the oak tree fought it and broke but the willow benton survived And so it's like you need a way to manage the storms of life and bend with them while still showing up If you purely fight against it you think that You'd think that being tough that being mentally tough is like I'm gonna make sure this happens But it actually makes you somewhat brittle You know you need it to be a certain way and when you need life to be a certain way to succeed You become held hostage by the situation Needed to be just like that But if in fact you can be adaptable and you can be flexible now you are actually more resilient And so I think there's a balance to strike there and it it feeds into the consistency that will ultimately enlarge your ability. I think this is such an important point that I don't often hear people talk about it reminds me of my friend my friend One of my best friends He has a tendency to feel like he's cracked fitness And what tends to happen is he'll work out and go to the gym for like three months And he'll then announce that he's finally cracked it like the consistency the motivation And the minute he does that is like 30 days before he falls off again because I think I think he gets complacent Life is gonna happen And I remember saying to him one year I mean I've known him for 15 years now I was like um The thing I've come to learn about the gym and fitness is that you never crack it And actually the mindset that every single day I could fall off and that Life happens has helped me be consistent Whereas a version of me in 2017 set this ridiculous goal Which was I was gonna go to the gym every single day without fail And then five months in where life happened and I missed a day I'm a patient who's gone and I fell off You see this a lot with top performers in many different domains Which is it's not that they don't make mistakes or they don't slip up everybody slips up But they tend to get back on track quickly And so really what you need is not a perfect plan or like a system that never fails What you need is a good plan for getting back on track You need if the reclaiming of a habit is fast The breaking of it doesn't matter that much You get to the end of the year and it's just like a little blip on the radar But you need a good plan for getting back on track quickly So I think that some of the balance some of the Some of the strategy is actually knowing what to do when you fail Yeah um and if you if you figure that out then You're in a good position to bounce back quickly Funnily enough when I fail when I fall off my gym like I don't ever What I do is I set the display picture on my iPhone to red And I guess this is a point of self awareness Just reminds me that we've currently fallen off It means every time I look at my phone it's a reminder that this is code red Wow, that's great. That's what a strong visual sign Yeah And I need to start doing the small steps doing the shit work out again You know, so I have this um I have this little theory that The secret to winning is actually learning how to lose It's that the secret to winning is knowing how to lose Um and what I mean is that it's knowing how to handle a loss It's knowing how to rebound and bounce back from that I think that I learned it through sports I don't think sports is the only way you can learn it I think probably anything that you do with some level of public visibility could teach you You know musical performance or being in a fitness group with your friends or there's lots of ways you do it speaking publicly But one thing about sports is that you're gonna fail in front of the rest of the team, you know like The ball will come to you'll start make the strike out to end the game or like you know You go into the gym and work out with the team and like you miss a lift or you're the week one or whatever Like that doesn't feel good But then you realize life moves on you got to go on to the next set and you have to show up again the next time And each little instance where there's like a little failure like that is Practice for you to bounce back again And I think it's important to have something in life that's like that That's teaching you how to respond to failure that you're learning how to lose and how to bounce back from a loss So that you can ultimately win I got to the point at the end of my career um my senior year where I was basically like Listen, I don't want to lose, but if we're gonna lose, I'd rather it be me I'd rather be out there give it put it on my shoulders. I can take the loss You know, I can I can handle it. I'll give you everything I have to try to get us to win But if we lose like I'll be able to bounce back from it And I think that that ended up serving me really well in my entrepreneurial career Because stuff is never gonna go your way all the time um and you need to be able to Try then be willing to try things and be willing to sometimes look foolish because of them And still find a way to show back up the next time It reminds me of watching uh Roderick Federer's commencement speech He's arguably the best tennis player of all time and Chocking Leann is commencement speech I don't know if you saw it He talks about how in his career he's missed Something like 47% of the points So he's the best to ever do it And he's only he only in his career has 153% of the points which means that half the time he's taking out But the difference is what he does when he takes the out And not allowing that L that that miss point to compound into what his next shot And I always in LA with my friends from my birthday my friend Ash who's had the most Uh paddle training we were playing paddle we do that's what we do basically all the time when we see each other Our group of friends he had the most paddle training He's been in Spain with a coach but When he lost a point he would then start losing easy points And there's this photo of me watching him play and I'm like what the hell's going on with him like he's the best He's meant to be the best place got the most practice most merit repetitions But when he loses a point Is down with spiral takes place where he just starts missing easy shots So when he sat down I told him about Roder federa's thing And I gave him this little idea in his head to to handle the loss And I said to him when you lose the point say in your head that point doesn't matter I'm going to win this game anyway because I am the better player And I still get goosebumps when I say it because he went from being the fifth best in our group of five To beating all of us immediately And there's there's so funny because my girlfriend and everyone here knows like he was like dancing through the house the same day He beat all of us. I had never been beaten for him. I have a panic on my garden Like he beat me Immediately and all it was was making sure that when he took an owl He didn't spiral into his emotional the emotional center of his brain and start catastrophizing which he's a susceptible to if you know him He went straight back into the prefrontal cortex the rational center of his brain And he said he and you know he's posted about it online and I actually part of my Asia tour recently was I showed all the videos and all the WhatsApp messages of this whole thing happening But it just goes to show that actually it's how you take the owl I love those mindset shifts. It's just a it's living life with the next play mentality You know, it's like you don't let the last play dictate you or like ruin you It's we have to move on and make the next best choice now. We have to we have to live for the next play And how much emotion just like ruins our training sure, you know, yeah, I feel like a lot of this is there's a great book Inner game of tennis that came out many many years ago might even be 50 at this point But it's basically all about this. It's about not getting in your head And it's it's specifically for tennis, but it applies to life You know, it's just about yeah, it's moving on and having this next play mentality So David Brailswood said that to me as well that one of his main objectives when he had the cycling team was to get not to think about The race while they were on the race and he said I think it was circus Chris Hoy or someone He said my entire training with Chris Hoy was getting him to stop thinking about the current race He was in and that when Chris was hit hit his personal best He would get off the bike and have no recollection of cycling Hmm, he goes to the point that it was like he was asleep on the bike Because when the alternative meant that Chris would start thinking about his time and then cycling too hard and exhausting himself in Fall out of his his training. So fascinating fascinating um you talk about daily mental mindsets as well Is it important to adopt a particular daily mental mind? Well, I um I had this thought that uh One time I had this thought that it would be cool to be able to hire mental performance codes who just did one thing So you you hire this coach and then they call you up each morning like 8 a.m. or something and they give you like a five-minute Pat talk, you know, or just they'd give you like a five-minute mindset shift Just something little kind of like what you said to your friend, you know And just like you get this little mindset shift to Reset your day and go into it with momentum and they hang up and you just go do your thing um, and you know, I couldn't find anybody who you know could do that But I've been working on this little project where I've been trying to figure out how to do it And so I came up with it sounds almost kind of silly, but I'm really excited about I came up with this Atomic habits daily calendar And the idea is just it's actually like a blend of atomic habits principles and three two one Which is my weekly newsletter and I just have like one little mindset shift that's on each page And it's just one page for each day of the year and you just look at it read that page boom go into your day And like it's just intend to be a little mindset shift anyway It's just a small thing, but I like I like the idea of priming yourself to start the day in the right way and um I don't know I didn't think that I would be excited about a calendar, but I'm kind of excited about I kind of feel like it could be good. So is it coming out? Yes, it'll be out in it'll be out soon Yeah, okay, and where would we find that do we sign up to the uh it's on Amazon you can you can go there or you know You can go to james.com and you'll you'll find it there, but um yeah So this book the atomic habits workbook simple exercises for building the life you one is now it came out this week What is the distinction between these two books if I read or tell you it's already Let me have a book right so um Atomic habits is Is the culmination of basically ten years of work and effort from me. Um, it's like I My objective was to write the best book that's ever been written on habits now I don't know that I achieve that or not. That's for the readers to decide But I don't think you're ever going to just stumble into that result, you know like you have to at least strive for it And so that was the hope is that everything That you would could possibly need to know about building good habits and bringing bad ones should be in atomic habits So then you're like, okay, why would I need a workbook? Um, but uh what I've learned over the last seven years of this being out Selling 25 million copies is that people always need more tangible practical help with implementing their habits So atomic habits is the full guide and the philosophy and the approach on how to do it Then you finish this book and you sit there and you say all right great. I have some habits. I want to build How do I do that and the exercises in the workbook are intended to help you do that They help you look at your environment and figure out how do I optimize it? They help you look at your goals and how do I translate it into a system? They help you look at your desired identity and how are my habits reinforcing it? So it's just a series of exercises that help you apply and implement the ideas from atomic habits The great thing about the way that you write is it's so unbelievably accessible So unbelievably accessible in the context which means that you don't need to be a scientist or an expert to understand the concept So I think that's why the book has been atomic habits has been so unbelievably successful This book, the workbook, follows in the same vein It allows people at all levels of their knowledge of habits and intellect To get going and to start sort of holding themselves accountable I'd say that accountability is a huge part of this I kind of see elements of that fitness group I described fitness blockchain Just because you're reflecting and you're writing down what happened and Like you said earlier about how just journaling increases the likelihood of a behavior um This book will raise yourself awareness Yes, that's good That's actually a great summary of it. I think it uh it makes you more aware of your habits and your environment and what you're trying to do specifically rather than just understanding the concepts James, thank you. Thank you for um changing so many people's lives You must hear this all the time but what are remarkable remarkable um impact you must have had on so many people You'll never get to me getting them to quit habits that would have otherwise been fatal for them You know my dad is a prime example of someone who was smoking for 20 odd years of his life He starts reading about these habit cycles in your work But in other people's work as well and he's quit smoking and that's probably extended his life to some degree and that's one such example of I'd say 25 million because I know the atomic habits are sold 25 million but you've reached Many many many many many many millions of people through your newsletter as well 321 um which is the I mean The newsletter is kind of created a blueprint For anyone that writes a newsletter frankly. I think everybody looks up to your work and what you've built as the the the framework for starting their own newsletters and You know you know, I think you'll never get to see the downstream impact of the work you've done but on behalf of everybody who's had their life change changed because of the hard work you've put in and the Europe session and your focus and your passion and these incredible works of art that you've written in that you didn't rush Um, thank you and thank you on behalf of myself because your happy all work has been super formative and how I think about business How I think about my team and many of the phrases that we use in our office every single day to build a company's We've built have come from your work as well Everybody needs to go I mean if you don't have atomic habits then I don't know what you've been doing with your life But um now that the atomic habits work because here you know have a much more um Self-awareness inducing practical hands on framework for implementing some of the stuff you've read in atomic habits Now I'm gonna link both of them below so everybody can go grab them But also your james's newsletters for normal also I'll link that below as well We do have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're leaving it for Hmm the question that has been left for you DMX person in the chat What you believe is the best way To unify people Of differing or even conflicting beliefs Let me know your thoughts best come on Harris I think the best way is to scale it down, you know If you say how can we have a more unified nation? It's big it's vague. It's it's almost impossible It's like an intractable level But if you scale it down Now you can come up with things, you know, how can you have a more unified neighborhood? You could start a book club or do a block party or you can come up with all kinds of things that you could do And what you find is that in many cases in life problems are intractable at a certain level at a certain scale And if you shift what level you're at suddenly it reveals itself and there's a new solution And so I think that is obviously true uh with big picture things like like the question I was asked But it's also true for your habits You know if you think about your life in general and you say how can I have a better life or how can I figure out my purpose How can I figure out, you know, how to have a life of meaning These are big hard questions. They're sometimes they're almost intractable. They're too vague. They're too broad But if you can scale it down and say How can I live a good day today or how can I have a good week? How can I have um, you know a good next hour? How can I make this minute as perfect as possible? Well those those levels are much more achievable And so I think if you scale your habits down to a level that's more solvable You'll often see that there's a path forward there What's interesting with your neighborhood analogy as well is that neighborhoods are interconnected So if I focus on making my neighborhood good Then that kind of just crosses over with the next neighborhood like thinking about my street where you live And so if that neighborhood becomes good it's going to then hit the next dominate which is the neighborhood next door and then eventually Which is also true for your personal life, you know Your each unit of time each little habit is connected, you know You put your habits together and you kind of end up with this system of behaviors that influence your day and your week So mastering this hour makes the next hour a little bit better as well There's I ultimately chose the phrase atomic habits for three reasons There's there's three meanings to the word atomic the first is tiny or small like an atom Which obviously I think your habits should be small and easy to do the second meaning is the one we're talking about now And the one people often forget which is an atom is a fundamentally unit in a larger system So atoms built in molecules molecules built in compounds and so on and your habits are kind of like the little units of your day You know collectively you put them together and you have your daily routine And then the third meaning is the source of immense energy or power And so if you put all three of these together you kind of understand the narrative arc of the book Which is you make changes that are small and easy to do you layer them together like units in a larger system And collectively you get this powerful remarkable result as a process And so or as a consequence and that is the idea behind atomic habits You make these small changes and it's not just one It's like a hundred or a thousand of them and collectively they come together to create this powerful impressive life powerful impressive life Do you think that we should all be aiming at Mrs. A bit of an interesting word but Happiness is that should that is that the North Star that our habits should ladder up towards or fulfillment whatever one might say or meaning For first of all, I think we should distinguish between happiness and meaning you know happiness and purpose or some of my fulfillment I don't think they're necessarily the same you know like there are many moments in my life when I'm happy Uh, and that can be in the moment and a lot of the most meaningful things that I worked on you know Atomic habits is one of those meaningful projects that I've worked on it seems to have made a big difference for a lot of people Or helped a lot of people I feel great about that But I wasn't necessarily happy every minute that I was working on it You know like it was it was quite difficult in lots of different times and it took a long time And it was arduous and so on but it provides a lot of meaning So I definitely think it was worth it even if I wasn't always happy in the moment So I don't know that you should necessarily optimize for any of that all the time You know, I don't think your habits will lead you to someplace where you are just permanently happy um but They will definitely take you on a journey. We're happiness as part of it and we're meaning can be Part of it And there are lots of other things that are parts of life too but uh Yeah, I think you that you will be well served to invest in them for sure James. Thank you so much Thank you, and thank you so much for saying those kind of things that's uh that's very nice view um I Have been Incredibly Lucky and blown away by the reception to the book and um it just feels It feels great to know that people are finding it useful you know All I wanted to do was try to be useful and helpful and um I appreciate you saying that and I'm grateful that many other people have sounded helpful as well Yeah, I didn't think you'll ever realize You know you see 25 million people have bought the book but it's much bigger than that It's it's billions of people have been impacted by that because everybody is like a like a pebble thrown into the ocean right There's these ripple effects that go on and it changes their professional life their personal life their health their friendships Relativeships so it's unbelievable. Thank you James. Thank you. 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